You're Dead To Me: Why People Killed Off A Friendship With Their Bestie
Reddit user No_Dependent4663 asked: 'People who fell out with their best/close friend, what killed it?'
Having a best friend doesn't always mean we see eye to eye with them.
Indeed, every now and again we find ourselves having a possibly fundamental difference with them.
Sometimes, we can let these differences and disagreements go with a deep breath, other times, letting things slide isn't so easy.
In the most extreme cases, it could even lead to the first person we call when we're feeling down being cut from our life completely.
Redditor No_Dependent4663 was curious to hear from people who cut ties with their best friend, and what led them to do it, asking:
"People who fell out with their best/close friend, what killed it?"
Wasn't There When They Needed Them...
"Friends for 20 years."
"Helped her with rides, money, cloths ect."
"The first time I asked her for anything was after my husband had brain surgery and needed meds the local pharmacy didn't have."
"I couldn't leave him alone and could not take him with me so I asked her to watch him for an hour."
"She said no she wanted to go to the store with her bf."
"I never talked to her again."
"And thank goodness she didn't have the balls to show up to my husband's funeral."- softshoulder313
Ignoring The Warnings...
"Well it ended but was repaired."
"She got into a relationship with a walking red flag, and I told her as much."
"Things kept getting worse with him until I wasn’t able to watch it anymore."
"Then he convinced her that I was the toxic one and trying to control her so she didn’t want to be friends anymore."
"I said I respected her decision to choose him over me, but please don’t delete my number and to call me when it came time to run."
"She did and she’s out, learned from it, and we’re friends again."- Successful-Snow-562
...Goes Both Ways
"She warned me about my fiancé at the time, now ex-wife, and I didn't listen to her."
"My fiancé didn't like that and told me to pick her or my friend."
"I picked my fiancé and then she eventually cheated on me multiple times including while we had an infant at home."
"Never been more wrong in my life."- thegodfaubel
Ink On Their Face...
"I worked with them."
"They were very lazy and constantly started drama between myself and our coworkers."
"Lost pretty much all the respect I had for them."- AmericanTitan07
Who Knows?
"Nothing at all, and that is the saddest part."
"No big fight, no disagreement, no nothing."
"One day they met their now spouse and suddenly that was it."
"Since then radio silence."- Showfina
"I have no idea, but she stopped responding to texts or reaching out."- wei-ohara
Sensing A Spouse/Partner Theme...
"Best friends for 12 years."
"She was a complete bridezilla."
'Long story short, I was maid of honor and was expected to pay for multiple showers, ended up paying for part of her dress, and was asked to plan/pay for the entire bachelorette trip."
"I was in the process of building a house so I said no to the parties and trip (paying not planning/attending) and was swiftly booted from the wedding."
"Funny part was, the guy had been cheating on her and she knew and told me she was gonna leave him."
"She didn’t."
"She cheated on him back."
"He found out while I was with them, they broke up."
"Couple weeks later I got a call they were engaged."
"So bizarre."- accomplishedswan44
Were They Ever A Friend?
"Realizing that he was a shit friend who saw me as lesser than him, and he used that as justification to try and completely control my life."- yeetgodmcnechass
Lack Of Quid Pro Quo
"I cared more about the relationship than she did."
"I’m not gonna beg anyone to be my friend."- Superkittymeowmeow
Making Life A Competition
"My son was delayed."
"Hers was not."
"Her son was roughly a year younger and there were constant snide comments about how much sooner her son hit milestones than mine did."
"I gave her the benefit of the doubt that maybe she didn't mean it the way it came across and I was just touchy."
"And then she called my 2 year old stupid because he was mostly nonverbal."
"She got told to f*ck off."- TransportationOk4914
Absence Did Not Make The Heart Grow Fonder...
"They moved and stopped putting any effort into the relationship whatsoever."
"I offered to go there, I offered to fly them here (they hadn’t secured work yet) and they never made time."
"They never reached out."
"When I finally wrote and said it seemed apparent they’d lost interest in the relationship and I respected that but needed to move on rather than wait indefinitely, they refused to acknowledge anything had changed, and told me I sounded crazy."
"I asked why I hadn’t heard from them or seen them in a year and a half."
"No response."
"Reality is subjective, as they say."- testcase_sincere
Couldn't Meet Their Standards...
"She literally turned into her mother, only caring about appearances."
"At 23."
"I couldn’t take the judgment anymore."- Obi1NotWan
Wanted To Be More Than Friends
"We were best friends in high school."
"I moved in with him in 2015 because I needed a place to stay, and his father offered to let me rent out a spare bedroom for super cheap."
"Within five months, my friend made a romantic/sexual pass at me."
"I was not interested."
"I left that night and have never looked back."- allycatraz
They say to err is human, to forgive is divine.
But sometimes, the only way to forgive someone who hurt or betrayed you more than you thought was possible, is to let go, and move on.
People Divulge The Real Reason They Drifted Apart From Their Ex-Best Friend
Reddit user Macburgh asked: 'What pushed you away from your ex-best friend?'
The concept of a life-long friend or "Best Friends Forever" is beautiful, but few of us realize just how difficult it is to make a friendship last that long.
As people grow and change over time, often their friendship doesn't have the flexibility it needs to endure those changes.
And like the many complexities of a friendship, there are many reasons why the friendship may eventually fail.
Redditor Macburgh asked:
"What pushed you away from your ex-best friend?"
The Transactional Friendship
"When I realized that the only time she ever got in touch with me was because she wanted something from me."
- Tinlizzie2
"I did this too. I 100% thought of him as my best friend, but then, when I was going through some s**t (for months), he couldn't be bothered to return my calls."
"It made me realize the relationship had always been all about him. So I dropped him."
"And f**k me, because I still grieve the loss of my best friend."
- So-I-Had-This-Idea
An Outside Perspective
"I got a new friend and hung out together with them a few times."
"Then my new friend mentioned how my old friend treated me like absolute s**t and I didn't seem to notice."
"As soon as my new friend mentioned it, that's all I could see."
- dankest-dookie
The Absolute Energy Suck
"When I realized that they just brought negative energy and drama with them everywhere."
"Something or someone always had to be wrong and they desperately needed to be the center of everyone’s attention."
"It just became grating and I found myself less happy around them. So I had to remove myself from the friendship."
- tmw1102
The Enabling Parent
"My ex-best friend and I were both about 33 at the time."
"I met her daughter (12) for the very first time, and she was a complete b***h to me the entire lunch, saying things like, 'Wow, you’re really ugly,' and 'That’s so stupid,' after I would say something."
"Also, 'Your hair looks like a witch,' 'Your clothes are gross,' etc."
"And she said everything loud enough that other tables kept looking over."
"My ex-best friend never once scolded her or even told her to stop. Instead, she’d sheepishly laugh and say, 'She’s just a little headstrong,' and 'Don’t pay attention, she’s always difficult with new people,' and 'She doesn’t really mean it.'"
"I did make a couple of attempts to make her stop, but I wasn’t about to scold a child I didn’t really know, in front of her actual parent. I’d say things like, 'Geez, what a cruel thing to say,' or 'It’s odd that you’re being so mean for no reason,' but my ex-friend ever even added anything to that."
"A couple of years later, I was organizing a formal, black-tie party, and I sent her an invite with a plus-one invitation."
"She asked if she could bring her daughter since it was her custody weekend to have her, and I. SAID. NO."
"The event was child-free, at an upscale wine bar that was reserved for the private party."
"My ex-best friend begged and pleaded with me to make an exception, she was older now, blah blah."
"I held firm and said this was an important event to me, I would have professional peers from my industry there, and based on a) her daughter’s behavior two years prior and b) her lack of discipline, I didn’t feel confident that nothing similar would happen."
"I could just picture her insulting my dress, the food, the music, the location… and as this was an unofficial marketing event, I could NOT allow that."
"She exploded. She said I was a pretentious b***h, and that I was choosing being fake over being her friend. There were some other choice words."
"It was kind of the first time she’d ever spoken to me like that in our entire friendship. And of course, her daughter was just joking, she really did like me. Yeah right."
"She immediately blocked me on everything. This was in 2016. We haven’t spoken since."
- mnbvcxz1052
The Third Wheel
"We were best friends for about ten years. I finally distanced myself because I couldn’t handle her relationship. It was very unhealthy, in my opinion."
"She literally couldn’t do anything alone; if she showered, he showered. She went to work, and he went and hung out there for her shift. This was true of EVERYTHING."
"It got to the point of me telling her that he wasn’t invited so he would stop showing up with her to our hangouts."
"And at that point, she would either refuse to come, cancel at the last minute, or she would come and rush through whatever we had planned so she could meet him outside, where he would loiter, waiting for her to finish hanging out with me. Or she would come, and he would 'show up' about ten minutes later and act like it’s a coincidence that we’re at the same place and then join us. Very annoying."
"He also never had a job. And it was not that he was unemployed and looking, but he was unemployed and planning to stay unemployed and let my friend work for their household money. When we managed to get some time alone, she constantly complained about their lack of money and how she wanted him to work and stop smothering her."
"I encouraged her to either talk to him and work it out or dump him. She promised to talk to him but never did. And dumping him was not an option according to her because she couldn’t be alone."
"I just couldn’t watch her disrespect herself anymore when the solution was so simple."
"We still have mutual friends so I know they are still together, about 13 years now. They have two kids. He still doesn’t work but he’s not a SAHD either. From what I’ve been told, now that she’s not in retail anymore and he can’t loiter inside, so he sits in their car outside her office every day."
"And from what I’ve heard, that togetherness extends to parenting. If the kids are sick or have a dentist appointment or something, the boyfriend doesn’t take them. Ex-BFF takes time off work so they can do it together."
- Steffie25
Complaints Only
"She only wanted to talk to me about her relationship problems with her crazy boyfriend. My advice to her fell on deaf ears and I couldn’t handle hearing about how poorly he treated her over and over."
- mrsyandy
A New Perspective
"I got therapy."
- Protomorfid
"It’s super, super common that as you heal you find yourself moving on from relationships that no longer serve you because they were premised in your previous unhealthy behavior and belief systems. I’m experiencing this currently."
- 06Gleity06
The Convenient Friend
"She ignored me whenever we had other people around, but when she didn't have anyone else to hang out with, she would text me, and she would get mad and try to make me feel bad if I couldn't hang out with her."
- ParticularTomato5537
The Boundary Crosser
"I realized I’m a people pleaser and started setting boundaries. They apparently didn't like that, and the rest sorted itself out…"
- PJpittie
The Overly-Critical Friend
"My ex-best friend left me when I got engaged to my now husband. We were both raised Mormon and were not getting married in the temple. Big deal in the Mormon church."
"She thought we should 'wait until we were worthy' and that we were only getting married to have sex."
"I walked away from that friendship. My husband and I have been together 11 years now, are no longer Mormon, and, for the record, got married because we love each other."
- imaginarybat567
Partners Before Friends
"He got a girlfriend and doesn't need me anymore. His personality has changed a lot, and I can't recognize him anymore. Also, he started ghosting me."
"I miss my best and only friend."
- WaldiIO
Lack of Reciprocation
"I realized how many times I had to ask her to hang out and make plans and remake them when she canceled last minute before we'd actually hang out."
"And every time we did, she was going through a crisis and needed to cry and vent. I was happy to listen and help."
"But the TWO times in our whole friendship I asked for help, she couldn't make the time or just flat out ignored my texts."
"I realized she'd never once gone out of her way for me for anything. I stopped asking to hang out, and she still hasn't. Guess that's that."
- eatsmyfridge
The Friend with Back-handed Compliments
"My sister and I were friends with her together."
"She was never a great friend to me, she was closer to my sister. They’re the same age (a year younger than me), went to school together, and knew each other longer. She always treated me at the third wheel, but I just wanted to fit in with my gorgeous sister and her gorgeous friend."
"I think at first we both had blinders on to her. She was always giving half compliments or very backhand compliments. She ALWAYS copied everything my sister did or wanted to do. It got to the point where she was constantly putting my sister down, putting her relationship down, making snide comments about how she looked (my sister is a f**king goddess and I am not just saying that), and it seemed like my sister just didn’t notice."
"One particular weekend, my sister and I were in town and staying with her and I had had enough by the second night. My sister noticed my mood change and asked what was up. I asked her if she even realized what this person was doing. She said she hadn’t noticed. But then she thought about it and she realized I was right. I just told my sister she deserves way better than that."
"I distanced myself after that weekend, but she and my sister remained friends for a while longer. They finally had a falling out a couple of years ago where my sister finally stood up for herself and stopped putting up with this girl’s bulls**t."
"I know that we are both better off for it. This person is the most toxic person I’ve ever met in my life."
- schmidt_onyourface
So Quick to Leave
"We had a group of four of us that were really close. The guy that has introduced us all to each other started dating a girl a decade younger than him."
"I knew her from school and warned him she was a pathological liar, but he decided I was the liar and jealous and turned the other two against me. They all stopped talking to me."
"Six months later, sure enough, they realized she was full of s**t and tried making amends with me, but I couldn’t get over how quickly and easily they all turned on me. So I just did my own thing. F**k them."
- blah_shelby
The Inactive Listener
"We're not ex-friends, but I wouldn't consider him the best anymore, even having known him for over 20 years."
"He talks just to talk and will only respond to anything else with 'Yeah' or 'Uh-huh' until he has the chance to talk again. He will hijack conversations entirely, and before I know it, he's talking about himself again."
"Also, he only ever seems to tell stories of our time in high school and college, and only the same four or five over and over."
"At first, I thought it was a social thing, but it happens every time without fail regardless of where we are. It's incredibly frustrating to be talking to a group of people and being interrupted."
- medieval_saucery
There are all kinds of reasons that a friendship might come apart, and these make sense as to why these friendships were not able to lost.
As much as we might love them, sometimes the best thing we can do is to let our best friends go.
Often, best friends can be the most important people in your life. They are the person you can call if you need someone to talk to at 2 AM; the ones that will keep your secrets, support even your most convoluted aspirations, and help you with whatever you need, even if they think it's crazy.
However, not all friendships, even those with your best friends, last forever.
Sometimes, friendships end naturally, as the two people grow apart. Other times, the friendship ends because one party did something malicious or made an irreparable mistake.
Redditors have plenty of stories of those kinds of friendship enders, and are ready to share.
It all started when Redditor salad_knife asked:
"What ended your friendship with a former best friend?"
A Lender Bee
"Asked to borrow money (~$3000) and told me not to ask for what, not because they needed help and trusted me but because I “had a decent job and could spare some”. Badgered me that I needed to send this money within 24 hours and kept repetitively asking when the money was ready. I was worried it was a medical emergency so I insisted they tell me why. No response except for “hurry up with the money.” Turns out they got scammed but that ended our friendship really quickly…money ruins relationships…fast."
"Edit: wow I’m sorry to hear all of you having similar experiences. Thanks for hearing me out."
– icanmakeyoufamous
"Never lend money to a friend, unless you're willing to lose the money or the friend, possibly both."
– shayanrc
The Truth Hurts
"His wife cheated on him. I was the bad guy for trying to let him know."
– Wyrdbro
"This is actually fairly standard. If you're a true friend you have to tell your friend that he/she is being cheated on. But you have to go into it knowing that it might be you being kicked to the curb."
– DancesWithTrout
Be Kind
"Bullying, basically."
"I realized that all that "good-natured ribbing" over time was really more malicious than good natured, and that I was the outlet for his own insecurities."
– travismc51
"He wasn't a "best friend" because my actual best friend would never do this to someone. But we were in a friend group in high school where the psychopath alpha threw a rock at me and broke my front tooth."
"We've had a few run ins since and each time it has ended with physical altercations."
"I was 25 in 2016 and this guy was like, "Hey Travis, does anyone here even like you?" and I was shocked that the teen dynamic was still happening."
– travismc51
Mama Bear
"Went on a mini-vaca (was supposed to be 4 days) with my best friend in 2021 to NJ, she brought her (then) 8yr old son, I brought my (then) 4 yr old daughter. Her son was so disrespectful, swearing, nasty attitude and so mean to my daughter the entire trip. The last straw was on the morning of the 3rd day when he ripped a box of cereal out of my daughter's hand, she started crying and he slapped her across her head. I tried disciplining him and my friend blew up at me and proceeded to DEFEND her son, as she called my daughter a "whiny baby". We started arguing, I packed our bags and said we're leaving. I drove 4 hours home without saying a single word to her or her son. Got to her house, threw her bags on her front lawn and peeled out of her driveway."
– Leesh_26
"You’re a better person than me. I would have left her and her little monster to find their own way home."
– Lorie614
"Sounds like how my Mom ended things with her friend. She had a son that was 3-4 years younger than me so we became friends by default. Honestly, I just tolerated him because was a foul mouthed little instigator whose Mom let him get away with everything and never disciplined him."
"One summer day we had all just gotten back from going somewhere, I had gotten myself in trouble with Mom and was given a time out (which back in the ‘80s was “sit your a** right there and don’t move”) on the front porch while our moms went inside."
"He proceeded to get my toy cars out, and while I’m sitting there he starts throwing them at me and is calling me “a**hole” with every throw. I’d had enough with being pelted and threw one back. And he screamed his head off and started bawling. His mom came out of the house, scooped him up, yelled at me and took off in her car."
"My mom asked me what happened and I told her. She didn’t blame me for not taking it, and called up his mom to explain everything. She wouldn’t hear it, hung up on my mom and that was it."
– Storyteller678
Little Things
"Lots of little sh*t that eventually just pissed me off enough to where I told him to F off."
"For example, 7-8 years ago, he bought 15 tickets for a midnight premier of Jurassic World for our entire friends group to attend."
"The day of the show, he texted me to tell me that he forgot to buy "my" ticket, so I couldn't go. Of the 15 he bought, how did he decide it was "my" ticket that he didn't buy? Turns out, he gave my ticket to a girl he met the week prior so he could take her with instead."
"That was just one of many things where he f*cked me."
"It's all truly minor stuff like that, but when you have 100 minor things, it becomes clear that they aren't actually your friend anymore."
– alwaysmyfault
Betrayed
"It was my last year in a country I previously lived in and at the time it was during summer vacation where we normally spend it in our home country. We had to cut our vacation short because we got a phone call telling us that our house had gotten broken into and robbed. We came back and on that day and he was talking to me telling me he saw cops by our house and he hopes everything is OK. It was horrible with everything stolen, furniture destroyed, closets torn down and fully emptied. My family decided to accelerate the transfer from that country and there was that. A year later he messages me a long e-mail explaining how sorry he was and that he was responsible for it and that his friends were the perpetrators and that he knew who did it but didn’t want to expose them. When we showed the police the e-mail and they questioned him it turned out he was part of that group as well."
– JustSayGGBro
She's In, You're Out
"Renting an apartment together."
"NEVER live with friends, folks. BECOME friends with people you live with."
– spooli
"Ugggh. Perhaps you can’t win"
"I live with two former-strangers who seemed cool when I moved in. We all got along fairly well, not BFFs but well enough to call them friends. We would go on hiking trips and occasionally do stuff around town together. It was nice. One of them had planned to move out to find a place with his girlfriend, but they could not find a place they liked so instead of him moving out she is moving in and he is “forcing me” to move out so they have more space."
"I put forcing in quotes because I have every legal right to stay in my home but apparently that does not matter to him, so I just “have to leave”. I don’t, of course, but who wants to live with someone who will betray your friendship as soon as it benefits him. So… now I am looking to move in with a friend. Not a long-time best friend, but someone I already know and like. I figured it’s better than meeting someone totally new and judging if they are good people in the 20 minutes you tour the place… but really I’ve lost a lot of trust in people from this experience."
"I generally assume people who are nice, cool, rational - will continue to act that way in the future. Well..."
– generic-work-account
Dropping Out
"Choosing men over her family and close friends, disappearing to another state at the drop of a hat with no way to be contacted, oh and meth."
– Baggle-Me-Fingies
"My former best friend also chose men, especially toxic men over her friends and family’s relationships."
– DontpunchDonkeys
Ghosted
"My best friend (kinda my only friend) stopped talking to me from one day to another. Never was able to get in contact with him again. Didn't respond to calls or texts, wasn't home when I showed up, nothing."
"I still don't know if I did something wrong or what his motivation was."
"It's been just over 4 years now. Still sucks at times."
– Captain_Meekus
"I had a really good friend that I met in Grade 8 and we started Grade 9 and she gave me the cold shoulder, one word answers to questions, and wouldn’t look at me. I ended up phoning her one day after school and asking her what I had done wrong and she told me “nothing”. The friendship ended and it always bugged me that someone could just turn cold and like a stranger. It really sucks and leaves an everlasting impression. She never reached out to me again except to try and add me on Facebook way after high school had ended. I never accepted the request."
– hill-top
"Sometimes people want to move on and leave their past and it's their right. I had a 20 year friend do this to me. But thinking back....signs were all there. I mean way way back. I was the loyal one, he was the pr*ck, but I was a pr*ck too. We weren't friends I don't think. Friends don't compete; friends uplift each other."
– Tarrolis
It's always hard when a friendship ends, even if you're the one who wanted to end it.
However, every relationship teaches you something, and bad friendships can open you up for a great one!
People Break Down The Exact Moment They Realized Their Best Friend Was A Complete A-Hole
Sometimes we're so blind to the faults of others.
Learning the hard truth about a best friend is never easy.
Especially if that particular truth is the fact that they were never a good friend or good person, to begin with.
But we see people how we see them.
And one day, we see beyond what we want.
You sort of feel bamboozled.
But when someone tells you who they are, whether with their words or their actions, believe them.
Redditor RealTourelle11 wanted to hear how friendships fell apart, so they asked:
"What made you realize your best friend was actually a complete a**hole?"
I've realized far too many times too late, that some people need to go.
Not all friends are friends.
EXCUSE ME?!
real housewives fight GIF by RealityTVGIFsGiphy"When she told me she was cheating on her husband, and then I found out she was cheating with MY husband."
7grendel
$40 worth of snacks...
"I was poor and in college, I had the flu really really bad one week and asked my friend (he lived in a dorm across the hall) to go to the convenience store in the dorm lobby and get me something to drink and he could get whatever for himself too. He got me my soda and himself $40 worth of snacks."
"Didn’t notice at the time and I ordered us a pizza, he knew it was all I was going to have to eat for the next few days, and he snuck into my room and ate the leftovers while I was passed out on cold medicine."
"I didn’t even really know how to respond. Like I was already buying him snacks and feeding him… he had a meal plan on campus (I didn’t)… why act like that?"
EmperorMrKitty
Thief
"When I trusted and believed he was like a brother only to have him steal thousands of dollars from me. The money didn’t even matter but the treason hurt for years."
thejourney_89
"Happened to me too. A girl who was like a sister to me stole $80K from my business (her husband did, with her knowledge) and then turned her back on me while I was going through chemo. To be fair, I did tell her the worst thing would be if I lost a huge amount of money like that and that I’d rather have cancer again so I did give her the method to hurt me the worst. So there’s that."
Miqotegirl
Blocked
"Over time we lost contact, then she only reached out when she needed money. I let this go on too long until I found out I was pregnant with my first, and told her then I wouldn't send any money after that. She still asked, my daughter is now over 1.5 yo, and she had never even met her. I ended up blocking her and telling her not to bother trying to reach out anymore."
Beneficial_Affect522
Conversation Over...
Talking Blah Blah Blah GIF by Wiz KhalifaGiphy"I started to realize that they only ever talk about themselves. They rarely ask me a question, but then cut me off while I’m answering to make it about them."
onemoretwat
Why can't people realize they need to shut up?
Probably because they don't care.
And Me?
Bye Bye Goodbye GIF by Mickey MouseGiphy"Realizing I am always there for them but it is never reciprocated or even acknowledged or even feigned interested in any thing I am doing in life."
Auniqueusername1983
Favors
"Best friend since elementary. In high school When I told her I no longer wanted to be friends because she was mean to others all the time, including me- she said that I had to be friends with her cuz she was my friend In elementary and middle school even tho everyone told her not to be, and that everyone talked behind my back about how gross and weird I was and she stayed my friend anyhow. She worded it like she was doing me a huge favor by being my friend and that I somehow owed her for that charity."
caffeinebee
In the end...
"Probably when my gf at the time admitted to sleeping with him and my three other guy friends while we were together. Not in an embarrassed way either, she was throwing it in my face to hurt me."
"I hoped against my own instincts that it wasn't true but I asked him and knew instantly from the look in his eyes that it was. Basically lost my whole friend group overnight, but... ended up finding much better friends in the long run. It all works out."
sleepingfox307
The Single Life
"All we ever talked about was her - how she hated being single, who she dated, how jealous she was of other people with partners. She skipped my dad's funeral. She ignored my housewarming party. She'd ignore me for weeks at a time, then suddenly call me up crying because she got dumped."
"I drove her to surgeries and sat waiting to drive her home. Watched her kids. Sat through a hundred weepy nights."
"Then she found a relationship. I have seen her 1x in the past 9 months (because I invited her to get together) and haven't heard from her in 3. I guess she must be happy now, doesn't need me to be a shoulder to lean on. She wasn't ever interested in being a friend to me. I was just someone to cheer her up when she was feeling down."
knastywoman
Loser
Shaking Head Reaction GIF by GIPHY NewsGiphy"When he got his girlfriend pregnant he got 6 weeks of paternity leave. He lived with me and she had her own place. For months after the child was born he sat home taking advantage of his paid vacation playing 10 hours of video games a day while she struggled with the child."
GuyMansworth
Some people just need to go from our lives.
It's healthy.
Do you have any experiences to share? Let us know in the comments below.
In Nora Ephron's classic romantic comedy When Harry Met Sally, the two title characters have fundamental disagreement about men and women's ability to be friends owing to the "sex part getting in the way".
Wherever one stands on this, admittedly heteronormative, argument, there is no denying that many people have managed to sustain close friendships in spite of some obvious sexual tension between them.
Obvious at least to almost all of their inner circle, if not the friends in questions.
Of course, sometimes these friends feel the need to give in to this palpable tension, and go ahead and have sex.
Forever changing their friendships, for better or worse.
"What happened after you had sex with your best friend?"
Change In Status, Still Best Friends
"We had gotten drunk to celebrate me getting into med school, and 8 years of repressed sexual tension just poured out in a single night."
"The next 3 days, we were both in a panicked daze."
"I thought I had lost my best friend for the best sex of my life, and I couldn't stop thinking it wasn't worth it."
"The sex was mind blowing, but no one made me feel as safe or as happy and I would trade anything to keep that."
"He asked would it really be so crazy if we tried dating?"
"We moved in together a month later."
"We've been together now for 7 years, got engaged."
"Saving up for a house and wedding."
"He's still my best friend."- LexicalCat
'We bought an air fryer and a water cooler for our house so I guess you could say things are pretty serious."- ur_newstepmom
Office Break GIFGiphyAn Unfortunate Demise
"Unfortunately we stopped being best friends after that."- Previous_Smile7275
Testing The Waters
"She became my sorta, kinda girlfriend and we've been taking things slow!"- CapG_13·
Big Mistake...
"I hated doing it with her cuz she said, 'you are like a brother to me!' after doing it."- aldrin2111
"He hates me now."- estrellaprincessa
"What happened is : I wanted more and fell totally in love with her."
"She didn’t and thought it was a mistake."
"We tried staying friends, she became distant, I became weird."
"She decided that we shouldn’t see each other anymore."
"At all."- Grin-Guy
the oc couple in bed GIFGiphyMade It Official
"We went to sleep."
"And are married for 8 years now."- DocSternau
"We got married."
"3 kids, a grandson and 37 years later I still don't regret it."- Cheezel62
"Married her."
"Knew she was in it for the long con."- aggierogue3
Love Is Love Wedding GIF by PBS KIDSGiphyStill The Same Old Friends...
"We did a FWB thing for about three years."
"Whenever we were both single, we’d hook up."
"She lived about 300 miles away.'
"We used to sort of dance around the possibility of actually dating, even getting married, but we never pulled the trigger."
"The distance was too much, I think."
"We loved each other very much."
"Got to the point where whether it was platonic or romantic love was difficult to tell, and weirdly, neither of us was in a rush to figure it out."
"I guess we both had faith it would work itself out as it was supposed to."
"And it did."
"She met a great guy, dated him, and married him."
"I performed the ceremony."
"After it was over, at the reception, I gave her a hug and she kissed my cheek and smiled a little flirtatiously (we both knew it was the last time she’d give me that look), and said, 'Thanks for marrying me.'"
"It was one of the most purely loving, intimate moments of my life."
"We are still close."
"Not like before, but we still love each other deeply, and we always will."
"That love just has a more clearly defined label now, and it’s a label we both respect and cherish."
"So yeah, it’s not always a sad ending."
"Sometimes it’s just a weird and beautiful intermission."- RPMac1979
best friends dance GIF by Will & GraceGiphyMust Have Been Good
"More sex."- Glittering_Pea_6228
Be it a friendship or a romantic relationship, having sex is always bound to change things.
If you like things the way they are, think very carefully before taking the leap.