We all know we don't have endless time on this earth, so we prioritize things that we want to do while we are around. We create bucket lists and dream boards and imagine all the endless possibilities for adventure. Often, those bucket lists include dangerous acts like sky diving or deep sea exploration.
But what about things you would never do in your lifetime. Not for any other reason other than it being too fear inducing or too dangerous. We went to Ask Reddit to find out what those wild adventures are that just aren't worth the risk.
Some folks also shared that they made some serious life decisions that were important to their health and well being. Trying dangerous substances or staying on top of their weight loss was important and they never wanted to take that risk again.
Redditor machine1892 asked:
"You all know what a bucket list is, what is on your 'f*ck no, not ever list'?
Let's find out what people are just not willing to do.
Exploring the depths of the unknown is just too unknown.
"Cave diving or underground not fully explored dark tight tunnels. The movie 'As Above So Below' and the real life tragedy of 'Nutty Putty Cave' was enough for me to add that to my f*ck no list."
"A real caver once told me that for every 1 hour you travel into a cave, it will take them 4 hours to drag your busted up @ss out of there if something goes wrong."
"I'm a caver and one black humor mantra I've heard before is 'Don't worry, help is just 3 days away!' due to the difficult nature of cave rescues."
"That said, there are incredible teams of cavers who will do everything possible to rescue people and animals from cave-related incidents. I have a whole book covering the past few decades of cave rescues."
"Dunno if you will have seen this, but there's an old American emergency/911/sh*t happened kind of show in which 4 open water divers on air go 30ft down, and the instructor tells them to avoid entering the cave around that level both in briefing, and signs to surface, and 3 of them don't and go into the cave."
"Instructor alerts people at surface, seconds away, there is a trained cave rescue diver on scene by chance, he is in within 2 minutes, and saved one of them."
"Literally, they are less than 35 ft from surface, less than a minutes travel into the cave, and only one survives, despite having a guy right there, with lights, trimix and the right training."
"Dive talk covered it at one point."
If you're claustrophobic, this is definitely off your bucket list.
"A submarine or anything else bad for a claustrophobe."
"lol I worked on subs for 4 years….it's cool once, then it's just cramped, tiny and annoying."
"Son was a Navy Nuc on a ballistic missal sub. Said he was too busy working, eating or sleeping to be claustrophobic. I got to tour the sub once. I am extremely proud of him but thought he was crazy."
The ocean can destroy you.
"I absolutely fear the ocean and I won't go out farther than 6ft lmao. So I'd never go on things such as cruises or boat trips. It also doesn't help that I can't swim."
"I'm VERY comfortable in the water, but even I still fear the ocean. I live in Hawaii and swim, board, fish, kayak treasure hunt, etc., all things ocean-related and love every second of it but man the ocean will destroy you. People die here all the time. An experienced surfer died here a couple weeks ago in an area considered a calmer area. A couple of days ago another girl fell off the rocks and drowned. If you do not respect the ocean, you will die."
"There were 3 rescues today at a popular bodyboarding beach in my town. Only 2 survived."
"Have a family member teach you how to swim. It is worth it, trust me. A lot of my friends 20-25 years old just recently learned how to swim so don't feel embarrassed."
I am absolutely petrified of regular boats, but I've been on a few cruises (after a lot of convincing) and they're actually great. It feels more like walking around a mansion that has waterslides and all you can eat buffets than a boat"
"Yeah, and ships these days have enough stabilization that you'll almost never feel any waves unless you're in incredibly rough seas, which the captains will avoid as much as possible anyway."
That early 2000s game show is nightmare worthy.
"Those Fear Factor games where they put a sh*t ton of spiders or other scary creatures on top of you while you lay there. Yeah, that's a huge f*ck no from me."
"The ones where they make you eat a whole lot of stuff that's not just weird or another culture's food (i.e. crickets/tripe) but is actually seriously unhealthy ... like drink a litre of rancid oil... are far worse, to my mind."
"I always said the prize money from that show was to cover medical bills because there's no way people were 100% okay afterwards."
"That's actually why the show got cancelled. They made a girl drink donkey semen and the network finally said 'enough.'"
"Not even kidding, one of the most popular shows in the UK is where we send celebrities to live in the jungle for three weeks and do exactly this to them! And the celebs who go on it LOVE IT!"
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Keeping off the weight.
"Become obese again."
"I was obese for almost 10 years of my life, but I decided to lose the weight in my early 20s. Feels great to be active and healthy."
"I'm here with you. Was 250 at my largest, I've since lost over 70 pounds and am in my mid-twenties. It feels great to look great, which I expected, but it feels better to just feel healthy. I wanted to lose weight more for vanity reasons, now I care way less about those and just love being healthy. I'm not at my goal weight but I feel amazing and it's such a huge contrast. So congrats, I'm really happy for you!"
"That's how I feel. At my heaviest, I was at 235 and I'm down to 202, but it's not even the weight loss that keeps me going. For the first time ever I actually craved working out when I went on vacation for a week and couldn't. The vacation was fun, but damn my body went back to aching at the end of it. If I don't stretch I get really bad pain from sitting down for work."
This cheese is called Casu Martzu. It's a sheep's milk cheese that has living larva inside.
"Those who do not wish to eat them place the cheese in a sealed paper bag. The maggots, starved for oxygen, writhe and jump in the bag, creating a "pitter-patter" sound. When the sounds subside, the maggots are dead and the cheese can be eaten."
"Somehow, there is a hint of sadism behind this paragraph."
"Almost 9 years clean off heroin, I sometimes get questions from people from people about what it's like and I always tell them 'it's the greatest feeling in the world and it'll ruin your life.' Now I don't care how good it felt because going through the withdrawal is one of my greatest fears. Also the lifestyle is absolute misery."
"Congrats on being clean, fellow Redditors."
"Congratulations! 10 years sober from those vile substances. Whenever I think about how my life was I feel sick to my stomach."
"Space. Too many ways to die a slow, painful death. Plus the pooping thing. I never knew how much I liked pooping on Earth before I learned how you have to poop in space."
"Gravity is your friend on the toilet. In zero G (free fall technically?), there's nothing to pull the poo away from your butt. There are supposed to be toilets that use fans to help with separation, but... they aren't flawless."
"Also, there's the quote, 'After it starts getting full, you have to put a rubber glove on and pack it down.'"
"Back in the early days, you had to poop in a bag filled with bactericidal liquid and KNEAD the poop and liquid together, so things are improving, but I don't think they'll ever improve enough for me."
No need to ruining a relationship.
"Having an affair."
"Cheaters ruin lives."
Power to those who like this type of thing.
"Running a marathon. Or training for one. Anything that ends in thon is just a big no for me."
"Running for the sake of running... omg, just the thought of it make me want to die of boredom. I don't mind running if it's part of something, like there is a soccer ball involved, but to run just to run? Kill me."
How do people not just start tearing up instantly?
"Eat a onion like a apple."
"My son is a toddler, and the other day I was cutting up an onion. He thought it was an apple and felt mad I was depriving him of it. I let him take a bite. He paused for a second, looked me right in the eye, then kept chewing. Monster."
This is just too extreme, but somehow people still do it.
"Have you ever seen the videos of that mountain climb thing in China where there is literally just like a 2x4 board nailed to the side of a mountain and people have this little handrail to hold on to while they inch their way around...."
"My butthole is puckering right now just thinking about it... There is just no way in hell ever."
"And some mountain climbers sleep during their climb. Like, they'll shove a few nails in the rock, hang a tent, and sleep while dangling off the side of a mountain."
"That's a nope from me."
It's a huge commitment, and it's not for everyone.
"I have a son and I love him more than anything. But I would never ever have another kid, ever. The amount of love and time and patience you need to have and give them, the nights where you barely sleep 2 hours, the days when he gets sick and that makes you worried sick too... and he's not even a teenager, I heard that brings its own challenges. I just couldn't do it for anyone else but my son."
"And I really hate it when I tell people how hard it is and what sacrifices you have to make and whatever else and they assume I don't like my kid or resent him or something..."
"(And if its 2035 and you're reading this: I love you, son)"
Though there are plenty of people who have done these things, there are good reasons to avoid them. Especially for those choices that were life threatening or deadly.
What's most important in your life is finding what is meaningful for you and doing what makes your life worth living.
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Even in a full life lived many years, most of the world's sights go unseen. There simply is not the time nor money to cover a whole planet of vistas.
The same goes for life experiences. We'd love to be old one day, looking back on a life brimming with substance, all thanks to the fact that are most sought after dreams and desires came to fruition. But so much is out of our control.
Nonetheless, people like to yearn. To name the number one goals in life and the most sought after sights feels like progress, the statement of a goal. It feels like in the naming of the hope, the work toward its achievement begins.
Some Redditors gathered to share their most desired sights and experences.
Alster551 asked, "What's something you want to see before you die?"
"Not that it'll be anytime soon, but I want to see my mother at my wedding. She's lukewarm on me being gay, and has told me it would be 'difficult' for her to support me marrying a man. It's so frustrating."
"I almost wish she could just hate me, instead of deluding herself into thinking I'll change someday."
A Saga's Finale
"There are large train tracks dividing my area of town. It's really tough to cross even for a young, fit, person. There are two middle aged crackheads who are always yelling at each other from across the tracks. Every. Single. Day."
"These guys absolutely hate each other. I really want one of them to get the balls to traverse to the other side and just fight it out already."
"Northern lights for sure" -- Astkm
"I almost said that then backed up because I realized the best ones are when it's the coldest."
"Nope, I will YouTube those lights and be fine with that." -- i_like_sp1ce
Going for the Biggest There Is
"A blue whale. I've seen many humpbacks and orcas, but I'd love to see the largest animal in the world." -- trgreg
"For me, it's an Orca up close." -- PM_me_your_McRibs
"In person whale watching for me. Something about them being so massive and so beautiful brings me to tears just from watching the videos. If I see them in person it will be magical." -- Greigebaby
A Vision of Security
"Six figures in my bank account." -- the_cat_pope
"I have six figures as long as you count the cents as figures." -- Genocide_Fan
"This!!! The freedom and security I have with a bunch of cash in the bank allows for the most sound sleep and peace I have ever experienced. Highly recommended for everyone!" -- catnipkusk
Visualizing the Future
"I want to see my reflection when I'm jacked, with muscles. It's my goal, cos to be frank, I lack self confidence." -- Orc-Wolf
"It's a long, long, long, long road but completely worth it." -- GenericToasterPastry
"Learn to push through discomfort. Discomfort is your friend for now on. Build disciple to take cold showers, they are a great way to get out of your comfort zone pal" -- Mansour897
In All Its Vastness
"The Mohave Desert. Being there by myself or maybe with another person just enjoying the beauty of the desert night. That or a sunrise over the White Sands Desert. Sunrises are much more beautiful in my opinion, the sky is pink, looks painted, and the sun rises."
"That word has some emotions tied to it for me"
A Whole Collection
"So many things! As most people said, the northern lights would be amazing. But Antarctica would be so cool, or Alaska. I got super into Mt Everest last year and just to SEE it would be super cool." -- jar0fstars
"You should go to Everest. Im going next year, just to base camp since I'm no mountaineer but I think it's going to be so cool to see the roof of the world." -- ladysadiemich
The Sight of a Different World
"A world without corruption. A peaceful world where Democracy thrives and people can actually be reasonable and respectful, and be able to have actual constructive discussions and debates about their opinions and how they think the world should be run."
"But I'm guessing this is too utopian."
"My family happy-crying because I'm able to walk/use my hands again. I'm a quadriplegic with Guillain-Barre Syndrome AMSAN variance. This disease is a pain in the arse but being off a ventilator for almost a year and a half makes me more determined every day."
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There are so many places in the world to go. So, so much to see and experience. We spend so much of our lives postponing our chances to roam soils we long to touch. So we make a list... a bucket list of destinations to go to before the end. We should just go as soon as we can and enjoy. Don't wait for "it's too late or before I die!"
Redditor u/froyoboyz wanted to hear what places everyone plans to see before the end by asking.... What's a place that someone must visit before they die?
Don't do it if time is of the essence, but the Amtrak route from Denver to San Francisco is jaw-droppingly gorgeous. Like a big tour of the Rockies and Sierra Nevada. Crest_of_Tull
i've done it and it was incredible. would only do it again with a sleeper cabin (we had one and i couldn't imagine doing it without). my friend footed the whole bill because he's rich. the only caveat is you have to LOVE being on a train. cramped quarters, same food every night, nothing to do but read a book and watch the scenery. basically, my ideal vacation but it's not for everyone. dedolence
A Waffle House between the hours of 1am and 4am. It's like an alternate universe where time doesn't really exist and other people are only vaguely aware of your existence. ElegantPaperclip
Grand Canyon. A picture does not properly relay its scale. You have to see it in person. RDCAIA
I went this past summer! We started our hike at 5am so it was cool for most of it but very hot by the end at like 12pm. I couldn't understand how people were just starting their hike when we were finishing because it had gotten so hot by noon!! lynbh
The Canadian Rockies, specifically places like Banff and Jasper National Parks, are pretty incredible! Highly recommend. PM-UR-BUTT-PIC-GIRL
2 days, all daylight, baniff to vancouver. TheseWereThePlaces
Mount Fuji, definitely.
Bonus if in the spring during cherry blossom season. pikachu4919
Machu Picchu. abeetzwmoots
I went last summer and it was one of the most incredible things I've ever seen. Also I guess it was winter down there. davelicious123
Granada, Spain. RealMartyMcFly
Make sure to buy tickets to the Alhambra weeks in advance. reluctant_millennial
Oh yeah its beautiful. My family is kinda poor but my parents saved up and we went on vacation to Spain because my cousin was there for the navy. While we were there we got to go to granada and a few other places and it was amazing. wasteofpasta728
Not a certain place.
Not a certain place. But please just travel to another country, on an airplane if possible so that you can see the world from high up and experience a different culture, different way. nastybacon
A Long List...
Can't miss places I've come across in my travels:
Iguazu Falls (Brazil/Argentina) Zion National Park (USA) Yosemite National Park (USA) Plitvice National Park (Croatia) Pyramids and Luxor (Egypt) The Red Sea (Egypt or Jordan) Gunung Mulu National Park (Malaysia) Raja Ampat and Komodo (Indonesia) Kyoto (Japan). tablair
All of it.Giphy
The Smithsonian. All of it. Penelepillar
I was in Washington for 3 days and I got through about half each of 3 different Smithsonian buildings. We wanted to see as much as we could. There's 17 total. toothpastenachos
The death of a loved one changes everyone in different ways.
For Mikah Meyer, the death of his father proved both tragic and inspirational.
When Mikah was only nineteen, his father passed away. Aside from the trauma of losing his father so young, Mikah was moved by a detail he found particularly heartbreaking.
His father passed away without taking any of the trips on his "bucket list" and seeing that regret changed something in Mikah.
He vowed he wouldn't wait until the end of his life to take the trips he dreamed of taking. It took a few years of savings, but when he was 30, Mikah set out on what would become a record-breaking road trip.
When he first set out, he didn't have much. Mikah traveled in his trusty van, with a map, a camera, some gear and only enough money to do a fraction of the trip.
Oh... and his undeniable swag...
Along the way, though, the trip garnered national attention.
Slowly, Mikah started picking up sponsors, speaking engagements and donations that allowed him to just keep going. Believe it or not, the van only broke down on him once.
National parks within the continental U.S. weren't all he wanted to do, though. In total, Mikah traveled to all fifty states, plus six US territories. The images he shared along the way truly highlight how diverse and beautiful the United States is and Mikah's sense of fun and humor.
His father inspired the trip, so Mikah decided to use his platform to inspire others, particularly members of the LGBT community who might hesitate to travel out of fear or shame.
Mikah shared his adventure, and message, on his Instagram: @mikahmey.
Mikah achieved his goal on the steps of the Lincoln Memorial.
There were plenty of fun, and wet, moments along the way!
Not just national parks, Mikah hit up places like Baxter State Park in central Maine.
It took him over three years, but Mikah finished his trip off back in his adopted home of Washington DC with a walk up the steps to the Lincoln Memorial.
Waiting for him were members of the media, friends, family, social media followers and Chris Calvert. Chris is one of a small number of people who have been nationally recognized for visiting all of the National Parks.
It took Chris decades to do what Mikah was able to do in just three thanks to the power of social media and marketing.
Though their timelines were very different, both men took similar lessons from the experience.
"The National Archives are the repository for our most important documents. The Smithsonian museums are our repository for our most important things. The National Park Service is the repository for America's most important places. These places define America. It's like the soul of the nation. It is our story, our land, our history. It defines who we are as one people." - Chris Calvert
"I really got to know the American story. More than just natural wonders, the Park Service sites tell our American story." - Mikah Meyer
If you have never visited your local state and national parks, maybe it is time to start a bucket list and hit the road this summer.
Safe travels everyone!
Louis Tomlinson Helps An 83-Year-Old Man Check Items Off His Bucket List In Emotional New Music Video
Louis Tomlinson released a new music video for a song titled "Two of Us" yesterday, and it has his fans feeling some feels.
In the video, Louis Introduces 83-year-old Richard and the pair go about crossing off some of the items on Richard's bucket list.
Richard lost his wife to Alzheimer's in late 2016. Around the same time, Louis lost his mother to cancer.
Louis said on Twitter that he learned a lot from Richard, who he describes as a:
"fearless man who in light of tragedy still pushes himself to live with as much laughter and happiness as possible."
#LouisAndRichard https://t.co/HYG08HNVbj https://t.co/K4NO734iI8— Louis Tomlinson (@Louis Tomlinson)1556121833.0
The video is structured more like a mini documentary, with "Two of Us" playing quietly in the background. The focus is really on Richard's story.
After talking about Richard's life up to now, the pair set off to do some of the more spectacular things on Richard's bucket list.
These included flying a helicopter, driving a race car, getting a tattoo (though he actually ended up adding his art to Louis' ink instead), and riding on a roller-coaster.
Louis was right by his side the whole time, and the pair seemed to be thoroughly enjoying the experiences.
The final event that Louis arranged was possibly the most special of the bunch.
Richard, in addition to other such jobs as taxi driver, an actor, and serving in the RAF, had also been a lounge singer until his wife's condition progressed to the point that she could not be left alone for long periods.
Tomlinson told Richard as they exited the roller-coaster that he had a little gig lined up for that evening and wanted Richard to come.
Little did Richard know that the "gig" was a sold-out arena performance.
Richard took to the stage and performed an excellent rendition of Andrea Bocelli's "Con Te Partirò" to raucous applause from the audience.
At the end of the video, Tomlinson tells Richard how much he enjoyed their time together.
"It's been lovely. I mean, honestly, no bullshit, actually spending real time with you and feeling like we're getting to know each other has been real nice."
You can view the whole music video, and it's amazing story, below:
Louis Tomlinson - Two of Us (Richard's Bucket List Official Video) youtu.be
Twitter was quite emotional after watching the video.
this part made me cry so hard. he really took the time to help this old man to achieved all the things he didnt. lo… https://t.co/zEATxuxqQJ— 𝘪𝘴𝘢 .•*♡ kmm/stack it up (@𝘪𝘴𝘢 .•*♡ kmm/stack it up)1556123553.0
Louis could’ve made a music video about himself and the terrible tragedies he has experienced but instead he used t… https://t.co/sSfZO5yHYt— Tom Jay Williams (@Tom Jay Williams)1556136081.0
@leggimidentro__ just the idea that he is being there for someone is enough for me..😞😩😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭— *Bl4kk4t (@*Bl4kk4t)1556131725.0
when louis grabbed richard’s hand on the rollercoaster 🥺🥺🥺 #LouisAndRichard https://t.co/eMMVYoSXF7— kimya ◟̽◞̽ (@kimya ◟̽◞̽)1556124614.0
Many praised Louis and Richard for supporting each other.
@leggimidentro__ @Louis_Tomlinson you are the epitome of a good human. 🕉️ #louisandrichard— JulieTyre🌎 (@JulieTyre🌎)1556134069.0
@leggimidentro__ @MsRoyalVloggerr The fact that he was making someone happy during an extremely hard time for him,… https://t.co/AerR2IXouj— Trish loves Harry! (@Trish loves Harry!)1556189736.0
i honestly don’t know what i expected but wow. what a beautiful video. two men who are the definition of strength,… https://t.co/n7LBxu2bn6— steph (@steph)1556122556.0
Others were taking Louis and Richard's friendship as an example.
@BluebellWoodCH @Louis_Tomlinson There is something very cathartic about dealing with grief by trying to spread joy… https://t.co/9u50UW6EAH— Sans visage (@Sans visage)1556145040.0
i lost my grandpa yesterday and this mv made me rethink about everything that happened, my grandpa loved so many th… https://t.co/hU3jAWSd0O— 𝚋𝚛𝚎𝚗 ✰ (@𝚋𝚛𝚎𝚗 ✰)1556122909.0
@Vevo_UK @Louis_Tomlinson I hope this inspires more people to reach out and make a new, old friend! 💙— Nelson Aspen (@Nelson Aspen)1556134285.0
Some reminded folks that they can help by donating to Alzheimer's and cancer research.
in december, my aunt passed from cancer. so many families are affected by cancer and alzheimer’s and it’s so import… https://t.co/YvwTGMrtji— 𝗺𝗼𝗻. 28. TRAMPOLINE. (@𝗺𝗼𝗻. 28. TRAMPOLINE.)1556125615.0
True friendship can be found in unexpected places,and shared grief can being a deep understanding between people.
Allowing yourself to see others around you, regardless of age, can open up the opportunity get to know some amazing people.