Things People Secretly Love But Would Never Admit To In Public
Reddit user sweet_chick283 asked: 'What do you secretly love that you would never admit to in public?;
What makes us all unique is our passions and the things we love, whether it's singing in the shower, reading books, or listening to specific music artists.
Unfortunately, we live in a world where we are judged for our various tastes and interests thanks to social media, and it makes us consciously selective about sharing the things we love on the internet.
Curious to hear about people's personal desires under anonymity, Redditor sweet_chick283 asked:
"What do you secretly love that you would never admit to in public?"
These aren't really chores for the following Redditors.
Good Clean Fun
"Mopping, im a janitor and generally hate my work... but damn mopping is so good."
– MrDDog06
"When you have a great rhythm going it is something special. I get the same feeling while I vacuum, but won’t let my wife know I enjoy it."
– Bogus_34
Act Of Unwrinkling
"Ironing clothes. A dozen of them. Can’t explain how it relaxes me. I told one person and they looked at me like I’m crazy."
– eerie_white_glow
"My mum misses the days when dad would be out on a Friday night, my brother out with friends and me upstairs quietly playing PS1. She would pour herself a Bacardi & Coke and do the ironing while watching her TV shows."
"I'm sure she doesn't really miss it now that we've moved out and they've retired but it was her wind-down after a busy working week so I can see how people can find it relaxing."
– xdq
Our solo actions can spark joy.
Big Brother Is Watching
"pretending to be on the Truman show and whenever im in my house i act all inconspicuous so they dont know that i know that they’re watching me."
– Bec_121
"C’mon man, you’re not supposed to let him know. You signed a contract when signing up for live views. I’m reporting you."
– doeswaspsmakehoney
The Multi-Tasker
"Playing video games naked at home while eating cheese."
– thickening_agent
Releasing The Kraken
"I love the feeling when you've eaten good fibre and let out a solid long train log in the toilet. That feeling is heavenly."
– therapoootic
"Even better when it’s a clean wipe and not a poo crayon."
– TheWarmestHugz
Ultimate Comfort
"My (male 41) weekend routine is coming home from work, make hot chocolate, start a fire, dress in a ugly pink nightgown made for old ladies and watch forensic files."
– crazyloomis
Some people are obsessed with collecting things.
So Kawai
"Sanrio stationery stores. All those different multicolor pens, a thousand kinds of erasers, spiral bound notebooks galore... my kids sadly have absolutely no appreciation for this wonderland..."
– HavingNotAttained
It's A Staple
"Office supplies have a weird, special place in my heart ever since I was a kid. They don't even have to be 'cute' necessarily."
"Japan's legendary stationery stores is unironically a reason I want to go."
– _CozyLavender_
Not Caring Anymore
"The older I get the shorter that list gets. Not because I love less things, but because I don't care about hiding it."
– Bi-Beast
"YES!! I'm 53 now. I'm working my first job in public since 2006. Today is Halloween and we're allowed to dress up so I am sitting here waiting to go to work dressed as a VERY bad Wednesday Addams. My bf said I'd 'look stupid' because no one else will probably dress up and I'm like, 'WHO CARES!' My makeup looks horrible and not like I practiced, but I DO NOT CARE! I'm having fun with it anyhow and I don't care if my coworkers dress up or not. I'm bein' ME! :)"
– deanie1970
Honorable mentions start here.
The Savior
"Picking up worms from the street and sidewalks when it rains and moving them into the dirt so they don’t burn in the sun, every time it rains I do this."
– sky_kitten89
Hero Of The Moment
"Yoooo I scoot SO many snails and worms. I work as a tech/mechanic at an automotive shop, I had a peoject car towed to my house the other day and it was covered in snails. I saw them when the tow guy/coworker was unloading and I was like, 'oh! It comes with free snails!' and began moving them. He laughed then realized and said, '... Oh, you're serious. Uh... Okay.'"
"I don't care who knows it. These little things barely can look out for themselves, why shouldn't we if we can take a moment to help? I don't care what happens next, it probably doesn't matter overall but I can help this moment."
– chris14020
Why should some of the hidden desires mentioned above have to be secret?
Redditors opening up about some of these would make them a hit at parties–no shaming.
As a matter of fact, I'll totally be down for a Forensic Files viewing party where we all make hot chocolate, light the fireplace, and cozy up together in our respective pink ugly nightgowns for old ladies.
If you don't meet an arbitrary standard in our society––whatever that might be––you might as well be an outcast.
And so it goes.
But guess what? You do you.
Today's burning question from Redditor DazedMoose holds a key question:
"What shouldn't we be ashamed about?"
It turns out not everything we're taught to say or think is necessarily the best thing. Who knew?
"Not knowing..."
Not knowing something. People should be ashamed for putting down people who ask honest questions.
"Poor choices..."
GiphyPoor choices that we made when were younger. As long as the ship has been righted, hold your head high and carry on.
"Regularly needing..."
Regularly needing a full nights sleep in order to function as a normal person each day.
Also not wanting kids or generally not being interested in someone else's kids.
I've got kids but I've realised that just because I find them great and interesting doesn't mean my work colleagues want to see 15 pictures of them pumpkin picking last weekend because they got muddy and it was cute.
See also when people bring their kids to the office. It's fine but don't get pissy that I'm happy to continue working rather than come and look at the sleeping baby.
"As a professional artist..."
Your creative work.
As a professional artist I'm generally the last person to volunteer to show my work. This isn't some humblebrag bullshit but generally when I look at my own work all I see are the flaws. There is a saying that art is never finished it's only abandoned, and honestly that's how I feel and how a lot of creatives I know feel. We'd all love an extra month to touch up our work but the fact is we don't have that luxury. Couple that with seeing EVERYONE else's finished works on various platforms and you only feel worse about the work you're creating even at a high level.
And this isn't anything new as it seems to be something that everyone feels at a certain point in their lives. When you're a kid and you're asked to draw a picture of your family you don't care, and you make the tallest stick figure your dad, the next tallest your mom and the smallest you, or your sibling. The grass is a bunch of green lines and your house is a box with a yellow circle in the sky. You're done. It's perfect.
Then somewhere along the line it doesn't look like something Rembrandt has done so naturally it sucks and so do you.
Honestly it's a common feeling and one that comes from a sense of pressure we put on ourselves to be great.
So to my fellow creatives, take a breath, realize where you are today is better than where you were yesterday and take pride in getting there. Never be ashamed or measure yourself creatively against anyone but your previous self.
"Being good at something."
Being good at something.
I always try to hide it when I am and if I ever tell anyone I think I'm maybe okay at something, it feels like bragging and then I feel worse about it.
"I don't understand..."
Being a virgin.
I don't understand why there's such a stigma surrounding virginity. A lot of people I know who are virgins (including myself) are ashamed of it and feel like there's something wrong with them (especially if they're 20 or more).
"Our friends..."
Our friends and family's actions. They don't reflect you or who you are so there's no need to feel ashamed because you can't control what they do or say.
"Be it a girl..."
Getting rejected. Be it a girl you see at the bar, an application to a school, anything.
"It's so sad..."
Body hair.
It's so sad how women and men are put down so heavily for the way they choose to groom themselves. As long as you're clean, I don't care what you choose to shave/not shave.
"It's natural..."
Pubic hair, It's natural and is used to keep our pubic area warm.
"Whether it be..."
Getting help if you're having issues. Whether it be asking a teacher for help in school or asking a friend or someone for advice. There shouldn't be any shame in trying to better yourself.
"The extent..."
Having a little stomach pudge. It's supposed to be there. Just look at the curve of the human spine--it curves inward where your stomach is while standing straight. Of course your belly's going to stick out a bit! The extent some people will go to on a diet is disturbing.
"Knowledge."
Knowledge. If you don't know something, say it. Don't just say that you know it even if you don't.
"Doing..."
Doing and enjoying things that are stereotypically assigned to the opposite sex. Why can't a man enjoy knitting or a woman love working on racing cars? There's no reason in the world not to.
In the immortal words of Frozen, 'let it go" and forget the haters.
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BF Won't Introduce GF To His Family After A Year, And She Asks Internet For Advice
Family dynamics are a complicated thing. Some people spend tons of time with their family and/or are emotionally close. Others are so distant that those family members may as well not exist. Navigating that relationship with your own family is hard enough, but navigating your partner and their relationship with their family can seem almost impossible. Things that are casual no-brainers for your family might be a huge deal for their or vice versa. For example; introducing a partner. Some families want to meet everyone and others would rather never see your partners face until you're walking down the aisle.
One Reddit user has been with her man for two years and he's pretty much refusing to introduce her to his family. She's introduced him to hers, but he won't bring her around his even though they live very close by and he is closer with them than she is with hers.
Here's her initial post to Reddit:
Things have been especially great lately. But I can't seem to let this one thing go.
For context, I come from a big, very close-knit family, but I currently live 1,000 miles away from them. I introduced my boyfriend to my parents last year, as well as my sister on a separate occasion. My boyfriend definitely seemed a bit shy around them, which was weird and unexpected (even his job entails making small talk with strangers all day, and he's great at it!) I had many more opportunities to have my BF hang out with my parents and other relatives, but I now feel awkward doing so when I haven't met his.
My BF's family is just his parents and a much older half-sister who is married with kids, but they still vacation together twice a year and my BF has a cute relationship with his brother-in-law and nieces from what he's told me. The kicker is that his parents live 30 minutes away, and the sister is a 1 hour drive. I've even been to his parents house with him, but only while they were away (they're snowbirds).
I've expressed several times over the past year that I want to meet them, and that I was hurt by the fact that it seemed like he was hiding me from them (it turned out, he hadn't told his parents about me until a few months ago, but even now they have no idea what I look like or anything). Although he definitely isn't as close to his family as I am with mine, they seem like sweet people. I've seen the funny birthday cards they send him and the adorable family photos and I've been in the room while he talks to his mom on the phone.
It's not an issue of cultural or religious differences either. His answer is always that his parents get excited about meeting his girlfriends and then they get really disappointed when he eventually ruins the relationship and they break up. I don't even know what that means? My BF has never once said that his parents were overbearing or like to guilt-trip him or anything like that.
Lately he keeps saying that he really wants me to meet his family, that his mom will love me, that we should meet up with his sister for lunch, etc. etc. But it never happens. I feel like he's saying things to appease me with no real intention of following through.
I know he loves me. We're talking about moving out of state together. But is it unreasonable that I don't want to move further in our relationship until I meet these people? I honestly can't tell if I'm blowing this out of proportion or if I'm justified in being hurt.
tl;dr: My boyfriend's family lives close to us and I've never met them, but he doesn't give a real reason why
We grabbed some of the most honest responses to share with you - some have been edited for clarity or language.
H/T: Reddit