Every family has its secrets and lies and history. When COVID is over, If every family member everywhere got loaded at the next gathering, and decided to open the family's "Pandora's Box," a whole lot of trouble would be afoot. There are dark tales, crimes and misdemeanors, and Dateline NBC level nonsense littered throughout all of our family tress. Be grateful you don't know what you don't know.
Redditor u/llsuperninjall wanted to hear about what some of us have uncovered about our family "histories" by asking... What's the darkest secret you found out about a family member/ relative?
Two years ago I found out that my Dad had a wife before my Mom and she died in a freak accident on their wedding night. She was sleep walking and fell to her death over the balcony if anyone was wondering. I feel so bad for him. He slept through it and didn't find out until the cops arrived at his door. :(
Now I understand why my Dad always worshipped my mother and caters to her every whim because she can be a little bit of a handful.
Also my Mom said that when he introduced her to his old friends they were eerily extra super nice to her.
My father tried to kill my mother while she was pregnant with me. I found out about this when I was 20. My mom told me in private. She said back then my father had a drinking problem and he would get really violent sometimes. She said something to him one time so he grabbed a knife, pushed her next to an open window and put the knife at her throat. Made her choose between jumping from the 4th floor or get her throat slit.
My mom said she cried and begged him to not kill her and think of the unborn baby (me). Some neighbours heard the noise and intervened. They managed to take the knife away from him. She was safe. Police didn't get involved. This was during communist times so back then apparently domestic issues like these were ignored. This was one of the times he was violent with her. My mom is religious and doesn't believe in divorce. They're still together after 45 years.
His violent tendencies toned down after me and my brothers were old enough to knock him out if he tried that crap again.
I'm the only one in my family, besides my mom, that knows this happened. I've always had problems with him but I hated him bitterly after my mom told me what happened then and other times as well.
I'm not a religious man, but I wish hell existed just so he could rot in it.
Taking the Stand
Step father was cheating on mother. Didn't find out because he was caught cheating; found out because he and his mistress were drunk, got in a fight, and he punched her so hard that she fell over and died. Found out about the whole thing during the investigation, the trial, and the conviction. Was weird to have a lawyer want to call 12 year old me to a stand to defend the character of a man I already had very little interaction and a fear of, and that was before the manslaughter charge.
She Did It
I found out that my grandfather's first wife (before my grandma) died of botulism from eating some tomatoes she had canned at home. She could have been saved, but he refused to take her to the doctor because the botulism was her "fault." He let her die to teach her a lesson.
Edit: They had two kids he left motherless.
Mom's a bit much...
A few years before he passed, my dad and I had a long heart to heart, at the end of which, he told me he wasn't the one to first sleep with my mom on their honeymoon.
He caught her in bed with her cousin, with which she was had been in love for a long time.
He spoke with their pastor, who told him to forgive and forget.
That worked, until 6 years later, when he caught her again, with the same cousin. He told me he wanted to leave with me but ultimately decided to stay, because he wanted me to have a family.
With all that happened in my childhood, and to him (workaholic, diabetes, heart attack), I wish he'd left and be happy instead.
There is strong debate in our family as to whether my aunt fell out of the window of her flat, whether she jumped or was pushed. She survived, but with brain damage, and says she can't remember.
My Cousin's Past
I found out from my dad that one of my cousins isn't related to anyone in the family. My aunt and her mother used to work at a hospital maternity ward and apparently a woman came in one day and gave birth to him and then left the next day without him. My aunt decided to adopt him, but a few months later the woman showed up again asking where he was. They both lied that he was given up and didn't have a clue where he was.
They still haven't told my cousin anything.
2 of Us
My mother "supposedly" has a fraternal twin. My grandmother couldn't handle the thought of two kids so she gave the male child away to someone she knew that was moving away.
In a drug induced rage one night my grandmother screamed at my mom that she kept the wrong child; it was never mentioned before or after that moment.
My mom was roughly 12 at the time. She asked my great grandmother about it and she knew the boy's name but not where they moved to or who he was living with. My mom actually had met him once but didn't know who he actually was. My grandmother denies it ever happened and my grandfather felt that "surely they'd have had to tell me".
I doubt they would have though.
When she was pregnant with me, my mom asked my great-grandmother what my middle name should be: my middle name is actually his middle name.
Edit: fraternal twins, not paternal twins.
My dad told me that, before my mom and dad broke up, he hadn't been happy with her for several years. My mother even had a miscarriage at one point, which destroyed the both of them. But he couldn't leave her, because he was afraid that she would hurt herself. So his only thought was to have a kid with her, so that motherly instinct would hopefully prevent her from killing herself.
The Kray Twins
My biological grandfather threatened to kill my grandmother while she was very young and pregnant with my uncle. (Long story short, he was engaged to someone else).
My grandmother became a nervous wreck while pregnant and wouldn't leave the house and he used to throw bricks through the window. Eventually she told some of her friends about what he'd threatened to do to her. Shortly after that he went missing, never to be seen or heard from again.
We always kind of laughed and joked that one of her friends must have threatened him or 'ran him out of town'. We would even go as far to say someone might have killed him for her.
It wasn't until we were going through her boxes of photos and 'love letters' we realised she was actually friends with the Kray twins...
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