"What’s a good first date that doesn’t involve alcohol?"
Being entertained is a great way to experience something together without having to worry about initial small talk.
Catch A Flick
"Movie I think is fine, but if it's around 7 or 8PM and you get out with some time left in the night. I say that because it gives you a shared experience and something to connect and talk about which can be a good icebreaker. Not ideal first date but in a pinch it can work."
– Jennyferr0412
Don't Blow Your Cover
"Not a comedy club - if they find out you're on a first date you will get roasted without mercy."
"Source: Been there, done that."
– ConsultantForLife
Get Roasted, Not Toasted
"Great first date if your date is already a friend and you know their taste in comedy and tolerance for the obligatory hazing."
– ThrownAway3764
Getting Down With Marine Life
"Aquarium. Make sure to hold hands."
– AiharaSisters
Some prefer engaging in an activity, where being anti-social is not an option.
Friendly Competition
"Find a place with board games and go there."
– decendingvoid
Scaling New Heights
"My SO and I had our first date at a climbing gym."
– Shantor
Get Cheesy
"My husband took me to a cheese factory on our first date."
"There were free samples. A tour of the new factory, and a heritage tour of the original wooden building and dairy."
"That was a good first date."
– FormalMango
Raising The Bar
"It wasn't our first date, but the first time I brought my girlfriend(now wife) to my hometown I took her on a tour at Saranac in Utica NY. She loved it."
"Downside though, some of the dates after that were kinda boring because that one went so well. It was hard to follow up"
– I_AM_DEATH-INCARNATE
Putting Around
"Mini golf is the best first date ever."
– woolsocksandsandals
Knock Down Pins
"bowling is really good as long as she's into it. There's a slight friendly competition to see who wins, and you can get food/drinks and talk a ton. great time to not be uptight and just be a lil goofy and friendly."
– LuxerIsCool
Can You Work Together?
"Hear me out. An escape room. You’ll never know if you can actually love that person until you’re both trapped in a room."
–Thaanos_
Excursions are a great option, but it would be wise to consider the following:
Not Recommended
"As a woman who loves hiking: absolutely do not go on a hike as a first date, or if you really want to then make it a double date. Unless she already knows you (and even then...) she will be on edge/scared the entire time, more likely than not turn the whole thing down."
– DiscussionPale3216
Stay In The Public Eye
"Try walking at a beach or some other place where you always be in sight of many other people. I live near a very busy rail trail, but that does NOT meet the standard of ALWAYS visible."
"I live near an upscale strip mall, and my first few dates with my wife we got froyo and walked the mall. Window shopping can help provide interesting items to keep the conversation flowing."
– NCBGLC1912
Window Shopping
"Something that I've done with first dates off of dating sites/apps is go to a food court in a mall. This accomplishes a few things: 1) You are meeting for the first time in a public place. 2) There's a wide variety of food to choose from, with the added bonus that you can get a clue of where to take her on a second date. 3) After eating you two can walk around the mall, do some window shopping, maybe blow a few bucks at the arcade. etc."
– II_Confused
Outdoor Seating Preferred
"Picnic is a great idea. If you go to a crowded park in your area so they’re not on edge that way you can control what you’re eating and drinking."
– whitehat_creamer
Getting Icy
"I’m a skater and went skating on a first date with a non skater. I thought it’d be fun, I could wear a cute outfit, and maybe showcase a skill to show myself in a good light. What I didn’t anticipate was that he was so uncoordinated that I lost all interest in him."
– EmmeryAnn
I went to a Six Flags park as a first date once, and that was a lot of fun.
It's a good mix of gradually getting to know the other person while waiting in line to get on one of the rides and experiencing the thrill of a roller coaster together.
When the adrenaline is pumping and your heart is throbbing, it's a great ice-breaker that could culminate in the greatest thrill of all at the end of the day–That first kiss.
My life of the party people are dead and depressed. Cheers...
Yin & Yang
We Did It Win GIF by HBO MaxGiphy"One’s a doctor, one lives in a towable caravan."
Low_Corner_9061
"There doesn't seem to be a lot of middle ground in this thread."
space_monster
Tabs Up
"Worked at a bar in college, and friends worked at other bars. So I knew a lot of people who drank a lot. Most went on to be in sales or some other job where interpersonal communication skills are more valued than raw academic skills. Some do very well."
AmigoDelDiabla
"Bartended full or part time for 15 years now. It's funny those same people keep coming in to drink, but now it's with coworkers and clients and rack up huge tabs and tip the best."
Minimum_Attitude6707
Drink to the Top
"He drank with the right executives at a conference and got offered a job. He now makes three times what I do."
Moctor_Drignall
"I know someone this happened to as well! Our senior year I think she drunk-tweeted something and a company loved what she tweeted that they offered her a job. We graduated 11 years ago and she still works for them! (Although this kind of goes against the thread because she doesn't drink anywhere near as much anymore since she got married and started a family)."
PAKMan1988
Genius
"Ran into an old friend who was like that. We were in our late 30s when that happened and chatted; turned out he partied hard until late 30s and during that time, flitted around job to job to simply fund his partying. One day he looked around and noticed that he was the old guy at the bars hanging with early 20-somethings."
"He realized that all of the folks our age were ahead in their careers, with family/kids etc. Said that was a pretty sobering revelation and enrolled himself back into school and was in his 2nd year of engineering as he wanted to be an aerospace engineer."
rudebish
The Right Way
golden globes GIFGiphy"He partied with the right guys and now makes very good money in sales where he parties with clients but the company pays for it."
MySonHas2BrokenArms
Sometimes vodka works you all the way to the corner office. I'm on my way...
Never took off...
Drunk Vince Vaughn GIF by HBO MaxGiphy"He decided to do a commercial pilot license. Spent so much money on the training and the partying that his debts overtook him. Here, most airlines don't accept pilot candidates with outstanding debts or criminal records. He never got to fly a plane. He still owes a lot of people small to medium amounts of money. Accepted a menial job writing technical manuals."
Ruggiard
The Mess
"I lived in a house with a bunch of guys. One of them was in electrical engineering. He got a job at Applebees for some extra cash and started having parties with work people after work (so 3-5am). That made it hard to make class so he dropped a semester."
"We all graduated and he said he would refocus on school soon, but he was having too much fun partying. I went back to college 20 years later for a football game. He is still working as a waiter at Applebees. He is the creepy guy who acts like he is best friends a with a bunch of 20 year old kids. He’s a mess."
alpacasarebadsingers
Tragic
"He never stopped. He continued drinking at a crazy pace, and lost his job, his driving license, and his wife. He had to move near to a liquor store to keep drinking. He was found dead on the floor of his apartment from a hemorrhage in his stomach caused by years of alcohol abuse. He bled to death from within. He left behind two sons."
SpaceLaserPilot
'dedicated party house'
"A friend of mine in college pulled a Van wilder, and spent 7 total years in college (just getting his undergrad) because he liked the partying so much. He lived in the college 'dedicated party house' that had just two modes, actively throwing a wild party, or recovering from the latest party."
"What was wild about him was that even though he lived a party lifestyle, he got excellent grades and took phenomenal care of himself (when he wasn't getting black out wasted and having weird sexcapades), and was the person who got me into running/marathoning."
"Eventually, he finally graduated with a degree in Mechanical engineering, moved to the east coast, got married and became a born again Christian. He seems happy and successful and just had his first kid recently, but its absolutely weird seeing him post pictures of him getting adult baptized and doing mission work."
GlastonBerry48
Unrecognizable
Sad Lonely GIF by PokémonGiphy"He overdosed, blacked out and fell off a balcony at a hotel and hit the pavement so hard his mother couldn’t recognize him."
Impressive-Orchid748
The party has to end sometime. When the lights come on... go home. That's clearly a general life lesson as well.
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"Here comes the Bride..."
"Wedding receptions."
"Having been to a dry one, it was seriously THE WORST!" - stubept.
Married At First Sight Lol GIF by LifetimeGiphyYou don't know where that dog has been...
"Back in my university days there was a hotdog cart outside the bar after closing every busy night."
"We always lined up for one since they were the absolute best dogs in town."
"I stayed sober one night and got a hotdog after the night was over."
"I couldn’t believe how disgusting it was."
"Cart hot dogs after the bar are totally awesome with alcohol."
"Not so much without." - Big-Challenge-1652
Dance like nobody's watching.
"Dancing in a big crowd to music you'd normally never listen to." - Darkdreams28.
"Crowds of people and loud music when I'm sober: Headaches, anxiety, want to get out of there ASAP!"
"Crowds of people and loud music when DRUNK: WOOO! F*CK YEAH! PAAARTAAAY! "- Ins0mnimaniac.
"Raves."
"I went to see deadmaus sober and i quickly realized i had to be drunk or high to not get annoyed by everyone else haha."
"People high as hell pushing you, dropping drinks etc."
"Was pretty cool but i was cursed as the designated driver." - User Deleted
happy dance GIF by Roanoke CollegeGiphyWouldn't this just make them "games"?
"Drinking Games."
"You ever played ring of fire with cups of water?" - SeanRodrieguez.
This way they'll think they're actually winning...
"Playing Mario Kart with my non-gaming family."
"Suddenly I'm on their level!" - BlackeyeThe2nd
My boss needs to think I'm having a good time...
"Work functions."
"Company Christmas party with booze vs. dry as night and day." - Brancher.
new girl bar GIF by Fox TVHow are we related again?
"Family gatherings." - smellslikeloudoggg
More like "bored" games...
"Any board game!"
"Especially Monopoly scrabble and operation."- Calypos_Luna
Better question is, what isn't better with alchohol?
"Life, in general."- supbiatches1
Happy Spring Break GIF by HBOGiphy"Snifter stupid martini glass cocktail onions."
"Being quiet around others while they're yapping."
"Singing randomly in public situations."
"Bad music."
"That drink with tomato juice and an oyster in it."
"Really salty food like just salty chips, I like more flavor."
"Clamato, that weird blue juice that goes in that blue tiki cocktail."
"Dried fish."
"Oily fried fishes Cheap burgers or frozen pizza."- dumbnunt_
Liquid patience
"To have someone else talk to you about their mind blowing ideas, and just sit there and be like 'dude that’s gonna f*cking change the world'."- GrouchyInteraction12
Beer puts the "B" in Barbecue
"Cooking food on the barbecue."- leatherwolf89
Labor Day Drinking GIF by Twisted TeaGiphyMight be worth a second viewing?
"Certain films, 'Twilight' being the classic."
"Highly recommended getting drunk or high and watching a kinda sh*tty film."- ViSaph
It depends on the mood I'm in...
'Listening to live music you don’t like."- peachycreaam
"EPCOT at Walt Disney World is lame as a kid, but as a grown adult, its the best place."
"Just go in and drink around the world."- El_JEFE_DCP
disney world thanksgiving GIF by Disney ParksGiphyWhy do I suddenly find this so intruiging?
"Things you aren’t usually interested in."- fawnsweb
So.Many.Kids.
:Kid's birthday parties."
"A few dozen shrieking kids isn't too bad when you're half c*cked on some beers."- Woah_man34
Happy Birthday Reaction GIFGiphyNext time you eat something, or watch a movie, or visit a location that isn't as good as you remember, it might be worth reflecting on what you were drinking at the time.
Reddit user, GuyWithAScuffedLife, wanted to know when the party took a turn for the weird when they asked:
"What's the most "WTF" moment you've ever had at a party?"
Not all craziness happens at adult parties. Even the most wholesome, child-friendly events can lead to head-scratching moments.
Come On Alison, Get It Together
"A girl took my pillow without my knowledge and then proceeded to throw up all over it, she said she would get me a new one."
"Alison, it’s been 3 years, please give me a new pillow :("- CrockyCroc
Who Snitched?!?
"Not really a party, a sleepover a few years back, I was probably 14 or 15."
"Some of the girls thought it would be fun to do some prank calls on various people, and we got a kick out of it for a while."
"Everything was going fine, we were all having fun and laughing."
"Then, one of the girls rings up a lady."
"I’m not sure if the girl knew this woman or not, but when she answers we did the classic, 'hello this is Wendy’s' or something along the lines of that."
"Then, get this, the lady starts NAMING EVERY GIRL AT THE SLEEPOVER."
"We were all freaked out and I don’t think I’ve seen anyone hang up the phone faster."
"It was truly terrifying."- ChatNoirsGothGf
A Gracious Party Host?
"I went to a bowling alley in grade 4 because that was the first birthday party I had been ever invited to."
"I was really excited because he was one of the popular kids. come to the day that it was happening, I decided to wear a nice pink glittery shirt because glitter was really important in my life for some odd reason."
"I got to the bowling alley with the bag and when I went to give it to him, I farted really loud out of excitement."
"Everyone looked over at me and I immediately burst into tears."
"He told me it was okay and then proceeded to fart maybe 3 minutes after I did."
"That really comforted me and we had a good time."- jaydenfarted
fart GIFGiphyYou know what really turns a party to the next level?
Narcotics!
You know what helps lead people to all kinds of bad, awful, truly terrible decisions?
Narcotics.
Cow Man, Away!
"New Year's party at a farmhouse."
"This guy I know has taken LSD."
"He found a top hat and cape somewhere and was wearing them."
"He is having a bad trip and is just spiraling into a depression and fixating on death while being freaked out on his trip."
"So I take him outside to get him away from all the smoking and noisy drunks in the house."
"We step out on the dark porch and for a minute he seems to be getting right when suddenly about 10 cows run by the porch."
"His eyes go wide and he runs away."
"The drunks in the party yell 'the cows are out' and they all start chasing the cows trying to round them up but the cows are now smarter than the drunk people so they were not doing a good job of it."
"And I never saw that guy again."
"I found the cape and top hat laying on the floor like he just vanished and they fell straight down."- inkseep1
There Are Better Ways To Say Hello...
"Was standing in a circle with 4 other people smoking and talking."
"Girl comes up super drunk all happy and smiling, everything is all good and suddenly out of no where she drops her pants squats down and pees right in front of all of us, like legit still talking and looking right at us."- Snowfreak2507
Fire. Fire!
"We had a bonfire going."
"I left early once the 'shine came out."
"About an hour after I left, some of the guys started spitting mouthfuls of the stuff through the fire to make fireballs."
"Caught some of the grass on fire, tried to put it out by peeing on it, and ended up starting a 200 acre fire."- gothangelblood
GiphySometimes, You Don't Need Drugs To Get Crazy
"I was at a friends birthday party and him and a group of maybe 5-10 kids were there."
"We put on Shrek and I was on a recliner watching it."
"Meanwhile these other kids were messing around."
"One of them took their shirt off and said 'who wants to join the no shirt gang?!'"
"Everyone but me and this other kid took their shirt off."
"Then, the crazy one said 'no PANTS gang?!'"
"They took their pants off."
"Fast forward a bit and we had like 8 naked kids running around screaming naked gang while me and this kid say there like 'wtf'"
"Me and this kid who didn’t strip are actually really good friends today"- CGL_j
And then there's these, those moments that make you wonder if the stars aligned to let the kooks out only when you arrived at the party. W.T.F.
Gotta Stop Those Cramps Somehow
"Caught a guy sucking a banana in the bathroom"- redditassemble
*mwah* Good Night, Everybody!
"The host got so drunk, he pulled his dead pet lizard out of the freezer (saving it to bury it in the spring) and showed it to everyone in the room."
"Then he started crying, threw up, pissed himself, and passed out."
"I have no idea if the lizard ever made it back to the freezer."- MinouCheetos
First Impressions
"Was at a party last Friday, a guy I met that day for the first time became so blackout drunk he took of my sock and started playing with my toes and such."
"That was the weirdest f*cking ten minutes of my life."
"And then he called me later when I he came home and called me and declared that he liked me."
"No thank you."- GuiltyCat3927
Screaming Internally First Date GIF by OriginalsGiphyHold the burger...
"Watched someone snort ketchup in one nostril and mustard in the other."
"Completely unprovoked, not dared to do it...just did it..for....fun."- irregaardless
One way to end the year...
"Hands down, 2015 NYE at a friends spot in Bay Area."
"Noticed a ruckus happening with the bf, friends, and some guy, thought little to nothing about it."
"Couple min later cops show up."
"Turns out the neighbors noticed this college party and decided it was a great spot to come and try to sell some crack."
"The ruckus was a friend and my bf telling him to get the f*ck out, seller lost his sh*t."
"Told them he would be back with his piece and 'show them what’s up'. "
"Cops were called, guy was arrested, vibes were super harsh from that point forward."
"Happy 2015 to us!"
Welcome, leave your clothes at the door.
"In the late 90's an older guy that was interested in me invited me to a party being thrown by his manager at his 2nd job."
"We get there, I'm getting buzzed, and everyone seems normal enough."
"Suddenly the hosts fiancée does a NAKED BACK WALKOVER from the bedroom to the living room, comes over to where I am and starts making out with me."
"There's been a bunch of wild party moments in my early days, but that one was just so unexpected it seared into my brain."
"I never saw her again after that."- ILuvMyLilTurtles
You break it, you buy it.
"Come to a party and meet a girl I met a week before at a party."
"She cries and is completely devastated."
"She says that at her party I had become quite drunk and turned the buttons on her stereo so the speakers broke."
"She asks me while she's crying if I can pay half and shows me the Receipt."
"Of course I say, and we walked to an ATM."
"I take out $ 25 and she gets them."
"She thanks me all the way back because it was her mother's stereo."
"Nothing more with that."
"Partying and having fun the rest of the evening."
"The next day I find out that before I came to the party she had asked my friends for me and they had started arguing with her."
"Told her to leave me alone, that it was her fault for having a party and that I would hit her if she brought it up with me."
"I understand that she must have been terrified when she brought up the incident with me and she must have been overjoyed when I just said that of course I would pay."
"Nice picture my friends had of me."
"I broke up with them a couple of years later."- Crocodile-toes-ten
The Wildest party... that never happened...
"I can't rightly remember."
"The evidence afterward was pennies on the floor in the kitchen & hallway, an empty Jim Beam & empty mouthwash bottle in the trash, a stiff stain in the hallway with black scuff marks on the wall, improperly tucked sheets, a light left on in the 'rumpy room', and all the salad dressings thrown out."
"Also, we had so many cars, we had to park in the Mormon church across the street."
"Oh, wait. It wasn't a party."
"That's the 'evidence' my friend's grandmother accused us of having a party with."
"It was actually just 4 of us, none of us had a license, let alone a car, we sat around watching TV & eating chicken nuggets."
"We did throw out the salad dressings, they were all out of code, by months."
"We only drank Pepsi, no Jim Beam, no mouthwash."
"I have no idea where the pennies supposedly factored in."
"None spent the night, my friend decided to sleep in a different bed each night while she was housesitting, and she didn't know how to do 'military corners'."
" We were never in the 'rumpy room' either, so if the light was on, Grandma left it on before she left."
"So, out of all the 'evidence', the only thing we were actually responsible for was the salad dressings."
"Excuse us for trying to prevent you from getting sick."
"She actually said they were still good."
"The reason we checked was the ranch came out watery with lumps."
"She still insisted the rest were probably good."- GrandSpecter
money coins GIF by Ashlyn AnsteeGiphyDo I know you?
"This is more funny. but i was at a nye party going into 2021, and i just remember seeing this random ass dude dancing on the couches."
"iIwas like, bro who tf is this?"
"It was a pretty big party 60+ ppl and i knew almost everyone there and if i didn’t know them, i’ve at least seen them before."
"And there was just this random ass guy, dancing on the couch."
'So i just casually asked him where he was from and how come I'd never seen him at any other of these parties before."
"He just said 'I was just walking by and saw there was a party and walked in'.”
"I started laughing."
"I didn’t see him after that."
" I think some of the boys caught wind and kicked him out."
"Never saw bro again lmao."- buckys_doll21
Well, we're certainly glad we didn't get an invite to some of these gatherings.
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