Redditor Kindayoungbutok wanted everyone to compare notes on how to catch a cheater, so they asked:
"What is a dead giveaway that you’re being cheated on?"
Always follow the money.
That's how I learned.
Reservations
Bite My Tongue Wtf GIF by Doja CatGiphy"When she tells you she's having dinner with her brother... while you're having dinner with her brother."
tickflasher
He made it a thing...
"You come home exhausted from work and your partner accuses you of cheating."
ElectricalRush1878
"My ex used to get so angry if I walked in the door and went to pee right away. I drive an hour home from work due to traffic. Having to pee is not abnormal. He made it a thing."
"The bathroom was right inside the door, and he would be at the other end of the house. Apparently going into the bathroom before seeing him was equivalent to me washing off the scent of my lover. Every time he accused me of anything, looking back, that’s exactly what he was guilty of."
lcotemi
Suddenly...
"When they become cagey about things they're normally open about. Have known a couple people who did this. Very open, liked to talk about their entire day, would answer near any question. Then suddenly they'd be out on a night with their friend/s and the details of the night could be summed up in a couple words or there'd be odd gaps in the story while they remember and try to sort through it all."
Hobbes09R
Always Trust a Tom! ;)
"My ex would sleep with her phone under her pillow. I had an idea it was happening and would keep an eye on this guys MySpace. Then he posted one of the questionnaire things that were popular at the time, one of the questions was who did you last kiss? And his answer was my ex."
"MySpace Tom had my back."
"A lot of you seem to think that she might have been browsing the internet, this was a time before internet was available on your phone, there was nothing to do on a phone other than call and text."
"Most phones also didn’t screen locks with passwords or facial recognition, anyone could get on your phone so the best way to avoid this would be hide it. Or sleep with it under your pillow so if someone does try to get it, they wake you up."
Cophed
Who This?
Text Phone GIF by Life at LowerGiphy"Their 'co-worker' sends a 'goodnight babe. I love you' text in the middle of the night."
CL_from_the_TL
Some colleagues are so nice. Mhmmm....
Loop Around
Suspicious Season 3 GIF by Parks and RecreationGiphy"When they accuse you of accusing them of cheating - and that has nothing to do with the conversation. At all."
sherivero
Explain Please
"Your dog vomits another woman’s underwear."
RollTacker
"This sh*t is real… Worked at vet ofc. when husband drops off sick Labrador. Surgery is needed for dogs digestive tract. Wife picks up dog later that day and we hand her a ziplock bag containing 3 pieces of ladies panties. Wife says 'these aren’t mine.'"
Justify-my-buy
“simple flirting”
"My brother recently found out his wife has been cheating with a dentist that works at her office and she also started out hiding her phone at night. He only found out because the wife of the dude contacted my brother. My SIL claimed it was just some 'simple flirting.' Now she just bought a new phone with a new phone number and got a new credit card."
*itchyserver
“going for walks”
"When they suddenly start taking extra interest in their appearance and getting in shape by 'going for walks' even up to 10 pm by the time they return and they don’t answer your worried calls because 'they had music on with headphones.' And when you ask them why they didn’t answer it’s because 'they didn’t hear the calls come in' despite you having the exact same phone and know that the incoming calls cut over the music."
trevb75
Hey John
Frustrated Emperors New Groove GIFGiphy"She's having migraines all the time and John Redcorn, a spiritual healer, has not been able to correct them with 3 to 5 weekly sessions over 12 years."
Clay_Puppington
Always trust your gut. It knows.
Redditor UnbentJohnson2 was curious to learn of the many things people have no doubt in their mind are true, with nothing to back them up, leading. them to ask:
"What do you KNOW is true without evidence? What are you certain of, right down to your bones, without proof?"
Think Twice Before Throwing Out School Projects...
"Back when I was 10 there was a competition for school kids to write a treatment for an episode of 'Doctor Who', with the best one being developed into a full episode in the next series and the winner receiving a writing credit."
"I was a huge fan of DW at the time and the competition was actually run through schools, so my teacher made the entire class do it, but I was very excited."
"I began writing a story about the Doctor landing on a planet full of defective cybermen, who's programming had gone awry and had been left on this asylum planet to rot."
"The Doctor lands there in response to a mysterious distress call from a woman and attempts to find and save her while avoiding the dangerous dysfunctional cybermen and the looming threat of planetary destruction at the hands of the normal cybermen."
"I finished my short treatment and gave it to my teacher to submit."
"Unfortunately it turned out the competition was very strict about the formatting of submissions and mine was returned because I had used the wrong formatting in some way, it seemed like a weird reason."
"I was a bit disappointed and that was the end of that."
"But then, a year or two later, there was an episode of DW called 'Asylum of the Daleks', which seemed incredibly similar to my story except with Daleks."
"So incredibly, eerily, similar in fact, that to this day I am absolutely convinced that Steven Moffat saw my script and came up with a formatting excuse so that he could remove me from the competition, steal my story, change the bad guys and claim it as his own."
"I have zero evidence, I don't even still have the treatment I wrote, or any letter from the BBC about my submission, and yet I know in my bones that Steven Moffat stole his script from 10 yr old me."- vanhet
Trendsetter
"Back when I was 18 I got my first tattoo, the Squaresoft logo on my upper arm."
"It was 2001 and I was also on my own in a new state."
"I was and still am a huge rpg fan and it’s the height of my geekdom."
"Well, I sent in a picture of me and my tattoo with a short letter about me and my favorite games to Official PlayStation Magazine."
"They published my letter and photo along with the caption 'We don’t know whether to be impressed or frightened'."
"The very next month they started a 'Tattoo of the Month' section and I am absolutely sure 100% that I either started that or was the story that proved the concept, the test."
"Unless someone can come from that team’s time and tell me I’m not, I’ll always believe I was the start of that."- ThatSquareChick
Happy Ice Cream GIF by DrumstickGiphyGotta Catch Em' All
"That my cousin stole my holographic 1st edition Charizard Pokemon card back in the early 2000's."- axxonn13
A Cute Face Can Help You Get Away With A Lot...
"My brother deleted my game save on purpose."
"He was old enough to read, he knew what he was doing."- Raichu7
Law Of Physics
"For every sock that goes missing a Tupperware lid appears."- countryroads8484
Animation 3D GIF by eyedesynGiphyAt Least He Kept Up Office Morale...
"That my last boss secretly hated me even though we had, on the surface, a very positive relationship."- mejok
...Unlike This Guy
"My ex-boss used Covid as an excuse to make me redundant because I was the only member of his team to be hired by someone else and not him."
'F*ck that guy forever."- box_frenzy
They'll Make You An Offer You Can't Refuse
"There’s a travel agency that’s been around in my town for as long as I can remember."
"I wholeheartedly believe it’s a front for the mob."-NeighborhoodNerd0·
godfather GIFGiphySome Would Say There's Plenty Of Evidence Here...
"We’re all too in over our heads."-doinkxx
Talent Is Heredetary... Most Of The Time...
"That a LOT more famous actors than we realize are secretly the children of other famous actors from the previous generation."
"I call it the Hollywood Bastard Theory."- DarthToothbrush
Coincidence? Or Karma...
"If I'm stuck in traffic and switch lanes because the other lane looks like it will move faster, the lane I just switched from will automatically go faster."- mlime18
driving changing lanes GIF by South Park GiphyThe Risks Of Putting Something In Writing
"Getting a name tattooed on your body is a curse both on you and the person whose name is on you for as long as you wear it."- h00paj00ped
Constant Self Doubt...
"My cat is in a constant superposition of having recently eaten and being starved to death. "
"At least, that’s how she acts."
"Also, any of my feelings about myself."
"Can’t contradict or disprove those no matter how hard you try."- ColourfulFunctor
Something To Be Said For Building Up Immunity...
"That being sick with a bacterial infection as an infant and almost dying is the reason why I am never sick despite being a super unhealthy person."- A__SPIDER
Tired I Feel Sick GIF by Muffin & NutsGiphyIt can be hard not to raise an eyebrow at people who believe in something with no evidence to back it up.
However, we can supposedly all agree that that's not quite as troublesome as people who continue to believe in something in spite of AMPLE evidence to the contrary.
Best not to get involved
"No shame in running away from a fight."- SuvenPan·
Always be open to alternatives
"There's more than one way to get home."
"If you see something shady going on on your normal route you're better off taking the long way than getting involved with whatever is happening."- RedPanther1
Show confidence... even if you arent...
"Always act like you know where you are going."- Grenuille
GIF by Town & KeyGiphySometimes bringing attention to yourself pays off...
"Know that criminals rely on their victims to be polite and not cause a scene or draw attention to themselves."
"When something happens to you, scream and shout."
"Make it known you’re in danger."- brkh47
Be aware of your surroundings, and hold on to your belongings
"If you're in a big town or a city and a group of kids surround you, keep your hands in your pockets and don't let them get behind you."
"Some will try to distract you while others pickpocket you."- Melonmode
How long have you got...
"There is no good reason to loiter in a city, especially at night."
"Stay moving."
"Look at street signs and sh*t only long enough to know where you are."
"Walk quickly, but like you're in a hurry to go somewhere, not leave where you are."
"Mind your business."
"Any yelling, fighting, or any source of commotion should be ignored."
"Move away from it immediately--you have more important shit to do, act like it."
"If someone calls out to you or tries to stop you, don't break stride."
"Respond immediately by briefly glancing at their face, their eyes, and their hands, in that order."
"Immediately look back in your direction of travel, shake your head and loudly say 'I got sh*t going on'."
"Keep moving."
"If they persist, just repeat it while walking away."
"A stressed, visibly engaged person looks dangerous."
"Cultivate a pissed-off expression."
"Not 'bad@ss', don't try to look like someone you're not."
"Just look mad, inconvenienced, and on the way to deal with it."
"Don't hold eye contact longer than four seconds, and don't break it faster than two."
"When you break eye contact, glance down to diffuse a situation, and look away to the side to display confidence."
"Break one law at a time."
"If you're doing nefarious sh*t, dress like you're on the way to or from work."
"Make sure your car is sorted, all lights work, tags are current, full tank of gas, etc."
"Keep your speed within five MPH of the posted limit."
"Don't have bumper stickers, window decals, or anything hanging from the rearview mirror."
"Wear your f*cking seatbelt."
"Unless you absolutely know you need a gun, just don't f*ck with them."
"Never keep it on you."
"Never carry drugs, stolen sh*t, or anything illegal with a gun, and don't keep or store any of that stuff in the same place as a gun."
"Anything + a gun = much longer sentencing guidelines, and mandatory minimums."
"Just don't f*ck with guns."
"Never let someone force you into a car, an alleyway, inside a house, anything."
"Never."
"No matter what the situation, your odds are better if you fight or run."
"If someone pulls a gun on you and is farther away than about 15-20 feet, run away from them at an angle."
"It is a lot harder to hit a moving target with a handgun than most people realize."
"Even if you know how to fight, avoid it whenever possible."
"Graveyards are full of people who thought they were hard."
"If any of this is something you have to think about on a regular basis, change your life."
"This is not the way people are supposed to live."- kiloheavy
Don't text and drive... or walk!
"Stay THE F*CK off your phone and pay attention to your surroundings."
"Best way to get knocked over the head and your pockets ran is with your nose in your phone and your earbuds in."- mediaG33K
Sometimes best NOT to give the benefit of the doubt...
"Don't talk to any strangers and don't let them stop you on the street."
"Just keep walking."- gmilfmoneymilk·
Vivien Leigh Quote GIF by Top 100 Movie Quotes of All TimeGiphyNo matter where you are, it's always best to be aware of your surroundings.
And whenever possible, wise to avoid walking alone at night.
That's why we have Lyft.
Curious to hear about when gut instincts were accurate, Redditor puzzlehead989999 asked:
"What’s an uneasy gut feeling about someone that turned out to be spot on?"
Bus Stop Buddy
"A guy would always walk around near my bus stop never really doing anything nor going anywhere. Looks like a normal guy but could never shake the feeling that something was off about him."
"And then last week actually the guy attempted to rob my ass, (pretty sh*t job at it tho) man asked if I had any money on me and what phone I had."
"I tell him cus honestly my phone is kinda sh*t and who carries any good amount of money to the bus, he then proceeds to flash his gun and say, 'if you was lying I would've had to hurt you' then he walked off."
"Haven't seen him since, what pissed me off more was that my bus late by an hour."
– NeanderSkellThe Bad Roommate
"First time flatting (was 21) and we had a good mixture of girls and guys. One guy gave off some intense vibes."
"He was always incredibly energetic, chatty, figgity and never seemed to sleep. Only good thing was that he kept the flat clean."
"Turns out he was a meth head and robbed us after living there for 3 months. Literally, scouting out the place, getting to know our schedules and what stuff we had so he could rob us blind."
"Scum bag."
– JoeyPea212
Park Predator
"One time when I was about 14 my nan and I were walking her dog in an empty park. It was November and 9pm so it was dark."
"This random man started walking close and instantly I felt uneasy and knew something wasn’t right, he started circling us."
"Anyway long story short once I’m back in the car and my Nan is at the back of the car, we thought he’d gone but he hadn’t and had come sprinting back and viciously attacked her right in front of me."
"If you have a bad feeling, listen to it and get out of there, don’t spend the extra time putting your dog In the back just bring it to the front of the car witb you, it could save your life."
— Major-Duck-8383
No Friend Of Mine
"A friend once invited one of his co-workers to one of our meet-ups, we just wanted to play Magic and chill together."
"I had a really hard gut drop when he arrived and couldn't quite put my finger on why."
"He proceeded to get absolutely wasted, tried to establish himself as the most badass in the room, his girlfriend who he brought along turned out to be 14 while he was in his mid twenties, he tried to force himself on my sister and started to completely escalate when he was stopped by my friends."
"They had to force him out and pin him down while I called the police. He proceeded to punch an officer during his arrest and we later had to appear in court to give our statements."
"At the court date, he had a new girl with him who also looked way too young."
"Best thing is, my idiot friend invited him again. You guys can figure why we aren't close anymore."
– SleepySlowpoke
These acquaintances hid sinister secrets.
Hands Off
"One of my friends would always do weird stuff to peoples drinks 'as a joke' like put pepper in someone’s Coke at a restaurant when they got up to go to the bathroom or even spit in someone’s water at bonfire."
"Stuff like that."
"And I always thought it was super weird his fixation on messing with people's drinks. He had done sh*t like this since he was 7 when we met."
"Everyone knew not to leave your drink unattended around him cause he would f'k with it.
"Long story short, it turns out one of our buddy’s caught him trying to put something in a girl's drink and he got the sh*t beat out of him."
Super weird, we literally would joke as kids that he was going to be the creepy guy at the bar putting roofies in peoples beer."
– Mineysota
Prince Charming
"Had a new guy start working at our job and he was very charming, personable, friendly. Me and another coworker were the only people who didn’t get a good vibe from him, everyone else thought he was great."
"We come from toxic/abusive childhoods, and pick up a lot of cues, things he said, overly friendly etc..."
"He had everyone feeling bad for him cause he wasn’t able to see his daughter. Badmouthing his baby mama."
"He stopped coming into work, turns out he got arrested for breaking a restraining order, that he got for physically abusing his baby mama."
"He was almost textbook narcissistic and manipulative abuser."
"Charmed everyone and everyone was shocked when they heard the truth, me and my other coworker knew our wariness was right."
– Bitch-stewies
Mysterious Neighbors
"New people moved into the house across the road from us. Nice enough, friendly and approachable, but after about 6 months I said to my husband ‘He’s mixed up in some dodgy sh*t.’"
"My husband was all ‘Nah, they’re great, not a chance. Don’t worry about it.’"
"About a year after that, someone attempted to shoot him in his driveway."
– Yanigan
The Strangest 'Wrong Number' Stories | George Takei’s Oh Myyy
Before we all had caller ID, wrong numbers phone calls were commonplace. But now that almost everyone screens their calls, it's wrong number texts that have ...Servitude
"Our neighbours had an older lady who lived with them, never left the house and was always in the kitchen working. They spun the story that she was their mother/their children's grandmother and she lived with them to help around the house."
"We took this at face value but it never seemed right, they would go away for a month every year and she would be left in the house, not allowed to leave for the month they were away."
"It sounds terrible now but we actually affectionately nicknamed her 'the slave' because she seemed to always be working around the house. Turns out they brought her over on a 3 month visa, didn't allow her to leave and held her a slave in their house for 8 years."
"Our (now ex) neighbours have both just been found guilty of holding a slave for 8 years and various other charges."
"To clarify where I am from this is not common. My neighbours were the first prosecution of a domestic slavery case."
– thisis--myusername
Not Who He Seemed
"A couple months ago I met this guy and we got to chatting. Right around the same time we met I started having the weirdest changes."
"For some reason I lost my appetite completely, lost interest in a lot of my normal hobbies, and just felt generally restless. I had literally no idea what was causing it since everything in my life (work, family, personal) was going great but again it started at the same exact time I started talking to this guy."
"He really seemed like a good, genuine guy and I liked him a lot."
"A couple weeks later, I realized he wasn’t really who I thought he was and things ended as quickly as they started. After we went our separate ways, everything went back to normal and I could eat and I felt normal again."
"I’ve never had anything like that happen before. So strange, but it was like my body knew something was off before I did."
– fluffbuttgoose
It's fascinating how we all have built-in sensors signaling to us that it's best to avoid certain people.
While it's ultimately up to us to listen to our gut or ignore it completely, it might benefit us to proceed with caution because usually, our gut instincts are spot-on.
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