"Women of Reddit: What would you like all men to stop doing, immediately, as of right now?"
According to these women, men are stubborn when it comes to their own health.
Losing Sight Of What's Important
"If you have a medical issue please get it sorted... Stop ignoring it!. My partner has been ignoring a problem with his eye and never saw a doctor and had an appointment last year but missed it as he felt he couldnt miss a few hours of work."
"Luckily i made him sit in A&E and told him not to come home until they have seen him."
"He was seen and his sight can now be saved.... If hed have left it he could have gone blind."
– leebling
Saved By The Ex
"My ex had been having health issues for a while. Massive fatigue from simple things like climbing stairs or even just moving around his apartment, night sweats, and his mouth smelled like something died. This went on for months until I finally called his mom and was like 'PLEASE tell your son to go to the doctor. What he's going through is absolutely not normal.' She heard about his zero energy, stopped me, and says immediately (she was on speaker), 'Go to the emergency room.'"
"He had leukemia. The doctor said if he'd waited a few more weeks he would've been dead."
"He's in remission now and doing really, really well!!"
– chibimonkey
When The Body Is Trying To Communicate
"In early Oct. my husband was experiencing severe pain under his ribs. He suffered through it, it got better and would then come back. The pain was so bad he'd vomit and say it felt like he was dying. Wouldn't go to the hospital. I convinced him to go to a doctor and when he came home I asked what they said and he said he didn't bring it up. Then wtf did he even go for?"
"On Dec 22, it happened again and he was scream moaning. I got him in the car, took him to the hospital, vomiting and screaming. Turns out he had severe pancreatitis, gall stones and needed to have his gallbladder out. It completely derailed x-mas, although I'm glad he's ok."
"But, f'king hell, come on. Go to the f'king doctor if you're in that much pain. Your body is telling you something is very wrong."
– idrow1
Things unfortunately did not end well.
A Late Diagnosis
"My Dad finally decided to go to Urgent care because of multiple health issues he could no longer ignore. He went in to see the doctor in May and died that October of terminal lung cancer."
– sharksarentsobad
It Began With A Stubbed Toe
"I had a diabetic co-worker who stubbed his toe. As it began to discolor, he refused to go to the hospital, and would show it to everyone around for lulz. My boss took him off the schedule and told him he can't come back unless he sees a doctor. By that point, the damage was so severe that they had to amputate the toe. It didn't heal, so they had to amputate the first metatarsal. The sudden loss of mobility caused a blood clot to form, which went to his brain and killed him. He went from stubbing his toe to dead in about 6 months."
– LemonFly4012
Women discuss the inappropriate behavior or conduct typically exhibited by the opposite sex.
Declaring Superiority
"Saying they are 'An Alpha male.'”
– kenziecron
It's Offensive
"Stop. neglecting. basic. hygiene."
– gorosheeta
They Don't Need To See That
"Sending unsolicited dick pics. Not that all men do, of course."
– SereneGoldfish
Hands Off
"If you aren’t my husband you have no business touching my waist or lower back. Ever. Stop that now."
– gainswor
It's Called Rejection, Get Over It
"Seeing 'Sorry, I'm not interested!' as a challenge."
– Limp-Sundae5177
Women Can Speak For Themselves
"Suggesting that women who have been sexually harassed or assaulted somehow misunderstood the situation."
– GuacIsExtra27
Anxiety-Inducing
"Coming up to women waiting for the bus alone at night and asking for their phone numbers/asking them out. This happens so often and I don't see how anyone can think it's appropriate. Obviously the answer is always going to be no but it does not feel like a safe situation to give a firm no in."
– KissMyAlpaca
The Audacity
"When I say I’m lesbian I would love for them to stop saying 'you just haven’t met the right guy yet' or 'I can change you if you give me one night with you' it’s disgusting and makes me more of a lesbian, and no I will not give you proof that I am a lesbian for your own pornography fantasies."
– D3m0nkash1
Let's talk about sex, baby.
Porn Is Not A Tutorial
"Treating the stuff they see on porn hub as if it's realistic. Internet porn is not sex ed fellas, nor is it real life. Talk to your partner; communication is key to good sex for both partners."
– catls234
Uncomfortable Gesture
"Yes. Attention men: sawing your hand in and out of a vagina is not erotic or even bearable. Stop it. Stop it a lot."
– onmyknees4anyone
Basically gentlemen, if you are experiencing prolonged physical discomfort, it's not un-masculine to seek professional help.
Also, women would appreciate it if you keep your hands and dick pics to yourself–unless you are given permission.
There you have it folks.
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Curious to explore the things women can't stand about other women, Redditor EvilLord007 opened up a lively discussion after asking:
"Women, what do you wish your fellow women would stop doing immediately?"
These Redditors discussed the damaging effects of flaunting their beauty enhancement procedures.
The Look
"Doing heavy plastic surgery/photoshop and then going out to their young teenage girl audience saying its compleatly natural."
"Like idc if you do it for yourself BUT DONT SAY ITS REAL WHEN ITS NOT."
– SquareUnderwear69
It Comes At A Cost
"I call this the Kardashian Effect."
Obviously, plastic surgery has been around a long, long time and used to be mostly for rich people...but all of these reality shows and fake celebrities are making it more popular than ever, and that pressure is reaching a lot of young and impressionable people."
"I personally know people who have taken out loans and gone into debt so they can get a boob job or get their lips done. And the worst part is...it doesn't even look good."
"Someone I used to know was a very pretty, natural looking girl...then she moved to Vegas, has gotten a ton of work done, and looks like a creepy Barbie doll. It's weird."
– onamonapizza
Having A Bad Influence
"This specifically relates to influencers but they need to stop denying that they've had plastic surgery. It feeds into the unrealistic beauty standards we already have."
– littleecce
Compliments aren't always generated from a genuine place.
Fake Niceties
"The fake nice compliments which are actually insults."
"I’ve got a coworker who compliments me and then looks at me like I’m crazy when I take it at face value."
"Lady you’re 40. I don’t think either of us have time for mental warfare. Be nice or don’t, but don’t play this A** backwards high school game."
– rizcriz
Wearing It Well
"Had a friend who dealt with something similar like this:"
"Wow you're so confident wearing that blouse."
"Thank you. I figured if you can do it, so can I. So thank you!"
– Sir_Meowsalot
Unsolicited Beauty Tip
“'Your eyebrows would be fierce if you shaped them.' -Random lady in my pregnancy yoga class."
"🤨 Girl step back or I will sit on you."
– Beckella
Judgy Behavior
"I just hate that women still care about that stuff after high school. Were all grown ups now, we can do what we want. I don’t need to be in your little group of cheerleaders, just leave me and my ugly cat jumper alone."
– Zeefzeef
Women call out other women who are trying to convince them of something they have no business suggesting.
Expectations
"Policing other women based on your own choices. Example- oh you’re a certain age. You should get married, I had a child by that age."
"You also owned a house and a car and you’re healthy AF."
– deceptionaldpka
The Scheme
"Trying to get me to join their MLM."
– cherrycherry13
The Sales Pitch
"Always remember when my wife got invited to 'just a girly hang out with some wine, I'll also show you some of the make-up stuff I've been working with' with one of the other mums from school."
"Soon enough, the sales pitch starts..."
"Which, whatever, she liked some of the products but wasn't really keen on buying a £20-a-month membership just to be allowed to buy them."
"But what really irked her was that this woman always said how busy she was with work. After seeing what her work was (inviting friends over for pitches, and filling out order forms), my wife quietly fumed. She's working 10 hour days in a tough field trying to get settled on the career ladder, while MLM Wine Mum With Husband Earning Big City Bucks huffs about work being so busy."
– AndyVale
Leave My Face Alone
"please stop pointing my acne out and recommending a thousand products . I know my pimples .I get you are trying to help but please don't."
– Frenzy008
Mothers can have a tendency to perpetuate a horrible mindset about body image.
Pitting Daughters Against One Another
"Stop competing with their own daughters. Like fr, wtf?!"
– Louise_Nguyen
What Mom Thinks
"On Christmas Eve, my mother said 'you girls get your weight from your daddy,' my mother is not a skinny woman, she has always been my size or bigger."
– theminutia
Creating Sibling Rivalry
"My sisters and I are always being told we're so hairy in comparison with her, legs, pits etc. Feminine toxicity at its finest."
– moshennick
The Harsh Critic
"My mother would always try to tell me my butt and boobs were too small."
"I was shocked when a past FWB was like 'idk why you keep saying your a** is too flat. It’s really not.' One of the first times I felt like my false reality of my appearance shattered."
"Wtf is with parents sh**ting on their kids’ appearances?"
– savwatson13
Ladies, did any of these scenarios sound familiar or resonate with you?
What would you add to this list of grievances?
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Curious to explore what some of those are, Redditor lifesabystander asked:
"Men, what do wish your fellow men would stop doing immediately?"
There was plenty of discussion on bathroom etiquette.
Improper Aim
"Peeing on the floor in front of the urinal. What the f'k is wrong with you? Now everyone else has to either step in your piss or try to long distance pee into the f'king urinal."
– GueroInfernal
Keeping The Seat Dry
"Dude, don't f'king pee all over the seat of a public toilet. Why the f'k would you do that?"
"Edit: Don't do it outside the urinal and all over the f'king floor either.Clean if you make a mess, but don't just leave it there man. That's an a**hole move."
– howwouldiknow--
DNA Wall
"Stop wiping your boogers on the wall at the urinal. Publicly shaming the next person i see doing this. edited for decorum."
– GRAHAMPUBA
Proper hygiene gets the spotlight here.
Be Clean
"Being super unhygienic. Wash your f'king hands with soap and water. Clean your f'king a** so you’re not sporting skid marks on all your underwear."
– CoMMoN-EnEmY
Mind The Backside
"Wash your a**, please. It won’t turn you gay."
– scaryboilednoodles
"I've had enough gay sex to assure you there is no correlation."
– theblackmeridian
"They let the water trickle down their ass and say its “clean enough”. The horror stories ive heard from women…"
– Global_Yam1340
And this behavioral display in the presence of women needs to go.
Not Putting Your Dukes Up
"Fighting over women, let her go. Move on."
"Getting into a fist fight over a lady because you both like her etc, Aint worth it."
– lolparty247
Respect
"Harassing women who are minding their business. If someone isn’t interested don’t insult them or do worst. I’ve seen stories where women lose their lives because they reject a man. Ridiculous."
– kingjcpymd
Flirt Elsewhere
"If she’s working out, leave her the f'k alone. I don’t care how good she looks in spandex, a sports bra, leggings, etc. She’s not there to date. Find her on Tinder."
– BeerJunky
Poorly Expressing Regrets
"Stop asking me for forgiveness at the nightclub after groping my girlfriend. You harassed her, not me. She shouldn’t have to have a boyfriend for you to respect her."
– Zackmaestro
Cowardly Attitude
"Honestly, it’s hard to believe the things people have said to my ex wife and daughter when I wasn’t there. No one has ever spoken to me the way they’ve said men speak to them out and about. I can’t think of anything more cowardly."
"I think this falls into the same category, only willing to treat women with respect when there is a man there to defend them. It took me years to realize this is the reality most women live with."
– painterman2080
Based on the examples above, there were plenty of male-centric issues we could all do without.
I do strongly agree, however, that urinating into the urinal is a good starting point.
That's a personal one for me, as I've slipped on a puddle of urine at a public restroom. I landed in the puddle created by the reprobate who probably mistook the bathroom drain itself for a urinal.
Do the right thing, fellas. Aim properly.
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