Mine is "happily" married with kids. So cheers to them and whatever.
nbc mood GIF by Talk StoopStill think about her...
"We graduated from HS in 1989 but went off to different universities. Looked her up about 10 yrs ago and unfortunately she had passed away from cancer. Still think about her!"
FreshStartLiving
Surprised you could find her. Women from high school and college are very difficult to locate without links from Facebook."
"They frequently change their last names. I have a few friends from college I've not been able to locate for 20 years. All my old contact information has expired. College email no longer exists. I no longer have my old phone number. This was before Yahoo Email and Gmail existed."
atari-2700
15 years later...
"She went to Korea to teach English after college, met a man from London, they're married and have a kid in London, he seems nice, she's still a great photographer."
illseeyouinthefog
"Quite a few Girls in my HS class did this as well( not American), especially places like Vietnam, Hong Kong."
"Some of them are still there 15 years later. I don't know how though, English was taken as a second language in my school. We where duel instruction, but hell if I know how some of them got the jobs. I pity those kids who will learn a bastardised version of English."
orbit99za
“he’ll go far”
"I looked one of mine up years ago. One of those “he’ll go far” types, so I expected to find just that. Turns out he’d died in a motorbike collision at 21. Best I could tell someone did something stupid and hit him. Such a waste. Worse was that his dad had died when he was quite young, so I can only imagine how devastated his mom and sister were."
Thanmandrathor
Swing Fast
The Ultimate Fighter Mma GIF by UFCGiphy"She moved to France and became a fairly successful MMA fighter."
astromech_d
An MMA fighter? Now that could been an interesting love story.
Good for her!!
Chicken Thumbs Up GIF by happydogGiphy"She started dating right out of high school and quickly got married. Has kids, successful family, seems nice. I'm on Reddit, so you know my story didn't go that well."
jayval90
The End
"He moved to a different state, became a cop, and was later arrested for pocketing cocaine that was confiscated from traffic stops. He was one of a group of cops from that city that was involved in it. Not gonna lie, my crush ended shortly after reading about that."
Responsible-Top-6882
"good enough"
"He was very successful for many years. Then he lost his job, no other offers were 'good enough' for him, he had to sell the house because he was unemployed, and he moved his family into a smaller place. He started drinking heavily, then one night shot and killed his wife in a drunken argument while the kids cowered in the next room. I didn't miss much."
nakedonmygoat
So Godpseed to him...
"He got really into giant puppets that take like ten people to move, tie dye, & jam bands, & moved to Vermont, which is really the perfect place to pursue all of these interests. So Godpseed to him on living his best life, but it would be hard to imagine a guy that is more NOT what I want for myself. So glad it didn't work out."
youhaveonehour
Success...
leslie odom jr broadway GIF by Hamilton: An American MusicalGiphy"He's a successful Broadway actor and as dreamy, talented, and kind as ever. He's a good person and deserves good things, so I'm genuinely happy for him. We actually keep in touch and when I'm in NYC he takes me backstage at his shows."
Ok_Whatever_Budd
Changes
"She dropped out of university after a bad breakup and initially got into drugs and a dead end job. She also became insecure about her looks because of one of her boyfriends and went for plastic surgery a few times. Last i heard she moved to a whole new city to restart her life and go back to school to get a degree. Hope it works out for her."
Eggsegret
34
"One is my ex-husband. He's sliding into hoarding, conspiracy theories, and general nastiness. I'm sliding the custody arrangement around so that Son is at my house way more often. Still, we keep it civil and respectful, and I've yet to say an unkind word about him to Son. One is gay, and as far as I know, is doing well. He still keeps in touch with my twin brother. One is dead. Epilepsy killed him at 34."
insertcaffeine
Paradise...
love GIFGiphy"45 years later. Married 35+ years, three kids, two grandkids and next year we retire together in our version of paradise. So pretty good so far."
cisco54
Too Different
"Lost touch with her in 1985. Found her again in 2009 just as I was divorcing my 1st wife. Life hadn't treated her kindly in the interim - homelessness, abuse, drugs etc whereas my life has been OK mostly. We got together... married in 2013. Getting divorced now. Her life and mine have been too different... the differences were a good thing for a long time, but now we accept we are incompatible. I think we are both relieved."
plentyofeight
All 3
"I dated the 3 guys in high school I had crushes on. One became successful in tech — happy, married with kids now, a bit boring but very nice. One is wanted by the FBI for defrauding investors with a fake company, among other things, and was last known to be somewhere in Asia (no lie)."
"One became a puppeteer.I’m only still in touch with the first one. I could have called it on the fraudster — he was super charming but extremely shady with a cruel streak, even then, and we only lasted a few weeks. Trust your instincts, even when young!"
HalcyonRye
Don't Tell Me
"I don't know. I don't want to know. I recently made the mistake of reaching into the past and received a sharp reminder that those aren't the people you used to know. It's better to just enjoy the memories for what they are."
Tuna_Salad_Rebellion
"That sounds like both good advice and a warning. Enjoy the memories.... OK."
PowerCord64
Passing By
"He went to the big city after high school, for university, and I didn't know what became of him after that... I eventually went to another province too... but I did see him passing by at an airport, 20 years later, and he was as elegant and smoking hot as ever. Looked like he was happy. He smiled when he saw me. *heart aflutter*"
Moving On
Peace Out Goodbye GIF by NETFLIXGiphy"I told her I liked her and she let me down gently, after that I realized it wasn't gonna happen and kind of moved on. She's still one of my best friends though, she got more attractive, she's got her own fitness business, she's doing well for herself and I'm very proud of her."
Unknown_Captain
The Menace
"I think he's doing alright, he was a menace in high school. But now he mainly hangs out with his wife, dog, & plays video games. He's gotten more annoying as he has gotten older, but turned into a pretty great man. But, this year we will be married 8 years. :)"
"We actually have a game room with a his & hers game set up! He built both of our pcs too. :) I normally like cozy games & he plays all kinds of stuff, mainly mmos. But sometimes we find a game we both like & get sucked into it together."
rousekitten
Well good luck to everyone involved. Hopefully it all worked out as it was meant to.
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Curious to hear the ways people behave around the people they like but are too afraid to speak up, Redditor Eastern_Assistant_87 asked:
"What are some very obvious signs someone is into you?"
These Redditors shared their regrets about the women who wanted to get some.
Missed Opportunity
"Looking back on my time in college I got some pretty clear signs that I completely missed… if a girl invites you back to her dorm because she 'forgot' something and then can’t remember what she was going back to get and then sits on her bed and just kind of looks at you, that’s a pretty clear sign… I think about that occasionally. I can’t believe I missed that one."
– Heyigotone
The Couch Was "Scratchy"
"This female friend of mine used to come over to work during the day. Eventually she asked me if she could stay at my place over night because she needed to be in the city the next day. I setup the couch for her (I didn’t offer my bed lol) and we both got into our individual sleeping spots. About ten minutes later she comes to my room and asks if she can sleep in my bed with me because 'the couch is scratchy '. I didn’t make a move. These sleepovers continued for another month or so until I finally did and she was (obviously) very into it and didn’t know why I didn’t make a move sooner. I’m an idiot."
– Mrcrest
Ever notice the person who always seems around? These Redditors certainly did.
They Want To Be Near You
"They go out of their own way to be around you."
– nRenegade
I Spy A Stalker
"If you see that person hiding in a tree outside your window."
– 168942269
It's Laughter They're After
"Laughing at everything I say. Its how I recognised my gf liked me. I could say virtually anything and I could see her laughing."
– Caeberon
Everyone has their different methods in obtaining affection.
Visual Sign
"When you glance at someone and your eyes meet for precisely 2.55 seconds, the other person wants to have sex with you."
"It works. Believe. Me."
– xanax-sniffer
The Plan
"I like things to be very clear and obvious so I insist on waiting for them to issue me a section 3.02 notice 'intention to persue romantically' which will set out their detailed 5 year plan for us and describe the boundaries of their proposed persuit including likes / dislikes and information on any allergies."
"Still waiting, but one day I'm sure my luck will turn..."
– Grouchy-Praline5950
Some people send or receive mixed signals.
To Be Clear...
"Mark, if this is you from accounting, for the last time just because I grazed your hand reaching for a doughnut does NOT mean I’m in to you!"
– Guinness1313
Vague Interpretation
"Honestly, I got rejected by a girl who seemed to send very obvious signs, so I don't know anything anymore."
– 1up_1500
Ghosted
"Bro she told me she's into me a week ago, i confessed the very next day... Have been getting ghosted ever since... I'm literally losing it and feels so terrible. (Crushed on her for 2 years)"
– An0ny0x00
Many people brace themselves for rejection, which is denying themselves credit for thinking it's not possible to be anyone's object of affection.
But skipping the reindeer games and declaring your heart's intentions to the person you like, while risky, may be worth dispensing with prolonged anxiety wondering how the other person thinks.
There is always plenty of other fish in the sea.
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If they steal from you in the beginning. Don't brush that under the rug. I speak from experience.
But...
canadian what GIF by CBCGiphy"When they reject you twice after saying they like you back."
de-knot-humen
Don't tell me...
"Most people like to hear that somebody has a crush on them, but you should be aware that sometimes people enjoy it because they like you and sometimes people enjoy it solely because it fuels their ego. If you start to feel like they are enjoying the attention but not giving you anything back, you should cut yourself off as soon as possible. It’s trading a bit of short term pain for long-term happiness and mental wellbeing."
drumsareloud
Black Cherry
"Asking you to come over on Saturday to watch Grey's Anatomy, requesting that you bring Mike's hard lemonade black cherry flavor, doing your best to find black cherry flavor but only find original OG lemon. Showing up with the drinks. Her getting mad and forcing me to go out for 3 hours to find black cherry Mike's hard lemonade."
Velghast
Obsessed
"If you start to become obsessed and put the crush on a pedestal, you'll always be disappointed when you get to really know them."
TreeElfie
"The way I see it is everyone has their flaws, insecurities and mistakes in the past that make them who they are in the present moment. As soon as you acknowledge this truth, conversations with people you crush on gets a lot easier and you don’t constantly feel like they’re better than you just cause you like them."
Electoriad
Me me me...
Pick Me Season 10 GIF by RuPaul's Drag RaceGiphy"When they have the 'Me me me' mentality where everything you do has to lead to a positive outcome for them."
REMUvs
So many flags. We could have a holiday.
Initiation
Text Chat GIF by IlizaGiphy"When you are always the one who initiates texting."
lubu222
"If your crush never initiates a conversation, it just means they are not interested."
sparky_boi_360
both bad and also good...
"If you can’t think of serious negatives, if you don’t/can’t behave like yourself, and if you never ever disagree with them on anything. They’re signs of infatuation which is a wonderful drug, but it is not real. It’s chemical & fantasy and not grounded in reality, and at the end of the day you live in reality, and all of your choices have consequences (both bad and also good)."
"Another great red flag is if you’re getting mixed signals. It doesn’t mean it will never work, but it definitely won’t work today. You can still have fun and be with them, but don’t invest yourself fully if they aren’t. And don’t stop looking for someone with the clear signals in the meantime. Don’t go exclusive for someone giving you maybe signals."
"Source: my own life experience as someone prone to heavy infatuation and poor personal differentiation."
ihavespoken9
Normal
"When you're only thinking about their body, and ignore their terrible personality. Finding a crush attractive is completely normal, but don't mistake lust for love."
wahoo333
"I've had two major crushes in my life. One was completely lust, other was attraction to her personality. It was way more fun and exciting talking to the latter."
Working_Incident_877
“pick up wine on your way”
"Dated a girl for a while and every time she asked if I wanted to come over I’d say yes then it would be immediately followed with a 'pick up wine on your way' or 'grab dinner before you come'. Occasionally I can dig that but it was literally every time. I showed up once empty-handed and she was legit mad. I always texted her first too. Stopped texting first to see when she’d reach out to me and I haven’t heard from her since November."
samiam871
Conforming
No Way Do Not Want GIF by Schitt's CreekGiphy"When you fear loosing them to the point where you conform in ways that aren't authentic to you."
user deleted
Permissions
"I found out years after liking someone that one of their friends had called dibs on me, so no one else in that friend group was 'allowed' to get too close to me. I'm not even sure if the person who I liked had liked me back since I found this out by a different member of the group. I don't think I had ever felt as objectified as I did after finding that out."
"It was such a gross feeling. Good thing I never ended up going out with the guy who called dibs and threatened his friends. What an a**hole. I always wondered why people in that group suddenly started turning down my hangout invites. I thought it was something I had done."
lamepajamas
You First
"When they are never the one to contact you first. Yeah, my crush was for like 5 years. Texted nearly daily 4 months (me always starting or trying to drive conversations), and we hung out a few times. I told her I liked her, and was immediately friendzoned. Which is fine, I know where she stands without having to question anything. But if I actually took that advice to begin with, I wouldn’t have wasted so much thought or energy into the crush."
JustAHerpDerp
Get Back
"Expecting them to text back right away."
Ihatebuttonss
"Going through this now. Except he also will just randomly stop talking to me in the middle of a conversation and then text me three days later just continuing whatever we were talking about. It's not worth my energy at this point."
Illustrious_City_420
Run for the hills!
"When they tell you that you’re too good for them and that you deserve better. Run for the hills!"
Selinakyle91
"Because there is no good ending after such statement. A person who says this is telling the truth most of the time even without knowing it, as their intention is to break up or cheat on you and are trying to do it without being the a**hole, exposing themselves in the process. There is literally no good out after hearing this, just know your relationship is finished. Failing to acknowledge that will only end up in a toxic relationship or having your heart broken in a far more painful way."
TheSeth256
I See You
kris jenner GIF by KUWTKGiphy"Appearing too eager/desperate. Ironically, appearing too disinterested or aloof. Also, being too into yourself, being controlling or acting entitled, or being rude to people are all major red flags."
Chameleon777
"I need to go for a walk…"
"When you start cataloging the stray hairs you’ve collected is a pretty reliable measure you might need to go for a walk."
waxonwaxoff87
"Okay I feel personally attacked by this one. I have previously dated many dudes with longer hair (idk I like long hair on a guy), yesterday I was clearing out my closet and trying to figure out what still fits, tried on clothes I haven’t worn in years, kept finding random long hairs in said clothes and trying to figure out which hair belongs to which person.
"I need to go for a walk…"
DreyaNova
Maintaining
"STABILITY... How long do they keep responsibilities maintained. Probably the biggest red flag if they, for example, go from job to job, move from place to place, and or go through short relationships like candy. Stability in my opinion is the most underrated metric to measure someone’s reliability."
crusadingRABBIT
Facade
"Dwelling too much on looks. Appearance only create an initial impression which will eventually fade. I do realize that crushes are dependent on looks, but do try to listen to the things that come out of their mouths -- either to you or to someone else. That'll paint a much clearer idea."
shad_boii
EVIL
"It's the stupidest reasons but I was playing a video game with my crush and I fell in love with a dog that had followed me around, only for him to shoot it and laugh in the party chat while I sobbed. RIP Jackson, you were a funky lil golden following Marcus around (it was Watchdogs 2)."
Vestax_outpost
Nothing Better
Lady Gaga Ok GIF by House of GucciGiphy"They only have time for you when they have nothing else going on."
PJFohsw97a
Be smart people. Don't choose to be blind.
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Wondering about a hypothetical, Redditor MainSeparate2964 asked:
"Congratulations! You're on a first date with someone you really like, what's something that they could say that would ruin it completely?"
There was one person who was not on the same page.
A Late Confirmation
"This is a platonic date right? No? You know I have a boyfriend right?"
– Glad-Election-7952
Presumptions
"Reminds me of one I got once. Saw a movie, asked if she wanted to get food, she said no. I said 'oh well maybe next time then.' And she goes 'who says there's gonna be a next time?'"
– Silvinis
Identity Crisis
"A friend of hers shows up at the bar. Gestures to me, 'This is Chris.' I am not Chris."
– cambot86
Some dates didn't know what to call their situation.
What Label?
"Oh, so it's a 'date', date?"
– Akamors
The Confused Girlfriend
"No joke. I had a girl once ask me if I thought we were dating... Literally seconds after we had sex. Like we both regularly said we liked each other, went on dates, hugged and kissed in public."
"I had dinner at her families house once or twice a week. Anyway I said 'yeah' and she said 'Oh I don't think we should date.' Like what have we been doing for 3 months? Weirdest experience I've ever had with a 'romantic?' partner."
– kynthrus
A Happy Twist
"This happened to me! The guy didn't think it was a 'date' date and asked for a second chance. Almost ten years married."
– fiestafoxinue
These dates were doomed from before they even began.
False Pretenses
"It was a dare."
"Free food."
"I don't even like you that much."
– tr5al5x
Business Opportunity
"So, how would you like to own your own small business? I know a great opportunity, and all you have to do is get five of your friends to join with you! Want to join my team and crush some goals?"
– HawaiianShirtsOR
Curfew
"My dad said I need to be home by 8."
– YoungFelix105
Repeat Offender
"Remember me? the girl who cheated on your brother?"
– Brandenk192
While there are many variables involved that could derail a first date, you needn't be discouraged.
Just make sure before planning to meet with the person whom you have a crush on knows they will be on a date to ensure there will be no confusion.
Hopefully, it will be a match.
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