Reddit user lola-starr98 asked: 'What do you consider cheating in a relationship?'
It's safe to say that the conventions of romantic relationships have greatly evolved over time.
As evidenced by the ever-growing number of people in open or polyamorous relationships.
Leaving one to wonder, what exactly constitutes "cheating" in this day and age.
Of course, this could be a personal decision, based on the ground rules people set in their own relationships.
Even so, one can't help but question if there are some instances that are always cheating, whether or not the relationship is monogamous.
"What do you consider cheating in a relationship?"
Anything HE Does...
"My ex felt that me having a conversation about anything at all with anyone else was cheating, but her literally getting sexed by other men was OK."- GoodToe4691
"Watching an episode alone of a show we started together."- Happy-Sea-Otter
When You Commit, You COMMIT!
"Being sentimentally or physically involved with someone else that isn't your partner."- a_man_of_music
"Doing anything sexual or romantic with someone else."- jellyfishmasqueradeorlando bloom cheating GIFGiphy
Think About How You Would Feel...
"My rule of thumb is if I wouldn't like it done to me I shouldn't be doing it myself."
"I know that's vague."
"But leaves you to draw the line where you want."- SureAce_
Anything That Isn't Out In The Open...
"Beyond the obvious (sex/kissing with another person), it can also be based on intent."
"For instance, dinner could be cheating if it was kept hidden or with an ex, etc."
"Depends a lot on context."- dogwatermoneybags
"Anything you do with another person you feel like you have to hide from me, I consider cheating."- nopestillgotitShocked Oh No GIF by LaffGiphy
"Not paying enough of the rent in Monopoly and using smile and cuddle to get away with it."- Dendex031
You Set Your Own Rules So You Will Never Break Them...
"Pretty much breaking any agreed upon 'rules' in your relationship."- Massive-Ad7628
"Whatever an individual couple agrees on as being cheating within the context of their relationship."-JanuaryWinterflame
"Breaking the rules of loyalty, trust, and honesty in your relationship."
"If you're monogamous, that means engaging in sexual and/or romantic activity with anyone other than your partner."
"If you're non-monogamous, that means doing engaging in sexual and/or romantic activities with people other than your partners without telling both the new person and the partners that's what you're doing."
'Basically if you're sneaking around and lying to people just to get extra attention outside of your relationships, you're 99% likely to be cheating."- GenericNerdGirlGiphy
When You Know You're Getting In Too Deep...
"Back when I was still college aged, I learned this lesson the hard way."
"I could be a bit of a harmless flirt, but I would never cheat on my girlfriend."
"Then one night I got drunk with a friend of my girlfriend’s."
"After a night of ‘harmless flirting’ and drunk Twister, I ended up in her bed, on top of her."
"She whispered in my ear 'If you tried to f*ck me right now, I wouldn’t stop you'.”
"That snapped me back to reality, made me realize how real things had gotten and that I had gone too far."
"I apologized and I left."
"I told my girlfriend about it, because I knew that if I tried to hide it and her friend told her about it, it would be even worse."
"I never kissed her."
"I didn’t f*ck her."
"No one was naked."
"However, the fact that I had essentially been 5 seconds away from doing all of those things while in her bed massively betrayed the trust my girlfriend had for me."
"She wasn’t able to look at me the same way."
"I was genuinely remorseful, and learned my lesson, but it didn’t really matter."
"We tried to keep it together for a few more months, but she eventually left me over it, and I can’t say that I blame her."
"I was flung into a long spiral of depression, and it was worse knowing that it was all my fault."
"Cheating isn’t just about a physical, sexual act."
"You can cheat on someone without f*cking someone else."
"It’s about a betrayal of trust."
"And to go a step further, it’s your responsibility in a relationship to foster that trust by intentionally avoiding situations that could bring temptation or otherwise sketch out your partner."
"For example, don’t hang out with other girls one on one and get drunk with them, even if you know you don’t intend to do anything sexual with them."- Thograr
When The Connection Starts To Be Emotional
"I used to think it was only physical stuff, but seeing your partner drift away from you into the arms of someone else reeeally stings."
"So, basically entertaining the idea and keeping in contact with someone they might have a small/temporary crush on is a dealbreaker for me nowadays."- soapshirtseason 6 episode 3 GIFGiphy
By definition, cheating is when you are doing something blatantly wrong, or deceitful.
Which sometimes could mean kissing someone who isn't your partner.
Unless they are aware and ok with it.
One thing I'm sure everyone can agree with: nothing is more unforgivable than forging ahead on a series without waiting for your significant other.
...definitely not speaking from experience...
What exactly is in that recipe?
That is one of life's most important questions.
With allergies and tastes all over the map, best to always ask before you eat.
Everyone has strong thoughts on food.
There is a visceral hatred for certain combinations and ingredients.
Families have fallen out over serving sweet potato pie or pumpkin.
The kitchen can be a dangerous place.
So let's try for a civil conversation.
Redditor xSurpriseShawtyx wanted everyone to disclose their thoughts on what we eat, so they asked:
"What’s your controversial food opinion?"
There is no reason to spice up everything.
Bland can be fun.
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"We put way too much pressure on cauliflower to be things that aren’t cauliflower."
"Cauliflower pizza will be disappointing every time. But if you CALL it a cauliflower flatbread, it’s not half bad. It’s all about expectations."
Fill it Up
"Entire sleeve of crackers in my soup."
"Same! And chili. The chili basically has cheese, crackers, and Fritos added until it’s no longer a liquidy texture. You could sculpt a bust from a bowl of chili after I’m done adding the crackers."
"Yes, and/or Fritos, depending on what I have available. Sometimes both. If someone gives me chili with no crunchy addition, they can f**k right off."
"I love crackers with my ramen."
"Vanilla being used to describe bland or unexciting things is such a travesty. It has such a unique flavor (the real thing, not a flavor extract) and is the second most expensive spice after saffron."
"I don't look down on it. It's just the base that a lot of the other flavors use. When I go to new ice cream places I always start with vanilla."
"Because if their vanilla (which should be amazing) sucks, the other flavors probably suck too. Using toppings and additives to hide the crap vanilla flavor."
"What does give vanilla a bad rap though... Cheap imitation vanilla extract. Buy the good stuff people!"
"I prefer the term 'traditional' over 'authentic', and even 'traditional' is a very flexible term when it comes to food."
"Also, some foods are authentic but may not be traditional. I’d say American Chinese is authentic because there’s no 'real' or 'fake' anything, but the dishes/ingredients may not be traditionally made/used like in China."
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"Crab > Lobster. Lobster has always tasted like a shit*y crab to me no matter how expensive, fresh, or well-prepared it is."
"First time I had lobster was in culinary school. I couldn’t see the hype. It was such a huge letdown for me."
Who can hate lobster?! It's the king of the sea.
"Bacon doesn't go on everything."
"I completely agree. I'm very picky when it comes to food and will not have bacon on my pizza!"
"Sandwiches overstacked with meat are usually very low quality and mess up the bread: meat: vegetables ratio that makes a sandwich enjoyable."
"When I worked in foodservice I was taught to make deli sandwiches with meat folded and distributed to be thickest in the middle so the filling looks more generous when cut in half (even though it’s thin near the edges). Sandwiches made this way are silly and annoying."
Not on my salad...
"Thousand island dressing is just fancy ketchup for salads."
"No one I know actually puts it on a salad. Honey mustard too. I put it on my salad and it was nasty."
I feel like thousand island, Russian dressing, and honey mustard are called salad dressings, but are really more for burgers, sandwiches and fried chicken, respectively. I dunno if I’ve ever actually had any of them on a pile of greens."
"Girl scout cookies are overrated."
"They used to be much better, especially the trefoils."
"I was a girl scout in the 90s and LOVED Samoas. I've noticed multiple formula changes since then. They don't taste good anymore. Cheap garbage."
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"The McRib should stop coming back."
"The McRib is just the crappy pork sandwiches you'd get at school."
I've never understood the McRib. I stand by that.
So, what are some controversial food opinions that you have? Let us know in the comments below.
Our word is our bond.
If we don't stand by our truth, then who are we?
Now that is not to say we can't change our minds about things.
Changing our minds on our opinions often signals that we've learned something new.
Therefore we've grown and now stand over here.
Sadly that seems to be missing more and more these says.
Redditor Youhavemystapler11 wanted to hear about people's 'to the death' convictions. So they asked everyone around:
"What’s a hill you’re willing to die on every time?"
Pineapple is good on pizza. I. STAN!
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"Repeal Citizen United. Nothing to discuss. Politicians should have to list where every freaking dollar comes from."
"Health insurance should cover the whole body. The fact that vision and dental are separate things is a pure cash grab."
"So is most dermatology. I find it ridiculous that I can’t utilize a regular dermatologist unless it is suspected or confirmed that I have skin cancer. Won’t even biopsy anything cosmetic. I have very fair skin and red hair. My younger sister is blonde with olive skin and has already had precancerous moles removed."
A Wonderful Place
"Public libraries are undervalued by many."
"I’m in a situation where I just can’t do my homework nor can I study at home and my public library has saved me. Honestly now that I’m going to the library everyday, I have a schedule and I feel overall way less depressed and way more productive."
"Yes!! Same. Going to the library to study was the only thing that stopped me from spiralling into depression when I was at uni. It also forced me to have at least a little human interaction."
For the love of God!
"Use a damned turn signal."
"What I really love is when I'm at a T intersection trying to make a left onto a highway and the people coming from the left don't signal that they're making a right, and after it becomes clear they're making a right it's now too late to turn because of cars behind them. Makes me want to throw a Molotov through their window."
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"Children beauty pageants are creepy as hell and parents who subject their children to such scrutiny and judgement are crazy, and don’t deserve children."
Are we STILL doing child beauty pageants? So creepy.
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"People are completely fine with immoral/morally gray actions as long as it’s someone they like doing it."
"Expansion on that thought. They’re fine with horrible things being done to people as long as they feel no need to identify with the people having horrible things done to them."
"Disagreeing is not a personal attack."
"Also: you can listen to someone and understand what they’re saying, without agreeing with them. Just because you don’t agree, doesn’t mean you’re refusing to listen."
"Sadly, most people think they already have both, so they lock their feet in and never actually achieve the ability to practice either."
Yes I Can
"Getting compliments as a Dad for normal parenting behavior."
"Yes, I can feed, bath and put to bed a 9,7, and 2 year old. No I didn't need to call my wife for direction. No, the house didn't burn down."
"The praise you are heaping upon me doesn't make me feel good. It just makes me feel bad for you, your kids and your husband."
"That 75% of the USA needs to retake an American Government class. The fact that most people don’t even know we have 3 branches of government baffles me."
"They're super simple too: The President, The Senate, and The Candlestick Maker."
"100% of this country needs to take a religious history class so that they can understand why our Founding Fathers gave us the Freedom of Religion. I’m amazed at how many people don’t know about the Inquisitions or the Reformation. People don’t know where their denomination came from. They don’t know that the Catholic Church was first."
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"Apologies mean nothing, without changed behaviors."
"This is part of the reason why I hate people who use apologies to get rid of tensions/awkwardness. If you don't plan on changing the way you act; just leave the person alone."
That last one right there... show you're sorry, don't say it.
Some people tend to make negative assumptions prematurely, which can then backfire on them after learning later about the context of various situations.
However, there are times when their observations are correct.
Curious to hear of what strangers online default to doing, Redditor littlelaraslife asked:
"What do you immediately judge as trashy?"
Some people walk around like they own the place....trashy.
"Especially cigarette butts."
"People who talk loudly while eating and giving no care to the food projectiles flying out of their gullet."
Lack Of Self-Awareness
"People with zero manners and no self-awareness. Like when you’re walking past a group of people that are taking up the entire sidewalk and they all just expect you to be the one to move out of the way. Or when someone gets irrationally angry at a fast-food/retail worker for a simple mistake"
"People with young kids who aren't paying attention to them in public and letting them do whatever."
"People with dogs who aren't paying attention to them in public and letting them do whatever. It's not cute that your dog put their paws on the counter at the coffee shop, it's repulsive."
There are those who hold themselves in high regard–a solo endeavor.
It's A Status Thing
"People proclaiming they have 'haters.'"
"I have a friend from the military who is 35 and has two children and I had to mute her Instagram stories bc they were all videos of her talking about her haters and people 'talking sh*t.' I’m convinced there never were any."
Their Conversations Are So Important
"People who walk around with their phones on speaker."
No one ever said being a parent is easy. The same goes for being a kid.
Zero Parenting Skills
"Parents who don't discipline their kids AT ALL."
"Counterpoint: parents who scream at, curse, belittle, strike and otherwise treat their children with disdain when they don't magically behave like adults/programmed automatons. Makes me sick to see it and being a teacher I've seen how much damage even 'low key;' abuse and neglect can do over time."
"Parents smoking around their small children."
People who blast the music loud enough on their bluetooth headphones on the subway are annoying as heck.
But then I get concerned for their health.
Cranking up the decibels loud enough to the extent where its audibly overpowering the sound of the train car speeding along the rails just can't be good for their ears.
When Donald Trump was elected President of the United States in 2016, many felt that it was the beginning of the end of the Republican party.
As Trump's fear-mongering and rhetoric were a far cry from the policies of what the Republican party stood for in the days of Abraham Lincoln.
For many long-standing Republicans and conservatives, it marked the end of their time registered in the party, swiftly shifting to becoming a democrat or independent.
There were also many who remained loyal to their party but their support for the 45th president gradually vanished by the time he left office, in relative disgrace, in January of 2021.
"Ex Rrump supporters, what point did you stop supporting Trump and why?
A Slow And Steady Decline
"My dad started out from voting for and supporting him and always being annoyed when people talked sh*t about Trump."
"Then the pandemic happened and he spent a lot of time at home watching TV and seeing Trump give speeches, then he says, 'This guy is a f*cking moron' and he became more anti-Trump as time went by, especially after Jan 6."- forgottenmyth
Finding Their Own Voice
"I was like 19-20 years old when he became president so it was my first time voting."
"My parents are both republican so naturally I kinda just followed suit and voted for him."
"Then I watched everything that happened throughout his presidency, watched the Republicans and their thoughts and actions based on everything that had happened and was happening, and here we are."
"Voted blue last election, as a registered republican, which I find joy in, and likely to do so again."
"I hate politics with a passion but some of this stuff is just too f*cked for me to justify staying out of."- BIessthefaII
The Writing Was On The Wall
"I can't explain when, I can just explain the very slow gradient from all but wearing the red MAGA hat to going 'Hold the F*CK on'."
"My initial decision to vote for him wasn't really as a Conservative."
"Though I would align my ideals more with Conservatism of the 1950's."
"I'm from Vermont, and I remember watching the DNC's response to the threat that was Trump, become 'force Hillary Clinton down the nations throats' and the absolute rigged BS that was 'Super Delegates'."
"I liked things Bernie said, and while he's very left, the nature of politics would force him to the center."
"But to watch him Win Wyoming, and he got something like 3 Delegates and the lose, Hillary, got 11 because of Super Delegates was so frustrating as a voter."
"So I voted for Trump and I got sucked into the just asinine hype."
"I made excuses for the 'Grab her by the P*ssy' nightmare, the escorts, the accusations."
"I was starting to make 'valid' connections to how President Obama was NOT an American."
"Turns out, I'm an idiot, and at 30+ years old found out I too, had a Certificate of Live Birth, and I'm also an American."
"And how we're all going to be good because 'Haha, Trump and Putin are buddies so the world wont end'."
"I think the first crack started when my friend Mariah, who has sunk into a very dark depression since Trump was voted out, he meant THAT much to her, started to act out towards people who even questioned the President of the United States."
"And even openly stated, as a Veteran, that the constitution should be re-written so he could be President forever."
"I started to see how I was acting in her, and even more infuriating, is she's very good at acting like you, and then when you call her out on the BS, justifying why you're wrong to do it, and she's right."
"And then I started to get annoyed by the CONSTANT. TWEETING."
"The supposed 'Leader of the Free World' has no time for 60 tweets a day."
"The cracks became a fissure during COVID."
"I worked for a hospital, and I served in my states National Guard and was actively part of the response, out there, with the Nurses and Doctors."
"And I watched him do as much as he could to facilitate as little as possible, and dare I say stop hospitals from responding to the disaster, hold back supplies, 'bargain' with states and at one point, my state had to use State Police to guard resources so Federal Personnel wouldn't come and take them at the Governments direction."
"I was an American Citizen, serving to support my fellow Citizens, and the Commander in Chief, my boss, was actively making it all but impossible to help."
"Finally when I started to see who Republicans were who supported this man, I couldn't do it."
"Ted Cruze, Gym Jordan, MTG, Boebert, Desantis, and so on."
"I decided I could no longer look myself in the mirror if I supported such people as them, people who were religious extremists, sexual predators, and just the worst people that could possibly exist."
"I'm not proud that it took that much, or that it took an entire year, but in the end I'm just happy I escaped it."- the_walternate
The People He Was Associated With
"When he refused to condemn David Duke, ex-head of the KKK, and said that some veterans suffering from combat PTSD were 'not strong enough'."- BigTuna0890
Free From Influence
"I grew up in a very conservative fundamentalist Christian household that raised the American flag and right-winged politics higher than the Bible."
"I was taught in church that you can’t be a Christian and a democrat."
"I voted for Trump in 2016 not because I really liked him, but because I really didn’t like Hillary Clinton, or so I was told to before I began to think about what I believed for myself."
"After that year, I was groomed by my brother, who at the time was an infamous figurehead in the alt-right/white supremacist community, damn near the right hand of Richard Spencer."
"I would listen to his Skype calls with Spencer from the other room because we had fairly thin walls where we lived."
"At one point, I was actually involved with the white supremacist hate organization that my brother founded, albeit tangentially, I helped cut out flyers and posters that he would post throughout my town and the neighboring ones."
"In my defense, I knew little to nothing about his organization when I did this, not that that excuses the fact."
"I can’t really tell you when I began thinking differently."
"I know at some point I realized that there was a lot of what I believed that I only believed because it’s what I was always told growing up."
"Slowly, over the course of the last 6 years, I’ve gone from being a borderline Trump supporter to someone deeply ashamed of many things my family has taught me growing up."
"I’m closer of a centrist in the context of global politics, which to my family now means I’m what they could call a 'raging flaming liberal communist'.”
"I still hold my Christian beliefs quite closely, but I’d like to think that they come from a place of love for other people, rather than making sure 'everything I do is correct and everyone else knows they’re wrong'.”- Myrshall
Ignoring Puerto Rico
"I don’t know how a single person could support him after Puerto Rico."
"He said their natural disaster broke their budget, begrudgingly visited and tossed paper towels like basketballs, and mocked the pronunciation of the name."
"Oh yeah, and didn’t give a sh*t that an entire territory was destroyed with thousands of dead Americans."- gcaledonian
One can only be grateful that people's eyes were opened enough in 2020 to get him out of office.
How anyone's eyes weren't opened during his long, vulgar, misogynistic and racist campaign, however, is baffling to the point of disturbing.
Not nearly as disturbing, though, as the fact that countless people are still supporting him.