Gay Men Who've Told A Woman 'I Actually Have A Boyfriend' Describe The Reactions They Got
February 01 | 2021
The ladies love gay men. The ladies love us. They just do. I have been checked out at the gym so often by women that one day I became so frustrated I had to speak. On this particular day, I was running like a fiend on the treadmill, and this lovely young woman sidled up onto the treadmill next to me. She would not stop eyeing me, flipping her hair and would incessantly try to make small talk; which I regretfully engaged in.
Finally near the end of the run, just as I was about to finish she pushed my shoulder to ask me if I wanted to grab a drink. I was thrown off because I was focused on my finish and because her push was more a shove and I fell to the floor. I wanted to read her for filth but instead just yelled... "leave me alone... I have a man!" She got the memo! As did the gym.
Redditor u/lil_Chickens wanted to hear how the boys out there let down a lady or two by letting them know... we bat for the same team girl. They asked... Gay men of reddit, have you ever pulled the "I have a boyfriend" on a girl? If so what was their reaction?<div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_1"></div>
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No Tanks Please
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTU1NTcyOC9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY0MjQ3MjY5N30.ErOitFSjw9ylD05g-oVv2wPLAG_-6JOXRj1TgGPIoJY/img.gif?width=980" id="61f4c" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="1b8ec74941f072f606e824e9d80eb964" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="320" data-height="180" />gay men GIFGiphy<p>I have had a drunk girl very awkwardly trying to flirt with me. I laughed it off at first until her boyfriend showed up and seemed ready to start a fight. I told him don't worry I am gay, and no he is not my type either, and he just deflated. It's kinda funny really. From then on I save my tank tops for gay bars only.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l5hw41/gay_men_of_reddit_have_you_ever_pulled_the_i_have/gkvuk3x?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">sodomystic</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_36" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Whoops...
<p>Backfired so freaking hard. I was with a guy I had gone on like 3 dates with and got along great with but it was still new. He overheard me tell this girl "I'm really sorry but I'm actually here with my boyfriend". He was nearby, overheard "boyfriend", had a little "we're moving too fast" panic attack and bailed. </p><p>I thought it'd be something we'd have a laugh about, planned to get together for some food the next day but he ended up flaking. </p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_2" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>He was a really self conscious person, think he felt awkward about the whole thing and how he reacted. C'est la vie! He was a good guy, no ill will. Just a bit of a facepalm. I should have just let that girl get handsy.</p><p>Gonna be honest, it was just a line I had used before to get some of the creepier older gents in gay bars to stop bothering me, I figured hey, this has never let me down. Mistakes were made.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l5hw41/gay_men_of_reddit_have_you_ever_pulled_the_i_have/gkv7n3f?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">howcreativeami</a></p>
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Just Say No
<p>Years ago this girl approached me at a bar and asked if she could have my number, I was totally thrown for a loop. I told her I was gay and she got super offended and said "if you're not interested, then just say so!" and stormed off. I felt bad. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l5hw41/gay_men_of_reddit_have_you_ever_pulled_the_i_have/gkvl4nj?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Scapeach</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_4" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Damn Genitalia...
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTU1NTcyNC9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTYyOTM1NDM2MH0.8G6iczdv1HJE_wM7KJAYrkg_EuIinvHyUgu-uj6eRUI/img.gif?width=980" id="5230b" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="5cd3c2019fc7b3c948f1a38f9bf85b86" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="244" data-height="244" />gay GIFGiphy<p>I was shamelessly hitting on this guy until he just straight up told me:</p><p>"You know I am gay, right?"</p><p>I in fact did not know. We are really good friends now and constantly joke that our genitalia is getting in the way of the romance of a lifetime. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l5hw41/gay_men_of_reddit_have_you_ever_pulled_the_i_have/gkvxtqo?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Tit_Save</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_5" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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"So what's up with you?"
<p>When I said "I have a boyfriend," they left me alone right away. Nowadays when I say "I have a husband," they get a lot more aggressive. A few recent ones: at the grocery store and a girl small talks me a bit before asking for my number. Told her that I'm married and she brushed it off like she didn't hear me. Started switching it up and complimenting my appearance a lot. Another one is at the gas station where this girl outright got next to me and started touching my arm and just said "So what's up with you?" </p><p>Again, she ignored me when I said I had a husband and pressed harder on me</p><p>When my husband and I dated, they'd back off right away. Both men and women. I think it's just me being married, and very little to do with him being my husband, that gets the interest higher. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l5hw41/gay_men_of_reddit_have_you_ever_pulled_the_i_have/gkvkmow?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">StiffDiq</a></p>
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The Non-Perve
<p>Had a very good looking young lady (30's) point out to her very good looking boyfriend (30's) that I (55) was perving on her. He was a bit annoyed and asked 'WTF man'. I said "Hang on i'll ask my husband". The guy giggled and said to his lady 'He's cool he's perving on me'. It was so good to see such cool guy. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l5hw41/gay_men_of_reddit_have_you_ever_pulled_the_i_have/gkw53n0?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">MRicho</a><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l5hw41/gay_men_of_reddit_have_you_ever_pulled_the_i_have/gkw53n0/?utm_source=reddit&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"></a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_7" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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At the Library...
<p>Happened a couple times when girls assumed I was hitting on them. At the library once, I asked a girl (who was sitting alone at a table that could sit 10) if I could sit by her. She gave me that irritated look, "I have a boyfriend." I replied "So do I," and I just sat down. That attitude is very widespread among straight women, from my experience - unless I just constantly sound unwittingly flirty. </p><div data-conversation-spotlight style="min-height:90px"></div>
<p>I have been accused of hitting on girls several times when I never did. Worst so far was a girl at a party who was going around and telling every guest that I was undressing her with my eyes. Thankfully, most of the guests were my friends and knew I'm gay, lol. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l5hw41/gay_men_of_reddit_have_you_ever_pulled_the_i_have/gkv4uv5?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">BobbingandBang</a></p>
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But I'm 5'11
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTU1NTc0OC9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTYyOTU5NDkxNn0.QAN-ANr8DopJJAHegVf9lUuNlOmkJ_veyQ_Brth7h7Q/img.gif?width=980" id="61bbd" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="a625a7c00045e36307d3bf8486b6f119" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="480" data-height="480" />sexy swimming pool GIF by ROMEOGiphy<p>Oooooh do I have one for y'all. So I live in Texas and being gay is still not widely accepted here so it shocks people when I tell them. This has happened to me multiple times. The one that stands out the most is that this woman actually told me I'm too tall to be gay. What does that mean? I'm literally 5' 11"? I am so confused by this.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l5hw41/gay_men_of_reddit_have_you_ever_pulled_the_i_have/gkvm1w4?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">WitchAndAHalf</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_9" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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For Safety
<p>I pulled an 'i have a girlfriend' on a creepy man who I found out later was a serial killer. I'm a gay man, the serial killer was Stephen Port aka the grinder killer. I was a getting a bus close to his apartment when he approached me in the early hours. Saying I had a girlfriend did not immediately deter him however. Terrifying experience. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l5hw41/gay_men_of_reddit_have_you_ever_pulled_the_i_have/gkvpvb4?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">The_Libra_man</a></p>At D & D
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTU1NTc0OS9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTYyMDUyODIwM30.L8PZC4lmKp7KTOvf43qKVw6JWAFbOM0X1U2lMNNSmXw/img.gif?width=980" id="ce5f0" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="fd84061d9679012715a9cc52b53ae2cb" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="480" data-height="480" />dunkin donuts omg GIF by Dunkin’Giphy<p>I've had to do it a few times, usually they apologize and stop, but sometimes they done. </p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_10" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>My boyfriend had me pick him up a coffee from dunkin donuts and the lady at the window kept talking about how she couldn't find a boyfriend and then started asking what I'm doing that night. I told her about my boyfriend expecting her to stop, but she didn't so i just drove off.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l5hw41/gay_men_of_reddit_have_you_ever_pulled_the_i_have/gkvlmt8?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">BoredOnQuarantine</a></p>
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"No thank you, I'm gay"
<p>I was in Thailand with my ex and I would always get harassed by sex workerrs to buy their services. One night were both on our way back to the hotel and as usual and one approached us. I said "No thank you, I'm gay" to which she responds "I don't believe you" so I kissed him in front of her and she says "You make a cute couple" and walked away. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l5hw41/gay_men_of_reddit_have_you_ever_pulled_the_i_have/gkvro4r?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Naughtiestdingo</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_12" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Actually...
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<p>I slowed down a bit as I walked closer behind them and was waiting for them to either make room or else I was just gonna walk on the grass past them. One girl looked at me and then went back to talking without moving so I just walked on the grass past them and as I get back on the sidewalk in front of them I heard one of them say "I think he was checking us out" and I just stopped and said "actually I like guys" and then kept walking.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l5hw41/gay_men_of_reddit_have_you_ever_pulled_the_i_have/gkuz4yb?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Tru-Queer</a></p>
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I'm a Lesbian
<p>I'm a lesbian, but I have a funny story.</p><p>I worked in retail and was very openly gay. One of my coworkers invited me over to hang out at his place with a friend. I was kinda nervous to drink with a couple dudes I didn't know, but he's always been a really nice and everyone had good things to say about him. I ended up taking him up on his offer. Towards the end of the night we were pretty smashed and he tried to make a move on me. I just sat there very confused for a minute. When I hesitated he immediately started backing off saying "hey no worries, figured I'd just shoot my shot." </p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_15" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>I told him "I'm flattered, but I'm also super gay." He laughed it off, apologized and we ended up becoming pretty decent friends and partying together regularly. Definitely the nicest drunk dude I've ever known. I've had a lot of really horrible experiences with dudes at parties, so this guy being so genuine and treating me like a living, breathing, human being was so refreshing. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l5hw41/gay_men_of_reddit_have_you_ever_pulled_the_i_have/gkwml4m?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">SentimentalSalmon</a></p>
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Oh Honey...
<p>Okay, not gay, but have pulled the "I have a boyfriend" card. So the story is, I'm a pretty femme guy. I like fashion, hair, make-up, that sort of thing. I saw a woman in the store who was just having a fantastic hair day, and I mentioned it to her. She said, "Umm, I don't think my boyfriend would appreciate you hitting on me." I said, "Oh honey, if I was hitting on you, my boyfriend would be far more upset." Then she just looked at me while she tried to figure it out, so I helped it along. "Ever had a straight guy compliment your haircut before?" Then she was flattered and felt good and we both went about our days. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l5hw41/gay_men_of_reddit_have_you_ever_pulled_the_i_have/gkvr74x?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Exandrus</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_17" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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FB Issues
<p>In high school, this girl messaged me over facebook asking me to prom and telling me that she loved me. I told her that that's sweet but I'm gay. Turns out she also did this to one of my other gay friends after I turned her down. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l5hw41/gay_men_of_reddit_have_you_ever_pulled_the_i_have/gkvpm9b?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">tangledlettuce</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_18" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Maybe a 7...
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<p>When I lived in Brazil, my blond hair and red beard made me "exotic" and equivalent to an 8 there, and women were CONSTANTLY aggressively hitting on me.</p><p>I would tell them I was gay, but they very often didn't believe me and continued their hard-sell approach. It really made me realise what it's like for women when men are just relentless. Sooooo annoying.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l5hw41/gay_men_of_reddit_have_you_ever_pulled_the_i_have/gkvgu66?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">iSprainedMyUvula</a></p>
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Whoops, sorry...
<p>No, because I wouldn't date them if I didn't have a boyfriend. If I'm hit on by a woman, I let them know I'm gay. If I tell them I have a boyfriend, that implies I'd otherwise be interested, and I'm not.</p><p>The response I've gotten to "sorry, I'm gay" varies wildly. Most women are shocked and some think I'm joking. Some take it as a challenge and keep hitting on me anyway. I've lost a couple female friends who refused to take no for an answer (seriously ladies, respecting boundaries is a 2way street). </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l5hw41/gay_men_of_reddit_have_you_ever_pulled_the_i_have/gkusg3e?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">efluxr</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_21" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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With the Lads
<p>I am not gay, but when I'm at the bar with the lads (back in the long long ago when going to bars was a thing), I use a line similar to this.</p><p>I notice women seem to think if they flirt with me, I will buy them a drink. Perhaps because I am ogrish and dress nicely they think I am desperate and rich enough to pay for their drinks? Anyways, a couple of years ago, I had this lady flirting with me for a few minutes followed by "So, are you going to buy me a drink?" I replied with...</p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_22" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>"Let me go ask my boyfriend. He carries all our money."</p><p>Then I go up to one of my buddies, tell him about the situation, and we look at the poor girl and laugh and laugh and kiss. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l5hw41/gay_men_of_reddit_have_you_ever_pulled_the_i_have/gkv3bqw?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">ElHombreBatido</a></p>
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Wendy Williams Hit With Swift Backlash After Telling Gay Men To 'Stop Wearing Our Skirts And Our Heels'
February 14 | 2020
Talk show host Wendy Williams is being accused of a wide range of intolerant behaviors after a rant on her show in which she told gay men to "stop wearing our skirts and our heels."
<p>Williams was talking about the holiday "Galentine's Day," created by the TV show <em>Parks & Recreation</em>, which celebrates female friendships the day before Valentine's Day. </p><p><strong>When she saw men clapping along with the women after a joke, she <a href="https://www.huffpost.com/entry/wendy-williams-show-gay-men-heels-skirts-comments_n_5e45c845c5b64ba2974c86b8" target="_blank">commented</a>:</strong></p><blockquote><em>"If you're a man and you're clapping, you're not even a part of this. I don't care if you're gay. You don't get a [menstrual period] every 28 days. You can do a lot that we do, but I get offended by the idea that we go through something you will never go through." </em></blockquote><p class="shortcode-media shortcode-media-youtube">
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</p><p><strong>Williams then went on to say to gay men:</strong></p><blockquote><em>"Stop wearing our skirts and our heels. Girls, what do we have for ourselves? You'll never be the woman that we are, no matter how gay!"</em></blockquote><p class="shortcode-media shortcode-media-twitter_embed">
</p><div id="7be6e" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="WXK2PJ1581710721"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet twitter-custom-tweet" data-twitter-tweet-id="1228029848549044225" data-partner="rebelmouse"><div style="margin:1em 0">. @WendyWilliams to LGBT community. “I get offended at the idea that we go through something you will NEVER go thro… https://t.co/lgBnEfyu60</div> — Ent. Discussion (@Ent. Discussion)<a href="https://twitter.com/Ent_discussion/statuses/1228029848549044225">1581620106.0</a></blockquote></div>
<p></p><p><strong>Internet users everywhere denounced Williams's comments as homophobic and transphobic.</strong></p><p class="shortcode-media shortcode-media-twitter_embed">
</p><div id="494db" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="ZHEV9W1581710721"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet twitter-custom-tweet" data-twitter-tweet-id="1228055239514824704" data-partner="rebelmouse"><div style="margin:1em 0">Oh, Wendy. Your homophobia is showing: Wendy Williams to Gay Men: 'Stop Wearing Our Skirts and Our Heels' https://t.co/qFVwhUsrtv</div> — Jeffrey Luscombe (@Jeffrey Luscombe)<a href="https://twitter.com/JeffreyLuscombe/statuses/1228055239514824704">1581626159.0</a></blockquote></div>
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</p><div id="0719b" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="FKVHDB1581710721"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet twitter-custom-tweet" data-twitter-tweet-id="1228101165856018432" data-partner="rebelmouse"><div style="margin:1em 0">@WendyWilliams i love you, i really do but if you’re telling us to stop wearing “y’all skirts and heels”, then give… https://t.co/RZe9Szi6JH</div> — Bruce williams 🤴🏽 (@Bruce williams 🤴🏽)<a href="https://twitter.com/bruceewilliams3/statuses/1228101165856018432">1581637109.0</a></blockquote></div>
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</p><div id="e092b" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="B2PCA01581710721"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet twitter-custom-tweet" data-twitter-tweet-id="1228086478200328192" data-partner="rebelmouse"><div style="margin:1em 0">.@WendyWilliams, some friendly reminders:
1. Many cis women would be offended by having their womanhood reduced to… https://t.co/yuGEDTaFv1</div> — Charlotte Clymer 🏳️🌈 (@Charlotte Clymer 🏳️🌈)<a href="https://twitter.com/cmclymer/statuses/1228086478200328192">1581633607.0</a></blockquote></div>
<p></p><p><strong>Wendy Williams seems to have some trouble avoiding controversy.</strong> </p><p>Earlier this year, she had to <a href="https://www.georgetakei.com/wendy-williams-joaquin-phoenix-cleft-2644830128.html" target="_blank">issue an apology</a> after making fun of a scar on Joaquin Phoenix's lip. </p><p>In 2018, she said she was "sick" of the #MeToo movement.</p><p class="shortcode-media shortcode-media-twitter_embed">
</p><div id="b5a1b" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="P8B0HO1581710721"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet twitter-custom-tweet" data-twitter-tweet-id="1228100302244470785" data-partner="rebelmouse"><div style="margin:1em 0">Y’all remember when Wendy Williams got coin to do that awful Drag Race commentary during the commercial breaks? 😅 N… https://t.co/bT8xQMQDQ7</div> — Kelly Mantle (@Kelly Mantle)<a href="https://twitter.com/thekellymantle/statuses/1228100302244470785">1581636903.0</a></blockquote></div>
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</p><div id="04eb6" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="ICVAOU1581710721"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet twitter-custom-tweet" data-twitter-tweet-id="1228047006112849921" data-partner="rebelmouse"><div style="margin:1em 0">Gays obsessed with @WendyWilliams is on our team: SHE. IS. NOT. Drop her. She's toxic. https://t.co/iX7hS6gmfX</div> — Boy Culture Blog (@Boy Culture Blog)<a href="https://twitter.com/mattrett/statuses/1228047006112849921">1581624196.0</a></blockquote></div>
<p></p><p><strong>Many pointed out notable LGBTQ celebrities who wear high heels and skirts.</strong></p><p class="shortcode-media shortcode-media-twitter_embed">
</p><div id="4f535" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="S45CTF1581710721"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet twitter-custom-tweet" data-twitter-tweet-id="1228104571412733953" data-partner="rebelmouse"><div style="margin:1em 0">Black gheys: Billy Porter look a mess at the Oscars in those heels and skirt.
*Wendy Williams says she’s tired of… https://t.co/lRaREnTXNc</div> — Carlos (@Carlos)<a href="https://twitter.com/PushaCee/statuses/1228104571412733953">1581637921.0</a></blockquote></div>
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</p><div id="29758" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="GDRPTR1581710722"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet twitter-custom-tweet" data-twitter-tweet-id="1228104622096683008" data-partner="rebelmouse"><div style="margin:1em 0">#WendyWilliams @WendyWilliams life long watcher but no more! You are a transphobic / homophobic woman who doesn’t g… https://t.co/sNavVdme8Q</div> — Paul Schmidt (@Paul Schmidt)<a href="https://twitter.com/PaulSch64233124/statuses/1228104622096683008">1581637933.0</a></blockquote></div>
<p></p><p><strong>Transphobia is no laughing matter.</strong></p><p class="shortcode-media shortcode-media-rebelmouse-image">
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</p><div id="c7141" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="VDKNGT1581710722"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet twitter-custom-tweet" data-twitter-tweet-id="1228365672465358848" data-partner="rebelmouse"><div style="margin:1em 0">RT @pinknews: Wendy Williams makes tearful apology after saying gay men shouldn’t wear skirts and heels… https://t.co/rl4EzYJO7Q</div> — ๒ รคץร Ŧยςк Շгย๓ק (@๒ รคץร Ŧยςк Շгย๓ק)<a href="https://twitter.com/crewislife/statuses/1228365672465358848">1581700172.0</a></blockquote></div>
<p></p><p><strong>But for many, the damage had been done.</strong></p><p class="shortcode-media shortcode-media-twitter_embed">
</p><div id="5aed2" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="FPO3E01581710722"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet twitter-custom-tweet" data-twitter-tweet-id="1228364120317190150" data-partner="rebelmouse"><div style="margin:1em 0">Did wendy williams just say to gay men not to wear our skirts and heels?? I cannot stand this woman. 😒 https://t.co/MDU8xTidmT</div> — NeeNee (@NeeNee)<a href="https://twitter.com/TheRealNVX/statuses/1228364120317190150">1581699802.0</a></blockquote></div>
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</p><div id="cc41d" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="MSC5VS1581710722"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet twitter-custom-tweet" data-twitter-tweet-id="1228360861342949376" data-partner="rebelmouse"><div style="margin:1em 0">I’m a woman and I dont want to be the kind of woman she is. Women don’t own the right to solely wear skirts and hee… https://t.co/rJM0dqO3I6</div> — Maggie Rogers (@Maggie Rogers)<a href="https://twitter.com/themaggierogers/statuses/1228360861342949376">1581699025.0</a></blockquote></div>
<p></p><p><strong>Wendy Williams will have to be more careful in the future—there's a fine but important line between speaking frankly about gender and being ignorant and intolerant. </strong></p>
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D.C. Woman Complained To Authorities After Seeing Gay Men In 'Mesh Thongs And Leather Harnesses' At Circuit Party Event
January 27 | 2020
A woman in Washington DC heard from her neighbors about gay men wearing provocative attire that included leather straps and mesh thongs attending an event at a local bistro.
That did not suit her at all.
<p>So she wrote a <a href="https://www.pinknews.co.uk/2020/01/24/police-leather-harness-fetish-thong-jockstrap-washington-dc-micah-roseboro/" target="_blank">letter of complaint</a> on behalf of the neighborhood and falsely accused the men of engaging in "sexual acts" to city officials and the police.<br></p><p><strong>She signed the letter and identified herself as "Jessica."</strong></p><p class="shortcode-media shortcode-media-twitter_embed">
</p><div id="077aa" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="5K4NF61580147423"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet twitter-custom-tweet" data-twitter-tweet-id="1220730219016916998" data-partner="rebelmouse"><div style="margin:1em 0">Black gay circuit party accused of allowing ‘sexual acts’ https://t.co/KQK9SpfFe7</div> — Washington Blade (@Washington Blade)<a href="https://twitter.com/WashBlade/statuses/1220730219016916998">1579879738.0</a></blockquote></div>
<p></p><p>While they are not for the faint of heart, the multi-day dance event associated with LGBTQ culture is hardly a violation of the law.</p><p>But Jessica accused the partygoers of attending "an organized sex party."</p><p>According to the <em><a href="https://www.washingtonblade.com/2020/01/23/black-gay-circuit-party-accused-of-allowing-sexual-acts/" target="_blank">Washington Blade</a></em>, the event took place at the RedRocks Neapolitan Bistro at 1348 H St., N.E. on January 18. </p><p class="shortcode-media shortcode-media-rebelmouse-image">
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<small class="image-media media-photo-credit" placeholder="Add Photo Credit...">Deviant Events/<a href="https://www.facebook.com/deviantevent/photos/a.105703030890148/136941427766308/?type=3&theater" target="_blank">Facebook</a></small></p><p>The exclusive event was promoted as "Deviant Mid Atlantic Leather Weekend"–which was not officially a part of D.C.'s annual Mid Atlantic Leather events at the Hyatt Regency Hotel near Capitol Hill–and catered mostly to Black men with an affinity for leather gear.<br></p><p><strong>The manager of the venue alerted Deviant Event's lead organizer Micah Roseboro about Jessica's letter of complaint.</strong></p><p>She had contacted the D.C. Alcoholic Beverage Regulation Administration (ABRA), which is in charge of regulating the sale, distribution, and consumption of alcohol at all establishments with a liquor license. <br></p><p><strong>In the letter, Jessica alleged that her acquaintances:</strong></p><blockquote><em>"reported seeing multiple men in very provocative outfits including mesh thongs and leather harnesses walking throughout various residential streets in the neighborhood during and after the event."</em></blockquote><p class="shortcode-media shortcode-media-twitter_embed">
</p><div id="7d826" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="PQLPYT1580147423"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet twitter-custom-tweet" data-twitter-tweet-id="1221019877298671616" data-partner="rebelmouse"><div style="margin:1em 0">@PinkNews Hahaha they can come walk around in my neighborhood anytime 😜</div> — Maria (@Maria)<a href="https://twitter.com/MariaPipTingle/statuses/1221019877298671616">1579948798.0</a></blockquote></div>
<p></p><p><strong>She added:</strong></p><blockquote><em>"Several of my neighbors also witnessed various attendees of this event engaged in sexual acts inside the venue and outside the venue."</em></blockquote><p><em></em>ABRA can suspend an establishment's license if they are in violation of the city's liquor law or related regulations, including sexual acts.</p><p><strong>A spokesperson for ABRA, Jared Powell, received Jessica's letter complaining about the party and told the </strong><em><strong>Blade:</strong><br></em></p><blockquote><em>"The complaint has been assigned to ABRA enforcement for investigation."<br></em></blockquote><div><strong>Lt. Brett Parson, who oversees the department's LGBT Liaison Unit, said of the letter also received by the D.C. police:</strong><br></div><blockquote><em></em><em>"Upon reviewing the email, there are no allegations of criminal activity."</em></blockquote><p><strong>Roseboro issued a statement and called Jessica's allegations:<br></strong></p><blockquote><em>"blatant lies that may be quickly dispelled."</em></blockquote><blockquote><em></em><em>"This last event on Saturday, Jan. 18th, held temperatures close to 27 degrees Fahrenheit, and it snowed earlier in the day." </em><strong><br></strong></blockquote><blockquote><em>"No one was walking around outside in the provocative garments she speaks of."</em></blockquote><p class="shortcode-media shortcode-media-twitter_embed">
</p><div id="e85d0" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="R5Z9WZ1580147423"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet twitter-custom-tweet" data-twitter-tweet-id="1219775377788297216" data-partner="rebelmouse"><div style="margin:1em 0">@DaveHolmes I'm only concerned about Leather Weekend in the context of making sure everyone is warm enough because it's pretty chilly in DC!</div> — Jessica Ouellette (@Jessica Ouellette)<a href="https://twitter.com/JesOuellette/statuses/1219775377788297216">1579652087.0</a></blockquote></div>
<p></p><p><strong>Roseboro assured that all participants showed up and left "fully covered." </strong><strong><br></strong></p><p><strong>Additionally, he asserted that no sexual acts took place in the venue.<br></strong></p><blockquote><em>"Lastly, I'd like to dispel her lie about neighbors having witnessed sexual acts inside of the venue." </em><strong><br></strong></blockquote><blockquote><em></em><em>"That was impossible to do, as windows were completely blacked out on all floors." </em><strong><br></strong></blockquote><blockquote><em>"Again, we are proud of the work we are doing in providing a safe space for our patrons, who are queer people of color, so the blackout windows are not to hide them, but rather to protect them from bigoted, hateful onlookers."</em></blockquote><p>Roseboro added that the D.C. police responded to a separate report of an alleged stabbing at RedRocks and showed up at the establishment, but officers saw no evidence of foul play or any other illegal activity.<strong><br></strong></p><p><strong>In his statement, Roseboro clarified the meaning of his organization's name.</strong></p><blockquote><em>"Deviant is wherein queer people of color may gather safely and freely."</em></blockquote><blockquote><em>"We flirt and dance and dress scandalously. We wear harnesses and thongs and jockstraps and lace just to defy and redefine masculinity."</em></blockquote><blockquote><em>"Deviant is black, brown, yellow, (some white) and queer."</em></blockquote><blockquote><em>"Deviant is a place free of violence, shaming and ridicule…We celebrate one another's differences, and appreciate one another on the dance floor."</em></blockquote><p class="shortcode-media shortcode-media-twitter_embed">
</p><div id="44f00" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="ULTKGP1580147423"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet twitter-custom-tweet" data-twitter-tweet-id="1219698410183430151" data-partner="rebelmouse"><div style="margin:1em 0">Cheers to our allies, who understand the importance of us having a safe space to party freely, as queer POC.
❤️ W… https://t.co/iqDIrUUKjQ</div> — DeviantEvents (@DeviantEvents)<a href="https://twitter.com/DeviantEvents/statuses/1219698410183430151">1579633736.0</a></blockquote></div>
<p></p><p>The bistro's general manager Tavarus Brandon-Flores and his staff have been supportive towards Roseboro and the attendees on the night of January 18 and during the previous circuit party in November.<br></p><p><strong>The <em>Blade</em> reported that Jessica's email indicated she and her neighbors were already expressing they were "horrified" in advance of the upcoming February 15 event at RedRocks. </strong></p><blockquote><em>"We do not appreciate having this kind of activity in our neighborhood."</em></blockquote><p><strong>Despite the pushback, Brandon-Flores offered to go ahead with the next planned Deviant circuit party at RedRocks, but Roseboro said it may be time to look elsewhere. </strong></p><blockquote><em>"As much as I want to fight the good fight, I am looking to move the event to another venue."</em></blockquote><blockquote><em>"I feel it may no longer be a safe space for my people. I don't want to subject them to hostility generated by Jessica."</em></blockquote>
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Redditor u/InFinder2004 wanted to hear from all the men of same sex persuasion about trying to chat with the ladies by asking..... (Serious) Gay men of Reddit, what was your "Sorry ladies, I like men" moment?
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"you're actually gay?!"
<p>I sat in the back corner of health class when I was a junior, though at my new school it was a freshman class. I immediately had 5 girls surround me, it was clear a couple of them had a crush. I moved a lot so it was normal for people not to know me and normal for me to keep to myself. Granted, I'm not a small guy but I was still nervous about being "out". One day they spent a good 20 minutes literally giving me a sales pitch on which one of them was hotter and wouldn't stop bugging me for an answer. </p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_2" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>At some point one of the louder ones asked out of nowhere, "are you gay?". I said without even thinking, "yes, so stop asking!". She screamed , no joke, "you're actually gay?!" Loud enough for people in the hall to stop and look in. It was almost worse because now these five girls immediately clung onto their first "gay friend". Could've been worse, I had to fight at a couple past schools. Now though, I had a fairly impenetrable girl shield so nobody had a thing to say. First time I came out publicly too. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/eb45b5/serious_gay_men_of_reddit_what_was_your_sorry/fb34i74?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank"> thatguyinthejeans</a><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/thatguyinthejeans/" target="_blank"></a></p>
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girl please....
<p>I had a group of girls on the train once chastise me for staring at their friend's butt. I told them I was gay and was only staring at her questionable fashion choices.</p><p>(She looked fine, but I was a little insulted and had to retaliate). <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/eb45b5/serious_gay_men_of_reddit_what_was_your_sorry/fb2b6lz?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">llieno94</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_4" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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"cool, me too"
<img lazy-loadable="true" src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yMjE5NzgxMS9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY0MTUzODIxMH0.I8UfnMNm2scyCtU0zxQkfmc8xKOTCKXsDkw17wmnijc/img.gif?width=980" id="f196f" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="f47d30dc8d82115f4ff944a28629f906" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" />Giphy<p>I went to a club and I was looking at this girl simply because I liked her outfit but she then noticed me staring. She looked me dead in the eye and said, "stop staring at me weirdo, I have a boyfriend." And without any hesitation I replied with, "cool, me too". <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/eb45b5/serious_gay_men_of_reddit_what_was_your_sorry/fb31f1e?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank"> lilpickle00</a><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/lilpickle00/" target="_blank"></a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_5" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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KFC Forever....
<p>One time I was getting KFC with a friend and I think the girl at the counter must have misread my politeness. Once I'd gone to sit down with my friend she came past and was like "Here" and put a piece of paper on the table pretty abruptly before walking off. Basically it was a short message and her number.</p><p>I'm pretty obviously not straight in the way I present myself so this sort of thing doesn't normally happen to me and I wasn't sure what to do. In the end I spent like an hour trying to find out the best way to say "Hey you seem nice and good on you for being so ballsy but also I'm gay."</p><p>I also made the mistake of posting about it on Facebook because it was pretty funny, especially if you know me. But someone saw it who knew both of us and put two and two together. So basically I fucked up a bit there.</p><p>She was real nice about it all and she thought it was funny too so it was chill. I was very out of my depth though. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/eb45b5/serious_gay_men_of_reddit_what_was_your_sorry/fb2blig?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">Lloydshanks</a></p>
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noviO, NOT noviA.....
<p>I'm a white guy who tends to get read as gay in white communities because I'm short, generally well-dressed, and have a higher pitched voice. I work with Latino communities a lot in my job, though, and for them, I often get read as masculine/straight because I have facial hair. Different cultural benchmarks I guess, no big deal imo.</p><p>One time, though, I had two women in the community open up that they got in a big fight over me. One was mad that the other was spending more time with me. I just sat there dumbstruck and scared about outing myself because I didn't want to stop working with them. I just had to casually mention my noviO, NOT noviA and they figured it out. I think they just felt silly. I still work with them, great ladies. One of them is going to cook me mole soon, I'm stoked. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/eb45b5/serious_gay_men_of_reddit_what_was_your_sorry/fb1xpeh?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">throw_away1232123221</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_7" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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back to me....
<p>I was at a hotel. I walk into the elevator and a girl is standing there. To make the ride less awkward, I ask how her day is going. She immediately says "Back off! I have a boyfriend" I said "Yeah, so do I. Anyways, back to my question." <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/eb45b5/serious_gay_men_of_reddit_what_was_your_sorry/fb38jga?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">PrettyBoy6167</a></p><div data-conversation-spotlight style="min-height:90px"></div>
Flipped...
<p>I had a co-worker who would flirt with our male coworkers to get them to do her work. She tried the hair flip and eye bat with me one day, I just laughed and said sorry not interested in what you got. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/eb45b5/serious_gay_men_of_reddit_what_was_your_sorry/fb26wa5?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">foolhardyass</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_8" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Why not the Men?
<img lazy-loadable="true" src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yMjE5NzgxMy9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY2MzMyNTc1N30.SZ9XFGyWmHjdqkelrAjfgEsAy6bCZmLpmRNYfndPdkE/img.gif?width=980" id="338a3" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="51336e3d1dc42e107a18530ed830497d" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" />Giphy<p>All the time, unfortunately. Well, actually, rarely do I even notice that a lady is flirting with me, it usually has to be pointed out to me after the fact. But dozens of times ladies have tried to flirt with me, and those times that I either do pick it up, or someone else points it out to me I have to gently let them know that my boat does not sail in that direction and I am not accepting ladies as passengers.</p><p>Then it makes me mad. I get ladies to flirt with me, but never the men :( I don't think that's fair. I could in theory get what I don't want, but I can't get what I do want. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/eb45b5/serious_gay_men_of_reddit_what_was_your_sorry/fb1ydd4?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank"> llcucf80</a><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/llcucf80/" target="_blank"></a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_9" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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On the Video....
<p>I was video calling my husband from my car in a parking lot outside the store, and there was a lady milling around who looked a bit dressed up but didn't seem to be wearing pants (or a skirt, or anything in that "equip slot"). I kept glancing over at her, trying to figure out why there's a pantsless lady wandering around. And then she started walking straight toward my car. Most people who've approached me in my parked car have been panhandlers, and I wasn't in the mood to get asked for money or really talk to strangers at all, so I drove away.</p><p>In retrospect, I'm pretty sure I almost was approached by a sex worker (who thought I was interested because I was looking at her) in the middle of a phone call with my husband. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/eb45b5/serious_gay_men_of_reddit_what_was_your_sorry/fb326w6?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank"> firstmatedavy</a><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/firstmatedavy/" target="_blank"></a></p>"Oh god no I'm gay"
<img lazy-loadable="true" src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yMjE2ODEwNy9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTYyNDMxNzIxNn0.x2RiDkz6yb-0u5dsSrH12FkgaNVjA5lfzfQAW5FvDBg/img.gif?width=980" id="b6cc2" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="1479633e3da2436ad860a40a3f49a6b7" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" />Giphy<p>One time I told a girl that I liked her boots (in my defense they were awesome) but she and her boyfriend thought I said boobs. <em>"Oh god no I'm gay"</em> helped me a lot that day. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/eb45b5/serious_gay_men_of_reddit_what_was_your_sorry/fb2nwz0?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">adeiner</a><span></span></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_10" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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"so do I!"
<p>I was in the elevator of a resort going to my room, as I just arrived in town and needed to get ready for a trade show. In comes 3 drunk chicks from the pool, one goes "I like men with beards" trying to flirt, when I replied "so do I!" She went from trying to boink to trying to be my fruit fly. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/eb45b5/serious_gay_men_of_reddit_what_was_your_sorry/fb2xa97?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank"> Lvs2splooge4lulzzz</a><span></span></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_11" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Sorry Boo...
<p>I'm more on the skinny side of men and if you looked at me long enough you'd know damn well I'm gay. Apparently though it depends on where I am that people notice this fact. While at a bar with a couple of my friends (3 straight dudes and 1 bi guy) I was talking with a lot of the women that my straight friends were chatting with as well, just being friendly you know. One of them, really pretty lady, was talking to me and telling me that she liked my confidence in talking to women (which my confidence comes from wanting a conversation not a hookup) and gave me her number. Let me tell you my conversational confidence disappeared like that and I panicked and was like "oh my god I'm so sorry I'm gay I like men ahhaaha". Luckily she didn't seem to fazed by that and we ended up having a lovely conversation. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/eb45b5/serious_gay_men_of_reddit_what_was_your_sorry/fb25hvu?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">Reddit</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_12" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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"Are you into guys?"
<p>I was at a bar with my friends, standard. Rather tipsy girl comes over and starts trying to grind on me. It's inappropriate anyway, but I have to turn to her to push her away, because I was rather uncomfortable. She looks a little offended, so I ask her the classic<em> "Are you into guys"</em> she says yes and I say "me too."</p><p>Mistake, she immediately changes tack and starts with the gay best friend thing (rude) then proceeded to fall backwards over a barstool. I escaped and went back to talking about Formula 1 with my friends while she found a dude to make out with. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/eb45b5/serious_gay_men_of_reddit_what_was_your_sorry/fb2mink?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">Matduka</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_13" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Like a Virgin....
<img lazy-loadable="true" src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yMjE2ODEyNy9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY1MTI2MzA4M30.veIDM2bRnVZYK99wik-HRIh3RW4lsHeLvCNe-TS880U/img.gif?width=980" id="b9359" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="1d15e8d92900871b440cd5edb58ebae1" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" />Giphy<p>Haven't had one. Usually ladies just ask me if I have a "girlfr..." pause as if coming to a realization and continue with "rrrsignificant other?" Just started a new job and that exact sequence of syllables has happened to me at least three times in as many days. Apparently I'm just obvious enough that you can tell, but not until you're mid-sentence. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/eb45b5/serious_gay_men_of_reddit_what_was_your_sorry/fb24vmr?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank"> pots-and-pans-robot</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_14" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Stay Sober...
<p>I was getting drunk with my manager out in the parking lot after my last day of work. General I'm going to miss you, it's been fun, remember that time... kind of stuff. She confessed she had feelings for me but because of the company's strict rules on fraternization she kept it to herself. She then asked if I wanted to go back to her place. Now I never talked about my sexuality, I prefer to be single so people would probably assume from a distance and never be validated one way or the other. </p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_15" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>I wouldn't lie if someone asked but I pass for straight so no one ever really did. I told her what the deal was, but surprisingly this didn't change her mind. She was not a person that was used to or would tolerate rejection. This made her a great GM but not very personable. In fact she kind of got offended and continued to come on to me regardless, right there in the front seat of her car. Again I told her it wasn't going to happen and I didn't feel comfortable with her advances. She then tried renegotiating, asking if she could just perform oral on me instead. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/eb45b5/serious_gay_men_of_reddit_what_was_your_sorry/fb2fzz0?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank"> SaltyPoseidon22</a><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/SaltyPoseidon22/" target="_blank"></a></p>
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So, I rolled with it,.......
<p>Back home in the US, I am coded gay, particularly my voice. However, where I live now, I am just seen as "The American."</p><p>I had a really nice woman strike up a conversation with me, I was really enjoying things until she touched my hand and laughed. I thought that was really weird because I typically don't like being touched, but when she laughed, I realized that she was flirting with me, not just having a conversation.</p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_17" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>So, I rolled with it, and a couple of minutes later referred to my dogs and my husband.</p><p>The cold shoulder I got afterward made me wish I had kept my mouth shut... we were having a great conversation and she was lovely.</p><p>Conversely, I have often found that women will be a bit standoffish of me until I mention my husband, at which point the mood completely changes, and I see a much brighter, happier, and less reserved person. This is by far the most common thing that happens.</p><p>It makes me sad that both happens. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/eb45b5/serious_gay_men_of_reddit_what_was_your_sorry/fb2pvf1?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">anderlustcub</a></p>
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Hey Homo....
<p>In the school hallway I was yelled at by some girl because they thought I was looking at her friends butt. I was literally wearing a pink shirt with rainbow stripes and an earring. It would literally take two seconds looking at me to know that I'm gay. I just laughed and said "nah, I'm homo." And walked away. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/eb45b5/serious_gay_men_of_reddit_what_was_your_sorry/fb2kl43?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">gaychicagoan</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_19" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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TERRIBLE.
<p>i was at work, at the movie theater, and i waited on this group of three girls, and the ones mother.</p><p>the girl who apparently was interested in me appeared to have some bad social anxiety as she was doing everything with her mother, as her mother kept reassuring her with everything that she was doing, and that everything was okay.</p><p>so i finish waiting on them, then go into the lobby to go clean up the counters, stock lids, etc. then when i'm walking back past them, the girls friends stop me, and say</p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_20" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>"my friend thinks you're really cute, and we were wondering if she could have your number?"</p><p>and she was sitting there with her mother, looking like she was suuuper nervous, so this made me feel <em>TERRIBLE</em>.</p><p>so i had to reply back with</p><p>"oh i'm sorry, i'm actually kinda... gay. i feel so bad i'm sorry, i'm sure you'll find someone though, best of luck!"</p><p>then i walked away, continuously feeling bad for this girl because she took a chance and i ended up not even liking girls oof. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/eb45b5/serious_gay_men_of_reddit_what_was_your_sorry/fb2jp7l?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">kylecello</a></p>
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Bar Trap....
<img lazy-loadable="true" src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yMjE2ODEzMi9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY2MjAwNzI5NH0.B4nw8CiX-e7n6gGIM7Pvs-Zaya9sOeFKHien5fTwXJw/img.gif?width=980" id="53d86" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="e32fb712aec2f0a82fb391157c08de17" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" />Giphy<p>I was out at a bar catching up with my siblings and a few friends when one girl started hitting on me. My sister leaned over and said "you're barking up the wrong tree there, he likes dudes". Poor girl looked so embarrassed... She didn't end the night empty handed. My brother took her home instead 😂😂 <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/eb45b5/serious_gay_men_of_reddit_what_was_your_sorry/fb2i7jl?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">tumekeLV</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_22" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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