Children have a way of surprising us.
Sometimes, we tell ourselves that they won't understand certain conversations we have, or some situations will go over their heads and will be forgotten the next day.
Only to discover that they, in fact, take far more in than we realize, and understand all too well what's going on.
Eventually saying things to us which tug at our heartstrings, and result in tears.
Sharing something about themselves which we somehow missed, all the while teaching us a thing or two on how to be open with them.
All we want to do at the moment is give them a hug, even though we know all too well that a hug won't solve the deep-rooted problems they've revealed, intentionally or not, about their lives.
"What's the most depressing thing you have heard a child say?"
Even Just For A Quick Hello
“'I wish my dad cared to visit more often, I really miss him'.”- Odd-Mango-3083
Unsafe In Her Own Home
"A young girl said:"
"'All my parents do is fight. I have to hide in my room not to get hit when they start throwing things'."- Back2Bach
Only A Few Words Can Make All The Difference
"A teenager I helped in a dental atmosphere I could tell was struggling with her mental health."
"I gave her words of encouragement and as she left she said, 'Thank you for actually caring'."
"I had to fight back tears and think about her all the time and hope she's well."- invisiblegirl_8
Even Children Can Hide Their Unhappiness
"A 9 year old walking to school, a class-mate of my son and always so cheerful."
"'I wished that car had run me over'."
"I followed up with a probing question and she was indeed serious."
"That one really hit home."
"That the kid down the street was having a nightmare which she hid behind her pleasant facade."
"Just to alleviate concerns, I had a chat with the school the same day, and they were already aware of problems and this further underlined them."
"Last I heard she and her family were getting support from social services."- winter_limelight
Stability Makes A Difference
"My brother once told me he missed his old school through tears. he was only 7/8 at the time."
"For context, we’ve always moved around."
"I’ve gone to about 5 elementary schools, 2 middle schools, and 3 high schools."
"I know for a fact that I was messed up from it."
"I don’t like letting people in because i don’t trust people to be a permanent figure in my life and i have big abandonment issues."
"To see my brother go down that same exact path, struggling to really fit in somewhere, and constantly having to leave your friends."
"It breaks my heart."- a_reneel
Never Take The Simple Things For Granted
"My brother brought his friend to a family dinner once and the friend brought his little brother along."
"He was like 12ish."
"The little brother was hanging out with my mom and I in the kitchen while we cooked and once he realized what we were doing, he got so excited and fascinated."
"He wanted to see every step of everything we were doing and asked tons of questions."
"Then he goes 'it's so cool that you guys can cook, I've never seen anyone cook before'."
"His home life is absolute sh*t and turns out his dad doesn't cook, the closest he'll get is making ramen or boxed macaroni."- MotherOfBorzoi
It's Easy To See Why He Felt This Way
"My cousin overheard his parents fighting and once it was over he just approached his mom and went 'some things are evident, dad doesn’t love mom'."
"Not exactly that cuz it was in Spanish but that was basically what he meant."- chicken_wings_delux
Their Own Mother...
"'My mum and I have our own lives, she's out living hers and im here living mine'."
"A 9 year old me paraphrased of course but no less tragic."- manymanylegs
Children Are Easily Influenced
"'I can't go to jail'."
"'I have to be home to give my mom narcan if she needs it'."
"Very depressing shoplifting interview that turned into a CPS case'."- Sanguiniutron
Do I Know You?
"What if you haven't seen your father in so long that when he shows up and he says he's your dad, how do you know that's him?"- notthisagain0088
It's devastating to hear when children reveal they're in an unhappy or unsafe situation.
Especially when they don't even realize it.
It leaves us wondering, what we can do, and how can we help?
No matter the situation, the first and most helpful thing we can do is listen.
Sometimes, all they need is a pair of ears who actually hears what they're saying.
And through listening to them, steps toward finding a solution might become more apparent.
I didn't understand pain–the real, agonizing kind–until I had some health problems some years ago that landed me in the hospital. It was a horrible experience and I remember thinking that I would never experience relief from it.
I'm one of the lucky ones and have since recovered. But the experience was a humbling one, and I can tell you that it changed how I view other people's struggles.
Pain is debilitating! Be kind to the people around you who are dealing with.
That bit about being kind? That's the general theme of the stories here, which people were keen to share after Redditor PhilosoFeed asked the online community,
"What did you not understand until you experienced it?"
"Crippling back pain. Have had to crawl on all fours to the bathroom and couldn't stand up to even pee."
monkeydluffy22
Having experienced it myself, I can confirm that it is HORRIBLE.
"I had always had sinus headaches..."
"Migraines. I had always had sinus headaches and I thought I knew what headaches were like. A migraine is like death."
diegojones4
I know people who experience them with some regularity and the pain is clearly debilitating in every sense of the word.
"You never know what other people..."
"Anxiety/panic attacks and how absolutely debilitating they can be. You never know what other people may be going through. Be gentle with each other people."
rumpusbutnotwilds
Absolutely! They can be terrifying for the people experiencing them. They are no joke.
"It wasn't until my youngest brother..."
"Severe grief. I have had people close to me die before but I never understood it as everybody dies and while it’s sad you can still function."
"It wasn’t until my youngest brother took his own life that I understood. It was like my heart was ripped out of my chest and I was a zombie going through life not feeling anything other than overwhelming sadness."
Farkenoathm8-E
We extend our condolences.
Grief is horrible.
"I had always wanted to..."
"Living in a foreign country. I had always wanted to escape my home country and live abroad. Now I'm living in a foreign country and I feel lonely and isolated. I don't regret my decision but I miss my friends."
pousiquette
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They always say, "don't meet your heroes." But here's the thing, sometimes your celebrities are actually just chill, normal people who are overjoyed to meet ...Add in some xenophobia and it's easy to feel like an outsider when you're far from home.
"The way modern day America..."
"Poverty. The way modern day America views poverty is so immoral it makes me sick on a daily basis. I see cops spend more time harassing the homeless man on the corner then I see them actually keeping me safe."
fashionablystoned
But why don't you just "pull yourself up by your bootstraps," huh?
See that? That's a toxic mindset.
"I never understood..."
"I never understood why some people don't leave their abusive partners until I found myself in one of those relationships. It's been two years already since I left and I still have trust issues."
dana561
We're glad to hear you're out! Best wishes on your continued recovery.
"I've never watched a full game..."
"Going to sports games in general. I recently went to an NHL game. I’ve never watched a full game of hockey in my life and I was slapping the glass with an animal instinct I didn’t know I had."
Cornchucker2
Sounds like it was thrilling! Hockey games are the best examples of this, in my experience.
"There was a really bad crash on the road..."
"Horror."
"There was a really bad crash on the road while I was driving to work in the early hours of the morning. I stopped and went to help the person that had gotten hit. She had several kids in the car, and she asked me to get them out."
"One of the kids had passed in the crash. I can't even begin to describe how I felt because it was so alien to me, when I went to take him out his car seat."
November1738
That poor woman and those poor children. We're sorry to hear about this experience but we're glad that you were able to be there.
"I naively thought..."
"Ageism in hiring. I naively thought if you are smart and someone who works hard you’d never have to worry about finding a job. And then I started looking for a new job in my 40s."
jayworden
61% of respondents over the age of 45 reported having seen or experienced age discrimination in their careers, according to a study by AARP.
We're sorry if some of these were depressing to think about but hopefully they serve as a good reminder to be kind and to be gentle with the people around you.
Experiences like these can humble you immensely. And the more understanding you try to be before they happen to you, the better prepared you should be to navigate the waters yourself.
Have some experiences of your own? Feel free to tell us more in the comments below!
If you or someone you know is struggling, you can contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255).
To find help outside the United States, the International Association for Suicide Prevention has resources available at https://www.iasp.info/resources/Crisis_Centres/
People Who've Cleaned A Deceased Loved One's Home Share Their Most Interesting Finds
The passing of a loved one can be a very difficult experience. Going through their home that once held their life can be cathartic and healing, or incredibly difficult to process.
Grief can be processed through the ritual of going through their belongings, especially if you enlist the help of others and really take the care needed to go through the stages of grief.
You may find a piece of their life that no one knew about. Maybe they had a hobby that they never shared or they kept a journal with thoughts they kept a secret.
Redditor swamptheyard asked:
"Those who've cleaned out their deceased loved one's household after their death what did you discover inside their home that was interesting?"
Get the tissue box ready.
A friend that stole her cloths.
"When I cleaned out my best friend's apartment I found a bunch of my shirts that had been missing that she'd claimed not to have. I started laughing, called her a b*tch, and then just started crying. It was just a lot of complex emotions. Feeling she could have had the world if she wanted, could have kept whatever of mine she wanted if I could just have her back. She just had to give up the needle. Felt so helpless, not being able to help her."
- kliffard
"Wow I lost one of my greatest friends to heroin overdose, and reading this sounds just like the relationship between her and I. You know she was cracking up when you found out she did indeed have those clothes you were looking for too, but that sister-type friendship where your love language is talking sh*t to each other knowing it's nothing but love speaking. My friend battled with trying to get clean, she, unfortunately, got bailed out of jail the night of Christmas eve to be around family and friends for Christmas. That night she decided to use and died while sitting on her bed. It still is hard to accept to this day. I wanted to go through her room to have something of hers for memorabilia, but I just couldn't step foot into the room that once was alive with laughter, goofiness and memories."
A journal for the museum.
"My grandma kept a pretty detailed journal of her life from 5 years old on up. Keep in mind, I'm old, but she crossed the US in a covered wagon to homestead in the Midwest. The journal belongs in a museum."
"I'm going to dig out the journal and do the right thing with it. I've already researched the historical museum in the town where she homesteaded. I'll see about letting them have it, maybe on loan."
"She was awesome. Traveled in a covered wagon at age 5. Lived in a sod house with a dirt floor for a year. Cooked and kept warm with buffalo and cow poop. Gathered rocks off the farm to make a foundation. Rode a horse to school every day to a one room school house. Won the county spelling bee. Became the school marm at age 16. Raised 3 kids by herself during the depression (even bought a small house). Lived to see man walk on the moon."
"Her father became a Teamster. And I mean a REAL teamster in that he drove a wagon pulled by a 20 mule team. He delivered goods to country stores. The wagons were the forerunners to 18 wheelers."
"Archivist here and I absolutely agree with everyone that says this should be preserved and made available (if you're comfortable with it). If you aren't ready to let it go, digitization is always an option, or just finding an archive, library, or museum that you can bequeath it to when you're ready."
"That's a record of the old American experience. You should [100%] contact a local library or publisher to see about saving that record. That's an extremely valuable piece of Americana art."
"I would say keep that, just for you. Or do a scan and put a PDF in like 'Gutenberg Project' maybe. :) I always wondered what life was like back then. History of America never interested me, except the stuff that happened in the bygone eras of cowboys and the like (even if I learned from a AMH professor, some of it was nostalgia and stuff from the .10cents novels). Interesting to know, that she was just like us, with less material possessions and probably got just as annoyed by the going-on in her life."
A collector.
"After a close friend died, I helped clean out his house. Found shelves and shelves of (hundreds of) bottles of hot sauce. All different kinds. Boxes and boxes of MTG cards, all unopened. Dozens of pairs of sneakers, still in boxes. And a whole bathroom stacked floor to ceiling with rolls of toilet paper (pre-covid). You were a weirdo, Doug. I f*cking miss you."
"Doug invested his money apparently, and could be sitting on someone else's retirement depending on the value of the cards. Sorry you lost your friend, did you keep anything he owned in memory of him? Curious about all that hot sauce he owned though, like did he collect hot sauces, or were they empty and he ate tha on literally everything?"
"Thank you. He left everything to another friend of ours who really needed it and they are doing well now. I kept a few handwritten notes I found and a quilt :) the hot sauce was mostly full bottles, and it got distributed among our friend group."
Hidden treasure.
"$30,000 in the freezer."
"Now that's some cold hard cash."
"Was it wrapped up and stuffed in a bag labeled 'Veal'?"
"Actually, no, it was in several Cool Whip containers."
"When my brother died, we had to sort through every little thing because he hid money all over the place. Taped behind drawers and pictures, in socks, hidden in all kinds of weird places. Ended up with nearly 15k by the end of it."
"My eccentric Great Uncle had almost a quarter million in grocery bags scattered around his house. He'd been a professional gambler most of his life and so never worked or trusted banks."
- zerbey
Very confusing.
"I cleaned out my Dad's closet and found a pocket knife with the confederate flag on it. We're Black, so I was very confused 😂 now I carry it around because it reminds me of him. I've gotten a few stares 🥴"
- eboniya
Thankfully, it was forgotten about.
"My senile/Alzheimer depressive grandpa had a gun in his bedroom drawer all along. We don't know how, when or why he got it, but we're happy that he seemed to have forgotten about it and didn't use it."
Russian artifacts.
"When I cleaned out my grandparents house I found a bunch of stuff my grandma took when she left Russia and now I have bunch Stalin era commie crap in my garage."
"My grandparents weren't on the winning side of the war if you catch my drift. A lot of it's bad a** cause it's from the era I just don't know what to do with it all."
"Your local museum might be interested! Doesn't hurt to ask."
"A Russian friend of mine helped clear out her grandmother's apartment after she passed away in the early 1990s. One of the coolest things they found was a freestanding kitchen cabinet with a false back. They tipped it the wrong way and a secret door cracked open. Behind the door was an Russian Orthodox shrine and her bible. Guess you didn't want to get caught with that in your house during the Stalin era."
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The Actors Who Seemed Miscast But Absolutely Nailed The RoleFew people bought into the idea of Bryan Cranston in the role of Walter White before Breaking Bad...Dad's that kept the love strong.
"When I cleared out my dads house last year just as my dad had only just moved house I found old note pads/journals from when he use to drink a lot before he got sober and some of them were from when he was in a pretty dark place. I wish I'd never opened and read some but they were pretty detailed and one even had a 'goodbye note' in I can only imagine what else he was hiding in his mind. I found an old stuffed doll that was very poorly made it was hidden at the bottom of a box in his wardrobe, I hadn't seen it in years (I was 5 when I made it). And yet here it was, safe and sound, lovingly kept throughout the years. Although I swear it looked better when I made it haha. Thanks, dad."
"We didn't really clean out the household because it's still our family home but after my dad passed we were going through some of his things like wallets and clothes and this man kept pictures of my mom everywhere. We were constantly finding them in his pants, his duffel bag, his backpack and all of his wallets had at least 2-3 pics of my mom. It was more confirmation of just how much my dad really loved my mom and it made me happy to have seen a love like that in my parents but it also made me so sad knowing that my mom had to continue living on without him."
Rolex.
"My grandparents were dirt poor, so none of us expected to find an actual Rolex when clearing out my grandpas stuff. Obviously one of my relatives immediately 'went to get it valued' and ran off with the thing. The fun part is Grandma was still alive at the time, and still dirt poor. Imagine stealing the literal only thing of value your mother has for no reason. So it goes."
- Redditor
Not what they thought it was.
"My friend's grandmother died, and he bought her house from his parents and Aunt. It needed a ton of work and I was helping him gut the basement. We pulled down part of the ceiling and a dusty old leather bag fell out of the ceiling onto the floor. We looked at each other, at the bag, and back to each other with that 'Holy F*ckballs we just found a bag of cash' look on our faces."
"We opened up the bag, and found a bunch of old pictures of his grandma and grandpa, and a bunch of their friends. Naked. Apparently his grandparents were swingers back in the day. We did what we felt was the only proper thing to do. Put them all back in the bag and sealed it up into the new ceiling when we put it up. Hopefully it will psychologically damage some other poor souls in 50-60 years."
Fun runs.
"We cleared out my grandfather's dresser after my grandma decided she couldn't do it. We found a bunch of t-shirts from various nudist fun runs he'd attended, the most recent of which took place when he was 75! My grandma was embarrassed when she realized he had kept the shirts, and admitted to frequenting a nudist beach with him until he got sick. I would've never guessed!"
"Wait…a t-shirt from a nudist fun run? Kind of defeats the purpose."
- nzcnzcnz
"Please tell me you kept some of those shirts. Like, can you imagine wearing it out to a bar and getting a compliment on it and being able to say, 'Thanks! It was my grandpas!' That, and commemorative nudist t-shirts are a weird thing to have."
"My mom like really wanted to toss them but my sister and I managed to smuggle out a couple! Mine says 'Bare Buns Fun Run' which is a delightful alliteration I think lol"
Not as clean as they thought.
"When my parents passed on I inherited their house. They were clean/organized (I am not). We found in every closet packed to the ceiling with useless crap! So they were secret … hoarders!"
Pieces of history.
"Does downsizing count? Mum dug out stuff that we never knew existed. Or never knew she kept."
"Three Purple Heart medals. Two engraved with names: my dad's and my uncle's. The third was not engraved and we have no idea who it was given to."
"Letters exchanged mostly between my dad and his mother during WWII. A whole shoebox full. Mum's wedding book with notes and pictures I had never seen. Like how they first met (at a picnic basket fund raiser) when he proposed (on a motorcycle,) and where they went on their honeymoon (Baton Rouge, Louisiana.)"
"Funeral Guest Books from her mother's and father's funerals. One from Dad's funeral. Copies of their birth and death certificates. Copies of wills, and various legal papers."
"Mum's journals she first started when she was a young girl in the late 1930s."
- EC-Texas
WWII Memorabilia.
"I found all my great grandfather's war trophies from his time in the European Theater of WWII."
"SO many Nazi belt buckles, patches, guns, etc."
"My family has my grandpa's 'trophies' of patches and such that he would take off of Nazi soldiers he killed as well."
They didn't even know what they had.
"Not me but my grandfather and his siblings cleared out their brother's home."
"Because they all grew up in the Depression my uncle was justifiably suspicious of banks, doubly so as a Black man, so he had a lot of money hidden in the house. There was very old money and silver stuffed everywhere. My mother tried to persuade them to keep it, because of its value, but they just rolled up all the coins and stacked the bills and took them to the bank. We're talking like old Walking Liberty dollars and the like, red seal bills and everything else. He died in the early 90s, so he had money dating back decades, some of it from the previous century. It was nuts."
"I'm sure some enterprising numismatist made out like a bandit."
Memories, history, and relics from a time now in the past. We hold only these pieces of our loved ones lives to help keep their spirit alive.
Or maybe we hold onto it for our own healing or peace of mind.
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We're all going to die. There I said it. It's something I often try to avoid thinking about. I live with an unhealthy fear of death. I pray there is an afterlife because losing this life would be a bummer. But one day, with enough therapy, I'll hopefully get a grip and accept the inevitable.... for something faaaaaaaaaar in the distant future. And when death does come knocking I pray my exit is painless, quiet and quick.
Although after following the reddit chain below my nerves are shot. It seems we all might be a little obsessed with death. People have some very creative and miserable ways to perish. Why we do think this way?
Redditor u/gravy_fetish was wondering about the final moments we'll all be facing one day, who feels likes sharing their thoughts on a final exit? It was asked..... What is the absolute worst way to die?Cast Away
Drifting in the middle of the ocean with no chance of rescue.
José Salvador Alvarenga unfortunately had to endure this fate. Survived though surprisingly after 14 months.
Caved
Occasionally I see news stories about people (often cavers) crawling into very tight spaces and being unable to get out and dying. I have an absolute terror of very tight confinement and am extremely claustrophobic. I'm having to look away from my computer just writing this. If I even think about the possibility of dying that way I have to get up and pace around the room.
On the Wheel....
Being broken on the wheel. I think it might even be worse than burning at the stake because of how long it takes. Basically they tied you to a wagon wheel and then smashed all your limbs with sledgehammer and then threaded the mangled wreck through the spokes like some bloody, moaning octopus and hung the wheel up in the public square until you died, which apparently could take days.
Cartoon Death
Being chained down in a vat of acid that's only just barely strong enough to disintegrate you at an incredibly slow rate.
The Roman Way
Crucifixion. The Romans were masters of torture, so they devised the cross as the ultimate torture punishment. Crucified prisoners would have to hold up their body to avoid being suffocated. It's like being slowly suffocated, but drawn out so you can physically feel yourself dying sometimes over the course of days. Plus, everyone gets to see your junk and bloody body.
Depleted Air....
I think being buried alive, running out of air and trying to escape only to drown in dirt is the one that scares me the most.
Ryan Reynolds did a movie about that called Buried, it was really good and made it hard for me to breathe safely on my couch.
Thought that was it....
I had complications after having my gall bladder removed, which included a massive bile (alkaline) leak into my abdomen, its was incredibly painful. By the time they figured out what was going on, and were taking me back into theatre, I had to hold my stomach as it was so swollen and the bile sloshing around while being wheeled on the stretcher was agony.
Melted....
lava GIFGiphyLava.
For one, you don't sink. Since it's molten rock, it's more dense than your body. You'd hit the lava, submerge for a second, then pop back up. Meanwhile, your skin would start boiling off, and since your body is 80% water, you'd skid across the top of the lava like a droplet of water, your skin still burning, until eventually you explode in a fantastical flash of guts and blood.
The Bull....
Probably something to be said for the Brazen Bull, a method of execution so terribly that according to legend the king that commissioned it thought it was so terrible that he had the engineer who came up with it killed via the mechanism he made, because surely he was awful for having come up with it.
Basically it's a big metal tube you put a person in and then put it over a fire, so they roast to death.
WTF?!
Strapped down, rat in a bucket on your stomach and then hot coals placed atop the bucket to ensure the rat borrows away from the heat. What a horrible way to die.
Keep Eating...
Starvation. It's actually relatively difficult to starve to death, and is in no way a quick end. When faced with starvation, the body will burn through its fat stores for energy. Once that runs out, it will go for the muscle but, eventually, it's going to run out of options. The extreme lack of vitamins and minerals will likely lead to a severely weakened immune system. It might be this, as opposed to exclusively starvation, that eventually finishes you off as you would have little defense against all kinds of diseases.
Agony....
Third degree burns, sometimes people take a week or longer to die, in total agony.
Radiation sickness is still far worse.
Source: have read all the IAEA incident reports several times.
Edit: https://www.iaea.org/publications/search/topics/accident-reports?keywords=
Hard on the family....
My dad recently passed from creutzfeld jakob.
I'd say in his case it wasn't so terrible for him, he simply wouldn't notice how he slowly just... went away. Also it isn't painful at all.
It's hard on the family though, imagine Alzheimers disease but the whole thing goes down in something like 3 months.
One day he seemed to be doing okay next day he didn't know who we were, couldn't form a coherent sentence and didn't know how to use a spoon.
Rabies seems painful and miserable, totally agree.
Ok Hannibal....
Being flayed sounds pretty dismal. They cut your skin away from the circumference of the hips, peel it up over your torso, and then tie the skin off over your head, so you end up suffocating in a bag of your own skin. But while you hang there suffocating they throw salt and acid at the now exposed raw flesh of your body the entire time.
Titanic 2
titanic leonardo dicaprio GIFGiphyTrapped in a sinking boat at night.
Jim_Dickskinhttps://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2004/05/a-sea-story/302940/
One of the best articles I've ever read about a passenger ship sinking in the black sea in the 90s that went down with many people. Legitimately first hand account of chaos and terror.
up the what?!
Being impaled slowly on a hot metal poker, starting up the rectum.
My dad knew a guy whose sister was sold some screwed up drugs and died from an OD. He tracked the dealer down and beat them to death with a baseball bat akin to Lucille in TWD. He's doing life in prison.
the blood....
I'd have to say bleeding out. You're just sitting there, in pain, hoping someone can help you, dreading the moment of your death, and then you realize death would at least end the pain you're in, or you just lay there and cry about how there was so much you wanted to do with your life, how you had dreams you wanted to make a reality. You either welcome your death, hope for help, or just wish that you got to live your life to the fullest and look back on every decision you wish you didn't make. It's a combination of both physical and mental pain.
Tubing....
I've this recurring fear since I was little. Imagine a long tube that's slightly inclined, and closed on one end. It's just wide enough for you to fit. You are put hear first into the tube, your head is slightly below your feet, you cannot move, and it's completely pitch black. The tube is slowly filling up with water.
The Nasty.....
There are lots of particularly nasty diseases out there, but one of the worst I have seen is ALS (Lou Gehrig's disease). You are completely lucid, completely cognitively intact, but you slowly lose control of all of your muscles. You lose the ability to move your mouth for speech or swallowing. You cannot swallow your saliva, it either falls out of your mouth, or down your throat. The only part of your body that you can control is your eyes. If you're lucky, someone will bring you a large alphabet board and you can look at each letter, and spell out words.
Some people are lucky and get a fancy Eye gaze communication board, but they are somewhat difficult to program, and have a learning curve. Your helper has to know how to set it up so that your eyes can be tracked. Eventually, you die because you lose the ability to make your diaphragm work, so you just cannot breathe, but you are conscious the whole time.
Top 10
Things in my top 10:
Chopped up by woodchipper feet first.
Killed by Crocidile/Alligator.
Sucked out of an airplane, & fall to your death.
Mauled by lion/bear/tiger/any big predator who will surely kill you for predatorial purposes.
Swarmed by rats or ants, & eaten alive.
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A good book, film, TV show, or video game will work itself into your life and make an impact, somehow.
Well-written and developed characters feel like your best friends. You know them inside and out. The loss of one of those characters can create grief within you. That grief can last a lifetime. It can teach you, but it can also really pain you at the most unexpected moments.
u/Bradcastle76 asked:
Which fictional character's death have you not gotten over?
Here were some of those answers.
Warning: spoilers ahead.
A Poor Sacrifice
Jorge from Halo Reach
He sacrificed himself by blowing up the Covenant super carrier, thinking his actions saved Reach.
Then moments later the whole Covenant armarda appears out of slip space to eventually burn the planet he loved to much to glass.
The Final Frontier
Data. I was handling it okay, then his brother started singing a halting and broken version of "Blue Skies" and I was just crushed.
It came out 20 years ago... Is it still a spoiler?
The Land In My Own Time
Guess I'm getting too old.
Littlefoots Mom. Probably the saddest kids movie death ever. It was WAY too much. I felt like I lost my own Mom that day.
My 2.5yo son cries when this scene hits (and the one where Littlefoot sees what he thinks is her shadow).
We've begun to fast forward when those two scenes come up.
Hell... I tear up myself too
See You, Space Cowboy
Spike Spiegel from Cowboy Bebop. To this day I still can't help but get choked up when it finishes panning up into the sky from him bleeding out on the stairs, and in the last frames of the show you see his star briefly shine brighter than all the others, then fade away into nothing. "You're gonna carry that weight."
Combined with Mai Yamane belting her heart out singing Yoko Kanno's 'Blue' and ending softly on the lyrics "Everything is clearer now, life is just a dream you know, that's never ending. I'm ascending..." It may very well be the most powerful scene of any show I've seen, anime or otherwise.
Here's the full clip but again it's major spoilers and honestly doesn't hit the same if you haven't seen Spike's journey up until here and understood the tragic senselessness of his death.
Our Collective First Trauma
Please come down Charlotte. There must be something I can do.
No Wilbur. Don't you know what you've already done? You made me your friend. And in doing so you made a spider beautiful to everyone in that barn.
I didn't do anything Charlotte. You did it all.
No. My webs were no miracle, Wilbur. I was only describing what I saw. The miracle is you.
The Most Realistic
Brooks from the Shawshank redemption
Dear fellas,
I can't believe how fast things move on the outside. I saw an automobile once when I was a kid, but now they're everywhere. The world went and got itself in a big damn hurry. The parole board got me into this halfway house called "The Brewer" and a job bagging groceries at the Foodway. It's hard work and I try to keep up, but my hands hurt most of the time. I don't think the store manager likes me very much. Sometimes after work, I go to the park and feed the birds. I keep thinking Jake might just show up and say hello, but he never does. I hope wherever he is, he's doin' okay and makin' new friends. I have trouble sleepin' at night. I have bad dreams like I'm falling. I wake up scared. Sometimes it takes me a while to remember where I am. Maybe I should get me a gun and rob the Foodway so they'd send me home. I could shoot the manager while I was at it, sort of like a bonus. I guess I'm too old for that sort of nonsense any more. I don't like it here. I'm tired of being afraid all the time. I've decided not to stay. I doubt they'll kick up any fuss. Not for an old crook like me.
P.S: Tell Heywood I'm sorry I put a knife to his throat.
No hard feelings.
Brooks.
Remember Me
Grandma Coco from the Disney Movie Coco. That film got me weeping from start to end.
I was fine through Coco right up until the end and then I was just sobbing for a looooong time even after the credits rolled.
Don't Leave Me, Come Back
Kelsier from the Mistborn trilogy. He was my favorite character and I really did not expect his death. I was waiting for him to come back, because I really could not believe that he was indeed dead. I wanted to continue the trilogy after the first book, but missed Kelsier too much. A few years later I finally finished the second and third book and have to say, they were great, even without him! Brandon Sanderson just did a really good job with this series.
Through The Veil
Sirius Black.
He lived in an abusive household for almost 17 years, then fought dark wizards for a few years, then put in Azkaban ( without a trial, and accusing him of associating with his abusive family he ran away from and killing the family he ran towards) and tormented with dementors for 12 years, 1 year of reliving his worst memories and then Bam! Dies. He deserved a good life.
RIP Mako
Lu Ten, Uncle Irohs Son. Avatar the last Airbender.
While we didn't see his death first hand, I felt like I was mourning a son of my own when Iron sang that song. Still tears me up.