It did to these strangers online when Redditor MistaPwickles asked:
"What made you straight up 'nope' out of a relationship?"
Sometimes, it takes several red flags for people witnessing them to finally take action and head for Splits-ville.
The Horrific Dinner Date
"Wouldn't really call it a relationship as it was only 3 dates, but I had met this girl at a wedding. She was a friend of a friend and we shared numbers that night. Texted for a while and then had a date. 1st date was probably a big red flag, but I shrugged it off. We had connected on Facebook and she noticed that she went to college with a girl I went to high school with. No big deal, until I found out she had been messaging that girl and asking her all these questions about me in high school... who did I date, what car I drove, etc. Anyway, third date rolls around I wasn't really sure how long we would be together so typically I wouldn't have taken her to a really nice restaurant so early in a relationship, but I was in the mood for steak so I took her to a pretty high end steakhouse."
"I have never been more embarrassed by someone's behavior in public in my life, and I have a 6 and 3 year old at home now. She sent 3 martinis back because they weren't made correctly while being extremely insulting and rude about it. She ordered a steak medium and then got pissed because she insisted she ordered it medium rare. Both the waiter and I told her she had ordered medium. She was making comments about what other women in the restaurant were wearing, and not very subtly. Then, despite me trying to get out of there without buy her desert, she got a desert menu and expected them to make her something that they didn't have on the menu. They had cheesecake and she wanted chocolate cheesecake. Another outburst at the staff. On the way out the door she made a point to stop and complain to someone loud enough other customers could hear. When we got into my car I was so embarrassed I pretended I had left my credit card on the table so I could go back in. I gave the waiter an extra $20 and apologized, telling him I was dumping her as soon as I got to her place. He laughed and told me he wished he could see it. I didn't really give her a chance to say much. She called me a loser and stormed off. Havent seen or heard from her since."
– StyrofoamCueball
Party Girl
"Met a girl on tinder, we went for a coffee date. Shared some of the same music tastes. She lets me know that one of them is playing at a local club on Friday. I suggest we go together and do dinner before."
"Friday comes, we do a late sushi dinner and head to this club around 10 for the show. Headliner, who we wanted to see, went on around midnight. Get to the club, finally get to the bar and order drinks then head to the dance floor. She pounds the drink and says she is getting another drink. She comes back few min later with a new drink gives me a kiss on the cheek and wanders off on the dance floor. I am not someone who is overly possessive and figure my wanting to be in the back to get a full visual and auditory experience is not her jam. All good. 20 min later I see her grinding on some dude. Now mentally, I am already back at my car but I want to see what happens when she makes eye contact with me. They start making out and the guy notices me eyeballing them. She wanders off to get another drink and he comes up to me asking if I have a problem. I explain the situation and he says something to the extent of 'Sucks bro, she is with me now. F'k off.' Took his advice and did."
"Called up a friend and went to his house and played Catan till 2ish. Then my phone rings. It's 230a and she is calling me asking where I went, my car was missing from the parking lot. I told her I went home and she was on her own to find a ride. "I bet that guy you were making out with could give you a ride" to which she responded with 'which one' (we kissed once, made out zero times). I laughed , hung up, and rolled for more bricks."
– OldRuskiNoir
The List
"How about things that should have been red flags but I was too naive to recognize?"
"-left notes on my car windshield when I was at work/a friend’s house/the store (seemed sweet, but I realized later that was my SO keeping tabs on me, even when I didn’t say where I was)."
"-let me know how much a hit man cost and that it was 'cheaper than you’d expect.'"
"-would tell me something, and then later say that was a lie or a test, as though I should have figured that out instead of expecting the truth."
"-expected me to answer every call, and would get angry if I wanted to end the call first."
"-complained about my friends and family all the time. All of them. Apparently everyone I knew was manipulative and/or rude. I didn’t figure out this was an attempt to isolate me until after we broke up."
– BitwiseB
For some, it just takes one thing for people to decide their person isn't the one they'd want to spend the rest of their lives with.
Immaturity
"When he didn't want to have sex because he was grossed out by my period that I had finished three days prior."
"Noped out of that one real quick."
– eleonora6
Niche Hobby
"He introduced me to his beanie baby collection. On the third date. I wasn’t too bothered until I made the motion to leave and he asked me to hug, kiss, tuck in, and address each one by name before I left. There had to be at least 30."
– l8n8owl
The Deceiver
"One day he casually told me he has a wife and 2 daughters but was unhappy and his wife never suspects anything. Stalked me for 2 months to change my mind. Crazy guy."
– Sibel_Rac
Some people were loyal to a fault and wound up experiencing emotional trauma.
Slippery Slope
"I kept having to call the cops to calm down my wife after she became addicted to a slew of prescription drugs. I told her doctors that opiates for a a ruptured vertebrae, stimulants for ADHD, Ambien most nights to help her sleep and an assortment of others for anxiety and depression, and more to combat side-effects, made her violent."
"One of the times that I called the cops to calm the situation down during a bad episode just made me cry. All he had to say was that he had already been there, and asked when it would stop."
"I thought I’d been holding things together reasonably well. I had an office job where no one knew what was up, though my work had suffered greatly. I kept clothes and food in my trunk, just in case I had to stay out for a bit because she had decided I was part of ‘the conspiracy’. I had a gym on the way to work I could where I could shower or just have some down time. I did all of our housework and errands, because she couldn’t work or do much of anything most of the time."
"The cop saw through it. Being seen like that and knowing that even that lifestyle was running out hurt. I’m now recovering from the divorce and enjoying the calm. I still sometimes panic for no reason, and I feel more comfortable with clothes and food stashed in the trunk, but I feel much healthier. I get more sleep. My blood pressure has normalized (for the most part). I don’t cry at work anymore."
– 3Grilledjalapenos
Heartstopper
"She threatened to stab me."
"We were dating for a month"
– PossoAvereUnoCappo
No relationship is perfect.
Every coupling has a few cracks, and if the people involved are mature enough to identify the problems and work on fixing the issues in their relationship, hats off to them.
But if the issues are recurring, or if your significant other threatens to stab you, then I guess there are exceptions where peace-ing out is the best option, no questions asked.
Redditor itsdandyhere was curious to everything people believe they will absolutely never change their mind about, leading them to ask:
"What will you never change your mind on?"
Always Plastics On The Upper Level
"That my way of loading the dishwasher is correct."- Far_Dragonfly_3748
Everyone Has An Opinion
"Not showing dislike on youtube is a bad idea."- SuvenPan
Pick Up Trash GIF by REIIt's a Safety Issue!
"People who don’t use indicators when they drive are a**holes."- Beetle_Jugo
"I'm Always Right!"
"That reevaluating your opinions when you find evidence that contradicts them is a good idea."- DodgyDuderino
Youre Wrong John C Mcginley GIFGiphyHeartbreaking But Humane
"Sometimes it is kind and humane to euthanize an animal."
"We can’t save them all and they won’t live forever."- KatTheDogFosterer
And Then There's Science...
"Big rock in water make big splash."- DudeManBroGuy42069
Climate Change Earth GIFNot A Safe Situation For Anyone.
"Dogs have no business in the lap of a person actively driving a car."- leowomanthe
Always Treat Others The Way You Want To Be Treated.
"People who treat waiters/customer service people badly are the worst type of people."- learnercow
One could easily be accused of being obstinate for being unable unwilling to change your opinion about something.
Which could very well be the case on certain matters, which can be unequivocally proven by science.
But in other matters, one should always stand firm in one's opinion, and never let anyone convince you otherwise.
After all, it will only be a matter of time until everyone realizes anchovies on pizza are delicious...
Redditor Unavalible_000 wanted to hear about all of the "tried it once" experiences we've all been affected by.
"What’s something you tried and will never do again?"
Also, liver. No. NO. NO! Tried it, cried, never again.
Guilt
Bad Boy School GIF by Vintage 3DGiphy"Missing class on purpose. Made me feel so bad I didn't do anything for the time I was supposed to be in class."
Azuria_4
Too Fast
"Driving really fast."
RowanEragon
"Yup. Took my car to the limit once, 156 MPH on a track. Obviously not a super car, but not a family sedan, either. Things got a little squirrelly and I almost lost control. After that I was like 'yup, that’s how fast it goes, I’m happy to never try that again.'"
dirtyblueshirt
"this might be fun"
"Coke for me. I was in my post-college wtf do I do now stage of my life and a perfect target for bad decisions. It's incredible how fast I went from 'this might be fun' to 3am after a not sleeping for a week searching the floor for the tiniest speck of powder I might have dropped."
"16 years since I've seen a fleck of it and I can still remember the completely God-awful feeling of coming down and spiraling deep into that dark hole where a depression lived that was beyond anything I'd ever felt before or since."
linds360
Up. Up. UP!
"Staying up all night. Felt terrible the next day and have to sleep more to make up for it."
mysterioususer5678
"Amen. The one time I pulled an all-nighter studying for a test, the next day when I was taking it, I would answer a question, and then snap back awake, and realize I had dreamt of answering it, and then answer it again. This happened like 3 times. 0/10."
NoLifeMax
Bad Fit
Click Klm Royal Dutch Airlines GIF by KLMGiphy"Taking the middle seat on an airplane. As a 6'6" 250+lb man, it is what I imagine hell is like."
GrinAndBeerIt
Yeah that middle seat is torture. I'd rather walk to Europe next time.
Ashore...
Eat Prey Chum GIF by Shark WeekGiphy"Probably deep sea fishing. Didn’t think I’d make it back to shore alive with that sea sickness."
aRedditAlias
Sloped!
"Snowboarding. Gave it a shot, was unsurprisingly terrible, hated every minute of it. Next time I went on the mountain, I tried skiing instead. They were the better choice. My attempt at snowboarding ended sometime late morning after a particularly hard fall. I ripped the board off my feet, yelled "F**k this!" and marched down the rest of the slope. I handed my gear back in, and then went right to the bar. My fiancé felt a little bad, but he was also laughing his a** off at me."
I_DRINK_ANARCHY
Kaching!
"To be honest, slot machines. A couple years ago some friends took me to a casino to celebrate my birthday, and I found the experience underwhelming. I even ended up leaving with a nice amount of money, but the act of getting to that point didn't excite me at all."
mcmcsample
9 Bad Months
"Being pregnant/Giving birth. The birth actually wasn't so bad (thanks epidural!) but being pregnant sucked. I was not at all prepared for the level of exhaustion and discomfort that comes with it. Literally, everything feels off and you're not so much tired as depleted of all resources bc duh, there's basically a parasite feeding off of your body."
"I also puked every day for nine months. Yep, that's every. day. Meds only had a minimal effect on me. My kid is the coolest damn human on the planet and everything about her is fantastic, but I will never, ever, do that again."
linds360
Don't Jump
Pop Rock GIF by American TeethGiphy"Skydiving. Not because I don't want to, but because years passed since last time I went and I gained a bunch of weight."
Therearenogoodnames9
Never again...
"I cheated on my girlfriend when I was 19. Never again. Even if I never told her I still felt like complete s**t. Her suicide attempt after I told her sealed only emphasized the point."
jephistopheles
"My wife's first husband, the father of their 3 children, sat down for a coffee with her when the court case for their divorce was finally over to tell her that when he went away for work he had unprotected sex with prostitutes every time. I wonder how she ever trusted a man again."
daftvaderV2
Meh
slot machine gambling GIFGiphy"To be honest, slot machines. A couple years ago some friends took me to a casino to celebrate my birthday, and I found the experience underwhelming. I even ended up leaving with a nice amount of money, but the act of getting to that point didn't excite me at all."
2/19/20
"Being a junkie. That was no fun at all, I lost everything. That little sparkle in your eye, your ability to enjoy absolutely life. You lose your self worth and self awareness. 2/19/20 is my clean date from heroin and my life is good right now."
benders234423
"as needed"
"Xanax. I was addicted for ages, horrible withdrawals I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy. No way I’m doing that again. F**k Xanax."
Thin-Swordfish4462
"How often? I take it 'as needed,' which is about one every two weeks or so. I try not to take it much. Curious what level is the tipping point of dependency. Every day? Multiple a day?"
riverspiv
"Franchising. Lost a lot of money figuring out whether or not they were using that business model to risk my money instead of theirs. They were. And it's not always a bad thing, but I'm never bankrolling someone else's gamble again."
Carpaltunnelsnake
All the cliche...
Amber Riley Tea GIFGiphy"Working to make someone interested romantically. All the cliche 'I had to ask your mother out a thousand times' stories aside, it's never turned out well and ends up lacking one of the major ingredients found in actual successful relationships, in my opinion."
beercancarl
No Glamp
"Camping. Flies love me way too much."
sonia72quebec
"I am allergic to nature, and yet I kept getting convinced to go camping. Hated so much of it. I'm finally in my 30s and absolutely not going again. (Cabins and 'glamping' aren't camping.)"
AtheneSchmidt"I'm 49 and I also have a lot of allergies. I'm not going anywhere without indoor plumbing now. So camping in a tent is a big no no."
sonia72quebec
From the Sea
"Sea urchin caviar, as well as any other caviar. During my culinary career, I promised myself to try everything within reason. I’ve had all three of the finer grades of caviar being Osetra, Sevugra, and Beluga, and they all just taste awful to me."
Trek1973
Thief
shoplifting GIFGiphy"Shoplifting. Was the only time I did it (when I was younger and take a bar of chocolate in a mini market), when I was about to exit the store, a security guy nicely asked me to take the bar out of my pocket and hand it to him. They caught me on CCTV. Feel so embarrassed I never had the thought of steal anything ever again."
FourLungs
Well I'm glad to know I'm not alone in the "this sounds like a bad idea" camp. No to skydiving for sure!