Romantic Confessions That Instantly Ended A Relationship
Reddit user AdditionalDentist100 asked: 'What's something you confessed to your partner that ended your relationship?'
When it comes to romantic relationships, it's a lot harder to maintain a relationship than it is to start one. And unfortunately, it's all too easy to end that relationship.
A lot of things can end a relationship, and sometimes, it could be as simple as a single comment. Sometimes it's so hilariously stupid that you can't fathom being with the person any longer. Other times, the person says something so cruel that you know it's time to run. And sometimes, the comment isn't even necessarily bad -- just ill-timed.
Redditors know all about this and are ready to share.
It all started when Redditor AdditionalDentist100 asked:
"What's something you confessed to your partner that ended your relationship?"
Faking It
"Not me, but someone I know was finally told that her husband was faking his English heritage, background/upbringing in England and fake accent. Dude kept it up for years, eventually admitted that it was all a lie and that he grew up on West Coast."
– NE_Golf
"I would think that was a lie but there are people who have faked being a 9/11 survivor. Apparently this type of stuff happens more frequently then I'd imagine."
– jdefr
Oh, The Humanity
"That I didn't rinse off the Mac and cheese noodles. This isn't even a joke it's a true story."
"They were done cooking and I didn't rinse them off. And yes this was a break up waiting to happen I guess lol."
– Ohlookavulture
"It says right on the box not to rinse them."
– Strong-Solution-7492
"The starch is good for the sauce. Dodged a bullet, I'd rather die alone than eat sh*tty mac & cheese."
– pleachchapel
The Past Is Not The Past
"Didn't happen to me, but a guy I knew married a girl I knew (both a bit older than me) and everything seemed great. However, they were at a party and someone mentioned that the guy used to smoke weed in high school (he admitted it, didn't think it was a big deal). She divorced him a month later, claiming that she couldn't forgive him for smoking weed. 😳"
– bomland10
"There had to be something else going on with her because this is so ridiculous. It's not even something he was currently doing."
– woodenmittens
But Faaaamily
"I didn’t want us to move in together with 6 other relatives."
– Ne0nGalax-E
Three Words, Eight Letters
"I believe it was "I love you.""
– AssistantManagerMan
"How f**king dare you!"
– Illustrious_Cancel83
"Oh yeah, I was out of line."
– AssistantManagerMan
And She Communicated
"I wanted better communication sooo she broke up with me."
– Plus-Bunch-4265
"I mean….."
– Outrageous_Egg6340
"Loud and clear."
– EchtGeenSpanjool
Run!
"I said, while crying because he got angry with me at a restaurant, that “I am sometimes afraid to tell you how I feel because I’m afraid of how you’ll react.” And he said, “well, thats f**king pathetic.”"
– internetgoth
"My partner had a habit of starting a convo by asking how I felt about something, then would criticize me for feeling what I felt. It always ended up being a debate about why I felt the way I did. It was never okay for me to feel sad, worried, scared, etc."
"Over time I started to feel anxious when he’d ask questions, and purposely responded vaguely, or just straight up said that I didn’t feel comfortable sharing (which would incite anger or more judgment)."
"Eventually my response became exactly that. A teary “I don’t know if I want to share because I’m worried about how you’ll react/respond” and his responses were along the lines of “that’s stupid” “you’re ridiculous” “don’t be an idiot” “seriously?”"
"I don’t know if it’s because I got so used to it, or from being distracted by all the other bigger things in the relationship…but for some reason I didn’t even notice that this was another bad thing until reading this comment. It was just…normal."
– alexanteros
Looks Always Matter
"It’s not necessarily what I confessed, but I showed him my picture from 8th grade and he couldn’t handle that I used to look like I did in 8th grade."
"If I knew that I had to peak in middle school I would have at least plucked my eyebrows 🥴"
– aero_love
""Sorry babe, you just weren't hot as a middle schooler. Gotta end it here.""
– bobbitdobbit
Happy Ending
"True story. I confessed that I wanted to do more for her. I thought I was neglecting her and working too much."
"That next week, she sat me down and told me that I was threatening her independence and that she needed a week to think about us. The week after that, she broke up with me."
"I later got the real reason from her former best friend. She never had a guy who wanted “all in” like I did and panicked."
"At the time I was destroyed. LOL I thought I was going to marry that woman. Turns out I was one woman off and my next relationship would turn into my current family. So all’s well that ends well."
– Salty-Technology8912
Better This Way
"Broke down crying during a more realistic war movie. She told me to suck it up."
"After she confronted me for drinking too much I finally sought VA disability. Diagnosed with depression, PTSD, anxiety, among other things. Bills started pouring in and I told her we can’t afford certain luxury things because I was the sole breadwinner. I said I felt like I was drowning and my head is slowly slipping under the surface. She told me to “figure it out.”"
""So, I did. We divorced. And I’m much more happy and no longer on the train of “be a man and tighten your boot straps.” I got help and know that it’s okay to do so."
– NyetRifleIsFine47
"So much easier to keep your head above water without the anchor around your neck."
– Probably_Not_Evil
The Cards Don't Lie
"That I didn’t believe in astrology and tarot cards. She then said her tarot cards told her to break up with me. Sure dodged a bullet there."
– Zenith_21
"The tarot cards were right! And still you don’t believe!"
– TDLMTH
Let's Hear It For The Boy
"I didn’t confess, I just went to a couple bars with her to dance. She left me because “YOU CAN’T DANCE!” Of all the things that she could’ve said that was the weirdest reason ever. Like, I had no response. I was 28. I’m happily married for 22 years now to someone who I constantly do bad dancing for because she thinks it’s hilarious. I mean, since I was told I can’t dance, I developed a habit of dancing badly when celebrating ANYTHING. It’s a real crowd pleaser. I am loved for my bad dancing now."
– generic230
I can't dance either! But this is exactly why we all need to find someone who loves us for our quirks, not despite them.
Finding love is something that nearly everyone hopes for at some point in their life.
For some, love practically finds them. They hardly need any time searching for the true love.
Others might have to work a little harder and be a little more patient. They never give up the hope that their one true love is out there, somewhere.
Then there are those for whom the search simply isn't worth it and have found themselves resigned to the fact that they may never find someone.
Whether or not that's how they want their life to be.
"Have you given up on love, if so why?"
Fear Of Getting Hurt
"To me the price I have to pay if I want to be in a relationship is I have to be vulnerable."
"And at some level I just don’t want to get hurt that bad again."
"I accept this, and have family, friends, work, hobbies, and things to look forward to."
"So while I wouldn’t say I have given up on love, I’m not looking for it and would be very wary of any new situation."- hdhdhdhdzjursx
"Gotta be honest, pretty much have."
"The last person I loved romantically found just about every way to put me down and reject me, all the while pulling me back in repeatedly."
"It was not worth it."
"I'm going solo but still kind of hoping for Miracle."
"I like me."- ATXDefenseAttorney
Don't Have The Energy
"Yes, because I'm tired."
"Tired of going out to find someone to love, tired of getting to know a new person and being comfortable enough to fall in love, tired of learning new things about this new person and whether we are compatible, tired of meeting each other's families and getting to know a whole new bunch of people..."
"Being single may be lonely, but I won't be exhausted."- Avelevanstar
"Not sure if I've given up, but I am getting real tired."
"Having to get to know new people, putting my heart out there without knowing if I'll succeed this time, so tiring."
"I'm learning more about myself in therapy, and I've seen ladies' heads turn when I speak, I've been told I have a nice voice, but chasing a lady is so much work for so little payoff."
"Never had a girlfriend before too, and I'm hitting 40 soon."
"Each new lady is a learning experience but it's also incredibly draining."
"Sometimes I just wanna curl up on my bed and ignore the whole world."- Blim004
It's Given Up On Them
"I haven't given up on love, but I doubt I will ever love again."
"After 53 years and so many attempts that ended in tears, I don't think I will ever have that chance again for a variety of reasons."
"I spend times just trying to come to terms that I will die alone someday."- kalwayne3573
For Their own Self-Care
"Yes."
"For now."
"Need to repair myself so the next guy doesn’t have to do it for me."- Beginning-Match592
Lack Of Reciprocation
"Given up on love as I am the only one loving, the others just need me."
"When they're done, they push me away."- gameygamer15
Traumatized By Past Mistakes
"Ever fallen in love with someone you shouldn't have fallen in love?"
"So that's why, though I hope time will heal me or sth."- guess_I_feed
"I was in a 10-year abusive relationship."
"Unfortunately I didn’t realize until very late and then I ended it."
"It’s too much of a risk to meet someone again as these type of people are very manipulative and you don’t realize the cruelty they are capable of until you are trauma bonded."
"It’s not easier being single but it’s a lot less heartache."
"I thank my lucky stars every day that I got out."- corickle
"My last four love interests either cheated or 'found a girlfriend'."
"It's left me believing I'm just not a person who can be romantically loved."- Owlmystery
Happy Being Alone
"I’m not capable of giving someone my all and I enjoy my time alone more than anything."
"Two failed marriages later, we chillin."- HDTempo
Life Is Good The Way It Is
"I had a big love."
"It didn't work out."
"Now I live a truly beautiful life alone and I wouldn't trade it for the world."
"I just spent the weekend with my friend, her toddler, new puppy and failing marriage and when I got home I nearly cried with the feeling of gratitude for my peaceful life."- spice-pop
"On romantic love, yes."
"I have so many social aversions and require so much space that I'm neither capable or interested to nurture such a relationship."
"I'm happier and more functional on my own."- USAIsAUcountry
Literally Don't Know What They're Missing
"Never been loved before, can't miss what I haven't experienced."- Allnutsz
Social Anxiety
"I wasn't socialized from the ages 12-22 and have severe social anxiety."
"It's hard to meet people when you're terrified of them."- owe-me
The true romantics should never give up the hope that their soulmate is out there, somewhere.
That being said, being without a partner is nothing to be ashamed of.
As the only person in control of your own happiness, is you and you alone.
Even in this supposedly progressive modern age, far too many men feel self-conscious about the natural act of crying.
Feeling that it's not a manly thing to do, even though many would argue that it takes a real man not to be afraid to tear up publicly.
Of course, even the most unabashedly masculine men don't have complete control over their emotions and find their eyes watering unexpectedly every now and then.
Sometimes giving in to grief, sometimes overcome with joy, and sometimes simply owing to a corny commercial for coffee.
Sometimes this happens when nobody's around. Other men aren't so lucky.
"Men of Reddit, when did you last cry and why?"
Genuine Fear For Their Family
"Crying in my car right now."
"My wife has cancer."
"It scares me to death."
"I have to be brave at home."
"My car has become my place to escape to cry and release my fear and sorrow."- shmozzfinish
"At the hospital with my 2-year-old daughter."
"She just had a seizure in the waiting room."
"I felt so lost and useless."
"But it cut the wait time down to seconds!"- garsk05
Grief
"Few weeks ago."
"Friend died."
"Cried myself to sleep for a few nights."- PizzaPoopF**k
Funerals
"3 years ago."
"In my fathers funeral."- JOVA1982
Pets Passing
"January 4th."
"On January 1st, I got a message from my dad that the family dog had a stroke and passed away in the front yard."
"During the time before I stood at his grave just before I left to head back to my home, I just didn’t cry. I was questioning why I wasn’t."
"Then, standing at his grave, just a rush of emotions came in and just sobbed my heart out, then got in the car with my girlfriend and had to drive home."
"His name was Snitchel, and he was a good 14-year-old pupper."
"I’m 21, so he was a part of my life for about 70% of it."
"Was hard to say goodbye, especially because I wasn’t able to see him on Christmas because I got Covid, and I didn’t get to see him open his Christmas gifts like he usually does, during Christmas and in general during his final days."- ASexyCow0090
Spousal Loss
"My wife died."- Pitbull60usa
It's Been So Long, They Wish It Would Happen.
"I don't remember."
"I feel so sad and lonely sometimes but I still can't cry."
"I wish I could cry like a kid again."- spootex
Too Much All At Once
"About 2 yeats ago, was dealing with a lot of work an personal sh*t."
"Was at my limit of sh*t I can handle."
"I get a phone call that a childhood friend that I've known since we were 4 died in a car accident."- Mechanic_Me_Harder
"A few days ago."
"Broke down due to stress over everyday things."- einarn
Caught By Surprise
"Last night, just thinking about my mum."- TheH1dden1
Songs
"Last night, I heard 'Follow You To Virgie' by Tyler Childers for the first time, and memories of my mom hit me like a freight train."
"She’s been gone for 28 years now but when you least expect it the waterworks can come out of nowhere."
"Felt good if I’m honest."- GhostRN
Along With Many Others, No Doubt
"The Last of Us episode 3."- brucek951
A Broken Heart
"Tonight."
"My best friend told me that I don't make her happy, and that she doesn't want me in her life anymore."
"I'm in love with her."- helenemayer
Unbridled Joy
"Last night sent my girlfriend the basic Good night message."
"She replied back with 'I love you'."
"Sat there and started crying over the fact that she is the most important person in my life and that I'm so lucky that this woman loves me."- raskoe47
Post Traumatic Stress
"Two weeks ago."
"When it really hit me how much I let my managers abuse me."
"I quit a few days later and I start my new job on the 27th."- Karnezar
While Peter Allen may have encouraged us not to "cry out loud," to "keep it inside" and "learn how to hide [our] feelings," sometimes letting out a good cry proves to be just the therapy we need.
For what it's worth when Liza Minelli (coincidentally or not, Allen's ex-wife) covered the song, she altered it to exactly the opposite message.
When in doubt, go with Liza.
People Confess Things Everyone Does But No One Actually Admits To
We've all done some embarrassing things in our lives, and we may do what we can to keep them a secret.
Whether it was something legitimately embarrassing or something like not taking the best care of ourselves, sometimes it's easier to keep those behaviors private than to have a tough or awkward conversation about them.
Curious about others' behaviors, Redditor MrTuxedo1 asked:
"What does everyone do but won’t admit?"
In Great Company
"To talk to themselves when they’re alone."
- Scandroid99
Concealing Passed Gas
"At the beginning of my relationship, I would wait until we walking in heavy traffic and let it go. He heard me once and now every time a bus goes by, he gives me a sideways look."
- FloptimasPloptimas
The Alternate Ending
"To imagine what life would be like with your crush, even as an adult."
- Oppxma
So Haunting
"To lay awake at night, remembering everything that you’ve done wrong in your entire life in 30 seconds, and then just lying there thinking about each and every one of them individually until you’ve got to get up and do something the next day."
- Summertime64
Kitchen Secrets
"To click a pair of tongs together twice whenever they pick a pair up."
- ESlayer12
Complaints Aplenty
"Probably to complain. People say, 'No one likes a complainer,' but everyone I’ve ever met complains about crap."
- Mysterious_Fisher
New Surroundings
"To secretly wish certain people… would move away."
- usercb
Reminiscing
"To think about compliments given by someone years ago."
- SuvenPan
Awake for Hours
"To pretend like they weren’t sleeping when a phone call wakes them up."
- Ddubs111
Nose-Picking
"I remember seeing a while back, one user’s dad apparently had a saying, 'We all pick our noses… it’s what we do afterwards that separates us.'"
- Burgher89
Being Judgmental
"Judge. We all do it. It’s about being intelligent enough to not let that cloud our perspective."
"Also, I mean, sometimes it's okay and even good to judge. Sometimes people are bad for you to be around, and that's important to recognize."
"Being judgmental is only a bad thing if you're overly so and/or do it for bad reasons, imo. But even with that, yeah, we all do it."
- Maleficient_Hawk_318
Past Connections
"To wonder if people that have since long disappeared from your life (or you've only met once or twice) from time to time still think about you."
- Ioakpaa
The Next Great Singer
"I tried to sing, like, really good. When I'm alone, I be hitting those high notes, even though I sound like a dying walrus."
- kumorithecloud
Imaginary Comebacks
"To have (and even win) an argument with a stranger from an encounter three years ago when you didn't say anything at the time."
- mrandymoz
Avoiding Healthcare
"To not go to see the doctor when they know they should."
- SuvenPan
Most of these activities seem mundane, and that's because we've all done them, whether we want to admit to it or not.
But like anything else, there are limits. While it might be okay to reminisce or to explore guilty feelings from time to time, these aren't activities that should take place every night.
Children have a way of surprising us.
Sometimes, we tell ourselves that they won't understand certain conversations we have, or some situations will go over their heads and will be forgotten the next day.
Only to discover that they, in fact, take far more in than we realize, and understand all too well what's going on.
Eventually saying things to us which tug at our heartstrings, and result in tears.
Sharing something about themselves which we somehow missed, all the while teaching us a thing or two on how to be open with them.
All we want to do at the moment is give them a hug, even though we know all too well that a hug won't solve the deep-rooted problems they've revealed, intentionally or not, about their lives.
"What's the most depressing thing you have heard a child say?"
Even Just For A Quick Hello
“'I wish my dad cared to visit more often, I really miss him'.”- Odd-Mango-3083
Unsafe In Her Own Home
"A young girl said:"
"'All my parents do is fight. I have to hide in my room not to get hit when they start throwing things'."- Back2Bach
Only A Few Words Can Make All The Difference
"A teenager I helped in a dental atmosphere I could tell was struggling with her mental health."
"I gave her words of encouragement and as she left she said, 'Thank you for actually caring'."
"I had to fight back tears and think about her all the time and hope she's well."- invisiblegirl_8
Even Children Can Hide Their Unhappiness
"A 9 year old walking to school, a class-mate of my son and always so cheerful."
"'I wished that car had run me over'."
"I followed up with a probing question and she was indeed serious."
"That one really hit home."
"That the kid down the street was having a nightmare which she hid behind her pleasant facade."
"Just to alleviate concerns, I had a chat with the school the same day, and they were already aware of problems and this further underlined them."
"Last I heard she and her family were getting support from social services."- winter_limelight
Stability Makes A Difference
"My brother once told me he missed his old school through tears. he was only 7/8 at the time."
"For context, we’ve always moved around."
"I’ve gone to about 5 elementary schools, 2 middle schools, and 3 high schools."
"I know for a fact that I was messed up from it."
"I don’t like letting people in because i don’t trust people to be a permanent figure in my life and i have big abandonment issues."
"To see my brother go down that same exact path, struggling to really fit in somewhere, and constantly having to leave your friends."
"It breaks my heart."- a_reneel
Never Take The Simple Things For Granted
"My brother brought his friend to a family dinner once and the friend brought his little brother along."
"He was like 12ish."
"The little brother was hanging out with my mom and I in the kitchen while we cooked and once he realized what we were doing, he got so excited and fascinated."
"He wanted to see every step of everything we were doing and asked tons of questions."
"Then he goes 'it's so cool that you guys can cook, I've never seen anyone cook before'."
"His home life is absolute sh*t and turns out his dad doesn't cook, the closest he'll get is making ramen or boxed macaroni."- MotherOfBorzoi
It's Easy To See Why He Felt This Way
"My cousin overheard his parents fighting and once it was over he just approached his mom and went 'some things are evident, dad doesn’t love mom'."
"Not exactly that cuz it was in Spanish but that was basically what he meant."- chicken_wings_delux
Their Own Mother...
"'My mum and I have our own lives, she's out living hers and im here living mine'."
"A 9 year old me paraphrased of course but no less tragic."- manymanylegs
Children Are Easily Influenced
"'I can't go to jail'."
"'I have to be home to give my mom narcan if she needs it'."
"Very depressing shoplifting interview that turned into a CPS case'."- Sanguiniutron
Do I Know You?
"What if you haven't seen your father in so long that when he shows up and he says he's your dad, how do you know that's him?"- notthisagain0088
It's devastating to hear when children reveal they're in an unhappy or unsafe situation.
Especially when they don't even realize it.
It leaves us wondering, what we can do, and how can we help?
No matter the situation, the first and most helpful thing we can do is listen.
Sometimes, all they need is a pair of ears who actually hears what they're saying.
And through listening to them, steps toward finding a solution might become more apparent.