Ever been in a position where you received a compliment... and didn't know what to say? It happens to the best of us. Not everyone takes compliments well.
But there are compliments and then there are... well, compliments that make you uncomfortable. Let's just say that some things just shouldn't be said. Inappropriate behavior is rampant and people's boundaries are ignored. That's not all the time, mind you, because some of these situations are rather humorous, but it is true much of the time.
People shared their experiences after Redditor Foolbasket asked the online community,
"What's the most uncomfortable compliment you've ever received?"
"I took my cat..."
"I took my cat to the vet and he says 'She has great anal tension!' as we're both struggling to get her temperature taken. To which I said, 'Thanks!'"
"I don't think it was a compliment but I cringe every time I remember it. Mostly because of my idiotic 'Thanks!'"
If only your cat could accept compliments!
"Coworker looked at my children..."
"Coworker looked at my children, then me and said I must have a really attractive wife."
Oh dear... well that's very, very rude.
"I was a 14 year old girl in a basement with a 50+ year old man who told me I look "pretty, young and fresh."
Hopefully you ran far, far away.
"Was told that..."
"'I'd sleep with you if you were a girl.' Was told that on two separate occasions, by someone more senior than me at my last job."
Sounds like you left that job – sexual harassment is never okay.
"From the dude..."
"'That's a nice watch.' From the dude at the next urinal. Honestly, it was so funny I've used it myself since just to mess with people."
Honestly, I agree. This is a great way to psych someone out.
"Said to me..."
"'I always hoped Sarah would marry you.' Said to me by Sarah's mom. At her wedding to my good friend. Who happened to be standing next to me."
Talk about awkward!
"The first time..."
"The first time my mother in law saw me in a bikini she said, 'I knew my son would end up with a woman like you by the way he breastfed.'"
"It was uncomfortable."
Oh dear... now I feel sorry for your inbox. The creepy messages you must have received...
"It was a drunk text..."
"I want to have sex with your brain's d*ck." It was a drunk text and kind of flattering, but also the weirdest compliment I've been given."
This IS somewhat flattering... but the execution could have been much, much better.
"One customer once told me..."
"One customer once told me I looked 15 and then proceeded to ask for my number while I was ringing up his items. He kept on with this for several days by telling me stuff like how I looked pretty or complimenting my hair. He was well into his 40s."
I worked as a cashier years ago and had a customer like this. It was not pretty (and he went through my line more than once).
"This was in high school..."
"This was in high school, but a female friend of mine told me I had nice genes. I was wearing sweats at the time, and was confused because I thought she said jeans."
"She clarified saying she meant my hair and skin color. I awkwardly said thanks and to top it off, she said “One day, I want to adopt a small little Asian girl who looks just like you.”
Why do people say stuff like this?? WHY??
They say that if you don't have anything nice to say, then you probably shouldn't say it at all. But then there are times when you should probably just... not say anything EVER. For the good of mankind.
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Random compliments are a huge mood booster and can make your day, but there are some that truly stand out from the rest and stay with you forever.
One such compliment I received is one I will not soon forget.
I have often gotten compliments on how I look younger than I actually am – no complaints there.
But one individual at work was slackjawed when I revealed to him my age.
He told me I was "well-pickled."
Aww, shucks. I'll take it!
Curious to hear about the comments that stayed with strangers, Redditor wubdubbud asked:
All About Looks
Who doesn't like being complimented on their looks? Not these Redditors.
"I was having an eye test, and I was on a machine that measured the pressure of your eyeballs. Mine came up elevated, so the 70-year-old optician took another reading, and just said, 'miss, you have the thickest corneas I have ever seen.' And for the rest of the appointment, he just kept telling me how great my corneas are."
"A random guy at a coffee shop wrote, 'I just wanted you to know, I think you're EXTREMELY CUTE!' on a scrap of paper and dropped it on my table as he walked out."
"It's still taped to my monitor and this happened in 1998."
ETA: pic of note - Note https://imgur.com/gallery/eVjlqyO"
"I thought you'd be taller in real life; you have such a powerful presence online. It's still there...I just thought you'd be taller"
"Idk about best, but it was one of the most unique."
These compliments are the ones that get you choked up harder than any Hallmark card.
A Child's Approval
"My 6 year old said 'Im proud of you, daddy' one day after a long day of school and work. He had just learned what 'proud' meant and was using it a lot, but this one hit differently."
The Devoted Pet Owner
"'If I were a cat I would want to be your cat.' Spoken by the veterinarian after my little furry guy lost his battle with lymphoma."
"So many people don't visit their sick pets when they have to stay at the vet. I came every day to sit with the cat and pet him and feed him out of my hand. It makes a difference. A lot of animals don't understand they're in pet-hospital. They think they're being abandoned and get really depressed. The extra love didn't save my fur kid but it bought him time and he knew he was loved."
"The vet even made a donation to a veterinary school in my cat's name. (It's rare but it happens). About the sincerest compliment it's possible to pay."
"My gf earlier this evening told me 'I feel safe when I' m with you.' As an addict in recovery, that is a huge one to hear. Very humbling. Probably made my whole next week."
Words From A Father
"I'm proud of you."
"---my dad, after I managed to get my bipolar disorder stabilized, built a life for myself, and repaired the fractured relationships with my family members."
"I didn't realize how much I craved his approval until I finally got it."
Appreciation From Unexpected Places
Just because you don't know them doesn't mean they don't deserve to hear your praises.
"Someone once told me, a stranger, that I seemed like a good person. For some reason coming from a stranger it felt really nice."
"When I was in college, I put those silly reindeer antlers on my car at Christmas time."
"One day after class, I got a note on my window saying that they love my car & it cheered them up every time they saw it. I have no idea who left it. I still have it."
"A couple years later, I sanded down my car and covered it in chalkboard paint. I leave out chalk for people to draw. Now I get smiles (and strange looks) all the time!"
"An old lady on the bus told me women would only dream of having hair as beautiful as mine. I'm a guy."
You never know if anyone is struggling on any given day, so it's good to know that a simple positive acknowledgment can make a huge difference.
So the next time you're impressed by someone's hair-did or by their accomplishments, let them know.
We could all use an extra ray of sunshine these days.
Compliments totally rule. Someone takes a moment to not only direct their full attention to you, but they follow that up with a wonderful testament to your worth.
It's tough not to blush.
But what if the compliment comes in a package that's just a little off? Sometimes, it's all about delivery.
Some Redditors gathered to share the most bizarre compliments they've ever received. Some were back-handed, some oddly specific, and others were just plain confusing in all regards.
icylilith asked, "What's the weirdest compliment you've ever been given?"
"From a teacher: You're like a barb wired fence, maybe something gets past you, but it leaves tattered pieces behind."
"(I'm not very attentive, but somehow I manage to pick up info I need and use it appropriately)"
Quite a Character
"A coworker once told me that I was 'a cross between Han Solo and Dr. Bunson Honeydew from the Muppets.'"
"This was in 1998 and I still can't stop thinking about it - was that supposed to be a compliment? An insult?"
"The worst part is that he was pretty accurate, actually."
The Human Couch!
"'You look comfortable.'"
"Not as in I looked relaxed. She meant I looked comfortable to rest, lean or lay on. At first I asked if she was politely saying I was fat."
"She explained that I had a look about me of being someone who would comfortable to cuddle with and not hog space or covers."
"I took it as a compliment. I hope it was. This was a stranger I was having a conversation with during the morning train commute maybe three years ago. Came from out of the blue, as well."
A Wonderful Quality in a Human Being
"I, an 18 y/o male at the time, was cat-called while walking up the street."
"The assailant screamed 'YOU HAVE VERY GOOD POSTUUURE' lol"
"'You look like you're good with your elbows'"
"Said by a 50+ year old man biking by. He then swung back around telling me I should try out for the local roller derby team.."
"Random stranger while I was on a run: 'NICE NECK'"
"I'm not saying I believe in vampires, but I made sure my windows were all locked that night."
A Fully Fleshed Out Description
"That I'm like a piece of furniture, don't do much but you notice when i'm not there." -- j0-hn-dea-ux
"Lemme guess... IT guy?" -- weeglos
"Are you a bass player?" -- fossowl
"I work retail and was told this by a customer, 'you're so nice, you must have been bullied in highschool.'" -- monkeybuttgun
"By 'nice' they mean overly eager to please other people, to the point where you will let people walk all over you." -- cookiesforwookies69
Calling It As He Sees It
"'You look.... ominous.' - the mailman said to me while I sat on the curb reading TIME magazine waiting outside my apartment for the mail to arrive." -- Worlds_Best_Coffee
"A lot of people try very hard to look ominous and can't do it." -- that1prince
"I like your mailman. Is it just me or are our collective mail people just chill as f*** despite the stress they are under all the time??" -- WhenUDieIGetYourWigs
"During an internal ultrasound I once got told I have beautiful Fallopian tubes. I've been riding that high for years." -- eating_mandarins
"During pelvic floor PT they have the ultrasound on so you can see that you're doing the exercises correctly."
"When you do it correctly your cervix curls up a bit and looks like it's smiling. My PT said, 'Look at that happy little cervix.'"
"Now whenever I do my kegels, I picture my smiling little cervix. (•‿•)" -- alamuki
"In 7th grade, I wore a fanny pack to school to hold stuff like Yu-Gi-Oh cards, which I played with at lunch."
Once while walking down the hallway an 8th grader I never met before was like 'Duuude I like your fanny pack,' gave me a high five, and kept walking."
"I never saw him again, and miraculously nobody ever picked on me about it (to my face at least)."
"I had pink eye and the nurse was looking into the non infected eye. 'You have beautiful retinas.' Thank you...?" -- SaiyanKasuna
"This just reminded me of the weirdest compliment my dog has ever gotten."
"His vet called me to update how the test results went, and left a voicemail that started 'Well, the results are in, and Gio has got beeeeautiful blood! Beautiful!!'" -- samogi
Little Kid Logic
"My 4 year old son told me I smelled like music. When I asked what kind of music he said 'music you dance to.' Still the best compliment I have received to date!" -- sdurb
"My three year old just tells me I'm a good pooper. I think I prefer yours." -- shrinkingmama2
"Ugh I love random 4 year old comments! Mine told our friend he smelled like inflammation. I still haven't figured that one out." -- eeepsnm
"A woman i was talking to in my dad's shop thought i was not me but my sister. When i tried to correct her that i am me, she told me 'no you are not, [insert my name] is fat and has short hair, she is not beautiful like you.'"
"Like, wtf lady"
Wined and Dined
"My friends and I were talking about what kind of potatoes we'd be."
"One of my best friends told me, 'You'd be a loaded baked potato. People pay extra for that good sh**!'"
Public Displays of Affection
"It was a crowed Australia day celebration in the city. Sh!t was getting a bit out of control and everyone had way too much to drink. I tried to walk quietly by a bunch of fairly aggressive trouble makers, without attracting attention..."
"One of them shouts out, 'Hey everyone look at that guy. He looks awesome. I want my children to look like him.'"
"F***ing everyone stops and looks at me. Some people nod and go 'Yeah!'"
A Whole Mess of Emotions
"An old lady once told me she wishes she was 60 years younger, then she would 'give me some confidence.'"
"It was the most unsettling, funniest, and somehow most charming compliment I've ever received."
"Maybe not the weirdest but definitely the one most out of left field."
"I was walking down the street minding my own business and this guy sitting on the corner looks at me and goes 'EVERYBODY GET A LOAD OF ANTONIO BANDERAS OVER HERE! HAHA HOW'S IT GOING ANTONIO???'"
"I only maybe kinda look like Antonio Banderas but he's a handsome dude so I always took it as a compliment."
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Folks not every compliment is a compliment.
Growing up, I used to have people tell me all the time how pretty I would be if I grew up to look like my mother. My mom is pale skinned with straight black hair, dimples and bright green eyes. She also had a perfect pear shape figure.
I, on the other hand, ended up boxy, olive skinned, with a riot of curls and brown eyes.
In other words, nothing like my mom.
That's not to say I'm not a total baddy. I'm the flyest of fly - just in a totally different way than my mother is and growing up I had it drilled into my head that I'd be beautiful if I looked like her.
Like... I'd be gorgeous if I looked like Marilyn Monroe, too, but I don't. I look like me. That sh*t was not a compliment and it took me forever to see my beauty because I didn't live up to the standard that had been set for my brain.
One Reddit user asked:
Fam - I am not the only one out here living the salt life at people who pay them "compliments" - take a look.
Trauma Breeds Maturity
"You're mature for your age" thanks. It's the trauma
My mom passed away when I was 12. My dad practically checked out due to depression. It forced me to grow up fast and I often got this compliment because of it. I hated it. I didn't want it to be true.
Weightshocked bridget jones GIFGiphy
That I've lost weight. It triggers me and my perception of my body image is so off and I don't know what's real anymore
I lost 20 pounds over quarantine and I hear I lost wait a lot when I see people but it makes me ask "was I really that fat?"
I posted a selfie after surgery recently when I was still totally out of it and my face was all hollowed out from lack of food and water. It got so much positive attention that I genuinely worried for the people commenting that I looked good - I looked dead! Society's beauty standards are wack.
Years Of Service
Thank you for your service.
Came here to say this. There is no way to respond without sounding like an @ss. And besides, I did what I did for my own reasons, not for anyone to thank me. Even replying to this comment I sound like an @ss -_-
This makes me feel like less of an ass for never saying that to veterans. It feels so... performative. Everyone has their own reasons for serving and maybe they just want to be treated like a normal person when they're home. I dunno, maybe I'm out of my lane here. It's always strange to me as a civilian.
"You look exotic." I'm just tan, my eyes, lip, and nose look just like yours.
Duuuude. I hate that word. It should absolutely never be applied to a person.
A Good Talking Day
I've had people tell me that "I'm so good at talking today!" I have a stutter and some days are worse than others. People really feel the need to tell me I'm going well on one of my good days.
Don't f*cking mention my stutter even with good intention. I hate knowing that I have it and that you notice it. Just talk to me like a normal f*cking person.
Talent Is Workmusic video work GIFGiphy
"You're so talented. I wish I could draw too."
I've been drawing since I could hold those big fat pencils in Kindergarten. That's how I got so good. It was a lot of learning and hard work. Most creative hobbies are perfected by lots of practice and it kinda detracts the work you put in by chalking it up to just talent.
Keep Your Pride To Yourself
"I'm proud of you."
Unless you 1) raised me or 2) mentored me, then DON'T say that. It's condescending and a bit proprietary. You didn't accomplish anything; I did. Don't take credit for it.
A lot of people like to hear it, but not I. And a lot of people agree with me.
I always hated that compliment but could never explain why. You said it perfectly. This is how I feel as well. Thank you.
Not A Compliment
This only ever happened once but a man on the bus came up to me and said "I dunno if this is a compliment or not but I haven't been able to not stare at your chest since you walked on". It made me feel absolutely gross, not flattered whatsoever. I made a face and he was like "yeah I dunno if it's a compliment sorry"
So to guys that see a woman who's attractive and you just gotta say something, maybe try starting a conversation first before immediately commenting on their body because it's very uncomfortable.
"You're so smart". No, I'm really not. I know a little bit about a lot of things. I watch a lot of YouTube videos about random sh*t and enjoy general trivia. I can give a general run down about a lot of topics and concepts but can't actually become proficient in anything. My family and friends like to think of me as a smart person but at the end of the day, I'm no smarter than the average person. I just happen to spend a lot of time reading and learning about things that ultimately don't progress my any further in life.
"You are SO cuteee. "
This is something I have heard all my life, in basically all my Instagram photos. The closest is being called pretty. It is annoying at this point.
Like, okay I get it- short and a petite girls are cute but can't they be beautiful, sexy, smart, funny or anything at all other than cute? Okay, you don't find me attractive, how about you compliment my hair or something instead?
I would totally accept a simple "You are so nice!/ such a nice friend" over "Omg you are so cute."
For Your Age
I hate this one! There are 2....
1. "wow you look great for your age" ....I can't just look good? Always guys who say this.
2. "You're a sexy older woman" ...means I'm old but the guy would have sex with me. Thanks? lol
Don't Thank The Parents
It bothers me a bit when people finish a compliment about my personality/demeanor/achievements with a suggestion to thank my parents for how they raised me.
My father was controlling, paranoid, physically and emotionally abusive and my mother was manipulative, a compulsive liar and abandoned me multiple times. I can't really mention this though, because it immediately sucks the good feelings out of the interaction, so I just laugh and thank the person for their compliment.
For a while I wanted to punch people that tried to compliment my work experience by telling me what a great sales guy I would be. That's a weird thing to find out as an adult, that your work history can get you stuck in a certain kind of job like actors that get type casted in certain genres.
I hated doing sales, and I was more than qualified for the technical positions I was applying for. But hiring managers would take one look at my work experience and say something like "oh wow, we need to get you in touch with our sales team!"
They always thought they were complimenting me or doing me a favor; but in reality I knew they had just mentally ruled me out for the position I actually wanted since I also qualified for the position that brings in $$.
"Smart" Is Not Effortless
"I wish I was as smart as you"
Winning a competition I studied 2 hours a day, every day for a month.
Passing a course notorious for its number of flunkers. By studying my ass off.
Being able to ace a surprise quiz because I studied the material in advance.
I know it sounds pretentious, but it's plain frustrating to have your hard work, effort, and all the time you spent trying to improve as something as effortless as 'being smart'.
Hate / Love
Mature for my age: Yep. Childhood trauma caused that.
Anything involving my size: naturally thin, most of the time the comments feel extremely backhanded or they're just shallow making me feel my size is the only thing valued about me.
Absolutely love compliments regarding being smart, funny, kind etc. mainly just dislike compliments involving strictly looks or the high maturity old soul stuff.
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