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People Reveal The Dumbest Reason They've Ever Lost A Friend

Reddit user Mister_Moho asked: 'What is the dumbest reason you've ever lost a friend for?'

People Reveal The Dumbest Reason They've Ever Lost A Friend
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Maintaining friendships as we get older becomes a challenge.

The fact is, people evolve as they move on to different chapters in their lives, whether it's work-related, changing schools, or raising a family.

And while we do our best to keep the friendships involving our besties who've seen each of us go through our various ups and downs in life, it's inevitable that some gradually fade into the background and are eventually forgotten.

Curious to hear from those who've lost touch with friends, Redditor Mister_Moho asked:

"What is the dumbest reason you've ever lost a friend for?"

Workplace friendships can change without notice.

The Hurt Coworker

"We were coworkers, best friends. This dude quits the job and blocks me on everything?? I still don’t understand why."

– ToastedTurtle420

"He was probably hurt that you quit and apparently didnt know how to express his feelings in a healthy way, being a 45 year old man. 5 bucks say he got into his car after work that day, put on some sad music and cried."

– Waflstmpr

Gone And Forgotten

"I got laid off from my job a few months back that I’d only been at for just less than a year, and my best friend, whom I worked with during that time, of 5 years still hasn’t contacted me. That sh*t hurt."

– HyrumCWill

"Got hired, became great friends with a guy that's been there 25 years. We both hated the 'new owner' who owned it 5 years. (I was brand new)."

"Worked side by side for 6 months, went out 3-4 days a week after work for a beer. Every Fri we set our schedule for Monday. I worked in the field, he worked in the shop. We both arranged our schedules to help each other out."

"He'd said many times, 'we' had the best system he'd worked in 25 years there."

"I quit at 6 months. He knew I'd be quitting, we both talked about quitting as the owner was an idiot."

"I called him that Fri to see if he wantedd to grab an afterwork beer."

"45 yr old guy literally yelled into his phone 'no one here likes you so stop calling.' I chuckled, thought.that's weird, but ok."

"Called back. He answered, was really serious. Said it again. Calmer."

"Said look guy, you were never one of us, and you proved that when you quit."

"It was the weirdest and most chick-like breakup I've ever had!"

"I thought, a week ago, we took the company truck on a delivery, and his wife made us sandwiches at his house for lunch?"

"Always wondered if he hated me because I 'made it out'?"

"I picked the time to leave right after a big project, so he wouldn't be stuck doing my job. The timing was perfect to hire my replacement. Was really weird. Guess I hurt a 45 yr old dudes feelings somehow?"

BillyJackFaceKick69

Some people are terrible at communicating.

Non Answer

"Friendship of 20 years, She never told me why ('you know why") thats the dumbest reason ever."

– AssociateMany102

"Something similar like this. Best friend since kindergarten decides to suddenly ghost me after she ended up moving schools during junior year. The last several times we saw each other we never said much even at sleepovers. October, 2 months into the school year I noticed she has me blocked on social media. It didn’t help that throughout the rest of the year where people asked me how she was doing since we were always close. Took them about Senior year to stop asking and getting fake sympathy from a few including my parents. Meanwhile some of her acquaintances who she still had contact with always glared at me in the halls. Looking back at it in that last year, I can say we had our differences…."

– _hot_maruchan_

Ghosted

"Same. I was good friends with a guy for 15 years. Hung out at least once a week, usually minimum of 1 day at the weekend if life was busy. We would game together most night, grab a takeaway at the weekend and nothing seemed out of the ordinary."

"We had a meal one night and had even been discussing plans for the future and the next day he cut off contact."

"Blocked me on everything including my number as my calls just wouldn’t go through."

"After about two weeks I decided to go around his house and make sure he wasn’t dead. No answer. I tried a few more times, also email and phoning. Eventually after about a month I had to assume he was dead as I didn’t really have any contact with anyone else that knew him so I left it."

"After about 6 months I managed to find an old email messenger by accident I had forgotten about like 10 years ago and it said he was online so I reached out and he replied about 3 days later saying sorry he had been to some place for work and had to help there."

"Well turns out that was a lie as that location has never (and hasn’t since) had a store at that location."

"He then gave me his 'new' number and said he would fill me in."

"Number was not his, and immediately after he sent it to be the messenger changed to 'this person can no longer receive messages from you as you have been blocked.'”

"Never got an explanation or what I’ve done wrong."

– Interesting_Tone6532

"I also lost quite a bit of money because of this as I had been planning to go to an event which I had pre paid for and he said he would go if I booked it. I had told him when I was booking it for and he had verbally agreed to go if I sorted out all the details. Well I got some back for cancelling it but not everything as I didn’t want to go alone."

"The last thing is that his friend did the exact same thing to him over a girl about five years into us being friends, and he said to me then and swore that he would never do anything like that to anyone, and I believed him because if he was always pretty blunt when he didn’t like someone."

Sorry for the long message, I’ve never really found the right post to rant about this."

– Interesting_Tone6532

Some friendships aren't meant to last forever.

The Drug Dealer

"Had a friend that got pulled over by police and caught with drugs with intent to sell. All good, I always knew he consumed and it was not my problem. One week goes by, I give him a ride home during the afternoon and when I meet him at the same day during the night, I find him looking for his stash that he left in my car without telling me. He was surprised that I got mad. Entitled and spoiled kid. I cut all our ties."

– shur_t

Bad Taste

"My best friend in high school stopped associating with me when I started listening to bands other than Green Day."

"I wish I was joking."

– StrixArcana

"I'd see this happening in middle school, but high school?! Damn, someone was superficial..."

– OP

"In middle school someone told me I wasn’t “allowed” to listen to the Beastie Boys and Cypress Hill. I had to pick one."

– unit_79

You can't always predict everyone's behavior but based on their reactions to various circumstances can be very telling of who your "friends" are.

When their true colors reveal an individual to have a personality that contradicts the affable image of them you had before, it just shows they were never a friend to begin with.

The examples above were definitely reflective of the notion that it's not a matter of how many friends you have on your growing list on your social media friends lists.

It's the ones who will have your back no matter what that you want to hold onto.

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