People Explain Which Things Get Way More Hate Than They Deserve
There's an old saying that, "You can't make everybody happy," and that seems true for practically anything, from people's actions to TV shows to simply having to do the laundry.
But there are certain subjects and activities that seem to get a lot more hate than they might deserve.
So much so, it's confused some people.
Curious if other people noticed the hate, Redditor StoneCT asked:
"What gets more hate than it should?"
A Small Kindness
"Smiling at others randomly or just being friendly."
"It seems that a quick smile, acknowledging someone’s presence, or saying hi is just not the thing to do anymore?!"
"Makes me kind of sad. I’m pretty introverted, but I just want to be outwardly happy out and about without being met with glares or resting b***h face."
- flapsAhoyMateys
Honoring the Inner Child
"Being an adult and liking things that are considered childish."
"People get so much hate and get told to 'grow up.' Listen, I didn’t get to enjoy my childhood. Let me enjoy things. Let me play video games. Let me watch the animation. Let me buy that Tamagotchi. It’s not hurting anyone."
- HippieWitchyWoods
Going It Alone
"Solo-traveling is freakin' liberating. Sure, I get a little lonely, but there are NO schedules and you can randomly stop if you see something even slightly interesting."
- DerpsandRags
Just Getting Some Fresh Air
"I go out by myself all the time. I’ll go for a few drinks just to get out of the house, grab a beer, sit outside to enjoy the weather."
"Occasionally I’ll run into people I know, and they try to invite me on for their night, and I’m like, 'I’m good, man, just having a few beers.'"
"And I get these, 'Ookaay? Whatever' type replies."
"Just because I’m out doesn’t mean I want to be social, I just want to be around socialization sometimes."
- turtles138
The Joy of Mocktails
"Not wanting to drink. When you tell someone that you don't drink, most of the time they act like you just told them you juggle heads in your spare time."
- yankstraveler
No Relationship
"Being single. Everybody acts like it’s the worst thing in the world, but if you are content with being on your own, it’s really not. It’s actually quite relieving to not have the responsibility of another person."
- No_Lengthiness_8069
Still at Home
"Being in your twenties or above and living at home with your parents or other family members."
- Ragnbangin
Living Childfree
"Being a millennial and wanting to live childless or childfree. For heaven's sake, just let people choose how they want to live their lives."
"Want to be childfree? Cool! Want kids? Cool!"
- obbycake
Love What You Love
"Brussels Sprouts are my favorite vegetable."
- Tall_Dark_and_Lurking
Loveable Midnight Furbabies
"Black cats are some of the cutest, most goofy kitties ever. I love them!"
- SunnyBunchy
What's with the Hate?
"Donkeys. Those poor fellas just be chillin', doing menial work, and not disturbing anybody, and for some reason, the term came to mean someone who's utterly incompetent and stupid."
- dvd25
Something Written By Hitchcock
"Crows are the best. Gotta respect an animal that'll tell its friends about you if you treat it well or f**k it over. They are just smart MF-ers."
"They'll pay you for snacks and possess an intellect on par with a seven-year-old human. Some say they rival apes."
"Clearly, the only thing stopping them is the lack of hands with opposable thumbs."
- AdmiralClover
Helping the Environment
"Nuclear energy. It's very safe, but a couple of massive disasters due to gross negligence (and also the fact that the word nuclear is involved) have given it a bad image to the point where people just assume it's dangerous and a bad idea."
"Tell you what the bad idea is, it's sticking to fossil fuels."
- WarmProfit
"Moist"
"The word 'moist.' People love to jump on the bandwagon of hating it. 20 years ago, nobody hated it, but since some people started making a scene over it, it’s become a thing and it's dumb."
- hakuna__fritata
Judgment: The Sequel
"People being found not guilty of crimes."
"Usually, before a trial people have made their mind up about a situation and think a person is guilty. So when the jury gets all the information and finds someone not guilty, people get mad at the person found not guilty and the jury."
"Do we not want a system that looks at evidence-based information before making a decision that will affect someone’s life?"
- tistick
Redditors were surprised to see some of the things that were receiving such negative attention, especially since so many of these are a person's individual choice and which don't impact other people's lives at all.
Roughly 12 percent of the world's population is left handed.
Studies have shown that being in this distinct minority comes with a number of advantages.
Indeed, four the last seven Presidents of the United States were all left-handed,
And considering Phil Mickelson, Rafael Nadal and Oscar De La Hoya are all left-handed as well, it seems lefties are at an advantage on the field or in the court or arena.
Though, if you were to speak to a left-handed person about their experience, they'll more than likely bemoan all the disadvantages of being a lefty.
Of which, there are admittedly several.
"What is the worst thing about being left-handed?"
Take Your Pick...But Mainly Scissors...
"The smudging is annoying."
"The right-handed desks suck."
"But it’s scissors, man."
"F*cking scissors."- Icy_Mortgage6654
Sucks The Joy Out Of Morning Coffee
"All the cute designs on mugs are only visible for right handed people."- jdon93
Baking Complications
"Measuring cup labels are on the other side when I use my left hand."- maninthemoonpie
Good Penmanship Is Futile
"Fountain pens, and pencils."
"F*cking hate smudges."- deanfranz12
"When you write, you have to put your whole arm on the paper because you are actively pushing it."
"Whereas right handed people just have to apply a little force not to pull the paper."- iStealP
To Assume Makes An A** Out Of You And Me...
"When someone tries to teach you how to play guitar, line up a pool cue, shoot a bow and arrow, and they can’t because you’re left-handed."- aeowyn7
At Least Some Progress Has Been Made...
"My grandad was left-handed."
"He went to a catholic school, this was in the 1930s/early 1940s UK, and the nuns would tie his left hand behind him and hit him until he wrote with his right hand."
"They said that it was a ‘sign of the devil’ if someone was left-handed."
"So cruel."- miz_moon
Might As Well Be Dying...
"Hearing the following words:"
"'Ohhh you're left handed!'"
"It becomes grating after the 1000th time of hearing it."- redbutterfly_78
In All Seriousness, It's Worse Than You Think...
"Left handed people aren't taught how to write as lefties, they are taught as if they are right handed."
"Pens tips are designed for right handed people, especially ballpoint and fountain pens."
"But even others work less efficiently for lefties."
"This is because we have to push the pen across the page, whereas they are pulling it."
"This causes frequent breaks in pencil tips, catching of nibs, and this ink/graphite will be rubbed against the lefties' hands, often ruining their writing."
"In addition, this pushing motion means there is pressure going into the hand of the lefty, trying to push the pen into their grip."
"As a result, they have to squeeze tightly."
"This reduces control of the pen, leading to bad handwriting and pain after even short periods."
"I know doing exams was awful for the lefties."
"Handwriting is for right handed people."
"Pretty obvious, you are taught a way to move your hand to get the shapes of letters, but lefties aren't taught the opposite."
"They are just left to figure it out, but these kids don't know what they are doing wrong."
"A lack of equipment for lefties, whether it is left handed scissors or desks or sharpeners."
"It may seem trivial, but these little things can make a leftie feel weird or like their can't figure out even the tiny little things that everyone else is getting so quickly."
"The effects:"
"This is a cause of lefties craning their wrists round so that they don't smudge and get a better pulling motion."
"As well as craning wrists, some may lean round, or massively rotate their page just so it isn't in the way, but no one taught them these solutions."
"Bad handwriting."
"Lack of confidence, which affects schoolwork and how the kid see his/herself."
"It may be the kid simply can't do what their classmates can do, despite trying his/her hardest."
"Uncomfortable positions causing pain in the neck, back and wrist."
"There are some, very small, organizations that have developed ways to properly teach left handed children how to sit and write comfortably."
"It usually involves angling the page slightly, but clockwise, whereas most lefties angle it anti-clockwise."
"I'd gladly volunteer my time to teach left-handed kids how to write."- untakenu
Left-handed people have to take the good and the bad much more than right-handed people.
However, considering Mark Twain, Albert Einstein and Ruth Bader Ginsburg were all left-handed, it seems that it's easy to make the most of the disadvantage.
It can be so "frustrating" when people mispronounce words.
Very, very frustrating indeed.
Particularly for grammarians, who might as well be hearing nails on a chalkboard when they hear "sherbert" or "libary".
Some words are even mispronounced so frequently, that the majority of people might not even realize they're saying the word incorrectly.
Making things all the more unbearable for sticklers for grammar.
Redditor BubbaClegane was curious to hear which common or not-so-common mispronunciations make the Reddit community want to pull their hair out, leading them to ask:
"What mispronunciation makes you excessively angry?'
'B and D are interchangeable, aren't they?"
"Supposedly/supposably."- MuluLizidrummer
Hearing this is FRUSTRATING!
"Fustrated."- WYWH13
"My coworker adds some extra syllables to frustrated."
"She says fer-ust-er-at-ed."
"Or maybe I've been pronouncing it wrong my whole life."- MarvellouslyChaotic
Might want to pay a visit to learn how to pronounce it properly...
"'Li-BERRY'"
"It is LIBRARY!"- F*ckBradfordPears
"Lie-barry."- Certain_Praline8930
Understandable, but still wrong
"Expresso."
"Ecsetera."- FormalWare
All the time he spent in front of one makes this especially surprising...
"I used to have a help-desk guy who pronounced 'Console', the thing you use to control an old computer, as 'council'."
"And he used the word ALL THE TIME when doing phone support, and it drove me absolutely over the edge."- GuruBuckaroo
Not "exactly"...
"This is very specific to my aunt."
"She pronounces 'exactly' as “ezacly'."
"I can’t stand it."- antisocial_moth2
One "X" lead to another...
"EKscape for escape."
"My boyfriend did that and now he’s my Eks-boyfriend."- just_some_australian
Too many to name!!!
"Instead of saying shoes, my friend would say shoosh."
"Another one is when people say sammich instead of sandwich."
"It bothers the heeeeeeeck out of me."- HuntridgeHuntridge
Of all the words to mispronounce...
“Mispronounciation”- AllPointless
Do people really miss those syllables?
"Comfortable/Comftabl."- datmrdolphin
Muffled through song...
"I dislike singers saying filling good instead of feeling good, and drimming instead of dreaming."
"And so on."
"Vowel before the consonant must be long not short!"- patriziaf
You'll probablybe corrected if you mispronounce it...
"Prolly instead of probably."- NutellaEh
Possibly correct either way?
"How do you say the word "Calm" do you say it with a silent "L" or not?"
"Both seem to be acceptable but it bugs me all the same."- McDummy
As long as you pronounce your answer correctly
"Aks" me a question."- F14Scott
It's from all the spicy food!
"Chipolte."- Ri99ed
Not the amount you were looking for
"Hunerd instead of hundred."
"I vividly remember my seventh grade math teacher saying it that way and it pissed me off so much."- liviorsomethingidk
Maybe for dramatic emphasis?
"The part in Pirates of the Caribbean: At World's End when Elizabeth screams 'fire!!' during the climax but she says it like 'FIRARE!!'- _xoss_root-
Some people like to "cross" their T's a little too much...
"Late to the party, but every now and again I hear someone say 'acrost' instead of 'across'."
"Come on."- drewm916
Should you not be certain how to pronounce any word, people are always willing to help those who ask.
And tend to be even more inclined to those "aksing" for help.
With a global pandemic still raging after a full year, domestic extremism on the rise, and a much-needed reignition of racial justice activism, one feels compelled to take life very seriously these days.
And that's true. We should keep these pressing, significant issues at the forefront of our minds. But alongside those considerations, we are still humans nonetheless.
And humans can be PETTY.
Little tiny inconveniences or social faux pas can stick in our minds--perhaps even ruin a whole day. We simply cannot help but focus on these thorns in our sides at least a few times everyday.
Some Redditors took a second to proudly share their pet peeves.
meerkatherine asked, "What is your pettiest pet peeve?"
For many, pet peeves involve other people. Social norms are breached, bad habits persist despite voiced criticism, and total selfishness seems to reign.
For these folks, that's all too much to handle.
Mind Your Business, Lady
"People who comment on what I'm eating. Look lady I'm eating it, not you." -- 25Hams
"My god. I used to have a coworker who seemed to get off on letting me know how disgusting my breakfast looked. It was usually some sort of overnight oatmeal."
"I can understand not being into cold oatmeal, but who in the ever-loving hell wants to hear about how awful their food looks while they're eating it?" -- mrsderpcherry
Comin' In Hot
"People who don't knock before opening a door" -- 1maginaryProfessor
"One day...one day they'll learn. One day they'll see something they never wanted to see MOM" -- Captain_Pickleshanks
"even worse people who knock while opening the door" -- CrazyyForCocoaPuffs
A Lack of Acceptance
"My dad not getting the damn hearing aids he needs. He blares the tv, forgets his headphones half the time, and just being really loud in general."
"It is to the point I am not calm when he is home because of how much noise he makes. And that is the tip of the iceberg of his weird habits and behaviors, but it is the pettiest."
-- riftrender
Bogged Down
"When people are telling a story and get lost in irrelevant details.
" 'Last Tuesday, I went... wait, maybe it was Wednesday? No, it was definitely Tuesday because that's garbage day...' "
"as I'm just sitting there, eye twitching."
-- twomangocats
Other pet peeves involve keenly felt sensations. These examples usually feature a strange tactile impulse, horrible noises, etc.
Constant Exposure
"Blankets that are too small" -- On_my_way_slow_down
"My husband is very tall, and he fell asleep on the couch with a small blanket. His sister and I were chatting, and we watched him struggle to cover his feet, and then pull it back to his shoulder, then back down to his feet, and we were laughing while watching him.
"He woke up enough to glare at us and say 'It's not funny, I'm suffering!' "
"So now we all refer to small blankets as 'suffering blankets.' " -- ThisIsMyFightAccount
SHHHHHHHH
"Misophonia - Eat with your mouth open, or any other mouth noises and I will smack you, lol. At least that how it makes me feel."
"That, and soggy bread. Gross."
-- Hodgrim
Like a Disgusting Metronome
"When the room is silent and someone keeps sniffling but refuse to blow their god damned nose even after you offer them a tissue." -- B_e_p_i_s_
"I believe I got let go from a contract position for asking my manager to ask an employee to stop wet snorting at lunchtime at his desk after eating his soup each day."
"It was so bad that the guys in the next pod of desks would snort in disgust to try and give this snorter an indication of the locality of disgust he was creating."
"I thought I was doing the right thing by letting my manager know of the issue, but when I spoke to him I could see he was not getting it. Then my 3 term contract was not renewed with plenty of work still on the project." -- _yourekidding
And finally, some people are annoyed by the things far beyond their control, like all the intrusive decisions of mass media.
Everywhere we look, there are screens and books and films and apps. And when one gets our goat, we're simply left holding a phone and squirming.
Forever Tainted
"I hate it when a book is made into a film, and then they change the original cover of the book to a still from the movie." -- gatorinmypocket
"or the cover has a big printed graphic 'Now a Major Motion Picture' " -- sbashe5
Canned Camaraderie
"Listening to the anchors laughing about something on the local news channels."
"Something about them laughing is so inauthentic and for some reason pisses me off."
Slimy Strategies
"I refuse to watch any Disney+ shows, or any Disney related media, not because they are a monopoly or that I disagree with their practices or anything (although that should be my number 1 reason)..."
"...but because they fu**ing paid to have their bullshit Playstation app at the front of my video application list which causes me to accidentally go into their app every time I try to watch some TV."
-- Blur333
So feel free to own the most minuscule, ridiculous pet peeve. It is real, and it might even be shared by someone on the internet.
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People Share Their Most Memorable 'If It Costs You Your Peace, Then It's Too Expensive' Moment
We humans are not the best at applying reason-driven cost-benefit analysis in real time. Instead, an event suddenly takes place and we're pulled deeper and deeper into an emotional response.
The consequences of that tendency can be large, and various.
Rather than assess, say, the entire context of an argument with some stranger at the DMV, sizing up whether the exchange is worth it at all, we burrow in with a voice that gets louder and fists tha clench tighter.
That can feel satisfying, even necessary in the moment. But when the dust settles and logical thinking returns--far too late to be of use--we realize what a wasted of stress and energy it was.
A recent Reddit thread asked people to share their most memorable examples of these ill-advised moments. Hopefully, reading this will help you avoid sliding into one in the future.
lizzetter asked, "'If it costs you your peace, it's too expensive.' When has that advice held true for you?"
Sitting Duck
"Ever fight over a parking spot and win, and then realize as you're walking away from the car that it will be left unattended for who knows how long?" -- DougFordSucksFightMe
"I've never understood people getting so worked up over a parking spot unless it's in the city or something like that where parking spots are rare and you may have to walk an hour to get where you need to go" -- ParkityParkPark
The Bottomless Supply of Trolls
"Winning arguments on Reddit. Nine times out of ten I just let it go, because otherwise I will literally spend all day on a pointless argument with someone who doesn't even have a face." -- Alex_Duos
"For me, it's all about the stubbornness to entertainment ratio. If I'm going to be arguing online with some other a**hole, I damn sure better be enjoying myself, or else it's just not worth it." -- Smegma_On_Demand
Sometimes Ya Just Want Something Nice
"I had a 20 year old Saturn that I intended to drive until the wheels fell off. Well even though COVID has meant I basically never leave the house, I bought a new car in 2020."
"I've put about 1500 miles on it so far, and that's it. But the thing is, even though I rarely drive it, when I DO drive it I'm no longer asking myself the question "Is today the day the wheels fall off?" every time I leave town."
"Some may argue buying a new car I've hardly driven is a stupid move. I say I'd rather be stupid and happy than smart and miserable."
-- m31td0wn
Not Worth Zombification
"Work-life balance in my job. Nothing is ever on fire, nothing has to be dealt with at 11 at night or on the weekends regardless of who's sending a Slack at those times."
"I protect my evenings and weekends with a ferocity."
-- Fearless_Lab
Un-tethered
"My husband's family has money. When we were first starting out, we were encouraged to ask his grandparents for help, but we didn't want to. When we bought our first home, they were 'offended' that we got a mortgage from a bank instead of using 'family money.'"
"Twenty years later, we are happy in our own little bubble. We have no stake in any family drama, and we only visit when we feel like it. We don't owe anybody a damn thing, and even though it sometimes sucks to be the poor relations, the peace of mind is priceless."
LET. IT. GO.
"I used to carry around a lot of hate."
"I had a few people that I relished the idea of provoking into a fight so I could do serious harm."
"It took a while, but eventually I learned what it was doing to me, and realized that they probably didn't give me a second thought. They were getting free real estate in my head."
Two Solutions: Generosity, or Buying More Fries
"When my girlfriend swore up and down the drive thru that she wasn't hungry and didn't want anything, then snacks on my animal fries the whole way home."
"Being hangry enough to brake check the whole thing on to the floor wasn't worth the fallout. One of my ugliest moments as an adult and should have just taken the fry tax."
Like the Trolls, They'll Keep Coming
"Bad customers. I've learned over the years to turn away difficult clients/jobs. Some people won't be happy, regardless what you give them. I don't need that anxiety no more." -- 12vElectronics
"I'll have to learn to do this better. I cut a some clients a few years ago and things dramatically improved. They were talking up too much time for the reward. Others have now crept into the system though. I'll have to start a cull again. The 80/20 rule springs to mind." -- StingerMcGee
Enough Is Enough
"My relationship with my brother. I grew up with the 'blood is thicker than water' mentality, but he treated me in ways that made me feel worthless. I haven't spoken to him in about five years."
"He can think whatever he wants about me, but I don't need to hear it."
It's a Third of Your Life
"Work environment."
"This past year I resigned from a job (one in my field) that was literally causing me to have full-blown panic attacks from stress for a job that pays less. I feel like a weight has been lifted off my chest. No job is worth being unhappy."
-- Iamjackslama
Extrinsic Motivation
"Playing a high level sport. Played baseball since I was a kid, very good at it, started to get scouted by universities and even some Pro teams."
"Eventually I got a scholarship for it to go to a school in the states (from Canada) as I got older though I realized I didn't love it, just enjoyed being good at it and seeing my parents happy."
"When I got to university it was a total struggle, I'm not one to need motivation to practice or workout but I hated my team, hated my coaching staff, didn't like the school either but kept going because I didn't want to disappoint anyone."
"Fast forward to Covid with no baseball and all this free time on my hands to pursue other passions and fun things I couldn't while always playing baseball. Now because of the pandemic I've realized there's so much more than just trying to make others happy."
-- awkarfnar
Carrying More Than Your Share
"Taking care of other people/ friends mental health constantly. I didn't mind venting but I definitely let people vent to me too much and the worry kept me up at night."
"Thankfully my friends don't do it as much anymore and it's much calmer"
The Weight of Ethics
"Working jobs where the company's activities were detrimental to society, the environment, or both."
"Yeah, evil jobs may pay better, but I sleep better knowing what I do improves the world in some tiny way."
Less
"Deciding what to keep and what to get rid of. I've been downsizing quite a bit over the last few months in favour of minimalist living and I honestly feel so much better after getting rid of so much stuff."
"I've already gotten rid of close to 50% of my things and it is like a huge weight has been lifted. Why the hell did I have so much useless crap?"
-- EHXKOR
Cost-Benefit Analysis, Explained
"I wanted to wear a top hat at my wedding. I like hats, and when else am I gonna wear a top hat?"
"But my wife was adamantly against it. She is about a head shorter than me, and all of my family is taller than her, and a top hat would make it even more apparent."
"So I didn't wear a top hat. Any benefit I'd get from it would have been outweighed by annoying her, and I decided it wasn't worth it."
"But there were compromises. It was my idea to get a bouncy castle in, which was a very popular addition on the day!"
-- lankymjc
Decluttering
"Past failed relationships. When the ex tried to reconnect after three years and a break up text that said 'We're done.' I spent so long wondering what I did wrong and it took a while to realize it wasn't my fault at all but theirs for trying to control things."
"They sent an email but the only thing I saw was the title and it just sits unread in my inbox. I don't need to reopen that past when my present and future are going great."
-- Ellysian14
So What's It For?
"Home insurance and home warranty."
"I pay for a service. When I call to make a claim and use the service it is denied, 100% of the time. So then I have to spend a week arguing about why it shouldn't be denied, or why I should get my money back. Not worth it."
-- Whooplaah