Redditor Deviant55 wanted to talk about physical intimacy in relationships, so they asked:
"How important is sex to you in a relationship? Could you be with someone you love even if sex was off the table indefinitely?"
I learned how much sex matters in my last relationship.
Once I wasn't interested, it kind of killed everything.
Forever
GIF by moodmanGiphy"When my wife of 30+ years became too ill for sex to be even remotely interesting for her, I certainly did not end the relationship. I loved her and I took care of her until she died. No other course even occurred to me."
fvillion
Frustration
"When I met my wife we couldn’t keep our hands off each other. This lasted a few years. I was in my mid-twenties when we married. She developed a chronic medical issue. I’ve gone twenty years being sexually frustrated. There are stages and phases to this."
"What I came to realize is that I love my wife. Yes, sex is important in our relationship. But I would rather have her in my life with no sex than have sex without her."
"The thing is, I love her. She can’t help her situation. I can’t help it. One deals with it. Marriage is more than sex. It is building a life and memories, raising a family, and loving each other regardless of the challenges life throws our way. But sex is very important. It helps keep the closeness and the emotional bond. But it isn’t the only thing that does that."
QuietusNoctis
I Love Her
"It is complicated. I am in a near-sexless marriage. The wife needs antidepressants to function. And it kills her libido. So usually it is four to six times a year. My libido rages. And yeah, it sucks. I dream of more sex."
"But I love the chick. She loves me to the moon and back. I’m not willing to sacrifice her love so I can try dating again. Divorce rates these days? And I found a woman who more than tolerates me, she loves me. I’ll stay. And not to be crude but yeah I masturbate. A lot. She doesn’t begrudge me that. Occasionally she even encourages it."
"She went off her meds for a while. And man did we do it. But she was a mess. I need her healthy more than I need a shag. We travel together. We enjoy each other’s company. We actually like each other. I could claim that it is hell, but I choose to see all of the good I am blessed with."
painthawg_goose
Heartless
"Quite important. But I think it depends on where you are in the relationship. I've been married for 10 years. I have kids. If my wife suddenly couldn't have sex with me for some reason -- illness or injury or something -- I'm not divorcing her over it. That's heartless."
"Now, if she just decided we weren't ever having sex again because she didn't feel like it, that'd be different. Or if I was just starting to date someone and they told me they'd never have sex, I probably just wouldn't keep pursuing the relationship. Plenty of people out there who will."
Arkhangelzk
Necessity
"It depends on the circumstances. I LOVE doing it with my man but I love his heart and soul more. If we had to stop having sex for medical reasons or something I’d definitely stay with him and stay faithful. If I was single, I think it’s unlikely I’d start a new relationship knowing it would be sex free."
Fit_Technology8240
Heart and soul is just as necessary and hot and sweaty.
At least a lot of people recognize that.
Percentages
Giphy"Sex life is 10% of a relationship when it’s good and 90% of a relationship when it’s bad."
jakovichontwitch
"The other way I've heard it put is that sex is like the bathroom in your house. It's not the only reason you bought the house, but if it's not working it's a big problem."
molten_dragon
Age Related
"50-year-old here married for 27 years. It’s not important. It was important when we were younger but honestly, if sex wasn’t possible I would still love my wife and really nothing about our day would really change."
Kantforall
"I’ve been reading these comments and wishing that everyone’s age was flared on their post because I sense that there are a lot of under-60-year-olds. I am older than my wife but she is starting menopause and I can see the writing on the wall. Not super thrilled but I love her completely and understand. The real intimacy is in how we still (and will always) want to sleep touching each other and waking up next to each other."
caffeinated-hijinx
Kiss Me
"I honestly considered this before. I absolutely adored this guy. It was like a child relationship; we'd kiss and cuddle and hold hands and things, but he wouldn't have sex with me, nor would he commit properly. Any time we came close to sex, he'd go soft or back off."
"I couldn't understand it, wondered if I could keep doing that. My sex drive was wild. Why kiss and the rest but not sex?"
"Then one day he told me he was in love with me and asked me out properly. I said yes there and then, had a wonderful day with him, but when I went home, I was left questioning if I could possibly live without sex. I decided that yeah, I loved him but it would be tough."
"We had sex the next day. So yes, I think I probably could."
Adventurous_Train_48
Touchy/affectionate...
"It's very important. I'm a very affectionate and physical person and touch/caresses and anything physical is one of my love languages. I couldn't function with someone who is the opposite of me or who's uncomfortable with how I am. I already was in a relationship with someone who wasn't that touchy/affectionate and it created frustration for both of us."
Borboleta77
Don't Look at Me
"I am in a sexless relationship. He has erectile dysfunction and I really don't like sex in general. I'm really uncomfortable naked or even vulnerable. I'm shy around him despite the relationship being 10 years nearly, I'm even shy around my family and friends. Everything about sex makes me feel so embarrassed, and I feel nothing but negative feelings when I used to be sexually active. Not through choice of partner, I just hate that sort of attention."
NucularOrchid
Definitive!
Shake Handshake GIF by OriginalsGiphy"10/10. Sexual incompatibility is a deal breaker!"
oeeiae
Sex is important but not everything.
Until it is everything if it becomes an issue.
Good luck couples. Open and honest communication is key.
I mostly know disturbing facts about serial killers. As if that isn't enough. This should be fun.
Rest Well
Hand Pain GIF by PetelskiGiphy"The skin mites that live on your cheeks come to the surface at night to find mates and do the deed. Sleep well."
Hullaba-Loo
Cannibals
"If you were to eat another adult human being, it would be approximately 125,822 calories. I went down a rabbit hole on Google and yeah."
ItsmeTrev
"How come it's almost 126K?"
Blablabblue
"Math. Average human is say 70 kg, has 20% bodyfat, so 14kg of fat. Fat has 9kcal per gram, which makes it. 126,000kcal. Math never lies! But I do make plenty of mistakes. Probably it's more complicated - but directionally seems legit."
NekkidApe
Decay
"Within three days of death, the enzymes from your digestive system begin to digest your body."
floopowdertravels
"I guess it’s reassuring to know your body decays before bugs can even get a shot to help your body decay, sort of like a medical death except your body willingly does it for you instead of doctors."
Standard_Zero_3152
People on Earth
season 11 people GIFGiphy"If you are 25 years old, approximately 1/3 of the entire world's population that existed at your birth, have since died."
ColSurge
How do people just stumble upon this sort of info? Y'all must read.
Gotcha
Katy Perry Sharks GIF by VevoGiphy"Some species of shark will 'waddle' onto land in order to catch more prey."
CARMBLOVER
War
"During World War 2, Japan bombed China with fleas infected with the bubonic plague."
XoGossipgoat94
"Man they were just straight attempting to kill as many civilians of possible with that one."
JesseAster
"This is why a large portion of Chinese loathe the Japanese."
dicker_machs
Crush
"It's believed the USS Thresher or USS Scorpion (don't remember which one) took around 20 minutes to go to crush depth in it's free fall."
Jigsaw_isnt_a_puppet
"My Uni mate is a navy submariner and he said that if a problem isn’t your department you just ignore it, because ultimately it either gets fixed or you die, neither of which are scenarios you can do anything about. Him and a friend were playing Fifa in their bunk when the whole sub tipped to 45 degrees. They just kept playing at 45 degrees… it got fixed eventually but they’re reactor crew so nothing they could do to help either way."
FreegardeAndHisSwans
"body farms"
"There are places called 'body farms' were scientists and researchers look at the decomposition process of human remains in different circumstances. Basically a big area somewhere outside were human, sometimes pig corpses are laid out to be exposed to the natural elements or they're even enclosed somewhere (like the trunk of a car). They're actually important e.g. for forensic anthropology to help solve crimes. And you can donate your body for research after you die!"
ThisMessOfMe
Miles Long
art GIFGiphy"Your body makes blood vessels of about 7 miles in length for every pound of fat you gain. This in turn strains your heart as it has to work harder to pump blood through the new network of blood vessels."
macaronsforeveryone
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"My left [breast]."- butter-biscuit2347
It knows all
"My brain calling the brain the best part of my body."- Avid_Gardevoir_fan
brain boiling GIF by ZinZenThey're super practical
"Thighs."- Nexurent.
It's multi-functional
"I asked a similar question to a girl I was dating."
"'What's your favorite thing about your body?"'
"She simply replied , 'I have a nice vagina."- hazyvariant.
Uniquely male organs.
"As a man, the answer is pretty obvious, my wenis."- Greedy_Media_1064.
"The low hanging fruit."- Omnifob.
"I'm surprised no one said penis."
"I'll say it, Penis."- ConcentrateMother889
Ball Nuts GIF by DrSquatchSoapCoGiphyBut what does it do?
"Pancreas."- AKBK2013
The things they've seen.
"Working eyes."
" I like seeing things and I was in the museum with an interactive exposition of handicapped people."
"The most difficult thing was to try doing basic things, like to pour a damn water in a damn glass, with a cloth over eyes so I could not see anything."- asmok119
A body is a body, we've all got one.
Which doesn't mean we'll ever stop being fascinated by our's and everyone else's.
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These knees aren't what they used to be.
"Reinforced knees."- KesslerTheBeast.
Don't worry, they'll grow back.
"Teeth regeneration."- Independent_Mall_78
"Regenerating teeth."- Conqueror_of_beans.
"Regeneration, ability to regenerate any lost organs or body parts."- VastPurpleSky.
Let's see what the problem is.
"A diagnostic interface that tells you what's wrong with you."- ofsquire
Mucus be gone!
"The ability to clean out your sinuses or clear your stuffed up nose at will."- 50M3BODY.
Power napping to the max!
"Fast-charge."
"So I"ll only ever need 1-2 hours of sleep."- ofsquire.
GIF by OriginalsGiphySo many ways to say "hello"...
"Built-in translator from/to any language."- RutgerCastro.
Built in filtration system.
"An organ to filter salt water into drinkable water."- Never_stop_caring.
Let's take a closer look, shall we?
"The ability to zoom in with your eyes."- JoyousMelon4.
Halloween Looking GIF by GIPHY Studios OriginalsGiphySome very fascinating ideas.
And who knows, with the ongoing advancements in science, maybe some of these fantasies might one day be a reality?
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Reddit user SolsticeofReach asked :
"What part of your body do you find annoying or weird?"
So it goes without saying that the uterus came up a lot - but we're just gonna go ahead and count my complaint as an entry because there is a loooooot that people hate.
Turns out bodies are annoying AF:
Streamlined For Sleep
"As a side sleeper I would love nothing more than to be able to remove my arms while I'm sleeping."
-BAustinCeltic
"Same but boobs too"
-supagirl277
"And legs too"
-Bender0426
"As a matter of fact just disassemble me and stick me in a box till morning"
-Ragingbull444
GiphyCheeks vs teeth
"Why do I bite my cheeks? Like WTF teeth!"
-Bikeboy76
"It makes no sense for our squishiest pieces to be pressed up against the spiky face bones."
- [Reddit]
"I hate that, so effing much."
-SolsticeofReach
"Aaah no! Once, I bit mine four times in one day and literally destroyed it"
-Euphoric_Question
Gobble Gobble
"The double chin in spite of being thin"
-MiaLedger
"I somehow manage to have a double chin and a 'turkey wattle' simultaneously. Frustrating and puzzling."
-Tiny_Teach_5466
"I was rail-thin until I was 29; I started growing a beard at 25. I shaved my beard once a few years ago, lo and behold I have a gobbler. Guess I'm not shaving again for a while"
-YandyTheGnome
Eminem Called It
"My knees, every now and then my knees just hurt randomly and I’m only eighteen."
-xxoreobabyxx
"yo, his palms are sweaty, knees weak, arms are heavy"
-Mr_Bank_Robber
"Moms spaghetti"
-thebucketoldpplkick
GiphyIt Feels Wrong
"I have a mole on the back of my neck and for some reason I can't stand touching it. It feels wrong. I think I ought to have it removed."
-tomorrowistomato
"If it bugs you, go for it! I had one removed that was under my bra band, because it kept getting rubbed and sore. I am thinking of getting the one behind my ear removed as well."
"Depending on how big it is, it can be a simple trip to your GP, and they will numb it, cut it off with a scalpel, and then cauterize it. In and out in like 45 minutes."
-ilike7hournaps
Furniture Detection System
"Pinky toe!"
"Like why the f*ck does it go sideways????"
-Inevitable_Dealer262
"It's your furniture detector"
-Gstfa
"A fleshy curb feeler"
-5hrs4hrs3hrs2hrs1mor
Water is a Homie
"My stomach, stop being hungry 24/7 omg"
-teejayiscool
"I don’t wanna be annoying but I also don’t know if you’re aware so I'm gonna potentially be annoying - do you drink enough water?"
"It’s great at curbing appetite when you ‘shouldn’t’ be hungry. Headaches too."
"Water is a homie."
-OzManCumeth
"Water IS a homie"
-imaghostyouout
Popeye Calves
"My calves."
"They’re cartoonishly large. Like Popeye calves."
"It’s hereditary, I don’t work out. The rest of my body is totally dad bod but my calves look like they live at the gym."
"They’ve been that way my entire life. If pant legs are too narrow, they get stuck on my calves. I don’t wear skinny jeans but, even if I wanted to I wouldn’t be able to get them on because calves."
"I’ve never seen anyone with calves bigger than mine."
-IShavedMyBallz4This
GiphyBreathe Colors
"My tonsils."
"Apparently little food particles can get stuck in them and cause a sore throat? I’m 35 and it’s happened to me twice in the last month."
"I’ve never had it happen before. What the heck?"
-HitNRun_
"I had that and I got them removed. They were covering 80% of my airway."
-supagirl277
"Can relate, I can breathe colors now"
-Pleasant-Pineapple20
Adding Up
"My back."
"I’m reaching the age where it does nothing but hurt randomly. Lol"
-GreatXs
"Same. It’s not bad but the problems it causes add up."
"Left shoulder is lower and gets tight, left knee dislocates and both knees hurt from the effects of the unevenness, and ribs on left get sore from the compression."
-supagirl277
"Damn about the dislocations. My nerves pinch in my hips a lot more now since I'm less active than when I was younger I guess."
"I've always had a problem standing still in a spot and I would have to put one leg further forward to feel comfortable which isn't a long time regardless."
-Kage1
So what part of your body have you always secretly-not-so-secretly been annoyed about?
Let's hear it!
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