Love is a gamble.
That is just fact.
Even if they seem perfect that can often change.
That's why a lot people have taken a chance on the "not obvious" person.
Why not try with this guy? See what happens.
Have y'all seen "Fatal Attraction?"
THAT is what happens.
Creepy is creepy for a reason.
Be careful ladies.
Redditor HorizontalInterrupt wanted to hear from all the ladies out there about the times they decided to go ahead and see what happened with a guy. So they asked:
"Women who gave the creep a chance, how did it go?"
I give no creepy people a chance. I barely give anybody a chance.
“hi, I miss you”
"Guy had serious untreated mental health problems, which resulted in him spending four years stalking me and making me resent giving that one chance. I made multiple calls to police and paramedics because he would call me up threatening suicide unless I would help him. He still finds me on social medias and random gaming apps to say 'hi, I miss you' but I now live more than 1000km away."
WittyMathematician1
“good guy”
"I had a bad vibe but my friend told me he was a 'good guy.' So we went on a date and he asked to drive my car. He curbed my rims and talked about how he was fired unfairly from his job. The next weekend I avoided his calls and instead went out to dinner with friends. While I was gone, he broke into my apartment. My neighbors and the cops were waiting outside when I got home."
"I spent the night at my moms, he showed up at 0300 when the my let him out and was trying to get in a window. Wonderful officer spent the rest of the night in the driveway. Fast forward a couple weeks and he shows up at my work, mopes over to me and hands me folded papers."
"It was 8-10 handwritten front and back notebook papers where he alternated between telling me I was the love of his life to why he hated me and wished I would die. I was terrified, security escorted him away. Never saw him again but found out later he did the same thing to some girl in Spokane but he was able to actually get in, beat her and landed her in the hospital."
"The friend was dating my best-friend and the 'good guy' was his cousin. I think he really wanted us to hit it off so the 4 of us could all hang out together or something?? He was shocked by the actions of his cousin but did tell me later that he had 'thought he changed.' They’re not longer dating and haven’t talked to him in years and years! This happened 20 years ago in the PNW."
TuesdayWednesdayMe
"check in"
"Met him when I worked as a cashier in a small downtown shop. Wasn't my type and seemed a little off, but I was young and had zero real dating experience. Agreed to grab coffee as a friend and made it clear I didn't have a romantic interest. He became convinced he was Gatsby and I was his Daisy (the Great Gatsby film had just come out that year). Started stalking me and endlessly sending letters and gifts to me at work describing how we were fated to be together."
"When I confronted him to stop, he started having his friends follow me at work or drop by to 'check in' on me. Prowled outside on nights I had to close shop alone. I ended up quitting that job and things fizzled. Seven months later I got a call from a number I didn't recognize."
"It was the same dude -- he just got released from a short prison sentence and was letting me know he thought of me every day and was going to find me so we could finally be together. I made up a story that I was travelling abroad for college and would be gone indefinitely. Changed my number and luckily haven't heard from him again!"
justascrolling
Maybe just shy?
"Back in High School several of my female friends and I (also female) had an off period before lunch, so we were all sitting around a table chatting. One of the female security guards came up to us and told me that there was a new exchange student from Amsterdam that thought I was cute, but he was too nervous to come over and introduce himself."
"I have zero interest in men, but I figured there wasn't any harm in letting the guy come sit with us and helping him feel more comfortable at our school. So he comes over, sits down with us, and chats a bit. He seemed rather shy, and he had about a dozen piercings going up each arm that he kept fiddling with (and a bunch of facial piercings). Then class lets out and people, including a bunch of my male friends, start showing up for lunch."
"First male friend sits down and introduces himself. New guy doesn't not respond AT ALL, doesn't even look at friend. Weird. Maybe just shy? Second male friend comes and sits down. Same thing. Slightly unsettling now. We kept trying to include him over lunch but he would ONLY respond to the women."
"Wouldn't even acknowledge the other guys at the table. I never talked to him again after that lunch period and two weeks later he got expelled for slamming a girl against a locker and choking her to the point she nearly passed out."
Katy-L-Wood
Sorry Bud
"Did one video chat with him during which he asked if he could (video) call me again later in the day. When I told him 'no I’ll be busy.' I started getting random text messages throughout my day that said 'are you okay? Just let me know you’re okay.'"
"The first I responded to, I said 'hey — yeah, I’m fine. I just hung up with you 30 minutes ago bud.' He took that as a sign that I wanted to talk more so he attempted another video call. When I didn’t respond, he started again with the texts. Didn’t even bother responding to the rest. Up to 20 unread messages later before I was able to block him while leaving him on read."
Wazoo53
This is nonsense. Why can't people just be a little sane?
Different People
"Knew he was weird before the first date. I was sad and thought maybe he’d be different in person. Showed up to the date and he walked with a crazy limp, wouldn’t pay for dinner, tried to kiss me 3 times. When I got home that night he sent me a full body nude completely out of the blue. I never saw him again. He texted me 3 months later to tell me I was the worst human and most selfish person he’s ever met. And then he blocked me."
pamshmam
That Guy
"Reading this I realized I actually have something to contribute lol. I gave him a chance in high school I was 15 he was 18. Ended with him sticking his tongue down my throat several times quite aggressively, joking about stabbing me as he lunged a knife at me and laughed about it while carving pumpkins got suspended and no one ever saw him again. Update: My friends and I found out he's now in the military."
powerhouseofthiscell
“broke his heart”
"He stalked me. He made videos of himself crying because I 'broke his heart' after him knowing me for a month. He told everyone I was just a fat wh*re who used men (I didn’t take anything from him or have sex with him.) I gave him a whole month and every time I would hang out he would keep me up until 3am crying that I didn’t love him. It was bad."
ayyoowhatevr
In the Dark
"I bought him a coffee one time and we chatted about our music tastes. Three days later, I was sitting in my dorm and I got a text from him that was just a selfie. I sent one back and the conversation got really boring so I sent him a snap of a black screen. He responded, 'are you in a dark place?' And I said 'yeah lol.'"
"His response was 'well you’ll have to leave soon because you have class in (insert building with insert professor) at 6:00.' I literally never told him anything about my classes so he just freaking stalked me until he learned my entire schedule. It turns out he was a serial creep preying on freshman girls."
Crazybish123
Colors
Watching Chicago Pd GIF by One ChicagoGiphy"On our first date, he told me he loved me and that he would let me pick out the color of our house. The rest of the evening was super awkward. I never talked to him again."
willingtoeatsushi
Guys are crazy. Stay single. That is all.
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To "Catch a Predator" is a classic. It transcended your run of the mill reality tv/crime drama story.
Chris Hansen and his crew reeled us in like we were part of the bust. We were ALL the UCs (that's undercovers... thank you Law & Order:SVU) and it felt like we got the bad guys in real time.
And Lord were there plenty of bad guys. Most importantly it shined a light on how to be more aware of danger in this age of the internet. That was when danger took a turn.
Redditor u/BreakupSimulatorLite wanted to hear about the behind the scenes on the iconic show by asking:
Redditors who knew men caught on "To Catch a Predator" before the show, what were they like?
***ATTENTION- ADULT MATERIAL GOING FORWARD***
I read somewhere that that show caught over 400 peeps. That is an extraordinary accomplishment. That show did an amazing amount of good. And also showed us just how low humanity has sunk.
Covenant Transport.
"One guy showed up to the sting in a company semi-truck. It is blurred out in the episode but the company is Covenant Transport. I went to work for them a few years after the episode. During orientation, they gave us a list of "things that will result in immediate termination. Things like "Driving under the influence, failing a drug screen, and impromptu meetings with Chris Hansen."
Jurors
"I met the ex-wife of a police officer that was on To Catch a Predator a few years ago. We were both prospective jurors for a sex crime. She was dismissed because of her relationship to the law enforcement profession and because her ex-husband was involved in a sex crime. She had to discuss the whole story to the entire court during voir dire."
The Lingering
"A supervisor at my previous job got busted in a big sting at the end of last year, with a bunch of other dudes. He was kinda dumpy in appearance but thought he was hot crap. Both at the job and with the women. He wasn't. There were more than a few who transferred out of his area or specifically asked not to work directly with him."
"A couple of them said he just creeped them out and let his touch linger longer than was polite. He was just another crap to me. One of those guys that never did anything unless the boss was around, liked to be the one at the company meetings who told everyone to quiet down and listen up when it was already quiet."
Be careful out there everyone!
"This was over a decade ago back in 2008 or 2009. I was on a dating website and was talking to a guy that claimed to be a doctor. I thought it was very unusual that this doctor (Maurice Wolin), had so much free time throughout the day to text me so frequently (texting back then was a bit time-consuming with flip phones). Was also begging me to meet up with him and telling me he wanted to shower me with all these gifts. He seemed a bit arrogant and pompous to me, in the way he would brag about his wealth and cars."
"I was getting suspicious of the guy and reverse searched his phone number. I found out he gave me a fake name, and after getting his real name, I saw all the articles online and saw the guy was on TCAP. I couldn't believe what I was seeing and asked him to send me a new selfie. Sure enough, it was definitely him. I ghosted him and blocked his number and reported his profile to Plenty of Fish and told them he was on TCAP. Just really glad I never met up with him. Be careful out there everyone!"
Alabama...
"I knew the cop from (I think Florala) Alabama that was arrested on the show. He had guns and rope in his vehicle when he went to meet the girl. Super creepy stuff. When he was a sheriff's deputy in Florida, he would come into my job frequently. So, I didn't know him on a personal level, but I did talk to him on a regular basis."
"He was a really nice, respectful guy; he seemed to be a good cop too. I was SHOCKED when I saw the episode. You never really know what goes on in someone's bedroom. Here is part of the episode - https://youtu.be/83BoaCfp9EI"
Why are people like this? And why do they always seem nice? Nice. Never trust nice. Well, never trust anyone at this point.
University
"I was one dudes RA in university. He was a seriously weird dude, but was relatively friendly, came out to all of the campus events, and was not suspected of being a predator at all by any of us in the dorms back in those days. He was busted on TCAP about 2-3 years after I graduated, so probably sometime 2003-2005."
The Voice
"I fortunately don't know any predators, but I did work with a young woman who had worked on the show--she did the post production voiceovers for the catfishing texts between the detectives and the predators. She was the voice of the non-existent teen girl. Like the "oh I don't know much about sex, I'm only 13 lol" stuff."
"Apparently she was a production assistant or intern at the production office, and one of the producers was like, "We need somebody with a young-sounding voice--you, say something" and she did, and he was like "Perfect! Come with me" and she recorded all the dialogue. Right after she told a bunch of us at work (this was a couple years later at a different job) I went home that night and watched an episode and could tell it absolutely was her voice. Hilarious."
Matty
"Yes, Matty Nash. He was creepy and kept trying to get me to go to Burning Man. When I told him I didn't think that was a good idea because I had a 10 year old kid at the time he said I should bring my kid. Now I don't think he was interested in my kid at all but I did tell him I thought that would be super creepy to bring a kid to Burning Man with a bunch of people on E. This was in 2001. He came over to my house under the guise of talking business and then put the moves on me. I turned him down and sent him home to his wife."
Nickelodeon...
"I didn't know the person directly, but I worked at a company that had an employee caught on the show. This was particularly problematic, as the company was Nickelodeon Animation. Everyone who knew the guy was actually pretty shocked. It was particularly rough for his girlfriend at the time, as she also worked at the studio, so there was no hiding from it."
"For their part, Nickelodeon instituted rigorous background checks for every new employee after the incident, with zero tolerance for any misdeeds involving children. Those background checks are what keeps this lore alive though, as the process if much more intensive than any other studio."
The Dad
"I just knew a kid who's dad was on the show when we were in middle school. Always felt really bad for the kid and his family."
I See Herbert
"Oh I can actually answer this one. He legit was always trying to sleep with men that were way too young for him (albeit just barely legal) and we made jokes all the time to him about how he was going to wind up on that show. We literally called him Herbert. It was the opposite of a "he was the last person I would suspect" situation."
Gotcha!
"Never heard of this show so I googled it."
"Why did To Catch a Predator get Cancelled? Cancellation. The show was cancelled in 2008, in part because Louis Conradt, an assistant district attorney in Rockwall County, Texas, shot himself after he was caught talking to and exchanging pictures with a Perverted-Justice volunteer posing as a 13-year-old boy. HAHAHA WOW WTF!!"
In the Navy
"I don't think he was on the show, but when I was waiting to leave for Navy bootcamp, one of the recruiters was caught in a sting operation. He thought he was texting and meeting up with a teenage girl and went to meet her during work, while in uniform, and in his government vehicle. I know he was arrested but I don't know what happened besides that his wife divorced him iirc."
He was Sweet
"Actually a friend of mine's roommate ended up being one. He was super normal and kind of good looking. He had a girlfriend as well. The only odd thing about him was that he had inherited a bunch of money from his family all in cash. Aside from that he was in his 20s and you'd never think it at all. He was one of the ones that thought he was meeting a 16 year old girl or something like that. He also wasn't very bright."
Family Entanglement
"It was my best friend's dad. I slept over there all the time as a kid and hung out. He was relatively normal to be honest. Worked a lot. My friend and I recall getting on their home computer when we were younger and there were pictures of trips to Thailand and it looked like he was at some strip club."
"The strippers looked like children but we didn't think anything of it because we were kids and figured the women looked younger in Thailand. They ended up moving out to California and he got caught on the show during my junior year of college. He called my family and all of the other families to explain that he never did anything to us. As far as I know he didn't."
Bless You
"I didn't know him personally, but he went to the same church as me (when my parents forced me to be religious), and I never knew he existed. He tried to lure an 11 year old girl from the internet to the local park, pretending to be her age, but that 11 year old girl was actually a 19 year old dude (I think that was his age) who had known about him being a creep, and wanted to turn him in to police for it."
Mom's Wheels...
"There was a kid who went to my middle school who went to meet up with this "14 yr old girl" who he told he was 21 for some reason (He was actually 13). He took his mom's mini van and drove about 20 miles to go see her. I don't think they ever aired that episode, but I remember hearing Chris Hansen and the rest of the Perverted Justice team were PISSED."
"Officers called his mom and that was pretty much the end of it. He was at school the following Monday and it was almost like it never even happened lol. It was the talk around my small town down there in GA though. I'm still friends with him on Facebook. He's married with a few kids now."
Mr. Babst
"Anyone remember Walter Babst? He was the high school teacher that got busted on the show THEN WENT BACK TO WORK for a few days. I went to that high school, but I was never in one of his classes, so I can't exactly comment on how he was before."
- shuttyt
Creep Catchers...
"There's a local one called Creep catchers in hometown area and a co-worker was on it. He was very quiet and strange, you'd say good morning to him and he would ignore you. He was 23 years old and got caught emailing a so called "13 year old girl" which in reality were the guys on "Creep catchers."
"He talked about sex, and what he wanted to do with her over email and they made a meet up spot, sure enough he shows up and these guys absolutely roast him on camera. He ended up quitting the company that week because management saw the video and asked him to leave."
Normal
"Normal dude, loved his girlfriend, working on his car, that sort of thing. I worked with him for two years and had no indication, we went to lunch, hung out, had good conversations. Then years later I walk into work and the boss asks if I still talk to him. Nah lost touch with him a few years back. Why?"
"Then he showed me the video on the web. It was crazy. I remember thinking his eyes were different, like he broke and lost something along the way. Now the other psycho that had worked there we all knew right away. That dude was was messed up."
I hope this show or a similar show picks back up. We need these people exposed often. The internet is just getting crazier.
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