People Who Have Been Called Out For Ghosting Someone Share Their Side Of The Story
October 28 | 2020
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All you have to do is say.... "I'm just not that into you!" "I've moved on." "I will call the police, go away!" Ghosting is so petulant and it only causes more harm then good. Just explain, even a quick... "not now. NOT EVER!" I know life gets hectic and really, we don't owe people anything, but shedding a little light and a little decency goes a long way. And PS... if you're the one whose been ghosted....take a hint and move on. Be grateful you dodged a bullet.
Redditor u/till-mann wanted some answers, answers we've all been waiting for.... they asked.... People who are ghosting other people, have you ever been called out, if so, how did that make you feel?<div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_1"></div>
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To Grandparent's House
<p>My biological brother was ghosted by the woman his father was dating, who fathered 3 kids with her. I was adopted and so didn't meet my brother until our 30s when i heard this.</p><p>Apparently our dad was awful, so it's good I was adopted out but, my brother lived through the worst of it. My brother was 14, living with his dad, the girlfriend and the 3 young boys they had together when his dad was killed in a drunk driving accident ( he was the drunk). </p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_36" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>My brother came home from school one day shortly after and she had packed up the whole house and just left without telling him he guesses because he wasn't her responsibility. At 14 he came back to an empty house. He had to call his grandparents 3 hours away to come get him.</p><p>Horrible. He built a good life for himself since but can you even imagine what that must be like?? </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/jj49wx/people_who_are_ghosting_other_people_have_you/gab0d5i?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">1_art_please</a></p>
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Enough was Enough
<p>This happened recently. I had a friend I had known for 25+ years. We wound up at the same company and realized we lived very close. She was all into office gossip and talked trash about people I liked. I asked her to stop. Any obstacle I was facing was dismissed because she had been through worse. When I needed to talk to someone about personal struggles I was having, she would talk over me and change the subject to her issues. This went on for a few years. </p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_3" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>I would hang up after talking to her and question why I bothered. Finally, I had enough. I ghosted her and after few months, she reached out to me via text. I replied and told her why. I was not cruel, just honest. Now I am 'mean and hurtful'. I blocked her and am not regretting this at all. I think about her and hope all is well. I just needed to sever the ties.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/jj49wx/people_who_are_ghosting_other_people_have_you/gaavq6c?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">KimmySimmy</a></p>
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Sorry
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNDYyMDQ2Ni9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTYzMzUzMjcyMX0.rELaRixGmnTEypzTj-C2lkN8a5n9zL8AygwvAFtSf1c/img.gif?width=980" id="08c47" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="575c441913a0482f6da2463187d13122" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="480" data-height="480" />Sorry GIF by swerkGiphy<p>I was recently ghosted by a guy I'd been seeing. </p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_5" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>He actually reached out and apologized after a while, so that was nice of him, but it doesn't take away how much it hurt.</p><p>My way of thinking is if someone ghosts you, let the dead rest. No point in chasing after someone who doesn't want to be chased.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/jj49wx/people_who_are_ghosting_other_people_have_you/gaajopj?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">ChunkySorbet</a></p>
How Dare I?
<p>An old ex from college got in touch with me via FB, which was lovely and a tiny bit concerning. Had a great time catching up, getting in touch with old friends from college via this exchange (seriously, this was the best part of that), etc.. His life turned out pretty much as I expected - numerous divorces, presumably some infidelity on his part, etc.</p><p>Several months into our very polite chats, he suddenly shifts gears hard. </p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_6" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>He's spouting Birther nonsense, trying to get me to leave my husband for him (literally haven't seen this ex in 20+ years) and no way in hell is that going to happen. I blocked him on social media and didn't think twice about it afterwards.</p><p>About six months later, our mutual college friends start haranguing me about why I'd ghosted the ex while he was deployed in Afghanistan, how dare I ghost a veteran who needed our support, etc. and how hurt my ex was that I'd cut off our friendship.</p><p>Oh boy.</p>
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<p>Here's the thing. I kept a screenshot of his crap to show my husband. And each time one of my college friends started in with that nonsense, I sent them the screenshot. One of the guys was so pissed, he told my ex that if he didn't stop backstabbing, they'd send it to his current wife. :D</p><p>Haven't heard anything since - going on 8 years now. I don't expect to. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/jj49wx/people_who_are_ghosting_other_people_have_you/gaawo6l?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">NoeTellusom</a></p>
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Forgiveness
<p>Oh hey, I can answer this. This happened 9 years ago, when I was a teenager. I had started dating a guy who I really, <em>really</em> liked. He did not like my best friend, and would often make fun of her. I felt like my friendship with her was coming to an end anyway because we were drifting apart, so I didn't stop him. His toxic behavior actually made me start resenting her.</p><p>Eventually, I just ghosted her. Left her on read. Never hung out with her anymore. We didn't go to the same school, so I just never saw her.</p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_8" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>She sent me a looong message asking why was I not talking to her? Did she make me mad, did she do something wrong? It was a really heartbreaking message, and I pretty much told her that I felt like we weren't close anymore, that I was in a good relationship and I didn't feel like we were friends anymore. She responded by basically saying she understood with a sad face.</p>
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<p>I didn't talk to her for almost a year. I'm not sure what the push was (I was still dating the guy), but I missed her and I texted her a very long message apologizing and groveling. That I was wrong and stupid, not sure what came over me, etc.</p><p>She forgave me. I don't know why, I pulled a really crappy move and I know I did it when she was at a low point. I'm so extremely grateful that she decided to give me another chance. We're still best friends to this day. But her confronting me when I initially ghosted her was absolutely miserable and heartbreaking. I still feel like such a piece of crap for it. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/jj49wx/people_who_are_ghosting_other_people_have_you/gab6rfy?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">StarTrippy</a></p>
2 Out....
<p>I'm currently ghosting two friends. They are a married couple that wanted to bring me into the relationship. It didn't end well and after two months of not speaking to each other, they reached out again. I was willing to reestablish only friendship. But they still were pushing for me to be romantic with the wife. I was pretty uncomfortable and felt anxious about it, especially after the fallout, and decided for everyone's safety and wellbeing, I needed to block them.</p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_10" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>They sorely lacked adequate communication for a three-way relationship and were pretty manipulative with me and used my naivety and trust in them to get what they wanted.</p><p>Sometimes, ghosting is the answer. Not always. If there's a chance to discuss it rationally, then do it. But if you don't have that chance, ghost.</p>
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<p><em><strong>EDIT TO ADD:</strong></em> I consider this ghosting because I cut contact without an explanation on seemingly good (in their POV) terms. I've always thought that is what ghosting was. The only time I expressed I wanted their friendship was when we initially reconnected after the fight. After that, they began pursuing me again and I decided to completely block them without talking to them about it further.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/jj49wx/people_who_are_ghosting_other_people_have_you/gaaw23a?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">superg-rl</a></p>
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Why do you hate me?
<p>Okay, I wouldn't call it ghosting... but, I sometimes don't like talking to my mom. We have a very strained relationship and sometimes it's better for my own mental health to just not engage.</p><p>Anyway, one time I was legitimately at the gym with my trainer and didn't answer. </p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_13" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>She left a voicemail that said, "You ALWAYS have your phone on and answer when (bf) calls or texts. Why do you hate me so much?"</p><p>I am a 32 year old mother of 3, raising my kids and my boyfriend's son. I'm busy. I'm tired. I just want to be left alone. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/jj49wx/people_who_are_ghosting_other_people_have_you/gaaf2dw?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">jay_mee_d</a></p>
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It's Me...
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNDYyMDQ4OS9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY0MTMyODExMn0.zUHdnfcmwsX6sweo8BbhAGn7b0u6OiHAphkzDPV50bM/img.gif?width=980" id="a2cae" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="0e18d597005b87a38427ff771809562f" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="300" data-height="228" />benedict cumberbatch drinking GIFGiphy<p>When things aren't going well in my life, I turn inward and isolate myself. </p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_15" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>I'm not good at receiving support and therefore I avoid people when i'm not doing well. It makes me ghost the people I care about and then suddenly contact them again and the cycle continues.</p><p>I've been called out on it and i'm honest. I'm sure it's hurtful and it makes me feel awful but I don't know how to be anything but the happy supportive friend that you'll get close to and i'll disappear when I can't be that.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/jj49wx/people_who_are_ghosting_other_people_have_you/gaayx5u?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Unclebigfoote</a></p>
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It's Not You
<p>I was low-key dating/hanging out with this guy that started ghosting me. After a while I texted and just asked him to honestly tell me what was up. He explained in great detail that he met someone else and had fallen hard for her. He apologized sincerely for being a fool by ghosting and I actually really appreciated some brutal honesty for once. I've dated so many morons that would lie about everything or gaslight me that I aways prefer the harshest truth now. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/jj49wx/people_who_are_ghosting_other_people_have_you/gab0svk?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Jesje_Jk</a><span></span></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_17" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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You Don't Know My Pain.
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNDYyMDUxMy9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY1ODAyMzY5NX0.FZYfLYEmbG1PemSrq3ezFy4rTV719_Ni9mcSb5mdxsA/img.gif?width=980" id="86494" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="4a77190e86de26ed709e9c851c19d028" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="432" data-height="250" />No Way Abandon Thread GIFGiphy<p>Two years ago I met a woman online.</p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_18" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>After dating her for two weeks, my father passed away.</p><p>I told her up front that I am not in a good place emotionally, wasn't comfortable sharing my grieving process with someone I had just met, and that I couldn't promise I would still be open to dating anyone in the near future.</p><p>She called me out for ghosting her a month later.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/jj49wx/people_who_are_ghosting_other_people_have_you/gaamy0o?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">sheikhyerbouti</a></p>
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Want one, Lexi?
<p>I've ghosted, but usually don't get called out. I used to be honest, but having more than one dude call me names for not thinking they were a good match killed that habit.</p><p>Worst was a dude I'd gone on a couple dates with. He was nice enough, just a little too odd and clingy. Insisted on picking me up - I refused and met him instead. Insisted on driving me to the theater between dinner and the movie. I refused again. Then acted weird in the theater, yelling at people if they so much a coughed.</p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_20" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>After the movie, he was bold enough to go for a kiss. I did the cheek turn thing, then left. In the twenty minutes it took me to get home, there were over a dozen texts, each one more frantic than the last because I hadn't replied yet.</p><p>I immediately noped out, and ghosted. For weeks I got messages before he told me "he thought I was better than this". But then I'd get the odd text like he was testing the water. The weirdest was "Mmm. Shamrock shake. Want one, Lexi?"</p><p>I'm very glad he didn't have my home address.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/jj49wx/people_who_are_ghosting_other_people_have_you/gaapaid?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Lexi_Banner</a></p>
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Hurtful
<p>My (adopted) aunt. Her and her biological sister came home from school one day to find that their parents packed up the house and moved without them. She was probably 15 at the time. She called her best friend (my biological aunt) and my grandparents let her move in with them, eventually legally adopting her. I can't even imagine the hurt and confusion she felt. She's still friends with her sister and I believe she eventually got back into contact with her biological parents. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/jj49wx/people_who_are_ghosting_other_people_have_you/gabx4ig?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">SorryBee</a><span></span></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_22" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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I said No
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In my Head
<p>I'm a ghoster. I feel terrible about it. I mean to write, and mean to write, then time has passed so I have to write something really good, then more time passes but it is around my birthday or a holiday so looks weird if I reach out then.</p><p>So I communicate daily with you in my head, many apologies and conversations. My anxiety just gets overwhelming.</p><p>If you contact me I will usually respond to the branch gladly. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/jj49wx/people_who_are_ghosting_other_people_have_you/gab0vqf?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">ExtraDebit</a><span></span></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_24" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Change it....
<p>I have ghosted a couple girls. I did it because I didn't feel I wanted to pursue the relationship. I should of told them how I felt straight up. One girl I ghosted I ran into a couple months later at a bar she told me how hurt she was and I felt like a complete asshole. Changed my perspective completely and haven't done it since and will not ever do it again. Just tell them your honest feelings and you're much better off. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/jj49wx/people_who_are_ghosting_other_people_have_you/gab8bzy?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">coshawn34</a><span></span></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_25" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Sorry
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It's Not Me
<p>It made me feel like crap to be honest. That's not who I am but at the time I was going through a rough patch in a relationship and my home life wasn't great either. Being alone felt like the only option at one point until a good friend I ghosted expressed his concerns. </p><p><span></span><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/jj49wx/people_who_are_ghosting_other_people_have_you/gaaelme?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">The_Real_Simp_Shady</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_27" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Done with You
<p>I'm currently "ghosting" this girl that has been manipulating me for months. i was attached to her so much that she could just withhold affection until i did what she wanted. and she had me convinced that the reason she was so stingy with her love was because i was doing something wrong or i just wasn't good enough.</p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_28" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>I met someone else and i've been giving the first girl the could shoulder ever since. she facetimed me the other night, wasted, crying that i don't love her as much as i used to. i corrected her; "that's not true, i actually don't love you anymore at all."</p>
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<p>She texts and snaps me regularly trying to apologize. i think she means it. but i have no intention of responding and risking letting her back into my life. rather not have her in my life as a constant reminder of all the suffering i went through because of her abuse.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/jj49wx/people_who_are_ghosting_other_people_have_you/gaaf1eu?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">goodkidMAADbitches</a></p>
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At Christmas
<p>I was close friends with someone at work for 17 years (seventeen!!) Then the school we worked in closed, and we were moved to different schools. For the first 4 months, I made all the effort in staying connected. After Christmas break, I just stopped. It took her 6 weeks to reach out to me. That was a really hard time. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/jj49wx/people_who_are_ghosting_other_people_have_you/gaavas3?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank"> Wishyouamerry</a><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Wishyouamerry/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer"></a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_31" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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You can't outrun it....
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<p>I was never called out on it, but I deeply regret that I hurt someone that meant a lot to me. I take full responsibility for my actions. I think ego defense mechanisms play a part in situations where you don't have a real good reason for what you did. You just build a wall and start running. But it eventually catches up with you.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/jj49wx/people_who_are_ghosting_other_people_have_you/gaav9a7?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">UnapproachableOnion</a></p>
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Sometimes... he's just not that into you. It's a difficult truth to undertake, but we've all been there. Rejection in the amorous department is a killer and it never gets easier, but we'll all survive. What has been become more difficult is the acceptance of the delivery of the rejection. Why do grown men feel the need to be children.... sorry, I mean ghosts? We may finally get some answers. Just say what you feel. Be a human being.
Redditor u/bzctz827 wanted all the men out there to give us some inside scoop, reasons and hard truths about the state of relations today.... by asking.... Men who ghosted women for seemingly "no reason", what was actually your reason?
Let's all get some vodka and reconvene.
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All that she wants....
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yMzU1MDEyNi9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTYyMzI1MTgwN30.jWRTll3G0onmCOxEX9lNHv6AVoyA0QUTImReQXDESQw/img.gif?width=980" id="af42b" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="c11357c38e2cc3efc1dd21914c5fb64a" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="480" data-height="360" />Awkward Nick Jonas GIF by Jonas BrothersGiphy<p>She only talked to me when she wanted something, and it was always when she needed emotional support, but then was curiously absent when I'd ask the same. Was just exhausting and I didn't want to go through the effort of explaining it to her.... it wouldn't have changed anything. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/i75sht/men_who_ghosted_women_for_seemingly_no_reason/g0zw1fe?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">Forgotten___User</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_36" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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We'll See
<p>She never mentioned that she had a kid prior to the date then spent the whole date texting the baby daddy.</p><p>Openly disparaged my profession despite knowing it from day one.</p><p>And the kicker, casually mentioned that she was "afraid because as more brown people moved into the area there was more kidnappings happening in the local Walmart" (no kidnapping had been reported in the last 12 months).</p><p>So yea I never talked to her again, though I didn't exactly imply I was going to after that date anyway more of a "we'll see." </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/i75sht/men_who_ghosted_women_for_seemingly_no_reason/g10n6cq?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank"> zeplock22</a><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/zeplock22/" target="_blank"></a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_2" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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BLOCK!
<p>She simply wouldn't accept that I broke up with her. The onslaught of texts and voice mails begging for me to take her back followed up by her calling me every name in the book just adds up you know? So for my own sanity I had to block her number and through any other forms of communication. I got many, many more notices of a block number trying to text or call me for two weeks after that. Then it all stopped. I regret nothing, ghosting was the only way I could get away from that. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/i75sht/men_who_ghosted_women_for_seemingly_no_reason/g10mynl?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">goddamnitgoose</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_3" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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One Way Out
<p>I realized I was doing all the talking/asking all the questions to get to know her. Having a one-way conversation is exhausting and that's why I hate online dating so much. Why bother matching if you're not going to contribute anything? </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/i75sht/men_who_ghosted_women_for_seemingly_no_reason/g107stp?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">monty_kurns</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_4" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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"oh, i don't like to"
<p>She was $200k+ in debt</p><p>She had a chronic medical condition that was manageable but would require me to change my lifestyle if things got serious.</p><p>She had a phobia of talking on the phone, not just "oh, i don't like to" but actually talking on the phone could induce PTSD. Texting was fine.</p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_5" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>These are things you deal with if they come up when you're already committed, but i didn't want to sign up for all that after just 1 date. I couldn't think of a polite reason to tell her because we did have matching personalities, besides that other stuff. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/i75sht/men_who_ghosted_women_for_seemingly_no_reason/g100u9t?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">NO_FIX_AUTOCORRECT</a></p>
First Date Issues
<p>The first date was weird. It was fine at first. I met her on a dating site. She was a little different looking then her pic but I was ok with it. After a movie we went to a bar in NYC. I went to the bathroom and when I came back to our table there was a different woman there. It was her best friend who had shadowed us and asked a ton of questions.</p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_6" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p> After I passed the 'test' they took me to an underground hookah bar in the village. I don't like cigarettes let alone what everyone was smoking. I hung out for a bit and left politely. I should have texted back the times she texted me but I was young and inconsiderate. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/i75sht/men_who_ghosted_women_for_seemingly_no_reason/g1059kb?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">Scoob1978</a></p>
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So Messy....
<p>Oh man early 20's I was just bad at this.</p><p>One girl first date she seemed way to overly assumptive. I'm not saying she named the kids yet, but I got the impressions she was running names. That one turned into a bit of a stalker situation.</p><p>Was sober the next morning and decided I couldn't do that to a friend. That turned into a messy situation as well.</p><p>She was a stripper, I wasn't adult enough yet to say I really like you but I don't know how to manage that aspect of your life. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/i75sht/men_who_ghosted_women_for_seemingly_no_reason/g107fqf?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">tdasnowman</a></p><div data-conversation-spotlight style="min-height:90px"></div>
Break the Fever
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"cyber sex"Â
<p>An ex coworker texted me and I thought it was cool because she always seemed really nice and I thought she was really attractive. This was before you could text images so "cyber sex" as they called it in the golden age of digital perversion was telling each other what you'd like to do to them and they describe how they're reacting, what they're wearing, etc. A text version of a hot Facetime date. </p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_9" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>Anyway as things get more heated with this girl she starts working in yard maintenance equipment to the point that she only lets me describe her as if she's grass and I'm a lawn mower and I'm using all these tools to pleasure her. It just gets too weird for me so I cut her off completely and won't respond to anything she texts me. She keeps texting me for about a month the I suppose she realized I wasn't interested anymore.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/i75sht/men_who_ghosted_women_for_seemingly_no_reason/g10k62x?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">InvalidToasterPastry</a></p>
be cool....
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yMzU1MDE3MS9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTYzOTUzNTgxMX0.ONgI_WF5u4ZW0TS9JNjPdZGaDURYHCjNvQam8XUdubI/img.gif?width=980" id="73779" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="e55b7aa7facd9dcb35757da363b06965" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="500" data-height="500" />Mariah Carey GIF by TwitterGiphy<p>I went home for christmas, told her i'd message when I'm back in town, sent one text when i got back. All I got back from her was "cool". So I left it at that. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/i75sht/men_who_ghosted_women_for_seemingly_no_reason/g10a379?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">NoUsersWork</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_10" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Can't Feel It
<p>I have bonding issues caused by how I was raised by my parents. </p><p>(<em><strong>Edit: </strong></em>I read this again. Its a strong affection rather than a cause)</p><p>Wen things start to get going and I start to feel genuine affection, I get a strong gut feeling that I have to leave immediately, I will get burnt. And it will hurt so much that I will die.</p><p>I am doing therapy and I hope I will conquer the fear. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/i75sht/men_who_ghosted_women_for_seemingly_no_reason/g10tlpa?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">MrMeszaros</a><span></span></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_11" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Job Hunting
<p>Every time she texted me, it was pretty much just to complain about her job. That didn't justify me ghosting her though. I still feel bad. We were probably around 4 months. I asked her out probably a week after texting and then a few weeks later. Both times she said she would rather keep texting for a while. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/i75sht/men_who_ghosted_women_for_seemingly_no_reason/g0zwu4c?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer dofollow">casual-ostrich</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_12" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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disconnect
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yMzU2MjI1Ni9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTYzMjMyNTMxMX0.8A9d1JosHTvkAkp2A4eKcPdSfdsGJ-XfNCXJ_QA8TGI/img.gif?width=980" id="4e86b" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="e67ebec4039f9c1a4a679a636ecba294" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="498" data-height="280" />old man no GIFGiphy<p>She barely said a word on the first date, and I tried to pull conversation out of her. Also felt no connection whatsoever. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/i75sht/men_who_ghosted_women_for_seemingly_no_reason/g10hm8q?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer dofollow">rtfan12</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_13" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Gotta go... go... GO!Â
<p>We both had recently gone through breakups and were just meeting for sex. Then she told me her boyfriend left her because she slipped him GHB thinking that he would find it sexy, she didn't see what was wrong with that and then pulled out a damn mason jar full of it to show me. I literally left when she was in the bathroom and never texted/called back. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/i75sht/men_who_ghosted_women_for_seemingly_no_reason/g10rhvt?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer dofollow">Turnbob73</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_14" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Feelings Lost
<p>Was into this girl she was a few years older. She wanted something casual so I went with it. After a while I noticed I had developed some feelings, told her about it. She said we should no longer continue but can be friends.</p><p>I was down with it. But then I found out she had lied to me about having a boyfriend. She had a boyfriend the entire time, and I had made it very clear to her numerous times I wanted nothing to do with her if she was in a relationship.</p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_15" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>I felt so wrong. I have been cheated on in the past, and I never wanted to be part of an affair. She tried to blame me, saying it was my fault, I should have known, and that even if I had known I still would have had sex with her because all guys are the same and only want sex.</p><p>I stopped talking to her. She's reached out a few times calling me a little fool for not wanting to be friends with her anymore. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/i75sht/men_who_ghosted_women_for_seemingly_no_reason/g118qfy?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer dofollow">tina_the_fat_llama</a></p>
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Just Shut Up
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yMzU2MjMzMy9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTYzNDQ4Njc4OH0.-bONowd9xnzH28yWElVTuJYlH-AKoAdLemdMsu5TmQA/img.gif?width=980" id="0fd03" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="9ed0a71b1c010f9009515a2e0df0a0d3" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="412" data-height="306" />bla talking GIF by neomagazinroyaleGiphy<p>She would not stop talking. Everyday, from 8 am to 11 pm, I just had a wall of texts. I didn't even answer most of the time but she didn't seem to need a partner in the conversation. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/i75sht/men_who_ghosted_women_for_seemingly_no_reason/g10xvhz?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer dofollow">Woodmechanic30</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_17" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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"6 Months Later..."
<p>Went on a 2 dates, she made a big deal that night about waiting to sleep together. The next morning I get a phone call that my father passed away... little foggy for a few months after that with depression and so on. 6 months later I realized that I never called her back, but didn't matter during that time I lost my phone and all contacts. Now it's been a few years, and the funny thing is I was just thinking about that before I read this question. </p><p><span></span><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/i75sht/men_who_ghosted_women_for_seemingly_no_reason/g11gc8u?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">Grandkai09</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_18" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Making it Weird....
<p>My ex-girlfriend wouldn't stop texting or calling me when I told her we were done. I had tried to be nice and be friendly after we broke up but she just couldn't accept the message that we were done, so eventually I just told her that there was absolutely nothing left for us to discuss and that since she couldn't seem to leave me alone I had to block her and not respond to her in any way.</p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_19" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>She told our mutual friends that I "ghosted her" for absolutely no reason and with no warning and a bunch of them ended up hating me, including my best friend's girlfriend who was the one who had originally introduced us. It was super awkward for a while.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/i75sht/men_who_ghosted_women_for_seemingly_no_reason/g10lf8t?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">doesntevercomment123</a></p>
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Glenn Close is that you?
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"who you are?"Â
<p>Basically wouldn't ghost unless she showed a complete lack of respect for my time.</p><p>I've left from a date and ghosted because she was 45 min late, and texted asking me to wait because she was still on another date.</p><p>I also don't mess around with women who don't look like their profile picture. </p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_22" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>This isn't a vanity thing, its about lying about something as basic as "who you are" and typically is a sign she's got self esteem issues she's trying to fix by getting a man. I never ghosted these women flat out but i made an excuse not to see them again. If they tried to guilt me into dating them, then I'd ghost.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/i75sht/men_who_ghosted_women_for_seemingly_no_reason/g10ykkx?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">Ol_Man_Rambles</a></p>
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When it comes to parting ways with someone, sometimes ghosting them is the only option. It sucks all around, but some situations call for it. Even if it's your friend. Here are some examples of situations where ghosting a friend was the best way to go.
u/dontmindme137 asked: What made you ghost a friend?
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Pay your bills.
<p>When I came home to find the power off. Bill hadn't been paid.</p><p>We were friends from work. He had split up from his ex and I needed to be closer to work. We went 50 50 on a rental, he has three kids from the previous relationship.</p><p>With me being the nerd I agreed to pay the tech bills. Internet, phone, cable TV. He agreed to pay the power as he burnt more because his kids were over on access visits.</p><p>Came home. Dark house. Hmmmm. Investigate. He hadn't paid the power for AGES because his new girlfriend wanted the money. Then I discovered he wasn't paying his rent either, same reason.</p><p>Down $5k, power, rent, we were evicted. Ghosted.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/heisdeadjim_au/" target="_blank">heisdeadjim_au</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_36" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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The cycle continues.
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That's just awful.
<p>We had been friends for years. Like long term sisterhood kind of sh!t. I did soooo much for her over the years and didn't even bat an eyelash. I asked her to watch my cat while I went on a 10 day vacation (a cat that she also "loved" because it belonged to her family before me)</p><p>She agreed to watch the cat. I even called her about 4 days into my vacation to ask her again to go and check on my cat to make sure it had food/water and a few scritches. When I came home my cat's water and food bowl were bone dry and she let out the most tormenting "meows" I have ever heard. My "friend" didn't check on her once in the 10 days that I was gone. She played stupid when I confronted her about it and said "oh! I completely forgot!" That was the beginning of the end.</p><p>Edit: as for ghosting her, I had to. After the cat incident, she tried to make me feel guilty for being mad at her for it. I think I even ended up apologizing because she was so beside herself. A few more disagreements accrued after that, and I was always put on a guilt trip. I decided that I didn't need that negativity in my life anymore, and I ghosted her. To this day she tries to get back to me. Even through mutual friends, she bad mouths me, then tells them how much she misses me. Chick is wack.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Carrots87/" target="_blank">Carrots87</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_3" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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I've been there too.
<p>When I realized a lot of the things that made her laugh were at my expense. She thrived off of humiliating me.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/BABYPUNK/" target="_blank">BABYPUNK</a></p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/BABYPUNK/" target="_blank"></a>I was bullied in school - but my worst bully was my "best friend"</p><p>I used to come home and cry to my mom. I would be heartbroken over how my "best friend" was treating me.</p><p>Honestly - I don't remember what my mom would tell me, but I wish she would have told me that I was worth way more than the treatment than I received from her, that she was a bad friend and I should drop her, that I had friends who treated me with respect and that I should spend my time with them, that she would have forbade me from hanging out with her - anything. anything.</p><p>I wasted something like 15 years with that girl in that abusive friendship.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/habaneroharlot/" target="_blank">habaneroharlot</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_4" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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This seems to be common.
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Sounds like a hypocrite.
<p>When I realised I put so much more into the friendship than she did.</p><p>Whenever we met up it was basically time for her to vent about her life. She always had some ridiculous drama over something tiny. She had 2 sisters. It would change week to week which one she was talking with and which one she'd never speak to again. And then don't get me started on her hatred for her husbands family, mostly cause they were from a different ethic background and social class.</p><p>Lots of other similar issues that showed she was just a narcissist.</p><p>For a while I put up with it cause catching up with her was a way for me to go drinking not on my own.</p><p>Then there were a few big events in my life and she just wasn't there for me and didn't care. Well she pretended too but sent her husband to take care of me. Then would try to get me to come listen to her yap on for hours. Or do stuff for her. If I tried to talk about my stuff she'd criticise me and say everything isn't about me then go on talking about how terrible it was that her mother in law didn't say the right thing to her.</p><p>It just got to a point where I decided I didn't care about her drama and it was draining my life energy and I decided my life would be better off without her. And it honestly has been.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Memento_Mori_Robot/" target="_blank">Memento_Mori_Robot</a></p>
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Good. Don't give her the time of day.
<p>She burned the bridge. For most of the year and a half that she and I started working at the same place, she bullied me, micromanaged me, made me feel left out, and gaslighted me whenever I tried to confront her behavior. It was almost always my fault, nothing I ever did was right, and she refused to believe that she has control issues or that she was using me as a punching bag. She started doing this thing where she wouldn't text me unless I texted her first, and then get mad if I didn't text her. </p><p>So, once she quit the job, I stopped texting her. I haven't spoken to her at all since August 2019 and I don't regret it.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/thespookyloop/" target="_blank">thespookyloop</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_7" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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A POS indeed.
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Get away from her.
<p>I loved this girl. She was so clutch for me when my life was in ruins. The issue was that she and I were both addicts at the same time and both came from the same types of affluent families, but for whatever reason - I got clean and I turned my life around while she got worse. She and I were both addicts with eating disorders, alcoholism, and both addicted to Xanax.</p><p>I got clean and only recently (7 years later) have started experimenting with maybe one or two beers per month if I'm out with my husband. She ended up with this awful guy who she will not give up who got her hooked on meth. I was there for her for a long time. After rehab and a few arrests, she stayed at my house for a bit on two different occasions. But the last time she did, she tore my house apart looking for alcohol (which we didn't have), stole my ID so she could get Postmates to deliver vodka to my house, and nearly got us both killed by grabbing and yanking my steering wheel while I was going 80mph up I-95. I've tried so many times to help her get and stay clean, but she keeps going back to that guy and her triggers are my triggers. I had to distance myself because she was making me relapse.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/anoukdaae/" target="_blank">anoukdaae</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_8" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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What a garbage person.
<p>Guy told me "You'll never be a good teacher."</p><p>After two years of unemployment following my graduation with a teaching degree.</p><p>I realized the bastard had meant every 'joking' insult he'd ever said to me.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Stargate525/" target="_blank">Stargate525</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_9" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Ghosting is now the latest and hottest trend in our vapid social culture. Instead of telling someone to their face.... "I'm over you", "This doesn't work!", "I Hate You!" We just slink away into the shadows and leave others wondering if we've fallen off the Earth. Now it maybe necessary when escaping crazy but it often leaves too many doors open. You never know when you'll see them by sheer chance. Awkward!
Redditor u/infiniteplusultra wanted to hear how anybody could justify the silent peace out ways people are leaving certain relations with others by asking..... [Serious] If you have ghosted a loved one, a friend, a significant other, or anybody, why did you do it?
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Be Mature.
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<p>About 3 months pass and she sends me a text saying that she misses me and that what she said was a mistake. We started hanging out again and then she'd start acting weird again, then would go on and end our friendship again, that happened about 5 more times, until I just decided to stop replying to her texts.</p>
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<p>Last time she texted me was about 2 months ago, in a long ass paragraph she asked if I missed her. I replied with a very short and cold text, told her that I didn't and was living a fairly enjoyable life without her in it. I realize that it might sound harsh, specially because she still tries to be friends again, but really... I was always there for her, she hurt me many times with the stuff she said and did, and even so I'd go back to her, trying to keep our friendship. At some point I just had enough and stopped caring for her. I don't resent her for it, just hope she can find a way to "mature" and be a better person. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ffjnii/serious_if_you_have_ghosted_a_loved_one_a_friend/fjz2f3x?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">TheDeer6277</a></p>
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A Bad Friend.Â
<p>A gay friend of mine was very pushy and demanding of pictures (nudes, shirtless, etc.) of me. It got to the point that i told him i was uncomfortable with it and requested he stop. He sent a massive tirade of how him being attracted to me was just how he was and implied that i was somehow being both a bad friend AND homophobic for not being flattered at his attention. I stopped talking to him altogether. Sucks because i miss my friend, I hope he is doing well, and i wish him the best, but boundaries have to be respected. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ffjnii/serious_if_you_have_ghosted_a_loved_one_a_friend/fjz2q74?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">damndingashrubbery</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_4" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Blocked.Â
<p>I ghosted my ex bf bc he was manipulating me for a long time and when i called him out he victimized himself and i was sick of it so i blocked him. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ffjnii/serious_if_you_have_ghosted_a_loved_one_a_friend/fjyxk00?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">pastel11037</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_5" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Me First.Â
<p>The only person I ever cut contact with was my step father. He was a nasty drunk who liked to beat me up, held a gun to my head one time, just a generally sad sad man. I was 12 or so when the beatings started, 15 when the gun thing happened. I moved out at 17 and put myself through college. I'm a teacher now.</p><p>I just figured we were both better off without the other. I saw him twice in the last 25 years of his life. Once, I got to my moms house early and he accidentally met my then 1 year old son. That sucked. A couple of years later I had to find him at his apartment because my sister had an accident and was in the hospital. My mom separated from him when I was 20 but she kept trying to help him. </p>
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<p>She told me that she didn't want him to die and leave her wondering if she could have done more, which I guess is noble. She couldn't leave him when he was awful to me bc she had little kids and no means of support. She left when he started in with my brother, so she knew it wasn't me, it was him.</p>
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<p>When he died (prob of alcohol withdrawal) I wound up pretty much making all of his funeral arrangements. I did it for my siblings, who were his children, and who were wrecked.</p><p>So I cut him out to protect myself. I'm almost 50 now and I feel sorrier for him than ever. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ffjnii/serious_if_you_have_ghosted_a_loved_one_a_friend/fjzabyb?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">Chickiepie</a><span></span></p>
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Not Another Minute.
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yMjg4MDIxNS9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY2MDgwNjQxNn0.8Tia2tZ3WImYpi9RD9uDONaah37o4XSB-1d3gAguU3U/img.gif?width=980" id="0b9cd" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="106235d74992020be0668dbefc4a9e6c" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="284" data-height="324" />Giphy<p>Attended their birthday dinner, their partner was repeatedly horrible to me whenever their back was turned.</p><p>Knowing it would my word against the boyfriends and we were not super close friends, I just faded away. I really don't want to spend another minute with their boyfriend or listen to then go on about them. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ffjnii/serious_if_you_have_ghosted_a_loved_one_a_friend/fjyyszy?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">Terryfoldyholds</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_8" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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She Evil.Â
<p>A girl who I considered my best friend for four years got a DUI and lost her license, and couldn't get a work permit. I gave her rides to and from work for six months, while I was working overnights and going to school full time, so I was loosing a LOT of sleep because of it. It was about 45 minutes to an hour round trip depending on traffic.</p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_9" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>I never asked for payment of any kind, and she never offered any. I even bought her Uber's home from the bars when we would go out, because she would regularly get far too intoxicated to function. When she finally got her license back, she basically acted like I didn't really exist anymore. She got a whole bunch of new friends and stopped inviting me places, and would only occasionally text/Snapchat me back.</p>
<p>I ghosted her then (trying to beat her to it I guess) but a few months later tried to rekindle it. Then she tried to screw my boyfriend (whilst very drunk) so I called it quits completely and blocked her on everything. It hurt a lot, and honestly still messes me up a year later. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ffjnii/serious_if_you_have_ghosted_a_loved_one_a_friend/fjzjr9b?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">merfrogggg</a><span></span></p>
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No Contact.Â
<p>My girlfriend off 6 years, she went away on army basic training. No contact for 63 days, I wrote letters and messaged her everyday so she wouldn't miss anything when she got back.</p><p>She got back. She was distant. Her cousin told me she was cheating and met someone else.</p><p>I just send her a text saying 'Don't contact me ever again, best wishes for the future. Love Unhappyspark'. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ffjnii/serious_if_you_have_ghosted_a_loved_one_a_friend/fjzbdy4?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">unhappyspark</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_11" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Too Much Drama.Â
<p>She started dealing heroin out of her house and kept asking me to steal stuff from the veterinary hospital I worked at. I ghosted her and never looked back. Her and her mother blew up my phone for a while telling me what a huge piece of crap I am but I was afraid of her and I was a huge coward. Probably not the best way to handle the situation but also, heroin. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ffjnii/serious_if_you_have_ghosted_a_loved_one_a_friend/fjz6k82?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank"> FelixFelicis</a><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/FelixFelicis/" target="_blank"></a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_12" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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*Shrugs*
<p>It started with them claiming that they forget to check their social media often. After that, they admitted they were not telling the truth and that they were going through a bad time. After that, they continued to ghost me and admitted they were avoiding me for whatever reason. This carried on for six months, all the meanwhile claiming they were incredibly invested in the "friendship".</p><p>Even if they were not a malicious person, well, they certainly weren't ready for any kind of friendship. *Shrugs* <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ffjnii/serious_if_you_have_ghosted_a_loved_one_a_friend/fjyxxzv?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">SagetheWise2222</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_13" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Toxic.
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yMjg4MDIxOC9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY2MzU2NzYxNH0.TpKZhdombK0LWwVxbWkdtjlspqxbJRjiz7TgmmPdAUE/img.gif?width=980" id="cd2e8" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="45fe87ca1c56670a4444d476e72c9b27" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="480" data-height="270" />Giphy<p>I've ghosted a few people and its because I consider myself a toxic person. Like I have so many issues that I don't want anyone to know about or be involved with so I cut them out of my life and run away. I tell myself they're better off not knowing or interacting with me but its probably because I don't know how to communicate things in a healthy manner. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ffjnii/serious_if_you_have_ghosted_a_loved_one_a_friend/fjzaq2g?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">Maruchan7</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_14" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Quit the Cycle.Â
<p>They moved away and became a bit of a mess. They'd only contact me about dramatic crap and I got tired of constantly offering advice only for it to be ignored, which would lead to me having to offer even more advice.</p><p>Its all well and good being a supportive friend and some people make you feel guilty for abandoning a friend you're supporting.</p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_15" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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It Just Happened.
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yMjg2ODUyMC9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTYzMDYwNzY1MH0.QlO7LoJJlH9IIdY460UMnuTMtfqqW5upufi6bEF0q34/img.gif?width=980" id="da672" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="81bd38cd12e48d8d7745853a63fbe7a7" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="480" data-height="400" />Giphy<p>I wanted to reply but didn't have the energy, then time passed and passed and passed and I was feeling anxious and ashamed to reply to something that was sent two weeks ago, so I just let it be. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ffjnii/serious_if_you_have_ghosted_a_loved_one_a_friend/fjyt9s7?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank"> Flytrappy</a><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Flytrappy/" target="_blank"></a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_16" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>But at the end of the day, you're a human being too with a life to live and if the other person is literally just using you to make themselves feel better then that's draining.</p><p>I made contact again last year and it took about 5 minutes for the cycle to start again, so I cut it off quickly (I'm a lot more confident than I used to be) and drew a line under it. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ffjnii/serious_if_you_have_ghosted_a_loved_one_a_friend/fjyt70v?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">pyromanta</a></p>
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100% relatable.
<p>Because they were abusive. You can't reason with abusive people. It's safer to cut all contact. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ffjnii/serious_if_you_have_ghosted_a_loved_one_a_friend/fjz209s?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank"> Transplanted_Cactus</a></p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ffjnii/serious_if_you_have_ghosted_a_loved_one_a_friend/fjz209s?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank"></a><span></span>100% relatable. I agree it's usually better to discuss problems you're having in any kind of relationship, but with abusive ones there's nothing to do.</p><p>Anything you say will be used against you, literally. It's a never ending circle. Sometimes it's better to protect yourself and just leave - they wouldn't understand anyway. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ffjnii/serious_if_you_have_ghosted_a_loved_one_a_friend/fk0cdwm?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">Physical-Echidna</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_18" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Working on It.Â
<p>Just throwing this out there. I travel for work. My trips can be from 1-3 weeks long. A few times I've forgotten my personal phone at home. Then I get back and have all the stuff I missed locally to catch up on. I can straight up disappear from the digital grid for a month if I'm not careful. </p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_19" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>This ruined a few relationships I had with people, but those who understood that it wasn't personal stayed around. When I'm back, things pick up like I never left. Act like you care enough that time apart means very little, or that you miss them and it'll all be good. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ffjnii/serious_if_you_have_ghosted_a_loved_one_a_friend/fjzhulk?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">TheJackalsDoom</a><span></span></p>
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2 Way Street.
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Over & Out!Â
<p>We would make plans to go out. I'd be ready to go and she would leave me waiting. I'd start calling and texting her asking where she is, but never receive an answer. I'd say forget it and go out with other friends anyway, only to run in to her hanging out with other people who I guess she thought were more important. I don't need fickle people like that in my life.</p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_22" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>Also ghosted my core group of girl friends because I found out one of them had been spreading vicious lies about me while pretending to be my friend to my face. The others chose her. So I peaced out. It hurt like hell but my life is so much better and calmer now. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ffjnii/serious_if_you_have_ghosted_a_loved_one_a_friend/fjyw5aj?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank"> pinkgallo</a><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/pinkgallo/" target="_blank"></a></p>
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"Hey what's up?"Â
<p>We went through bad breakups weeks apart and helped each other kind of piece things back together.</p><p>He got married after dating a girl for less than 8 months and thinking about breaking up with her a month in. Shortly after their wedding we talked less. They had a kid and I was the first person not in their family to meet the baby. We talked even less which I get kids keep you busy. Then he stopped texting me at all, then when we worked for the same company would try to walk right past me and avoid me.</p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_24" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>That was my breaking point where I decided to just never initiate conversation again.</p><p>Ran into him a month or so ago, got the least sincere "Hey what's up" ever. We haven't spoken in over 3 years at this point and dude couldn't even give me a legitimate greeting or even "How've you been?" Just like "Hey what's up. Cool" then walked away without even saying see you later.</p><p>No idea why or what I did, but pretty much decided he can screw off. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ffjnii/serious_if_you_have_ghosted_a_loved_one_a_friend/fjzvxnd?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">MrPureinstinct</a><span></span></p>
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Bad Call.Â
<p>I ghosted a friend last year. I was going through a rough patch in my life and I didn't have the energy to interact with someone like her (she was very talkative, outgoing, and constantly wanted to hang out). Looking back on it, I regret it a lot. She was still very nice and caring, and it's not like it was her fault that I wasn't doing too well. I've thought of reaching out to her again, but I'm not sure how she feels about the whole ordeal now. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ffjnii/serious_if_you_have_ghosted_a_loved_one_a_friend/fjysshr?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">curtaincallz</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_26" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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7 Years On....
<p>Not proud of it, but my father. He had a mental breakdown after my mom passed and after several attempts to get him help including offers to pay for therapy, going with him to therapy, Baker Acting him, spending 5 years of no contact then finding him and moving him to the city I was living in & trying again from square one, I finally gave him an ultimatum-seek help and we will work on this father-child relationship or go about your life without me.</p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_27" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>It's been 7 years or so & I have kept him out of my life as much as possible. We were never close but he is a good person. I wish him well and hope he is happy, healthy and safe. I have no siblings or grandparents. I guess you don't know what you're missing if you never experienced it. All that being said, it has had a giant influence on me being child free. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ffjnii/serious_if_you_have_ghosted_a_loved_one_a_friend/fjyz8i4?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">buickbeast</a></p>
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Poison People.
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Sometimes, your best friend can accidentally become a toxic relationship.
That toxicity can take many forms. Co-dependency, emotional manipulation, cheating, backstabbing--unfortunately sometimes, it just happens.
<p>u/Lo-Fi_Kuzco asked:</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/eyfged/serious_people_who_ghosted_their_best_friend_why/" target="_blank">[SERIOUS] People who ghosted their best friend, why?</a></p><p>Here were some of those answers.</p><p><br></p>
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Alcoholism Is Real
<p>He spiraled out of control with alcohol for a while and he's an angry drunk so I blocked him for a month. He was a jerk to everyone during that time, so it became apparent to him that he can't get drunk anymore. Now everything's better.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/gamerdude727/" target="_blank">gamerdude727</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_36" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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When People Show You Who They Are, Believe Them
<p>Her boyfriend started spreading rumours that I slept with him after I turned him down over snapchat (messages deleted though so no proof.) apparently he told the whole school and she confronted me after a week.</p><p>I told her that if she believed her boyfriend of 9 days over her friend of 7 years, that I don't want to be around her.</p><p>She texted me last year, told me he admitted everything to her when they broke up (3 months after the rumour). I never responded.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/petty_amoeba/" target="_blank">petty_amoeba</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_2" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Don't Knock My Life Bro
<p>I visited said friend and his wife for his 30th. The entire time I was there all they talked about was how long it had been since I last visited and not in a fun and happy way.</p><p>This was also the trip where they got to meet my wife. But still, all they talked about was how long it had been and that I was a quitter for deciding to in a different direction with my life. I worked completely different hours from him and at the time had very little time-off I could take to visit.</p><p>After that trip, I was done.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/HausBox81/" target="_blank">HausBox81</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_3" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Selfishness All The Way
<p>Unhealthy relationship, we would always do what she wanted and whatever I wanted was put on the back burner. Started from primary school and ended slightly after high school where I realized that I was worth more.</p><p>She never cared about me, or my feelings. I literally just walked away from her after she once again changed my plans to suit her and never spoke to her again.</p><p>She never even tried to find out what was wrong... some friend!</p><p><span></span><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Noxious_Redditor/" target="_blank">Noxious_Redditor</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_4" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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I Was A Teenage Toxic
<p>I don't know. In some cases I've been ghosted. Maybe I ghosted a few people. It seems like it is just something that happens as you grow older, get married, have kids, stress about work, stress about bills, blah, blah, blah. I'll admit that having little interaction with people makes life a bit easier for me.</p><p>I will also admit in one case that I had a terrible crush on my friend and my attachment was inappropriate and unhealthy. She ended up getting married and I did not attend the festivities; that ended it.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/fakeyfakefakerton/" target="_blank">fakeyfakefakerton</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_5" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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No Excuse For Destruction Of Property
<p>My best friend of twelve years <em>destroyed</em> my computer because he found out on facebook that his girlfriend was cheating on him while he was using it.</p><p>I kicked him out of my house and told him he was only welcome back if he paid me for the damage he caused. It's been over a decade and he still hasn't paid. As a result I haven't talked to him since.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Tobias_Atwood/" target="_blank">Tobias_Atwood</a></p>Exit SR
<p>I used to be best friends with this girl who used to lie a lot. She would lie about innocuous things like how much money she made etc. It was obvious that she was lying but I went along with it because I figured that she was insecure and that it made her feel better I guess...?</p><p>Eventually, it got to a point where she started lying about things in order to make me feel bad. For example:</p><p>I am registered with accessibility services at school for my mental health issues. I was granted extra time on tests etc.</p><p>She told me that the fact I am registered with accessibility services would appear on my transcript and that I wouldn't get a job. That is 100% a lie. That is not true at all.</p><p>At first, I didn't understand why she would lie about stuff like that. Then it dawned on me that she was trying to sabotage my self-esteem so that she would be more successful than me.</p><p>I have a mental illness. It's not a joke, it's not funny. It's a severely debilitating thing to live with. I ghosted her after that. Sometimes I feel badly about it but I got a real bad feeling about her.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/imvital/" target="_blank">imvital</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_6" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Anybody Who Is Mean To A Puppy Deserves Nothing
<p>He had a dog for about 2-3 years and wanted to get rid of it because it peed on his leather couch and was okay with just taking it to the pound where it could have been euthanized. He also made it seen like it was my problem if I didn't help him re-home it. I felt it was a completely heartless thing to do since it was a minor training issue and even though my friend was a d!ck, that dog loved him and was his whole world. I stopped talking to him completely and handed him his spare key I had to help with said dog, apparently it took me doing all that for him to realize what a jerk he was and decided to keep the dog. He still has him to this day, I helped with training the dog, but haven't had much contact with the friend since.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/amerscandal/" target="_blank">amerscandal</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_7" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Important To Detox
<p>Because everyone and everything around her was toxic according to her. I couldn't say anything positive about almost anything or anyone without her getting defensive and telling me how toxic they were. Myself and another mutual friend slowly realized that she took anyone not agreeing with her or wanting to be her best friend as them hating her and it just got to the point where hanging out with her left us on the defensive the entire time.</p><p>We both slowly ghosted because we are all in the same grad program and social group and knew if we actually said anything to her she's make it into a huge drama and possibly affect our other friendships. Slowly ghosting over time made it seem like we were naturally just fading away and has made the end of our friendship a lot less drama-filled.</p><p><span></span><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/archaeob/" target="_blank">archaeob</a></p><div data-conversation-spotlight style="min-height:90px"></div>
When You're Tired--It's Time
<p>I couldn't handle it anymore. I realized he was using me to feel better about himself and to pass some time and as support for exams. But if I needed help or support he wasn't there, he didn't care, he was really selfish. He was throwing a party and I called to tell him that I can't come because my mom fell and ended up at the emergency room, and he knew that she is sick, and he just answered- okay, I don't really care I gotta go bye. That's the moment I realized he is not my friend. Telling him something just goes in one ear and out the other. It was exhausting being his friend. If I see him, I'll say hi and chat for a bit but I don't answer calls anymore and don't hang out with him.</p><p><span></span><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/dedahliadivin/" target="_blank">dedahliadivin</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_8" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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