The Biggest 'Green Flags' Men Look For In Women
A Redditor asked: 'Men of reddit, what’s the biggest green flag in a woman?'
Dating can be hard, but ultimately, we all know some things we want and what would make us feel happy and fulfilled in a relationship.
Fortunately, just like the red flags we might see in a relationship, there are green flags that can point us in the right direction, too.
Redditor poopfaceroleplay asked:
"Men of Reddit, what’s the biggest green flag in a woman?"
Strong Communication Skills
"Fighting and/or approaching conflict in a healthy manner."
"During one of my early fights with my girlfriend (now wife of 15 years), I was surprised that even though she was still mad, she clearly said, 'I'm upset when you did X, because of (something in her past). I know that past event is not your fault, but I'm still feeling some kind of way, we should talk later after I've processed a bit.'"
"It was wayyyyy different than my past relationship. No silent treatment, no hiding emotions and exploding later, firm about feelings while taking accountability, honest apologies... it's great. We still have conflicts, and even yell from time to time, but they are productive in the end."
- broman55
Uniting Against the Problem
"An us vs the problem mentality."
"Instead of blaming you or herself for issues that inevitably will arise, she communicates with you in a way that focuses on what the issue is and how you can work together to solve it."
- KanadaKanashi
High Emotional Intelligence
"Emotional intelligence, which will apply to men, as well. Anyone who takes the time to wonder WHY they feel a certain way instead of acting on it out of instinct is a gift."
"I’ve never been in a relationship before like this in my life, we can talk anything out peacefully, no arguments in years, no insults or hurt feelings, emotional intelligence is the key."
- MolagMoProblems
Random Acts of Kindness Often
"Straight-up kindness."
"I met my wife 11 years ago and fell in love pretty quickly. She is the kindest person I have ever met. Doesn't matter the situation, she approaches all of them with a serenity that I have never been able to match."
"Every dog gets love, every baby gets ogled at. You need some help? She is there with work boots on. Homeless? She keeps snacks and cash on hand to give out."
"And if I'm having a bad day? She will go above and beyond to make sure I know that I am loved."
- Infinite-Ambassador5
A Genuine Interest
"She asks questions about you to genuinely understand who you are as a person, not just what you do for work and other surface-level topics."
- Cammy7s
Emotional Openness
"When I cried in front of her (my cat died) and she just hugged me and comforted me."
"Exes before would ridicule me."
- SongBirdofHyalia
Being Thoughtful
"Thoughtfulness."
"Thoughtfulness goes hand in hand with a lot of traits. My girlfriend is the most thoughtful partner I’ve ever had."
"I missed out on a job at my dream company and she made me a 'feeling blue' package full of blue snacks I like with a sweet card. I’ll have a bad day, and she’ll surprise me with a dessert or a drink I like or something like that."
"She threw me my first surprise birthday party at an escape room with my friends because she knows I love them."
"When a partner takes time to genuinely think about you and the things you like/dislike and thinks about things from your perspective, it’s about the greenest flag I can think of."
- shockwave_supernova
Matching Sense of Humor
"If our sense of humor isn’t compatible, then there is no hope for the relationship. One of my favorite things about my wife is when I am able to make her laugh at jokes that she doesn’t want to find funny, yet she can’t help but laugh at anyway."
- _Smegma_on_demand
Personal Accountability
"Being capable of admitting when you're wrong."
- TheDraco4011
"My partner admits I'm wrong all the time."
- Epicurus1
"Well, she’s right, you know."
- Areaguy
Sharing in Each Other's Interests
"She is willing to try new things with you that are related to what you enjoy."
"Also, guys, this goes both ways. If your woman is interested in something, try it out with her."
- americansherlock201
Knowing Personal Flaws
"An ability to acknowledge her flaws and shortcomings. Someone who can not see them or projects them on others is an absolute relationship killer."
- Background-Heat740
Respected Third Spaces
"Just want to add on to the typical green flags here; she respects your hobbies and interests. She does not have to be into them herself, but knows they are important to you."
"I'm in my late 40s and my wife is cool with my weekly DND sessions with the homies and late-night gaming sessions."
"Unfortunately not all are in the same boat."
- crazyrich
Simple Pleasures
"When she also loves to sit out and watch for shooting stars."
- rock-island321
Respect for Service Workers
"My wife, among other zillion virtues, has this consideration for others and cleaning discipline."
"So we would go to hotels and she would make the bed, remove trash, etc., to the point that half the hotels and Airbnbs ask me if we even used the room."
"It’s something that we don’t even talk about but make my eyes sparkle. She knows they will have to change blankets and everything but thinks that an almost pristine room is a good image for the cleaning person to start with."
- cangarejos
A Well-Rounded, Supportive Partner
"Wow, they are very supportive, they give you your space, they are focused on building with you, they don't see the relationship as you vs them but team vs problem."
- RaidHelios
It's easy to see why these are qualities that someone would aspire to in a relationship.
At least when these qualities turn up, it's pretty likely that they've found themselves in a good relationship.
It can be hard when a relationship has run its course, when there's no more gas left in the tank but you keep pushing the proverbial car forward hoping to reach your destination.
Sometimes you need to leave the car at the side of the road and keep making your way on foot. It's okay to ditch a bad relationship, and it'll be better for all parties involved in the long run.
You just have to know what signs to look for, and thankfully, the internet can provide a litany of examples.
Reddit user, Nonchalant_Calypso, wanted to know when the magic ended when they asked:
"What was the moment you knew your relationship was over?"
Knowing You Have To Spend Any Amount Of Time With Them
"When she came up on caller id and my first thought was 'Ugh.'"
– LiterallyOuttoLunch
"I had a similar feeling in my first marriage. I'd come home, turn onto our street, see her car already in the driveway, and have the same feeling... 'ugh.'"
– HumpieDouglas
When The Drama Is Never-Ending
"When you dread her name coming up on caller ID because you knew it was an argument about nothing. Don’t settle for an angry life."
– sexychocolatethunder
When You Don't Smile Like You Used To
"I was at my best friend's wedding. When he saw his bride walking down the aisle, he had a grin so big it looked like it could have exploded right off of his face. He was so happy to be marrying this person. And when I thought about my, now-ex, gf I realized that I just didn't feel that way about her."
"I will say, when I married my wife, I was grinning like an idiot."
– kitskill
When Your Day Night Is Awful
"When I realized I dreaded Fridays, our standard date night, and saw it as something I needed to get past before I could start enjoying the weekend."
– Always_Trying01
When The Cheating Was Going To Happen Right In Front Of You
"My ex & I were not living together, but he had the key to my place. I told him that I was gonna go see my parents for the weekend, but then changed my mind last minute because I started feeling sick. I forgot to tell him & just went home after work & went to bed. I woke up around 10pm to get a glass of water & while I was in the kitchen I heard someone fumbling at the door with the lock. I freaked out because I lived on the 17th floor, so if it was a break in, I was f-cked. All of a sudden he walks in..... dragging a tipsy girl in behind him."
"I just stood there while he tried to make up some sort of excuse as to WHY he was there. The girl was pretty shocked too."
– UrszulaG
When They SUCK
"When I was going through a miscarriage and he couldn’t take me to the ER because he was in fantasy leagues and football was on."
– amadileirbeer
"Damn that goes way beyond just not loving you anymore and into worthless piece of sh-t territory."
– Osirus1156
When They SUCK. Hard.
"She poisoned my cat 🐈 Mr Noodle"
"RIP"
"Edit: Thanks everybody for the support, and if you're asking: yeah I got the police involved"
– GrumpaSpaceGoat
When You Fade From Their View
"You can see it in their eyes when they don't love you anymore."
"I'll never forget that feeling."
– escape_of_da_keets
"You absolutely can. It's like they are looking past you, yet right at you.. ugg. It's terrible .. Been there a few times."
– willevans1972
Cheating, Sure, But Completely Misreading The Situation
"The day my mom passed away (the coroner hadn't even come for her body yet) with zero consideration on how I felt and what I was going through my ex-fiancé thought it was great idea and a good time to tell me he has been cheating on me for the last 6 years, and how sorry he was for it."
"He wasn't sorry he did it, but he sorry because the other woman had lied to him about who she really was and he wanted me to comfort him because he felt betrayed by her...."
"When I promptly broke up with him, he asked "wait is this really goodbye?" how could you do this to me now?"
– OpenRepair4390
When They Look For The Right Moment In The Wrong Time
"Yeah. Long time girl friend broke it off between us after my Father died. Basically, she felt since I would feel less grief then over us, as I was already feeling so bad about Pop's passing. I later learned, this happens a lot."
– StatOne
After College Break Up
"We were in college and a year before graduation, I was offered a job in a city that wasn’t home for either of us. I was open to moving there or to his home city (I’m from a small town so that wasn’t really an option) but was NOT open to long distance. When I asked him if I should take the job meaning he would only search for jobs in the new city, or if I should reject the job and instead only look for jobs in his home city, he couldn’t give me a straight answer. I should’ve broken up with him on the spot, but it took 2 more months of unhappiness before he broke up with me "
– BasketSubstantial923
That'll Do It
"i cheated and he found out"
– potato-shawarma
We Tried Everything
"She told me she is gay. We explored polyamory because she wanted a relationship with a woman and I was open to it. We had a triad for a while, but when that ended, things changed. She met a girl about 3 months ago, I would say the first moment I saw them look at each other, I knew she found a love that wasn't what we had. Last night, she told me she can't be my wife anymore. She's my best friend and we have a long road ahead, house, kids, debt. But we'll be okay and work though anything together."
– tfkhungry27
Good Thing She Talked About It
"Was on a voicecall with some of my friends and they asked me to tell the full story of my relationship with the guy. How I met him, ect. I went on to infodump our story from the very start. How he accused me of cheating on him twice, (including once before we even got together), how he slapped me once, and a whole lot of red flags that I announced so casually at the time."
"Knew it was over when I got dead silence from all of my friends when I finished."
– onionofcheese
Too Close Of A Friend
"She told me she had made a new friend to hangout with while i was at college. I didn’t mind because it was nice to have some freedom (she was really clingy). I started hearing rumors from her friends that she hooked up with this guy but she had my head so messed up that I didn’t believe the allegations. Until 3 months later when the guy dm’ed me a photo of them naked in his car. That was the moment. I was actually glad to get out of the relationship and this was sort of the last straw."
– TrevorClark_37
Falling Out Of Love
"When my partner of 5 years told me they might be loving me less and less and that when I asked a few weeks prior what were some of their favourite memorable dates the last one they could think of was 3 years ago"
"really shattered my rose coloured glasses and I realised I couldn't do it anymore"
– -RiceCloud-
When Love Isn't Enough
"When my therapist asked why I was staying and my only answer was “I love him”. Sometimes love isn’t enough. Consideration, effort, help, as affection, these all matter and you deserve what you need ."
– icantwhistlewell
A Real Lack Of Communication
"when i stopped hoping he’d respond to my messages, and just automatically assumed he wouldn’t."
– beloveedpersephone
Not Even Happy About The Happiest Place On Earth
"When there was literally nothing to look forward to... We (she) was making plans to go to Disney world this year just the 2 of us. It was gonna be a family trip but things fell through so we were still gonna go. Instead of being excited for it like most would be. I was dreading it. I couldn't imagine having fun at Disney world with her. Yeah she had a lot of baggage from a lot of different places, it was rough."
– cbran021
Don't feel bad when it has to end. Think of it as a fresh start for you both and make the tough call.
Married People Share The Best Advice They Think All Single People Should Hear
Love takes work, time and a whole lot of patience. They never tell you about that part. That should really be added to the fairytales.
Every love story should have a strong epilogue written in, and in each epilogue is where we should be learning about the pitfalls, mistakes and all out war concerning relations that proceed... "I Do."
Single people need warnings about certain behaviors to watch out for, from our partners and ourselves. Marriage isn't easy, but it can last forever with enough effort.
Redditoru/New_Presentation5105asked for some relationship advice from all the lovebirds out there, by asking:
Married people of reddit , what something you wish unmarried people knew?
Love and marriage, what a combo. I ask all the time... what are the secrets? How do make love endure? I need to be ready. Should I ever live long enough to love.
Rules
Reese Witherspoon Mom GIF by HULUGiphy"Only the couple sets the rules of what their marriage is, not your mother, not your friends, not tv... just you. That actually applies to all relationships."
Alone Again
"Getting married doesn't mean that you're never going to feel lonely again."
"Feeling lonely doesn't necessarily mean because of issues with your partner. They can't be your only source of companionship. A lot of people have this misconception though, so glad you shared it."
"Yeah that's what I was trying to say. People still need friendships and other relationships outside of just with their spouse. They can't take care of every emotional need you have. I've known many people who ignore those outside relationships when they get married and later regret it."
Life Changes
"My marriage was stretched the absolute thinnest when we welcomed both our kids - take a complete life change, add in lack of sleep, hormones, an upended schedule and a million other things and it will strain even the strongest relationship. Because we were good going into it, we were even better coming out."
"If you have any kind of cracks in your relationship, bringing a newborn into it will quickly make them chasms. I have to laugh when people say they'll have a baby to "save the relationship" because I can't think of a faster way to end a floundering relationship than to bring a baby into it!"
My Poor Sister
"My sister's marriage. Her MIL had a ridiculous amount of control over things and her husband didn't want to be in the middle so he would plug his ears and walk away. When my sister finally told her MIL that what she was doing was disrupting and causing problems in her (my sister) family, the MIL sat there dumbfounded and asked "why would any of this upset your brothers and sisters?"
"She just could not grasp the fact that my sisters family was her husband and kids and rolled her eyes when she was told that. Since her husband never stood up, and in some cases would actively back his mom because he didn't want to upset her, it eventually drove them apart. Now they never talk unless they have to and the kids are all but estranged from their dad and grandparents."
Unsolved...
Nbc Marriage GIF by This Is UsGiphy"Getting married WILL NOT help solve any issues in your relationship."
So far that is sound advice. And it all sounds pretty basic. So why do so many marrieds make it such an arduous task? This is starting to sound like lessons in keeping it simple.
Like Count
Schitts Creek Yes GIF by CBCGiphy"Liking your partner is just as important if not more than loving them."
People Share The Most Selfless Thing They've Ever Secretly Done | George Takei’s Oh Myyy
Take Care
"Being married 20 years, I'm guilty of it sometimes too, but being in a long term relationship like that just makes you an expert on your own relationship. Not on relationships in general. We can sometimes forget that, just because it works well in our own life, doesn't mean it will work for others."
"When you're a young couple, dozens of older couples are going to tell you what works for them. The best thing to do is understand that it's coming from a place of caring, and some will be good advice, but you've got to just find what works for you."
"check with my husband"
"Talk to your partner before you make decisions. I can't even tell you how much crap I get from my single friends when I tell them I'll "check with my husband" before agreeing to do something. Usually it's just to make sure we don't have something else going on that I forgot about, or maybe he wanted to do something and I haven't brought it up."
"It's not asking permission, it's being conscientious of your partner. It's especially true if you have kids. No, I don't ask my husband to "babysit", but it would be pretty sh*tty for me to just say "oh hey, I'm going out tonight. Have fun with a couple toddlers by yourself and with no notice!" And he treats me with the same respect."
- IAmZot
Sleep on it...
"When we first married, an older person told us to never go to bed angry. We dutifully followed that advice for a few years. But a couple of years into our marriage, we were up still arguing about something at 2 AM. Finally we just went to bed angry after agreeing to discuss the problem in the morning. By the next morning we both realized we'd both just been tired. Well-rested the next day the problem just didn't seem as big a deal. For us at least… sometimes we just need to sleep on it."
Things to do...
mountain GIFGiphy"Have things you enjoy doing with your spouse that don't involve sex. The most stable marriages are ones where you and your spouse could be friends if you weren't married. Goes for dating too, IMO."
"butterflies in your stomach"
"I like my husband the most out of all the people I know. Even if I didn't have romantic feelings for him, I'd want to be friends with him because he's the freaking coolest. Like if I never knew him, and tomorrow I met an eighty year old man with his same personality, I would wanna hang out with that old man. We've been together for more than a decade, and while the "butterflies in your stomach" feeling comes and goes, there's always a baseline level of like that makes spending time with him worthwhile."
Maintain
"You still need to maintain the things that made you, you before marriage. My wife and I have very different tastes in a lot of things and we never pretend to like it for the sake of the other person but also will not actively discourage those tastes either. I like hardcore and punk music. My wife likes bubblegum pop country."
"She thinks I listen to just noise and I think most of her stuff is shallow mass produced garbage but we agree to disagree and understand different flavors. Our friends are into different activities and we understand sometimes you gotta go have fun with those other people in your life and have some you time."
Travel
Driving Road Trip GIF by The WigglesGiphy"Go on a road trip together. Travel together before marriage. Close quarters and tough situations will give you insights into who that other person is."
Slow Down
"Do not rush into marriage, and make sure you have multiple serious talks about everything (few examples: religion, family, friends, goals for near future, goals for future, plan for kids, lifestyle, housing, retirement). The reason I say multiple talks is because people grow or change the longer they are with each other."
- Jim105
Make a List
- "Talk about whether you want kids before things get serious.
- Finances are something you manage together. It isn't something you cede to one spouse for whatever reason. I say this as someone who had to teach my dad how to use an ATM and the online banking site after my mom died.
- It's your relationship. It's something that belongs to you two. No one else.
- Adult up. Both partners need to take in the mental load of managing the house." - ConnieLingus24
Tomorrow
"Focus on your marriage and not just on the wedding. And decide whether a fight is worth having - if it doesn't matter tomorrow does it really matter today."
"Be careful with this one though, sometimes things don't matter tomorrow but they could matter the next time the same scenario comes up. So it's still important to discuss. But in those cases I still like to wait till I'm over it to bring up how we could manage to not piss each other off next time. Fail-safes for when we're not our most considerate, which is often. lol"
Get your own...
"It's okay to use separate blankets. No one likes to wake up with cold butt cheeks because the other person "stole" the blanket!"
"After 12 years of marriage, my wife and I upgraded to a split king bed last year (we always had separate blankets). One of the best things we've done. It's had 0 effect on our sex life, and we both sleep way better than either of us did for years. It's kinda fun to walk up to the bed, hit "flat" on both remotes while winking at her."
Keep on keepin' on...
"Attraction comes and goes, but staying committed through it will really help you feel accepted and loved. Often the attraction differential doesn't kick in during dating."
"I'll add- marry someone you like > love. That romantic feeling is an emotion that waxes and wanes with time. Truly enjoying someone aside from intimate stuff is what makes up 99% of the time of the relationship."
- love2go
Fly
Butterflies GIF by smecceaGiphy"Once the butterflies go away it is your job to create butterfly moments."
Good Times
"I have been married over 30 years. I would estimate only 25 of those years has been happily married. There will be crappy times possibly years. Wait it out unless it's abuse. People are often unhappy at work or something like that and leave their partner instead of dealing with the true problem. Your spouse should be the one you lean on to get through the outside noise not the first one you blame."
Maybe it's easier just to stay single. I'm so gloomy. But I will hold onto this thread just in case. Oh marriage, why can't it just be perfect?
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Oh boy.... you boys are a handful.
In this day and age looking for love or the perfect man can be an exhausting process that feels like a fate worse then death. Everyone is so focused on the usual checklist. Looks. Charm. Job. Money. Sensitive.... and the rest of the same ole. But really the key to some hearts, probably most, can be the unexpected know how that reaches outside the box. Being a good kisser is great (a must actually) but can you groom the dog? Can you dance a jig? Maybe its time to learn. Make fudge naked? Shall we discuss?
Redditor u/oohara wanted all the boys to gather round with a pen and pad and listen up for some important tips... it was asked.... Women of reddit, what are some (unexpected) skills that make men attractive for you?
Knowing Himself
chris evans chest GIFGiphyDoes the ability to be self aware count? It's attractive when a guy owns his flaws rather than denying them or being hypocritical in an attempt to hide them.
Good Eats
Grocery shopping.
Not just the literal going to the store and putting things in the cart, but coming up with a meal plan for the week of a variety of well balanced meals and getting it all. The mental load is real y'all.
Meal plan is easy, make 1 healthy well balanced meal but make enough to last for 5 days. I'm eating a very nice Chicken Tikka Masala this week, next week will probably be a green curry because cucumbers are on sale and last week was spaghetti because I was feeling lazy.
The Good Hubby
My husband is constantly trying to grow as a human and be more understanding and compassionate and do better. And it's absolutely his sexiest quality. He's gregarious and a natural mediator and just takes the world straight-on with an open heart.
And I look at him every single night so crazy grateful that he's my husband. We've been married ten years in two weeks! Time flies man.
adorable....
shemar moore smile GIFGiphyThis isn't really a skill, but I love it when men are able to genuinely and unashamedly express when they think something is cute. I feel like it's really common to see women squealing and getting really excited over, say, a puppy or a kitten or an adorable cartoon character, but men are kind of expected to not be affected by cuteness or not show it?
basic care
Being able to take care of someone who's under the weather. It's a role that falls to women in most families so a lot of guys don't get the chance to learn. I never realized how much I'd appreciate a man who could hold my hair out of my face while I puked, then kiss me when I felt better until it happened.
be grown....
Someone who can care for themselves. Take a shower, clean up your own mess. Caring for one another in a relationship is important but some guys mistake this for 'I need to find myself another mom.'
I know it says unexpected skills in the title but there are so many guys who don't seem to realize this. I just wanted to get it out there.
Generalities....
Baking, cooking, sewing (even just mending a button or hemming in clothing), and general housekeeping. Essentially having basic life skills that prove you are an adult able to fend for themselves and aren't looking for a second mother in a partner.
Also being able to intentionally move your tricep? (whatever muscle is connected to your upper arm near shoulder outwards facing side). That's impressive AF.
PLEASE!!!
harry styles juggling GIF by One DirectionGiphyPlease say juggling please say juggling please say juggling.
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Numbers and Ratios....
Maths. Anything scientific. General broad knowledge and stone-cold logic on top of it.
I also like it when a guy can dance, but this is a whole different area.
This is the hot/crazy graph but for guys. Guys can be engineers and scientists and still enjoy very normal and a wide variety of social and creative things at a pretty equal rate to the guys that are not.
being strong....
Standing up to others (particularly mates) who are being a**holes. Having a strong moral compass, empathy and selflessness is seriously sexy.
++
Playing an instrument! ++
But honestly if they are passionate about something: whether it's art or coding or reading books,
it's all a major booster. It shows that they can be dedicated to something and that's really attractive imo.
Lips Together...
ryan gosling whistle GIFGiphyI looove it when men can whistle nicely. It seems so sweet and happy to me, like he is able to appreciate the small joys in life.
Financial Freedom....
Financial sense, and (sensible) frugality. A guy who knows how to budget properly, make savings projects, and reduce spending while still living his best life is usually also 1) intelligent, 2) good at planning ahead and thinking of the future, and 3) has a whole slew of related skill sets like basic home repair, cooking, cleaning, yard work, shopping, etc. (all things I expect us to share responsibility of.
I'm never going to be the sole house-manager ever again, and I would never ask someone else to take on that role alone).
Granted, I'm a long-haul kind of person. The criteria for spotting an attractive person across the room for the first time is more what you might expect: physical attractiveness and their personality in conversation.
Stretch....
Flexibility.
There are many flexible women but for men it's pretty rare and harder to achieve, so that makes it really cool and attractive imo.
Next to Godliness....
Being clean. When you go to a guy's apartment and don't feel completely disgusted, but actually pleasantly surprised by how clean it is. Hot.
The first time my friends came to do a group project, the only girl of the group said my room was too clean. This can't be real. 10 minutes of friendly argument about how a guy can clean and she still didn't believe me.
I just vroom-vroom the room before they came.
Touch my....
Hair Grooming GIFGiphyBraiding hair!! My ex could to it and it was so cool. Especially since he could French braid and its so exhausting to do those yourself sometimes.
Google it....
Active listening skills.
Hearing me and understanding me is not the same thing as responding in a way that makes me FEEL heard and understood.
Edit: So I'm not gonna go through and answer every single reactionary response here trying to distinguish the difference between active listening that makes the person feel heard and passive listening.
That's what Google is for.
"helps split up the cooking"
Cooking and the related grocery shopping (especially in the produce aisle). I went through all of college through my late-twenties without ever meeting a guy who was a good cook and liked to cook. If I did, I would jumped him and nabbed him right away. Finally got married to one who doesn't do any of these things but is great in many other respects - looks, smarts, success, but still I sometimes regret it.
It's not just the whole "helps split up the cooking" thing but I'm always dreamed of having a man who cooks with me - the whole egg in the mountain of flour and kneading the dough and cutting the pasta together thing. It takes enjoying good food and wine together to a whole another level, It's not the same when I make it myself or when we go out.
The POV
Storytelling. A man who can convincingly pretend to be a character he came up with on his own in irc roleplay, or can build a world and play multiple npc's as a tabletop game master. It demonstrates creativity, thinking outside the box, keeping track of multiple things not related to oneself, and seeing situation from multiple points of view.
Anything.....
Excited The Cw GIFGiphyAnything they know that I don't know. It's really attractive when someone is an expert at something and I can learn from them.
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