Whenever I visit clothing stores, I make it a point to fold the clothes I unfurl. That is apparently my downfall as a customer.
Because of this, fellow customers often peg me as an employee and always ask me questions like where the bathroom is, or if the store has certain sizes left in stock.
Umm, no, I don't work here. I'm just a responsible customer. As you were.
Many of us make assumptions about other people just by looking at them. Who knew we were so presumptuous?
Curious to hear the experiences of strangers online, Redditor lilmizzvalz asked:
"What do people assume about you, based on your appearance?"
People often misinterpret moods based on how someone looks. That's unfair, wouldn't you say?
"That I'm caring and supportive. I have a resting nice face."
"That I am always mad. Nope just dissociating and staring off into space."
Not Meaning To Be Mean
"That I'm mean. I have a resting mean face for a dude I guess. Also lately it's worse because I'm bigger now. I don't really notice how my face appears but apparently, I seem angry when I'm looking at stuff."
"'You should smile' and 'are you ok?' comments followed me from busboy, waiter, bartender my whole career."
When it comes to measuring intelligence of others, some people are just way off.
Hard To Live Up To Expectations
"That I'm clever. People keep saying it to me, but I'm dumb and that sh*t is hard to live up to."
"I have glasses."
Eyes Full Of Wisdom
"I apparently have something similar going on mixed with looking like I know sh*t, because people come up to me in public and ask about directions, bus schedules and stuff all the time. Like, they'll deliberately avoid other people to ask me. Including when I'm abroad and should look a bit out of place."
"They assume I have an intellectual disability. (And also that I'm deaf, since I'm not able to speak.)"
"No, I am a person with two university degrees who happen to need a wheelchair because of a nasty neurological illness."
People don't always look their age. Some don't even act their age. But these Redditors have gotten their fair share of wrong guesses for their ages.
"That I'm 15."
"I'm 38 and a doctor. 'Did you just finish school?' EVERY DAY."
"This thread was depressing to read as I am 38 but often get mistaken for 50. I hate y'all and your youthful beauty."
Some people are typed out as certain types of people with just one look.
Watch Your Tone
"That I have a southern accent. Not one stranger has ever suspected that I have a 'New Jersey' accent (Born and raised in New Jersey before moving south)"
Not A Biker
"That I ride a Harley and/or work on them. I'm bald with a long goatee and tons of tattoos, but I'm in IT for a living and don't ride motorcycles at all."
Like others have expressed in the thread, I've also been accused of having "resting b*tch face."
You know, that neutral expression where you're not smiling the one time you're not in a situation where you have to be "on" for other people?
Yeah, that one.
If someone's resting face comes across as unfriendly, well, perhaps it's best not to upset them by asking them what's wrong all the time. Just sayin'.
Like most people, I was really awkward when I was younger. Tall, lanky, and didn't quite know how to dress in a way that suited me. Little did I know, there are very simple ways to improve someone's appearance, that a lot of people overlook. If only I had known them in high school.
Here are a few tips that I wish I had known. Reddit user Bestangela asked:
“What is an underrated way of improving your appearance?"
It’s the little things we need to be aware of as we go about our day. Minor fixes can help so much.
Stand up straight, the right way.
“Standing up straight, or at the very least with some sort of upright gait.”
“This but doing it by strengthening the right muscles. Forcing yourself into a straight standing position can cause just as many postural issues and living hunched over. Source, I was a PTA for a while and now I'm a functional personal trainer.”
Nothing like a good pair of glasses.Glasses Diamondsday GIF by Elton JohnGiphy
“Glasses frames that actually fit your face structure.”
“Or just glasses that are more stylish. Lot of fashion-challenged dudes wear the same style of glasses they've worn since middle school even if they've updated the prescription.”
Like a bonsai tree.
“A lot of guys with beards don't trim them. I cringe at old pictures of myself before I knew how. Treat your beard like a bonsai tree.”
I get noticed a lot because I actually take care of my hair. Oils and regular cleaning for the facial hair, beard brushes, mustache combs are cheap. Oils and balms can be crazy expensive but Google is your friend, just keep a close eye on the fragrances as they can be off putting to others especially if they're super close and quite pretty. Trim once a week is a good guideline, too often and you'll mess it up or thin it out, too long and you'll be back at square one.
For hair, it's not mentioned near enough DO RESEARCH ON THE BEST PRODUCT FOR YOU. How it reacts to the elements, the finish, the feel, there are so many pros and cons to each product. You can style a comb over perfectly and it'll feel horrible to the fingers because the product is unnecessarily stiff for your hair. As well oil-based can and will cause serious acne breakouts if you're prone to sweating, great product for the Fall but not when it's warm or you're active. Sea salt is definitely my favourite for my style as it has almost zero hold and naturally curls my hair for some surfer-bro points. It's all about giving a f***.”
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“Getting a healthy quantity of sleep.”
“Currently reading this at 2:30am thinking I'll try again tomorrow.”
Stay hydrated, and don’t do drugs.gina carano water GIFGiphy
“Drink water. Dehydration can have you looking raggedy af."
“Substance abuse in general takes on a look. Working in the prison system, you can nearly pinpoint those brought in on drug offenses versus the violence offenses merely by how a person's body looks after years of substance abuse."
Bad hair parting = criminal scum.
“The way you part your hair can be a huge game-changer.”
“I remember seeing an old video on this. Some pseudo psychology about how parting it could affect a kid growing into a good citizen vs potential criminal scum. My take away was that I'm gonna be criminal scum just cause I'm left handed.”
When I think of ways to fix my appearance, the first thing I think of is fashion sense. What works best for your body type?
“Putting even just a bit more thought into your daily outfits.
Wearing different things that are mostly flattering, even if it was just adding a bandanna, bracelet, and wearing colors that look good together, can improve self confidence and make you stand out just a smidge more. It gives a more put together look and people will be more willing and likely to notice you. Self expression is attractive.”
You know what they say, “clothes can make the man”.Elliana Walmsley Shopping GIF by Brat TVGiphy
“Buying clothes that fit properly instead of buying the smallest size you can squeeze into.”
“Came here to say this. I am and have pretty much always been fat and always made the common mistake of wearing bigger clothes not realizing it made me look even bigger. At some point, I read somewhere that you should get proper fitting clothes so I tried it (apprehensively) but I was surprised to find I liked how I looked. Works wonders.”
It’s all in the eyes.
“Not gonna lie, a lot of my coworkers started looking a lot better at the start of this pandemic by covering the bottom of their faces. Myself included.”
“Bruh stop. With my mouth, chin, jaw covered I Iook like a goddamn supermodel and some look at me with those hungry eyes. But when I take it off, people are like "Oh..." Swear, couple of month ago I had a coworker that saw me without my mask and she just said "So, that's how you look like! I N T E R E S T I N G!
Reminds me of Bane's ‘No one cared who I was till I put on the mask.’”
It’ll be more comfortable, too.
“Wearing a properly fitted bra. Go for a proper fitting. A lot of women are wearing the wrong size bra.”
“As a long time bra fitter, 90% of the people are wearing a band size at least 2 sizes too big and a cup size 3 or 4 sizes too small.”
I recently was struggling with feeling awkward every time I looked in the mirror. Then I got bangs. And let me tell you, a good haircut frames your face so much better. You just have to find the one that's right for you.
Try implementing these shifts into your life- they'll work wonders.