Unfairness....
angry ace ventura GIFGiphyBeing the hardest worker will not always equate to you being the one rewarded or recognized for accomplishments.
Ah the memory....
Nostalgia is a liar.
Sometimes though, nostalgia is the best thing. I have a weird thing with visuals, smells and tastes bringing out really vivid memories of my childhood pretty often (like daydreams) and it feels really home-y, safe and wonderful.
All the Effort Spent....
You can do everything right, give something 100% effort, follow all the rules and still fail.
"It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. That is not a weakness. That is life."
Jean Luc Picard, CPT USS Enterprise (NCC-1701-D).
I love this quote too.
I learned as a I grew up that just because someone hires you and pays you doesn't mean they intend to play fair. Actually it would seem they usually don't even if it would be better for the company in the long run. The point is, YOU keep YOUR integrity and you never really lose.
Tainted Love
bad romance hair flip GIF by Lady GagaGiphyLoving someone unconditionally, and being willing to do anything for them doesn't mean that they will feel the same way about you.
Finding Help
If somebody doesn't want to be helped you can't help them.
This is so true. I've had to learn it the hard way. It's very true when they say that you shouldn't light yourself on fire to keep others warm. That stuff just leads to burnout.
Fallen....
Don't fall in love with potential.
Can be many things. Big things, small things. That someone who's inattentive will pay attention if you just try hard enough to show them it's important. That someone who constantly self-sabotages will stop if you show them they're worthy. That an addict will get clean if you support them enough. That someone violent will stop if you love them enough.
It's not your job to fix your partner. Either you love them the way they are (and you should have a long, hard look if "who they are" is really what you think or if that's just your idea of them), or you don't. If it's the latter, you may need to move on.
This isn't the same as growing together, that's an inevitable process based on equality. Your partner can't be like an investment into a rotting house that you just need to fix and then it'll be great to live in.
I'll be there for you....
That no matter how much you care for and value someone they're never obligated to be the same to you. Especially friends.
Dealing with this currently. Friends since pre school and basically attached at the hip right up until we left school and went to a community college together.
After we got jobs he was harder to get into contact with. We would hang out on occasion but I always reached out and never other way around. He got distant and i asked if he was ok and did I do something wrong, he said it's all ok, then one day he flat out ghosted me.
Has new friends now from what I can see. Still not quite sure what happened but I do not wish him ill and hope he is happy. Hope you are doing ok as well.
A Better Me
Alexa Bliss Reaction GIF by WWEGiphyI am nowhere near as smart, nice, or likable as I thought I was to myself.
This is also the first step to becoming a smarter, nicer, and more likable person.
"last times"
Don't take anything for granted, things change so fast and life is really short. I remember having so many friends not that long ago, who are now strangers.
A big one for me is how many "last times" you're going to have, and how often you won't realize it's a last time. Things can change so fast. Go bowling every Monday? Have a convention you and your friends go to yearly? Hang out regularly with the same people?
One day is going to be the last time it happens and almost without fail you will not know. Then you go days without talking to someone, then weeks, then months, then one day you realize that you aren't really friends anymore. No major fallout, just your lives are no longer compatible.
As time goes by....
Share Love GIFGiphyWhen it comes to grief Time does not heal all wounds. It dulls it, but one trigger and it floods back.
I learned this after my dad & grandma died in 2015. Sad I know, but I resent the fact that people kept telling me I wouldn't feel it one day. I think we need to be honest about that so people know how to cope with grief in the right way & not hold out for a day when it won't be there lurking in the shadows.
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