Often, best friends can be the most important people in your life. They are the person you can call if you need someone to talk to at 2 AM; the ones that will keep your secrets, support even your most convoluted aspirations, and help you with whatever you need, even if they think it's crazy.
However, not all friendships, even those with your best friends, last forever.
Sometimes, friendships end naturally, as the two people grow apart. Other times, the friendship ends because one party did something malicious or made an irreparable mistake.
Redditors have plenty of stories of those kinds of friendship enders, and are ready to share.
It all started when Redditor salad_knife asked:
"What ended your friendship with a former best friend?"
A Lender Bee
"Asked to borrow money (~$3000) and told me not to ask for what, not because they needed help and trusted me but because I “had a decent job and could spare some”. Badgered me that I needed to send this money within 24 hours and kept repetitively asking when the money was ready. I was worried it was a medical emergency so I insisted they tell me why. No response except for “hurry up with the money.” Turns out they got scammed but that ended our friendship really quickly…money ruins relationships…fast."
"Edit: wow I’m sorry to hear all of you having similar experiences. Thanks for hearing me out."
– icanmakeyoufamous
"Never lend money to a friend, unless you're willing to lose the money or the friend, possibly both."
– shayanrc
The Truth Hurts
"His wife cheated on him. I was the bad guy for trying to let him know."
– Wyrdbro
"This is actually fairly standard. If you're a true friend you have to tell your friend that he/she is being cheated on. But you have to go into it knowing that it might be you being kicked to the curb."
– DancesWithTrout
Be Kind
"Bullying, basically."
"I realized that all that "good-natured ribbing" over time was really more malicious than good natured, and that I was the outlet for his own insecurities."
– travismc51
"He wasn't a "best friend" because my actual best friend would never do this to someone. But we were in a friend group in high school where the psychopath alpha threw a rock at me and broke my front tooth."
"We've had a few run ins since and each time it has ended with physical altercations."
"I was 25 in 2016 and this guy was like, "Hey Travis, does anyone here even like you?" and I was shocked that the teen dynamic was still happening."
– travismc51
Mama Bear
"Went on a mini-vaca (was supposed to be 4 days) with my best friend in 2021 to NJ, she brought her (then) 8yr old son, I brought my (then) 4 yr old daughter. Her son was so disrespectful, swearing, nasty attitude and so mean to my daughter the entire trip. The last straw was on the morning of the 3rd day when he ripped a box of cereal out of my daughter's hand, she started crying and he slapped her across her head. I tried disciplining him and my friend blew up at me and proceeded to DEFEND her son, as she called my daughter a "whiny baby". We started arguing, I packed our bags and said we're leaving. I drove 4 hours home without saying a single word to her or her son. Got to her house, threw her bags on her front lawn and peeled out of her driveway."
– Leesh_26
"You’re a better person than me. I would have left her and her little monster to find their own way home."
– Lorie614
"Sounds like how my Mom ended things with her friend. She had a son that was 3-4 years younger than me so we became friends by default. Honestly, I just tolerated him because was a foul mouthed little instigator whose Mom let him get away with everything and never disciplined him."
"One summer day we had all just gotten back from going somewhere, I had gotten myself in trouble with Mom and was given a time out (which back in the ‘80s was “sit your a** right there and don’t move”) on the front porch while our moms went inside."
"He proceeded to get my toy cars out, and while I’m sitting there he starts throwing them at me and is calling me “a**hole” with every throw. I’d had enough with being pelted and threw one back. And he screamed his head off and started bawling. His mom came out of the house, scooped him up, yelled at me and took off in her car."
"My mom asked me what happened and I told her. She didn’t blame me for not taking it, and called up his mom to explain everything. She wouldn’t hear it, hung up on my mom and that was it."
– Storyteller678
Little Things
"Lots of little sh*t that eventually just pissed me off enough to where I told him to F off."
"For example, 7-8 years ago, he bought 15 tickets for a midnight premier of Jurassic World for our entire friends group to attend."
"The day of the show, he texted me to tell me that he forgot to buy "my" ticket, so I couldn't go. Of the 15 he bought, how did he decide it was "my" ticket that he didn't buy? Turns out, he gave my ticket to a girl he met the week prior so he could take her with instead."
"That was just one of many things where he f*cked me."
"It's all truly minor stuff like that, but when you have 100 minor things, it becomes clear that they aren't actually your friend anymore."
– alwaysmyfault
Betrayed
"It was my last year in a country I previously lived in and at the time it was during summer vacation where we normally spend it in our home country. We had to cut our vacation short because we got a phone call telling us that our house had gotten broken into and robbed. We came back and on that day and he was talking to me telling me he saw cops by our house and he hopes everything is OK. It was horrible with everything stolen, furniture destroyed, closets torn down and fully emptied. My family decided to accelerate the transfer from that country and there was that. A year later he messages me a long e-mail explaining how sorry he was and that he was responsible for it and that his friends were the perpetrators and that he knew who did it but didn’t want to expose them. When we showed the police the e-mail and they questioned him it turned out he was part of that group as well."
– JustSayGGBro
She's In, You're Out
"Renting an apartment together."
"NEVER live with friends, folks. BECOME friends with people you live with."
– spooli
"Ugggh. Perhaps you can’t win"
"I live with two former-strangers who seemed cool when I moved in. We all got along fairly well, not BFFs but well enough to call them friends. We would go on hiking trips and occasionally do stuff around town together. It was nice. One of them had planned to move out to find a place with his girlfriend, but they could not find a place they liked so instead of him moving out she is moving in and he is “forcing me” to move out so they have more space."
"I put forcing in quotes because I have every legal right to stay in my home but apparently that does not matter to him, so I just “have to leave”. I don’t, of course, but who wants to live with someone who will betray your friendship as soon as it benefits him. So… now I am looking to move in with a friend. Not a long-time best friend, but someone I already know and like. I figured it’s better than meeting someone totally new and judging if they are good people in the 20 minutes you tour the place… but really I’ve lost a lot of trust in people from this experience."
"I generally assume people who are nice, cool, rational - will continue to act that way in the future. Well..."
– generic-work-account
Dropping Out
"Choosing men over her family and close friends, disappearing to another state at the drop of a hat with no way to be contacted, oh and meth."
– Baggle-Me-Fingies
"My former best friend also chose men, especially toxic men over her friends and family’s relationships."
– DontpunchDonkeys
Ghosted
"My best friend (kinda my only friend) stopped talking to me from one day to another. Never was able to get in contact with him again. Didn't respond to calls or texts, wasn't home when I showed up, nothing."
"I still don't know if I did something wrong or what his motivation was."
"It's been just over 4 years now. Still sucks at times."
– Captain_Meekus
"I had a really good friend that I met in Grade 8 and we started Grade 9 and she gave me the cold shoulder, one word answers to questions, and wouldn’t look at me. I ended up phoning her one day after school and asking her what I had done wrong and she told me “nothing”. The friendship ended and it always bugged me that someone could just turn cold and like a stranger. It really sucks and leaves an everlasting impression. She never reached out to me again except to try and add me on Facebook way after high school had ended. I never accepted the request."
– hill-top
"Sometimes people want to move on and leave their past and it's their right. I had a 20 year friend do this to me. But thinking back....signs were all there. I mean way way back. I was the loyal one, he was the pr*ck, but I was a pr*ck too. We weren't friends I don't think. Friends don't compete; friends uplift each other."
– Tarrolis
It's always hard when a friendship ends, even if you're the one who wanted to end it.
However, every relationship teaches you something, and bad friendships can open you up for a great one!
Much like a housecleaning effort on Facebook, there comes a time when we are forced to make the tough decision to end friendships and/or relationships.
Some people can weigh us down and prevent us from being the best version of ourselves, or others can be so toxic, that it's better to just cut our losses.
It's not always an easy decision to make, but downsizing can be the best-case scenario.
Curious to hear examples of this, Redditor NecessaryJacket4051 asked:
"People who have cut other people out, what was the final nail in the coffin?"
Friends can gradually grow distant, or be completely annoying.
Too Needy
"A friend I had in high-school and college became incredibly needy. We went to two different universities and lived in two different states and made a deal to call each other every week to catch up. They started to make poor decisions in their post-grad life which became an endless 'am I the a**hole' conversation where I became their confessor and forgiver but was never able to share anything about my own life."
"Things became bad for me, but despite me being there constantly for them, they couldn't return the favor. It came to a point where I got sick, missed one of their phone calls and they started to call me incessantly while I slept. The kind where they call you 20 times in a 5 minute span and leave messages from caring and concern 'hey where are you?' to 'I hate you, you don't care about me!' crap."
"Anywho, I was given the ultimatum of either never speaking to them again or calling them back and begging for forgiveness. Easiest choice I ever made. 8+ year friendship gone in an instant and I never once felt bad or looked back."
– Feralbritches1
The Guilt Trip
"My first year of university I found out my mum had a lesion in the centre of her brain and the amount of fluid and pressure on her skull required immediate treatment. She was in hospital recieving treatment for weeks while I tried to navigate my studies and living away from home for the first time. I was a mess of anxiety and stress for months."
"During this time one of my very close friends continually got angry at me for not giving her enough attention despite never contacting me to check on my mothers situation or how I was coping. But I was expected to check in on her constantly and initiate all contact. I just deleted her number and unfriended her."
– riarum
The Reluctant Chauffeur
"A friend asked me to drive him to a party."
"The party was at least a 4 hour drive (two states away), he couldn't pay for gasoline, and the hosts might give me a place to sleep. I was a college student who could barely afford gas to get to school."
"Everything about this sounded shady and one-sided, especially when he blew-off my questions. We didn't talk after that phone call - and nothing of value was lost."
"This happened in the early 90s, so no modern trip planning was available. No GPS, no Mapquest, and cellphones were expensive to use."
– siege72a
Dealing with inheritance can sure bring out the ugly in people.
Greedy Relatives
"When my relatives on my mom’s side of the family not only took every possession she owned except some of her clothes, but also wanted to take my mom’s social security benefits after she passed away from cancer."
"My youngest sibling was only 12/13 when she passed so those benefits would help my dad raise my sibling. My relatives didn’t think my dad was a good father ever since my mom and dad divorced (mom cheated on my dad)."
"My uncle threatened to come over to our state to kick my husband’s a** and call the cops on me when I managed to get my mom’s SS funds transferred to my dad."
"Edit to add: To this day, I don’t know where my mom is buried as her family took her ashes and didn’t tell either me, my siblings, or my dad the location of her gravesite."
– Soggy_Willingness_65
Annoying Half-Sisters
"After our father died, my two half sisters started harassing my one full sister about the inheritance. She was the one left in charge of it all, but was taking his death the hardest and having trouble getting through the paperwork."
"They were ruthless and made her feel horrible when she was already struggling. At the same time they would turn around and be totally nice to me because I’m the baby of the family and (despite me also being an adult at the time) they didn’t want to 'get me involved.'"
"Once the estate was settled I cut them out of my life completely. I’ll never forgive them for how they treated my other sister, and over money. Our father would be ashamed."
– TonyDanzer
When your spouse isn't appreciated by family, who should you be most loyal to?
These Redditors had to make a decision that was actually very easy.
Toxic Family
"My mother, brother, and sister are all incredibly toxic people, but I never cut them out 'because they're family.' Then the sh*t really hit the fan when I was getting married. At our Jack&Jill party, my mother was taking tons of pictures (as expected), but they were of me and my brother, me and my dad, just me, me my brother and my dad, etc. She didn't want my wife in any of them. I spoke up and said that my future wife should be in these pictures. It's her wedding day too. My wife, who was understandably upset, walked away from the weird photography session."
"My wife and I decide to go to the backyard area and hang out with her cousin and step brother. My cousin and his gf join us. Things get more fun, we're joking around, and having a good time. Then my mom and brother come outside extremely drunk (it was like 3 PM). My mom starts by taking more pictures without the bride in them, so I speak up again. My mom shushes me and slaps the back of my head. My wife then says my mom can enjoy her little family reunion photos and then goes back inside. I follow to make sure she's okay."
"I get in conversation with her, her mom, aunt, and other family members of hers. We calm down and move on. We talk about getting ice cream at a place down the street. I go back outside to ask people if they want to get ice cream (as most weren't causing issues, just my mom and brother). Before I say anything, my very drunk brother starts shouting 'f*** your wife, f*** her family, and began charging at me, but was caught by my dad and cousin who held him back. He was of course kicked out. My mom left with him in tears. My dad (my parents are divorced and don't associate with each other at all) apologized to everyone and left out of embarrassment."
"Wedding day comes. My brother is no longer my best man and is not invited. My sister is here from the other side of the country. The ceremony goes perfectly. My sister refuses to attend the pictures being taken of family and wedding party outside. During the reception, my wife, friends, some of my wife's family, and I are busy dancing on the dance floor. We notice my sister crying and walking around from table to table. We ignore it; as we expected her to try something dumb at our wedding. We find out from someone that my sister was trash talking my wife in the bathroom. We don't want to deal with drama on our big day, so we have the person in charge of the wedding hall/supervising the reception staff talk to her about her behavior (she told us we could during the wedding planning process). My sister freaks out and acts all offended. She and my mom then stage a walk out protest of our wedding, taking a large majority of my aunts, uncles, and cousins with them (not all thankfully)."
"To this day (it's been 4 years), I haven't spoken to anyone who walked out."
– Davidt93
Ruined Wedding
"I got married like 2 Weeks ago and had something similar happens except I was in the position of you're wife. I had never expected to have to hide in a room and cry on my wedding day. Truly some horrible people."
– jellybeansonmygrass
The Father Who Wasn't
"I cut my biological dad completely off because he just didn't try."
"When I was younger I cut contact with him because he didn't believe me when I told him his new wife was abusing me and my sister. I petitioned for my parents' custody agreement to be changed and everything to protect me and my sister. We didn't see him again as minors."
"When we were adults he reached out to me and expressed regret at not being there for us and wanted to reconnect. We (me, sister, and him) met for dinner twice and then he just started not showing up. I stopped telling my sister we were even supposed to be meeting him because she was so disappointed that he flaked and just took her out myself, knowing he wouldn't show. I told him after like the fifth time that he clearly didn't care enough to even let us know he wasn't gonna show so I wanted nothing to do with him. He replied in some apologetic way but I left him on read."
"Fast forward about six years. I got married and my husband has a lot of regrets about his estranged father dying before they could reconnect, so I reached out to my bio dad again. No plans were made to meet but we did chat occasionally. Until it became just me initiating conversation and him not ever reaching out to me first. I stopped sending him messages about five months after I got married. I've been married three years and haven't heard from him even once since."
"I guess TLDR the final straw was me realizing I was always gonna put more effort in for a relationship that I didn't need."
– Odd-Astronaut-92
No Time For Nastiness
"I finally cut my father's wife out of our lives after my wife and I had our first child. I was able to put up with her nastiness growing up, but the second I saw that nastiness get directed towards my kid, it was over."
"My decision was further solidified when I found out she texted me from my Dad's phone, pretending to be him and unbeknownst to him, saying we should invite her to my kid's birthday party and make amends. She also made a giant scene a few years later at my Grandmother's wake."
– MarcableFluke
Just because you're bound by blood, it doesn't mean families always have your back.
Spreading Lies
"She went around to myself (transman, closeted at the time), her brother, her uncle, and several friends of ours, accusing several of us of sexually abusing her. It caused several violent interactions and broken friendships, until people finally got to talking and realized she was giving the same lists of people minus whoever she was making the accusations to at the time."
– Astrises
Despicable Sister
"My sister tried to pull that same sh*t with my family and I disowned her over it. I noticed the pattern when I talked to people about how those accusations came about and discovered she was always upset over some trivial bullsh*t either when she said it or immediately before she said it."
"My mom doesn't understand why it's still 'such a big deal' to me, she 'apologized' for it (to some of the people she told the lies to, not to anyone she told the lies about). She never accused me that I know of, but it wouldn't surprise me to hear that she did."
– [deleted]
The Final Straw
"My parents are divorced and my brother and I were raised by our mom. My dad paid $100 month, for 2 kids, in child support until we were adults. Mom let him pay that little."
"My brother died in an automobile accident at age of 20. Everyone came to the funeral, including my dad. At the funeral, I overheard him talking to the other parents of the kids who were in the accident. My brother was the only fatality. He was about talking getting lawyers and who he was going to sue. Totally inappropriate behavior at a funeral considering he made very little effort at being a father while we were growing up."
"He had a life insurance policy on my brother and myself. He cashed it in and volunteered to take care of my brother's grave stone. 9 months had passed and he still hadn't done anything except place the order. My mom ended up driving 5 hours to get the grave marker and paid for it."
"But, the final straw for me was when he asked my mom for a refund on the child support that he paid on my brother over his life. My mom paid him which she should never had done."
"He died last year from COVID. I have no regrets that he never met his only 2 biological grandchildren. For all I know, he would have taken life insurance policies out on them hoping to cash in."
"I went to the graveside funeral, left and drove 5 hours to get back home. I'm still blown away by all the wonderful things people were saying about him at the funeral. I didn't know that person."
– RatHumped
For some, cutting someone out of their lives is not a difficult decision to make when it's your mental well-being that is suffering.
Forget about keeping up with appearances. Looking out for yourself and your loved ones by permanently disassociating from toxic people is a no-brainer.
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People Describe The Exact Moment They Realized 'This Person Isn't Actually My Friend'
Relationships don't always last, and hurt and feelings of abandonment can be the price we pay for love.
Situations can feel all the more painful once you realize you've been putting in more effort into a relationship than the other party––your "friends" might not really be your friends.
It's disappointing and believe it or not, you're not alone. Far from it.
We heard people's stories after Redditor ACSFeisonYT asked the online community:
"What made you realise, “This person isn’t really my friend"?"
"Needless to say..."
""I decided to throw a Super Bowl party a few years ago. I went out a bought a new grill and mounted a TV in the kitchen for people who wanted to hang out and snack while watching the game. Had tons of food and beer ready."
"30 minutes before kickoff I got a text that the whole group decided to go to someone else's house and that I should bring all my food and beer over there. Needless to say, I didn't go, and I haven't thrown a party at my house since."
That is incredibly rude! No wonder they're not your friends anymore. You are much better off without them.
"When you are hanging out alone..."
"When you two are hanging out alone and they are super cool. However when another person joins or you hang out in a group, they ignore you or bully you just to score social points with the rest of the group."
SpiffyA**Sam
Wow. You putting it into words made me facepalm at how much bad behavior I've let slide in the past.
"One day I realized..."
"One day I realize they only wanted to be around me when they needed something."
learninghy
This is a big red flag. And once you realize it, you're free!
"They don't contact me..."
"They don't contact me at all unless I go out of my way to contact them first. They find any reason to not hang out. They claim we're good friends but it just feels like they just want to be able to say that I'm a friend without doing anything to be a friend."
Nick31415926
These people are definitely not your friends. They're wasting your time. Cut them loose!
"When I was only..."
"When I was only ever invited to something after someone else said no. I was the reliable backup. I decided I needed a new friend group."
[deleted]
Ouch. Been there. I think many of us have.
"Used to call me everyday..."
"Used to call me everyday to talk about his problems and I'd listen for hours and have lengthy discussions about how to solve them together. When I had a big problem for once and needed him to be at my side and at least listen to me, he couldn't care less."
FragrantCut9605
Ah yes, been there too. These people really tell on themselves, don't they?
"When I was the constant butt..."
"When I was the constant butt of their jokes, and they were thinly veiled insults that they gaslighted me into thinking I made up or that they were actual jokes made out of love."
fatbabyotters_
You don't need that negative energy, especially when light teasing escalates into something that can truly impact your selfesteem.
"Showed them vulnerability..."
"Showed them vulnerability in a very traumatic time of my life and they went to my abusers and told them everything. Don’t think I’ll ever recover from that betrayal of trust."
childofluciferrrr
I'm sorry that happened to you what they did is not okay nor forgivable.
"Didn't value my friendship enough..."
"Didn’t value my friendship enough to have an uncomfortable conversation with me. Ghosted instead."
livinginclip80
I feel this. If I ever accidentally upset someone or make them uncomfortable, I want at least the basic respect shown and have them tell me what is up.
"When I was hanging out..."
"When I was hanging out with my real friends and felt at ease and calm with them. Made me realize that my other friends gave me anxiety."
dedeenxo
That says a lot, doesn't it? Glad you figured it out and have good company now!
Some friendships aren't forever. Give yourself some grace. Some people are not always on the same page as you or share a mutual respect. That is, sadly, a fact of life.
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Some friendships aren't meant to last. That's okay, though, as life sometimes has a way of separating two individuals for the better. A new job opportunity or starting a family are reasons enough to let a friend go. Savor the time you had, look at all the memories on Instagram, then wish them well as they go forth.
Then there's situations like these, where the other person did something so heinous and unforgivable the connection needed to be severed. Like a bad phone call, drop the whole friendship.
*The following article contains discussion of sexual assault.
Reddit user, Titansentinal, wanted to know the moment the split happened when they asked:
"What has a close friend done to you that instantly made you hate them?"
Drama is a thing that can follow a terrible person around like a dark storm cloud you can never dodge. No matter how far you run, it's always there with you, sucking you in.
Your Word Over Theirs
"i talked to her because she was new and people picked on her, we actually became really good friends really fast, she was secretly telling lies about me to my other friends to try and get them to hate me/pick her over me. Other friends didn’t believe her and told me about it, i confronted her, she flipped out and proceeded to go to the principle and told him i was bullying her/said all this rancid sh-t to her (i didn’t). proceeded to try and get me expelled, but luckily i’ve been going to school there for a few years and had a few of the teachers/other students vouch for me. i didn’t talk to her again after that. f-cking a--hole."
Constant_Dig9746
Getting You Caught Up In Their Web Of Lies
"Long story short I helped her out when she got out of jail with somewhere to stay only if she promised to help with rent. 3 months later the police came and arrested her only to find out she was using me to keep her baby’s dad from seeing the child after the court gave them split custody"
"...when she reached out to me about needing a place to stay I didn’t know they had a custody battle going previously but I knew they had drama going on in the relationship. She was also the awful person in the relationships as she was always abusing OTC medication while staying with me and leaving the baby alone at the place when I would go to work so she would mess around with other guys (that’s when I called CPS)"
"...The father was not at all the sh-tty person here, I could tell because when they arrested her he was happy he had his baby back and told me he’s been trying to get ahold of her but no response and gave me a teary hug"
g00d_m4car0n1
Making A Good Impression On The New Co-Workers
"Helped her get a well paid job at the massive corporation I work at. She then made a group chat of all of our mutual friends and would send photos of me in the office to laugh at my posture/physical attributes etc. I only found out because she messaged the wrong group chat."
milkmanjpg
Trying To Make The Day All About You
"Stressed me out so badly on the morning of my wedding, that I had a 6 hour long anxiety attack. Ruined the day. Look like I'm internally screaming for help in all of our photos. Haven't spoken to her since."
brissy3456
Can we all agree to keep our hands off of each others romantic partners? Please?
Throwing Away Years For A Fling
"After being best friends from age 7 to our mid 20s I had to ghost this chick and our entire friend group, because she was trying to convince my husband to cheat on me with her. There had been several smaller things leading up to this, like telling me my husband was too attractive for me and would be better with her, but it blew my mind when he showed me the texts she sent, topless and telling him I'd never have to know. I ghosted her, then our friends started saying I should just forgive her, that I was choosing "some guy" over our 17yr friendship and that by not talking to her I was causing tension in our circle of friends, making them choose sides amongst themselves."
"So I said I didn't want to cause tension and I resolved the issue by removing myself from the entire circle of friends, they can have her. That was 17yrs ago and I still dont answer their calls and know I made the right decision. My husband and I would have celebrated our 20th last month (he died 5yrs ago tho)"
TomatoOnToothpics
A Certain Way With Words
"He lovingly placed a baby in my wife while I was working."
DsgrntldVet
"That's one way of putting it"
jesiel_br
At Least You Can Say They're Dedicated?
"Drove 17 hours to have sex with my fiance & mother of my child while I was in the hospital for a brain injury."
"They got engaged and he stole my family from me. 6 years later to this very day they ignore me and I barely see my daughter. She loves me though and I know she will want to see me when she has a choice."
blvkflwr
Weaseling Their Way In
"This girl I became really close with would always hangout with me and my then-boyfriend to the point where the 3 of us were inseparable. I have pretty bad trust issues and have trouble opening up to people in general, so when I found that I was comfortable enough to open up to her I was happy to finally have someone to confide in."
"Come to find out she would tell my then-bf everything I told her in confidence behind my back. Anytime I would have doubts or relationship fears or just needed to vent she would be very welcoming and then immediately tell him everything behind my back, which caused a lot of fights and tension."
"She loved to start sh-t under the guise of “being a good friend”, and after we broke up she bought him a box of condoms as a “joke”, and even told his mom he deserves someone like her."
starreynightey
At Least Own Up To Your Awful Behavior
"Sleep with the guy I was in love with and then lie about it"
stillsimping56
You know the classic saying, "With friends like these, who needs enemies?"
These are those "friends."
At Least Wait Until You're Not Around?
"Talked sh-t abt me behind my back WHILE I was staying the night at his house and when I confronted him about it he acted as if he did nothing wrong. To be fair he had a pattern of doing this with a lot of people so I should not have been surprised."
DarthMaulOpress
No Need To Go THERE
"We got into an argument, over something so stupid I can’t even remember what it was about. Mid argument she tells me, “no wonder your mother hates you and yells at you, this is why”. Haven’t talked to her in over 4 years."
Chance-Buddy3155
Can You Just Be Happy For Me?
"Was applying to jobs to leave a toxic work environment and had found one I was really excited about. Of course I told her, and she told me I wasn’t good enough to get the new job and me not being good enough was why I hadn’t gotten a new job already and why I was stuck at that job."
"Got the job, turns out that friendship was much more toxic."
spaceflower890
Trying To Save Some Money...? Or Is Just A Huge Jerk.
"Drugged me at a rave (without my consent) and left me to die in a parking lot while he stole my laptop, some of my parents’ jewelry, and money from my home."
Ebvardh-Boss
Only Able To See The Negatives
"Had a close friend who had wealthy parents. He knew mine was financially struggling"
"Everytime we had a disagreement abour something, he would start saying things like, "At least my family is not f*cking poor" as well as insults about not being able to afford certain things."
Melon-Kolly
Can Only Speak In Lies
"Kept making up stories about herself. They were all somewhat believable in themselves (got pickpocketed at the mall, had a rude encounter with a clerk, tiny stuff like that) but weird sh-t just kept happening to her like she was in a sketch comedy which made me very suspicious in the long run."
"Then in the end she refused to come to a concert with me and then broke into a long song and dance for it:"
"They were crossing a busy boulevard and all of a sudden a guy high on weed rammed into them. Her friend bravely pushed her out of the way but got the full hit. With Godlike reflexes, she managed to take a clear picture of this guy's plates (in like 2006. might have been a flip phone) before heroically carrying her friend to the hospital nearby in her arms. The girl had to have one of her lungs removed and the nurses were too busy to care for her friend to like feed her and bathe her so she HAD to stay in the hospital with her."
"B-tch please. If you don't wanna come to a concert with me, just f-cking say so. Pathological liars are the f-cking worst."
EpicSadPanda
Bad. Friend.
"Sexually assaulted his now (thankfully) ex and then broke my hand when I took her side over it instead of defending my friend of 8 years."
smolinga
Don't feel bad for cutting someone loose if you don't think there's any chance of forgiveness or betterment. Do what's best for you.
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Life is all about searching for that one thing that'll make it all worthwhile.
While this sounds like some motivational meme you might see on a health gurus Instagram page in Brush Script font, it's a fact we can all admit to ourselves. There's something we're searching for, striving for, and always on the hunt to lock down. Could be something tangible, that we can hold in our hands, or it could be something metaphysical, unable to be grasped but able to be felt.
Whatever it is, it varies from person to person.
Reddit user, Beacon_of_Truth, wanted to know what key element is missing from your life when they asked:
"What do you need that you don’t have?"
Maybe the thing you want the most is something tactile, able to be held with your hands. There's nothing wrong with that, because after all you can't drive a forklift with your imagination.
You Ever Seen A Sad Person On A Jet Ski?
"Money"
WhipYourDakOut
"They say money can't buy happiness. I call bullsh-t."
dingdongsalesman
Lifting Things Is Fun
"An EP-CPD20L1 Lithium Electric Forklift"
heckinchonkyboi
"That's some specific desire."
Angry_sonic
"We’re still happy just driving LPG Cat forks at work. The new line picker is fancy as heck but that’s also just a Cat."
the_salivation_army
Keep It In Tune
"ugh a good guitar finally. I started to learn the instrument from a blank slate 1 year ago and in that time I recorded 12 songs (5 are good, 2 are real good, 5 are just bad, but still finished-bad, which is better than a non finished something) and am actually advancing pretty rapidly. Takes a solid 30 minutes to get the strings tuned juuuuust right because it wavers in and out constantly, no matter what so my work in those 30 minutes is finding any sweet-spot for it to work out to where I can stay in key longer than 4 minutes. I mean this thing is beat like it owed someone money."
"I love the thing, I'll cherish it. It was there when I absolutely had to have it and I will never pitch or sell it, but holy sh-t I need an upgrade."
BurnedOutStars
What's Yours Is Mine And What's Mine Is Also Mine
"A dog that can tell the difference between my slippers and his chew toys."
ninja-gecko
"Believe me, it already can."
opposablethumbsup
It's not always something you can grasp. Maybe it's ethereal, beyond the touch of what we think we're able to hold onto. A true friend, a loving family, or the love of someone special.
Who needs junk when you have kinship?
Following The Good Times Only
"Good friends who are actually there for you."
Fit-Faithlessness149
"Most people wont be when you really need them to. It's not mal intent or anything, they just follow what is pleasant and feels good. The weirdos who stick around to try to be a good person are rare, even though almost everybody thinks they're one of them"
-SlinxTheFox-
A Connection That Won't Break
"Connection. True friends I don’t dread seeing or interacting with."
"Not feeling like I’m letting my family down. Being able to feel like I have a purpose for living."
KeyProperty2134
This Is Why The Internet Was Invented
"An emotionally attentive dad"
mmhyeahchococrispies
"I may not be your dad, but I'm damn proud of you. Whatever you are struggling through, you will make it and you have my support."
jam3s2001
Make The Choice That's Right For You
"A loving and fulfilled marriage. Not whatever crap I have now."
boatbaby123
"Should probably get divorced then... or find a way to salvage your marriage. Hope you find your way."
bobbi21
You might be better off wishing for a genie than for any or all of these things to come true at any point in your waking life.
Right Then And There
"A time machine to go back to when I was 19.75 years old and make better decisions with my life."
putcoolusernamehere
"Imma need to borrow that when you're done."
greenchevy33
It'd Be Really Cute to Have
"It’s a toss up between a miniature giraffe, or a functioning Congress filled with reasonable adults."
Top-Lead-670
"Good luck with the mini giraffe then"
NightWing_91
"One of these are totally unrealistic. The other is a miniature giraffe."
JMS1991
Sunnier Days Are On The Horizon
"Serotonin"
LanguidMelancholy
"Antidepressants?"
Saeditit
"You have to have the wherewithal to call and make a doctors appointment and then go there and explain how hard it is for you to get off the couch."
PMmePunnyJokes
"Then when you finally do reach the point of getting medication it could just turn into a tedious game of trial and error if what they suggested didn't work."
stinkystankysue
So Long As It's Not Twizzlers. (Keep Up The Fight.)
"Remission from this f-cking cancer. "
"The beach and a hug.:
"Red vines if it's not too much."
cmeremoonpi
It's out there, the thing that'll make you happy. Maybe it's an physical "thing," something you can possess, or maybe there's a someone holding onto the bonds you need to strengthen your own life.
Keep looking. It'll come to you.
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