People Explain How They'd Honestly Respond If Their Partner Asked For An Open Relationship
Open relationships are a minefield.
Lesson number one: always be on the same page.
There is nothing wrong with being open in love, but know you're doing it for the right reasons.
If not, there could be consequences.
One Redditor wanted to hear about the reactions people had broaching the topic, so they asked:
"What would you say if your partner asked you to open the relationship?"
I'm not adverse to an open relationship, but I'd like to start just the two of us and then we'll see.
Up Front
"This is something I screen for and discuss upfront. It's not for me, but I would not want to stifle someone who feels an open relationship is good for them. I know we would not be happy together."
Choice_Tangelo1933
14 Years In...
"I've been married for 14 years now. We're both very happy and we regularly talk about our desires for the future. I think I know and understand her fully. If she dropped a bomb like this on me it would be the first sign our interests are misaligned beyond repair. And I'd probably never fully trust anyone ever again."
spiderfarmer
Red Flags
"From my experience. 9/10 times if the relationship started monogamous and this conversation pop up they already have someone in mind and want the go ahead to go after them and if it fails they’ll cry about wanting to close it back up. If it was something on the table as a possibility at the beginning of the relationship, sure. If it wasn’t then no."
Vroomy_vroom_vroom
FWB
"Was dating a girl a few months and we went on a road trip for the weekend. Great time, etc. On the way back she spent a solid hour talking about how she couldn't settle down with any single guy, always wanted side pieces, stuff like that. I just listened, we weren't super far into the relationship but I thought it was going well."
"Anyway, I started talking to other girls since I didn't feel priority and slept with an old FWB. 'Gf' came over and saw a used condom in the trash and went apesh*t. I recalled the conversation about her wanting to date multiple guys, and explained I didn't feel like we were exclusive due to that. Breaks up with me, lol."
thermal_shock
Tell Me
suspicious GIFGiphy"I’d want to know who my partner met that made them consider this as an option."
tormentrock
Options are always going to be there. Might as well ask now.
Whoops
I Have No Idea Reaction GIF by MTV Movie & TV AwardsGiphy"My ex husband asked me to do this. I was upset and uncomfortable but he kept asking so finally I relented. Then I had way more people interested in me than him and he got super bu**hurt super fast."
WesternOld3507
So Poly
"Not a chance. If they want to f**k around I'll sever ties with them faster than the flash."
Ivanhunterjo1991
"Yep. Friend of mine did that. His gf at the time said she wanted to have an open relationship. He gave her one chance to stop and never bring it up again. She pushed it and he immediately broke up with her and kicked her out within 10 minutes. Litterally pushed her a** out the freaking door. (he was paying the rent and bills and his name was on the lease)."
"Ran into her a few months ago. Their breakup was about 5 years ago now, she said it was the stupidest thing she ever did. She sure as s**t doesn't identify as 'poly' now, apparently she wound up on the other end of things when her new bf suggested their relationship be open, and within a week he brought another woman home."
Kaidiwoomp
Non-Starter
"Absolutely not. We’ve agreed we’re for each other and he knows I’m monogamous (as I know he is). Even the thought of him meeting someone else that makes him go 'I wanna see what it’s like to be with her,' makes me angry. Our relationship would be over at that point."
"I’m a jealous person by nature. Now that doesn’t mean I can’t handle myself if he has friends who are women. But the jealousy will always loom in the back of my mind. This is why I know the poly lifestyle is not for me."
redvelvetcakebatter
Struggles
"Wanting an open relationship tells me I'm not enough for them. The very suggestion would make me question our relationship then and there. Maybe I'm just insecure, but I'd probably struggle to see them the same way and likely end up breaking things off."
ayylotus
"Completely agree. And I’d be deeply, deeply hurt by the suggestion. We have been together 15 years, married for 8, and suddenly he wants a radical change in the most basic nature of our relationship? I’d be heartbroken."
Sp4ceh0rse
Ugly Thoughts
No Way Bird GIFGiphy"I’d say no. Then I would constantly be thinking about the fact that they wanted to sleep with other people while they were in a relationship with me (or maybe they already acted on those desires), and the ugly thoughts would lead to me ending the relationship."
Flailus
This is never an easy topic. Be sure to speak openly and honestly while considering all the possible ramifications.
Do you have any relevant experiences to share? Let us kow in the comments below.
I love a good bad guy in fiction.
Who doesn't?
The villain is always the juiciest character.
In the end, they're the most broken and flawed. So they have the most to unearth.
But as generations have passed, and on a second glance, there are some characters we maybe give a little too much respect to and love to.
I mean, you don't watch Dateline NBC and root for the serial killer. Right?
RIGHT?!?!
I blame the book Wicked. It turned the villain story upside down... and The Sopranos.
Redditor TourSignificant1335 wanted to discuss all the characters in fiction we really need to re-examine. Maybe we shouldn't be lauding them so much.
They asked:
"What fictional character should people really stop glorifying?"
Hannibal Lechter. Yes, Sir Anthony Hopkins is brilliant. But he eats people. For fun. With wine. Not a good guy.
Bad Chris
"Christian Grey."
Freedom0001
"It's just cause he's rich and handsome. It's romantic only because of that. Imagine the story but a broke ugly guys tries to get a girl to get into BDSM and does a bunch if stalking. 100% guaranteed it will be advertised as a horror movie."
Ibreathoxygennow
GiphyHit the Road Jack
"Jack from jack and the bean stalk. He broke into the giants castle, stole all his stuff, ran away and when the giant tried to get his stuff back, he freaking murdered him."
Exotic_Imagination69
'...and then Jack chopped down the beanstalk, adding murder and ecological vandalism to the theft, enticement and trespass charges already mentioned, but he got away with it and lived happily ever after without so much as a guilty twinge about what he had done. Which proves that you can be excused just about anything if you're a hero, because no one asks inconvenient questions. Seems like you share something in common with a Miss Susan Sto-Helit."
gl0vely
'bad boy'
"JD (Heathers)."
shawtyalilperry
I think people romanticizing JD is the whole point. If you find his 'bad boy' traits attractive, if you want to fix him, if you grow blind to his flaws. You then understand exactly why Veronica stayed by JD's side, even through all the crazy shit he did and also planned to do."
Etaleo
Psycho
"I thought Patrick Bateman was cool as a teen & young adult and now I'm an angry awkward weirdo."
Significant-Garlic87
"I believe in taking care of myself and a balanced diet and rigorous exercise routine. In the morning if my face is a little puffy I'll put on an ice pack while doing stomach crunches. I can do 1000 now. After I remove the ice pack I use a deep pore cleanser lotion."
"In the shower I use a water activated gel cleanser, then a honey almond body scrub, and on the face an exfoliating gel scrub. Then I apply an herb-mint facial mask which I leave on for 10 minutes while I prepare the rest of my routine. I always use an after shave lotion with little or no alcohol, because alcohol dries your face out and makes you look older. Then moisturizer, then an anti-aging eye balm followed by a final moisturizing protective lotion."
Limp-Munkee69
The Devil
"Madeline Wuntch. You might ask, if she’s here who’s guarding hades? That fork tongued lizard witch turned out to be a Korean toilet ghost."
itstimegeez
GiphyI don't care how messed up 50 Shades is... I love you Jamie Dornan.
The Bad Guys
"Gordon Gecko - Wall Street."
"Jordan Belfort - Wolf of Wall Street."
"They are supposed to be cautionary tales of what not to do."
EnigmaCA
leonardo dicaprio GIFGiphyTony. Tony. Tony.
"Tony Montana... like seriously, he had about the worst ending you could ask for 🤷🏼."
karmaredemption
"I love shi**ing on this one, because he got assassinated solely because he did the least gangster thing and killed his associate who was going to blow up a car with the narcs kids and wife in it. He dies because he had compassion for innocent people, unlike the thug types that glamorize his image."
AubinSan93
Bad Romance
"For those that love The Notebook. Noah threatened to kill himself if she didn't go on a date with him. Nope nope nope."
AlwaysShip
"They have a toxic boderline abusive relationship. I don't understand how people say it's 'goals' when all they do is fight and manipulate each other."
TWWSi
"I hate that movie with a burning passion. Witch cheated on her fiancé. Her fiancé deserved so much better. I’d pay to see the movie from his perspective."
lonestarcom
Twilighted
"Edward Cullen."
ThiccccLatina1996
"Robert Pattinson has openly talked about how f**ked up that character was. He almost got fired because he played him too dark. He was like 'yeah, it's dark, it's a 100 year old vampire stalking a teenage girl!' He thought Stephanie Myers was like actually deranged."
ScarletCaptain
"I find Bella way worse."
HumanEcon
Him
"Dude from You."
joosypoosy69
"The show first got recommended to me by a woman in my checkout line when i was a cashier. She told me, 'I wish someone loved me like that! Well kind of, haha.'"
LifeNorm
GiphyOh Effy
"Effy from skins— the show literally romanticized her mental health disorders."
mygayla
"This is a good one, I watched skins when I was in high school and I really wanted to be Effy, she seemed so cool and awesome and did all the cool kid things. I was a typical teenager and I can only be grateful I didn’t do more stupid crap then."
MissNinja007
Interesting
"Luke Castellan. He is not a tragedy. Other characters had it just as bad as him (if not, worse) and didn’t turn evil or try to kill innocent people (including the one he loves)."
"Luke is an interesting one to me. I always thought he was the type of person that you weren't supposed to agree with, but you could at least see where he was coming from."
"Even Percy kind of sees it, since he makes the gods promise not to neglect their children so much. There's also the fact that he was being manipulated by Kronos. Not that he was right or people should look up to him, but his choices definitely make sense."
TheOncomimgHoop
Toxic Together
"The Joker."
PinkSweetGhost
"Someone once told me after they saw Suicide Squad that they wanted a relationship like what Joker and Harley Quinn have. I told her 'So you want to be both mentally and physically abused? You want to have to look over your shoulder when he gets mad and hope he doesn't take it out on you? You want to be beaten half to death and then be told it was you who made him do it? Ok whatever floats your boat.'"
Sassh1
Bad Guy
"Walter White."
Sontronite
"Yeah he's legitimately just an awful person from the very first episode. He could have taken the job and not put him and his family at risk. He has several opportunities to stop. He even admits it was just for him. He's an amazing character, but he's a villain that happens to be a protagonist."
-SlinxTheFox-
Kids...
"Romeo and Juliet."
TemporalTailor
"The play was written just after a plague outbreak in London. They were just two horny kids who had to be married before they could get laid, and wanted to get some before they maybe died too. And their families were both filled with a**holes."
Muninwing
leonardo dicaprio love GIF by 20th Century Fox Home EntertainmentGiphyBad Touch
"The Peaky Blinders. I recently watched the show and I just don’t understand why every guy wants to be like them. They are all horrible people who destroy everything they touch."
El_Diablo_09
"Glorified in the sense that they radiate charm and power? There's something appealing about the characters but someone watching the show would see that they are deeply troubled. There's a pretty big emphasis on their crippling PTSD, drug addiction and inability to form healthy relationships."
evilcreampuff
Bad People
"Ramona Flowers."
tr0jance
"This is the main reason that I prefer the comics over the movie of Scott Pilgrim (though the movie is great); by the end of the series both Ramona and Scott recognise that they're pretty shitty people but have made some kind of commitment to trying to get better together wheras the movie doesn't really go that far."
Mr_Pleasant2310
Bad Hamm
"Don Draper."
okaydamn
"Yeah, I think most people view the show in the lens of glitz and glamour of an idealized upper-class lifestyle of the time with some comedic and salacious side-story. "
"They miss the point that his most important character development comes later in revisiting his past. Facing being a paper tiger. Feeling lost in what most folk would value as an ideal life. Sad little kid hurt and haunted. And hurting many in the process of trying to run from that."
Dangercakes13
Alan is Genius
"Snape — he bullied a child so badly that he was that child’s boggart. And that’s just the tip of the iceberg when it came to being a bully or being unfair."
Altrano
snape GIFGiphyHate Her
"Carrie Bradshaw."
TrashPandaShire
"Yes!!! Thank you! She was the narcissist of the show and Samantha is the sh*t. Carrie cheating on Aidan for the piece of sh*t Mr. Big made me realize how much she placed herself first. And let’s not forget the episode where she yelled at Charlotte for not giving her money to cover her financial mistake."
MotherAgnes
How is "YOU" so popular? I mean.. people, raise your standards.
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It's time to talk truth.
Humans seem to do all we can to avoid that word.
Nobody wants to be embarrassed or feel weird.
But if we don't ask the hard questions to get to the truth (with finesse) we're just running on assumptions.
And assumptions are the enemy, especially in relationships.
But what a world of difference it would be if you just had a respectful conversation about all the things.
Let's try...
Redditor Batman_1267 wanted all of the men out there to share some things they've been dying to talk about, they asked:
"Men of reddit, what's something you've always wanted to ask a woman but thought it would be too embarrassing to ask them?"
I'll go first.
Ladies. Why do you hate heels? Maybe you're not practicing enough.
Now y'all...
Leakage
I Get It Wow GIF by Awkward Daytime TVGiphy"I always assumed periods were a constant stream of blood (like a cut, as another Redditor put it). Apparently this is wrong, so how does it work? Small gushes?"
billionai1
"Very very very slow leaks… slow on day one, a little heavy on the second and third day, slow to none for the next couple days… varies from person to person."
inmyelement
Roll It
"Do you really like it when men roll up their sleeves?"
Bigbird_Elephant
"Yes. Can't really tell you why. Something about the forearms. It's important to note that it's a phenomenon specific to having long sleeves that are rolled up; a shirt with three quarter sleeves does not produce the same effect. (I think it might be linked to giving the appearance that you're ready to knuckle down and work even though you aren't dressed for it. Idk.)"
LJGHunter
Let's Chat...
"What‘s the most neutral and comfortable to start a conversation (maybe at a bar), without being too shy or too aggressive/rude?"
firebullmonkey
"For me commenting on what’s going on around us. If you’ve tried the cocktails before and want to share opinions, if there’s a game on and I’m looking up at the tv, if there’s a couple on a first date nearby, whatever. The really important thing is to get a good read on if the response is polite vs engaged. If I give you a “yeah” with nothing else stop trying lol even if I smiled or whatever."
General_Organa
Basics...
"Other than the obvious (lying, cheating, rude to you or your friends)what’s the quickest way for your S.O, or someone you’re interested in, to lose your respect?"
DanMittaul
"Lack of general manners or hygiene. Please/thank you/excuse me are important. Regularly bathing, washing your hands, trimming your nails, tidy clothes, etc are important. If you don't invest time and care into these basic things, how am I to know that you will invest time and care into our relationship?"
holy__granola
Smooth...
the silence of the lambs hannibal GIFGiphy"How do many of you have such nice skin? I want to be silky smooth too."
I_ate_your_skin
"Your username makes this question… concerning."
Doom_Toon
How do you get skin that soft? I've tried the lotions. Not working.
With a Cracker
String Cheese Reaction GIF by MOODMANGiphy"Does offering cheese really work?"
Shardnic
papayaseth
The Wife Way
"If you have a wife, there is no question too embarrassing to ask."
high_dosage_of_life
"Before wife-liness, I was a nurse. We got rid of embarrassing questions right off the bat when we were discussing 'experience.' He had none in the physical relationship department, and neither did I, however, I did have to admit that I had probably seen and handled more penises than he ever had... and come to think of it, more vaginas as well, lol."
DishyPanHands
Stay Together
"What’s the deal with peeing together?"
beetus_gerulaitis
"Safety in numbers. Also we like to reapply make up or have a little gossip by ourselves, sometimes it just nice to go with someone else and continue whatever conversation you were previously having."
DI93
Be Free
"If bras give support then why does it feel good when you take them off? Would it feel good to never wear a bra?"
TinyThrowy
"Have you ever worn really tight jeans? They hold everything in place but the firm contact all day gets a bit much. Not wearing a bra if you have larger breasts can be pretty uncomfortable."
"It hurts your back (bras help a little by holding everything in centre so your gravity isn’t too funky), your breast hurt if you move too much, you get sweat under your boobs where they touch your skin. Not fun for everyone. Also it can be uncomfortable when your nipples rub against your clothes from excess movement."
Extension_Drummer_85
Listen
couple hug GIFGiphy"When you are really upset, how would you like your partner to respond or comfort you?"
Think8437
"Be empathetic, hold her (if she's comfortable with that), listen, and ask if she wants your advice. If she doesn't, just be a good listener and don't make her feel like she's to blame or that her feelings aren't valid."
MelanisticCrow
Postures
"How do you do the math and physics for when you pee outside? Some of my female friends took postures straight out of a yoga book and never made a mess."
LeMiaow51
"Sometimes I lean back on a rock or stump (almost in a 'crab walk' position) so that I am aimed at the ground and not my feet/pants."
BreWanKenobi
Playtime
"Do women play with their own breasts out it boredom? Like randomly squeeze them."
Regera80
"I do and it actually helped me! I was just laying in bed one day, playing with my boobs and I noticed a lump. Eventually went to the doctor and they were like, 'oh, were you doing a self exam when you found it?' And I had to be like, 'well, no…'"
"I ended up getting a biopsy and it was a fibroadenoma (benign common tumor in younger women) but I basically had to skirt around the fact that I found the lump from feeling my boobs in bed. No one ever asked directly, I just avoided being specific when they asked how I found it."
Apozerycki1
Hairy Situations
"How do you shampoo long hair? I've always had short hair, so lather and rinse is pretty easy, but with long hair I feel like it would get complicated quickly."
TheMathNut
"With shampoo you basically get used to massaging it directly on your scalp and the rest of your hair kinda rinses out along with any dirt as you wash away the shampoo. You focus on your scalp because that's where things get greasy and you don't want the bottoms of your hair to get too dry. This is why you also focus the conditioner towards the ends of your hair."
COVID_KISSES
Obsession...
"What is the obsession with murder? The whole serial killer book/podcast industry seems largely female oriented. Ironically many females I know who love this stuff also hate fake violence in fictional movies?"
Yngstr
"I’m taking notes so I don’t make the mistakes they made that got them caught."
"Honestly though, it’s a combination of the psychological aspect (why did they do it, what was going on in their head, what made them the way they are) and the forensic/investigation side of things. I also know some women who watch them in part to learn in some way how not to be the victim of crimes likes those featured."
Glowingrose
In the Books
"In a book/piece of writing, what do you think is the best way to describe a woman in a sexual context without being too crude or cliche or getting into the whole 'she breasted boobily down the stairs' thing?
"I'm a writer but I would feel WAY too awkward asking any of my girl friends this 💀 writing women characters isn't hard for me per se, you just give them goals, development and make them add to the story like anybody else. But I'm always second guessing myself when it comes to writing stuff in an intimate context."
AV8ORboi
'hot guy'
"Have heard what not to do on a date mostly but what are the top things a guy can do on a date? Without coming off as awkward or weird?"
UnKoNoWnDuDe
"Your looks will count for a little more in the beginning because I don't know you very well. But if you come across as decent, charming and confident, looks start to fade into the background."
"My husband is never going to win any 'hot guy' awards. He's a bit overweight, going grey, wears glasses and has more hair on his back than on his head. But I immediately fell in love with his personality; he's everything I've ever wanted in a man on the inside, so I honestly don't care what the outside looks like."
LJGHunter
Give it a try!
"How do you all make those little towel hats when you get out of the shower?"
mw407
"Imagine you have your towel across your back, both ends in each hand, flip you hair forward so you're bent over roughly 90°, being the towel forward so it's completely draped over your head until the edge of the towel that was touching your thighs, is now at the base of your hairline on the back of your neck, the towel is now draped over your head, grab the drape and twist it a few times, then toss it back. Give it a try! You don't even need hair to do it!"
78Carnage
Prepared
Giphy"Does it appear weird that I have pads and stuff ready, even though I don't need any? My mother once said that would be very nice when I have people over and periods just happens. I agreed to that thought, so I have some in the bathroom."
FanStrong3311
A Leg Up
"As far as I can tell, leggings are one of the most universal/flexible pieces of clothing a woman can wear and still remain as casual as jeans, but as comfy as pjs. YET you always manage to look hella good regardless of what top you pair with leggings. What the f**k do you wear with leggings/how do you always seem to pair it correctly? (Correctly being it never looks like something you wouldn’t pair with it)."
Honorzeal
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People Describe The Moment They Realized They Were The One Being Creepy
You don't always know it in the moment. That's the worst feeling of all, just to get that out of the way.
Your day is going just fine. You've gone to your favorite coffee shop to order your usual.
You're on auto-pilot, not thinking about things around you, and before you know it, you're staring at the barista deep in their eyes for an unnecessarily long amount of time.
You've just fell victim to the "creep."
Much like the people in the stories below.
Reddit user, linseeded, wanted to know when the creepiness accidentally came out of you when they asked:
"When did you realize “oh crap, I’M the one being creepy”?"
A lot of these, as you'll find, is people doing something they thought was totally fine. Interacting on social media? Saying hello to someone you thought was your wife? All totally fine.
Until it's not.
Just Trying To Save A Pic Of You...Creepily?
"When Snapchat first came out, I didn’t know that screenshot-ing someones photo notified them."
gor8884
"Oh this made me cringe for you"
Crazylivykid
Can You All Get Different Haircuts?
"My wife and I were at her sister's house, and I walk into the kitchen, where I saw my wife talking to someone (I forget who). Anyway, I started caressing her ass. As she turned around, I was mortified to see it was her sister, who looks exactly like my wife from the back, apparently. We all laughed about it, but I was completely embarrassed."
sujal456
When Unleashing Your Sickest Dance Moves Doesn't Work
"I was about 18 at the time and went to visit a friend who was in Uni about 2 hours away. Caught the train there and we go out to the club later that night. I see a very cute looking girl and try to initiate conversation - it does not go well and I learn my lesson pretty quick and go back to the dancefloor. This is the part of the story I remember clearly."
"Turns out I had way too many jaeger bombs that night and saw on the club's Facebook page the next day a picture of that girl with me dancing roughly 3m behind and her face looked so concerned, clearly aware of me trying to seduce her with dance... Yeah glad I grew out of that one."
schofield101
Force Of Habit
"I automatically lock our front door when we’re home. Nice young man came to fix the internet the other day and I locked the door behind him and then immediately said “ok, that was really creepy. I do it automatically.” And quickly unlocked it."
Heath_and_Harebells
You're not trying.
You might not even be thinking about it, which usually how these situations spiral out of control.
Just Trying To Look Out For You And My Son
"27 year old female here. I have a 5 year old son. 6 months ago we hadn’t chosen a school yet and it was dwelling on my mind. I thought asking a random teenage girl on a train what school she goes to and whether she likes it was a good idea. I noticed she missed her stop and asked her if she was ok with getting home."
"I was in Mum mode but realised I came off as a creep when I looked away from her for a moment and looked back to where she was sitting to realise she was rushing down the aisle to the opposite side of the train to get away from me."
Maladaptive-muppet
Staring...Staring...Staring...
"At the gym I often look around between sets, not really at anyone or anything, but a few times I've glossed over and then realised I've been staring at someone. I then proceed to avoid all eye contact."
Jimcompetent
Got The Mental Rolodex Good To Go
"I remember most details people tell me about their life and I can usually quote it back to them a long time after. Someone at work pointed out that it comes across as creepy to remember details like this and having the ability to summon it so quickly, she said it might make people think I was targeting them and keeping notes, etc... (like I'm a stalker or something)."
"Nah, sweetie, I'm a socially-awkward people-pleaser with amazing attention to detail and I can't even do a push-up without needing to take a break half way through, I couldn't hurt anyone."
carmelacorleone
Biggest takeaway from all of these?
Stop trying to help people at night while driving down a pitch black road. Anyone out there wants to be out there.
Getting A Feel For The Area
"I was looking for a new apartment, and met this girl who lived in an area that I was interested in, and worked very close to where I worked. I was interrogating her about her commute, which route she takes to and from work, where she goes shopping etc... and not noticing that she was getting more and more uncomfortable."
"Finally one of my friends realized what was going on and explained that I wasn't some stalker, rather I was looking for an apartment and trying to figure out what my commute might look like. The look on her face made me realize how uncomfortable I must have been making her, and explained why her answers were getting increasingly vague and evasive as I went on."
"I apologized profusely and she was cool about it. I did end up seeing her often after that because I ended up moving into an apartment across the street from hers, and we eventually became friends, but bad first impressions to be sure."
MenudoMenudo
Just Trying To Be Helpful
"This was at the end of a 12 hour shift on my feet all day so I was quite tired:"
"I was driving home from a long day at work and decided to take the shortcut home which was a dangerous, bendy, dark, country road. It was about 22:30 and pitch dark, there are residential houses around the area so it wasn't completely secluded but quite secluded."
"As I'm driving, singing along to Taylor Swift on the radio I see a young girl walking by herself. People wouldn't walk this road during the day, it would be too dangerous, so this was unusual."
"I barely noticed her and could have hit her as there was no footpath on this very thin two way road, no road markings, sharp bends, no lights, and barely a speed limit. She had no reflective gear or lights on."
"There was no close call or anything as I was driving slow but I didn't see her until I was only a few meters away. I drive passed and then think to myself 'god she's either going to get hit by a car or worse, what the f is she doing walking down this road by herself this late'."
BillQuickGates
Just Hiding Behind Lockers Like A Normal Person
"when i was 16 i used to follow a girl i liked around after class a lot but was acting slick pretending i wasnt, now that i think about it that was creepy as f-ck and im sure she noticed."
Catalonia_Sun
"As someone who got followed when I was 17, yes she absolutely did."
LoreCriticizer
"I was awkward and didn't have experience with girls or anyone lol. In my own mind I thought it was fine until a bit later when I went to college and realized how you actually hang out and date girls."
Catalonia_Sun
"In my sleep deprived state, I put the car in reverse and go back towards her. With hindsight the look on her face was pure panic- which is now completely understandable, I too would shit myself at this stranger reversing their car back to me on this dark secluded road."
"She takes out her phone to pretend she's on a call. I pull down my window ask if she wants a lift to the end of the road or anywhere, she just says no thanks and presumably prays she doesn't get murdered and I say ok but drivers can't see you on the road and I drive off home."
"Only realising then how silly that was of me and what a fright I must have given that poor girl, what was I thinking she was going to get in my car?!!"
BillQuickGates
Stop. Following. ME.
"I was walking home pretty drunk one night and I noticed a woman walking towards me looking uncomfortable so I thought I would just take another way home and took a left before our paths crossed."
"Then she took the same road. I was like ah man I don’t want to go this way now it’s creepy of me so I decide to stop and head back but as I am heading back she has disappeared. Awesome."
"Then I am nearly back to my original path and I see she has stopped in a phone booth as I am just about at the phone booth. I freaking pause a moment to work out how to avoid her but then think ok, just go home and I walk past her in the phone booth to go home."
"I just wanted to avoid this woman and made it so much worse."
FriedBeeNuts
Blind Date
"I have a friend who went on a blind date with someone, and neither of them knew that they lived not only in the same apartment complex, but on the same damn floor. He worked nights and she worked days so they'd just never crossed paths. They were both panicking like this the entire drive home in their separate cars, trying to kind of lose the other person while also trying to not appear like they were following the other person."
Much_Difference
"nice guy"
"When I realized how dangerously close I was to becoming a 'nice guy.' Glad I snapped out of it when I did, 'cause that is not a lifestyle worth pursuing."
zmixman
Walk About
"When I’m walking late at night and as I approach the person in front of me they start to pick up the speed."
albert2749
"As a tallish dude wearing all black, who also happens to walk very fast --- this. It's like... there's not much I can do about it though, apart from maybe switch to the other side if that's available."
NeutralGoodguy
"What are you looking at?"
"Former dancer. I was around 30 and just stuck in the mall with my wife. I spotted this girl that just had the perfect frame for swing throws. I'm just imagining hip and basket tosses getting lost in my mind and was just staring at her dead faced. Staring enough that I caught her attention. She asked me 'What are you looking at?' and I just dead pan responded 'I could just throw you around.' She looked terrified then when it all computed I looked terrified and I just grabbed my wife and told her we were leaving."
1284X
Cringe
"I used to catch women's eyes and then look away as if I was slick and I would do it a few times thinking that I'm making her think I'm slightly interested but not quite. In reality these girls were probably freaking out about some wierdo who keeps staring at them when they're not looking but looks away once caught. Makes me cringe."
lostbehelit
Sensitive
"When I asked my friend when she switched to a very specific shampoo and she just looked at me weird for a few seconds. I immediately explained it to her though; I happened to use that very same shampoo a couple of years ago, and I simply thought it suited her really well. She also knows I'm very smell-sensitive, so that helps I guess."
NeutralGoodguy
Dad Stuff
"When I kept asking the questions when I was texting someone they would be questions like what’s your dad's job, what are your plans for today, what are you doing, what did you have for dinner."
Designer_Drama_3714
"Yeah idk I do this too but wtf else I supposed to ask them? What color is your dad's shirt right now? Do people just talk and text differently these days wtf."
BlueBlooper
What????
"When I learned how to do phlebotomy for my job (med tech), I started finding myself staring at people's veins. And then I'm like, 'Okay, Self, stop it, you're being creepy!'"
coffeeblossom
"If it makes you feel any better, you could be the student nurse i got to draw my blood once. She starts by saying how my veins are so nice i could be a drug addict, which is??? What?????"
"So she has the needle in and goes to grab her vials, but I guess she didn't have a firmer press on the needle because I start squirting blood. She says 'Whoops, you're a squirter.' I laughed a lot during that trip. I hope she worked on her people skills because as much as i loved her comments, i cant see it going over well with some other people."
Niburu-Illyria
The Crush
"When I was in grade 5 I had a crush on this guy from the grade above. I would ask my friends to help take or find pictures of him and send them all to me. After 2 years I realized how creepy I was and damn was I embarrassed."
jocelyn_paradoxx
Magic Hug
"About 10 minutes ago. I have the flu just now, I just woke up and asked my daughter if 'Daddy could have a magic hug to feel better.' I half coughed as I said it so it came out creepy af. I even said straight after 'That was freaking creepy' to my wife."
I_Am_Flashpoint
Be ready to apologize.
Best piece of advice you can follow if you find yourself in a situation like any of the stories above.
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People Break Down The Biggest Red Flags They've Seen In A Job Interview
There's nothing more awkward than a job interview.
Reddit user, ToxtethOGradyUSA, wanted to know what to keep an eye out for when on the job hunt when they asked:
"What's the biggest red flag you've seen in a job interview?"
A ill-fated request can completely put you off of a job. All they have to do is ask you something you don't want to do, something immoral or unethical, and that's it. You're out.
The Worst Kind Of Intimidation
"We're legally not allowed to tell you not to take your breaks, but nobody here does it, so keep that in mind."
SanaJisu
I Listed It. That's It.
"When the first thing they ask is if you're a available outside of your listed availability"
Twitch_YungFeetGod69
Clearly I've Come Overdressed
"I was once desperate for a paycheck and set up an interview for a truck washing job. I showed up in my nice clothes only to find that not only were they interviewing 3 candidates at the same time for 1 open position, but that it was a “learning interview”, so we would be washing trucks while interviewing. I told them I had to use the bathroom, walked out a bay door, and never looked back."
Sometimes it's asking the person to elaborate on what you do outside your job. Why would they need to know that?
Unless they wanted you to come in on your off-time.
Just Making Everyone Uncomfortable
"I have a weird one, the interviewer asked me about my hobbies and I mentioned some typical ones: reading, writing, cooking, etc. He then asked about my writing and I just mentioned I've been working on a novel in my spare time."
"Hmm, in my experience, writers make poor engineers," he said."
"I didn't really know how to respond to that. He elaborated that, "Writers typically think that they will hit it big once they finish their book and don't focus on the job," I assured him that I applied for an engineering job because I wanted to do engineering and that writing was a hobby. Kind of thankful I didn't get that job."
Pay Us To Hire You
"Two things, really."
"I was interviewing in for a job to work on a new Windows based spreadsheet (a long time ago.) The group of people I interviewed with all seemed in fear. That was the first thing."
"The second thing was that on the way out, talking with HR, they said that they had paid $10,000 to the recruiter to send recruits, and if I left before one year, I would have to pay them back $10,000. It would be in my employment contract."
"You could not pay me enough to work for that place. I never want to talk to them, ever. Next."
The Strangest 'Wrong Number' Stories | George Takei’s Oh Myyy
Before we all had caller ID, wrong numbers phone calls were commonplace. But now that almost everyone screens their calls, it's wrong number texts that have ...We're All Hitting Our Deadlines
"When I switched jobs earlier this year I was specifically looking for something that was a remote/work from home situation. One interview began with an explanation that they used something similar to test proctoring software for their remote employees and that I was expected to have my webcam on for the full eight hours so they could ensure nobody “seemed distracted.”
"Come the f-ck on….we’re all professionals here. I’m not going to sit there on camera for eight hours while I work so that you can ensure you’re milking every second of productivity out of me. Only the second time in my life I’ve left an interview early."
AbortRetryImplode
And then there's these, the red flags that should signal a complete and utter departure from the interview room to a hasty exit.
Leave.
Flashing Red
"When asked if they had a radius requirement (that I needed to live within X miles in case of emergency), they laughed and said "doesn't matter, you won't be going [home] very often."
"... wow that is not even a red flag anymore, that’s a red light with sirens going off."
Let's Run The Gamut Of Classic BS
-“We’re like a family here”
-“We follow an effort based reward system”
-“We will require you to complete training which the company will partly reimburse.”
TheNatanist
"Initial salary might seem low but you’ll earn much more from bonuses"
Ok_Understanding267
You'll Be Involved In The Growth Of The Company, Meet Lots Of Different People, And Sit In A Cubicle With A Headset All Day...
"I had applied for a marketing position with a local tech company. A woman called to set up the interview, but a few things seemed a little too vague in the job description. Since I really didn't need the job I was very direct with her and asked "is this an actual marketing job or is this a sales job that's been given a marketing title?" I had run into that a couple times, but usually the job description clarifies it. Her response was, "all I can tell you is what is in the job description."
"So there's the red flag, but because the office was only a block away from where I was already working I figured I would go and entertain myself. Anyway, to make a long story short, I was right. It was a sales job, and to make matters worse it was probably the slimiest company I have ever applied for, and I once went to an Amway meeting so that should say something."
Link-to-the-Pastiche
Be selective about the job you're seeking. Don't always settle if you don't have to, as a tad more searching could lead you to a career with zero red flags.
Keep at it. It's out there.
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