Sometimes we can all be a little oblivious.
The signs are there, and so are the red flags.
For instance, women are brilliant at throwing out subtle hints.
I feel like it's actually an art form they've mastered, and I've studied for my own villainous choices.
But for anyone interested in getting to know a woman, Reddit has got your back.
Redditor Sleepwithsockson7 wanted all the gents and ladies to fess up to the signs they were oblivious to, so they asked:
"What was the most obvious hint a girl gave you that you missed?"
I'm bad with signs.
I always miss them.
Think Hard
Think Winnie The Pooh GIFGiphy"She said that she was feeling different about me and that she couldn't stop thinking of me."
"My answer was 'Are you mad at me?'"
NotCopernicus
No Thanks
"I was on a hiking trip with my college, you paid like $40 and they gave you all the equipment and you spent a week or so with 15+ people and a few guides. We went to a hot spring, my tent got ripped, the guides had a spare but we hadn’t set it up yet. A lady sat in the hot spring with me, at night, and decided to go naked while I was in the spring with her."
"She then asked if I wanted to stay in her tent rather that put up the spare one. I said 'nah I can put up the spare one, I’m okay.' Took me 3 months to realize that she was literally naked and asking me to sleep with her."
Woodhouse_20
Oh Rochelle
"Back in college I was working with a girl named Rochelle. We both got off work around three am. I always walked her out to her car. One night she invited me to come to her apartment for 'pancakes.' Told her I appreciated it but I wasn't hungry. I didn't understand the weird, hurt look she gave me until years later."
JacksEmptyWallet
"It's 3 am after a long shift. I wouldn't have blamed you for being kind of dumb from tiredness and just wanting to go home after that."
LazarusKing
Broken
"I had this little penis dinosaur thing a friend 3-D printed. I had a girl over for dinner and she was playing with it and broke the tail. I was like 'you broke my penis!' And she said 'if only there was another one I could play with' she finished dinner, I walked her to her car, and I went inside. The moment my head hit the pillow I realized."
peter_piper_pecked
Seriously?
Los Angeles Hello GIF by LA ClippersGiphy“'You know, I’ve never kissed a man with a beard.'”
My literal response was 'Yeah, me neither.'”
_Bearded_Dad
Wow. Really?
Perfect Loss
Let It Flow Fran Healy GIF by TravisGiphy"We were at a sleepover and she played with my hair for like an hour and I woke up in her arms."
aUwUreliyasss
Just a Smile
"She ran after me to introduce herself at the end of class. The only interaction we had before was an across the room smile. I'm such as idiot."
"Also, during my first job, the boss made me check that the restrooms were clean. Well, one of my female coworkers decides she wants to 'help' me. She entered the men's restroom with me, making sure we were alone."
"I fumbled both times. Both of them were cute too."
Avix_34
Idiot
"I used to drive this girl to school. She lived on the other side of the district. Had to go past the school to pick her up everyday. Prom was coming up. She kept ‘complaining’ that she didn’t have a date. I told her not to worry, that she was really pretty, and someone was bound to ask her. I’m an idiot."
drink-beer-and-fight
Comfort Level
"Went to her place after a night out at the bar with a big group of friends. I thought she was just being nice and offering me a place to sleep closer to the bar, as it was winter and my house was far away."
"'Are you sure you wanna sleep on the couch? My room's more comfortable.'"
"'I'm good on the couch.'"
"Stupid me..."
PreviousTea9210
Figures
"Ages ago I was looking for a rare action figure and I asked this really hot goth sales clerk if they had it. She was totally into the line of toys as well and told me they usually get one per shipment so call on their delivery day to see if they got one. We then spent like 15 minutes talking about various comic and anime things before I had to leave."
"She stopped me and said 'if you call the store you might not get me so call me directly' and gave me her phone number. This was before cell phones so it was her home number and clearly would be useless for having her check if something was in stock.
"I found the figure the next day at a different store so I never called her."
DeaddyRuxpin
It's ME!
Pick Up Hello GIF by The Drew Barrymore ShowGiphy"One day, in class, a girl I was friends with told me there was a girl in her class that was into me."
"She said if I could guess who it was, she’d tell me. I proceeded to list just about every girl in her class before she caved and said 'Me! It’s me you idiot!' Maybe a normal person would have caught on before naming the 15th girl, lol."
TheCyrcus
Oh people. Open your eyes!
Have you ever missed a super obvious hint? Let us know in the comments below.
Blind People Explain Which Features They Find The Most Physically Attractive In A Partner
For those of us who are not blind, imagining all the daily elements of romantic life can be quite difficult.
In fact, we can't even imagine what the absence of sight feels like, let alone how that interacts with attraction, spontaneous physical intimacy, and, of course, turn-offs.
Thankfully, an inquisitive Redditor came along to help us stay enlightened.
Redditor Brucehasabeard asked:
"Blind people of reddit, what do you find physically attractive in a partner?"
Many blind folks discussed the scent that may not surprise us to hear is so important to romance: touch. But their detailed, nuanced understanding of that sense is illuminating.
Tactile
"For me it's about, for lack of better description, textures, how does he feel? Is he firm? Fuzzy? Does he mind being touched in such an intense way? Personality is more important but OP stressed physical."
A Higher Priority On Conditioning
"My blind cousin had a bit in her vows to her husband about how great his 'silky long hair' felt, so I bet that's a big deal for some blind ladies."
-- Uskonbwu
"More to Explore"
"A blind friend of mine really likes big girls. He says that physically having more to explore with your hands is great."
"I can imagine underweight people feeling pretty poor to the touch."
"Feel"
"Not blind but I have a few blind friends I'm close to, their general consensus is the feel of the person... if that makes sense."
"It's a case of physical touch such as the state of your skin, your build and so on. But also stuff like your default tone of voice and much like anyone they look at the personality."
-- JustNoxus
Others gave more focus to the other senses. Sound and smell can be important too.
Unique, If You're Listening
"As legally blind I enjoy voices of people, helps me remember them better too." -- Cursed_Salad97
"As not legally blind but wearing glasses, I agree, a voice can really make someone more attractive to me. If I'm going to be talking with this person I want their voice to be pleasant." -- Apellosine
Transportive Stenches
"This might sound creepy, but their smell. Recently split up and the smell is something I so vividly crave in my mind. I have this also with my family members, my grandma passed away 5(?) years ago, but I still know exactly her smell and sometimes it makes me sad, but also feel good."
"Second comes how physically soft hugs and embraces feel, if you feel in a very soft and warm place and at the same time feel so very safe."
-- siohtuan
Sound and Smell
"I am legally blind. I'm not really good at recognizing faces but definitely I love listening to people's voices and catching anything that is unique about them. Like accents, stuttering, if it sounds nasally or raspy. Little things like that can help me identify a person so much quicker. I'm not %100 blind but I use adaptive tools like speech-to-text and text-to-speech."
"You know when there is an interview on TV and that person wants to stay anonymous? You know how they blur out their faces? That's how everybody looks like to me. Unless I get very uncomfortably close I cannot identify your face so definitely voices hope so much. You also cannot go wrong with scent."
"I can also tell a person apart by the cologne or perfume they wear."
-- Imamuffinz
And finally, others talked about the thing that matters to just about anybody out here looking for romance: what is the essence of the other person.
Above All
"My preference in order of what I find attractive goes like this, I am not speaking for all blind people this is my own experience. Personality, voice and body type. looks don't generally matter to me, and I prefer thicker people."
"All of these preferences don't have to aline right to make someone attractive to me though, like you can have a slightly less attractive voice and have a kicka** personality,. Basicly when it comes down to what's most important to me is personality."
"I am not to big on smells, not saying that I am down for someone who smells not good, but alot of people tend to layer smells, and I am one for the more human smell of people."
Felt Warmth
"Her voice, her heart, her touch, the way she talks to me, the way she is responding to me, and she is loving, compassionate, sweet, kind, respectful, and she wants to be my friend."
"I love how she includes me in activities with our friends, and she is not making light of my blindness."
"I never felt this kind of love before. Ever."
-- c_dawg93
Outsourcing
"I have to like someone's personality. And I ask my friends if the person is good looking—yes blind people do that. I'm short so I prefer people who are tall."
So there you have it, just in case you ever wondered exactly what's going on in the heads of a blind people flirting, necking, or full on making out in public.
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Life is difficult to live and bare witness to. There are moments and situations that are seared vividly into all of us. The things we can never unsee. Whether it be a moment of violence or tragedy or heartbreak, it'll be something we all wish we could change. That's why it's always best to have others to share with. Reach out. Especially to loved one and professionals.
Redditor u/ThisDudeDaShawn wanted to know what unspeakable acts of life we've witnessed by asking.... What is something you wish you never saw or heard?
Damn Leukemia.
I saw my best friend dead in his coffin when I was 8. He had died of leukemia. It fundamentally changed me as a person. I grew up a lot that day and I think it's part of the reason I am the way I am with people and relationships. I never want them to end. My biggest fear is losing people. I think that's probably why. NotABurner2000
Her Face.
My mum walked into my bedroom at 3am coughing, she had stage 4 lung cancer but was generally coping. She passed out and by the time the ambulance came she had passed away. They left her on my floor for hours and it was only me and her in our house. I couldn't face moving her to a bed or something so just sat next to her on the floor for hours. Her face was weirdly bruised where she hit the floor and her tooth was wonky and I'll never forget the look of her face :(. At times the image pops into my head, every time it just makes me want to cry even years on. I felt pretty bitter towards my siblings for a while for being the only one there to deal with it all but l slowly learnt it's a pointless resentment to hold. yuuuuuuuiipr
Too Much to Stomach.
The toybox killer David Parker Ray. There is a transcript of a video that he would play to his new victims as he had them shackled to a table. I never made it through the whole thing.
Some of my coworkers were once talking about the worst things they have seen or read on the internet. I told them about this transcript but warned them it is the most disturbing thing I've ever read and I wasn't even able to finish it. They didn't make it to the end either. I won't link it but you could easily find it with the info I listed. Tokenofmyerection
Sad.
I saw my friend inject some bad heroin, nod off, puke white stuff, pee his pants and die before the paramedics arrived. Delsentido
Poor Baby.
A 2 year old stuck in a borewell at 80ft deep, died inside 2 days later despite the efforts to save him. A picture of him was released a day later he got stuck, mud over him, only hands can be seen since his hands were up. Nobody could save him because the diameter of the well was so short that he was slowly descending from 20 ft to 80 ft over the span of 5 days. This crushed my heart and I wish I never heard or saw something like this. despaireduser
So Helpless.
When I was about 7, I had gotten up early in the morning to watch cartoons. I lived with my mom as my parents had divorced the year prior, and she was still sleeping. As I was watching TV I started hearing a lot of coughing, I went into my kitchen and my dog was coughing non stop, it might have been choking but I don't remember well. I went to tell my mom and in her extremely tired state said 'he does that sometimes', I went back and sat with him for a few minutes, until he dropped to the floor, and I instantly started crying and dragged my mom out of bed. Her pushing me out of the kitchen and yelling at me to call my dad is something I'll never forget, when he arrived he closed the door and all I could hear for the next few hours was my mom's bawling. I never felt so helpless. l_dead_fl_dead_f
Melted.
I used to do research for an energy services company. I could have gone my entire life without reading the details and seeing the pictures of what happens when you touch a downed wire. Best outcome is honestly death. Your face literally melts.
Stay away from powerlines and any sort of live wires. Please. Just call the professionals and keep others back. Beachy5313
The EX.
All the evidence of my ex-wife's affairs. It's good in a way though because of the flashbacks it mostly kept me from going back and falling her for crap again. aravenaaravena
Silence.
The silence as my (then) girlfriend have birth to our stillborn son. I just wept and wept when I could hear the sound of a baby crying. She went through 13 hours of labor only for our world to be completely destroyed. Behold_the_Bear
I am so sorry for your loss. I too have lost a child, and it is heartbreaking. It never goes away, but it does get easier to deal with it. I hope you're both doing ok. lovesilver
TRAIN!!!
My husbands mom told him this a lot growing up. This weekend we were on a little train ride and he was sitting in front of me with our 1.5 year old son in front of him. Our son was laughing and I kept looking at the back of my husband's head with some of his grey hairs coming in, freckles on the back of his ears. He looked to the side and I could see a huge smile on his face from our son screaming tree! Train! And I've never felt so much love, I hugged him right from behind and told said - I'm so glad you're here.
He makes me a better person. No matter how many times his mother told him that out of frustration or because she was drunk I'll never let him think for a second he's not appreciated or absolutely needed in my life.
Just because your mom makes you feel worthless doesn't mean you are. strictlytacos
Sorry Diane.
I found my neighbor Diane (late 60s) dead in her bed. Her mom (100) came over banging on my door and praying at the top of her lungs and told me she couldn't get up the stairs to check on her. I went up there and she was dead. I told the mom and Diane's daughters that it looked like she went peacefully in her sleep. That was a lie. She. Looked. Terrified. I'll never forget the look on this woman's face for as long as I live. She knew what was happening. bowyer-bettybowyer-betty
The Pool.
I saw a young girl drown in a hotel pool when I was on holiday with my dad in Majorca. I was 14 at the time.
They pulled her out of the pool and were performing CPR on her for a long time, with everyone else around the pool watching.
The feeling of utter tragedy emanating from everyone around the pool was devastating. The parents, her siblings, the lifeguard who missed it and felt fully responsible. Everyone left the pool, but no one knew whether to leave the surrounding area or not. Everyone just kind of watched on in silence. It was pretty surreal. Dipso88
Oh Dad.
Finding my father dead in his home. Wrong_Answer_Willie
My grand father died in my living room when I was 16. He used to sleep in his chair a lot so none of us realized he was dead. He was ice cold by the time we realized so he must have been there for hours while we all watched TV. It hurts looking back in it. ShadowWingZero
Dear Brother.
When my brother died the Army sent his things back to us in a large box. I got to watch my mom open it and discover they also included the blanket (they wrapped him in for the life flight) that still had his blood, hair and brains all over it. It was the first thing we saw. Whole family looking at that blanket, crying and screaming. He was 20 and the youngest of 7. Oknocando
"no body wants to die."
Death rattle. This is the sound of someone's breathing as they die. Awful to hear. Sully1102
Yeah, experienced this sound with two family members over the last year and a half-ish. i cannot get the image of the dead step-father laying in his hospital bed out of my brain. or the way my great-grandmother sounded when i heard her speak the last proper sentence she managed when they were discussing if she wanted medical intervention or to pass away peacefully. "no body wants to die." i stayed at the hospital listening to her labored breathing until late that night. she passed away early morning.
that sound. its an absolute death omen. Sully1102
14.
I lost my father when I was 14. I was in my room on the computer and I heard him gasping and breathing really strangely from the bathroom. I called down to my mom who ran to call 911, I was the one that was trying to keep him conscious while the ambulance was on their way.
Turns our his heart basically exploded because of blockages, and there was nothing that could be done. But looking at my dad's glazed over eyes and hearing his gasping and weak breathing took a toll on me.
My brother was also not home at the time, so the proverbial icing on the cake was hearing an 18 year old screaming "No daddy, no daddy no!" at the top of his lungs.
There was nothing that could be done to save him, but the paramedics told us there was no suffering and he was dead before he knew that anything was wrong. But still, those sounds and that sight of my dad will haunt me for the rest of my life. siphonsoul
Two occasions at an old job spring to mind.....
Two occasions at an old job spring to mind
- I became pretty friendly with one of the executive's daughters. At that time I was the company's IT systems administrator. One of my responsibilities was to review inbound/outbound items quarantined by our anti-spam server. I stumbled upon e-mails of her very married father negotiating terms with an escort. The next day he e-mailed her about how she was amazing the night before, and how he couldn't wait to see her again. I didn't think it was my place to insert myself into their family, but it made hanging our with the daughter really awkward. It was always in the back of my mind. I dunno. Maybe I should have told her.
- One morning I receive a support ticket that one of our employees can't login the night before. I go over to look into it and one of his colleagues mentions that he was set to be fired when he arrived, and that his account was disabled the previous evening. Unfortunately, his boss wanted to let him go in person but was involved in a relatively serious car accident on his way to work. They made it very clear that under no circumstances was I to allow the employee to login. So for 4+ hours I had to keep bullshitting him that it was caused by some weird server error every time he dropped by my desk for a status update. Poor guy. funky_shmoo
The Puppy.
When I was 9 Years old, I witnessed my dog get run over by a car. It was so bad, I'd have eventual flashbacks throughout my teens of him lying in blood with all his guts out whenever I'd look at the road.
I wished I never saw it, But most of it all I wished it never happened. K9Seven
The Pigs.
A few videos that I've seen online have stuck with me. One that springs to mind is a tipper truck of live pigs being dumped into a pit. I only watched less than 30 seconds of it because I just thought "why the heck am I looking at this?" The sound is what really got to me. Humans can be so cruel. flypaperhat
Head On.
I worked as a tow truck driver. I worked a head on collision with fatalities that included some small children, there was carseats soaked in blood snacks everywhere stuffed animals covered in blood. I quit my job that day and went back into welding. pbrstreetgang865
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Who else wishes they were blind?
Eat carrots!! They keep the eyes strong... so they say! One day we will all, maybe need glasses, it's a hardship but not a shame. Just life.
Redditor u/araarq wanted to know who was willing to admit who needed some vision help, by asking.... People with glasses, when did you realize you needed them?
Seeing is a gift. Most of us feel that the sense of sight is a given. But so many people lose the ability to see, which is tragic. Being able to see then suddenly not is a hell unto itself, whether permanent or temporary. IaF you're reading this.... BE GRATEFUL!!
Redditor u/HiddenLayer5 wanted to hear from those who have lost their gift of sight by asking... People who could see but went blind, what's it like? Is it like being in perpetual darkness or something else?