Redditor lixxie_lx wanted to hear about all the big and minuscule things that have us running for the hills, so they asked:
"What instantly makes you lose interest in a person?"
This is a major issue for me.
I lose interest at the speed of light.
Not Cute
rude kim kardashian GIF by RealityTVGIFsGiphy"Superiority complex. It’s fine to be confident, but if you need to put others down to feel that way you’re just insecure and it’s not cute."
CarlosTentacule
Growning Apart
"The moment I can tell that they aren’t trying. Either they aren’t all that interested in me or they expect me to do all of the 'work' so to speak. Either reason is a good enough one to step away."
Ok_Button1932
"I’m going through this as well. 5 year relationship, no kids thankfully and not married. We’ve had to do long distance the last few months and she’s essentially radio silent. Never calls and only texts back if I chase her."
"We trust each other implicitly and even share location but the lack of interest in even checking in with me or being affectionate unless I initiate it has me feeling so gaslit. I fear it’s something as simple as growing apart but neither person wanting to end it."
SavetheFollys
The Tease
"When I tell them I don't like something, or something makes me uncomfortable and they continue to do it intentionally as if it's flirting."
mtotheija
"Hardest breakup I ever had was because of a person's inability to stop f**king with me... it's not funny when someone says that it bothers them and you continue to do it."
"Everything else was really good it gave me huge self doubt that I was just being a whimp and she had a point that it was just teasing. Even got to the point that I thought that's just the way this give and take is gonna go in this relationship. Glad I decided to get out... I would have been miserable."
phreedumb21nyc21
Be Quiet
"Constantly talking sh*t about others and trying to boost their own ego."
uncultured_swine2099
"Yup, I thought I met a good person at first, but then she started talking sh*t about everyone, not to mention if I got something I wanted, instead of being happy for me, she becomes extremely jealous."
"The last straw was when she left me in the middle of the street and left without me for university even though she told me she was picking me up. Sadly, she's still friends with my sister, and she kinda has to be because they share so many classes, but I'm still trying to find a way to cut off all contact, which is harder than I thought would be."
The_Phantom_Soldier
I See You
Married At First Sight No GIF by LifetimeGiphy"Few things are 'instant' dealbreakers, but blatant displays of rudeness or condescension toward strangers when under stress is a big red flag. Like, I get that you are frustrated, but there is no need to be a d*ck."
MissBitsy
Why is kindness so arduous for some people?
Kindness First
hot dog waiter GIF by Warner ArchiveGiphy"If they mistreat others, especially those who are in the service industries."
funtime2000
Stay in the moment...
"When they can't stop checking their mobile phones every few seconds while we are talking. I went out with a woman who would do that. After the 4th date I stopped going out with her and dated another woman. The former was surprised to know that."
"I said 'But girl, you're always on the phone while I talk to you, it makes me feel ignored you know' and she was angry/sad. But I'm not exaggerating when I say she was staring on that screen and sending voice messages and all that to other friends of her while we were dating."
GabrielOmarCY
Look Further
"Lack of curiosity/intellectual laziness. lack of empathy, excessively judgemental attitude, narcissism, treating others as subhuman, spewing hatred, excessive victim behavior, and/or unnecessary combativeness. Maybe I'm just picky."
SawgrassSteve
"Assuming that if they don't know it it isn't worth knowing/can't be interesting. Also adults - well into adulthood, whose excuse for not knowing something is that they weren't taught about it at school. If they taught you to read you can keep learning on your own, you know."
zeugma888
Hard No!
"It definitely (for me i’m talking friendships) depends on a couple things. how they respond to emotional situations (example is are they caring/comforting or being dismissive and not really trying to put anything into it?)... how they respond to boundaries, if they’re mean or judgmental of others, like if we were talking and walking and they randomly look at another person walking and insult them, that’s DEFINITELY a hard no."
chaoticwitchbrr
Tropes
Will Smith Smh GIF by The Academy AwardsGiphy"The 'hard to get' trope. like its one thing if there actually isn't mutual interest but when there is and someone makes you feel like you're working for their time and consideration, forget it."
cherrycreams0da
Coin Chat
"Talking about money. Pitching me business ideas. Speaking ill of people they view as lesser. Always comparing things they associate with prestige, and never speaking about anything of real substance."
FoldedaMillionTimes
Have any of these things ever happened to you? Let us know in the comments below.
Hands Off!!
Giphy"When I was 12, a family friend grabbed my DS and deleted the save of one of my Pokemon games." Aceofkings9Aceofkings9
Mother-In-Law Dearest...
"My MIL likes to volunteer to show new guests around during big events like birthdays or Christmas."
"And without fail she will find the worst part of my home, usually whatever room has a closed door that's out of the way, and will make them stand in there and have a conversation. You know; the bedroom that's a mess because you threw everything in it. The back room of the basement past the laundry room used for disorganized storage."
"It only took 8 years for my husband to catch on that yeah, it happens every time."
"It's not the worst she's done but it is the most head-scratchingly petty." Ladyughsalot1
Weed on White.
"A friend of mine brought his trashy girlfriend over and she pulls out a pipe and takes a hit and then turns the pipe over and smacks the ash out onto my new white carpet. I asked them both to leave and never saw her again." ElvenDeGeneres
Just No.
"Lived in a house with 2 people at uni a couple of years ago (didn't know them before I moved in with them). One of them invited 2 of her friends to come and stay with us. Went to go and use our shared bathroom and there were about 3 used sanitary pads casually left open draped on our sink, despite the fact that we had a bin in the bathroom for them. Cleaned it up once and went back in the next morning and there were more. Never been so disgusted in my life." jacksonliz7991jacksonliz7991
Out of Towners...
"They were housesitting for my family while we were out of town. We let them stay at our house and sleep in my parent's room."
"When we returned home, our house was a disaster. The kitchen was filthy, and their daughter's toys were scattered all over the house. One of their few tasks was to water our plants. They were all dead when we came home."
"Worst of all, they were told not to come into my room, where I have a valuable collection of old toys. Of course, they let their daughter into my room and play with them. Some stuff was damaged."
"That was the last time we let them watch the house. Next time we went out of town a good friend of mine was given the job instead. She did a much better job." Star_glow
We're not friends anymore.
Giphy"Peed in my cat's litter box at a party we had. Turned the whole box into one solid chunk. It was a friend of mine actually. He was really drunk but I'm sure he did it on purpose. Didn't notice either until our cats pooped or peed elsewhere in the house. We're not friends anymore." Boardallday
No Good Deed.
"A friend of my dad lost his house, and we had a former B&B so we invited them to stay with us. We housed and fed them for weeks while the found another place. For that, we got roaches, criticisms of our food (my dad was the executive chef at a freaking country club and was a damned fine cook), but that wasn't the worst for me, then in my late teens."
"The day they left, I went to play my favorite game on PlayStation: Sled Storm. Couldn't find it. Over turned freaking everything, but I couldn't find it. In searching, I noticed something even worse. My SNES, all games, and half my N64 games were missing in addition to Sled Storm. They had stayed with us as a favor and stolen half my shit that I had paid for with birthday money saved up over years. Forget those people." fghth6
Stank Feet!
"Had a friend who had horribly stanky athelete's foot feet from using the showers at the dorms without shower shoes. All of the skin on his soles and between his toes was gone. His feet were raw, red and shiny with new, thin skin. I invited him over to watch movies. It was me and like 5 other guys. We watched horror movies, drank beers and ate snacks. At some point, he took his shoes off. None of us said anything, but the smell permeated the entire five room apartment (living room, kitchen, two bedrooms, bathroom and laundry room) within mere minutes."
"It was very quiet. We gave the couch to him completely by himself. No great loss, the thing was from the 70's and that old scratchy Herculon fabric (important point). Around 2AM my girlfriend showed up and ordered my friend to put his shoes back on. The smell was in the house two days later. I sniffed around after two days of airing out and Febreze and candles did nothing. I smelled the couch cushions. He had rubbed his feet into the fabric of at least two cushions. I guess the scratchy fabric felt really awesome on his feet that were on fire with the itch." notoneofyourfans
Y'all Stupid or Crazy?!
"My sister's friends went into the back of my apartment while i was throwing a party there and as they went i saw them get some tin foil out. I live in a druggie area and know exactly what that means so I marched right after them and told them that that's not happening under my roof or anywhere in the apartment block (there's only 4 in my building and a family with kids lives downstairs). They understood but left shortly after all butthurt. It is insane to me that they thought I would just be ok with them smoking meth INDOORS in my apartment. Without asking as well!" mister_thang
Every. Single. Time.
Giphy"I used to have band practice once a week at my house. And every week the lead singer would clog the toilet. Every. Single. Time." Gumbybum
Placenta.
"Came to visit for a few days with her infant and placenta. The placenta was wrapped in butcher paper, but nothing waterproof and was half thawed from a long car drive. She put it in my freezer where it oozed all over my food." ductoid
The Drunk.
Giphy"A guy we didn't know very well, a friend of a friend, came over to our house for dinner one night. He got quite drunk, despite not knowing him very well we offered that he stay the night at our place instead of driving home drunk. He refused, drove drunk and crashed his car. Then he tried to sue us for letting him drive home drunk. The guy was an fool." wefedfd
Strawberry Boy.
"This kids who was a friend at the time came over for a birthday party. We were around 13 and he ate a strawberry, except the top of it."
"Then he SMUSHED it into our white carpet and left it there. We were watching, like he just did it like it was a normal act."
"My parents still call him strawberry boy." KatrinaGazette
The Wreath.
"My brother's girlfriend had made a Xmas wreath for my home. When she arrived she took the wreath I had on my door and threw it down the hallway and put one up that she had made (which was seriously ugly by the way) My jaw dropped I seriously could not believe she threw MY wreath down the hallway right in front of me! The following day I threw HER wreath in the garbage." Walk-with-a-cane
Knives Out.
Giphy"I don't remember who the guy was because it happened when I was a kid but there was this guy who was in his early 20s, he was in the kitchen with one of the kitchen knifes and just throwing it into the floor so it would get stuck and pulling it out and doing it again." UhhYawn
Bladders....
"My grandfather's cousin was staying with us a for a week; he has a bladder problem and would refuse to wear adult diapers! What followed was him leaving a trail of pee (sometimes poo), when he walked around the house... didn't take too long for my mother to ask his son to take him back home." queenjany
Dirty Girl.
"My son's girlfriend was having family problems and temporality lived with us. Son/GF were 17 at the time. She had no house manners whatsoever... she'd cook herself meals and leave food and dishes everywhere, expecting us to clean after her. Leave her dirty clothes and stuff all over the house. She once borrowed my car without asking. Got so tired of it we asked her to leave." Eyeletblack
Cabinetry.
"My mom used to reorganize my kitchen cabinets whenever she would visit because she disagreed with my organizational system." Thedaythemusicdied37
"My mom does this with our household. She'll come over, remark that the house needs to be cleaned a bit and she'll just start cleaning. It's such an degrading experience. And it's not like my house is disgusting. If we've hovered the day before she'll remark that it's probably been a long time since we've done that and get the hoover out. She doesn't listen when I ask her to stop so we've stopped inviting her over as much in order to avoid the stress." Just_Me_2218
That booze was MINE!
"Drank all of my booze without asking my permission. These were guests of my roommates, and I was already asleep at the time because I basically had 14-hour days for a job I hated at the time (10 hour shift + 2 hour commute each way), and was still broke as crap. That booze was MINE, and those fools drank it all like they owned the damn place. Never even offered to replace it, either." PianoManGidley
Some friend.
Giphy"My 3rd grade "friend" tried to set my shower curtains on fire for no reason." dummyplant
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Former Employees Reveal Why They Quit Their Jobs On The First Day
GiphySometimes you land in the perfect job with the perfect people and perfect company and sometimes... you land in the 7th circle of Hell! More often than not it's the latter. Sometimes you know within five minutes it's time to run like you're on fire out of the building! You won't even need red flags, the situation is a Crimson scene.
Redditor J-Bradley1 asked for everyone's best stories about the first job nightmares that led to an instant "Peace Out!"
ALWAYS COUNT FINGERS FIRST!
It was a shop that refurbished train suspension hydraulics. 40% of the guys were missing at least part of a finger, maintainence guy was missing 4 on one hand and 1.5 on another. The guy training me stormed out half way through the second day.
I was like yeeaaah, I'm just going to dip out now...
NOT GONNA HAPPEN! NEXT!
Many years ago I worked at a popular sports bar as a line cook. First day they had me train with a guy who didn't speak English for 2 hours. Not a huge deal. Mostly you observe people in a kitchen and that's how you learn. Owner came back and said she was scheduling me to be alone the next day.... which was super bowl Sunday.
Noped out of there so fast. Left right then and there.
YOU CAN'T HAVE MY SOUL SATAN!
GiphyOne week. It was 1985, and a collections agency was looking for an IT guy. It was basically desktop support on some IBM PCs. It took me a week to realize what a soul-deadening place that was and I bolted. It was mutual, actually -- they saw how I was reacting to some of the techniques the collectors used. The targets were mostly old people who were encouraged to sell family heirlooms and the like to pay off debts.
DOOR TO DOOR? WHAT IS THIS 1950?
I left halfway through the orientation when I found out it was a job selling those expensive vacuum cleaners door to door.
WHO IS THIS? STOP CALLING ME?!
Three days after my two week training. I was supposed to be a seasonal temp worker for a national propane company. The job distribution and training consisted of taking calls off-hours for people who wanted refills and acting as a messenger service, referring their contact info their local "store" when they opened the next day. Easy-Peasey.
When I got out onto the floor, I found I was actually expected to be a dispatcher for drivers AND ALSO FIRST POINT OF CONTACT FOR ALL EMERGENCY SITUATIONS. Things I had never been so much as briefed on in training. My first shift I had to field a call from a local police officer who was on site to a horrific propane truck crash. I got to wake the guy's district manager in the dead of night, tell him his worker was dead, and the overturned truck was blocking a few lines of the freeway and the police were trying to get a hold of him.
That was just the start: A customer got the smell of garlic and eggs in the house? I got the call. (What do I do next, Miss Dispatcher? "Fuck if I know. Get out of the house ASAP?") CO detector is going off? I got the call. (Instead of 911 for some reason?!) I had ZERO interest in being a underpaid, not-trained emergency dispatcher. It's the only job I took off on without giving a 2 week notice. I was nice enough to finish out my shift on the third day, but that was it.
NEVER GET IN THE VAN!
GiphyI went in to an office for an interview. They said they had several positions available and I wanted to do some admin stuff... Welp, after the interview they told me to get in a van to do the next part of the process. Turns out we drove an hour away so I could shadow one of their door to door sales people. They would ask residents to go into their basement to check their hot water heaters to see if they were eligible to replace them with their companies own... I felt pretty uncomfortable about this and pretty mad my whole day was gone doing this. The worst part was the girl I was shadowing spent half the day sitting around in the truck reading magazines and waiting for people to come home from work... I was sort of asking questions about the job and she got defensive and said, well I decide if you get this job or not, to which I replied, yeah I don't know if I want to do this.. But she kept insisting that it was her who decided if I worked... Don't think she understood I meant that I didn't want to do this crap... Waste of a day.
NOTHING GOOD EVER HAPPENED AT BLOCKBUSTER.
Mine had to be when I was 18 and working at Blockbuster. I was helping the manager during the before open shift getting new items stocked on the shelves that came in that morning. My mom called me and told me that my dad was having a heart attack and she was panicking while waiting for the ambulance. Why did she call me at work to tell me this? The Blockbuster I worked at was in a strip mall type area behind my cul-de-sac, my house and the Blockbuster was separated by a small alley and a 3 min walk. I told my manager what was happening and asked if I could leave to help my mom while they waited for the ambulance. She said no. I just stood there looking at her thinking she couldn't be serious I would be gone for all of 10 mins and back helping her if needed. She stressed how important it was to get the things done that needed to be done and I could only leave if I called around to the other workers and found someone to come in and cover for me while I was gone. I took off my name tag slammed it on the counter and walked out. I never went back for any reason. For any who might wonder; my dad came out fine was in the hospital for a few days.
HOW ABOUT I JUST BE A MIND READER?
I worked for a newspaper for most of a week. I was expected to use my own laptop and software, no IT and I'd have to share logins and passwords with 3 other people and guess when they would need them.
I SEE YOU SHADY! DON'T TRY ME!
GiphyFound out that the educational assistance they touted in their advertisement applied only to full time employees and that they both defined full time as no fewer than 40 hours and kept anyone who would apply for that assistance from ever being qualified for it. None of this was advertised and the people I interviewed with assured me, a college student, that working 21 hours a week would get me the benefits. Too bad I read my contract before signing it and called them out. Don't lie to your employees, especially during an interview on something that can be easily and swiftly disproven. If you're willing to lie to me about this, what else are you willing to lie to me about?
(I did their training before being offered my contract, so I count it as having worked there, btw.)
IT'S JUST FOOD! NOBODY'S CURING CANCER WITH AN APPETIZER!
Many years ago I was managing a fast food restaurant for a local franchise. Shortly before lunch, one of my employees got a phone call that their grandmother had been taken to the hospital with a possible heart attack. They lived with their grandmother, from what I understood their parents were not in the picture.
I told him to go to the hospital and I would find coverage. About 15 minutes later my district manager showed up and asked why I was short handed. (Fast food restaurants run on razor thin margins, so one missing body is easily noticed). I told him what happened and that employee was on his way to the hospital. His response was "What is he going to do, save her? He's not a doctor, we have a business to run."
That was the last straw for me with that company. It was part of a larger pattern of that attitude, and I refused to treat employees like that. I gave my notice shortly after and moved to a better job.
ZERO PERCENT OF ZERO IS.... 0? NO THANKS.
I was interviewing for a contract position at a very small game development company, and they told me they were looking for someone to help finish up an existing project.
Literally, the game looked like it was made in MS Paint. As if they had just hired some random guy off the street and asked them to make some art for them. Granted it's a mobile game and sold for the standard 0.99, so maybe that's not the worst, but the game itself doesn't look engaging at all either. But I figure, worst comes to worst I could make some money on the side with some low-effort work.
Then they told me that my pay would be a percentage of the sales. Noped right out of that one.
MAYBE WE SHOULD ALL BE HEALTH INSPECTORS?!
GiphyWorked in a bakery, it was my first day so I get there in the morning to meet everyone. Then they have me grease up baking trays for the others to fill... I lift up the first tray and like 10-15 cockroaches just scatter everywhere from under the tray. I tell the guy showing me the work that there were cockroaches and he just shrugged... This was all in the backstore, customers were about 10 feet away.
So i tell the guy that I'm not feeling too well after about an hour of doing that and i head to the bathroom.
When I came out I told him I couldn't do that job and he told me to get a real job then, so I left and got myself a proper job.
WELL THAT IS SOME INTERESTING ATTIRE.
I had an interview at what I thought was a regular steakhouse in a new town I had just moved to. The interview went well, it was just before the restaurant opened so it was pretty empty. At the end, a waitress starting her shift walked by in chaps and a thong. Turns out that was their uniform. The manager called like 30 mins later saying I got the job. I had to politely decline that one ????
DON'T MESS WITH MY COIN!
Graphic design from home job. Nailed the interview - had absolute confidence I could provide this dude what he was asking for.
Got the job, and the first thing he said was to take a rather large check that would be mailed to me and buy my equipment. It was supposed to be from a special vendor that was to engrave the laptop and provide software. It was a scam. I looked up his business on Google, rather than through the link he sent me. I found the exact same shitty website with dozens of different CEOs.
Told him to not send me a check and that I was not longer interested. The check was going to be fake, and the money I would be sending to the vendor would end up being my own once the bank found out.
IT ONLY TAKES A MINUTE....
GiphyCold calling people about injury claims. "Have you been injured in the past 3 years?" That kind of thing.
The thing that really irked me was that all of the people I called in those 20 minutes were polite, said they're not interested, and they were just sitting down for dinner. I realized it was a horrible job and I was in no way cut out for it. I left after 20 minutes and just walked out the door without a word.
JUST RUN!
I was unemployed for a couple months, and started applying for pretty much any job I could do. This one was a basic small-biz IT support contractor. The employee the interviewer introduced to me mouthed "run" when he turned his back.
THANKS FOR THE HEADS UP!
This Quarter you guys have really achieved a lot for the company and surpassed our expectations...Just a reminder, we will be having to lay some more people off soon...
Peace out, I'll find something else before you make me leave
THESE BOOTS WERE MADE FOR WALKING!
GiphyI went to my orientation at a boot factory. They're government contracted and so pay minimum wage, so I figured I'd work there awhile and look for something better.
After we do the usual paperwork signing and such, we're taken as a group onto the factory floor for a tour. It's hot, it's crowded, it stinks, and everyone working looks annoyed by our presence... Okay, i guess not everyone loves their job right? No biggie, I'm sure this won't be so bad.
Then our guide informs us in no uncertain terms that our coworkers quite often give new people bad information to get them in trouble or make them mess up. They'd even be the ones to rat you out. Then we're told that our foreman is the type to yell for no reason, ask people if they're drunk in an accusatory way for no reason, and is generally a giant fool.
I took a few moments to think after these last revelations, said "Nah." And walked out of the building without a word to anyone. Forget that crap, Captain. I'm not putting up with all of that for 8 bucks and some change an hour.
UMMM... OH HELL NO FELICIA!
When I was 16 I had an interview at a local pizza place in a not so good part of town. I was hired and as I was walking out 2 guys came in and robbed the place. The manager gave them the money in the register and they ran out. I looked at him and he said "You get used to it". I never went back.
Redditor u/relatee asked people who were caught up in some drama an important life question.... Former cult members of Reddit, at what moment did you go, "oh f**k, I'm in a cult"?
I'm a Material Girl!
GiphyOne of the leaders said that we shouldn't watch any TV or read any material that wasn't published by the church.
I said, "well I just like road and track magazine, I don't think that's anti religious." He replied, "that material will cause you to lust after material things and you shouldn't read that."
It was at that point I knew I had to get the hell out of there. GasLOLHAHA
My Butt!
When the high lama snapped a crying toddler on the side of the head to get him to shut up, then demanded that children be kept out of earshot, a thousand yards away. Great compassion my butt.
(Not to mention he got drunk every night while he taught. Not to mention he said Westerners lacked the discernment to judge and choose their own teachers.) tyinsf
Let's be friends....
GiphyWas accidentally in a religious cult. I would see how the pastor would treat non members and members that didn't comply with what he wanted and I would think "I hope he doesn't start acting this way towards me" he would berate people, gossip, expect us to stay at his house until late hours, forbid us to hang out with non members, and he even asked me to move in there when I already had my own place.
I noticed it was a cult when I told them I was hanging out with an old friend and they preceded to ask why was I doing that and that they were my friends.
I came to a service that following Sunday and the pastor sees me and says "I had a message I was going to preach, but I'm going to preach a different message today."
The whole service was pretty much him talking stuff about me and making rude jokes. I knew this sermon was about me when he kept referencing the "person" hanging out with other people and saying it was sinful and of the world. I never felt so embarrassed in my life with everyone laughing at me. I sat that entire service just embarrassed.
Once I left, several of the members attempted to contact me with a few of them trying to "go to the movies" with me at midnight when they knew damn well the closest movie theatre was an hour away and what movie theatre shows movies at midnight.
After I stopped going to that church a few of the members completely stopped talking to me despite us being "friends" still can't believe that happened to me. Tito_Santana
The Glue....
Watching my Grandma, who is the matriarch of my extended family and our family's glue, struggle to pay tithes AND offerings every week, regardless of how much of a difference it would have made to her vs our rather large church. My Grandma paid for her meds in change on a Monday and while I watched our preacher get into a brand new, black and chrome Yukon Denali the Sunday prior and it didn't make sense. tchallathe2nd
Leah Remini for the win...
A couple of things....
When I found out about the Australia Royal Commission into Institutional Responses to Child Sexual Abuse. Specifically case studies 29 and 54. Watching a governing body member (1 of 8 leaders of Jehovah's Witnesses), Geoffrey Jackson, lie, reword questions, avoid direct answers and get thoroughly beaten by a lawyer on Biblical interpretation I was like, "oh crap." I started my escape and doctrinal research.
The "oh damn!" and bawling, lots of bawling as a mid 30s man, came after watching episodes 5 and 6 of season 1 of Leah Remini: Scientology and the Aftermath. The first 4 episodes I saw similarities. Episodes 5 and 6 I saw things that I had had happen in my life. Getting ad hominem attacks from my mother, sister and brother-in-law, which from watching the show I expected would come, gave further proof of Jehovah's Witnesses being a doomsday cult.
Research whatever it is that you are in. Especially if born in to a religious belief system. wyofan87
Give Praise....
GiphyI was actually in a church that transformed slowly into a cult. They just slowly started doing more and more miracle things and being open more and more days open with encouragement to be there for those days. Tithes became incredible important and the priest family became more and more important.
I left but I heard some insane things happened after I left. I was lucky as I came from a really complicated low socioeconomic background when I moved for uni there wasn't much fight for me. KettleLogic
Speak Up!
Had an accident when I was twelve that injured my back. Sitting hurt. I convinced my mother to allow me to walk around during the multi-hour long services in the library/overflow room downstairs that had a speaker blaring whatever was going on at the pulpit. In that library was all the original cult publications from eighty plus years previous. No one ever paid any attention to them but I was a voracious reader. They were into some wackadoo crap at the beginning that totally contradicted the current teachings. (pyramid power, numerology...) I never said anything because it was a closed society and questioning meant total shunning but from that point on I was aware that it was all garbage and I spent most of my time planning my escape.
When I finally publicly called bull six years later I lost everyone and everything. Life sucked for a while but 10/10 would do it again.
Don't answer the door when Jehovah's Witnesses come knocking especially if you have children! They're hiding tens of thousands of pedophiles in their ranks! Fn weirdo doomsday fools. loudmouthedmonkey
So Obvious!
I used to practice kung fu at what was basically the most McDojo place ever. On top of all the usual money grabbing bull! The grand master changed his title to something like His Celestial Holiness and started getting his students to travel to the woods to build his temple.
Nope! Avatar_ZW
Heaven's Gate!
GiphyHeaven's gate cult in the late 90's targeted me because I was obsessed with Star Trek. My best friend growing up, her family was part of it. I spent almost two years with them Before I was brought to a meeting. It was scary as hell. They all killed themselves a few years after. No one believed me for 16 years. That part messed with me the most. mtheorye
Just Research!
When I was told i couldn't ask questions. I was 14.
All that did was make me ask more questions.
I ended up at the public library reading up about cults. (This was in the 90's). o2bjody
The Sacred Lamb...
When I was told that proceeding in a ceremony and receiving a gift that was a religious rite of passage to adulthood would require me to take upon myself certain sacred obligations, and that I could not know them beforehand. I could either leave then in front of my family or essentially sign a blank check to swear any oath required of me later on.AhhhGreat
Too Much Gospel!
GiphyWhen the church spent more time talking about how we should bring people out to church than they actually talked about the gospel, I decided it was time to go. thudly
Yep! Joined a "youth group" that turned out to be a Jesus cult in high school. I should've noticed how important recruiting was to them (considering the kids who recruited me were very proud of their accomplishment), but one of the first tip offs that something was awry was when they covered a wall in paper with a red brick pattern and we were encouraged to write the names of our friends from school who needed to be "saved" on the wall so everyone could pray for them and reach out to them about coming to youth group.
When I quit they showed up at my house to try to convince me to come back. They had over 100 members from my high school alone (and I think around 400 in general). Cat_Island
The Flock!
For me it was when, after almost a decade of being raised in and working for them, i got fired by them. The reason being I had watched a Chris Rock video, and this was reported by one Cult Leaders many spies he apparently had in each department (found this out after a lot of digging once i had become disillusioned). He decided it was proof that i was not pure in Christ and had to be removed from the "flock of christ."
The idea that something so innocent as a comedy youtube, could be a "grievous sin against God" as he put; struck me as beyond ludicrous and awakened a very cynical part of me. And so the journey of searching for truth began.wittyusernamefailed
No hitting the streets!
I was part of a "cult" church when I was invited soon after I started attending school at UF. Since I was looking for a church to attend, this worked out great
I was invited by a real nice guy and started attending every service, getting to know everyone and making great friends. The services seemed to be a bit extreme, a little too "fire and brimstone" but I decided to ignore that and focus on what I agree with.
I started getting a little uncomfortably when they tried to make me recruit people on the street, but I really felt uneasy when they said I shouldn't hang out with my friends that followed other religions and even family members, because they're not "good influences."
Despite all of this I kept going mainly because of the people there. It wasn't until my sociology class did a unit on cults and how they work, being nice and friendly and then trying to separate people from their friends and family so they won't be persuaded to leave.
After that I decided to stop attending services, although I stayed in touch with some people. It's a real shame because most of them are born again Christians and don't know that a real church isn't like that. They're great people, just lead by the wrong person. RageAndWar
Not the KKK!!!!
GiphyObligatory not me but my friend's grandfather was a farmer growing up, think 1940s or 50s. It was kind of a remote town, but he would talk to other farmers and buyers when he went down to the market. One day, an acquaintance of his tells him that they're having a meeting with whole bunch of other farmers and farmhands and that he should come and join. My friend's grandfather, thinking it's some sort of farmer's alliance, is like "sure, why not."
Friend's grandpa goes to the meeting and is a bit confused when it's not about farming at all. It's a KKK meeting. He has an "oh crap, I'm in a cult," moment, but waits till it's over because he doesn't know what will happen if someone sees him trying to leave. Meeting ends. He goes home. Dude tries to invite him again and friend's grandpa nopes out of there. Cometstarlight
Can't handle competition?
"remember not to browse apostate websites in case they weaken your faith."
Shouldn't truth stand up under scrutiny?
I was a jehovah's witness, here's an "apostate" website for those who are interested: www.jwfacts.comDreadCorsairRobert
Show them the $$$!
My parents were in this religious cult that always ask for crazy amount of donation. It even send families out to pioneer for the religion. We were one of the family.
Then coming to Canada and we had financial/immigration issue. The organization immediately distanced us. Only then did we realize this was not what we thought it was. The way they motivated people was like any cult I have heard of.willchen319
Get thee back Satan!
GiphyWhen I realized I was afraid of doing outside research on the religion (cult) I was raised in. I was afraid I'd be allowing Satan to control my mind. Once I did research it I realized that for so many years I thought I was thinking for myself but I was really just being controlled and told what to think and do. And then it further intensified the realization I was in a cult when my whole family turned their back on me and started shunning me because I stopped believing in their nonsense. Koaliawa
Our Greatest Callings....
When I realized ever since I was a kid I had been railroaded towards getting married and having more kids in the organization. Every thing I was every taught was how to be a good wife with sewing and quiet journaling and crafts with no encouragement for my dreams of being a scientist.
Once when I was ~14 I said to a leader that I didn't want kids and wanted to be a scientist, and I remember the exact words: "Well, when you decide you do want to have kids remember that that's the greatest calling you can have." When I got older I did some research and compared it to the "approved resources" I found a lot of lies and cover ups they taught and found the truth disgusting. Nightthunder
Finding targets...
When I wasn't good enough. It wasn't enough that I showed up, paid money and contributed to the group—there was always this hint of disappointment that I couldn't bring in more people, through subtle hints like, "You can bring other people if you'd like! We'd love to be able to save your loved ones," to, "Why don't you ever bring people in? Your loved ones deserve to be saved!" And people who were social and outgoing were described as the most desirable people to invite into the church. My pastor straight out said, "We aren't going for the loners you see sitting alone at lunch. We need to go for the social kids with groups of friends all around them. It's our goal to save as many people as possible so we need to go for them!" Decadent_Grool
That is all crazy scary. Have any of you had any run-ins with cults?
Angelina Murphy is a high school English teacher. Like many teachers in this day and age, she is active on social media, sharing her teaching games, classroom ideas, and an Amazon Wishlist to add new books to her classroom.
However, she recently went viral for her end of the year tradition.
I give students the option to submit memes about the school year or our class and we look at them on the last day o… https://t.co/OGfEcioDIv— Angelina Murphy (@Angelina Murphy) 1559322984.0
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The cool teach gives her students the chance to submit memes about the year, or her class specifically. She compiles them into a slideshow and presents them back to her students.
As she mentions, many of the students use the opportunity to roast their teacher for her fun quirks and personality, but she's cool with it.
The memes get really creative, and even if a few end up being inside jokes, you can tell the kids love it.
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Memes of the past few years are well represented, like the "And I Oop" meme, and screenshost from the shows Get Out, Spongebob and The Office.
Ms. Murphy tried to close out the long list of memes by thanking people for following along, but it seems it never ends. People keep engaging with the thread and asking for more, so Murphy is only too happy to oblige.
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She was also very active over the weekend, answering people's questions about some of the specifics mentioned in the memes.
@MrKnoxSHS I tell students they can make any school appropriate memes about our class, school, any of the content w… https://t.co/olfiBOv7tA— Angelina Murphy (@Angelina Murphy) 1559359594.0
@magicalmsmurphy I love so much that you teach HS and I can tell by their memes that they still embrace “kid” thing… https://t.co/fWJbBTpGgA— Hilary Black (@Hilary Black) 1559392842.0
@MrKnoxSHS They submit them in Google Classroom. I compile them into one presentation so it’s easy for me to show t… https://t.co/OOj3umQuHJ— Angelina Murphy (@Angelina Murphy) 1559360139.0
@magicalmsmurphy @WeAreTeachers Great validation of your routines, norms, high expectations, and positive classroom… https://t.co/TcpcV9oLRn— Tony Frontier (@Tony Frontier) 1559388715.0
Her weekly schedule includes a quick grammar exercise on Monday, literary notes on Tuesday, vocabulary on Wednesday, and a free writing journal response on Thursday.
She also uses popsicle sticks with the kids' name to pick a presenter when the kids are reluctant to volunteer.
It's pretty great to see!
@magicalmsmurphy Ohhhhhhhh my these are great. I want all of the logistics!— Caleb Knox (@Caleb Knox) 1559359189.0
Great thread and FUNNY! @magicalmsmurphy has captured hearts and built rapport with her students...they respectfull… https://t.co/tTFPRaqFQW— Cherie Boyd (@Cherie Boyd) 1559388221.0
Teachers often share their own habits and tools online through social media. Earlier this year, a teacher's "Check-in" board to help students express their mental health went viral.
It was lauded for engaging students to consider their emotions and take care of their own mental health, as well as share their feelings with someone who shares a good portion of their day.
Ms. Murphy is currently on a social media break as she preps for her last week of the school year, but I'm sure she wouldn't mind if you shared your appreciation for her end of the year tradition.