Redditor TreyTheEyeball wanted to hear how great friendships came to an end and asked everyone:
"What made you unfriend/hate your best friend?"
The less friends the better.
Cheaper for Christmas.
Punch
Punch Punching GIF by The X FactorGiphy"Realized he wasn't just roasting me as friends do but was treating me like a human punching bag in front of other ppl to make jokes."
CaptainDeadpool79
I have never looked back...
"He was a pathological liar, manipulative and told all of my most trusted secrets to everyone because he wanted to feel powerful and like he controlled me. Haven’t spoken a word in 5 years and I have never looked back."
rojarty
"Had a friend just like that. Eventually tried to drive a wedge between my fiancé, me, and all of our friends. Our closest friends kind of let me in on what was going on behind the scenes, which we could already tell, and I eventually booted him from my wedding altogether."
"10 yrs later I was going to be moving back into the state he lived in, and I reached out to see if he’d grown up. He apologized for everything, owning it all seemingly. Then a few hours later informed me he was a realtor and to let him know once I’m house hunting. Never spoke to him again after that."
Vivid_Designer395
15 Years Gone
"I let her and her little dog move in with me and rent a room while she got back on her feet. It was a double wide trailer and she had her own bathroom across from her room. She was nasty, dirty and a drunk. I knew she liked to drink, but not like what I experienced."
"She would leave used tampons on the bedroom floor, plates of half eaten food pushed under the bed and liquor bottles and beer cans all over the place. She would lock her dog out of her room so she could sleep in or nap and it would terrorize my animals."
"I found out from a neighbor that she would sit out on the back porch drinking and instead of coming in to use the restroom she would relieve herself in my little patch of backyard at all hours of the night (she admitted that she did this). The last straw was when I came home from a shopping day out with my daughter and she saw the purchases and said 'well I guess you don’t need my rent then.' A 15 year friendship ruined."
HiRollerette
Damn Craig!
"I was trying to quit weed. I asked him 1 thing. If you wanna hang out this week while i'm in the early stages could you not bring any over. He FREAKED out. Kicked up a massive fuss about how I should have willpower. Finally I said fine just don't come over for a couple of weeks while I get my head straight. So he apologised said he was wrong. Came over. Sparked up a pre rolled joint 2 minutes in. F**k you Craig."
17FeretsAndaPelican
Seriously?!
Tiffany Mitchell Idk GIF by Indiana FeverGiphy"He got my gf pregnant and congratulated me as a new dad at birth. Didn't figure it out until a few years later."
crank1off
This is all a mess of scandal.
Different Sides
"He started being an a**hole for no reason, I swear. One day he just started to be mean towards me, even to the point that he insulted me many times. I still think about how we went from being 'best friends' to ignoring each other. What did I do to him? It's like he became a totally different person from one day to another."
Axdan_8
4 to about 12...
"I wonder if childhood best friends are more a result of proximity, rather than affinity. It seems more common to drift apart once your lives take off."
achakapia
"I’ve come to realize this too. My best friend from age 4 to about 12 was really just because our parents hung out we lived close and once we got older had much different interests and proximity and in the early grade school years had mostly boys in our classes and we were the only girls that knew each other for several years."
Twist_Glass
Things got hard...
"Drugs, we'd been neighbors and friends since we were a few months old."
"At college we met new people as you do. We'd always had other friendship groups outside of each other so I didn't really know her new friends. She started off smoking weed with them, not my thing but pretty harmless in the grand scheme of things."
"Eventually she started taking harder drugs when we'd go out. It was always me that got her home safe."
"It just got to the point where I'd had enough, I couldn't watch her destroy herself like that. I tried to get her help but she wouldn't take it. So I just left, cut all ties and moved away (the move was planned already). No idea what happened to her or if she managed to turn it around, I hope so."
Educational-Soil732
HER!
Text Chat GIF by IlizaGiphy"She only called or texted to brag or because she needed something. Everything was about her, all the time."
that-1-chick-u-know
Not every relationship is meant to be forever.
Be at peace about it.
Redditor RIPMexicanTraore was hoping people would be willing to share their 'best of' going to therapy wisdoms. So they asked everyone:
"What is the best thing you have heard/learned from therapy?"
In therapy... I learned I need more therapy.
Who Cares?
Eddie Murphy Whatever GIF by Coming to AmericaGiphy"People aren't nearly as concerned about everything I'm doing as I think they are. They're busy enough being self conscious about their own behaviors."
badatwinning
The Letdown
"When you place unexpressed expectations on someone, YOU are the one setting yourself up to be let down."
ksozay
"It’s not so much about low expectations as it is communicating your expectations."
"Let’s say it’s your first birthday as a couple. You expect your partner to plan a nice romantic getaway with just the 2 of you, and instead they plan a huge surprise party."
"You hate birthday parties, but since you never communicated that to them, they had no idea. So now you are stressed about all the attention, and they are disappointed that all their hard work is unappreciated. You can have high expectations for people, you just need to know that they aren’t mind readers."
Lahmmom
Mirror Image
"No one sees the version of you that you see of yourself."
Back2Bach
"I remember learning about this really neat thought experiment."
"First, think about the most embarrassing thing that's happened to you. Don't think too long or hard, just come up with something."
"Now, think of a close person in your life and imagine the most embarrassing thing that's happened to them."
"The second one takes a lot longer. We all think about ourselves - and critique ourselves - way more than we do to others."
making_mischief
Oh maaaaan...
"The brain isn't designed to keep us happy. It's designed to keep us alive."
angels_exist_666
"We're social creatures. We remember the embarrassing weird crap we've done better than our moments of glory so we can avoid doing that in the future in order to be more socially acceptable."
"I remember some embarrassing crap I did in first grade more than I remember some wonderful moments of this year."
Phayzon
"I still remember getting in the wrong bus in kindergarten and crying for a half hour thinking I'd never see my home again while the driver sorted everything out. Oh maaaaan."
tinyhorsesinmytea
Control Issues
GIF by VevoGiphy"Sometimes, when we procrastinate, it's because we need to feel control, even when the only thing we can control is choosing not to do something - even when it contributes to making our situation worse. Took me years to come to terms with that one."
jacobsadder
Control is an issue for everyone. We gotta loosen up.
Voices
Confused In My Head GIF by GraduationGiphy"Your internal monologue isn’t always reliable, especially when you are anxious or depressed."
BrideOfFirkenstein
Easy
"The fact that you are high functioning doesn't mean that your illness is easier for you to deal with, it means it's easier for others to deal with."
azulsonador0309
"I never thought about it that way."
"I always took some pride in the fact that I always remained as productive as possible no matter. I pretty much have an addiction to productivity because it distracts me from what I feel inside. I chase achievement, I chase greatness, I chase success because I feel it justifies the suffering of being alive."
"And that’s why I’ve been melting down these past few days. I’m at a point where years of hard work going unrewarded and years of almost unhealthily convincing myself to fight and move forward have finally broken me. I’m trying to tell myself to fight. I want to live a life where everyday is not a war for me, but I realize how far fetched it is."
Prudent-Ad-3482
Default Settings
"We seek what is familiar to us, even if it’s really unhealthy. There is a comfort in familiarity because it’s what we know/learned how to deal with."
GPQ70
"When stressed we go to our default setting. No matter how destructive that setting is we will FIGHT to get there."
"This was one of the hardest things for me. Because there is no way to know if you've reset your setting until you're stressed/uncomfortable. And if you find out you haven't its such a blow to your confidence. And the gains you thought you had made you now question."
Thats_what_im_saiyan
The Boogeyman
"When I start the negative self-talk, I was told to pretend I am talking to my wonderful and sweet 5yo little boy. I could never say the sh*t I say to myself to my son. The therapist told me to envision someone telling my boy what I say to myself and how would I react. It was eye-opening as to how we are our own worst boogeyman."
CaptainCacoethes
Changes
the office therapy GIFGiphy"Remember that change is inevitable. Nothing ever stays the same. The only constant in life is change."
"Some changes are swift and brutal for example bereavement. Others are more subtle like the changing seasons. So with this in mind I've always loved Arnold Bennett's quote... That any change, even a change for the better is always accompanied with setbacks and discomfort."
reiveroftheborder
Therapy is key. We all need it ad all we have to do is ask for help.
Redditor Gold-Ad-2827 asked:
"People with mental disorders: What do you hate being told the most?"
I hated being told to just smile. You smile and go away.
Duh
seth meyers GIF by Late Night with Seth MeyersGiphy"It's all in your head. Where else would it?! My colon?"
glorified_throwaway
Don't Minimize
"Everybody goes through that."
rukasu83
"This saying makes my blood boil. Or the 'I was that age once too ya know' yeah no sh*t you were that age once. And just because you were that age once doesn’t mean we have the same experience."
MasterOfRNoSleep
"They try to minimize it."
Previous_Ad7725
Stellar Advice
"You're worried? Just stop."
"You're sad? Just don't be."
"You're compulsively binge eating? Eat less."
"Thanks for that stellar advice."
CrayolaSocks
"Or even better, 'Just do it!' As if ADHD paralysis can be stopped with a can-do attitude."
HumanityIsACesspool
"physical health"
"I get so frustrated when people treat the idea of 'holistic medicine' as some kind of woo. How does it escape so many people that the body works holistically? Even a lot of doctors seem to ignore this. It's very frustrating when you have 2 or 3 or 4 illnesses that are all affecting each other, and your 'physical health' is held distinct from your mental health, and nothing anyone is doing to treat you works because no one's looking at the whole system."
"I just got a lecture from a psychiatrist I am seeing about nutrition, and he apologized to me for doing so but I told him, 'No, I appreciate it. Do it for all your patients.' because it told me he's trying to look at the whole picture and actually fix what's wrong. It gave me faith in him."
TheLastKirin
Relax
Calm Down Golden Girls GIF by TV LandGiphy"You need to calm down."
sorceress__stoned
"Never is the history of calm down has calm down ever caused anyone to calm down."
LBIdockrat
Calm down. I hate that one. You calm down.
Tips
Season 23 Reaction GIF by Law & OrderGiphy"When they try to give me tips on what to do, like bruh as if I didn't already try that."
Mediocre_Ad8282
The Standard
"You don't look sad. No crap... that's so I can avoid having this conversation. Also depression isn't 'being sad' like people think."
allgamerprogram
"God, I hate this. It's because saying 'I'm depressed' has been standard for people expressing that they're slightly unhappy about something dumb like not getting enough croutons on their salad or some crap. Now that's just what everyone assumes you mean when you say you have depression."
NilPill
Be Faster
"'Stop being lazy.'"
LadyBirdLadyBirdLady
“'Lazy' is when you don’t want to do anything at all. 'Executive disfunction' is when you can do everything at all, but that one easy quick thing that you do want to do just makes you and your brain freeze completely days ahead. I’m tired of people not understand that even when I explain and look at me like I’m bullshitting instead."
_Varien_
Ways to Cope
"Maybe you should try praying harder. I did, He prescribed medication."
Ms_Schuesher
"Praying is a way to cope for a lot of people, I think. That's totally fine, but insisting on praying in lieu of getting real help or actually addressing the issue is when it is not only unhelpful, but dangerously detrimental."
TheFrustrated
"Religious people will bypass everyone’s cultures, identity, views, and feelings just to be right and make a point. it’s disgusting. I read somewhere that real so called Christianity is all wrong. The real faith is from the Aramaic history and all the meanings were misinterpreted and the stories and all were made up by Catholics wanting to control their people. Yuck."
RisingPhoenix5271
'contamination'
Disgusted Season 6 GIF by Brooklyn Nine-NineGiphy"As someone with OCD with a lot of attention to 'contamination', having someone try to explain contradictions in why I'm doing something that is technically unclean when I wouldn't do something that is technically clean due to OCD. There are a few doorknobs that I will not touch no matter how much you clean them in front of me and I know it makes no sense, if it made sense I wouldn't have OCD i'd just be cleanly."
Zoooples
Stop trying to be an armchair therapist. Be empathetic to people first.
Redditor nuser_already_taken wanted to discuss all the aspects of life that seem to be the victim of great disdain.
"What's something that's hated for no reason?"
All of these tv apps. But people love them. But that's just me.
Real People
Skyler White Shut Up GIF by Breaking BadGiphy"Actors because of the characters they played. I read that the woman who played Brian Cranston's wife on Breaking Bad still gets hate mail."
Ephemeris
The Go-To
"I always thought it was really weird how in the 90's, every other cartoon's go-to target of hate were mimes."
Omny87
"Mimes were just inexplicably popular in the 90s for some reason... even Pokemon had to include a mime. It's really weird now that I think about it, right up there with the fixation on dying in quicksand."
iprocrastina
"Being a mime means never having to say, 'I'm sorry.'"
LobotomistPrime
Spaceships
"Building lego sets according to the instructions. People would always sh*t on me for 'not using my imagination' and 'ruining what the sets could be.' Motherf**ker I paid $50 for a spaceship, so let me build my go**amn spaceship!"
GreatGeniusx
"My wife and I bought the $180 Space shuttle Discovery with the Hubble space telescope."
"Of course we made that according to the instructions. Which was really fun too. We'd switch who read the instructions and who would actually build it. So when it was her turn to build, I had to accurately describe what was in the instructions without her seeing them. That made it extra challenging and fun!"
viccie211
Kaboom!
"Wile E. Coyote. Personally I hope he blows the Road Runner to pieces."
ItsMyView
"Fun story: I got to write my college admissions essay on why Wile E. Coyote kept buying ACME products when they never worked against the Road Runner. The instructions said that 'any answer including the word 'because' would spontaneously combust.'"
"I wrote a 3-4 page essay and, instead of writing an actual conclusion, I wrote, 'Finally, Wile E. Coyote continues to buy ACME products because...' and burned a whole through the paper. I was pretty proud of my creativity on that one."
"Edit: for everyone asking, yes I got in. This was 10-15 years ago, though, so I don't remember much else about the actual content of the essay."
Bangarang_1
Use Pants
Fathers Day Fashion GIF by John Crist ComedyGiphy"CARGO SHORTS. YALL WANNA HATE 'TIL YOU NEED A RATCHET SET!!"
lukewhale
I do like a nice cargo pant. Leave me be.
Meow
Black Cat GIFGiphy"Black cats. They are so sweet and funny. But psychos go out of their way to hurt them or some people think they are 'bad luck' so they're less likely to be adopted."
Stellathewizard
Class is in session...
"Dunno how broad this is but teachers who are just trying to do their job."
Beginning-Run8463
"I had the sweetest teacher who was made the victim of a nasty instagram account making fun of her body (she was a little overweight) students would take photos of her without her knowledge and zoom in on areas and post to the instagram. I never knew about it till the principal talked to our whole class. The creator, followers, likers, and commenters all got in major trouble. that teacher never came back to finish the rest of the year… makes me so sad…"
faknugget
Hi Guy
"Guy Fieri. Dude has donated millions to charity and done phenomenal things for the world but because he has spiked blond hair and is a meme people hate on him."
idkwat
"He's the reason I became interested in cooking. He makes it look fun, not like a chore. And how can you hate a guy who just wants to cook great meals for all of his friends? Plus, Guy Fieri is the Mayor of Flavortown. If you don't respect the man, at least respect the office."
itsthesoilguy
What's Abnormal?
"Guys liking 'feminine' things. I grew up in Vietnam and lived there until the age of 15. I’m a guy who played dolls and house with my elder sister (who is 6 years my senior) when I was 5-6 and subsequently received so much flak and jeering from fellow elementary classmates (both boys & girls)."
"As well as homeroom teachers after I accidentally blurted out about my 'abnormal' playing activities to the world (or my small world). Luckily, my parents just let me be. My dad later told me to not reveal my interests to anyone whom I do not know well out of concern that I might be bullied. He personally bought me a Sailor Moon action figure."
SherwinHowardPhantom
Hi Tommy
Not Funny No GIFGiphy"Liking things meant for people way younger than you. My 17 year old brother likes Thomas the Tank Engine, has a huge layout with buildings, trees, storylines the whole thing. My dad and his girlfriend refuse to buy it for him and actively ridicule him for it. Like.. WTF is it to you?"
Blades500
Age range...
"Anything that girls between 12 and 16 like."
"It wasn't until I was older that I realized how many things are looked down on solely because they're liked primarily by teenage girls. Even The Beatles were heavily criticized and seen as a joke until their fan base expanded beyond teenage girls. Then they magically became critically-acclaimed legends."
Throne-Eins
In the pot...
"Beans in chili. People are either super against or all for."
Tflo_1117
"I hear all the time about beans not supposed to be in chili. I live in a state where they take great pride in 'no beans in chili!' To me they are a great filler, I enjoy them and I don't see why people get so upset. I add them all the time when we make chili just because it makes it a larger pot honestly."
boston_2004
When at Tim's...
"Vegetarian options."
Stormygeddon
"Haha ya the thing I don’t get is the morons who, for example, when Tim Hortons began offering the impossible breakfast sandwich start commenting on their post 'you just lost a customer.' Like wtf, nobody is forcing you to order or eat it, they simply are offering it to anyone who might enjoy it."
getzysbaldhead69
"There was similar outrage when Cracker Barrel offered impossible sausage as a side. Again, they didn't take anything away, just added a new item, but damn did some people vocally lash out on social media."
Aethenil
Not SO Bad
Photograph Nickelback GIFGiphy"Nickelback. I don’t care for them but they’re hardly the worst band out there."
Basic
“'Basic b*tch aesthetic' — not my style, but let people do their thing!"
ProfessionalMorning3
"People are so lacking in self-awareness about this that even when Bo Burnham released 'White Woman's Instagram' poking holes in this kind of shallow mockery, people couldn't believe it and started going through mental backflips to say that no, Bo is just saying that basic bitches are stupid and fake! He holds up a mirror to his audience and they say, 'Hmm, can't be me. Anyway.'"
rowrowfightthepandas
Newer is Better
"Using a computer for its intended purpose even if it's old as long as it still works. I’m going to specify what I mean. Basically I use older computers as old as 12 years old and I use them to run applications that a chrome book can’t run. I bring some laptops to my school but there are some people who are bothered on how old the PC is and often bug me to buy a new one."
Nyxius0
Art?
x-men cosplay GIF by Comic-Con HQGiphy"Cosplay. it’s just makeup? and acting? literally everyone does it on halloween but once you put a name to it it’s 'weird?' Or it’s just an art form sure some people can be cringey but the actual art itself isn’t."
hey_its_dani
Power
"Nuclear power. Coal kills more people every year and releases more radiation. Also coal kills the planet. Almost all accidents can be solved by automation and using different kinds of reactors."
roxbie
"It’s also a necessity to have in order to move away from coal and other fossil fuels. Solar, wind, and hydro are all amazing, but besides for geothermal plants nuclear is the most consistent and the only one that can be operational nearly 24/7."
"Edit: source. Also turns out I made a mistake: nuclear is more consistent than geothermal."
neslef3
Let's just be kinder. No hate.
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