Redditor These-Froyo2242 asked:
"What are some misconceptions about sex or relationships that many people believe?"
Love and sex are misconceptions in general.
Not a Fix
Dont Touch Me Go Away GIF by One ChicagoGiphy"That your relationship problems or lack of sex gets better when you get married. LOL."
"Or have a child! Yeah cause the incredibly hard task of keeping a tiny human alive will most def help a failing relationship!"
fookinmessss
It's Sad
"Getting a girlfriend will not automatically make your depression and self hatred magically disappear."
Road_Ok
"At the time I didn't know I had chronic depression so I was confused too. When puberty started my happiness was gone. I had no friends so I thought friends would fix me."
"I got amazing friends and even if I had wonderful adventures with them when I was home alone I cried every time. Then started to think I just needed a gf... And when I had one, the most amazing girl in the world I still felt empty and sad. She suffered a lot because she noticed my struggle and I was an idiot. She left me without knowing how much I loved her."
DrDeadwish
Not Typical
"That you won't ever have a fight or argument, that it's easy peasy lemon squeezy."
MadamePurples
"Yes, but how you disagree matters a lot. Arguments should not devolve into name calling, extended shouting matches, or berating, and it's GOOD to take breaks to calm down/regulate if you're upset. And if one partner is regularly berating the other it's a really really bad thing and not a 'typical argument.'"
femNms
Know Boundaries
"That you have to put up with bulls**t just because it's a relationship. People seem to think it's normal to put up with someone giving you grief just because you're going out with them. Don't put up with behavior in relationships that you wouldn't expect from a best friend."
judochop1
"To an extent. I think relationships are more complex than that. It can bring out a different side of you when it's a life partner that you feel you need to trust and count on and vice versa. What matters is that you both acknowledge faults, issues and work through them together to improve."
Willing_Archer
Unhealthy
new girl help GIFGiphy"Drama = passion. That's unhealthy. Be happy in contentment."
chewie8291
"I always hated that the TV show New Girl fell into this trap. They put the main character into the healthiest relationship she has in the whole show then... she dumps him because they never fight? Yeah that's a healthy message to the audience."
thatwasntababyruth
Don't use movie and TV love as a blueprint.
Be You
Treat Yourself GIF by blackbearGiphy"That how my partner sees or treats me is a reflection of how desirable or lovable I am. Nah. If someone doesn't appreciate you or isn't attracted to you, that's about them. Don't change yourself for other people. Be your own person. Love yourself."
picsystix
Closer
"Sex should be fun and natural, and it's ok and not a problem if your partner, says not tonight I'm knackered from work. They still want you they still want to be with you. They are just tired from work, but people get too hung about sex in a relationship. Yes it's definitely a huge part of the closeness in a relationship, but your relationship shouldn't be defined on sex alone."
nickmasonsdrumstick
Team Efforts
"If you are just in it for your own pleasure, it’s gonna be bad sex. Sex is a team sport."
Substantial-Stand744
"Say it louder for the people in the back please. Last person i was with wanted to do it all the time, but I didn't always have the same energy. he started complaining about me not putting in the effort and I'm like... we just screwed 4 hours ago idk what you expect."
sage_vex
Mutuals
"Also, as a woman, that being desirable is the ultimate goal for a healthy and pleasing sex life. My sexual experience is so much more than my body and it's appearance/desirability. Sex should be mutually pleasing. As women, I think we are fed a lot of crap about what being sexy means. It's good to unpack all of that and ask yourself what YOU want."
picsystix
Like A...
like a virgin madonna GIFGiphy"It's okay to be a virgin. It should not be stigmatized."
gik323
"Absolutely. For years I thought I was broken because I was a virgin in my mid 20s. When I finally lost it when I was 28, I wondered why everyone made such a big deal about it."
EchoedJolts
All Sizes Welcome
"It’s okay to be average sized in the pants. Many women have said they prefer average."
RathGodofWar
"Penis size and confirmation gets talked about all the time, but there’s also a lot of variation in labial and vaginal size and conformation. Physical sexual compatibility relies a lot on how those sizes relate and to be honest the rest of your anatomy and preferred sexual positions also tie in to it."
WyrdHarper
There's quite a lot to unpack here! It seems that open honest communication between partners is best.
Do you have any wisdom to share? Let us know in the comments below.
Redditor Inspire3110 wanted to share all the best reasons to not partner up.
"What’s a benefit of being single?"
I'm single. I think I want to mingle. Convince me otherwise.
Just Me
Dave Chappelle Freedom GIFGiphy"You only have to worry about yourself."
clayur
"I just started a casual relationship after about a year and a half of being single. Even though that previous one lasted 4.5 years, having to care about someone even a little bit is taking some adjustment. It was nice being free lol."
irishdude1212
Nobody Cares
"It's my day off. I have a bunch of projects to do around the house, but I'm laying on the couch reading Reddit. No one cares."
satanwon
"So true. I just wanna laze in bed all day on my day off sometimes. Bring in some snacks, watch a movie, read my books, take a nap or two. I don't need someone constantly asking 'are you getting up yet?'"
Zealousideal_End2330
Merry Peace
"Christmas is chill af. None of that 'Ok so we spend the eve at your parent's place, then Christmas day is split between my mom's and my dad's/his new girlfriend's place, and then we visit your brother's family to say hi to the newborn, plus uncle Jeremy invited us to his place since we are there anyway..."
foxmachine
Me Boss
"Not answering to anyone else. I've been single for a long time after my marriage ended. The temptation to just pick up with someone new was strong for the first few years, but once I got used to just being by myself, I came to really enjoy it. I'm free to do what I want, when I want. While I'm open to it, it will take someone very special to change my situation now."
ferox965
Places & Things
Heart Coffee GIF by 100% SoftGiphy"Everything is exactly where I left it."
Countryegg1
"Yeeessss. That little bit of milk you left for your morning coffee. It will be there in the morning."
sunflakie
These are all valid choices. I'm in.
Betrayal
i see you no GIF by Shalita GrantGiphy"Don't have to worry about having your trust betrayed. Don't have anyone to lie to you. You have complete control over how peaceful things are for you (barring things out of control like traffic or construction work in the neighborhood)."
HelixDraxzonyx
Career Moves
"You have the opportunity to focus on your own needs and/or make giant strides in your career progression without having to factor in and address the needs of your companion."
Lyrick_
Control
Janet Jackson Dancing GIF by VevoGiphy"Don't have to worry about having your trust betrayed. Don't have anyone to lie to you. You have complete control over how peaceful things are for you (barring things out of control like traffic or construction work in the neighbourhood)."
HelixDraxzonyx
"I know someone who turned down a top-tier professional sports contract because his girl would break up if he would've accepted it, since she didn't want to move from Europe to America. He killed his hockey-career with that decision, and his girl is almost threatening to leave him if he gets out of shape. Can't believe he's still with her."
mr4ffe
I'm Out
"Don't have to answer to anyone about where you're going."
detective_kiara
"This. When I became single after almost 10 years, for a good few months every time I would walk out the door I would instinctively feel the urge to say where I was going. Weirdest feeling ever, kind of like the Altoids thing Jim did with Dwight."
smorsmores
"Unless you have a pet. I tell my cat where I'm going every time I leave the house, even if it's just outside to smoke a bowl. If I don't, she screams like a banshee until I open the door... then I get a low solid meow, like she's saying 'Really?'"
AnAngryJawa
Keep you warm...
"Getting a good night's sleep. I got so tired of being awakened by someone groping me or poking me in the lower back. The whining about 'why don't you sleep naked' coupled with the 'you don't need blankets - I'll keep you warm.' I can't spend 8 hours every night f**king. I need sleep."
VapoursAndSpleen
EAT IT!!
Tina Fey Nbc GIF by Saturday Night LiveGiphy"You can take a complete cake home and eat all of it."
Both-Ad-3763
Who knew being single could be this fun?! Plenty of people apparently.
I also love me some chewable vitamins. They just go down smoother.
Go High
swings fail GIF by America's Funniest Home VideosGiphy"Swings! Love them."
mamacrocker
"Nothing like being forty years old at a public park and kind of feeling like you need to announce, 'I swear I’m not a creep. I just want to see how high I can go on this thing if I pump my legs really hard.'"
Octuhpie
Weeeee!!!
"Waterslides. Love that sh*t. In fact maybe they are made for adults only screw bringing kids."
burntonionstastegood
"I used to love them. Until I got stuck in one. I got stuck in the ring and if someone never came down early I could have been in there for ages. Panicked the hell out of me man. Now I can’t use them. Shame, cause I used to love them."
FinniboiXD
Classics
"Cartoons."
Ancient_Till_8324
"I grew up watching all the classics like The Grim Adventures of Billy and Mandy, Fairly Odd Parents, Dexter's laboratory, Johnny Bravo, Ed, Edd and Eddy, What's New Scooby Doo, SpongeBob SquarePants. I don't care how old I get, they'll never stop being entertaining."
Amanystya
"There are two types of people: people who never totally outgrew cartoons and liars."
InsomniacCyclops
Playtime
"Playing in the sand at the beach."
preflightjitters
"I mostly see grown men have the most fun playing in the sand. Most kids collect water and dump it. I don't see much playing unless an adult is facilitating. To me playing in the sand is exfoliating so I'm all for it. I used to hate the sand as a child. I didn't know how to properly clean it off before getting home."
SpoonfulofYou
SHOOT!
"Water guns."
Chrome_Armadillo
"Water guns are crap nowadays. 90s Super Soaker was peak. Meanwhile Nerf is better than it’s ever been right now."
Doyouwantaspoon
I miss great water guns. They just fall apart now.
Scoob Forever
Happy Dance GIF by Scooby-DooGiphy"I'm 34 years old and I am sitting in my living room, sipping wine, and annoying the crap out of my darling husband by watching episode after episode of The Scooby Doo Show. I love Scooby and the Gang and I will never stop."
roseblood_red
Just Smile
"Positive reinforcement. I love it when someone tells me I’m doing a great job."
aztechfilm
"I always let my coworkers know they’re doing a great job. Even when it’s not exactly true I like to think I’m the glue that keeps his company together."
Thismonday
"I had positive reinforcements given to me during my military apprenticeship or whatever it's called, it was nice to hear."
manor2003
Jump!
"Bouncy castles."
CataleyaJackson
"I would like to be able to jump in them like I could as a kid. I could jump in them for such a long time. Now after 2 minutes my a** is kicked, gasping for air, and I feel like I'm going to pee my pants."
GlassAndPaint
"I came here to say this. :) I’m thinking about renting one for my 28th birthday this year."
Leading-Cartoonist66
Hugs
"Stuffed animals! I still sleep with a couple in my bed lol."
MauveSectant
"I sleep with a giant serta sheep. heck, he popped a hole 3 months ago, so i took the opportunity, pulled the stuffing out of him, and ran him through a washing machine a few times before putting new stuffing into him! all nice and clean!!!"
Nepeta33
"My partner sleeps with a soft toy dog I bought him years ago. When I have to stay away for work or training, he lets me take it with me and I sleep a million times better with it."
FailedTheSave
Rest Up
nap time GIFGiphy"Naps."
Bile-duck
"I take a quick 30 min nap everyday during my lunch. It’s a fantastic way to boost my energy for the last 4 hours of my shift. And it improves my mood big time. I’m always happier after a nap."
mrunique07
Bursts
"I will die on my deathbed eating a pack of Gushers."
bipnoodooshup
"For the holiday weekend, they had Kool-Aid Bursts 6 for $1 at my local grocery. I should have picked up some gushers as I haven’t had either in probably 20 years. Complete the terrible summer snack as a kid."
2_Spicy_2_Impeach
Tiny. Floating Love.
"Bubbles!"
Parx2k14
"I just bought like a 24-pack of those tiny bottles of bubbles (party favor size), ostensibly for babysitting kit, but I'd be lying if I didn't say I wanted to open a bottle for myself and just sit in my living room blowing bubbles while I watch TV lol. Also just bought a $3 bubble gun for my nieces, just for fun, and I kept trying to convince them to go outside so we could try it out."
jenbenfoo
Puddy Mess
"Playdoh."
turtletoes67
"I have a ton of playdoh in my babysitting bag and I have just as much fun playing with it as the kids lol. But I get a little anal about keeping the colors separated haha."
jenbenfoo
"I love Playdoh but it makes a huge mess."
Weird_person_1670
Classics
"Children’s books. Especially classics like Dr. Seuss or Shel Silverstein poems."
KaleidoscopeVast9290
"I read, 'The Giving Tree' again as an adult and had to fight back tears. It definitely resonated with me in a different way as an adult and with adult experiences."
GlassAndPaint
"'Oh the Places You'll go!' is a timeless classic."
kellyk311
Push Me
Dogs Swinging GIFGiphy"Swings. It is impossible to be in a bad mood after a couple minutes on a swing set, lol..."
PoopComesOutOfMyButt
"obsolete"
"Lego!!! Even better when you're older."
jiveable
"I grew out of my LEGO obsession around my early teenage years, but quickly came back, as bored me found LEGO's digital builder while scouring the internet. I thought to myself that I should at least try it, as I used to play with LEGO a lot when I was a kid."
"Years later, I'm still using the now 'obsolete' LEGO program, and it's successor to create LEGO models. And with my continuous interest with LEGO, I'm starting to revive my physical collection of them, and planning on ordering parts soon for my old LEGO sets I disassembled when I was a kid."
TheRookieBuilder
Be Merry
"I don’t have any children, but I decorate the crap out of my house at Christmas time. I have 5 different trees that I put up all over the house and outside the house, along with all the trimmings."
bzsbal
"My kids are grown and I love to decorate still. I have never bought into the notion that Christmas is for children. Christmas is for everyone."
nosoyvegetarian
"We still decorate the house for Christmas and I always buy new stuff every year. I even left out a plate of cookies and a glass of milk for Santa. (plot twist I ate/drank it)."
PapaTwoToes
Spinning High
Get Ready Waiting GIF by US National ArchivesGiphy"Bought a spin helicopter that goes 150 ft in the air and has led lights on it. Just waiting for it to get dark out."
njdevil956
I want all of these things. Forever.
Oh to be a child again.
There are very few people who don't have a memory that runs through their thoughts every so often, which makes them reminisce about their childhood.
Be it staying up way past your bedtime in a blanket tent to watch a scary movie for the first time, or waking up at Christmas hoping that Santa didn't forget the Power Ranger action figure that you can never find in stores.
It's hard not to look back and smile at the good old days every now and then.
Redditor agentMICHAELscarnTLM was curious to hear what memories instantly sent the Reddit community back on a nostalgia trip, leading them to ask:
"What’s something you can bring up right now to unlock some childhood nostalgia for the rest of us?"
How high could you go?
"That feeling when you are going as high as you can go on the swings."
"Power?"
"Freedom? "
"Hard to describe."- zazzlekdazzle
"What's your function...?"
"Conjunction Junction."- HarlanCulpepper
Before there was facebook.
"That sound of a door opening and shutting on AIM when your friend logs on."- Consistent-Candy6277
in trouble lol GIF by Nicky Rojo
Giphy
Snow Day!!!
"Getting up in the morning on a day it snowed to watch the list of closed schools across the bottom of the news/weather channel hoping your school was closed."- cmokelley213
Does anyone still have a VCR?
"When you'd watch a VHS and it would say 'and now your feature presentation'."- Mickthemouse
bart simpson help GIF
Incentive to avoid mistakes.
"An eraser that looks and smells like a very fake strawberry."- zazzlekdazzle
Just don't push too much...
"Flintstones push pop ice creams."- Reveries25
Sleep in? Pffft!
"Waking up super early on Saturday morning before the rest of the family to watch cartoons."- helltothenoyo
"Mom, I think I have the flu..."
"Watching the Price Is Right when you were sick at home."- mayhemy11·
It goes without saying that there are numerous things about being a child that no one misses.
But oh, the things we wish we could do once more.
Then again, are we ever too old for swings?
I think America certainly has a strong work ethic. We know how to work and win.
Getting Around
Civil Rights Equality GIF by INTO ACTIONGiphy"Accessibility code for buildings. I come from a country where disability is looked upon like a crime or fault. USA does an amazing job making things accessible. I haven’t seen all of USA but majority of the places has amazing system."
snreddit87
The Backbone
"Our public libraries are a real backbone for the country."
"Andrew Carnegie's groundwork in building the institution of free libraries, even in small towns, set a precedent that we wouldn't fathom today but couldn't live without. They often serve not only as an information exchange but as cultural hub, art gallery, performing arts center, tax aid, voter registration, job resources, etc. in communities."
"Plus they're one of the only places you can just exist for hours indoors without the expectation you must buy something.And I feel like they've adapted to the ever-changing needs of their patrons in modern times faster in the US than most places."
"'A library outranks any other one thing a community can do to benefit its people. It is a never failing spring in the desert.' -Andrew Carnegie"
fadedVHS
'restore' or 'create'
"Valuing actual wilderness in places like national parks. Here in England, they will 'restore' or 'create' natural habitats, which is sort-of nice, but they are almost like zoos. They are too small to survive by themselves so they are actively maintained."
"And in some English national parks, they actually allow housing developments as long as the architectural design is sympathetic. Here, 'countryside"'means farms. There is still a notion in the USA of protecting some large wilderness areas from development."
anon5005
Nicotine Fiends
"The rate of smoking cigarettes. We do very little well in the US when it comes to overall health, but we are light years better than most places when it comes to the prevalence of cigarette smoking. Hardcore anti smoking adds + laws of inconvenience + social stigma really did work."
pasta_sauce87
Hollywood
Movie Theater Reaction GIF by CBSGiphy"Films. Don't get me wrong, the US can put out some bad films, but the best ones I've seen are usually American."
ConcreteGardoki
We do do films well. That is a big plus.
Family
Kids Playing GIF by moodmanGiphy"The United States adopts more children than the rest of the world combined."
noodles43r
The Menu
"Burgers. Motherfreakin' burgers."
ProfessorRoyHinkley
"I'd expand that to sandwiches in general. Burgers, Philly cheese steaks, Reubens, subs, clubs, chopped cheese, po'boys, just this whole sandwich spectrum. Americans just took sandwich concepts from across the globe and ran with them."
gurnard
Natural Beauty
"I've always envied your wildlife. I'm from England and the only large wild animals (other than fish) we have are deer, boar and foxes. And they're incredibly rare. I've always thought it was so cool one country could have bears, moose, cougars, alligators, panthers, bison/buffalo, etc."
gateman33
Quickies
"Gas stations like QuikTrip, where they have clean bathrooms, lighted parking lots, free air for your tires, ten different coffees on tap, beer, hotdogs, any soft drink or snack you want, the list goes on. In other countries -- you're not gonna believe this -- their gas stations only sell... gas."
Blort_McFluffuhgus
POWER
bill nye GIFGiphy"The US is an absolute science powerhouse. The technology we come out with has touched the lives of nearly every person on the planet."
AmericanHoneycrisp
Welcome
"I say this as an immigrant who came to this country, so perhaps take it with a grain of salt. But it truly gives people a second chance at life. My life would be nowhere near as good as it is right now if I were back in my home country."
Porongas1993
Maybe America isn't the hot mess a lot of people think it is. We'll see...