The Real Reason People Left Their Ex
Reddit user Kenybrown asked: 'What’s the reason you left your ex?'
Ending a relationship is never easy.
In several cases, the reasons for doing so might also be unexpected.
More often than not, it simply becomes apparent to both members of the couple that the relationship has simply run its course, and there is no future.
Other times, however, there might be an inciting incident that made staying in the relationship no longer tenable.
Possibly a surprising act by one member of the couple, or a longstanding secret that was finally unearthed.
"What’s the reason you left your ex?"
Money Mismanagement
"Lied about business finances."
"Discovered 95k of personal credit card debt used to fake its success."-
Distinguished Spark
"Lived more like roommates than lovers."- ojyelims·
Infidelity
"She got pregnant by another man, tried to pass it off as mine, I called BS, was right, and somehow *I'm* the every other weekend parent to our 2 kids."- disturbednadir·
"Caught with her ex in my house."- Working-Field-1568
"He cheated on me and then insisted on having me back."
"Dumba** me said yes but after more months of his lies and him not taking any accountability for his actions I left."- Hekatevenstar
Unhappy Change
"Realized that I came into the relationship with everything, and after 5 years together, realized I had nothing."
"Lost all my self-confidence, sense of who I was, all my friends, all my money, and all hope for the future."- FoxsNetwork
You Could Hear It
"When you can hear the lack of emotion in your own voice, you know you’ve gone too far to come back."
"That’s when it happened for me."
"I heard me give up."- SanguineSuprises
Enough Was Enough
"I was tired of crying all the time."- Sexyseculargoddess69
One Sided Relationship
"Narcissism is not easy to live with."- CrimsonCamellia13
"I supported him through everything he couldn’t support me when I needed him."
"I realized that he’s completely useless to me because I still feel alone while in the relationship."
"My life is much nicer now."- Pleasant_Lemon6687
Ultimatum
"She said that it was her or my daughter."
"She will not be second to a child."
"I didn’t even say good by just got up and walked away."- SGT-Hooves
Ulterior Motives
"She had a sugar daddy."
"Two years later he went to prison for embezzling (Failure to pay) state taxes collected from his employees."
"Justice!"- BabyEagle9mm
It's always noble to try and make a relationship work.
Sometimes, however, a relationship can be truly broken beyond compare, and there is simply no saving it.
And should your health and safety be at risk, it's unwise to even put in the effort.
Some people are just trash. And we can't help ourselves but fall in love with these fools. We give ourselves to them. We love them and teach how to love. And what do they do? They cheat.
Or turn the relationship into a "Dateline NBC" episode.
I have really heard it all when discussing the reasons for straying outside of a relationship. The fact that some people try to sell their madness with a straight face is commendable. But why do it? If you're not happy... leave.
Redditor u/OneAttention2623 wanted to hear about all the best excuses we've been fed from partners about being a lowdown, dirty, scandalous cheat, by asking:
What is The Dumbest Excuse An Ex Has Given You For Cheating?
It just happened. That one is a favorite. Like it was magic or destiny.
Huh?
Super Bowl Ok GIF by PepsiGiphy"My ex-husband said these exact words to me. "It wasn't anything to do with you. You were never supposed to know." Freaking f**ker!"
"just a friend"
"I didn't wanna break your heart by dumping you. And you thought cheating would be LESS hurtful???? Forget you, Jess. I only found out because her secret boyfriend unexpectedly showed up at our house one night. She went ghost-pale, swore up-and-down that he was "just a friend" and then HE told me then had been doing/dating for several weeks. Who knows how many OTHER guys she was with behind my back over the 10 years we were together."
Angel of Mercy...
"I thought he had cancer."
"Mr. Jenkins, I'm sorry, but it's cancer. It's in your liver now, but we can assume it will metastasize and move throughout your body. There aren't many treatment options that are available to us that stand much of a chance of working."
"Unless... and this is quite unorthodox... but preliminary studies show that freaking u/dreaminggod05*'s significant other may increase your chances of remission by nearly 69%. After all,* u/dreaminggod05 shows no signs of cancer at all, and we have to assume that benefit must be transmitted sexually. The contact info is available on nearly any restroom wall, but I'll write it down for you before you leave."
2 Psychopaths
"I don't owe you an explanation." She cheated on me with my own damned older brother. That was my first serious relationship, y'all. He and I had already been estranged for a few years. It's what happens when you lie to the cops about your mother beating you with an electrical cord and then pull a buck knife on your little brother and tell him you'll assault him with it if he ever talks to you again"
- MC_Crit
LOLOLOLOL
Season 2 Lol GIF by FriendsGiphy"My friend's girlfriend told him that she "forgot she wasn't single anymore" lmfao."
I don't know where to begin. This mess is even beyond Oprah, Brené Brown, Iyanla and Dr. Phil. Just stay single.
You Failed
fail black and white GIFGiphy"He said that it was my fault that he cheated because I raised his confidence so much and he figured if he could get me he could get other girls and he decided to test that theory. A lot."
Eyes Closed
"I was sleep walking."
"There was an episode of "House" where a woman was wondering why her ex who lived in the same complex thinks she wanted him back. When House tells her she's pregnant it turns out she was going to his apartment and was having sex with him in her sleep. I don't remember how it ended because it was just the side plot that led him to figure out the main story."
it's probably not yours…
"When I found out she cheated on me and I asked why, she said "I thought you were going to say we should take a break." When I asked her if the kid was mine or his, she said "it's probably not yours… it could be his or his room mates', to be honest." And that's the magical combination from a fiancé that will send you into depression."
- k0uch
The Most Unexplained Events In History | George Takei’s Oh Myyy
History is littered with unsolved mysteries. Whether those answers are buried somewhere or lost forever, it doesn't stop people from wondering or hypothesizi...You'll love her!
"Hey so I've been meaning to bring this up but I'm actually interested in a poly relationship even though we've been together for years and I've never once mentioned it. You'll love her!" Meanwhile he tried to cut me off from all my male friends. I know quite a few poly people, and see how it works for them, which just added to the bull factor."
Fly Away
thevoiceau stank GIF by The Voice AustraliaGiphy"I only had one man cheated on me in my life and that's my ex-husband. And he basically frame it as, "My butterflies for you has flown to her." What more other explanation do I need right? Makes sense..."
Like a Virgin
"I was not a virgin previous to the relationship, so it was not fair that she had not had sex with someone else."
- ehren123
"My ex bf broke up with me for the same reason when previously we were making plans for the future. And when he found out that other women's vaginas aren't more magical than mine he tried to come back to me lol. But at least he did break up instead of cheat."
Be Natural
"Humans are not naturally monogamous. It doesn't make sense for us to be monogamous, so you really can't blame me for acting naturally."
- moonchz
"I had one similar to this, who told me that the expectation that women not cheat was part of the patriarchy and by expecting her not to, I was being abusive and controlling."
It hurt but I forgave her.
"I found out she cheated on me with a coworker, but admitted it immediately and asked me to forgive her (just got married 3 months before this after 7 years together). It hurt but I forgave her. The next weekend she did it again because "clearly I don't care about her since I didn't get that mad." I wasn't as forgiving the second time, broke some sh*t in our house just to prove how pissed I was, then we split. My life is so much better now."
Daughters
"I had postpartum depression after my third daughter. My daughters were four, three and one when he slept with my neighbor. He said I emotionally pushed him away 🤔."
"Maybe you did. It would be normal and understandable of you had; three small children and depression would make it very difficult to cater to your husband's needs. So, a decent, unselfish and loving husband would understand the stress and difficulty you're experiencing, and would step up to take care of you and the kids while you recuperate, and would make an effort to maintain the emotional connection between the two of you. What an utter failure at being a husband."
Mud
"He didn't "cherish" me. He knew he promised to in his vows but he didn't do it. We divorced in 2012 after 30 years together and he passed a year ago. I'm bittersweet about the whole thing. That man made a mud hole out of my heart by the time I was done."
"best interests"
"You're too emotional and she was giving me advice about you." And "Well I'm much happier now." it's been a year and I'm still seriously f*cked up about it."
"I just posted about mine who said some similar bullsh*t about how she was giving him advice about me. He actually tried to tell me that she had my "best interests" at heart and was doing me a "favor." Yeah, sure."
"This witch I've never met (but who knew I existed and was with my partner) was really looking out for me by jumping on my partner's penis and then sexting him constantly afterward. It's been over a year for me and I'm still messed up about it too. I'm really sorry. Nobody deserves to be betrayed like that, or gaslighted afterward with such absurd, blame-shifting excuses."
I'm Alone
Nbc Idk GIF by Good GirlsGiphy"My Cousin's ex wife cheated on him with her personal trainer and told my cousin it was his fault because he didn't go to the gym with her."
Comfort
"Oooh... I've got a good story about this. I thought something shady was going on with an ex and her work colleague. I asked her about it and she denied it. Then I got confirmation from another friend who also worked with her. He said she was with this dude on the side."
"So I confront her again and asked why she lied when I asked her about this colleague before and also asked why she was cheating. She said whatever she was doing was between her and work colleague, and so it was none of my business. That's why she didn't have to tell me."
Make a Wish
fire birthday GIF by America's Funniest Home VideosGiphy"It's my birthday too. During the summer after high school (UK) so was 16, got with a gal who had the same birthday as me unknowingly which was quite funny tbh. Fast forward to her birthday party her family threw for her and invited a bunch of friends, I'll never forget walking up the stairs to see them making out. Was the worst birthday I'd ever had."
- Jazs1994
No Chairs
"Not my story but a couple I was friends with in college. Girlfriend was cheating on her boyfriend for months with a classmate, apparently it started because she had him at her apartment and she had to sit on his lap while they did their work "because of lack of chairs."
I give people points for comedy and ingenuity but come on. I hope in these divorces the scorned took the cheater for EVERYTHING! I would.
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Trust is hard. At a certain age it becomes near impossible to give it or to "trust" it. Not to be macabre but honestly, life breaks us and can destroy our ability to believe in the goodness of others.
It's unfortunate that so many people are willing to treat others like trash. That kind of behavior leaves scars and that kind of pain never really goes away. Mistrust manifests in ways that can hinder life.
I try my best to believe in everyone but after the things I've seen, that sounds naive. And then that belief makes me depressed. I don't want to believe the worst, it's just that I, and many of us, have been subjected to so much of it.
Redditor u/Billabongo12 wanted to see who would discuss their emotional scars by asking:
What is the story behind your trust issues?
Every morning I wake up and I decide that I will do my best to trust in people on the regular. But often by lunch I surrender. We have to keep trying though. Let's see who can empathize...
Blame
It Is What It Is Dont Care GIF by AwesomenessTVGiphy"Parents never really believed me about anything even when I had an alibi. The worse part is them telling me I will not get in trouble if I tell them the truth which I was. My ex cheating on me and blaming me for it."
- SnooDoughnuts231
Drop Her
"My wife has been screwing another guy for several weeks. We have been married for 6 months. She didn't even tell me on her own, I had to initiate the conversation first. She didn't even end the cheating completely because she is "unsure about her feelings." We also have a three year old son. The conversation was last week. Guys, this is the crap that completely destroys you emotionally. I've never been so hopeless."
- No_Bumblebee7558
Human Relations
"I've been betrayed, cheated on, stolen from, used and abused, and a lot of other stuff but I still give people a measure of trust. I don't trust people with my life but I do trust them to a degree. It mostly backfires but not all the time. I can't imagine completely isolating myself because of the crappy variety of humans."
"I see human relations as a sifting process so it absolutely hurts when trusting someone backfires but I am at a place where I know what category to put them. Conversely, it's absolutely magical to find a person or two who are just so consistent and human but as good to you as can be expected."
"It makes up for all the trashy humans you had to process through your filtering system. Don't give up on finding a handful of people who will be sincerely good to you over the course of your lifetime. They do exist and you can be one to them as well. I hate it when the trash takes your hope over and above everything else it's don't and taken from you."
- NamasteVibes
Gaslighter
"My ex-husband made me think I was crazy and couldn't trust my own judgement, it took a long time to come back from that and I still have moments in my current relationship where I ask myself if I could be wrong.. if I should prepare for things to go wrong even if there's no indication of a problem. That's hard to get over."
- Deezus1229
From Behind
Latina Tell GIF by Jenny LorenzoGiphy"Enough people talking behind your back, making fun of you, and then turning around and pretending they have a heart of gold will do that."
- how-sad-for-you
Gaslighters, gossips, abusers and liars. Life really is a "Dynasty" episode on steroids. So many villains, so little time. We just all have to learn to survive.
Broken
Sad Talk To Me GIF by SpongeBob SquarePantsGiphy"Too much broken trust and heartbreak when it comes to relationships, people taking me for granted, emotional abuse, gaslighting, & partners cheating on me."
- Ghoulthrower676
The Twin
"As a kid 90% of my friends were nice to me, but really hated me. Only reason I knew was because my twin sister told me they went to her to complain about me. I learned from them to see when someone was holding back from me. Turns out my whole family has similar signs. They still hide stuff from me, but they fill me in on their thoughts after the fact now. Still, it did a number on me. Still don't know why those kids disliked me so much."
- ugg_monster
I Got Me
"Being a child who was constantly shown that the people in positions of power over them, that were supposed to trust and care for them, would actually always choose to use that power to abuse, manipulate, and control. You then grow up feeling like you can only rely on you and anyone who seems trustworthy is actually dangerous. And that's on therapy lmao."
- ruffianpenguin
The Dork
"In high school, found out from someone leaving their Facebook open that my friends just felt obligated to hang out with me and wished they didn't have to. I was a giant dork who probably embarrassed them, so it's understandable to some extent, still wish they had gone about it a different way, or I had found out a different way. It's still hard to keep thoughts of "my friends secretly hate me" away sometimes."
- cummb
A Mess
"Trust issues with parents verbal abusive by them I may have bipolar not sure which kind but it will mess with me occasionally and I hate my life been treated like crap."
- Guilty_gun
A-Ha
GIF by IdentityGiphy"Like I'd tell a stranger on the internet. Fool me once..."
- jeremyroastscoffee
Psycho
"My ex tied me to a chair and said we were going to have some fun. She then has her ex come into the room, made me watch her have sex with him. That and a few months later, she broke my hand with a hammer. I am perfectly fine now, really. It all happened 25 years ago. Thank you all for the kindness just the same."
kilo_1_1
Cheater
"Dated this girl I always caught red handed cheating and she would flat out deny it ever happened days later. That crap messed me up. Funny part was down the line when she would say things like, 'The problem is you don't trust me, that's why we always fighting.' Never trusted a girl ever again."
"Ohhh it gets better... afterwards she lied to me that she was going into another country for a job and lied she was going to live with her mom's sister whilst she was going to live there with her friend and then she got pregnant by a married man and now she is a single mom struggling to make ends meet."
decapitare95
The Cost
"I don't know if it's trust issues, per se, but I am very hard-nosed about not taking crap from anybody. I had a physically abusive first husband and an emotionally abusive second husband and I simply will not lay down and take any kind of abuse from anyone any more. This has cost me a friendship or two but frankly, if that is how they are going to be, they aren't my friends after all."
eatyourdamndinner
"safe one"
Group Hug GIF by NBCGiphy"Foster care Lmao."
crispypotleaf
"This breaks my heart. My girlfriend and I want to be foster parents and be the house that the kids always remember as the 'safe one,' where they're welcomed back at any time."
MidKnightDreary
The Leftover
"I was the odd one out through elementary and most of middle school. Then when I finally made some friends, my best friend abandoned me out of the blue and one of my other close friends turned out to be a liar and enjoyed toying with my emotions."
Ostmitch
“best friends”
"Every woman I’ve ever been close to has hurt me badly. My mom destroyed my self esteem, my aunts and grandma on her side of the family weren’t any better, and I had a series of toxic 'best friends' that treated me like shit one way or another. Now I’m terrified to form a close friendship with a woman and will run screaming when one tries."
HighAsAngelTits
let me drown...
"Only person I've ever dated was mentally and physically abusive, she also tried to drown me. Everyone I start to slightly trust goes away, I just show a slight bit of my mind, and they go away. So, I don't trust anyone, it's probably better for them, people probably don't want to know how dark my mind can get, and I don't have to take a chance of getting f**ked over."
BananaKbone
Don't Watch
Triple H Reaction GIF by WWEGiphy"I automatically assume the worst in everyone because of the messed up things I’ve seen on the internet."
shadowssx
Erasure
"Slowly having my trust erased throughout my life by friends, family members, colleagues. I absolutely don’t trust anybody. And it hurts, because I love my husband dearly but sometimes it feels like he takes advantage of my good nature. He absolutely doesn’t, it’s just my past problems projecting onto our relationship. I’m also paranoid AF due to mental health problems."
Retrosonic82
People suck. Hard, cold facts. So what do we do? Therapy. Therapy. THERAPY! And meds, with the occasional vodka/soda. Half the reason life is so arduous is the distrust brought about by others.
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People Share The Best Examples Of When An Attempt To Cover Something Up Totally Backfired
Lies and secrets, secrets and lies. They always find a way to trickle out. Why we think we can make a big problem go by covering it up is beyond me. Nine times out of ten, the reason the drama is so fraught is because of the cover-up. If we would just attend to issues when they arise with logic, we'd all be a lot better off. But we're humans, we learn nothing.
Redditor u/Inflatabledartboard4 wanted to see who was willing to openly discuss about the times the "plan"... went completely off the rails by asking... What is the best example of a major cover-up backfiring?I can't tell you how many times in school I tried to devise cover ups to cover up cover ups. More often than not the planning and execution was a mess but the the stories themselves got so convoluted you'd think I was living in a film parody of The Matrix. Note to self... never steal you mother's jewelry and then try to pass it off as her new birthday present. SMH. I have no explanation or defense.
Never Gone
Erase Parks And Recreation GIF by PeacockTVGiphyEx-UC Davis chancellor Linda Katehi paid $175k to have the 2011 pepper spray incident removed from Google search results for the university, which brought the incident back into the public eye and was one of the scandals that eventually led to her resignation.
In the USSR
The soviet union trying to say that Chernobyl wasn't as big a deal as it actually was.
One of my grandparent's neighbors in Poland was a Belorussian guy from one of the closest towns to Chernobyl in Belarus. The Plant is basically on the Ukraine/Belarus border, and a huge amount of fallout happened in Belarus. No one was informed until everyone else was, even though they got almost as much fallout as Prypiat.
The way he describes it, they were across the border, so they didn't want to share. Even when they did, the Belarusian gov maintained the thought process that it wasn't a big deal, like the USSR was claiming. No one was to be relocated. He was a teenager at the time and left for Minsk as soon as he could because of how pissed off the whole thing made him.
His whole family stayed except for him, farming away while he was in the city and then moved to Poland after he met his Polish wife.
Unsurprisingly, a lot of his family died of cancer.
Dark Waters
The water crisis in Flint.
Dr. Mona Hanna-Attisha had been in touch with the Genesee Department of Health for months about Elevated Lead Levels (ELLs), and they went out of their way to obfuscate the data and make it seem like everything was normal. Dr. Hanna-Attisha brings in a research team from Virginia which shows that the ELLs are correlated with zip codes that recently switched water supplies.
They still ignore/deny what's happening. Finally, Dr. Hanna-Attisha says "f**k it", and holds a press conference telling people that their water is unsafe and to stop using it immediately.
A major public health crisis could have been mitigated if the public health officials spent more time doing their job and less time worrying about whether or not it pisses the governor off.
The Papers
richard nixon president GIFGiphyIn 1973 the director of the CIA Richard Helms was worried that the watergate congressional investigations would spill over into investigations into the CIA so he ordered the destruction of all documents related to the MKUltra program.
20,000 documents were incorrectly stored with financial records and were not destroyed. They were later uncovered during an FOIA request and turned over to Congress.
Dodgers
Volkswagen and the emission dodging.
What was surreal was seeing thousands of them sitting in the parking lot of the Silverdome, the old Detroit Lion's stadium. I live just south of there and to see VWs mistake next to the derelict stadium was a trip. https://youtu.be/jJeYEnSD9G0.
Nevermind cover ups, those are some high crimes and misdemeanors. And so many plagued by tragic loss. Just so everyone knows... the Flint water is still poison. Let's continue...
The Graves
Katyn Massacre or Chernobyl.
Katyn Massacre: Red Army troops during WWII killed and buried 22,000 Polish officers. The German Army found this mass grave and asked the local SS Commander if it was his graves. The SS Commander said it wasn't his graves. The Red Army though insisted it was the Nazis that did it. Boris Yeltsin later admitted to grave in 1992.
Chernobyl: Basically, Chernobyl powerplant's reactor in the Ukraine in 1986 exploded and almost contaminated the whole of Europe. The USSR tried to cover it up, but Sweden detected the radiation from the fallout. Pripyat became a ghost town and the city of Chernobyl (the city the powerplant was powering) became semi deserted.
Lips Together and Blow...
Basically any case involving a dead about-to-be whistle blower. Killing someone is a good way to shut a person up. Its also a very good way of drawing attention to the person and what they had to say. The best way to cover something up is discredit the whistle blower.
Babs
fanning barbra streisand GIFGiphyI guess the Streisand effect?
For those who don't know, someone took a photo of Barbara Streisand's Malibu home and posted it online.
The photo didn't get much attention until Barbara Streisand tried to have the photo blocked for the sake of her privacy
Upon hearing that Streisand wanted the photo removed, the image became forbidden fruit and was viewed millions of times across the internet.
If she hadn't tried to cover it up, no one would have looked.
Karen
In 1974, Karen Silkwood was found dead, as a result of a car crash. Silkwood was a chemical technician and labor union activist who was about the reveal the safety hazards. Despite drugs found on the scene, the police and coroner didn't believe the drug claim and went looking for other likely others. After being informed about death threats from her family, the Atomic Energy Commission, and the State Medical Examiner found radioactive contamination in her body.
This prompted an investigation at Kerr-McGee, the company Silkwood was talking about, which reveal the very problems that were about to going to be exposed to the media. Kerr-McGee had to pay up for what was done as they were held liable.
Oh Florida...
bob ross painting GIFGiphyRecent Polk County, Florida deputies losing (stealing) cash evidence, trying to cover it up, and getting fired.
What have we learned? Nothing right? Read again, just lead with the truth. It'll sting but as you can see... the other options will make it all much worse. This is particularly important for any future politicians following along. Don't be these guys.
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People Who Have Slept With Their Best Friend's Partner Confess What Happened
It's a common trope in fiction: the best friend who sleeps with their best friend's partner.
How often does it happen?
More often than you'd think.
And how does it end?
In all kinds of different ways.
Redditor Sisneban asked:
"Redditors, who slept with the partner of your best friend, what happened?"
Here were some of those answers.
The Spectre Of Jealousy
She was my girlfriend in high school, the three of us used to hang out all the time. They began dating while I was away at college, we'd hang out during the summers when I came back. My best friend got colder and more distant as time passed. When she got pregnant, he flat out told me he did not want me around them anymore because he couldn't handle the thought that I had banged the mother of his child.
That was almost ten years ago. I still miss him but I respect his feelings and hope we can hang out again someday.
Heartbreaking, but it says a lot more about him and his insecurity.
Fallout
We all used to be roommates, they were engaged, I lived in the basement. We were like three peas in a pod. I eventually bought my own place. Then one day the engagement ended, he kicked her out, she needed a place to stay. So, I slept on the couch, she slept in my bed. Worked like that for a while, I was the go-between for them. Then she and I got drunk and had sex. Now I'm out two friends. He stopped talking to me, she and I dated for a while, then she cheated. So, it probably wasn't worth it.
Sounds like it wasn't. It was pretty rocky. You're better off without the drama.
Serendipity
So... Beginning of this year I met a girl that I wasn't really interested in but she seemed really cool. Due to life circumstances... she had changed her mind about saving herself until marriage and since I took care of her while she was drunk in my apartment and stopped her from deciding that drunk she trusted me enough to... You get where that's going. Yes, it was days later and sober.
Anyway, we spent a few months hooking up but it was never an emotional bond. We were good friends with urges. The entire time she's complaining about her dates and my best friend (whom she hadn't met) is complaining about his lack of dates. Meanwhile I notice they are both looking for exactly what the other offers. It was... super obvious.
So I force them to hang out and they are inseparable now. You wanna talk about love at first sight... He knows about our history and I was told in short order that it is never to be brought up. I told him I get one joke per year and once they get married it becomes once per 5 years OR I can be the best man and bring it up in the wedding speech then never again. He said 'Deal.'
I don't ever plan on bringing it up. I'm so happy for them.
Sounds like this worked out beautifully!
Literal Sleeping
We both had a conference for our respective jobs in the same city so we decided to share a hotel. The hotel we chose overbooked and they only had a room with one bed, so we took it and slept in the same bed. There were a few times when I woke up because I was spooning her or vice versa. But that was the extent of it.
And that was probably for the best!
Definitely Not Open To This Again
Napa Valley. Airbnb. Hot tub. Wine. Foursome.
Somehow it worked out okay. All four of us stayed friends afterwards. But that night I learned two things:
First, that I'm super uncomfortable seeing my partner being pleasured by someone else.
Second, group sex in a hot tub is disgusting.
Happy Endings
He was fine with it to begin with. Downright encouraged us to hook up. They broke up shortly after. She and I are getting married next month. He's my best man.
Awkfest 2019
My best friend/roommate dated this hot blond for about 6 months casually. Few months after they ended things I ran into her at the bar. We had way too many drinks and I went back to her place with the intention of sleeping on the couch. After about 10 mins on the couch she came out of her room naked and asked me to come to the bedroom. She was smoking hot and I was drunk so I went in and had amazing sex. When I woke up in the morning I felt super guilty for doing it. I then went home and told my friend what happened.
He was pretty cool about everything and were still best friends today. The girl he dated and I slept with ended up working at the same company as us a few years later. It was sometimes awkward when the 3 of us had to work on stuff together. Even more awkward when she started dating another coworker because the 3 of us were Eskimo brothers.
All For The Best
Back when I was 19 I used to be best friends with this guy who was a solid 4-5 years older than I was. He had been dating this girl for a couple year before I'd met him but we all hung out pretty regularly (a few times a week). Eventually she got pregnant by accident and in an effort to sabotage the relationship (that's my opinion anyway) he started cheating on her. I found out about the infidelity and confronted him demanding he tell his girlfriend about it because she didn't deserve that.
Long story short he was kicked out and they had a nasty breakup, but since I'd been friends with both of them and I was disgusted that he would do something like that I started spending lots of time with her. While it started out completely platonic it quickly evolved into a romantic relationship and we both knew that we loved each other. We were married the following February and my eldest son was born that June. Been married about 5 1/2 years now and it was easily the best decision I've ever made. I love my wife and family and couldn't imagine anything else.
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It Gets Weird
Don't do it, it's stupid and hurts the bro to bro relationship. Although everything seems to be back to normal, I am still a bit ashamed of myself and the situations where we three are together are sometimes a bit weirder than before. Just don't do it
It Ain't Worth The Consequences
We were all close. All in our twenties. He wanted to play gta at home all night. I would always take her home from the bar after he left early. She and I became even closer. We never had sex, but we both wanted it. I thought we could hide our emotional affair.
I couldn't. It came out at a horrible time. Drunk at a house party. Ranks up there in worst night of my life list. Woke up in the back of my jeep somewhere. I took all the blame. I was the home wrecker.
Lost every friend. Ten years i had bonded with these people. The guilt was crushing. I became a recluse for at least 6 years. Finally, i forgave myself. But i miss them all. I did my best friend wrong. He trusted me with his wife. I was lonely and stupid.
I'm sorry Bobby.
Don't do it op. Learn from my mistake.
The cause for a canceled marriage on the wedding day.
The end of a friendship.
The end of an era.
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