When it comes to sexual harassment, everybody needs to be on the same page.
The focus has predominantly (and rightfully so) been on educating men.
But the men of Reddit wanted to discuss some of their experiences that some people may not realize are harassment.
Redditor Babydolltoes544 asked:
"Men of Reddit, what’s something women don’t realize is sexual harassment?"
First up, let's listen to our Kindergarten teachers and keep our hands to ourselves.
Gloves On
Long Hair GIF by Slingshot DakotaGiphy"As a guy just because I have long hair doesn’t mean you can walk up to me and run your hands through it when I don’t even know you."
TheSilkySpoon76
"Definitely a long hair or curly hair problem. actually why do people think it’s cool to touch your hair, beard, muscles, pregnant belly etc?? personal space everyone!"
ashoka_akira
Leave me Alone
"Some women once tried to take off some of my clothes in a club (without me showing interest in them at all). When I told them to «f**k off» after a while, they got angry at me. Never been so confused."
"Edit: I almost forgot lmao. They talked to one of the guards at the club right after. "
"Don’t know what they said, but as they talked to him, they pointed at me. (Maybe they said that I was the bad guy or something). When I saw that, I just left. I figured the guard would trust the two girls more than me. Club was boring anyways."
UngabaBongDong
Fix the Damage
"I had a drunk young lady rip my button up shirt off in a bar on a dance floor then proceed to cup my d**k. I was mad so told her and her friends to f**k off after I got my shirt back from them, which had all the buttons torn off except the bottom 2. That was super annoying but I was just going to deal with it until I was asked to leave by the bouncers for yelling at women and not buttoning up my shirt."
"Another group of women approached me and said they had the whole thing on video which I then sent to the bars management and got a $200 gift certificate for it. In hindsight, I probably should have just taken it to the police. I never felt in danger or scared for my safety but it was totally inappropriate and if I did that I would be in jail."
krzysztoflee
You're an Adult
"I was working at a birthday party in a bar once, and a really drunk 40 year old woman decided to just walk behind the counter and slip a banknote into my shirt. She then started to rub around my chest like some sort of massage I guess? It was really weird, I just stood there confused waiting for it to end."
"Her husband was watching the whole time and didn't seem to happy about the whole thing. But nobody really seemed to care or just laughed about it. If I as a 40 year old man had done that to a 17 year old girl working at a bar, I would've gotten one hell of a lawsuit."
Xender04
Creepy Granny
Sam Heughan Dancing GIF by Men in Kilts: A Roadtrip with Sam and GrahamGiphy"Every wedding and funeral I have ever been to as a Scotsman, there are a gaggle of horny grannies who at every opportunity try to get a look under the kilt."
bonjelascott
Not okay, grannies. Let's respect cultural tradition and healthy boundaries.
She gets it now...
"I’ve been into weightlifting most of my adult life. As a result, my arms and chest are noticeable. I’m not like a body builder or anything but I’ve got big arms and a protruding chest. Women think that they can just grab on my arms and rub my chest without permission or warning. I think that they think it’s okay because they compliment me afterwards. It makes me uncomfortable."
"My fiancée never really took me serious about it until at a work party one of my female coworkers basically groped my arms in front of her and it made her jealous. She gets it now."
IWillFindUinRealLife
LIAR!
"The same exact crap that applies to sexual harassment against women. I had a girl I used to work with slap my a**, grab my crotch and try to rub her breasts against me. When I took it to HR nothing was done about it. A week later I got written up because she lied and told HR I had verbally abused her."
SugoiBakaMatt
Where is She?
"My partner was at a truck stop waiting for his food when some lady came up and grabbed his junk. Just walked up and shoved her hand down his pants. He pushed her off, said he was taken and told her to f**k off. She reached for him again and said 'Well she isn't here now, is she?'"
"It disgusts me people are like this, regardless of gender. It's even worse that women aren't held as accountable as men are."
peckerlips
This is Odd...
"My partner went to a job interview and the older woman kept touching him as they talked. Like on his arm or hand. I told him that’s not okay and he doesn’t have to take that."
"He said that he didn’t want to make a scene because she might accuse him of harassment in retaliation and she had his information."
"And I realized men put up with harassment out of fear too. Different reasons, but it sucks for both genders."
BarbarianFoxQueen
Excuse You?
Excuse Me Reaction GIF by BounceGiphy"I once had some chick walk past me and squeeze my junk and another one slap my butt and I'm pretty sure that neither of them knew that that was sexual harassment. (Edit: Both of these instances were on two separate occasions)."
CapG_13
Sexual harassment is still all too prevalent. We have a long way to go.
Do you have any experiences to share? Let us know in the comments.
Our parents should be able––and willing––to protect us and to fight for our best interests. But that's not always the case, and the unlucky ones can spend years seeking mental health counseling to figure out what went wrong.
Our parents are human and they have the ability to disappoint us and devastate us like anyone else. It just hurts a little more, as we were reminded once Redditor banbidoe asked the online community,
"What's the worst thing your parents ever said to you?"
"My family..."
"My family never went on vacations, we couldn't afford them."
"When I was 18 my parents told me that they were going out west to see the Grand Canyon, do some hikes, etc. I exclaimed how cool and fun that would be. Then my dad said, "Oh, you're not going. You're staying here with Sally (16). We're only taking Mary (14) and Jeff (12)."
"I froze for a minute, trying to compute what he said. "Why can't we come?" I finally asked."
"You have summer jobs."
"We can take time off..."
"Well, we just can't afford to take you."
"They had a really fun time without us. I still think about it over ten years later."
This is heartbreaking. Do you even talk to these people anymore?
"10 years later..."
"One month after my sister died unexpectedly, I was having a complete breakdown about it and called my mother for comfort."
"Get over it." She told me, before hanging up."
"10 years later in therapy, I was finally able to trace the start of our relationship breakdown to this moment."
"I hate that phrase now."
It's such a dismissive phrase, especially so in a circumstance like that.
"I'm 30 now..."
"My dad telling my brothers (10 & 6 years old) and I (8 years old) over and over again that we should go find a new dad because he didn't want to be ours anymore while ranting and raving after our mom served him with divorce papers. The best part is that he would also tell us "You'll understand why when you're older." I'm 30 now and the only thing I understand is that he's a lunatic."
Sounds like you cut him off and if so, good riddance to bad rubbish.
"They told me..."
"They told me they didn't want me, they wanted a girl so they tried again and got lucky and had the girl they wanted."
It must be an awful feeling to be second best to your own sibling. Parents should not do this. It only breeds resentment.
"I'm adopted..."
"I'm adopted, and at one point my mom said to me "If I had known you'd grow up to be so screwed up I would have picked another child," as if my physical conditions are my fault somehow and my mental disorders aren't at least in part caused by how she raised me."
Your mother sounds like she doesn't appreciate you. She might be incapable of it.
"That I was faking my depression..."
"That I was faking my depression, and I need to "man up."
This so harmful. Depression is real and so painful. You are not alone.
"When I was 15..."
"When I was 15, my dad patted my belly and said "put on some weight haven't you?"
"Which is probably not the worst thing in this list, but as I was already struggling with my body image, this was the last nudge I needed to push me into an eating disorder."
I've had relatives say similar things to me in the past. I get it; it's so painful.
"After my sister died..."
"After my sister died, I was in a very dark place mentally / emotionally. The way I dealt with the grief was to keep it bottled up inside - I know it wasn't healthy, but that's how I survived the trauma. My mother was frustrated that I never talked about my sister. I couldn't even say her name or visit her grave. I did attend the funeral, but after that I went back to my silent grief."
"One day, my mother was pushing me to talk about what happened. I was frustrated because I didn't want to talk about it and she wouldn't let it go. My mother told me I disgraced my sister's memory by not talking about her, and it broke me."
Everyone grieves in their own way. Hopefully you're in a better place mentally and emotionally.
"My Dad once told me..."
"My Dad once told me that no girl would love me because I'm fat. That cut me like a knife! There are people who love fat people!"
"Who does he think he is?"
He clearly has no idea what he's talking about!
The ones we love the most absolutely know the right buttons to push when it comes to an insult.
Do you have similar experiences to share? Let us know below.
Life hurts. And the truth.
So it's a double whammy when learning the truths about life.
When you're young they try to shield you from the worst of it.
But you're going to catch on eventually.
Lesson one... Santa isn't real.
It's all downhill from there.
Redditor Apeeeu_ wanted to hear about all the things that made people frown in the past. They asked:
"What’s the saddest thing about growing up?"
Life isn't forever. That is my least favorite lesson. I hate death. Who agrees?
It's Me.
For Me What GIF by Lil DickyGiphy"That it happens so slowly you don't even notice it. One day you'll just find yourself in a crisis thinking 'Oh crap, I need an adult!' and realize, in horror, that you are the adult."
i-love-reddit-so-muc
Vanished
"Everybody you know vanishes. Either they move away, they lose interest, they disappear off the face of the earth, whatever. It leaves you empty inside, like watching your best friend, your brother, fade away as is a candle in a dark room, to nothing but a stranger wearing a familiar face."
HighFlyerJ
Sucky people...
"Coming to the understanding that some humans turn out to be absolute liars, manipulators, egocentrists and delusionals - even some of the ones you once loved most dearly. The only positivity that came from such was the ability to know what I will and will not tolerate. It is never too late to cut chronically toxic people from communications."
blind-moon-spirit
Out of Time
"The older you get the faster time is perceived so you are faced with the inevitability of death and how short life really is."
greenhedgehog9
"What helps with this is keeping a daily journal. Even jotting down a few of your thoughts and feelings, a few little things you did that day, anything helps you to remember the time more and seems to slow things down. Then when you go back and read entries years later, all it takes is a sentence to bring back many memories of a day that seemed insignificant at the time."
killabeesplease
Adulting isn't fun. Wish I had had a warning about that.
Yuck
Grumpy Cat Annoyed Face GIFGiphy"Growing awfully aware of how sh*tty the world can be."
Foxman3777
The Pick Up
"It's an old one but it is sad: at some point your mother or father will pick you up, and it will be the last time ever. My daughter, aged 32, told me this and I offered to pick her up to reset the clock, but she politely declined."
jwelshuk
"This one hit me hard when I first heard it. Or when you'd fall asleep on the couch and just wake up in your bed. Literally starting to tear up just thinking about it."
ThePhabtom4567
Life Hurts
"Losing friends. I’ve lost friends due to slipping out of touch, fights, etc. but the worst is when a good friend dies. I’m of the generation that was in high school for 9/11, I joined the military and a lot of friends did too. I’ve lost a lot to war, but even more to drug use and suicide."
jharrisimages
Narrow truths...
"It is really easy to feel that as you get older that your world becomes more narrow. You realize you can’t do everything and you won’t achieve all your dreams. You try less new things because you don’t want to fail or don’t feel it is worth it. You don’t feel the need to challenge yourself anymore. It can make you feel unremarkable and alone."
"I think that feeling is one of the reasons that just about every generation since the first Star Wars kids will not let their childhoods die and take those things so seriously. Those interests are linked to times when you were younger, happier and optimistic and preserving that feeling can get harder and harder as you age."
AppealToReason16
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Nurses Divulge The Most Haunting Thing They Ever Heard Someone Say On Their Deathbed
The things we are faced with at the end of life are unimaginable.
The mind is ready to unload it all in those last moments.
I suppose it's because when we know the end is coming, it's our last chance to try and make it right or unburden ourselves.
Just in case there is a hereafter.
And the people who always catch these last-minute monologues besides our loved ones?
Nurses and healthcare workers.
Redditormaaraa_hwanted to hear from healthcare workers who have been there in the end. They asked:
"Nurses of reddit, what where the most haunting things someone said on their deathbed?"
I have many a bean to spill. But I'd have to be on morphine to confess half of them.
I Confess
"So this happened a couple of years ago. We had an ex-gang guy who was dying of cancer and he confessed that he was the gang hit-man for many years. He wanted to confess to all the killings and show the police where the bodies are buried."
"He would get closure knowing that the surviving families of his victims find out where they are buried. We had to get the hospital legal team involved cause we had no policies to deal with that. Cops got involved and the dude confessed to gang murders from decades ago."
lurkermuch
Tell Them
"Was an EMT-B on the 911 unit that got a call about a hit and run. Cops were on the scene first. The area of the city I worked in was rough. Some guy and his GF had got into a fight in the parking lot. It ended with the guy running over his GF, then backing up over her. Needless to say, she wasn’t doing well, and her vitals were tanking."
"We loaded her up, with a fireman and police officer joined with us in the back of the rig. She kept mumbling 'Tell my mom. Please tell my mom.' And naturally I figured it was her asking us to let her mom know she was hurt. The hospital takes care of that and I put it out of my mind rather quick as we were working over her."
"She flatlined before we arrived. They did not get her back. My partner was finishing up her paperwork and we turned to give her wallet back to the staff. The nurse on duty, who I knew pretty well, was reading a dirty piece of paper. She looked disgusted. When I asked what was up she simply put the piece of paperwork down."
"It was a letter that was picked up near her purse on scene. She had gotten accepted into a college. I realized then that in the ambulance, she was asking us to tell her mom she got into college. That is a deep sadness I have never forgotten."
Nspired_1
Cats know things...
"I provided hospice care for a loved one so she could die in her own home rather than a hospital. At the end, she became convinced that taking morphine for the pain was killing her. She would lay in agony asking me for help but refused the pain meds. I resorted to just raising and lowering her bed to help her get comfortable. The day she died her cat went from being aloof to sleeping on the bed with her. Cats know things."
GrandmaPoly
Oh Irene!
"I had a patient whose memory had been fading for years. It’s weird, right before a patient dies, sometimes they’ll sudden be doing a lot better. Anyway, he thought I was his late wife. I played along and just listened to him while he recalled his engagement, his wedding, his first childbirth, and a few other memories for me."
"At one point, he says 'Oh! Irene, there you are! Sorry, you know my eyes aren’t as good as they used to be. Well, thank you for listening to an old man tell his stories. I hope you have great stories to tell one day too. I’m coming, Irene.' And then he passed. He was my first long-time patient."
bedroompopprincess
Wow. People really hold in a lot. Sad.
“Will I die?”
"I had to tell my grandmother that dialysis would only give her another week or so to live and it was her choice to try or not. She was in and out of consciousness at that point and was in a clear state for the moment. She asked, 'Will I die?' I said, 'yes.'"
"She looked me in the eye and smiled just a little and said, 'sometimes you gotta do what you don’t want to do.' She closed her eyes, squeezed my hand and slept until she passed a day later. When things get hard, I always hear her say, 'sometimes you gotta do what you don’t want to do.'"
-Silouan-
“don’t let it bother you”
"Not a nurse, but my grandfather was put into a 24/7 care home with severe Parkinson’s. My mom and grandma had spent 4 years basically taking care of him constantly and needed a break for a couple weeks (although visiting him every other day in shifts)."
"I went one day alone and he looked me straight in the eye and said 'I need you to get me home so I can die, I can’t do it here.”' I tried saying everything I could to the nurses and my family to get him home without saying what he told me. 24 hours later he got rushed to emergency, as he was dying he looked at me and said 'don’t let it bother you' and died. Still bothers me."
Wanderedabit
Things in the world...
"While in hospice my grandma said to me... 'A, there are a great many things in this world worse than dying.' Then talked about how lucky she was to have lived the life she did. I had never looked at death like that before and that conversation truly changed me and my outlook. She was the most wonderful person."
feddeftones
“I found Jack”
"About 2 minutes before my grandma passed she had clarity (she’d suffered from severe dementia for years). She opened her eyes and said, 'I found Jack.' (My grandpa who’d died eight years prior). She said they were at a ball with their friends. Then she said, 'I’ve gotta go, he asked me to dance.' Then she was gone."
Chilibean127
It's just death...
"Many moons ago when I was a nursing student, a man in his 40s was lying on his deathbed from terminal cancer, his sobbing wife lying in bed next to him. He looked at his wife, using the last bit of energy he had to gently wipe away her tears and stroke her cheek. He took off his oxygen mask and said 'don't worry love, don't be afraid. It's just death' and passed shortly after."
vikingnurse
Dad
"Former CNA in the dementia unit of an assisted living facility. 'My dad is on his way to pick me up now.' She said that every time I checked on her until she died about a week after it started. While she was still mobile she would tidy her room and sit on the edge of her bed and just wait most of the day."
sikeaux
Wearing black...
"Not a nurse, but my mom, uncle, and aunt all said that when their grandfather died, he kept telling people to kick out, 'that bald headed *itch' out of the room. When they'd ask who, he'd say, 'the one wearing the black shawl, she keeps knocking on the window.' There was no one there obviously, they think he saw the reaper or something like that.
UnderwaterPianos
Death
"My patient grabbed my arm, looked me in the eyes and said 'please don’t let me die, I have a daughter.'”
macncheebs
"This is the one that gets me. I’ve made peace with the idea that I’m going to die someday not of my choosing but the idea of leaving my young children alone in this world terrifies me and fuels my desire to be a better parent."
00uwu
Late in Life
"I’ve had multiple people begging for their mothers. It made me even more sad because it was people well into their 80s/90s, who’s mothers were obviously no longer around."
x_JaneDoe
"My 85 y/o grandmother passed away on Monday. The day before she passed, when she was still able to speak, she thought I was her mother. She looked in my eyes and said 'It’s my mama.' That’ll stick with me for the rest of my life. That, and the single tear that fell from her eye the moment she passed."
daughterofpolonius
“it is what it is”
"My great uncle’s last words before he passed were 'it is what it is.' I know it’s really common but I find myself saying it quite a lot nowadays. It is what it is My great aunt who lived to be 101 was straight vegetative for like a month or so before passing, the day after her 101st birthday."
"On the day OF her birthday, she suddenly was conscious and awake as everybody had come to leave a birthday cake. She told stories and laughed. Then she went back to being comatose and died the next day. Woman loved her birthday lol."
PanzerKatze96
Forget you Family
"Not a nurse but was a cop and I was with a 20 year old who took his own life. He checked into a nice hotel and his parents reported him missing. Anyways they found out he was in a hotel by a credit card charge. I was the responding officer and when I arrived, I knocked on the door he answered and was really cool. We chatted for a few minutes and I asked him if he was willing to come down stairs to meet with his parents."
"He went back into his room and I held the door open. It appeared he was putting on a jacket but he pulled out a gun, placed it on his temple and said, 'f**k my family, this is on them' and pulled the trigger. First time someone mulled themselves in front of me and wasn’t the last. That s**t haunts you years later."
The_Troll_Gull
"How long was I out for that time?"
"Looked after a guy with end stage heart failure. He kept having episodes where if he coughed or leaned forward - anything to increase his intra thoracic pressure, he would pass out. He would come back after a few minutes and gradually go from purple back to pink. 'How long was I out for that time?' He was fully mentally fine - sharp, witty and at peace with what was going to eventually happen to him."
"Him and me were joking that one of these episodes were going to kill him, as he sipped his tea and we talked rubbish. 5 minutes later it happened again and he didn't come back. He had a DNR order which was sensible. Very eerie to talk to somebody so vibrant and alert minutes before he died. Such a nice dude, I want to be in that mindset when I go too."
knifechoir
“I didn’t want to kill the kids”
"Physical Therapist here. I treated a man in his nineties who was a DNR/DNI. At least once a week when I would go to his room to start our sessions he would cry and say 'I didn’t want to kill the kids.' After speaking to his nurse, it was revealed that he had killed children in WW2. He collapsed during a session and said 'the kids are here to get me.' He died a few minutes later."
RCee7
‘beautiful, beautiful’
"My stepfather passed away last year. Towards the end he was very cranky and hadn’t treated my mother very kindly. Before he lost consciousness he was stroking her face saying ‘beautiful, beautiful’… that made me happy."
crystalisedginger
Now
"My grandmother grasped the nurses hand and said 'I think I’m going to die now.' The nurse was telling her no she was doing much better and would likely leave soon but my grandmother was gone before she could finish her sentence. She knew."
KneeDragr
"I’ve literally written 'impending sense of doom' on a patients chart. If they die I want it known I took them seriously! Doc laughed at me, I don’t care, I stand by upgrading that chart to a more serious code."
the_sar_chasm
"I'm done"
"My dad was in the hospital and found out he had lung cancer. It was him, my step mom, and a nurse in the room. He told my step mom to get him something just to get her to leave the room. The nurse said that before she could stop him he took off his oxygen mask, said 'I'm done' and he lost consciousness immediately. He was on life support for a day or so but he was already gone. When we pulled the plug his body died in less than 5 minutes. I guess he really was done."
HumpieDouglas
Let it go. Let it go. It's all you can do.
And thank you, healthcare workers.
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People Share The Unfortunate Realities Of Working From Home That No One Talks About
Having worked almost exclusively from home since 2015, there's a lot that goes into it that people don't realize.
It's not all athleisure and binge-watching shows while you type.
Reddit user TheBruceDickenson asked
"What is an unfortunate reality about with Work From Home nobody talks about?"
The downsides are real, especially if you're not ready for them and armed with a battle plan for how to make it through the unique challenges.
Zoom happy hour isn't anywhere near as awesome as drinks after work... but let's be real, just as few people attend.
Home Doesn't Mean I'm Off
Working Jim Carrey GIFGiphy"When you work from home people assume you have the day off. 'Can you do...' "
"No, I'm working. I cannot do..."
"Just because I'm here working on the computer doesn't mean I can do your thing. Pay no attention to the fact that I'm browsing Reddit, it's part of my process."
- SuperstitiousPigeon5
"Oh my god yes. When I started WFH due to pregnancy struggles, I noticed that we would have a lot of people knocking on the door."
"I take calls so I’m not just lounging around. I would let the door go unanswered and then I would see my mother-in-law calling me and sending me messages that so-and-so will be stopping by for X thing."
"I would have to explain to her that I’m busy working and cannot leave my desk."
"Another thing that would happen would be her aunt, who was living with us at the time, would come to the living room to watch TV and videos on her phone. The fact that I had to tell her more than once that I am WORKING so she needs to watch TV in another room baffled me."
"I also had to explain that I have access to people’s medical information and how would she feel if she called her doctor’s office and the person she was having a conversation with was discussing her private information in front of others."
- Dreamvillainess22
"THIS. Even my family doesn’t get it."
“ 'Wanna meet for lunch?' Nope working."
“ 'Can you run to the store?' Nope working."
- dinahsaur523
Live At Work
Computer Working Late GIF by Cake FXGiphy" 'Work From Home' can easily become 'Live at Work.' "
- TanLimes
"When we went WFH in March of 2020, I went from 50-60 hours a week, to an easy 60-70 hours/week."
"Can confirm, it sucked."
"Getting laid off from that toxic place was definitely one of the best things that happened to me over the last couple of years."
- Steve_78_OH
"This was such a problem for me. I live in a studio apartment and so my computer’s always right there."
"I would find myself getting up at 2 am to just take care of something. And just going back to the computer over and over."
"I had to give up space that I had for a desk and doing hobbies to have space for work. My office at work is at least twice the size of the space I work from at home."
"The one day I had to just sit in on some stupid senior town hall type meetings where no one expected me to engage but I was supposed to be listening and I did laundry and dishes and stuff while working. On that day, it was great."
"Every other day I’ve worked from home has ended up being at least a couple more hours of work."
"It’s kept me up at night, I get way more stressed, I never move more than the 10 steps from bed to desk to bathroom and loop and done."
"Hate it. Hate it so much. I never want to work from home if possible - at least not until I have much more space."
- GenericUser435
"I have been working from home since we'll before covid. I have an office, when I am done my day, everything stays in there, including work phone."
"This is how I maintain my sanity."
- captain_redballs
Partner Perspectives
Happy Well Done GIF by LaffGiphy"When you and your partner both work from home, you miss that natural separation of your lives."
"Suddenly you have much less to talk about, because you're living your lives together more than previously, and then takes more active effort to maintain individuality and not regress into the singular relationship entity in all aspects of life which isn't healthy for anyone."
- opgrrefuoqu
"That's funny, we're sort of the opposite in that we talk a lot more than we ever did."
"It's so interesting and fun to hear him at his work and he likes to come through to my desk and have a wee rant about whatever he's been doing with."
"Also we get to go for lunchtime walks together and make each other cups of tea and I think it's really been very good for our relationship."
- bookschocolatebooks
Exacerbating Anxieties
Arrested Development Television GIFGiphy"My wife works from home and it seems like a very sedentary lifestyle."
"Sometimes, she doesn't even have to get dressed. I don't know, it just seems like if you're already anxious or depressed, you can accidentally become a shut-in."
- PREClOUS_R0Y
"Can confirm."
"I’ve had to work from home on and off the past month. The depression nest is real."
- i_am_a_toaster
"This is fascinating to me. I've been working from home for almost 2 years and I'm dreading ever returning."
"I wear comfy sweats every day. But at the same time I still shower regularly, eat normally, and maintain my regular life. I just don't have to get all put together and drive to an office for 8+ hours daily."
- Evidence-Visible
"It’s a very sedentary lifestyle while working, but not a tremendous difference from than when I was in an office."
"Oddly, it’s forced me to exercise more because I have to actually burn energy and leave my house for an hour or so."
"Working from home works for some people and not others."
"But I absolutely hate commuting. Combine that with the lifestyle choices I’ve made to stay healthier while at home, it’s made me so much happier. I can’t stress how incredible it is not to commute."
"It’s a true life-changer to get two hours of your day back."
- SPAREustheCUTTER
Sick Days
Excited I Feel Sick GIFGiphy"Working through what would have been sick days."
- whooligun
"This."
"I have COVID at the moment, first 2 days were write offs, but now I'm back to it because I can stay awake for longer than an hour at a time."
- A7exand3r
"I actually like this aspect of working from home."
"I rarely get too sick to actually work, but would still have to take time off if I thought I may be contagious. Now I can just work through those days and use my sick days as vacation on days of my choosing."
- SpaceCowboy58
Accidental Exercise
Emmy Awards Fitness GIF by EmmysGiphy"I'm missing out on a lot of 'accidental' exercise."
"I used to walk to the train station, then from the station at the far end to the office. Have a wander around at lunch."
"Now, I walk from my bed to the shower, and from the shower to my office/man cave. If I had a Fitbit, it may get as high as 50 steps by lunch."
- A_name_wot_i_made_up
"Same boat here, I used to get 10k steps minimum going into the office. Now I hit 3,500 most days."
- Lars9
"I used to take the train to Manhattan and then walk from Penn station to the office. I would get my 10,000 steps in before I even got to work. Now I am far less physically active."
- subcow
"Yeah, that’s why I got a cheap stationary bicycle in March 2020 and now I ride it whenever I’m watching TV, to make up for my former commute."
- ThePowerOfStories
Jailed
Adam Ruins Everything Jail GIF by truTVGiphy"You feel jailed."
"You work in your house, you clean the house, you cook for the family in the house and when everybody gets home from school/work you are the only one who did not get to go outside."
"Nobdy want's to come outside with you because they were outside all day."
- mageakeem
"This is my life."
"After a day inside my house looking at a computer, transitioning to being in my house to look at the TV is the last thing I want to do. I spend at least two hours just wandering around outside my house."
- reason2listen
"I’ve found that it helps to leave the house for a bit before and after work."
"Before work and the school drop off, I take a walk with the family. I don’t go back in the house until it is time for work. At the end of my workday I leave the house to do a short walk, then go back in and change clothes."
"Then I’m officially home. It sounds weird , but it works for me."
- notthatguytheother1
"I'm going to get annoyed with the place I'm working, no matter where that is."
"I'd rather it be somewhere impartial that I don't have to see when I'm not working. I don't need that negative energy towards my home, which is supposed to be my safe space."
- [user deleted]
Foregoing Fashion
Meryl Streep Sunglasses GIF by 20th Century Fox Home EntertainmentGiphy"I miss wearing my nice work outfits."
"The only reason I leave home is to pick up groceries, go to the gym, or go to church, so 80% of my wardrobe is going unworn."
"But I do NOT miss my 2+ hour round-trip commute, so I would never wear a pencil skirt again if it meant I had to go back to that traffic hell."
- DYITB
"Wow... I haven't seen a pencil skirt in real life for years now. I HAD seen a woman in business clothes around October."
"In Kroger, I heard the click clack of heels and it dawned on me what it was. A woman in a wonderful outfit was pushing a cart and talking on the phone like it was still 2019."
"It was like seeing a ghost."
- Columbus43219
"After the first few months of work from home pajamas freedom, I realized I needed to get dressed everyday to feel good about myself."
"So even though no one but my tiny group of friends see it, I still wear my work clothes and try to look nice."
"I think our very connected social media has us convinced you need to show off if you want to get dressed up, but people used to get fancied up to have dinner with their partner at home. And that just seems nice to me."
- Ihaveacatnamedslim
"Man, not wearing work clothes is like my number one favorite thing about working from home!"
"I've never liked business casual clothing and dress codes seemed so arbitrary to me. My work clothes were always in that category of 'Well I don't love it but it's good for work.' "
"Once I got a permanently remote gig I got rid of all those and got some nice, comfy lounge wear!"
- missluluh
Stranger Danger
I Dont Know Her Mariah Carey GIF by MOODMANGiphy"I love working from home but it can give you an everybody is just a stranger vibes. Loss of connection to the outside world is real."
- orange728
"I've been working from home during the pandemic long enough that I've seen people come and go from our team without ever having met them."
- bluetista1988
"Completely agree with you on this."
"I’ve drifted apart from certain friend groups simply because I work from home and since I do, I get to work extra long and abnormal hours including weekends. I don’t even want to get ready and step outside after finishing my workday."
"Also, I joined a new company back in June 2021 working remote full time. We have a team of over 10 people and I’ve only ever met the team lead ONCE in person to pick up my laptop."
"Even though we have daily stand-ups and weekly face-to-face meetings where we enable our webcams, I still feel disconnected and not as closely knit as a team should be."
- jwt155
No More Networking
Snl Networking GIF by Saturday Night LiveGiphy"Every discussion needs to be intentional."
"Forget about chance meetings in the hallway. Forget about casual lunches where you build relationships. Forget about contact with anyone outside of your immediate team."
"None of that will happen without you making an effort to set up time."
"If you don't take the time to manage things, long term working from home kills networking, culture and comradery."
- hiro111
"I started a job out of college in 2018 on site, built up relationships with my team members while working and when we went hybrid it was fine."
"Started a new job this past November and feel like I only 'know' one person on my team because he’s the only one who is willing to teach or reach out to see if I’m stuck on anything."
"Even with daily meetings to start the day I don’t “know” anyone else on this team. I miss my old team and the dynamic of it so much."
- Underscore330
Must Leave Work
Joanne The Scammer Running GIF by Super DeluxeGiphy"When working in the office going back home was like a long waited nice thing to happen. I liked being back home and relax etc."
"Right now when I'm done with my work from home day job I feel like I need to leave this space because I've been sitting here all day since morning."
"I have a separate office room but still sometimes I have to leave the place for a walk, grocery etc even though the weather is bad and/or I don't need to buy anything."
"It's difficult to stay home even though I may need to do something else inside like cleaning or repairing stuff."
"I'm done working. I need to leave work."
- pawkorydzek
A Method To The Madness
Not How It Works Season 25 GIF by The BachelorGiphy"Working with people who aren’t used to working from home."
"At my old job, 50% were remote so there was just a way of doing things, even pre pandemic. Group chat (slack or teams), cc everybody on an email, rarely pick up the phone for a 1:1."
"Current job, they still behave like an office environment with one-off conversations and not keeping everybody up to speed. It’s disorienting and way more subject to Bullsh*t politics."
- pivazena
Ignoring The Chorus
Schitts Creek No GIF by CBCGiphy"My employer keeps having meetings where they try to convince us how everyone hates working from home and then just ignores the chorus of people saying that isn't true. We're good here at home, thanks."
- monosyllabicmonolith
Time Zone Trouble
Debi Mazar Aftershow GIF by TV LandGiphy"I work in a time zone that isn't the same as our company headquarters."
"If I was an in office employee, when I leave, done, no more meetings. But nothing is stopping PST folks from making a 6-7pm EST zoom meeting that I feel obligated to go to."
- NCmimsy
Separate The Stress
"When you work from home, your home and safe space also becomes your office. It’s hard to detach yourself from work stress when you just worked all day at the dining room table now you’re trying to enjoy your dinner at the same spot."
"That’s what I hated most about working from home. And this is an even bigger issue if you have a high stress job or one you dislike."
- whoknows947
The Only Negative
Surprised In Trouble GIF by NickelodeonGiphy"I started working from home in March 2020 and I love it."
"I don't have to drive an hour and a half each way anymore. I don't have to wear uncomfortable clothes. I have more time to clean the house and keep up with it during the day."
"The only negative, if you can even call it that, is that I end up working extra most days. Instead of shutting down at 4:57 to beat traffic leaving the parking garage, I'll often work until 5:15 or 5:30 or even 6 to get something done."
- Codyh630
Factions
Pirates Fleet GIF by Sea of ThievesGiphy"What I've seen around my workplace is that for those of us who, by their industry, cannot work from home, those that can are highly resented by those who can't have that luxury (and it IS a luxury)."
"When the sometimers come back into the office for whatever reason, they're shunned by those that go in every day, almost hostile towards them."
"Those that WFH a majority of time are treated like they're a part of the cleaning crew. They're in the workplace poking around a little, not talking much and then they're gone."
"There is a clear separation now between the (dare I call them) factions."
- Lincoln_Park_Pirate
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