Just because a person is affable and approaches life with an abundance of joy and enthusiasm doesn't mean there's not a hint of darkness there somewhere.
It's called being human.
No matter how positive one is perceived in public, everyone has their snapping point–which, for the record, is not an excuse for slapping someone for all to see.
Everyone has a different tolerance level, but we all have the capacity to reach a boiling point.
Curious to hear what those might be, Redditor harmonybyday asked:
"What immediately makes you angry?"
Life circumstances can test our patience or push us over the brink.
Rude Awakening
"Waking up before your alarm thinking you still have a couple of hours to sleep. Then you check your phone and realize you only have a few minutes."
– Actuaryba
Laundry Drama
"wet socks."
– yParticle
Poor Customer Service
"Calling a gigantic corporation knowing full well I will speak to a robot for the first 5 minutes, on hold for the next 30, to explain my situation to 3 different people, of which none will help me."
– xailar
There's nothing more infuriating than the actions of other people.
Taking Too Much Space
"Some folks seem to have an utter lack of situational awareness, and as a result are constantly getting in the way of themselves and others."
– yParticle
Cart Blockers
"Especially at the grocery store. I said 'excuse me' three times to an old woman whose cart was blocking a product I needed. She had her nose in her phone. I moved her cart to get the item and she never noticed."
– Pnknlvr96
Job Made Difficult
"I work at Walmart and the amount of people who try to walk in front of me while I’m pulling a pallet full of boxes is ridiculous. Like those things are heavy. I can’t stop quick like they can with their little carts so I sometimes end up hitting them, even tho I try my best to stop."
– Shadowweavers
They Think They Know What's Best
"Someone assuming my opinion or intentions before asking me directly."
– sevencoves
Jumping To Conclusions
"People who assume without getting all sides of the story."
"Example: believing that person who told you about someone else, without getting that someone else's side. Get all the facts, please."
"Another is reading a headline and making comments without reading the article."
– JAInTexas
Guilty
"Being falsely accused."
– penny_can
False Accusation
"Nothing gets me angrier than being accused of something I haven’t done."
"When I was an early teenager, I would wrap my used sanitary products in tissue and put it in the bin next to the toilet."
"One day I get called downstairs - the toilet was blocked, because someone had flushed sanitary pads."
"Being the only menstruating person in the house, I was blamed. My Mum said in a condescending tone 'you know you’re not supposed to flush them!?' I explained what I do with them, that I put them in the bin".
"The argument got heated and eventually they just said 'don’t do it again' and dismissed me."
"Later, I was walking past the bathroom and I saw my Nan taking the tissue from the bin and putting it in the toilet."
"I flipped the f'k out! How long had she been doing this??"
"The worst part is that I’ve always tried to be honest so that sh*t like this doesn’t happen. Not saying I never lied, but I was never stupid enough to deny anything if I’d been caught. There was no reason for them not to believe me, because if it was me, I’d have said 'yes, sorry, I won’t do it again.'"
– Susim-the-Housecat
Incompetence Levels
"People who are incompetent but don't know that they are incompetent, and they try to fix things that do not need fixing."
"Incompetent and lazy, ok. Competent and lazy, ok. Competent and hardworking, ok. Incompetent and hardworking, please get out!!"
– spiffyga
One Bright Idea
"When someone is the only person to hear my idea and then immediately repeats it and passes it off as their own. Makes me feel like Maury in Big Mouth: Rage, rage, fucking RAGE!"
– aphrodesa
Road rage is real.
Lane-Change Deniers
"People who drive slow in the right lane but speed up as soon as you try to pass them in the left lane."
– el_monstruo
Going Nowhere Fast
"People who cut ahead of you on the road only to go slow."
"If you're in such a hurry to risk my life and yours then push your foot down on the pedal a bit more."
– YouCanMakeNewAccts
Drivers Who Do This Suck
"People not using turn signals properly."
– atlienk
As for myself, I have little patience for those who disrespect the elderly.
What pushes me further is when I imagine my own parents or elderly friends I've lost who are the ones being harassed or taunted.
Anyone picking on the vulnerable is a coward, in my humble opinion.
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I cannot tell you how many times I had to answer asinine questions at this one job I had years ago. I was surrounded by people who didn't seem to know what they were doing and it drove me mad. We had a big project once and I remember I stayed up an entire night doing stuff on my own.
I eventually realized that the boss tended to hire his friends sooo... I was quite frustrated. Eventually I left and life is much better now, thankfully. But it did remind me of the importance of self reliance!
People shared their stories after Redditor Djwhat6 asked the online community,
"When was a “F**k it, I’ll do it myself” moment for you?"
"Eight years old. Was begging my parents to teach me to ride a bike for well over a year. Maybe even 2? I felt like the last of my friends to learn and it was embarrassing. I finally went into my dad's toolbox that probably weighed as much as I did and tried about a dozen tools until I managed to figure out how to take off my little pink training wheels."
"I spent the next couple weeks nonstop teaching myself how to ride a bike with 0 help. Absolutely f*cked myself up numerous times. No one noticed or cared...except my friends who were stoked when I finally rolled up on 2 wheels."
"I am 30 now and I weirdly find this to be a pivotal moment of my life. It seems insignificant but to feel the power of self sufficiency at 8 was pretty dope and really built my confidence."
CommieDearestD
That's bittersweet. Like it's a totally baddy move that you did that, but it's sad that your parents didn't help.
"After getting jerked around..."
"I bought a house recently and the previous owners didn’t leave the mailbox key. I had a million other things to do, so I figured I’d call a locksmith and let them deal with it. After getting jerked around by 3 different guys who refused to even give me a ballpark on cost, I said f*ck it and drilled into the lock myself and replaced it."
"Got the job done for $30 (new lock + a wrench I had to buy) instead of probably $200."
[deleted]
Well done! And this actually inspires me to do some home repair, come to think of it.
"I called for my mom..."
"The very first day home after my second open heart surgery. I was six years old, sitting on the kitchen floor playing with my Hot Wheels, and I realized had to use the bathroom. After being in the hospital for weeks, I was taught I had to be very careful; I was dosed with morphine and couldn't feel that my sternum (which had been sawed in half) was still healing.
I called for my mom to come pick me up and help me to the bathroom. No answer. I called again. Nothing. Well I'm obviously not peeing my pants. I'm a big girl, dammit. So I very carefully pushed myself to my feet and walked unaided for the first time since my surgery. Freaked my mom out and she was super apologetic that she couldn't hear me calling."
Symnestra
I'd say that's pretty amazing. You did it!
"Part timer..."
"Part timer mopped the freezer. With water."
vexum7
As someone who used to work in a restaurant, this made me cry inside.
"Senior year of college. I was apparently the only one capable of actually doing anything hardware related for our senior design project. Told one of the group to do a basic thing, and he called me saying the whole system was broken. After that, I said f*ck it, took everything home, and did all of the build work while the other mainly did the write-ups."
yeeetheeey
You saved the project! Good for you!
"Literally..."
"Literally any group project in school."
MidnightRose645
I felt this in my soul. How I hated group projects. The worst.
"I'd still have to..."
"Every time I asked my ex to do something while I was at work, like the dishes or taking out the garbage. I'd still have to do them when I got home after 12 hours."
KittiesBeforeTitties
Hmmm... that's probably Reason 472 why they're your ex, right?
"Everyone..."
"Everyday at work."
Zero416
Been there. The amount of things I can get done in the time someone else does one thing is the very reason I say I’ll just do it.
"I picked an easy cut..."
"Cutting my own hair during peak Covid. I picked an easy cut and it came out pretty good!"
CaptainPlummet
I've done this for two years now and have saved so much money. Soooo much money.
"The day we were meeting..."
"I had a group project in college where my group completely flaked. Skipped meetings, missed deadlines, never delivered."
"The day we were meeting to combine all our parts into a single report, no one showed, didn't even e-mail their parts. Turns out, they all planned on writing their parts that day, the day before it's due. They had nothing, and now weren't even going to try."
So, f*ck it, did it all myself. Took all their names off it, added our e-mail chain as an appendix. It wasn't until I was presenting it in front of the class solo that they realized what happened."
MyNameIsRay
Again, I hated group projects. Had one in college years ago that went something like this. Stressful experience.
Admit it: People suck and annoy the hell out of you, don't they? Yeah... there's a reason why you're better off doing a ton of things on your own.
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We are all frustrated.
COVID-19 has been a part of all of our lives for the last two years now... it's okay to admit that you're exhausted and that you're completely over it. Those feelings are valid.
You've had enough? So have the rest of us.
But before COVID upended society as we knew it, there were plenty of things that frustrated us... regular things... like people who don't return shopping carts to the corral... and racism. You know the deal.
People shared their thoughts after Redditor BetterTomorrow11 asked the online community:
"What have you seriously fucking had enough of?"
"Applying for jobs and never hearing anything back. When everyone is just so desperate for workers."
LurkysGoCart
It's ridiculous. It is so RUDE to leave people hanging. It's also demoralizing, making the job hunt even more emotionally taxing.
"When I'm not at work..."
"People. Working in retail has ruined me. When I'm not at work, I just want to be alone."
Bubba2475
I'm with you – I do not miss retail one bit. Dark days indeed.
"These..."
"These high ass housing prices."
YellowStar012
The bubble is bound to pop at some point, right?
Right?
*sobs*
"Covid..."
"Covid and its variants. It's exhausting."
crimson-skies
Two years of this now.
Get the shot.
"Being a public health scientist..."
"Being a public health scientist with a PhD in immunology and STILL having people yell at me and tell me I’m wrong and have no idea what I’m talking about, including my own family. I’m having a great time."
sandiwitchunt
I do not envy you or your position.
What a demoralizing field to be in right now.
"I don't really want..."
"Employers that don't give raises that keep up with the cost of living. I don't really want to find another company to work at every 3 years, but it's the only way to get a decent raise."
DeathSpiral321
It sucks that this is so true. People make more money job hopping than they would if they were "loyal" to the company they work for.
"I'm surprised..."
"These a**holes who pull pranks on unsuspecting people for internet clout. I’m surprised more haven’t had their teeth knocked out."
1980pzx
Remember when Punk'd was on the air? None of that aged well and it's wild that there are people out there who have not grown out of that mentality.
"People not being able..."
"People not being able to tell the difference between facts and opinions."
daya_darwaza_tod_do
Yeah... news literacy needs some bolstering. It's astonishing to see what happens in a society that lacks it.
"The world's undying need..."
"The world’s undying need for instant gratification."
Darkpax
Could you give some examples and please do so immediately?
"People not cleaning up..."
"People not cleaning up after themselves in stores. Obviously, I don't expect them to do the staff's jobs, but they should at least pick something up when they knock it off a shelf."
MysteryGoWhite
I concur. It seems as if people are getting worse and worse year after year.
And the list goes on and on and on...
There is no shortage of things that grind our gears.
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People Explain Which Of Their Genetic Traits They Wish They Could Change The Most
In the life-defining battle for joy and contentedness, self-acceptance stands as a major prerequisite. We cannot change the things that are out of our control.
Feeling good only comes when we let go of our anger or sadness about those uncontrollable elements.
That said, it is so natural to yearn.
Nowhere are those uncontrollable variables more pronounced than in the area of genetics and inherited traits. Written on our body, solidly embedded in our DNA, these ailments and tendencies were there since day one.
And some of them suck.
A recent Reddit thread offered space for people to air some grievances about those inherited difficulties. A full life will demand accepting and living with these traits, but it's still nice to spend just a moment on the internet expressing some frustration.
C_Greuel04 asked, "What genetic trait of yours do you want to change the most?"
That Which Shall Not Be Named
"I'm a guy in my 30s. The hair on top of my head is thinning and I don't like that. I refuse to use THAT word, that word applies only to eagles and tires, not the human head. Nonetheless, I am paradoxically in both denial and still try to cover it up by military crew cutting my hair."
"I do wish it was fuller, though."
-- llcucf80
One-Two Punch
"Diabetes and mental illness. I'm too young to be this f***ed up." -- hurricanekeri
"I was gonna say my toe thumb but your comment reminded me of my crippling anxiety and depression." -- pixiepeg
"Same."
"I was diagnosed at a very young age (18 months) and it really just adds up and takes a heavy toll on you mentally. I've been really depressed for the last couple of years and I blame 85% of it on my diabetes." -- man_on_hill
Looking for the Sweet Spot
"My height. I wish I were 4-6 inches taller." -- somemetausername
"As a tall guy: Doesn't mean sh** if you're still a looser/don't have your sh** together." -- a**hole67throw
"Trade you! I'd rather be a few inches shorter" -- lildancingcat
Limb Struggles
"Well I'd probably undo my genetic disorder. I hate dislocating my shoulders every day!" -- thesunalsorose
"My only issue with not wanting EDS is that I would also lose the ability to relocate joints by myself" -- Dsexylic69
"But if you didn't have EDS, you wouldn't need to. Most people don't dislocate things."
"I think I'd miss my smooth, stretchy skin if I fixed my genes (probably EDS but too ill to get diagnosed) but I'd like to look my age and not be in as much pain. Being able to press buttons/use my tablet without my fingers bending backwards would be awesome." -- Purple-Penguin
An Unfortunate Hodge Podge
"I kind of won the shi**y genetics lottery. My entire family on both sides are addicts. My mother has npd and is bipolar and my father suffered from major depression and OCD. Both parents has psoriasis. My mother had thinning hair and my father had heart disease."
"Between both of them they were allergic to pretty much every substance on the planet. They were lactose intolerant and my father had celiac disease and IBS."
"I got all of the worst parts of all of that AND I got these little a** baby hands and feet from god knows where."
"If I could change anything I would just like to be able to breathe regularly and not get sinus infections every other damned day. That would be awesome!"
-- lizzpop2003
A Couple Very Different Struggles
"Would be nice to have actual breasts. I'm 30 and they seem to have not gotten the memo that they were supposed to keep growing past age 11."
"But if I can only have one fix then I'd fix my eyesight. I'm completely defenseless without glasses. Lifting them up now, pretty near to my monitor, I can faintly make out the colour of this text but no details of it. It's just a bunch of blurry lines to me."
-- TheCoolerL
Within Our Power?!
"My metabolism. I miss being able to eat whatever I wanted and it not effect me, but once I hit college and after, I have to be a lot more careful." -- Kunihiko001
"Pretty sure variation in metabolic rate is ~10% max. It's probably your activity level rather than your metabolism." -- Gazrael957
"That's a small range of percentage. And considering activities do affect metabolism and we change lifestyles when finishing high school, change in metabolism due to age seems to be even smaller. So it is just lazy people after all ..." -- villanelIa
NUTS
"Allergies, man. The amount of times people make puns on the word 'nuts' or just snicker is stupid. Yeah yeah I've had this my whole life guys get over it...literal death here"
"Also, imagine wondering what something tastes like that you've never had before! Asking people to describe nuts almost always is followed up by 'nutty' ahsvcjajskjffna seriously? No shit nuts are nutty? How helpful..."
"Some people do have fair responses tho like 'earthy' or 'the bitterness of straight coffee, but earthy' idk how accurate either of those are but they're all I got lol"
Unwanted Exterior
"I am a woman and I am f***ing hairy. My mom has no body hair. Like even her arm pits are mostly smooth and beautiful long hair only on her head."
"I take after my dad and can grow dark black hair over 1.5 inches on my legs. The sheer amount of time and money I spend on looking like a normal human is just too much. It's like evolution skipped me."
Constantly At Play
"ADHD. The ability to retain and recall information is one of the most basic and critical parts of life in general, not even just human life."
"How my brain can possibly manage to f*** that up repeatedly for decades is a mystery."
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Most men are seriously wrong about vaginas, the far-reaching interests and motivations of women, and what is involved with CARRYING A HUMAN BEING INSIDE YOUR BODY.
I am not a woman. I cannot fully empathize with how frustrating men mansplaining women to women must be.
But I can read this reddit thread and at least understand on an intellectual level. It's also pretty hilarious to hear just how far reaching men's ignorance can be.
Reddit user xClovis7 asked:
Women of reddit, what myth about women is 100% untrue and infuriates you when you hear it?
Best learn what's going on down there
"We pee with our vagina." Exiode
"That the more sex you have, the looser your vajayjay gets."- kevnmartin
"That the clitoris is hard to find."
"Or that labia grow exponentially with lots if sex."
"Or that vaginas are anything but elastic."
"Basically every ridiculous myth about female sexuality and their genitals."- fck-rffld
GiphyWork from home is still work
"Maternity leave is basically vacation."
"If you've ever experienced the exhaustion of carrying a child and the intense body changes that occur during and after delivery, you'll find out that maternity leave is necessary for recovery and is not a vacation."
"Try working with a 2nd, 3rd, or 4th degree tear while now trying to deal with a baby that needs to feed every 2-3 hours."- pinkblossom331
GiphyLadies like coins and random crap too!
"That we don't need pockets in our fu**ing clothes."- Minemose
Girls just wanna chill
"All women want/need children."- Proper-Atmosphere
"That as little girls we all dreamt about our future wedding. Not all women want to get married or actually enjoying attending weddings"- Smurff833
Some people just suck
"That because you don't like another woman it's only because you're jealous."
"Listen, I can hate a woman because of something she did or said and in no fu**ing way be jealous of her."
"She may be just dumb"- Mishy-P
Yeah not how that works
"That we can just 'hold' our periods."
"Do you honestly think we would still need feminine products if we could do that?"- tanya6k
"Stuff about our periods in general."
"Like if we're mad, it's definitely because we're on our period."
"We never have a legitimate reason to be upset."
"Also myths like we're able to hold in our period or we only have it for a day or that we're impure."
"The impure one definitely infuriates me."
"I just think about the billions of women throughout history, and sometimes even today, being treated as if they're impure or an evil omen because of a bodily function they cannot control."
"Banishing them to menstrual huts when they have their periods or not allowing them to touch anything."
"And yes, this happens."
"My mother as a teenager was not allowed to touch anything when she had her period."
"It got to the point where she would just not tell anyone she was menstruating and do what she wanted."-lady_laughs_too_much
You also don't like crowds and spending all your money?!
"That we all love shopping. I fucking HATE shopping."-SaltyDoggoMeo
GiphyDouble Standards
"That all of us secretly hate each other and are innately gossipy and b*tchy."
"Some dipsh*t on here tried telling me once that he knew all women resented each other because he knew the 'nature of women'."
"That old saying 'men insult their friends but don't mean it and women compliment their friends but don't mean it' paints women as catty/unable to have genuine friendships, which is BS."- AristaUndertaken
"That women are irrational because of their hormones."
"The irony is that some men make excuses for their behavior because testosterone apparently makes them unable to control themselves."- faded_watercolours
Not about you
"That if I am dressed nice I want attention."
"Nope. I just chose to look nice today."- LevelHeadedPsycho2
Soooo much more to discuss
"My favorite stereotypes of women I hear is the idea of how we interact with each other when we're in groups. "
"90% of my conversations with half of my friends revolve around the latest video games and horror movies coming out."
"Occasionally we'll talk about emotions, relationships, or clothes and make up, but we would both be bored if that was all we talked about."
"I also know of about 1 person who greets me with 'hey girl!'
"I refer to both gender friends as dude."
"Not that any of that is bad, I just find it hilarious when people assume women get all squeally and affectionate or close and gossipy when they spend time together."
"Our friendships are just as unique and varied."
"Doesn't so much make me mad when people assume I'll act that way with my friends as it makes me laugh and pity their ignorance.- TeReese1006
Judging Oh No GIF by Robert E BlackmonGiphyYes You Are!
"I went to preschool in a church."
"My teacher told us the story of Adam and Eve."
"At the end she said us, 'this is the reason god made women afraid of snakes'."
"Several girls spoke up and said they weren't afraid of snakes."
"I don't remember what my teachers exact response was but I remember she was really annoyed."- EmmaRose49270
My Mom, For Example, Sounds Like a Weed Wacker
"That women don't snore, seriously, I've heard this loads and it always baffles me."
"People breathe when they sleep, sometimes it makes some noise, male or female. Let em breathe."- JARlaah
Poor Sports
"That females are not good at video games."
"Or that they have a male friend who is boosting them to their current rank, if it's higher than theirs."
"And then when they find out you're actually better than them they try to deny it."
"It's so annoying to go in a lobby with random people and it's filled with guys who belittle you or talk down to you because you're a female."- Meowmehpls
girl GIFGiphyA Classic
"That we are bad drivers. I have had my first car for 3 years."
"I'm in my early 20's."
"I have never crashed, but have had two men crash into me from behind."
"Both times I had to fight tooth and nail to the officers to believe me."
"Both times the blame was given to me, even when the crashes were from behind and back side, merge lane and red light, The cops' reason? 'well, unfortunately ma'am, I have to put the blame on you since you are a fairly new driver'."
"Drive safer next time/ You should always keep distance while in the merge lane even if he was behind you'."-teachmehowtodookie
Hymen to That
"Not a girl, but i always found it sad to see articles where rape cases are shut down because she has an intact hymen."
"The hymen doesn't break the first time you have sex, but it can if you are too rough with it."
"Hell, horseback riding and tampons can break it."
"And it won't always bleed the first time, it may break, or it might not, both are perfectly normal."- Thritzer
Have Both
"This was mentioned several times in high school: 'women give sex to get love and men give love to get sex' which I think is as insulting to men as it is to women."- butdoesithavestars
Season 5 Flirt GIF by FriendsGiphyNobody Wants to See You That Much
"That we all hate when our significant other is going to hangout with friends & we expect them to be with us 24/7?"- totesmagotes69
It's what's on the inside that counts.
"Even though I'm male, but here are 2 myths that I know and feel sick when hearing them:"
"If the woman is too ugly, she's very rude."
"If the woman is very beautiful, she's a cheater or a gold digger."
"But really, most people don't understand that beauty doesn't affect any person's character at all, expect for insults."
"Trust me, you don't need to find a normal woman just because 'she's trustful', but in reality, she's going to break up with you when you reach debt, and also, some ugly-like women are actually people that need help, and they may be really funny and interesting woman."- CyLove13
Who are YOU calling emotional
"We're too emotional."
"See: Donald Trump."
"That man throws a hissy fit every ten seconds, but nobody accuses him of being too emotional."
'Meanwhile when I have some creepo following me home so I go buy pepper spray and a stun gun, I'm 'overreacting'."- Sm0ltowngrill
Jennifer Coolidge Emotion GIF by HBOGiphyAn underappreciated art form
"If you do pole dancing, you're a whore."
"Just because a woman enjoys this sport, doesn't mean she'd bone your mediocre a**."
"Also, how these same sh*theads never acknowledge how difficult it actually is."
"The bruises, the cramps, falling, potential serious injuries."
"It's not just pretty twirls."
"I know that in the grand scheme of misogyny this is a drop in a lake-sized bucket, but it gets to me."- OwnGap
Just one?
"I have 3."
"Women are naturally caring and kind, when I met a lot of bitches in my life who showed zero support and I swore it felt like I was dating a guy but then felt cache since i know a lot of caring and gentle guys."
"Sex education was an odd example of every time you have sex its like the last person leaves residue inside of you.'
"An example was she put a drop of dye in the bowl and showed it on the projector then added more."
"It messed me up because I felt some people were gross and I was a jerk to them."
"Sure its way better if your partner doesn't have a f*ck ton of past sexual partners since experience really differs with each person for what they like in the bedroom and for that one person mostly but I felt like a jerk because I thought it was gross and told a few that."
"lol."
"Kind of related to 2 but whatever, that women need a lot of partners to be good at sex."
"Like naw each person is different and its not that hard to figure out basic anatomy."- digitalpro95
"Well, what you add to the list? "
"Let us know know in the comments?"