Though it's often used as the butt of jokes, there's still a lot to appreciate in the United States, whether you live there or are visiting.
But there are also a lot of things that leave onlookers infinitely perplexed about what it's actually like to live in the United States and why they do things like that.
Redditor DadIsMadAtMe asked:
"What’s the hardest thing for you to comprehend about the American culture?"
School Pride!
"School mascots. Where I live, we just have teams and just play matches against people."
"In America, it’s all like, 'GO, EASTTOWN EAGLES!!! OOGACHACKA!' and there would be some person in a cheapo eagle suit spinning a basketball on his fingers or something. You would have a full dramatic cheerleader dance-off before your match, we just shake hands and stare hard at each other."
- benderbrodriguez2
No Child Left Behind
"Canadian here on spring break in Florida."
"I can't get over the baseline... I don't know how to say it, the baseline education level? There are smart people, but there are also completely uneducated people. Like, the divide is massive."
- Spiffydude98
Little-To-No Paid Time Off
"Having two weeks vacation or no PTO (Personal Time Off) for most."
"In my current country, you have to take two weeks of mandatory leave in a row. Including public holidays, I get about seven weeks of vacation per year."
- poor_decision
Financial Debt Culture
"How casual debt is, how easy it is to take loans and credit cards out in other people's names without their knowledge, and how casual it is to rack up huge amounts of debt."
- StrangeDarkling
...Enough Said.
"College fraternities."
- Gorazde
Where's the Poutine?
"Americans love french fries, cheese, and gravy, but poutine never took off south of the border. Always found that odd."
- righhanddan
Zero-Tolerance Policies
"The zero-tolerance rule... Who came up with that s**t? The victim is the one who is f**ked. Either he gets bullied or he gets a penalty for defending himself."
- vomahaf244
Political Followers
"A lot of people follow and worship politicians like they’re gods with flags and all that s**t. In the UK, it’s universally acknowledged that we hate all politicians pretty much equally."
- Monkeytennis01
Tipping Culture
"Having to tip almost everywhere. It definitely makes sense at some places, but feel like we have to tip at the most random of places these days."
- Educational_Word_647
Cultural Appropriation
"I speak as a Latin American, just setting that down on the table."
"I don’t get why people think that using something from my culture or showing interest in Latin culture is 'cultural appropriation.' I’ve even spoken to a lot of people in my culture about this thing and we all think it’s alright."
- OG_sweaterguy
Healthcare
"Your healthcare system, it's so complicated and expensive. And people going bankrupt because they get sick, what bulls**ttery is this?"
- MrTempleDene
The Stereotypical American Eagle
"American here, fun fact! That stereotypical screech you commonly hear associated with the bald eagle is actually a red-tailed hawk. Bald eagles do not make that sound. They make more of a weird (way less cool) chirping sound."
"I was too old when I learned this for the first time."
- ay-aye-ron
Plus Tax... What?
"Why don't they include tax in the total price of something? Just include it and make life easier. I don't want to have to do maths every time I go there and buy something."
- Old_Understanding325
Not In That Exact Order
"You are allowed to drive a car at 16, own guns, and sign up for the military at 18. But alcohol, behold the devil's liquid!, is only for 21+. The math ain't mathin'."
- lover_of_wisdom_
Money Money Money Money
"Lobbying."
"Legal bribery, what the h**l."
"Also, why do you have to do your taxes? If the Government, in the end, knows if what you paid was what you actually owed, why not just tell you."
- Lolleos
People looking in on the United States definitely had some questions about the people who live there and the systems they have to observe. But the big secret is that many Americans are asking the same exact questions.
Life is fulled of things we can't explain.
Time. People. Dreams. The dark. The Unknown.
When life feels a little off... like a tape being paused because we're all part of a 'Truman Show' experiment, it's because it probably is.
Then the reset.
But resets don't go unnoticed.
Redditor kaden86 wanted to discuss the times they've tried to decipher the unexplainable.
So they asked:
"What's your creepiest 'glitch in the matrix' or unexplainable thing that's ever happened to you?"
I feel like I live in the Matrix. More than I like to admit.
The same spot
living single shiver GIF by HULUGiphy"Removed a painting from the wall during a late evening cleaning, put it away and returned to the wall to see a never before seen painting on the same spot, put a chill down my spine."
Adventuredepot
Fast forward 10 years...
"I remember being pretty young like 9 or 10 and I was the car park of a pub in England (Southend). I remember seeing someone in their teens in the window of a house looking over the car park."
"They waved at me and I felt like I knew them somehow. My parents asked who I was waving at and I said just some lady in the window over there. Didn’t think much of it. Fast forward 10 years."
"I was at my nan's new house. I remember walking into her room (which I never was allowed to do) going to the window. I then realised I was in the house looking over that same parking lot and remembering that interaction years before."
"Then a girl around 9 or 10 who was in said car park waved at me and I waved back. I felt like I knew her. Could not explain it and have never told anyone about it. It freaked me out."
kerwapple
No idea how...
"Weird but happy. About 5 years ago in November we lost our family dog to cancer. She was the dog my children grew up with, loved by all. At the next Christmas, at the end of the day of gifts, food and family, as I was picking up, I found a tiny pewter dog figurine sitting on the mantel."
"I asked everyone who had been at the house that day if they left it. No one had. Okay, weird, but took it as a good omen. When my eldest went back to college at the end of that Christmas break, he asked if he could take the little figurine, to remember his dog. Of course, I said yes. A week or two later, picking up around the house, there was the figurine again!"
"I called my son, and said, 'You forgot the dog figurine!' He said, 'No I didn’t, it’s right in front of me on my desk!' I had now found a second figurine!! Again, no one claimed any knowledge of it. No idea how... but I still have the two of them tucked away on a shelf to this day."
cowgirlinthesand2
In LA
"About a year ago me and my cousin visited Los Angeles. We were driving around using google maps and after missing our 3rd or 4th exit we swear we both heard it sigh loudly before it rerouted us."
"We freaked out and made sure our driving was on point the rest of the ride. The rest of the trip there if we missed any of our exits or turns we always apologized to google so hopefully she would know we were just morons and not a**holes."
ruchull
Tricks in Florida
Looney Tunes Florida GIFGiphy"I was on vacation on Florida visiting a friend, we were walking on the beach on a perfectly sunny day when everything went black for a second. I think it was weird but explained it away thinking that my eyes were playing tricks on me until he looked at me and said 'did everything go black for a second?'"
mrsbmw330xi
Oh Florida... where the glitch is HOT!!
World Travels
Chinese Wow GIF by CW Kung FuGiphy"I have a jade Buddhist necklace I bought in China about 10 years ago. It disappears for months at a time only to reappear somewhere obvious like my desk, my dresser, in a drawer I use every day. I just say it goes on a trip and will come back eventually."
setyh
Bye Wally...
"Not my story, but my Grandpa's. So he served in the Navy and hadn't come home for five years. He finally got to go home, and on his way, he saw his old friend, let's call him Wally. Wally was getting on his normal bus, and my Grandpa shouted 'Hi!' To him. But Wally didn't respond."
"But he didn't think much of it, seeing how Wally didn't have the best hearing. Wally got on his bus, and looked my Grandpa in the eye as the bus drove away."
"Later, after he got home and was talking to his dad, he asked him how Wally was doing and told his dad about how he saw him earlier.
"His dad was silent for a minute, and asked him if he was sure he saw Wally. My grandpa said yes, and his dad replied..."
"Wally died six months ago."
Battle_Narwhal53
In my Dreams
"One day when I was about 8 I didn't go to school because I was sick. My friend was supposed to bring me homework etc. but he never came. My granddad came home from work and he told me that that friend was dead, I was devastated. That night I had a dream."
"I was with my friend at a playground next to our school and we were talking, then he told me that he is safe and it didn't hurt when that car hit him. The next day my mother wanted to talk to me about that situation and she asked me if I wanted to know what happened. I told her that I know everything because my friend told me."
"She thought that my granddad told me but he did not. He said that he did not wanted to tell me without her knowing it. That night I had a dream again and I was talking to him again. We were playing and having fun and he told me that he really had to go and we wont see each other ever again. The next day was his funeral and I really haven't had a dream about him ever since."
nithararith
Trophies
"Might get buried but oh well. When I played baseball as a kid, they were handing out the trophies at the end of the season. They called out the names of the kids while we received our trophies. There happened to be a kid with the same name as me. We met after the ceremony because it was weird since our last name isn't a very common one."
"We had the same birthday and everything. We looked alike, both our Dad's were named Derek and both of our sisters were named Lilly. As a kid, I found it cool. As an adult, I find it cool and also disturbing."
Dolios6757
Down the Highway
On My Way Goodbye GIF by Bubble PunkGiphy"I was driving about 50 mph, and a car ran a stop sign on an on ramp and pulled out right in front of me. I remember bracing for impact and then I was about 300 yards down the highway and I saw the car at the ramp in my rearview, just about to pull out."
There are always going to be weird "coincidences," they make life fun. Right?
Fast food restaurants attract a wide and varied clientele.
Owing, of course, to the fact that they are speedy, relatively inexpensive, and often delicious, if seldom nutritious.
With so many fast food restaurants to choose from, often situated right next to one another on major highways, it's easy to become confused as to which items are on what menus.
Or if we're really in a hurry, we might find ourselves driving up to a drive through window and ordering a cheeseburger and fries, only to realize we're at a bank.
Ludicrous as the idea might sound, such encounters have definitely happened.
One simply needs to ask an employee at any of these fast service establishments for proof, and they will likely share their stories with glee.
"Fast food workers, what is your 'Sir, this is a Wendy's' moment?"
Always Look For The Golden Arches
"This is really weird that this became a meme, because I swear this is true."
"In about 95 I was driving from New England to Florida for a college spring break trip."
"Somewhere in South Carolina we stopped at a Wendy's."
"Near the hallway to the bathrooms they had a big map of South Carolina and I said to a person 'can you tell me where we are?'"
" I was pretty clearly indicating the map."
"The lady said, 'Honey, you in the Wendy's!'"
"I was like.... thanks ok."
"So no big Macs."- Wobblebut
Sorry, We Don't Accept That Here...
"One time this older dude rushes up to order and slams a coupon on the counter saying 'I want this!'"
"I pick it up It has menu items for KFC."
"I ask him 'What exactly would you like to order?'"
"He instantly gets disgruntled with me for not reading his G*d damn mind and shakes his finger at the coupon and said 'Well Whatever is on the coupon, obviously!?' in a condescending tone."
"I just look at him for a minute and say word for word 'Sir, this is McDonald’s'."
"I don’t know what you want me to do with this KFC coupon."
”He looks at me dumbfounded."
"Then looks behind me at the menu and around the store, yells 'Awh, Sh*t', like this isn’t his first time walking into the wrong establishment, grabs the coupon and storms off."- BALD-HEADED_HOE
pizza hut GIF by FunimationGiphySeriously, Is It That Hard To Read the Menu?
'"You don't have tables?'"
"Nope."
"'I'll just have the general chicken'"
"'This is a Pizza Hut'."
"'Fine, just a few egg rolls'."
"'How about a pizza?'"
"'Why would I order pizza at a Chinese restaurant?'"
"'You're right, that would be stupid'."- mochablendedfun
People Still Use Checks?
"Dude came to drive thru."
"I open the window, 'sir, how can I help you'."
"'I'm outa checks', "he replies calmly."
"'Not sure I follow you', I say."
"'I'm outa checks', he says again more impatiently."
"'Right, I heard you but I don't know what you want me to do about it'."
"You can pay with cash or card too'."
"Dude gives me a weird look then says, 'Oh this ain't the bank'."
"And peels out away from the window."
"I'm a pharmacist."- avatarlevel
lisa simpson check GIFGiphyMake The Most Of It...
"I used to work at Target and they hired a new girl, who had previously worked at Walmart, to work the fitting rooms, and by default the intercom system."
"A few days after she started she was about to make an announcement over the intercom and I guess habit took over because she started the announcement with 'Attention Walmart shoppers'."
" She realized her mistake and made a good recovery with 'you are in the wrong store'."- Yodajrp
"Another One Bites The Dust..."
"I was working at Braum's and this guy went on a whole rant about how Queen and all the bands from the 70's-80's are working with government to erase memories."
"All because he heard a lyric wrong."- InfiniousBeatz·
Level Your Expectations
"Y’all wouldn’t believe the amount of disappointed rich people who come to Panda Express and find out we aren’t serving authentic Chinese food."
"Once a well traveled rich woman came into Panda Express and stood at the buffet line for about ten minutes, critiquing our 'mistakes' and explaining how Chinese cuisine doesn’t actually have fried wontons with cream cheese filling."
"Ma’am, we just fry what came in the bag from a warehouse in California."- Upstairs_Cow
GiphyWorking in the service industry can be extremely stressful and tiring.
But when you get to share stories like these, it almost makes it all worth it.
Who wouldn't want to see just one humiliated reaction after someone ordering a 10pc McNuggets at a Popeye's is corrected?
Art is subjective.
As much as movies are universally loved, there are some that leave a big question mark.
Sometimes films, plots, and characters make no sense. AT ALL.
And that is uncomfortable for the ego.
Example...
Howard's End.
Is it art?
Am I just dumb?
Why do I care?
Redditor erin214 wanted to discuss all the movies most of us just don't get.
"What movie do you just not get?"
There are so many movies to bring up. But we don't have all day... let's discuss.
I'm Lost
david lynch GIFGiphy"Mullholland Drive. David Lynch once said there is definitely a coherent story and you can figure it out if you just pay attention. I don't believe him."
EingestricheneOktave
Bad Job
"The Nut Job. I get that it's a kid's movie and the expectations aren't high but that movie feels 15 years older than it is and it's full of the cheesiest one liners over and over. It feels so low budget yet the cast is nothing but stars."
Clcooper423
"It's just mediocre. Saw it once when it came out, laughed about it and enjoyed it then but never have had the urge to watch it again."
So many twists...
"Primer. Can’t follow it. I tried; I even looked up the diagrams. I cannot follow that movie for the life of me."
blackesthearted
"I think it's just ok to not get it all. When I watch Primer I don't try to follow it all, I just understand the gist of it and understand that it does all make sense on paper and enjoy the show. Don't get too caught up in following all of the twists, it's too clever for it's own good. Really great movie, though."
AtraposJM
Endings
"I consider myself a mild movie buff and pay attention diligently when watching any movie. But when I watched I’m Thinking of Ending Things with Jesse Plemons I had no sweet clue what was going on."
WeirdAlsToyBarn
"In a nutshell: the only 'real' character in the movie is the old janitor who freezes to death at the end. Everything else is his delusional fantasy of how his life could/should have been, mixed with memories of the grim reality of why it turned out the way it did. We're observing his thought process."
elerner
Headaches...
Screaming Jennifer Lawrence GIF by mother!Giphy"Mother."
amygalvin06
"I feel like mother is how I feel during a migraine. Everything is happening way too fast and I have no idea what’s going on."
A88Y
Mother. Oh brother. That movie.
Bad Mouth
Christian Bale Oooo GIFGiphy"American Psycho. It’s one of my favorite movies so I’m by no means bad mouthing it, but that ending drives me insane. I can’t figure it out. It makes no sense to me. What was the point supposed to be?"
rinehale
Second Time Around
"Tenet."
"Just to clarify, I didn't (don't) hate the movie, I even found the plot cool. But when trying to give it sense, I can't, because a don't fully get it."
tianasky
"I actually liked it better the second time and I think it's because I watched it on a crappy sound system that drops all the low end bass and is mostly mids and highs, making the dialogue easier to hear. The basic entropy reversal premise is still too stupid to consider interesting or clever though. I can't suspend my disbelief in that idea."
CrimsonKnightmare
I see the light...
"The Lighthouse. But I still loved it."
quixoticelixerrr
"I think it's about a man who is mentally ill and gets isolated along with someone he cannot stand, middle of the movie he does say that a coworker died and the film indicate that he killed him, which explains the scene where he smokes a cig by the beach and see all those logs approaching and he sees a body and he walks right towards it, maybe he regrets what he had done, his mind is certainly playing tricks on him, that's just my take."
teriaq2001
Watch Again
"Cloud Atlas. I’m pretty sure you need to go on a mushroom samba to understand it."
HollyCupcakez
"The book makes more sense. It's weird because there is a whole lot in the movie that is lifted very faithfully from the book but there are lots of little intangible bits that don't translate onto the screen well."
Penkala89
"I loved this one! I can see it's a confusing movie, though."
EmileWolfJake Always
Black And White Movie GIF by hoppipGiphy"Donnie Darko. Do I really need a website, a book, and a director’s cut to understand a movie? A little exposition, please."
ColonOBrien
"I love this film and have seen both versions a number of times over the years. I can't explain it though, it's just a vibe I guess. Like that feeling you get when you've just woken up from a vivid dream and haven't adjusted to reality yet."
djstreader
So many of these movies are on my list. It's them not us.
There is so much confusion in life.
And try as we may, we are never going to understand it all.
Truthfully, maybe we're not destined to get it all.
In school I made it as far as Algebra 2.
Then I did 7 weeks of Chemistry and dropped out right before the deadline.
I tried. I swear. But it just does not compute in my brain.
I struggled with that.
"Why can't I get this?"
The answer was... just because.
There are just some things we'll never understand.
Redditor caloriedeficit101 wanted to see who would fess up about and embrace a certain lack of knowledge.
They asked:
"What do you honestly not understand?"
I'm also up on biology. That is a whole other mess.
Sudden Poop
"Mining crypto. How does a powerful computer use an algorithm and suddenly poop out a bitcoin of real, monetary value?"
SuitableTaint
bitcoin GIFGiphyThrough the Lense...
"How cameras work. It honestly freaks me out how they can literally just capture moments."
kneecapstealerr
"Imagine light as lots of streams of coloured water. When it's dark, those streams are weaker, and when it's bright they're like a fire hose. The sensor in a camera is like a lot of little buckets, and the camera opens a door for a very short amount of time to let the streams through."
"After, you see how full the buckets are, and use that information to create the picture. When it's dark, you open the door for longer to let more of the 'water' through. If you let too much through you fill the buckets and you saturate the sensor (it comes out as white). Not enough, and all the buckets are empty (black)."
A_name_wot_i_made_up
“invention”
"How people can just 'invent' new math. Or actually how people can sit down, start writing equations, and figure out something about the universe. I wouldn’t even know where to begin. I absolutely love math and the idea of it but man do I truly suck at it. I’d love to let some math PHD just talk my ear off about what they’re working on even though I probably wouldn’t understand any of it. I just think math is neat."
Osirus1156
A to B
"I've have tried many times to watch explanations of how gravity affects time and I always find myself just short of 'getting it.'"
Vealophile
"Think of light travelling from A to B in a straight line. Now imagine that line is pulled by gravity so its curved, it now takes the light longer to get from A to B. Light travels at a constant speed so it doesn't change speed but the time it takes to get there does, that means time slows down to accommodate."
Tsusoup
Worship...
"Celebrity worship."
1980pzx
"People worship them because they're infatuated with the idea that everyone knows them and they feel it's impossible to ever be able and do that, so they think these celebrities are special and different from ordinary humans.
whereami100k
mariah carey hello GIFGiphyWhy do we obsess over celebrities? Over the lives of people who are complete strangers... ah, an eternal life struggle.
Bloodletting...
"I don’t understand how when people undergo surgery they don’t bleed out or why there isn’t blood everywhere. Someone please explain."
PillowPrincessB
Penn Badgley Joe Goldberg GIF by YOUGiphyBlinders
"Why it's illegal to blind other drivers with your high beams, but those super bright LED headlights are totally fine."
Practical_Pie_586
"Those lights are so fucking awful. Mostly just the fact that I've literally never seen a vehicle with properly positioned lights. Right light lower towards the side of the road, and left pointed lower facing the road. They would be SO much more tolerable, and safer for all parties that way."
yazzeroni-toni
Crossed Wiring
"Wi-fi! Like I understand the concept of how it works, but when you get past the theory of it it makes absolutely no sense to me. How can such complicated and absolutely MASSIVE packets of information just be in the air? We seriously went from sending single electrical pulses through a wire(pretty easy), to using radio waves( makes sense), to heres all the information humans have ever known just in the air and it can be read by a tiny cluster of glass and metal (like what?!)"
Dougflooty2
I gotta do something...
"That feeling that I get where I feel like I'm meant to do something (but I don't have anything particularly to do) and just builds up anxiety."
FocusRightNow
"Master procrastinator here. The really fun part is when you get so accustomed to that anxious guilt that it never leaves! Then the free time you’ve actually earned becomes guilty too and the proverbial doomsday clock is always ticking!"
KaiLewisOfficial
The Skies...
"Astronomer here! Dark energy. The idea that the universe is not just expanding, but accelerating in that expansion despite there not being enough matter that we can see for that to happen, is just mind blowing and I can't make heads or tails of it. On the bright side, no one else can make heads or tails of it either and understands what's going on, so we're all in good company on this one."
Andromeda321
StarsGiphyYou don't have to know it all. Just know enough. The rest will come.
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