The Creepiest Ways A Stranger Has Ever Tried To Come On To Them According To Woman
There are a lot of great things that go along with being a girl. We can grow our hair as long as we like, we can wear clothes generally meant for guys, and we never have to worry about getting judged for getting certain beauty treatments.
However, it’s not all sunshine and rainbows (or sugar, spice, and everything nice). Girls are often held to unfair beauty standards, expected to act in restrictive ways, and sometimes get harassed by strangers when getting hit on.
Now, we’re not saying women can’t be creepy when coming on to a man, but generally, women are the ones who have to deal with men coming on to them in the creepiest of ways.
Curious to find out more, Redditor springreleased asked:
“Women of Reddit: What is the creepiest way that a stranger has tried to come to you?”
Reverse Cinderella
"Not me, but one time I went to a party with a girl I had a huge crush on and some drunk guy started negging her by telling her her shoes made it look like she had horse hoofs instead of feet. Also that her pants were too high. He proposed removing both on her behalf."
– Suspicious_Lynx3066
Not Given A Chance
"Guy who I served in a bar I worked at when I was 18. He told me he was going to "walk behind that bar and finger you until you fucking cum". He was in his 50s."
"He did not finger me, as I threw him out and barred him."
– ElonMusksCarRecovery
"That's one of the reasons why I hate how underpaid people in restaurants are. Idk how a company just allow that, there's been several times where female coworkers asked to hide behind me or pretend I'm their boyfriend just to keep a creepy guy away from them, but they're regulars, so they get to stay. I'm glad you were able to throw him out."
– TylertheDank
Whodunnit?
"Before I met my husband, there was a guy I knew who liked to break into my car and leave me gifts. Creepy AF."
– Deathangel1976
"So they stopped after you met your husband?"
"Veeeeeeeeeeeery interesting..."
– NightsOW
"Plot twist. It was always your husband and he's always been too embarrassed to tell you."
– occpotato
Not Sure That's A Compliment
"I’m a guy but I have long hair, so a few fellows have gotten confused. One dark night, I was walking my large potato-like German Shepherd mix dog."
"We passed by some shrubs that were very dark. A man stepped out of a shrub and into my path. He looked at my dog, and looked at me, before finally saying, “Beautiful dog, so beautiful.” I thanked the guy, then he looked deep into my eyes and said, “And you look just like your dog.”"
– SlavojVivec69
Following The Leader
"Sat behind me on the bus for weeks, then followed me home to see where I lived. Next day he knocked on my door holding wine and flowers. I was 18, he looked 30s. I slammed the door in his face, thankfully he never came back"
– Apprehensive-Ad4244
"I really want to know what goes through people’s heads when they do this. I had something similar but less extreme."
"I met a man on the bus and he started talking to me which I don’t mind the random conversations (I’ve had interesting and innocent conversations before on the bus). But then he followed me out of the bus even tho it wasn’t his stop. I told him I was meeting my brother and he thankfully didn’t push."
"Another time a “friend” followed me home. He had made some girls uncomfortable by trying to touch/hug them even tho we told him not to do that. He wanted to ask me out by coming to my house but he couldn’t remember which house I entered so I’m also thankful for that."
– I_love_misery
Ew, Ew, Ew!
"once a man attempted to push me down the stairs at the library and then pull me back up by my shoulders when I turned around he smiled and said "i think you owe me a feel?" He even made the boob-grabbing gesture with his hands it was weird and gross."
– No_Number9780
"Holy crap people are disgusting"
– DoggoGamrr
Like Mother, Like Daughter
"Probably this old dude from my mom's facebook contacts whose method of hitting on me was to inform he's sexed my mom before and wants to do the same to me."
"Yikes."
– Senrik95
"That's phenomenally disgusting. My mom told me that when a sleazy guy falls out with a girl he slept with, sometimes they'll go for the mom, then the sister, and onto the next girl in her family.
– Krispy_Krane
"Wow! Did he really expect you to respond positively to that!?!"
– Hthrhrry29
"I’m going to hell for laughing at how bad that is. MY GOD"
– wandringstar
Nowhere Is Safe
"My first job out of school, I was a server at this takeaway with a few tables (about 5) for people to sit and eat."
"I used to the Sunday morning shift, the breakfasts were popular."
"This guy (late 40s maybe) comes in as the breakfast rush is ending and makes some small talk and asks me how old I was, I was about to turn 18. He looks me up and down and says "that's old enough" and proceeds to place an order and pay for the Sunday roast - only ready in 3hrs time."
"He spends the time lurking, saying creepy stuff, and not moving from the register counter. I was too scared to leave him alone at the counter but also too scared to leave me alone with him."
"Eventually told my boss and he came and punched the guy."
"He never came back."
"Edit: i remembered another one. I think I was about 21 and I was driving home alone, at night. A pair of cops pulled me over because my new tires somehow looked bald to them. They started asking if I lived alone, if my car was locked, if it locked automatically. They let me go, but I was SO freaked out."
– MzFrazzle
"Are you certain those were cops that pulled you over? I don’t doubt that creepy police exist but that experience makes me wonder if those men even were legit. It all sounds so sketchy."
– paidcatlady
Un-Relaxing Beach Day
"I was alone at the beach & had fallen asleep on my oversized beach towel after surfing all day"
"I woke up to a smiling guy laying right next to me on my own towel asking if I had a nice nap"
– slavicgypsygirl
And now I will never take a nap on the beach again!
Do you have any stories to share? Let us know in the comments below.
Divorced People Share The Thing They Wished They'd Asked Their Spouse Before Marriage
I'd rather be alone than unhappy!
Marriage is a complicated situation, it's been shrouded in fantasy and fairytales since the beginning of time. We've been indoctrinated to believe that it is essential for living a happy life. We're all -straight, gay and all in between- suppose to find that missing half of us to be complete. Marriage, kids, house = HAPPINESS. What a load.
Redditor u/m1ke156 wanted divorcees to discuss hindsight by asking.... Divorced members of Reddit, what is one thing you wish you asked your spouse prior to marriage?
Girl Suggests Threesome With Boyfriend, But Now Wants To Sleep With Someone Else Because He Did
Ahh, threesomes... the roulette of monogamous relationships. You spin and take your turn never knowing if this is going to end in a fizzle, some fireworks, or a freakout. Spoiler alert: unless you're both experienced players, there's been a LOT of talk and clear boundaries drawn, or both - it's pretty likely to end in freakout. Bummer, cause fireworks fam. Fireworks.
Enter our the lovelorn hero of our tale.
He let his girlfriend talk him into a threesome. At first, he thought it had ended in fireworks. Alas, getting away unscathed was not in the cards. His girlfriend soon came to him with an idea. Now that he had been intimate with someone other than her - she should have the right to be intimate with a man other than him. According to her, it didn't matter that she was also intimate with their third partner since she was another woman. There had been no discussion of this before the threesome. Had our Reddit Romeo been hoodwinked? Perhaps his lady love is just more adventurous than he previously thought and wants to try out all of her fantasies now?
In His Words:
My girlfriend was the one who suggested a threesome. At first I wasn't sure if she was serious, but when I found out she was, I was pretty ecstatic. I never thought there could be an ulterior motive.
I'd never known her to be bi or anything like that, and she still identifies as a straight girl. But she seemed keen to experiment and "open up" as she put it. So I was only happy to go along.
The other girl was an acquaintance we only loosely know, and we see her every now and again. My girlfriend knows her better than I do, and she's the one who set most of it up.
When we had the threesome, it seemed fun for all of us, and I feel I should point out that it wasn't just me who was having sex with this other girl, but my girlfriend who also having sex with her and doing stuff with her on the day.
Now here's where things get messy. About a week later, my girlfriend comes up with a new proposition. She asks me that since I got to have sex with another girl, if she can have sex with another guy. She said its only fair, since I got to have sex with a girl outside the relationship, she gets to have sex with a guy. (edit: Details in case of confusion. She suggested either a MMF (male/male/female) threesome, or just her plus another guy, whichever I'd be most amenable to)
I instantly said absolutely no, it was out of the question. I pointed out to her that the threesome was for both of us, not just me. And it wasn't just I who had sex with someone outside of our relationship, but she did as well, with the same person, so its fair and even. I said it shouldn't matter if this other person was same sex or opposite sex.
What's more, I said that when she proposed the threesome, at no point did she suggest, mention, or imply, this would mean she'd be able to try somebody else.
I feel like the whole threesome was a set-up so she could afterwards push the issue of having sex with another guy. And I'm pretty sure she has a guy lined up in mind, it sure sounded like it.
So I'm pretty obstinate about "No", she can't have sex with someone else. She thinks I'm being unfair, and maintains the position that she should be allowed to, since I had sex with the that girl in the threesome (even though she also had sex with her)
I feel like I was manipulated, used, and set up. Part of me fears she's going to go and cheat with the other guy anyway, even though I said no. For this reason I'm strongly considering ending our relationship now and going our separate ways. Although personally I'd prefer we settle this in a way without her cheating and without ending our relationship.
I'm not interested in an open relationship or a f^ckbuddy situation or anything like that. The threesome was fun, but I don't want to do that too regularly.
Oh BOY did Reddit have a lot to say about this. Here are some of our favorite responses, edited for language and clarity when needed.
H/T: Reddit
Being cheated on sucks. What a lot of people don't realize, though, is that it can suck for longer than just that moment, that incident, or even that relationship. Cheating can leave a lasting wound and sow the kinds of trust issues that follow us around for ages. One Reddit user was battling that insecurity from a past relationship when her current fiance started acting more distant. She said she was feeling "really insecure with his change in behavior" even though he gave a valid reason for it. She couldn't let the nagging feeling go, so she created fake profiles on popular dating sites to see if she could find him.
She did. So she turned to Reddit for help.
We'll let her explain:
My fiance and I have been together a year and a half, we moved in with one another a few months ago. Lately he has been a bit distant. I've been cheated on in the past and have been really insecure with his change in behavior. He has assured me he is just stressed about work and because his car broke down a couple weeks ago and he hasn't gotten a replacement yet.
I couldn't let the nagging feeling go, so I did a little investigating. I didn't snoop in his phone or personal accounts, but I made a fake profile on a popular dating site and found him there. He was last online July 1st.
I don't know what to do. How do I confront him? What do I say? Can our relationship be saved? Do I even want to save it?
I feel like I am a wreck right now
Buckle up, guys. You're about to go on a roller coaster of a ride with these responses and updates. Some have been edited for language or clarity.
Got popcorn? Let's do this.
H/T: Reddit
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