People Break Down The Dumbest Things They've Ever Been Called 'Gay' For Doing
Reddit user Spagoobli0 asked: 'What is the dumbest thing people called you gay for?'
One of the lamest ways to insult someone is by describing their behavior as being gay.
The attempt at emasculating a perceived straight heterosexual male by comparing his actions to something that a homosexual male might do is a common form of mockery by alpha males.
Examples include mocking a guy who gets manicures, wears pink, or sits with his legs crossed. "Gay, gay gay," says the immature antagonizer.
Typically, the ribbing occurs between friends and is not prompted by verbal attacks.
Still, this casual form of bullying can be tiresome and only perpetuates misconceptions and stereotypes that can be harmful to the LGBTQ+ community.
Strangers online shared their experiences being targeted when Redditor Spagoobli0 asked:
"What is the dumbest thing people called you gay for?"
Apparently, maintaining good hygiene is so gay.
Being Clean
"i was called gay for showering daily."
– ilive4manass
"with other men?"
– intheken
Scrubbing The Backside
"I was told it was gay to wash my a**. The guy was recently evicted for defecating on his own floor for 6 months and not paying taxes."
– my-recent-throwaway
Pro-Tip
"In boot camp we shower with other dudes. I had someone call me gay in the shower for washing my a**. As if the only reason for washing my a** is to make it presentable for someone else. Nah, dude, I just don’t want skid marks in the tighty whities they make us wear."
"It’s not even like I was doing it weird. Like if I was bent over spreading my cheeks so everyone could see my brown eye, that would be one thing. But I literally just took a handful of suds and ran it down the crack a couple times because, pro tip to my fellow dudes; the water running down your back is not enough to clean the part of you that poop comes out of."
– Morningxafter
Lotion Up
"I once had a friend of mine stop by before we were going to meet some people for brunch. I had just taken a shower and gotten dressed when he walked in the front door (I always had a just walk in policy, suburban life). I have pretty dry skin so I was putting on a bit of moisturizing lotion. First words out of his mouth were 'moisturizing? That’s pretty gay isn’t it?' I said 'If feeling like I don’t want to scrape my skin off is gay, whip out the d*cks!'”
– bg-j38
Keeping up with appearances is hard enough.
The Damaging Effects
"'Gay' was the first 'dis' I ever heard, I had no idea what it meant for like a year. I just knew it was the worst thing to be. My whole generation struggled with that and I really feel for the people who had to come out to friends and family when I was young, it must have been really tough. I came out as bi about 6 or 7 years ago and that was pretty brutal, and the only reason I came out was because something happened that made it clear I was. Tbh it was f'king humiliating and awful at the time, it really f'ked with my head and my self worth. I am totally, 100% ok with it now, in fact I'm kind of proud I have the balls to tell people I'm bi now. It's become who I am and I'm ok with it.
"Just to be clear I've never had an issue with anybody being gay, at all. It's just for me it was a really difficult thing to deal with. Extremely personal. A lifetime of unconsciously being told gay was 'bad' has an effect on me, I wish it didn't but the truth is it did. I have mad respect for all openly gay and trans people."
– NitroD*ckclapp
Revealing Color Choice
"Had a guy genuinely ask if I was gay because I was wearing a red pair of Vans."
– LemonMan589
"Maybe he was cruising."
– InverseRatio
List Of Indicators
"I was a child in the 80s. Calling people gay was standard derogatory talk for checks notes literally everything. Bad play in sport, choice of clothes, hobby, etc."
– f_ranz1224
The Hopscotcher
"I was called gay for about 6 months in middle school for jumping down a hopscotch thing as I walked past it after lunch."
– Sado_Hedonist
What happens in the bedroom...
Going Down
"Like giving oral sex to my wife. Will never understand that."
– Beenthere-doneit55
"Fellas, is it gay to go down on a woman?"
– raveturned
"I view it selfishly. It combines the two two things I love the most, eating and having sex. If that makes me gay, so be it."
– Beenthere–doneit55
Flawed Logic
"They think if you'll do down on your wife you'll go down on a guy?"
"How would the two even translate??"
– WillieOverall
Even before I came out to my friends as gay, being called anti-gay slurs–even in jest–only suppressed my inclination to want to share my truth.
One of the things I've been mocked for during high school pre-coming out was my love for Disney.
The girls had no problem sharing my passion, but the jocks made fun of me for wearing a Mickey Mouse T-shirt to school, saying I was a "sissy boy" for liking Disney and that only "f*ggots" liked Disney.
Now, I know plenty of demographics–gay and straight, all ethnicities–that universally appreciate Disney. But I have to say, good on them for being accurate in knowing who I was before I did: a proud f*ggot who loves Disney.
People Share The Most Hurtful Things Anyone's Ever Said To Them
A Redditor asked: 'What's the most hurtful thing someone has ever said to you?'
Physical wounds heal but it's certain things people say with the intention of hurting your feelings that cut so deep.
Whether it's an insult or an unforgivable slur hurled by someone who can either be an acquaintance or a stranger, denigrating comments can have longlasting effects.
Even a family member or a significant other who knows you deeply can exploit your vulnerabilities or insecurities in the heat of the moment.
Strangers opened up about the words that scarred them for life when an anonymous Redditor asked:
"What's the most hurtful thing someone has ever said to you?"
Kids can be so cruel.
Insulting Mom Fighting Cancer
"When I was younger, my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer. My siblings and I shaved our heads to support her. This kid told me that 'he hopes my mom dies' and that I looked like I was in the holocaust. She has been cancer free for 13 years, but f'k that kid."
– oprah-simpfrey
But adults, especially a parent, who should know better can be worse.
Ungrateful Mother
"When I was young, my mom said holidays are better without me."
– somewhereoutthere217
"When I was young my mom saying she had to love me but she didn’t like me."
"It was her careful specificity, and I’m adopted."
"F***ed me up for life."
– Wecanbuildittogether
Rude Introduction
"Yep. My biological mother introduced me to one of her coworkers as someone who 'didn't like her daughter, either.' I mean, I knew it. But saying it in front of other people at her job? Damn."
– RustySilver42
Unfit Father
"My friend i grew up with, his family ended up close with mine, testified in court that my dad never loved me ever and it was made apparent to everyone around. His parents, and a few other parents, testified to all the sh*t talk he put out to everyone when I wasn’t close enough to hear it. It was testified by several that my dad blamed me for my mom’s death and despised my existence. My mom died from breast cancer. His mom made sure to take a second before she died to make sure I was told I was a waste of air on this earth. I was informed while I was carrying her coffin. She also blamed me for her husband’s death. He also died of cancer. I was 6 for both deaths (mom and grandfather)."
"Parents are horrible."
"I’m only slightly damaged by these people /s…."
"I’m pretty sure I’m the worst human ever to other people and it’s damaged me so hard I always feel like a liar and like I’m playing victim but it’s just all stuck so I just kinda suck lol"
– destitutehopium
Admitting Infidelity
" I cheated on you, and the only reason I'm telling you is because I'm pregnant. "
– StegoExo
Not every childhood memory is a good one.
Worst Teacher Ever
"Took my math book up to the teachers desk with a question. I wasn’t grasping it. He slams my book on his desk and asked me if I was stupid or what."
"Small town school about 30 years ago. If I ever run into that pr*ck I have a few things to show and tell him."
– WiscoDJ920
Projection Much?
"You'll never be loved or cherished because you look like me. You will never belong anywhere, no one cares about you enough to actually be there for you. You will be a burden to everyone else."
"- From Dad to 11 year old me after we argued about how he missed my birthday(again)"
"But looking back, I laugh because.... it seemed like he was projecting his own insecurities onto me. Lol😂"
– Ok-Philosopher5166
Worst Summer Camp Memory Ever
"You are nice but damn, I have rarely seen someone as ugly as you".
"For context, teenagers summer camp, I was 17. This guy was supposed to be someone I was getting along with quite well (the whole group but we were a few being always together)."
"I was seated chatting with the whole groupe and he came to say that randomly."
"I wasn't even interacting with him. Like, he said my name so he could have my attention."
"Its like he NEEDED to say it in front of everyone and he didn't feel like he was saying something wrong."
"What was weird is that, he wasn't even laughing. Its not like someone or some people were trying to make fun of me."
"It was so harsh that people were speechless. No one laughed. At all. I think they were as much confused as I was."
"I appreciate no one jumped on that after those 'wtf' 20 seconds, they all went like nothing happened."
"I am 35 and still remember this. Knowing how teenagers can be cruel, I hate this had a huge impact on me but I remember people really tried to not make it a big deal. The group didn't fall into that sh*t and they were between 15-17 years old."
"I think someone even said to the guy 'are you being serious right now??.'"
"But I am not sure. I was really trying to swallow the humiliation."
"Edit : I posted yesterday my night here just because I felt like to and was not waiting for any answers at all. I woke up and saw your comments and was again confused why so many people gave attention to my post."
"Thanks for your support. I feel fine today and I know I am cute and most of all nice, funny, loyal and people want to be around me."
"But your biggest weakness being exposed in front of a group when you are a 17 I think is something you never forget."
– kha-ci
People can be so mean.
But the most troubling thing is the lack of humanity displayed on the internet–where anonymous individuals can freely attack others they don't even know for conflicting ideas or for no reason other than to take pleasure in belittling others.
Is being kind to others really that hard?
We've all known someone who tends to say mean things or generally be kind of a jerk.
And whether we want to admit to it or not, it can be fun to see that jerk taken down a few notches with a solid insult.
Ready for roasting, Redditor depressed_jellybear asked:
"What's the best insult you've ever heard?"
Not Your Mom
"When I was in high school, one of my classmates gave our teacher a typical 'your mom' response to a question without realizing the teacher’s mother had just died."
"Without missing a beat, the teacher said, 'Leave my mother out of this. I don’t make fun of your parents, and look what they produced.”
- HopeDeferred
Adoption Jokes Not Welcome
"I was playing 'Pavlov' (a virtual reality game) with a group of people, one of which was this very annoying kid who kept saying something like, 'You're bad because you're adopted,' and stuff like that."
"He did that to one dude, and the guy replies something like, 'I'd return the insult, but that'd imply someone wanted you.'"
"Had the whole lobby erupting. I don't know if it's taken from somewhere or what."
- ClaireBear13492
Underestimated by the Teacher
"Teacher of mine once said to a classmate who kept making the most asinine contributions to the conversation:"
"'You make it really difficult to underestimate you.'"
"The guy had no idea what it meant, he thought it was a compliment."
- robbycakes
Jeez, Dad.
"16-year-old me trying to convince my dad to take my friends and I to see 'American Pie':"
"Dad: So what is it about?"
"Me: A group of high school friends trying to lose their virginity."
"Dad: I can stay home and see that."
- Theromented1
Based on Real Life
"I once asked my cousin if he watched the tv show 'Desperate Housewives,' and he said, 'No, I’m married to one."
- InourbwotamI
The Joke Will Go On
"I remember when 'Titanic' came out. My grandma, my mom, and I were getting ready to see it."
"My grandpa said, 'Don’t know what the fuss is about. I can tell you what happens, the boat sinks. The end.'"
"Lol (laughing out loud). Maybe it was his delivery, but it cracked me up."
- a7xbarbie
So, Anyway...
"The best one I've heard was, ''I bet your parents change the subject when their friends ask about you.'"
- scottcree486
Seems Pretty Complicated
"I overheard someone tell someone else, They’d need a recipe for making ice cubes."
- thepiecesaremoving
An Insult for an Insult
“You’re not the dumbest person I’ve ever met, but you better hope he doesn’t die.”
- Trick-Reveal-463
"And I have the best response for that: 'Well then, I will pray for your health.'"
- Maria_506
New Take on the Clown Car
"I saw a bunch of quite pretentious people getting out of a limo at a club and pretending they’re more than they are to get in ahead of the line."
"The bouncer quipped, 'I can always tell clowns, all arriving in the same car.'"
- preferablyoutside
Signs of Aging
"Some bouncers are brilliantly witty, I assume it comes with working in a job where you have to deal with drunk a**holes all the time."
"A few years ago, I got IDed to enter a bar. I'd recently started buzzing my hair due to hair loss, yet my photo driving license had me with a thick full head of hair from several years before."
"The bouncer looked at the card, then me, and then said, 'Haven't you forgotten something?'"
"I was confused. He then showed his colleague, who nodded and said, 'Yeah mate, you've definitely forgotten something.'"
"Then he pointed to his head."
- Squeaky_Lobster
Good Luck Getting a Job
"You've got a face for radio, and a voice for writing."
- mike_e_mcgee
Girl Quips
"From 'Golden Girls':"
"Blanche: Now, if you'll excuse me, I'm going to go take a long, hot, steamy bath, with just enough water to barely cover my perky bosoms."
"Sofia: You're only gonna sit in an inch of water?"
- LissaMasterofCoin
Randomness Wins
"Context aside, someone once told me I look like I go to the park to punch birds."
- TheRoamingWeeb
While it can feel terrible to need to be around negative people sometimes, there's hope knowing that there are some things we can say that are funny and that will relatively put them in their place.
Now if only some of us could think of the comeback at the moment when it's useful...
No one likes to be insulted, and doing so is a very unkind thing to do.
Surely people have better things to do in life than to spend time thinking about ways to make someone feel bad.
True, sometimes people might throw an insult at others without realizing it, making a joking comment about their appearance or something they just said.
Resulting in both parties feeling less than wonderful afterward.
Redditor Ancient_Command607 was curious to hear the worst, or possibly best, insults people have ever heard, leading them to ask:
"What is a sentence that is extremely insulting to you?"
Think Before You Judge
“'You’re too young to have back problems!'”
“'I was hit by a mini-van'.”
“'Were you a driver or a passenger?'”
“'Pedestrian'.”- tatltael91
You Can't Have It Both Ways...
"'You don't look sick'."
"And when I show them my colostomy bag:"
"'That's disgusting. You shouldn't show that in public'."- unicornchild15
One Sided Argument...
"'We both know that I'M right'."
"G*ddammit mf, if I thought you were right we wouldn't be arguing at this exact moment."
"Especially for the times he isn't."- Heracrorn
Im Right Told You So GIF by DeRay DavisGiphyA Mother Knows...
"'You don't know what a mother is'."
"My mother."- Big_SmallDown_Up
Who Are You Calling Lazy?!?!
"Something that is a direct insult on my work ethic. calling me lazy etc."
"I have a long fuse but I have lost my sh*t a couple times over it."- IMSITTINGINYOURCHAIR
Jealousy? Or Passive Agression?
"Whenever you have something good going for you and someone says 'must be nice'."- hundredjono
Nicki Minaj Side Eye GIFGiphyAlways Needing The Last Word.
"'Let that sink in'."
"'End of conversation'."
"'Louder, for the people in the back'."- f*ck_these_questions
Let's Hope They Weren't Talking Literally...
"Please get your testicles out of my coffee'."- isapnu_puas_sld
Never Judge A Book By Its Cover
“'But you don’t LOOK Autistic'.”
"My diagnosis is in my medical records, Mckinsley Jo."- Fearless_Law6729
Okay, But HOW?!
“'Get over it'.”
"Makes me furious."- kaiser1778
Get Over It Hamptons GIF by discovery+GiphyTruthfully, one can't help but be a little impressed when one comes up with a truly clever insult.
Though those insults might be more impressive while on the outside looking in, as opposed to the receiving end.
Always think before you speak.
There are few feelings worse than when someone goes out of their way to insult you.
In fact, what might be the only thing that feels worse is when someone insults you accidentally or without realizing it.
This might happen when someone assumes you're on your way to a costume party based on your choice of clothes or laughing upon hearing your middle name on the assumption it must be a joke.
When in fact you went to great pains to choose said outfit and were most definitely not kidding about your middle name.
Redditor IrohsFavoriteTea was eager to hear some of the most unfortunate accidental insults, leading them to ask:
"What is the worst insult you've suffered from someone who didn't even mean it as an insult?"
Wait for them to share the news...
“'You’re pregnant?!'”
“'No'”
"'Are you sure?'”
"Never wore that dress again."- ExcellentFormal4261
So comforting to know what your parents think about you
"When I was a teen, my dad told me he heard of an athlete who wrote a book about how he used to be bullied when he was young, how he was the school's loser and had no friends."
"'Exactly like you', my dad added."
"What a way to advertise a book to me, thanks dad!"- Baphee
Um, I'm right here!
"I did nude figure modeling for painting classes for extra cash in college about 15 years ago."
"One of the students was having trouble capturing my likeness and called the teacher over for help."
"The teacher: 'well - she has an unremarkable, normal face with no strong features, which is much more difficult to paint'.”
"I mean, they’re not wrong from a painting point of view - but nothing like quietly dying inside, fully naked with an audience."- kettleofhawks
Can't help feeling like a "nobody"...
"One of my in laws walked in when I was the only one in the house and, looking straight at me, said 'Oh, there‘s no one here'.”
"And… turned and left."- Mirabolis
Used to be?...
"Childhood friend from school turned coworker."
“'Yeah you used to be really smart!'”
"I had dropped out of college and we were working as bartenders at a restaurant, were talking about plans for the coming year or two and I had mentioned trying to get a new job/go back to school."
"I died a little/a lot."
"They were trying to be supportive, and were immediately horrified and apologized but yeah."- AlericandAmadeus
Do I need to show my ID?... I really don't mind...
"I started getting asked if I qualified for a senior discount in my 40s…"- FunnyNameHere02
Aging Jamie Lee Curtis GIFGiphyUm, thank you?
"'You look like you own ferrets'."
"I don't even know what that means but it was 4 years ago Hailey and I still remember."- memeking_69
How many ways to express your love...
"When i proposed to my wife she said 'I guess I can’t say no'."
"But she meant to say 'how can I say no'."
"She also had a panic attack the first time we kissed."- _chasls
Kids LITERALLY say the darndest things...
"Kids are the best for this."
"'Daddy, why don't you use your weights any more?'"
"'Is it because you got fat?'"- blimpcitybbq
Not Bad Kids Say The Darndest Things GIF by CBSGiphyThanks... I guess?
"A good friend’s girlfriend told me, 'I love how not girly you are and how you don’t care about how you look!'"
"I think she genuinely meant it as a compliment, but both of those things were news to me…"- angerilla
What are you implying, exactly?
"My cousin came to my house when I was playing on my PC, he just said 'get outta the cave dragon'."
" Sounds better in Portuguese."
"That was a little sharp, ngl."- randompopatoe
Of all the comparisons...
“Y'ou have a cute laugh it’s like a hyenas'."
"My childhood friend."
"We were in fifth grade."
"I was so upset I didn’t talk to him for a week."- NBsub
The Lion King Lol GIFGiphyBack handed compliment...
"My ex best friend told me 'if you weren't such a good person you would be easier to forget'."
"Like?? Thanks? "
"Are you trying to forget me?"- unluckyunnoticed
Tell me something I don't know.
"How about the opposite? "
"My mother teasing me for being a '30 year old virgin' a few years ago."
"Not realizing I'm Ace and have no desire to."- SnooDrawings1480
Thanks for rubbing it in...
"Now it's not so insulting, but back then it was."
"I was 11 or 12 and visiting family."
"I have a cousin who is autistic and we were hanging out and she asked me why I have bug bites all over my face."
"She said it innocently but I had horrible, painful acne when I was a kid so I was pretty sensitive about it."
"Ruined my mood for the rest of the trip."- morgannemary
Acne Zit GIF by Adult SwimGiphyOffense taken!
"My friend and I were trying on dresses."
"She picked out a really short dress for me."
"I didn't want my a** out wearing it, so I stated 'I don't think that would work, I don't want my a** hanging out'."
"She states 'no offense but you don't really have an a**, you're giving yourself too much credit'."
"It stung."
"Not what I meant but ok."- lookylookielilcookie·
"What baby?"
"7 year old daughters best friend had a birthday party a week ago."
"I haven’t met this best friends family yet so we did introductions and all that but the grandma kept saying something about the pregnant lady."
"Like when I would get in the pool to swim with the kids and she’d be able to get out she’d say 'go easy kids, the pregnant lady is on drowning patrol, grandmas tired!'"
"So after a few of those comments I said 'oh haha I'm not pregnant I'm just fat' while holding my 2 year old son."
"She was super embarrassed and insisted I told her I was pregnant."
"I was like hmm I didn’t say that but maybe you just heard that when I said something else?"
"Idk lol."
"I don’t even look pregnant and I’m not even that fat at all so I’m just confused at her unintentional insult."- censoredlass
But how do you really feel?
"Girl best friend: I'm just looking at the persons character if I want to date them."
"Me: So uhm you wanna go on a date?"
"Girl best friend: You have the most beautiful character but you ain't my type, sorry."
"Okay thank you."- AngryPuma_
sad episode 14 GIFGiphyBackfired...
"'It's okay. You did your best!'"
"I had very purposely not done my best, but she didn't know that, and it kinda sucked that she thought that was all I could do."
"Knowing the kind of person she was, I know she would never mean to offend me, but dang."
"If you're wondering why I purposely didn't do my best."
"We were in gym class in middle school."
"Our coach wanted us to run back and forth across the gym until we got too tired."
"Last person running won something, don't remember what."
"I knew I wouldn't win, and I get a pretty bad runners stitch, so I just pretended to be out of breath early on so it wouldn't actually get to that point."- fishwantme
Of course complimenting someone on their new haircut, dress for a special occasion, or big news is always the right thing to do.
But those who are wise always remember to think before they speak.
So one should always think very clearly as to what exactly they are about to compliment...
Or be prepared to open your mouth before your foot reaches it.