Fatherly advice is the sort of thing so valuable that there have been countless books, characters, and even YouTube channels built around it.
We didn't all grow up with a father - or one who was capable, for whatever reason, of sharing nuggets of sage wisdom.
You<p>"You are the only person you have to live with for the rest of your life ."</p><p>In other words, take responsibility for what you do, learn how to move past your mistakes, and realize that your actions have consequences.</p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/hzncin/those_who_grew_up_with_a_good_father_what_was_the/fzk8cnt?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">gaynazifurry4bernie</a></p>
Walk Anyway<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yMzUyNTk5OC9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY2NjYyODEzOH0.9kLOD1lLOOq-7DMKUecBLa2z1AHp0QMnRrUTLh-sWHs/img.gif?width=980" id="2a4e0" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="ddf45764cafaf6abd33b0314a8f60e6d" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="480" data-height="270" />wave lol GIF by Shalita GrantGiphy<p>We were once watching the show Survivor, and on this particular episode the people were flown in to where they were set to be stranded. The catch was that they had to trek quite a ways to their camps, and beforehand they voted on who they thought the weakest link would be right off the bat and based on first impressions.</p><p>The lady that was voted as weakest got a ride to camp rather than having to walk. My dad scoffed and said "Screw that, I would have walked anyway to prove them all wrong."</p><p>Simple, but it has stuck with me ever since. In the context of a survival game it's a bad move; conserve your energy. But I think for me it's about more than that. </p><p>It's a reminder that it's easier to be lazy, especially when others expect it from you, than to hold up the personal standards you should carry for yourself. Don't let them carry you. If they think you're too weak to walk, walk anyway.</p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/hzncin/those_who_grew_up_with_a_good_father_what_was_the/fzk8h18?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">le_trout</a></p>
Default To Kindness<p>My dad taught me to always be kind. Kindness isn't loud, it doesn't need to be stated. It should just be inherent in everything you do. </p><p>You don't have to like everyone or treat them well if they don't treat you well, but you should try to approach everyone with the same kindness you'd wish they'd give you.</p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/hzncin/those_who_grew_up_with_a_good_father_what_was_the/fzka204?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">panicked228</a></p><p>Same! Also, you can cut ties without burning bridges. It's okay to say "this person no longer needs to be in my life, but I won't hurt then while I say goodbye"</p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/hzncin/those_who_grew_up_with_a_good_father_what_was_the/fzkyurs?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">bruhimsaltyaf</a></p>
Easy Ain't It<p>If it was easy, everyone would do it.</p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/hzncin/those_who_grew_up_with_a_good_father_what_was_the/fzk0olb?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">orangegumby27</a></p><p>I follow a modified version of this in business: If it was fun or exciting or easy, they wouldn't pay us to do it instead.</p><p>It's a lesson that some of the most boring, basic, monotonous stuff imaginable can make you the most money. On the flip side; the funnest, most interesting stuff is the stuff that the clients all want to try doing for themselves (or there's an over-saturated market of people doing it.)</p><p>The more annoying and complex the better because they'll pay us extra to deal with it for them.</p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/hzncin/those_who_grew_up_with_a_good_father_what_was_the/fzlbfmk?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">effyochicken</a></p>
Listen<p>If you don't know how to make things better, <em>just listen</em>. </p><p>Dads like fixing problems but a lot of problems my sister and I had weren't things he could do anything about (friendship problems, breakups), but he'd listen to us vent about it.</p><p>People really value having someone listen to them, my friend went through a really hard time a few years ago and ended up getting depression. Some friends just left her to it but I invited her round, let her just talk. I've never experienced depression so felt so helpless not knowing how to fix it, but just listening to her and being present was still a help to her.</p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/hzncin/those_who_grew_up_with_a_good_father_what_was_the/fzlfdyq?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">Char1112</a></p>
Time<p>To kids, Time = Love</p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/hzncin/those_who_grew_up_with_a_good_father_what_was_the/fzk9u4w?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">headdna</a></p><p>Thiiiiissssss. Buying your kids the latest toys etc is no where near as impactful as spending time with them. I've realised over the last few years how many things my dad took me too or did with me that wouldn't have been necessarily up his alley but he genuinely found happiness in spending time with us. </p><p>We didn't have a lot of money and therefore didn't have a lot of "things" but I feel luckier because my dad spent as much time with us as he could. If I become a parent that's one of the most important values I want to live up to.</p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/hzncin/those_who_grew_up_with_a_good_father_what_was_the/fzkiojv?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">communityandwine</a></p>
Sober<p>If you ever feel like you have a problem, just know you can live a full happy life without alcohol. He couldn't control it, and neither could I. He gave it up so he could have his son in his life, I gave it up because of his example.</p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/hzncin/those_who_grew_up_with_a_good_father_what_was_the/fzk9xv0?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">Benjaminbuttcrack</a></p><p>Mine never taught me this. He died because he choked on his vomit when I was 7 years old. It took 10 years in a drunken stupor and a few rotten teeth for me to realize that something had to change.</p><p>This lesson is more important than we know.</p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/hzncin/those_who_grew_up_with_a_good_father_what_was_the/fzlznj0?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">Thwashow</a></p>
Priorities, Purpose and Patience<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yMzUyNjA0OC9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY0MjEyMzExN30.PIT5Kwrj-GxgJ_kfFl_qGj-GHG9aoc-pThEeCEUZ2QU/img.gif?width=980" id="3d314" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="28dc5eb06e93f0aa3fa03fc8ffb4d9bf" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="245" data-height="149" />music video GIFGiphy<p>To always make your loved ones a priority. Make it your purpose. My dad worked hard to give us a comfortable life and more opportunities than most. And after what I can only assume was a long and tiring day, the first thing he'd do was sit and watch cartoons with me and my brothers while asking us about our day.</p><p>And when he was forced to quit his job and decided to start up his own company, go on for half a year without income, I can only imagine how stressful it was to be so uncertain about the future while providing for a family of 6. I was slightly young but I never knew anything was wrong. He never let it show. And even though he worked probably ten hours a day, he always took the time to ask me how I was doing and go to every important event with us. My dad was and is a superhero. Always will be.</p><p>The next thing I'd say I learnt from him was patience. Whenever he was upset with me or thought there was something up, he'd ask me about it and wait until I was done with my side before saying anything. Really made me feel heard and less worried to tell him something even when I knew its not what he'd like to hear.</p><p><span></span>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/hzncin/those_who_grew_up_with_a_good_father_what_was_the/fzk5ogj?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">wutryougonnad0</a></p>
Indulgence Encouraged<p>My dad taught me to indulge my love for learning. </p><p>Want to read a history of the Aztecs at 6 years old? He took me to the library and we got a real history book and he helped explain what I had a hard time reading. Want to help in the garage? He taught me all the tools and taught me how to clean them and oil them and how to use them. </p><p>He always took me seriously and answered every question. He was my greatest teacher and my biggest defender and my rock. I lost him in 2003 and I have missed him every minute since then. How I raised my kids has a whole lot to do with how he raised me.</p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/hzncin/those_who_grew_up_with_a_good_father_what_was_the/fzkg0sa?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">Pyratekyd_Kidd</a></p>
Make It Make Sense<p>My favorite quote came from the early 2000's. He died 11 years ago. </p><p>"If the way this world works ever starts to make sense to you, you need to start worrying about yourself."</p><p>The world is absolutely as screwed up as it looks. Don't let it screw you up trying to make sense of it.</p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/hzncin/those_who_grew_up_with_a_good_father_what_was_the/fzk8do0?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">NotSure733</a></p><p>My dad would say that his father taught him that things would never make sense if he didn't pay attention. </p><p>My dad told me that the opposite would be true by the time I grew up. Right he was.</p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/hzncin/those_who_grew_up_with_a_good_father_what_was_the/fzkrwdb?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">T65bX</a></p>
Not About Success<p>Life is not about success, attaining things, status, etc. Those things have a place, but they shouldn't be your main focus. </p><p>Instead, concentrate on being a better version of yourself. Grow, learn, be honest with people and be honest with yourself (which is harder imo). Cultivate real relationships with people. Take care of and be grateful for the one's you love. It's okay to fail, but it's not okay to not try.</p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/hzncin/those_who_grew_up_with_a_good_father_what_was_the/fzk8x4s?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">Obsidiantic</a></p>
Woman Snaps At Dad On Flight After He Asks Her To Cover Up Her Facial Scar Because It's Scaring His 4-Year-Old Son
A woman who had sustained a serious flesh wound to her face was made to feel even more vulnerable after being told she was frightening a child.
Her dermatologist advised her not to cover her face at this particular stage in her healing process.
Man Falls Asleep On Plane, And Awkwardly Wakes Up With His Head On The Teen Girl Next To Him–And Her Dad Was Having None Of It
As far as rude awakenings go, a recent Reddit post is a total bombshell.
The post has all the elements of a well-told tale: it occurs 30,000 feet in the air, there's an angry dad, and even some drool.
Mormon Father With Lesbian Daughter Slams Church Over Their 'Ungodly' Homophobic Teachings In Powerful Letter
A member of the Mormon church wrote a strongly worded opinion piece for the Salt Lake Tribune.
Dave Winslow is a self-proclaimed "60-plus, returned missionary, temple married, father of eight, lifelong member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints", otherwise known as the Mormon church.
A woman was reunited with her long-lost father after 56 years when he was 'suggested' as a friend - by FACEBOOK.
Karen Harris was adopted as a little girl in the early 1960s because she was born out of wedlock.