A bucket list is defined as a "number of experiences or achievements that a person hopes to have or accomplish during their lifetime."
But what about people who have been there, done that?
Are there bucket list regrets?
Redditor itchy_18 asked:
"Anti-bucket list. What’s something you’ll never do again?"
Look Out Below
"Bungee jump.. as soon as my feet left the edge all I could think was 'well that was stupid'..."
"It was exciting and probably safe enough, but it was enough for me to know I will never willingly do that again." ~ halversonjw
GiphyDriving Pain"
"Rent a car while visiting NYC." ~ undead_opossum
"That’s like asking to babysit someone’s kid on vacation." ~ Glass_Anvil1Not So Rockin'
"Go to Times Square for New Year's Eve."
"Looks great on TV, not great in person unless you pay to get in the walled off area." ~ Newfounder8
"I had a couple friends who went a few years ago and they said they wore diapers because they knew their weren’t enough bathrooms." ~ Nownownowow
"As a local, you will not catch me within a 15 block area of Times Square on NYE. I've gone down to the city a few times for NYE, but Hell no I'm not going to Times Square."
"Spend like 12 hours waiting for a 1 minute ball drop. Yes there's some entertainers and stuff coming out, but they do like one song and you go back to freezing your a** off in your soiled Depends." ~ flateric420
"If you're not pissing yourself in a crowd of thousands, are you really celebrating the new year?" ~ toetenveger
GiphyGive It Your All
"Assume that every coworker is a friend." ~ chrwiakgjw462q1
"Amen, I truly believed most of my colleagues were friends in a place I used to work, to the point I’d go above and beyond to help them. Even if it was rarely if ever reciprocated."
"Yet whenever I needed help they were nowhere to be found or were ‘busy’. If I got in trouble they were quick to throw me under the bus without hesitation and would lie to my face about doing so."
"Then when I realised finally that I couldn’t keep working that way and decided to distance myself more, suddenly I became ‘unapproachable’ or ‘unfriendly’ and that was a problem. Which lead to me being sh*t talked constantly."
"It sucks. Damned if you do, damned if you don’t." ~ Throwawayaccount_TM
Didn't They See Jaws
"Swim in the sea at night whilst drunk."
"Nearly drowned." ~ MrCasterSugar
"I don’t understand any of this swimming in the sea at night stuff."
"One time while on vacation with friends we were drinking on the beach and vowed to come back for a nighttime dip."
"Later that night we got down to the shore, took one look at the black abyss and collectively said 'f*******ck that'." ~ MmmmapleSyrup
GiphySettling Down
"Settling for a relationship knowing you are not really happy."
"Never. Again." ~ Selthix
"This is why first divorces happen after 7 years (average), but second divorces happen within 6 months."
"People are much quicker to nope out if it isn't working." ~ pinewind108
Not So Magical
"Go to Disney World’s Magic Kingdom on Christmas Day."
"Shoulder-to-shoulder people, insane lines, and nothing special I couldn’t see earlier in the month." ~ mGreeneLantern
"This is true for New Years and the 4th of July, too."
"Other than the fireworks that were different, the park was ridiculous and we sat around most of the day." ~ mr2000man
GiphyLive To Serve
"I was a server for 5 years."
"It was fun most of the time but God Almighty, the worst customers could drive a person to murder." ~ Prossdog
"I feel you man, I’m currently serving right now to get through university and goddamn some of these people make me question my entire life’s decisions." ~ Petroleum-Smelly
Feeling Hot, Hot, Hot
"Now I always pee before cutting jalapeno peppers. The other way around, never again."
"Just to add, this was for a meal prep with my housemate. I ran upstairs and immediately took a shower (cold), during which I focused a lot of cold water on Little Ed."
"Note cold water on a jalapeño accosted Little Ed offered only a brief respite. It was a bad time." ~ Jinzot
"I did this twice. Meal-prepping a slow-cooker barbacoa for lunch that would cook while I slept."
"Went to take my contacts out and was met with immediate agony, even gave myself a nosebleed."
"Finally got them both out and put away, and then next day I go to put them in and what do you know—the oil from the serrano peppers had stayed on them."
"Gave myself a second dose of eye pain along with a healthy second nosebleed." ~ rwsmith101
GiphyNot So Miraculous
"Childbirth and the postpartum period."
"Love my daughter to death."
"One and done." ~ Alarming-Quarter-396
We live, we learn.
The things that seemed like a great idea don't always turn out as we expected.
Luckily we can decide "never again."
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People Explain Which Things Everyone Should Experience At Least Once In Their Life
There's something really magical about traveling alone and wandering around a foreign country by yourself.
Be smart about it of course and do your research—always know what you're getting into. I guarantee you'll have some splendid experiences walking through different cities and chatting up locals at bars.
Some of my favorite memories are simply the ones where I sat somewhere, coffee or beer in hand, conversing with total strangers.
Redditor GigaChad26 asked the online community:
"What thing must you experience at least once?"
"It's almost a religious experience..."
Seeing the night sky without light pollution.
It's almost a religious experience to see the stars and the stripe of the Milky Way from on top of a mountain.
I second this!
When you're out in the countryside and you can see the stars shining brilliantly? There are few feelings like it.
"Obviously..."
Super corny alert!!
Helping a stranger who needs help. NO video, NO pictures, no expectation of reward. Just knowing that you did something for someone who's on the outside, you brought them in for a minute.
Obviously, if you experience this at least once then it won't be your last time so maybe it doesn't qualify, but whatever.
At a time when...
...it does seem like so many people do things just for the "likes," it's important to remember that most people do not.
"To see a black hole in the sky..."
A total solar eclipse. To see a black hole in the sky where the sun used to be, with stars all around it in the middle of the day, is an unbelievable experience.
The next solar eclipse in the United States...
...though a partial one, is scheduled for April 30, 2022. The next total eclipse should happen on April 8, 2024.
"I was held hostage..."
I was held hostage by a car bomb for about 14 hours once by a man who went AWOL from the special forces. I sat within feet of him the entire time the bomb was dismantled and then had to treat him as a medical provider.
At first, it was just terror. I had small children at home, a wife to go home to. But after the initial adrenaline wore off, it was very freeing. I could die at any moment and there was nothing I could do about it. And, while that's an almost certainty for all of us, it's usually not something so surreal and in the forefront of our minds. I wasn't worried about my student loans or the rent or my credit card payment or the car loan... none of it. I took a nap for a bit.
Everyone should get to feel like that. Maybe we would all slow down and just give each other a break.
Well...
...there's something you don't read everyday. A word to the wise.
"It was a weird day."
I lived on the top floor of an apartment building that caught fire. I got myself and my cat out (the only living things in my unit) and watched the building continue to burn from across the street in a friend's apartment. Like you said, as the initial adrenaline wore off, I came to the realization that all of my possessions were going to be toast. And just like you said, it was a freeing feeling. All the stuff that we are subconsciously so concerned about, so attached to, none of it really mattered. I could get new clothes and furniture eventually. The only thing I couldn't replace was my artwork, and so what? My life would go on just the same and I'd make more.
Then as the day went on, they got the fire out and the fire chief cleared the building structurally so that some tenants could go back into their units and salvage anything undamaged. My unit was unburnt. Some stuff was smoke damaged, but for the most part, everything was okay. I had all my stuff back. And it was kind of disappointing in a weird way. I felt the onus of all my possessions drop back onto my mind. My landlords had already set me up with a new unit a few blocks away and I could move in immediately. So now I had the task of schlepping all my crap around.
It was a weird day.
To say the least!
It's wild to know that you experienced that relief only to be dropped back into reality.
"It's freeing for some..."
Living by yourself, being single. It's freeing for some, scary for others, but I think it helps you realize who you are and what you want.
YES.
As someone who has lived on their own (and been single for a while), I can tell you that having this freedom has done wonders for my mental health.
"Learning an instrument..."
Learning an instrument to the point that you can meaningfully express yourself with it.
I concur.
This is excellent advice. Imagine how many people would feel empowered by having such an outlet.
"I talk to so many people..."
The Grand Canyon.
I talk to so many people who have never been and are seemingly uninterested...and I'm like, you know it's not just "a big hole in the ground", right?
It's literally breathtaking. It messes with your preconceived proportions of how big Earth actually is. They call it Grand for a reason. You should definitely go at least once.
I still need to go there...
...and I imagine that experiencing that must be incredible.
Those of you who have been there: What do you have to say about it?
"You'll be surprised..."
Have your heart be broken. You'll be surprised by how much you learn about yourself during this time period. Better it you realize and self-reflect on what you need to do and mature from it.
Most of us go through this.
Few things humble you more than having your heart broken.
Or don't.
Sadly, there are plenty who don't use the experience as an opportunity to reflect and fall into negative behavioral patterns.
"Whether you go alone..."
Living abroad. Whether you go alone, with a friend, with family or a partner, moving to another country with another culture teaches you so much and puts your life so far into perspective. Plus, you realise that amazing people live everywhere.
Ah, the dream!
Thanks for the reminder – best get to it.
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Even in a full life lived many years, most of the world's sights go unseen. There simply is not the time nor money to cover a whole planet of vistas.
The same goes for life experiences. We'd love to be old one day, looking back on a life brimming with substance, all thanks to the fact that are most sought after dreams and desires came to fruition. But so much is out of our control.
Nonetheless, people like to yearn. To name the number one goals in life and the most sought after sights feels like progress, the statement of a goal. It feels like in the naming of the hope, the work toward its achievement begins.
Some Redditors gathered to share their most desired sights and experences.
Alster551 asked, "What's something you want to see before you die?"
"Watch Me"
"Not that it'll be anytime soon, but I want to see my mother at my wedding. She's lukewarm on me being gay, and has told me it would be 'difficult' for her to support me marrying a man. It's so frustrating."
"I almost wish she could just hate me, instead of deluding herself into thinking I'll change someday."
-- Alan150003
A Saga's Finale
"There are large train tracks dividing my area of town. It's really tough to cross even for a young, fit, person. There are two middle aged crackheads who are always yelling at each other from across the tracks. Every. Single. Day."
"These guys absolutely hate each other. I really want one of them to get the balls to traverse to the other side and just fight it out already."
-- zarina622
Pretty Lights
"Northern lights for sure" -- Astkm
"I almost said that then backed up because I realized the best ones are when it's the coldest."
"Nope, I will YouTube those lights and be fine with that." -- i_like_sp1ce
Going for the Biggest There Is
"A blue whale. I've seen many humpbacks and orcas, but I'd love to see the largest animal in the world." -- trgreg
"For me, it's an Orca up close." -- PM_me_your_McRibs
"In person whale watching for me. Something about them being so massive and so beautiful brings me to tears just from watching the videos. If I see them in person it will be magical." -- Greigebaby
A Vision of Security
"Six figures in my bank account." -- the_cat_pope
"I have six figures as long as you count the cents as figures." -- Genocide_Fan
"This!!! The freedom and security I have with a bunch of cash in the bank allows for the most sound sleep and peace I have ever experienced. Highly recommended for everyone!" -- catnipkusk
Visualizing the Future
"I want to see my reflection when I'm jacked, with muscles. It's my goal, cos to be frank, I lack self confidence." -- Orc-Wolf
"It's a long, long, long, long road but completely worth it." -- GenericToasterPastry
"Learn to push through discomfort. Discomfort is your friend for now on. Build disciple to take cold showers, they are a great way to get out of your comfort zone pal" -- Mansour897
In All Its Vastness
"The Mohave Desert. Being there by myself or maybe with another person just enjoying the beauty of the desert night. That or a sunrise over the White Sands Desert. Sunrises are much more beautiful in my opinion, the sky is pink, looks painted, and the sun rises."
"That word has some emotions tied to it for me"
A Whole Collection
"So many things! As most people said, the northern lights would be amazing. But Antarctica would be so cool, or Alaska. I got super into Mt Everest last year and just to SEE it would be super cool." -- jar0fstars
"You should go to Everest. Im going next year, just to base camp since I'm no mountaineer but I think it's going to be so cool to see the roof of the world." -- ladysadiemich
The Sight of a Different World
"A world without corruption. A peaceful world where Democracy thrives and people can actually be reasonable and respectful, and be able to have actual constructive discussions and debates about their opinions and how they think the world should be run."
"But I'm guessing this is too utopian."
-- ceph42
Within Reach
"My family happy-crying because I'm able to walk/use my hands again. I'm a quadriplegic with Guillain-Barre Syndrome AMSAN variance. This disease is a pain in the arse but being off a ventilator for almost a year and a half makes me more determined every day."
-- quadrisheep
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There are so many places in the world to go. So, so much to see and experience. We spend so much of our lives postponing our chances to roam soils we long to touch. So we make a list... a bucket list of destinations to go to before the end. We should just go as soon as we can and enjoy. Don't wait for "it's too late or before I die!"
Redditor u/froyoboyz wanted to hear what places everyone plans to see before the end by asking.... What's a place that someone must visit before they die?
The Trolley....
GiphyDon't do it if time is of the essence, but the Amtrak route from Denver to San Francisco is jaw-droppingly gorgeous. Like a big tour of the Rockies and Sierra Nevada. Crest_of_Tull
i've done it and it was incredible. would only do it again with a sleeper cabin (we had one and i couldn't imagine doing it without). my friend footed the whole bill because he's rich. the only caveat is you have to LOVE being on a train. cramped quarters, same food every night, nothing to do but read a book and watch the scenery. basically, my ideal vacation but it's not for everyone. dedolence
Waffled.
A Waffle House between the hours of 1am and 4am. It's like an alternate universe where time doesn't really exist and other people are only vaguely aware of your existence. ElegantPaperclip
Grand Scale....
Grand Canyon. A picture does not properly relay its scale. You have to see it in person. RDCAIA
I went this past summer! We started our hike at 5am so it was cool for most of it but very hot by the end at like 12pm. I couldn't understand how people were just starting their hike when we were finishing because it had gotten so hot by noon!! lynbh
Rocky Road.
The Canadian Rockies, specifically places like Banff and Jasper National Parks, are pretty incredible! Highly recommend. PM-UR-BUTT-PIC-GIRL
https://www.rockymountaineer.com/
2 days, all daylight, baniff to vancouver. TheseWereThePlaces
The Blossom....
GiphyMount Fuji, definitely.
Bonus if in the spring during cherry blossom season. pikachu4919
The MP.
Machu Picchu. abeetzwmoots
I went last summer and it was one of the most incredible things I've ever seen. Also I guess it was winter down there. davelicious123
Plan Ahead.
Granada, Spain. RealMartyMcFly
Make sure to buy tickets to the Alhambra weeks in advance. reluctant_millennial
Oh yeah its beautiful. My family is kinda poor but my parents saved up and we went on vacation to Spain because my cousin was there for the navy. While we were there we got to go to granada and a few other places and it was amazing. wasteofpasta728
Not a certain place.
Not a certain place. But please just travel to another country, on an airplane if possible so that you can see the world from high up and experience a different culture, different way. nastybacon
A Long List...
Can't miss places I've come across in my travels:
Iguazu Falls (Brazil/Argentina) Zion National Park (USA) Yosemite National Park (USA) Plitvice National Park (Croatia) Pyramids and Luxor (Egypt) The Red Sea (Egypt or Jordan) Gunung Mulu National Park (Malaysia) Raja Ampat and Komodo (Indonesia) Kyoto (Japan). tablair
All of it.
GiphyThe Smithsonian. All of it. Penelepillar
I was in Washington for 3 days and I got through about half each of 3 different Smithsonian buildings. We wanted to see as much as we could. There's 17 total. toothpastenachos
The death of a loved one changes everyone in different ways.
For Mikah Meyer, the death of his father proved both tragic and inspirational.
When Mikah was only nineteen, his father passed away. Aside from the trauma of losing his father so young, Mikah was moved by a detail he found particularly heartbreaking.
His father passed away without taking any of the trips on his "bucket list" and seeing that regret changed something in Mikah.
He vowed he wouldn't wait until the end of his life to take the trips he dreamed of taking. It took a few years of savings, but when he was 30, Mikah set out on what would become a record-breaking road trip.
When he first set out, he didn't have much. Mikah traveled in his trusty van, with a map, a camera, some gear and only enough money to do a fraction of the trip.
Oh... and his undeniable swag...
Along the way, though, the trip garnered national attention.
Slowly, Mikah started picking up sponsors, speaking engagements and donations that allowed him to just keep going. Believe it or not, the van only broke down on him once.
National parks within the continental U.S. weren't all he wanted to do, though. In total, Mikah traveled to all fifty states, plus six US territories. The images he shared along the way truly highlight how diverse and beautiful the United States is and Mikah's sense of fun and humor.
His father inspired the trip, so Mikah decided to use his platform to inspire others, particularly members of the LGBT community who might hesitate to travel out of fear or shame.
Mikah shared his adventure, and message, on his Instagram: @mikahmey.
Mikah achieved his goal on the steps of the Lincoln Memorial.
There were plenty of fun, and wet, moments along the way!
Not just national parks, Mikah hit up places like Baxter State Park in central Maine.
It took him over three years, but Mikah finished his trip off back in his adopted home of Washington DC with a walk up the steps to the Lincoln Memorial.
Waiting for him were members of the media, friends, family, social media followers and Chris Calvert. Chris is one of a small number of people who have been nationally recognized for visiting all of the National Parks.
It took Chris decades to do what Mikah was able to do in just three thanks to the power of social media and marketing.
Though their timelines were very different, both men took similar lessons from the experience.
"The National Archives are the repository for our most important documents. The Smithsonian museums are our repository for our most important things. The National Park Service is the repository for America's most important places. These places define America. It's like the soul of the nation. It is our story, our land, our history. It defines who we are as one people." - Chris Calvert
"I really got to know the American story. More than just natural wonders, the Park Service sites tell our American story." - Mikah Meyer
If you have never visited your local state and national parks, maybe it is time to start a bucket list and hit the road this summer.
Safe travels everyone!