The Best Ways To Tell If Someone's In An Open Relationship Or Actually Cheating On Their Partner
Views of commitment and monogamy in romantic relationships continue to evolve.
More and more couples have decided to open their relationships, seeing other people while still remaining committed to one another.
Dating someone who's in an open relationship can take some getting used to, however, as the feeling of knowing your new romantic interest is going home to their spouse or partner following your date is strange, to say the least.
Then too, can you ever be certain that they are in fact in an "open relationship," and not just cheating on their partner?
"How do you know when someone is really in an open relationship, and not a cheater pretending to be in one?"
When In Doubt, Don't...
"If you're feeling off about it, don't do it."- Massive-Ad7628
Bad Feeling I Anticipate Problems GIF by America's Got TalentGiphyConfirmation Needed From Both
"When the partner openly knows and acknowledges it."- EngineeringVirgin
"I was seeing a man who was married."
"He assured me that their relationship was open, that he had full permission to do whatever, and that if it would make me comfortable he would give me his wifeβs number and she and I could chat."
"We saw each other for about four years."
"I went to pick him up at his house a couple times and his wife would say 'have a nice date!'."
"Thatβs the way to do it."
"Everything on the table."
"If thereβs some sneakiness, something that makes you feel itβs not quite right, you need to listen to that feeling."- theyarnllama
"Ask to meet their partner."
"If theyβre really open, it shouldnβt be a problem."- bloomautomatic
Threes Company Reaction GIF by moodmanGiphyAn Oldie But A Goodie...
"Ask them to pinky swear."- Still_kinda_hungry
Give Your Intentions A Second Thought As Well
"Agh."
"Ok so Iβm in an open relationship with my partner and he hooked up with this girl, and we called her to go get a drink with us and she was like 'I knew he had a girlfriend, but I didnβt know you knew'.β
"After that I def didnβt want to hang out with her because she thought she was facilitating him cheating on me."
"Not cool."
"Intentions matter."- Physical_Witness_922
Ask And Answer
"In my experience, ask literally anything about what type of poly or open they are."
"Also anyone who isn't willing to get/show a recent std test isn't worth the risk."- Midori8751
just ask leslie jones GIF by Saturday Night LiveGiphyInstructional Videos
"My SO and I just make videos explaining the situation and ground rules."
"That way, our potential partner know what they are dealing with."- TagtheCat
Doesn't Hurt To Check...
"I slept with a woman who was in an open marriage."
"Her husband called to check on her and ask if she was ok."
"She said she was fine and that was the extent of the call. I think thatβs a pretty good indicator."- Fit-Concern-81
It's All About The Reaction
"When they introduce you to their SO as their lover and the SO is fine with it."
"Open relationships rarely sneak around on each other."- welltriedsoulΒ·
β'So likeβ¦. You know your husbands screwing Ashley rightβ¦.??'β
β'Yeah I know'.β- AkKik-Maujaq
It Must Be A Mutual Decision
"In my experience, one of my ex's said we were in an open relationship, however I didn't know that."
"So yeah, that's a cheater."
"I briefly dated someone that was in an open relationship (the couple were long distance)."
"I spoke on the phone with the girlfriend before any sex happened so we could all be on the same page regarding boundaries and intentions, what protection will be used, testing, etc."
"It really wasn't awkward, and I appreciated knowing that everyone was aligned."- korova_chew
Cartoons Button GIF by NickelodeonGiphyIf They Say No, That's A Problem
"Ask them if you can talk to their partner."- vivi2626
Don't Ask, Don't Tell... Don't Date!
"I've been poly for closing in on 2 decades."
"I used to run a large poly meetup in a huge metro area."
"I've seen it all, personally talked to several thousand+ poly folks over the years, etc."
"I REFUSE to engage with anyone in a DADT policy at all at this point."
"HARD F*CKING PASS, the vast majority of the time its cheating."
"And when its not I swear 95% of the time is because the couple with the DADT policy hasn't done any work around opening up their relationship and there are a LOT of problems involved."
"And I want nothing to do with that huge nightmare of a cluster f*ck anymore."
"Here's my perspective and where it comes from."
"The amount of cheating I've seen is beyond staggering."
"A huge percentage of the women I know have run into TONS of men that are cheating and try to use poly, dadt, etc as a guise to do it."
"I have zero reason to put that much trust in someone I just met. It's the same reason I ask for proof of STI testing."
"I can't understand people with the attitude of 'if you can't trust them why are you with them' the whole point is you don't know them that well why would you trust them?"
"This is one step in establishing some trust."
"The ethical part of ENM is a big big deal to me, and I refuse to be complicit in cheating and be put in an unethical situation."
"If cheating was rare it would be a different situation, but f**k it's common."
"I've verified 100% of my partners are in ethical situations, and none of them had a problem with it."
"I've had a number of their partners thank me for actually checking."
"I'll accept a few options for verification, a phone call, voice chat, a brief text exchange while my date is present, a prerecorded voice / video message, or showing me snippets of a conversation where being poly is discussed / confirmed and there is a long-standing chat history with said person."
"Most of the time I had already met or seen their partner, so I already knew it was ethical."- f*cklifehard
Schitts Creek No GIF by CBCGiphyMany couples have said that their communication and commitment has greatly improved after opening their relationships.
When one half of a couple seeing other people causes pain and unhappiness, however, it seems clear that that relationship is not open in a healthy way.
Particularly if only one person is truly benefitting from it.
You want to look for the best in people.
Knowing someone who once cheated on their significant other in a past relationship, or maybe this individual even cheated on you, can be a difficult thing to look past. There might always be that seed of doubt in your heart, knowing they can flip a switch and emotionally or physically break their bond with you again.
Or maybe you're capable of giving that trust over, knowing people can learn from their mistakes.
Always good to see what the internet has to say.
Reddit user, rachael_0898, wanted to know your opinion on a tricky matter when they asked:
"Do you think once a cheater always a cheater? Why or why not?"
Look for the best in all of humanity.
If someone made a mistake, that doesn't damn them for the rest of time, does it?
Life Is Not Black And White
"No. Life is more complex than a binary on/off truism like that. And people change. You are not the same person you were when you were 8, or 12 or 20. You grew, you learned lessons, you grew some more."
"You will not be the same person when you are 60. This definitely means you live and learn. Not everyone will, but to assume nobody does is wrong."
Metatron_Fallen
Depends On The Situation, Obviously
"It really depends on the situation. I cheated because I was in a sexually and mentally abusive relationship. I would try to leave him but the he would threaten to leak my nudes or off himself if I did. So I did the only thing I could think of to be happy. But Iβm now in a healthy, loving relationship, and cheating never crosses my mind."
BlaineNicolai02
You Better Be Ready To Live With The Consequences
"No, not necessarily, but the stigma is deserved. You can grow and change, but you hurt someone and there are subsequent consequences for hurting people."
buttnutbutter
"You may never cheat again, but you will never have the chance to cheat on me again."
xFiDgetx
"Exactly. I'm glad for the people who learn and grow and whatever, but I don't have to take that baggage on. I'd leave a dating relationship for cheating, but truly picturing ending my marriage if he had a one-time physical cheating episode (emotional affair is very different, I'd leave for that), is a lot less black and white than I'd like it to be"
abqkat
Hopefully You Learn And Grow
"I cheated on my boyfriend when I was 15-16 years old. Even lied about it and didnβt had the balls to speak up. We stayed together and eventually 1 1/2 years later I broke the silence and told him the truth that he knew for a long time already. Since then, I never lied in my life again and stayed honest. I couldnβt cheat on anyone anymore or wouldnβt want to - so in my case I learned my lesson and sometimes I canβt even apologise for my behaviour back then. But my boyfriends from later ages told me you were young and thatβs okay! Hope that helps."
Sarcasmgurl_
Once Is Fine. Twice? You're Pushing It.
"No, if they do it twice tho, thats when they're always a cheater"
bl4ckp00lzz
"That's the way I look at it. Everyone makes mistakes. What matters is how you learn and grow from the experience. Someone who cheated once, was remorseful, and was able to understand the hurt they did may not cheat again. But once someone cheats a second time, it strikes me as those things not mattering, so that boundary is never established."
DisturbedNocturne
Hoping For Future Clarity
"As someone who cheated on a partner, I sure hope not. I live with the guilt to this day, and I know Iβll never be forgiven for such actions. I moved on and wish her the absolute best. Last I heard she was getting married and is happy. Iβve learned my lesson and donβt think I can bring myself to bear that burden twice over."
JimmyCheezSneez
Give Everyone A Shot, But If That Doesn't Work, Then...Revenge?
"Essentially, mistakes are the most effective moments of learning, factoring in neural plasticity and growth mindset, people are very capable of reflective change. Assuming that the person cheating feels that way about it - they might just be trying to have a cake and eat it too, in which case, f-ck their dad."
iammeanbecauseiamsad
Is It The Person Or The Relationship?
"I think that within the context of that relationship, probably. But not forever in all relationships. Unfortunately, forgiveness can also be permission. If the relationship ends, theyβll probably think twice next time in another relationship bc they will have experienced the consequences"
Easteuroblondie
And then there's that old saying: once a cheater, always a cheater.
Doesn't Sound Like This Dude Wants To Be Married
"Yes, or the tendencies will always be there. I know a guy who has cheated on his wife 8 times in 20 years of marriage. He cheated on her with my friend who also cheated on every guy she had been with"
carsonlittle
Trust That Leopard To Change Their Spots?
"'Always' is a strong word, nothing in life is going to be 100% black or 100% white especially not humans who's behavior can change randomly due to getting older or new experiences or whatever else.......but I would also say that cheating on your partner willingly does show a lot about that person personality as a whole, and I wouldn't gamble my chances on a person suddenly changing their personality just because I want it. Chances of that happening are much lower than chances of it not happening , so I say "presume that they most likely wont change" and go from there."
potatoslasher
You Won't Even Get A Chance
"Yes. I won't start a relationship if I knew this person cheated."
CountFocus
You Pass A Certain Threshold
"I feel thereβs a certain age/time in life where if you have cheated, you have a WAY higher chance of doing it again. Young people mess up, adults should know better."
TZFaro
"I feel like so many teenagers donβt even know what love is so that chase anything that seems like"
rachael_0898
"Agreed. Once you get to that 25 mark, it stops being a youthful mistake and starts becoming a pattern of sh-tty behavior."
Ducks-Dont-Exist
You Had All The Time In The World To Grow
"Probably not always. But recent experience with my now ex would say yes. She cheated on her first bf when she was 19. She then walked in on her next bf cheating on her at 22 after being with him for 2 years so she knows how it feels to be cheated on. She was then single for 7 years and met me at 29. She cheated on me after 15 months living together. She had years to grow up in between and still cheated 10 years after doing it the first time, while also knowing how much it hurts. So in her case at least, she certainly is."
Electronic-Skirt5951
It's Mental Before Physical
"People cheat with their minds before they cheat with their... other parts, so it seems to be an attitude, an outlook on life. That makes behavior decidedly difficult to change. I'm a really good liar if you want to know if those jeans make you butt look fat, but if it's important and you have a right to know - I can't lie worth sh*t. To cheat or not to cheat: easy decision for me."
Rick2L
You Can Never Go Back
"Yes, mostly because in my almost 50 years, I've seen it play out repeatedly in just one of two ways..."
- "The cheater cheats again."
- "The cheater doesn't cheat again, but the partner is always suspicious of everything the other does because the trust was lost."
"Honestly, I wouldn't want to live with either of those scenarios. I'd rather be alone."
SuchLovelyLilacs
They Say They Can Change, But You Know Better
"This post will probably be buried but my first boyfriend cheated on me in high school after being together for 2 years. Then he started dating someone new a year later and was seriously committed to her for all of 5 minutes. He was secretly cheating on her with dozens of girls: one night stands, classmates, random encounters, some regulars... any chance he got. His girlfriend found out a couple of times and he would cry and beg her to not leave him. She stayed and he continued his ways. They had been together for about 4 or 5 years."
"During this period, he was regularly sleeping with a girl from his college, he used to joke about how ugly she is and he can't get her off his back. Suddenly, he ended up knocking her up, having a child, turning religious and getting married within the year. He lost touch with most of his friends and moved away - very weird situation. In his case - I do believe once a cheater always a cheater simply because he couldn't help himself."
POded99
Over 30? That's Who You Are.
"Everyone I know who cheats still cheats on their new s.o.(s)"
"People don't change much once they hit the 30 year old mark if they aren't active in bettering them self. They stay the same no matter how much they 'swear' they've 'changed'."
FNKTN
Trust Your Gut. Don't Get Taken.
"Everyone is different"
"When I was 17 I got drunk and cheated on my gf with a girl I had a crush on for a long ass time. It was horrible, I hated myself for doing it, and I've never even come close to cheating ever again."
"In my 30s, my fiance and I had two kids (one was mine, the other was from her previous relationship but the kid called me dad and for all intents and purposes I was). We had a house together. Were building a future together. The thing I liked the most about her was I always felt like she was going to be loyal..."
"A few months before our wedding, I found out she was banging a guy she worked with. Total pos too (33 felony charges, face tattoos, no car, lived at home with his mom, etc.)"
"Kicked her out of the house, but a year later I decided to give her another chance because I wanted to give my son a life with mom and dad together. Long story short, she was talking to and hanging out with multiple guys and lying to me about it."
"Tldr: everyone is different, and some people can cheat once and never again. But there's a very good chance a cheater will cheat again"
CerealKiller3030
Always consider a person's past when looking ahead to the future you might be sharing with them.
Consider what kind of trust you're willing to give, and how much you're willing to lose if that individual ends up cheating again.
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People Break Down What Can Instantly Ruin A Friendship
Friendships are an invaluable part of our lives.
But they can take some real work to maintain.
Sometimes things go bad really fast, though.
Redditor Jrose798 asked:
"What instantly ruins a friendship?"
Secrets Are To Be Kept
"Telling secrets that arenβt yours to share"
-Redditor
"Yeah this is a big one for me! My life ain't yours to tell! If I've trusted you with something personal, I expect you to keep it to yourself! ESPECIALLY when I ask you to keep it a secret.."
-xnash_
"It's absurd how many times I've shut down someone trying to tell me about someone else's abortion. It's not a topic of casual conversation WTF"
-mad_fishmonger
Communication Is Key
"Lack of communication. Iβve had plenty of really solid friendships crumble because either myself or someone else couldnβt say Iβm sorry or admit whatβs bothering them"
-theghostspartan
"Same, though this completely backfired on me when I tried to communicate what was going on for once. Completely blew up at me when I called them out on something that was bothering me in a professional and kind way and they didn't even care to understand my side of the story. I'm always the one in the wrong, it couldn't possibly be them. Been friends since childhood, so much for that."
"Not that I'm saying communication is bad, it's certainly the best way to go, just be sure to start with good communication and understanding. I've found introducing it later on could bring hellfire. Please be careful with who you trust your time and energy with."
-Blundering_Dragon
Money Screws Things Up
"Money. Don't lend your friends money. Either give it to them or say no."
-MissPiggysS*xTape
"Let a friend of 20+ years use my card to buy door dash once. He then waited three months and took my truck payment out to pay for a feast for his family. I guess twenty years of friendship was worth a few hundred dollars to him."
-__________lIllIl
"For me it ended up being that I made more than her (even though weβd never discussed it). She kept making βjokingβ snide remarks about me being rich or loaded. When she told a waiter that at dinner one night, I knew it was done."
-JunkMale975
Friendship Is A Two Way Street
"Using your 'friend' as your audience, always talking about yourself and never asking what's going on in their life."
-nakedonmygoat
"Legit straw that broke the camel's back, conversation I had with a 'friend' earlier this year:"
- hey how s it going? Me - X passed away and so did A.
- ah well, -proceeds to talks aboit herself and her wild parties as if I had said nothing-
"Now she wonders why we don t hang out anymore."
-PunResistance
Gossip Kills The Vibe
"Lying and gossiping behind the other oneβs back"
-yellow_starrz
"I have a friend like this. We were on a road trip and we stopped for a while for one of us to buy something while the rest remained in the car. Right f*cking after the guy left the car, this other guy started gossiping about him and stuff, right until the guy came back and then everyone pretend like nothing happened."
"I talked to the gossiper in private that that wasn't cool, and he berated me that people who don't badmouth their friends behind their backs are just goody two shoes who are too afraid to look bad."
"What the f*ck?"
-SpecialChain
That's Not An Excuse
''You don't understand what pressure I'm under to have a second child because you have an excuse.' My 'excuse' is that I'm infertile."
"I hope one day she is able to not only recognize that she needs therapy but also get enough of it to realize she needs to apologize. As of right now, the death of our friendship is 'my fault' because I suggested that she needs help."
-Probonoh
You Gotta Help Each Other Out
"When you make them a priority but you're only an option. Finally ended a friendship after she wasn't there for me during a really difficult time. It was hard but necessary."
-Motor_Relation_5459
"This has happened to me way too much, I go out of my way to be there for my friends whenever they need me but most of them canβt be bothered to do the same"
-eliteroald
"Yeah, my best friendship just became a one-way street. More than that, he became cruel to me."
"And I beat myself up for it all the time because I let it happen twice (once when we were teenagers, and re-forged a friendship in our early 20s, then again now in our 30s...)"
-Caruthers
Board Games Are Dangerous
"Monopoly"
-Serious_XM
"There are worse games. Thereβs a Game of Thrones game me and my friends played for a bit. Itβs an extremely long, complicated, mentally challenging, brutal, strategic war game. The rule book is 30 pages long. It doesnβt help we would drink the whole time and itβs like a four hour game, but yeah I had to stop talking to these friends for like two moths after one game."
-mynewnameonhere
"This sounds like Risk, which is a game where I almost ruined my friendβs relationship after playing with him and his girlfriend where he and I conspired to team up and defeat her because she was originally winning. All that matters though is that I ended up winning after 4 hours of being the third wheel observing dirty looks and arguing the whole time."
-lil_layne
2020-21 Has Been Eye-Opening
"Getting vaccinated, apparently. Casually told my best friend over the phone one day that I got the shot, and he immediately hangs up on me, blocks my number, and unfriended me on Facebook."
"I was confused as hell until I saw his mom's page and it was full of antivax lunacy."
-CaptainPrower
"It wasn't getting vaccinated specifically, but I lost a lot of friends when the pandemic began. Apparently, since the pandemic was just a big "liberal conspiracy," I wasn't worth spending time with since I was taking it seriously."
-crono09
Gay Doesn't Mean Interested In You
"Iβm a lesbian, sometimes when I make female friends they freak out when they find out because they think Iβm βchecking them outβ, then when I tell them Iβm not attracted to them they get all offended."
-BranwenTheRiveter
"How hard is it to understand...'I have a type, and you're not it, which is why you're my friend and not my ex.'"
"Geesh people, get over yourselves."
-BLlTSON
Lots of things can end friendships, but good communication can help avoid many of them.
Talk to your friends honestly and things will go a lot smoother.
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There is significant evidence to suggest that kids become more dishonest with their parents when their parents lie to them. And kids who grow up in environments were lying is tolerated will develop more antisocial and aggressive behavior.
Kids aren't stupidβso it's pretty stunning that so many adults talk down to them or deceive them in some way, as when they tell them potentially damaging lies.
People shared their stories after Redditor nopomegranates97 asked the online community:
"What's the worst lie you were told when you were a kid?"
"My mom would always tell me..."
"My mom would always tell me I was the 'easiest physical birth out of all of the kids.' I felt proud until at the age of 18 I was told I was adopted."
femok6
That must have been an emotional rollercoaster. Hopefully you're a bit more settled now (and perhaps learned more about your birth family, too).
"That my mom would return..."
"That my mom would return the money she 'borrowed' from me. Little did i know it went straight to drugs."
FlimsyFig5951
This must have been so heartbreaking to learn so young.
"My dad always told me..."
"My dad always told me we had to be home before 9 pm because they would roll the sidewalks up and turn the traffic lights off."
thewonderred
Funny, the things we believe when we're children. As an adult, that scenario sounds like a logicial nightmare.
"My grandmother told me..."
"My grandmother told me that everytime you tell a lie or swear, your heart gets a black dot. When the heart is completely black, you end up in hell."
eldidge
This sounds like a great way to give a child anxiety over very little.
"Turns out..."
"'You are so lucky to have a parent like me, other children would do anything to have me as a mother.'"
"Turns out that was, in fact, not the truth."
Actual_grass
Heartbreaking but also freeing, once you figure that out. Our parents are not perfect people, and some of us have worse parents than others.
"I was told by a brother..."
"I was told by a brother I was adopted. It was the most hopeful year of my young life. I dreamed of another family coming to save me."
nativecrone
This saddens me. Hopefully things are better for you now.
People Explain Activities They've Added To Their Post-Pandemic Bucket List | George Takeiβs Oh Myyy
While we've all been cooped up for the better part of two years, many of us have been dreaming up exciting plans for the future. Maybe it's finally time to s..."She was the eldest..."
"I was the one telling the lie. My sister was very annoying as a child. She was the eldest and made the rest of us feel subservient and inferior."
"I got mad enough one day to tell her that our grandmother had told me that my older sister was adopted, that my parents had another baby first, but the baby had been dropped in a river and drowned. So they adopted her and gave her the same name as the dead baby."
"All her early baby photos were the first baby, and she had been adopted as an infant because she looked like the dead baby. I was six, she was seven, and she believed me for quite a while."
Badassnun
This is creative and it's also quite... evil. How are things between the two of you now, I wonder?
"My mom would tell me..."
"My mom would tell me while my dad was in Vietnam that when he got back he was going to beat the living daylights out of me because I was bad."
WolfThick
Well, this got dark. Why do parents say things like this to their kids?!
"It turns out the fish..."
"It turns out the fish weren't released in the local pond. They died. My dad tried to cover it up and convince me of that."
ravenpotter3
I don't know why so many parents balk at using opportunities like these to teach children about death and dying.
"Maybe it can't..."
"Money can't buy happiness. Maybe it can't but it sure does give you peace of mind."
JollyGreenGiant_8
Maybe not happiness, but money definitely gives you options, which many of us lack.
According to child psychologist Gwen Dewar, our children are "better off if adults avoid telling them manipulative lies," noting that to do so has both short term and long term effects, ultimately harming a child's relationship with the adults around them.
To do so anyway? Sounds like an easy way to create a lifetime of resentment.
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People Break Down Which Things Scream 'I'm Only Pretending To Be Rich'
Just because someone wears luxury clothing and jewelry, it does not necessarily mean they are wealthy.
As strangers on the internet have pointed out, some people like making a big deal about appearing rich β even though their bank accounts don't reflect that.
I remember wearing a sweatshirt from the GAP with the giant logo indicating where I got it and was mocked for it because it wasn't a "fancy" brand. Geez.
People can be so judgy in today's superficial society. And for the record, that pullover was not that cheap.
Curious to hear what strangers had to say, Redditor rock4lite asked:
"What screams, 'I am pretending to be rich?'"
Lacking Taste
"90% of the people here don't seem to get that you can be rich AND have bad taste."
β Alpha-et-Gamma
"If you already have a bad taste, it won't suddenly become good just because you're rich. And at the same time - taste is subjective so to what extent should anyone care on whether they have a good or a bad taste, right? (I am in agreement with you btw. Just wanted to add to your comment)"
β OneTIME_story
Holding $$$
"People who post pictures of them holding money."
β SalamiMommie
"If you are holding the money, it isn't that much money."
β MTAlphawolf
Flashing The Brand
"Posting on social media the expensive stuff you buy and clearly showing the logo."
β yuri_yk
Posh Hotel
"My aunt does this all the time. That and photos of her 'expensive' vacations. She works for an airline and gets heavily discounted (sometimes free) flights."
"2 years ago she posted photos of herself and her husband staying at some crazy high end famous hotel (like $1k+ a night for basic rooms). The actual story behind it was that they were staying with a relative the whole week and she pressured her husband to pay for a single night there. But then post the photos like she was staying there the whole time."
"Her entire personality is pretending she is rich. In reality they are struggling because she is draining their life savings."
Flaunting It
"People who live in low income areas but spend their money on expensive clothes, shoes and jewelry that are Louis Vuitton just to flex on those who don't have it."
β lens_princess
Expensive Wheels
"Don't forget their new sport car or Jeeps parked outside their mobile home. If my neighbor sold their three Jeeps their home might not fly away during tornado season with a foundation built under it."
Priorities
"Coming from a car guy who would gladly own certain cars rather than a house. Sometimes the car just means more than a house would."
"There's actually a few people who have done this before too. From what I remember, one who was technically homeless in order to buy a Bugatti Veyron (I think he owns some business too though). There's also a YouTube who owns a R-32 GT-R and lives in what is the size of a shed."
"Just depends where your priorities lie."
β PingKiccolo
"I Got This"
"Making a big deal out of paying something for someone. People who are well off might pay for things for you but they will try and be as chill and low key about it as they can. People who want you to notice and feel grateful or impressed by them are just trying to show off."
Excessive Accessories
"Wearing too much jewelry."
"'Jewelry is meant to adorn you, not make you look rich' - Coco Chanel"
β sugaree53
"Mr. T would like a word with you."
β Insaniac1
Damaged Goods
"Having a newer model car and driving around with the collision damage. Like bro, you were able to 'buy' a new car but can't afford to get it fixed or the deductible to get it fixed?"
"Taking pictures and selfies with other people's nice stuff. (E.g. cars, liquor, table service at a club, etc)"
β n00bcak3
What's In Your Wallet?
"Reminds me of the time my coworker brought in her new $400 designer wallet that her 'boyfriend' (she didn't actually have a boyfriend) bought for her."
"I told her 'That's cool, but I'd rather have a $5 wallet, and $395 to put in that wallet.'"
β svenson_26
Shots For Everyone!
"Dropping $250 cash to buy a round of overpriced shots (Patron, Hennessy, etc). They always want to carry the tray and hand out shots to all their friends and whomever is nearby. As a bartender I see this all the time, yet their card gets declined when they try to start a tab because it doesn't have the $5 on it for the preauth. The people with actual money take a quiet table, order, and subtlety hand me their card saying they have this round."
β Ok_Listen_7545
Dramatic Accessories
"The flashy jewelry. Upperclass jewelry is typically more subtle and understated. They have all their own weird kinds of trying to flex, but I never see it with the large flashy jewelry."
The Jetsetter
"Goes on holiday to Dubai exclusively and drives a brand new Mercedes."
"Bruh you're a labourer and your car is on finance and Dubai is a glittered tacky dust hole. You can get return flights for like 400 quid so ya not fooling anyone with your cropped skinny white jeans, no socks and country club looking shirt."
"What's funny is 99% of people knows someone like this."
β MeMuzzta
It's All In The Delivery
"When your last name is Bucket, and you pronounce it like, 'Bouquet.'"
β EthanJoshua1994