People Break Down Their Most Attractive Qualities
"Reddit suer Overall_Wish_912 asked: 'What is the most attractive thing about you?'"
What makes someone a 10?
It ain't all about looks, baby.
Looks are fine.
But charisma is everything.
There are a ton of ingredients that make up attractive, though.
That's why it's good to know your strengths.
Redditor Overall_Wish_912 wanted to hear about how hot everybody thinks they are and why, so they asked:
"What is the most attractive thing about you?"
I think my eyes sell the whole package.
Light blue with a slight dusting of gold.
Connections
Yoga Anatomy GIF by YOGABODYGiphy"More than a few radiologists over the years have told me I have nice connective tissues, ligaments in particular. Makes a fella kinda proud."
Southern_Snowshoe
Lashed
"I have exceptionally long and beautiful eyelashes. I’m working on my flutter. I’m also a guy."
bleepbloopmunchmunch
"I get complimented on my eyelashes too as a guy! Women often tell me they’re jealous. I never had a clue that was something women noticed until I reached college/university."
EasterButterfly
"I started getting compliments in high school. I remember freshman year, I was sitting at a round table and this really cute girl at the table just randomly asked me to close my eyes. I thought it was weird, but I did. Then she told her equally cute friend to look at my eyelashes, that they were so long and pretty like a girl's. At the time I wasn't sure if they were being nice or making fun of me (since they compared them to girl's lashes). I now get the compliment, though, and appreciate it."
DesertRat012
Beauty
"I'm not totally hideous, but easily the most attractive thing about me is my kindness. I hear all the time that people are just magically drawn to me/feel comfortable with me/like being around me. I'm charming, I guess."
StrangersWithAndi
"That’s such a good quality."
Overall_Wish_912
Look Up
"I'm 6'2 and the internet tells me that's like the most incredible and attractive thing ever apparently."
ConflictFast8743
"I’m 6’6 and wish I was shorter. My long-term girlfriend tells me I get checked out all the time but I literally never notice, I’d give up all the attention if it meant I’d never hit my head on a doorframe again."
CaptainLongshorts
"I'm only 6', but a woman and I have a 36' inseam. I love having long legs, they walk so fast and are my favorite physical feature!"
abqkat
Light as a Feather
the office therapy GIFGiphy"My therapist said I’m a good egg, so there’s that."
CheddarBurgers
"Mine told me she never feels heavy when I leave her office. We’ve talked about some heavy sh*t so I took it as a compliment."
random_username3184
Not being the scariest and worst patient is definitely a gold star moment for the mind.
Perfect
Regular Season Sport GIF by MLBGiphy"I’ve been told I have the most perfectly shaped head for a bald man."
KilnMeSmallz
"My dermatologist recently told me I had a great shaped head if I were to ever shave my hair off. It really got me thinking."
Weeziir
For the Boys
"The only attractive thing about me is my hair. Even that is debatable since most women don't like men with long hair."
SlayzorHunter
"Haha for me it’s my bald head! I look a million times better without hair than with it even when my hairline wasn’t balding that bad. I think the pics of me at 28-30 I look better than my 18-25 pics."
OkSwitch470
"Some men just have the cranial and facial structures that make them look better with bald head. I shave my head every 3 years, so I know how I look with every single hair length there is. It only starts looking decent after at least 9 months of growth."
SlayzorHunter
Share With Me
"I'm very nonjudgemental; it's amazing the things people will share with me!"
PeterGivenbless
"Same. I've had people share some pretty personal things with me soon after meeting them."
Krissyfox_7
"Yup, same. I have 'tell me all your secrets' stamped on my forehead. I do like it, though. Nice to get to know who people actually are and what they’ve been through, as opposed to the robotic small talk. Makes me happy that people see me as a 'safe' person."
East_Satisfaction242
Streaks
"I have bright blue eyes that get me plenty of compliments. The only other thing that gets close is my beard, and now especially the silver streaks lacing it."
fuqaduck
"The Silver helps. I was accused of dying it to look more dignified by a coworker, which was puzzling. Not quite a compliment, but compliment adjacent I guess."
604Ataraxia
The Nuzzle
"My long nose, it’s perfect for nuzzling the bean while dining out 🤤."
sussyboingus
"I had an out-of-the-blue compliment about my nose. A woman approached me and said I had an envied Roman nose. Noticing my confusion, she explained she was an art historian, and my nose was in the mold of Roman marble statutes. I've never heard another compliment about my nose, so who knows."
TWH_PDX
The Body
The Simpsons Dance GIFGiphy"I’m short but I have a very nice figure. I get complimented for my butt a lot. I’m 5’2." I like attention so I don’t mind the compliments for the most part. I don’t get bothered by that as easily as some people do. But I have no respect for men that complement my body when they’re in relationships."
DrWiskers
Well, there are a lot of definitions for attractive.
Thank goodness.
There is nothing more satisfying than watching a cocky individual take a humble stumble after displaying their high and mighty attitude.
Sometimes, these people need a wake-up call to realize they are no better than the rest of us.
Curious to hear examples when arrogance was replaced by major public embarrassment, Redditor bendigonono asked:
"When did you witness someones large ego get absolutely flattened?"
Arrogant people really like to go off on their frustrations only to have a dose of humility slapped in their face for all the witnesses to enjoy.
Out Of Sync
"I used to work at a photography studio. I'm not a photographer but I know some basics."
"Photographer guy, probably in his 50s, tells me the equipment he rented isn't working and he is ranting on about how he has wasted 25 minutes of his rental time because his camera wasn't syncing to the lighting equipment. All in front of his poor clients."
"Best moment of my life -- as he was cursing me out I walked over and wordlessly plugged it in. Never seen a grown man turn so red."
– ashrae9
Demonstrate Like A Pro
"Long ago? In college one semester for fun I took 'Swine Management.' I’m a total city girl, about 5 ft nothing, and at the time I was like 105 lbs soaking wet. I did learn how to restrain a hog in that class, and I got to know all the barn men really well."
"Next fall semester, I start my Veterinary College courses. In Large Animal Medicine, we had a block of, you guessed it, swine disease prevention. The professor was known to enjoy taking his students down a peg or two. Great, he covers basic swine restraint really fast, like no way you’d be able to do this…unless you already know how. He looks around…barn men are watching this show from the back. I didn’t want to disappoint them, so I make eye contact with the prof and of course he picks me 'to demo.'"
"I calmly walk up to the sow, take the rope, loop around the belly, twist, half hitch into her mouth and tie her up. Barn men are like proud papas, prof is like wtf just happened. He asked me where I grew up, he’s clearly thinking Iowa or something, I answer the big city to the west."
"Best day ever."
– quikdogs
The Forecast Was Epic
"I worked for a Mercedes Benz dealer. Lots of a-hole customers, but one in particular was just a dick. He'd throw a tantrum if he couldn't get in for a service appointment with zero notice and pulled a lot of 'do you KNOW who I AM' crap to try to get his way. He came in one day and made a huge production of buying a $100,000 car - made sure everyone in the dealership knew he was buying it and exactly how much it cost, drove it into the service bay to smugly show it off to the techs, rolled the top down and blasted his lame 80's music as loud as he could on the way out...super cringy. About three hours after he left with his new car, he walked back into the service bay absolutely losing his $hit and demanding his money back because 'the car was ruined'. Sure enough, here comes the tow truck with his pretty little convertible in tow. Turns out genius had decided to show off his car to his work buddies and parked it on the street with the top down, then popped inside to 'conduct some business'. Welp, a downpour came out of nowhere and drenched the interior of the car. Totally ruined the electronics, soaked into the upholstery, and he couldn't even turn it on. The thing was essentially totaled and he'd had it for three hours. It was amazing."
– Gardengoddess83
The Kid's Alright
"Once I saw two young kids probably like thirteen years old, try to cross the street. A guy in a pick up truck yelled at them to get out of the way. The kids had the right of way, and said something back to the guy. The guy loses his sh*t, and jumps out of the truck acting like a hard a** and got up in the one kids face screaming and yelling, when he took his eyes off of the kid he was yelling at to yell at the other kid. Bam! Right hook to the face from the first kid. He got dropped with one punch. The two kids took off like the road runner. By the time the guy got up they were gone. That guy was probably twenty years older than them, and got wrecked. I imagine he had to go to work the next day with a big shiner. And had to lie about what happened. It was so awesome. He totally deserved it."
– Ilovemytocarditis
Cheap Trick
"Ex girlfriend was hostess at a swanky restaurant in Seattle. She was looking down at her book when some people approached the dais and a guy said 'I need a table for 8.' She said without looking up 'it’s probably going to be at least a 90 minute wait.' Voice says 'But I’m David Copperfield.' Ex says 'Then maybe you can make a table appear.' Finishes what she’s doing. Looks up. It’s actually David Copperfield. No table appeared."
– tikivic
Competitive people don't always come out on top.
When Pat Was Annihilated
"There was an arm wrestling trend going on at my high school during my junior year, and there was an all star athlete on my basketball team we called Pat who was very cocky. He wasn’t the best on the team at basketball, but he started in every single sport and he was absolutely jacked for a 17 yr old. One day he challenges this semi mentally handicapped kid at our school to an arm wrestling match over who gets to use this particular tool in shop. This kid is pretty big, but he’s a bit slow so he got teased a lot. Anyways they get set up, everyone’s watching, and the match starts. 15 seconds go by and Pat couldn’t move this kid’s arm at all. He just sat there smiling at Pat and watched the smug and cocky attitude disappear. Then he easily pinned his arm and let Pat use the tool anyways. He walked away humming to himself like usual. What a boss."
– Ickythumpin
​Corporate Braggart
"A guy in our union was running for some executive board position and he was telling everyone what an easy win it was gonna be for him because nobody like the other 2 people running for the job. Come election day he got a very humbled awakening. Out of 1300 people he got less than 10 votes. He didn’t speak to many people for awhile after that. Nobody likes a braggart."
– 1980pzx
Bumpkin Time
"Some dude came into the pub I work at for the pub quiz. Kept going on about how he was smarter than all these bumpkins (I live in a university city) and that he was gonna get first prize. He was adamant and he sat at the bar across from me the whole time. I played on my phone and named myself Bumpkin. He didn't even place in the top 10 and was furious that he got beaten by a bumpkin and a 'gang of old retired f'kups that have nothing better to do.'"
– Unknown_Captain
Can't Beat Genius
"There was a trivia team that came into the contest I regularly go to and one of the guys was pretty intense. He started swearing when they got second or third place. Thing is, the bar is near multiple aerospace companies, so many of the participants are actual rocket scientists (one of the weekly teams is named the 'Astronaughties')."
– MitchJay71891
Unplugged & Unhinged
"I worked IT support for my school while I was in college. One of my coworkers was the type who thinks they’re the smartest guy in the room. One day he came in and couldn’t get his monitors to work. After 10 minutes of watching him struggle I tried to interject and help but got a long winded rant about how he’s been working with computers his whole life and doesn’t need any help, if he can’t figure it out I certainly wouldn’t be able to."
"I just responded with 'that’s cool man, I just thought monitors had to be plugged in to work, my bad.' His entire face turned red and he looked like he wanted to die as he realized both monitors were unplugged."
– Ryan233tiger
The Lady Doth Protest
"I knew a guy that always felt the need to one up everything I said. I was on the phone with my girlfriend at the time and he happened to overhear us talking. He came up to me and started to brag about himself, loud enough for my girlfriend to hear, and how he could steal my girl just by talking to her on the phone for 10 minutes. I offered him my phone and my girlfriend reamed him out for 5 minutes straight before he handed me back the phone and walked off. I was so proud of her haha."
– Zjoee
Ambitiously Arrogant
"A girl in my English class said that she would score a 100 on our End of Course test. She made everyone feel bad about themselves and thought that she was the best in the class. In the end, she scored a 64."
– Fit-Lawfulness-525
Go-Getters Come In First
"I got promoted (at a f'king McDonald's... Wow...) over some other girl. I didn't even know I was being considered until a day or two before the managers voted. I was told to come in the next day in my new uniform and the other girl came in, saw my uniform, and quit on the spot. She accused me of stealing 'her' promotion."
"I found out from an assistant manager that they were openly considering her and tried to push her towards things she would need to know/do and she would never take the initiative to learn more, do more. I actively tried to learn more (mainly to get out of service and into the kitchen... F'k the public) and was well liked by most of the crew/management and someone randomly tossed my name in the conversation."
– BICSb4DICS
And those with an inflated ego shared their own humbling moments.
Humbled Daddy
"Me: who's the best Dad in the world?!?!"
"My daughter: Mommy!!!!"
"Me: little sh*t"
– Covenent125
That Don't Impress Her Much
"Me when I was a kid. Made fun of a girl in my neighborhood in front of people, then proceeded to try and do a bike trick and break my wrist as they all watched."
– Mymorningpancake
Life has a funny way to slap some silly back into the lives of those who perceive themselves to be super extraordinary individuals.
And it will never cease to entertain us.
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We are in a better place than we've ever been when it comes to discussing mental health.
We still have a VERY long way to go.
Besides therapy and drugs, there are simple, daily things we can all do to try to brighten our days.
Life is dark, be we have to try let in some positivity.
If for no other reason than not being trapped in sadness.
What are some of the happiness tricks of the trade we all need to know?
Redditorpissed_at_everythingwanted everyone out here to tell us what puts a smile on everybody's face.
They asked:
"What is something that drastically improved your mental health?"
Listen to music. Even if it's Adele. Listen and dance.
Good Night
"Sleep."
ortolon
"Also, learning not to stress about not sleeping when you're lying in bed and rather just getting comfy and letting it happen."
NotQuiteHopelessYet
Toxic
"Knowing it's okay to leave some people behind."
-Black_Guardian-
"I did that in 2021. Cut off my toxic friends, significantly reduced my visits to extended family (they're toxic and live within half a km from my home), reduced my unnecessary interactions with my parents (I live with them) and boy my life is the best it has ever been. I have never had so much peace in my mind (apart from the time when I was in kindergarten)."
More-Masterpiece-561
Silence
"Silencing my activity on social media, and replacing my time spent on there by reading books instead. I’ve finished 6 books since the start of January. I feel so good about myself because of it."
chick3nslut
"I recommend not deleting the account, but just removing the app and posting that you’re getting off of social media, and provide a phone number in case anyone wants to keep in touch/needs to reach you!
chick3nslut
Truth Hurts
"Being honest and transparent about how I'm feeling. 'I'm not mad at you, my brain just hates me right now,' has helped mitigate lots of fights and awkward conversations."
Nillabeans
"Oh my God I went through a sort of spiritual awakening where I realized a ton of s**t about myself and I started saying things like 'I’m not mad at you I’m just mad at the situation' or 'I’m mad at myself' and even if the other person isn’t cool with that and still mad at me, I feel so much better. All the rage came from within and realizing this helped me release so much of it. Traffic still freaking pisses me off though there’s no excuse for congestion."
Rawtothedawg
Beauty
"Something small that has helped me is saying aloud 'What a beautiful day, today is.' It’s small but I have better outlook."
turtlepawa123
GiphyA smile is a start. A smile, sun and fresh air. Always good beginnings. And we have start somewhere.
Healthy Pills
"Taking vitamin D and B supplements and getting enough sleep. Rely helped reduce excessive thinking and fixating on negative things from my past."
AnDagdadubh
GiphySweat it Out
"Exercise."
iamnobody1970
"It sucks at how well it works. I used to hate my mom telling me that exercise would reduce my depression but she was absolutely right. The issue is that when you’re really depressed it’s the last thing you feel like doing. But nothing else has as much of a positive effect on my mental state as regular exercise."
Counterboudd
Given your Worth
"Getting a job that paid a living wage improved my mental health 1000%."
rigel899
"Same for me. I was fortunate enough to be able to move back in with my mother so I could go to trade school and get a well paying job when I finished. My starting pay was double the shi**y minimum wage salary I'd been making a year and a half before. It was like removing an elephant that was on my chest."
MikoSkyns
Parameters Set
"Enforcing boundaries in work."
SmartPomegranate4833
"One thing to keep in mind is that you can always leave. If you are finding yourself dreading work, or a specific aspect of it (like a certain task or awful coworker), you can go elsewhere. Unless you have a signed contract that says otherwise, you don't even need to give notice; that two weeks is a courtesy, not a requirement. Don't ever feel like you're trapped, because you're not."
Coygon
location, location...
"Moving to a place that wasn't winter 8 months of the year and I was close to the ocean. Haven't felt suicidal in over a year and a half, probably for the first time since i was 16."
wyrd_werks
GiphyToxicFace
"Deleting my Facebook account."
theStormWeaver
"Same. My happiness and general development shot into the stratosphere the moment I stopped using that cesspool. My mental health still needs a lot of work, but it surprised me just how toxic Facebook was for me."
Independent-Owl478
Education
"Graduating high school."
LLancee
"For me it was graduating college. I mean, I like learning new things, but at this point of time, I just hate all educational institutions."
Weird-Thread
"Probably had the opposite outcome for me. I haven't felt anything close to the sense of community that I had then."
dlraar
Body Functions
"Stopping hormonal birth control. Didn't realize how much it was messing with me."
impossibility_day27
"Yes!! I felt way more in tune with my body, hormones and moods once I stopped hormonal birth control."
wyrd_werks
"That's what tracking my cycle did for me. Never been on birth control, but when I started tracking all parts of my month, I am so much more in tune with my moods, appetite, libido, marriage, anxiety. I can account for the intense dread and doubt before my period, and enjoy the attractiveness and ease of midcycle. Helped my marriage 10-fold, too."
abqkat
I Can't
"Saying no to things that I don't actually want to do instead of trying to help everyone out."
LoanOptions_ai
"I need this right now."
failure_singlemom
No Way Beer GIF by BuschGiphyEarly Eats
"Eating breakfast."
"I'd often describe to my boss and coworkers that I'd have a really bad brain fog that I sometimes couldn't think at all. I usually wouldn't eat until around 1pm or 2pm when I'd been up since 9am. I had to start getting up around 8am or sometimes 7am and I would have extra time to get food."
"Once I did, the brain fog went away and the change was immediate."
christygl7
Voice Within
"Eliminating negative self talk. Instead of 'Oh God I said something stupid, now she thinks I’m an idiot, why am I so dumb.' I just tell myself 'it’s ok, I misunderstood what she was asking, everyone does this sometimes and it’s no big deal' which usually stops the shame spiral before it can form."
"I was severely depressed before trying this. It didn’t fix everything but it made my life a lot better. Worked at least as well as antidepressants honestly."
emthejedichic
Do Stuff
"Adult hobbies. Surfing. Fishing. Running. Mine are solo activities, but you just need something challenging that you have to work at to get better. It gives you little things to look forward to so you’re not focused on all the depressing crap."
musashi-swanson
"I suffer from anxiety, and can honestly say that taking up needle point as a hobby has really helped me control it better."
justjk18
A Few Ideas...
"Getting a cat."
"Taking vitamins every morning."
"Being honest about my feelings."
"Setting clear immovable boundaries with my family."
MissNinja007
Queen Of Rap GIF by FuseGiphyA Little Time
"I take ten minutes a day (usually before bed) to tidy things up. I'm always surprised at how much I can get done in just ten minutes, and it's so much easier to keep the place clean that way. When things start getting really bad, the fact that I've always got a clean place is incredibly helpful."
future-unperson
I love this list. I will try them all. Wish me luck.
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Being turned off by someone can be just as easy as being turned on. I hate to admit it, but it can only take one minor infraction, in a split second to sour my taste in someone.
I once was with someone I thought may actually turn out to be "the one," then for a moment, their laugh went a little too shrill for my ears. I was done. They were dead to me, darlings.
I know I'm extreme, but I'm not alone. We all have those little details, and pet peeves that send a big "No thank you flag" out. Some actions are tiny and others are large. And a lot of these traits can be fixed, if one is so inclined.
Redditor u/iamaaronmullen wanted to hear about what details a person may possess that is a big mood kill, by asking:
What is something a lot of people find attractive that is actually a turn off for you?
The worst feeling about what we're about to read is... we may find ourselves on these lists. Don't lie, you know, you're thinking it as well. So good luck to us all, fingers crossed, unless that's a turn off too...
Be Quiet
fall out boy guitars GIF by CMT CrossroadsGiphy"Dudes who always play their acoustic guitar and sing. Once and a while is fine but not all the time. Anyway, here's Wonderwall."
- jkw91
Private Matters
"Public proposals."
"I made it so clear to my now-fiancé that I hated this crap. So he found the most beautiful, secluded spot on the Grand Canyon rim hike and proposed there. I loved it so much I kept the map they give you at the visitor center, put a heart over the exact spot, and framed it so it now hangs over our bed."
"I could tell my ex-boyfriend was going to do that. He is marriage oriented. That was great, but at a weekend trip we did, he was so bummed and depressed when I said I hate public proposals. You are putting the woman you love into a corner, forcing her to be polite, hurt you, or putting pressure on her. Right now a woman he is dating for 11 months have moved in together. I'm not going to be shocked to find him do a public proposal at an event with his and her family there."
Duh!
"Pretending to be stupid when you are not. It's not cute, it just makes me feel uncomfortable."
"I remember the manager at my old job was complaining to one of the girls I worked with that he hated it when girls act stupid. Accused her of doing it, and told her to knock it off. She replied, "Oh my gooooo-od! This isn't an act!" I was inclined to believe her."
Outrageous Fortune
"When guys show how much money they have- expensive cars, clothes, jewelry, carrying a lot of cash, hustle culture. I just don't like people who are so obsessed with wealth and money and showing it off."
"I had a disagreement with a former roommate where he could not fathom that anybody wanted other things out of life besides extreme wealth."
"In his view literally every person trying to do good has an ulterior motive, or is already rich, or idk just can't get wealth and is trying to get laid some other way. Central to his world view was this notion that wealth is the real and only goal and everything else is a means to it, or a failure to achieve it or something."
Experience Needed
like a virgin hello GIFGiphy"People who think virgins are the ultimate sex make no sense to me. I guess those people are either controlling, paranoid, or jealous. (or some combination thereof)."
I love "Wonderwall" and public proposals. Some of you are just no fun, and THAT is also a turn off, but to each their own I suppose. And I do love money, but classy people with money, don't go out of their way to show off. Just FYI.
Calm Down
Skal Vi Danse Smile GIF by tv2norgeGiphy"Men acting super cocky or tough, like that "macho" energy. Always hated it and I never understood the appeal."
Logos
"Designer clothes with very Obvious brand logos plastered on everything they wear."
"I never understood why people kill for those Louis Vuitton handbags, it's a damn piece of brown leather with the same logo just slapped around it and they look horrible."
"Exactly. I actually find it embarrassing to walk around in things that have the logo so obviously put. Gucci, lv etc."
Drive Away
"Guys posing in front of cars. Instant turn off in dating profiles whenever I see one."
"Once I was sitting in my mom's car playing Minecraft at the very back of the car while she was picking up my dad, and a bunch of teenage boys came up to the car and I thought they were about to steal the car. But nah, they just started taking pics and at one point one guy was holding a door like he was about to get in and drive. After their photo shoot they just left. I'll never understand why people do these things 🤦🏻♀️."
Lashed Out
"Muppet lashes."
"Most fascinating thing. I was mocked in school for having extremely long, thick lashes, spider-eye they would call me. Now they're running to salons trying to get that very thing done for a lot of money. I once had a dude in a club try to rip off my "fake" lashes, he was so pissed at "fake everything," he felt he needed to "teach me a lesson." He made my lid pop off my eye socket with an audible smack."
"perfect"
Maya Rudolph Eyebrows GIFGiphy"The way some girls try to get "perfect" eyebrows. Yea I get no one likes a monno brow even on guys but a girl I know looks like she's 2 Nike logos and it's all I can see. I'm bad for not looking people in the eye but with her I must look real attentive."
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Let's Play
"Lap dances. One or two past girlfriends took it upon themselves to give me a lap dance, and it just feels silly and awkward being on the receiving end."
"My wife and I feel this way about role playing of any sort. We just end up getting the giggles."
"Sometimes we role play during foreplay but honestly it mostly involves bad accents, sexual innuendo and terrible puns. We're usually both laughing, it's fun. I don't think sex always needs to be solemn passionate lovemaking. Part of what attracts me to him is how funny he is, and the role playing stuff turns me on but not for the reasons you might think."
Gross
"Baby talk, or whatever you want to call it. Makes me cringe. Talk like an adult."
"My brother still lives at home, and his partner is over quite frequently. They ONLY talk in the baby voice. Nothing in the world gets me more pissed off than having to listen to 2 grown adults baby talk and giggle and make exaggerated kissy noises for hours, especially when I'm trying to sleep."
- mhnbwr
Blending
"When someone displays their wealth frequently with luxury handbags or clothes or cars etc."
"I think the difference is that you are showing off your interests instead of your money. It is pretty easy to figure out who is showing off their money vs their interest in cars once you talk to them. From a distance obviously it sort of blends together."
"diaper butt"
"Butt implants that give the "diaper butt" look. I mean, i like a nice round booty like anyone else, but these diaper butts look horrendous."
Macho
"Any level of machismo or physical aggression in men. I do not want you to get mad in my defense over little things. I also do not want to see you punch a wall in your rage. I will actually end up worrying that you are going to pick a dumb fight or break something over a stupid thing."
"Your rage makes me nervous even if it's not directed at me. It's not a turn on. Like sure, if someone is actually trying to hurt me or creep on me, I don't mind a guy stepping in to help. But it should be a last resort. I much prefer a man who wants to just leave or de-escalate a situation as calmly as possible."
Control
Step Off Watch Out GIF by Talk StoopGiphy"Possessiveness. Talk to my woman/man, you'll have me to mess with" is so unattractive me- feels like the person sees their partner as an object in their life that they need to defend, not a full a** human who they can trust."
- bobagret
Be Smart
"Girls who act stupid in order to be perceived as damsels in distress. It's very unattractive to me especially if I know the girl is smart and competent to take care of herself."
"When I started middle school, I thought acting dumb would win over my crush bc all the popular girls acted like that. Meanwhile, my teacher noticed but saw me making straight A's. She pulled me aside one day and said "don't ever downplay your intelligence." And that's one of the only things I can remember from middle school to this day. Lmao."
Wealth...
"When guys show how much money they have- expensive cars, clothes, jewelry, carrying a lot of cash, hustle culture. I just don't like people who are so obsessed with wealth and money and showing it off."
"I had a disagreement with a former roommate where he could not fathom that anybody wanted other things out of life besides extreme wealth."
"In his view literally every person trying to do good has an ulterior motive, or is already rich, or idk just can't get wealth and is trying to get laid some other way. Central to his world view was this notion that wealth is the real and only goal and everything else is a means to it, or a failure to achieve it or something."
Negative Vibes
"Women that are deliberately rude and "bad witch" energy. But like the negative type of energy."
- shygrl__
"Men or women who use the line "I'm not afraid to speak my mind," or "I'm opinionated." You're not a bold confident person... you're an a**hole. Plenty of stuff I don't say in my head because it's inappropriate or mean."
I think we all need to take a step back with the beauty additions. I love lashes but even Ms. Piggy can turn it down. What has this read taught us thus far? Don't try so hard. Start with being yourself. Feels like we can all see through the rest.
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Life is uncomfortable. That is a hard truth. And sometimes we are just left questioning and squirming. Honest reactions do not make us bad people, it may make us people who need more therapy, but not bad people. Working through life's "awkward" moments are important to discuss. So lets.
Redditor u/birchwave wanted everyone to own up and discuss.... What never fails to make you uncomfortable?
Eat it Up!
GiphyDetecting a crunch in a soft food. textmonster404
It's revolting when you're eating meat and suddenly there's a crunchy bit. I don't understand people that keep eating like it's nothing when that happens. BattleoftheBoomers
"You want me to pause it???"
When you're enjoying a movie and somebody walks in when an intense sex scene suddenly comes on. SamDaMan97
I was watching a movie with my dad and in the movie, things started to get steamy between two of the characters. I got up to go to the kitchen to refill my drink. My dad calls to me from the living room, "You want me to pause it???" No dad, I don't want you to pause it. LilyKnightMcClellanLilyKnightMcClellan
Don't Cry.Â
People crying — I don't know how to respond. recoveringPSteacher
Chit Chat.Â
"We need to talk later." MapReston
When the boss steps out of his office, makes eye contact with me across the room, and gestures with his hand to come to his office. You know you just screwed up irreparably. shootingcharlie8
The Convo.
GiphyWhen they ask me where I'm currently working at. I'm unemployed. ShoutAtThe_Devil
Everybody hates those catching up small talk convos. Change the subject to something more interesting if at all possible. Still applies even after you land your dream job. btron3030
Center of Attention!Â
Being the center of attention. I hate birthdays for this reason. irishmickguard
Same. What I really want for my birthday is, specifically, not a party. That also goes for father's day. Let's just put hotdogs on the grill and play board games. No gifts, no special attention, no bullshit. Just a good time with people I care about. theBonVoyage
​Walking past one coworker in a long empty hallway.
Walking past one coworker in a long empty hallway.
When do I look at them and say hi? How many feet away? The further the distance between us-the longer the interaction will be.
Do I need to make eye contact first? I hate eye contact. It makes me want to crawl out of my own skin.
Should I smile at them? My smile is always off and always looks forced. I might as well just not do it.
Can I just keep walking and not even look at them? Where do I look? At the ground?
Why is this hallway so long and why am I so fucking weird and stressed out over nothing?
This is my life about six-eight times a day monday through friday. jyvurentropy
Inches...
People's faces being 12 inches from me when they talk to me. HaratoBaratoHaratoBarato
Omg so true, like just take a step closer so we're 6 inches apart. That's much more comfortable. soccerfreak67890
Sink.Â
Bad jokes or actors acting awkward scenes. Makes me want to sink through the damn floor. Vaspiov
There were so many times during the Office where I just had to pause the show and watch a yt video to get away from the embarrassment Michal put himself in. imavinyl
I'm going to be REALLY honest, here.
I'm going to be REALLY honest, here.
Special needs people really make me feel uncomfortable. I've thought about it a lot, and I have come to the conclusion that I feel uncomfortable because I simply can't predict their behavior and thought processes and that fact makes me feel uneasy.
Like, I know they're not going to do something tragic to me, but my stupid brain thinks the possibility exists that they will and the unpredictability only makes it worse. It's irrational. Corporal_Yorper
Catcall
Random men telling me to smile
I never know what to do- smile and chuckle? Ignore them? Tell them to fuck off and just end up escalating things? 3spoopy_5me
Get stabby Phaedrug
Ask them for a joke, it usually throws them off and they get the deer in headlights look. It's great ittybitgirl
Theres a look I learned to use on kids called the "no bullsh!t" face. It's like relaxing every muscle and sapping all energy from my face. It's not mere resting bitch face, its letting the cold seep into my eyes and my non active frown. Like I let gravity take over, relaxing my jaw as well.
If you want to be theatrical, pass your hand over your face and transform your expression then. They will find it disturbing and realize even a more neutral expression is better than the hypothermic psychopathic stare they are currently and uncomfortably now exposed to. If they persist, pass your hand backup with a seemingly cheerful genuine smile. Do they realllllyyy want a psychopath faking it to them? PoiLethe