When men are hoping to impress a woman, they often agonize over the perfect thing to say.
Something which will get their attention and make them feel good about themselves, and hopefully not offend or demean them.
If they find the right words, they may likely find themselves with a new girlfriend, future wife, or even a life-long friend.
After all, finding the perfect compliment can go a long way.
Of course, this is a two-way street, and men also enjoy it when they are complimented.
Perhaps even more, and arguably, a little too much.
"Guys of Reddit, what is the best compliment a girl could give you?"
No Pretending Required
"I can be myself around you."- noah1000000999
"Whenever a girl says she feels safe around me or feels secure/comfortable makes me feel so good it's indescribable."
"Makes me feel very manly."- kipskip_
I'll Take Them All!
"Pretty much any compliment will do."- Mysterious_Drama2772
"Any..."- Sk0ts
I Want Them All Paramount Network GIF by YellowstoneGiphyThe Devil Is In The Details
"When I was younger, I had a meeting with a beautiful, slightly older woman from a different organization that I admired in our industry."
"When we were shaking hands and saying hello, she thoughtlessly blurted out, 'Oh, you're cute', then apologized and said she's not hitting on me and that she's married."
"Then, she tried to change the topic by talking about one of my recent projects, which I was surprised she knew."
"Both were nice compliments."- NoConsideration5775
Keep It Simple
"I like you."- Smirknlurking
It's Worth the Weight
“'I love you'."
"Yet to hear it but I imagine it sounds good."- Or4ngut4n
Or Just "You're Cute" In General...
"'You're cute when you're excited'."
"Still riding the high from that one, and that was 3 years ago."- JackCooper_7274
Striking Resemblance
"Girl at the mall told me I looked like Ryan Gosling."
"She couldn’t be more wrong, the comment was an affront to everything Ryan Gosling stands for."
'T'was appreciated however."
"Gonna be riding that high for the next 3-37 years"- -Praetoria-
When You Got It, Flaunt It...
"A girl at work told me another girl told her that I have a nice a**."
"She tried to keep the girl anonymous but I tricked her into admitting who it was."
"The one that told me also complimented me on my legs and looks in general."
"Feels weird being complimented on my a** and legs as a guy but I guess it's better than nothing?"- Lambesis96
It's All In The Eyes...
"A female friend of mine once told me I had 'kind eyes' when I smiled."
"Best compliment I ever received."
"I just smiled normally and genuinely, and she picked up on it."
"Man, I miss her."- midnight_reborn
Great Hair Is Hard To Resist...
"'You are hot' would be very surprising yet welcome."
"I also get "your hair looks great" a lot."- KomradeElmo0
ricky rubio nba GIF by Utah JazzGiphySetting Standards For The Future
"Back when I was 9 years old my mum's friend meeting me for the first time told me that once I grow up I will be a super sexy handsome dude all the gals will drool over."
"That didn't happen but it was nice to hear back then."- playerhamdan
Should anyone find that special guy, and want to let him know just how special they think he is, all of the above compliments are a good way to start.
Looks matter, just not in the way most people think of when they hear that phrase.
When most people hear the phrase, they think of shallow people who won't date anyone who isn't a perfect 10. Those people suck.
But the harsh truth is that looks do matter - because they communicate a message. Your looks can be an indicator of health, hygiene, mental state, social status, age, culture and more. In some communities it can even indicate relationship status.
Like it or not, looks are important when it comes to attracting a partner - so it serves you well to be the best you that you can be. A healthy, happy you is an attractive you.
Reddit asked:
What are some harsh truths about love and attraction?
Brace yourselves for some uncomfortable facts, fam. "Looks matter" is about the least harsh among them. R.I.P. to the idea of closure.
"Closure"
Closure doesn't make feelings disappear.
- 01kaj10
"Closure is a made up thing by Steven Spielberg to sell movie tickets. It, like true love and the Munich Olympics, doesn't exist in the real world. The only thing to do now is just to keep living forward."
-Bojack Horseman
- envydub
Heard something really wise about closure on Kara Loewentheil's podcast "UnF*ck Your Brain".
She says that closure has nothing to do with another person, and is not something another person can give you. Closure is when you accept what happened and stop fighting with the past.
The false idea that closure is something you get from another person just prevents us from actually getting it.
- mp861
500 Days Of Wisdom
500 days of summer GIFGiphyFrom 500 days of summer:
Just because she likes the same bizzaro crap you do doesn't mean she's your soul mate.
same interests ≠ compatibility
When I saw this as a young tween girl, my friends all thought "Poor Tom! Summer is such a b!tch!" because, come on, they obviously belonged together! She led him on!
And I remember arguing with them: From the beginning she said she wasn't looking for anything serious! She bluntly told him that she didn't believe in love and didn't want a boyfriend.
I rewatched it when I was older and was so proud of young-me for spotting that. I didn't pick up on all the subtleties of him idolizing her, and him thinking that once they were together she would change her mind. I didn't realize how much of an issue this is with people who think, "Once they date me, they'll see how amazing I am, and want to be with me forever," or how often you can be completely honest with someone and they will just choose not to hear you.
A Daily Decision
"For better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness or in health" never happens how you planned life. Love is a daily decision to make your relationship more important than all the things that suck about life.
"Sexy"
Your partner isn't obligated to find you "sexy" by default just because you are with them.
You could become a lazy fat slob. Smelly. Change your hair style. Anything
They could still love you, but be turned off physically by you. If it doesnt work out then it doesnt work out.
I appreciate when people continue to "try" when they are dating still, but if they don't want to they don't have too either. They don't owe it to me to try and fit my type, and I don't owe it to them to fake attraction.
Attraction Makes You Stupid
No matter how intelligent or rational you are usually, it all goes out the window once you are attracted enough to someone.
You will behave in irrational and downright STUPID ways, do things you can't explain, and afterwards wonder what the hell you were thinking.
I offered to do my crushes homework at work and questioned myself right there and then like wtf?
You Know
Love is a choice you make every day. Don't follow the butterflies, those will come and go. Find someone who you think will make a dependable and honest partner.
Oh, and if you see crazy coming, CROSS THE STREET. I don't care how hot they are or how good the sex is. I am saving you heartache, listen to me and learn from my pain.
And I don't care who you are: you KNOW when someone is not good for you. Listen to your gut.
No Schemes
Never never NEVER chase after someone. If they don't actively like and show interest in you, you cannot make them. No scheme, strategy or gesture will make them want you and you cannot change yourself to make them want you.
Fortunately you really, truly don't want to be with someone who doesn't like you just the way you are. Unfortunately this truth is impossible to believe or fully understand until you have met someone who likes you just the way you are, and that's how dating apps, expensive clothing brands, diet companies, and beauty supply stores stay in business.
Hollywood's greatest sin is subliminally showing how this always works because these movies always have to have a good ending for the protagonist in order to sell well.
- Ironchar
Sirens And Lighthouses
summer beach GIF by Pretty Whiskey / Alex SautterGiphyLove may well be the port you're trying to dock in, but attraction is more likely to be a siren's song than a lighthouse. And like most sailors, you're probably too desperate and a little stupid to tell the difference.
- Zeruvi
As a sailor and hopeless romantic, this is deep.
Requited Yet Unobtainable
Sometimes even the kind of love that shakes you to the core, that becomes a part of who you are, still can't break the chains of circumstance. Requited yet unobtainable love is a potent flavor of heartbreak.
I am here right now. As an older guy, it's worse than any other flavor I've had so far.
Enthusiasm
Hard pill for me to swallow tonight: If it's not an enthusiastic hell yes, then it's a no. And I don't mean that just in a sexual way. Obviously if someone isn't excited about sexy times, then you absolutely need to stop.
If someone says they want to hang out and blow you off for several hours then it's a no.
Aaaand your response is what I've been looking for. I've been in that enthusiastic hell yes relationship before, and it felt fun, safe, and comfortable. I trusted him wholeheartedly, despite him not having a great track record of loyalty with others.
Everyone I've met since feels like an "ehh...maybe? I'll let you know?" and I still invest so much energy, time, and effort into them, only to be let down. Woof.
- amtol
Two Things
- you are usually attracted by someone different from you, that feels new and exotic, but it's usually easier to respect (and thus love) someone who is more akin to you.
- attraction comes and goes, but routine is the enemy #1. In long term relationships and in marriage you need to actively swim against the current of routine. You will only bring yourself to do it if you love your partner and yourself, because it's a constant struggle.
10/10
You'll probably not find that 10/10 significant other.
I could make a whole list for a perfect girl but realistically, she's maybe not out there. And if she is, that's no guarantee. You don't know if she wants to be with you for the rest of your life. That's the scariest thing to me about love.
I am married to a 10/10. But it's a 10/10 on my scale. Your scale may put her as a 6 or a 7, but on mine shes a perfect 10.
"The world don't move to the beat of just one drum, what might be right for you, may not be right for some"
The Question
The question shouldn't be " How do I find someone who fulfills all of my expectations?" but rather "How do I find someone compatible with me?"
Incompatible people can have the perfect looks and perfect character traits but if they don't match with your needs and plans they aren't right for you.
Your "Type"
You may find physical chemistry with someone who isn't aesthetically your "type." It may be the best physical chemistry you've ever had.
But your brain may not let you be comfortable with it. You may feel compelled to seek out your "type," only to experience something less intense.
Or you may never deviate from your "type" for social or nebulous self-worth issues, and never experience that chemistry.
This can't be stressed out enough - when I met my partner I didn't really think she is attractive/my type. Also, she is from the other side of the planet, so her culture and personality is rather different from what I'd usually seek in possible partners. Eventually after half a year I started to feel a strong affinity to her although my brain also would not accept that. Eventually I just said "f*ck off" to these thoughts, asked her out and one year later we are about to move together and I never loved someone like I love her.
By now, I also think she is amazingly beautiful and she is the reason for 9/10 of my erections.
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Humans are built to be attractive to one another.
And there are some qualities you can't help but find yourself overtly attracted to. No matter who is sitting right in front of you.
u/xxxabgdisasterxxx asked:
What is a feature that is inarguably hot, regardless of gender?
Here were some of those answers.
A Click In Place
Definitely humor. When you have the same sense of humor as someone else and you can just feel the click, that's an amazing feelings.
Loneliness
Context: I am a very lonely man and don't connect well with people on a deep level. But a girl sent me this message after an event and I will treasure it 'til the day I die.
Come get your hugs y'all.
Love In Your Heart
Passion. When someone speaks about something they're really passionate about I can sit down and talk with them for hours. Just to hear them speak about it.
Let Me Get Lost
Eyes. I was once working at a charity shop and a women came in, she was probably in her late 40s about 5 foot 2 when she approached the counter the first thing I saw were her eyes and they were gorgeous, they were just so mesmerising and beautiful. They were like a grey/blue with a hint of light purple all combined to make a pastel galaxy. After that I realised how amazing our eyes can actually look.
Name It, Let It Take Up Space
Emotional intelligence and communication skills. If you can tell me what you're feeling during a disagreement without being hurtful, and can also tell me what you're feeling and what feels good.........that's hot.
Carrying A Tune
A good singing voice. A lot of singers are okay but there are a few that certain parts of their songs will give me that same rush like someone kissing my neck.
Real Humans
Definitely authenticity. I don't want an Instagram clone! Tell me about your niche hobbies and interests! Be the weirdo you are on the inside!
This Is Me
Confidence.
Being sure of yourself goes a long way. It comes across in how someone walks, talks, wears clothes. Even someone who is not traditionally attractive can become so through confidence.
How Do You Treat Those Bound To Serve?
I pay attention to how people in particular, treat their service staff. Saying "please" and "thank you" to your waiter is definitely nice to see in a person.
It's Always Passion
Excitement over something. I don't care if it's the trip you took to wherever or if it's the most recent XMen comic book. If you're excited and telling me about it, it's super attractive to me.
It's nice to know what your good qualities are.
And even better, it's nice to be reminded of what they are and why they work for you. Everybody has something attractive about them. It's important to remember what you already bring to the table so that you can work to become a more well-rounded human.
Why do you think people are attracted to you?