How do you tell if someone has a crush on you?
It's not always so easy, and many of us will fumble our way through it. Perhaps our only experience with navigating crushes comes from John Hughes movies (which I don't recommend following).
Oh, and while this isn't a Hughes movie, I would not recommend doing to one's crushes what the nerds do in the terrible Revenge of the Nerds.
Looking for advice? Look no further. You can thank Redditor chaitea_lexax who asked the online community,
"What is a dead giveaway that someone has a crush on you?"
"When they tell you..."
"When they tell you at your 10-year high school reunion after they've married and had several children and it doesn't matter anymore."
This is oddly specific.
Romy and Michelle's High School Reunion this is not.
"When they try to be mean..."
"When they try to be mean to you, you can tell. If they weren't interested, they wouldn't be trying to tease you, they would just ignore you."
Yeah, but I wish people didn't think that was okay. Mind games aren't cool.
"She stayed in my dorm..."
"Well, she changed in front of me, that didn't tip me off. She stayed in my dorm for 5 days, I was none the wiser. She said she wanted to kiss me, I finally figured it out."
"Although..."
"Although this may be more for initial attraction, women tend to 'oh so casually' drop into conversation their relationship status or better yet, lack thereof. It's rarely subtle, but I don't think men do it quite so much."
Interesting!
Well, if you make clear that you're available, then it would make sense that someone might think that you're interested.
"Though the rule of thumb is usually..."
"It's something that can't really be answered as we are all different in our actions and how we interpret things.
Though the rule of thumb is usually if they attempt to spend more time with you and often seek your help, even if you don't know the answer. It's usually a presence thing. Though again, they may just simply enjoy your company and don't like you any more than just a friend."
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"If you hang out..."
"If you hang out in the same social circles there are a few sure-fire ways. The one that is really telling is when something funny happens that makes the entire group laugh. If they look at you straight away to see if you found it funny, they're into you."
I had this happen to me a few times. Sometimes it worked out and sometimes it didn't, I'll leave it at that.
"If you have a watch..."
"If you have a watch, look at the time then look somewhere random. Chances are they will also check the time."
"If you have mutual friends..."
"If you have mutual friends or acquaintances it would probably be your friends or their friends giving you hints or teasing that the person is romantically interested in you."
This has happened with some of my friends and it's pretty cute when it's reciprocated!
"I asked my girlfriend..."
"I asked my girlfriend to marry me today and she said yes. I have suspicions she might have a crush."
Plot twist: it's you!
"A girl would always..."
"This happened to me in college. A girl would always glance at me and when we lock eyes she would look away. I asked her out and during our conversation she touched my forearms and thighs a few times."
When it comes to crushes, it's not necessarily one size fits all, so take any and all advice with a grain of salt. You're better off being direct, but that is, of course, easier said than done.
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It's spooky season! You know what that means: time to curl up on the couch, make some popcorn, and watch some horror movies. But what if you're not much of a horror aficionado and you're just getting started out? Are there any classics you might want to check out? What about anything new that's received good reviews? Where to begin?
Well, you've probably seen the classics by now, so what about the ones that might not get as much airtime?
Thankfully, horror fans are more than happy to weigh in. You can thank Redditor LiamCruz24, who asked the online community,
"What horror movies are underrated?"
"The entire movie..."
"Ghostwatch is a slow burn but amazing. The entire movie is done as a British television programme about a haunted house."
One of my favorites. It is remarkably unnerving, particularly the very last scene.
"It's the kind of film..."
"Lake Mungo got into my head and won't move out. It's the kind of film that requires a second viewing."
I wanted to love this one, but did not. It was fine. There is another film, Megan Is Missing, which provides a much worse shock in the final third of the film.
"The captain notes..."
"Event Horizon (1997), with Sam Neill, Lawrence Fishburne, and Jason Isaacs, for capturing the feel of the being alone in space due to the distance involved.
A ship, the Event Horizon, had tested an experimental jump / faster than light drive and had disappeared for several months or years (I forget) only to reappear later around Jupiter, so a rescue crew is sent to investigate and save the crew of the ship. The captain (Fishburne) notes on their way out there that there had never been a successful rescue operation that far from Earth, with the last similar effort resulting in the loss of both ships. It sets the tone for a space movie to show that humanity is still basically blundering through space closer to our present technology and not on a Star Trek or Wars level of "magic" technology, so it gives it a great creepy vibe."
This one slightly stumbles in the third act when it becomes a total action movie for 2.5 seconds, but it's still a really excellent film. The first two-thirds are creepy as can be, like The Shining in space!
"They're campy..."
"Grave Encounters 1 and 2 are some of my all-time favorite horror movies. They're campy and cheesy but just so much fun to watch."
They are indeed! Not perfect–at least by my estimation–but a fun way to pass the time.
"Very, very few movies..."
"Dagon.
It's a 20-year-old B movie, so don't expect great effects or acting, but it's a pretty faithful adaptation of The Shadow Over Innsmouth and absolutely nails the Lovecraft feel. Very, very few movies have ever managed to do Lovecraft any justice, Dagon is one of them."
Now here is a film that fascinated me when I was a kid. I loved it to pieces. Definitely worth revisiting.
"Kid buys a new VR game..."
"Brainscan - Kid buys a new VR game console in which he kills a woman. Turns out, he killed her for real. Now, the game tells him that there was a witness, and they need to die too."
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"It's very weird..."
"Office Killer is a really great indie film directed by Cindy Sherman, starring Carol Kane and Molly Ringwald. It's very weird and unsettling and Carol Kane is AMAZING as a mousey-looking office worker who is actually an unhinged murderer. 10/10 recommend."
This one is kooky, but then again, Carol Kane has always been a kooky performer, so she fits right in.
"Then the third time..."
"Texas Chainsaw Massacre 2 is Dennis Hopper's finest work. He starts that movie with his intensity at about a 6: "Hey Sherrif Dennis Hopper, there are chainsaw massacres going on here in Texas." "Oh, I don't like that!" Then the third time we see him he escalates to a 10 and keeps that energy up for the rest of the movie. He is more Dennis Hoppery in that movie than in anything else he ever did including True Romance and Blue Velvet."
It is nothing like the original, but it doesn't have to be. It's a wild, fun ride.
"The plot isn't complicated..."
"Angst - I don't know if I can call this is a "horror movie" in the traditional sense. It's absolutely horrific, sure. But it's a pure art film. A f**** up one. The plot isn't complicated, and it's not long. I won't "ruin it" but suffice to say it's probably the most accurate depiction of a sexual sadist you're ever going to watch."
This one is truly a sight for the ages. Not for the faint of heart, at all. I don't say that mildly.
"I wouldn't..."
"The Call (2013). I wouldn't necessarily say it's underrated but I never see anyone talking about it anymore. It scared the hell out of me the first time I watched it."
The concept is of course unsettling! Imagine having to go through that! It would be traumatizing, wouldn't it?
Well, what are you waiting for?
Get out there and watch some horror movies! Spooky season is still here.
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People Describe The Sketchiest U.S. Cities That No One Ever Talks About
What causes a small town to die?
Honestly, there can be quite a few factors, but perhaps the biggest one is that small towns often lack the upward mobility opportunities that are more available in urban areas.
As a result, many towns around the United States for instance have lost tens of millions of people as their populations seek jobs and opportunities elsewhere.
And what remains of these places can be pretty sketchy.
People told us more after Redditor RadicalizedSnackWrap asked the online community,
"What's a super sketchy US city that we never hear about?"
"Imagine..."
"Daytona Beach, FL. Imagine a bunch of alcoholic high school kids who came for spring break in 1984, and never left, and never grew up."
Oh, I don't have to imagine it.
I've seen it!
"I lived..."
"Yakima, Washington.
I lived in a neighboring town for a while and bodies would always turn up in farmer's fields that the cartel in Yakima had dropped off there."
Sounds like Netflix needs to get its hands on Yakima, a new show to go against Ozark.
"I remember a story..."
"Guntersville, Alabama. If I were to ballpark it, over 80% of the population are meth addicts and traffickers.
I remember a story where a man walked into the Walmart, took all the supplies and equipment required to cook, and proceeded to cook meth in the bathroom."
"A run-down town..."
"Reading, PA. A run-down town that is mostly used as a central point to run drugs between New York and Philly."
I am writing this from right nearby actually, and I can smell it from here.
"Small town almost entirely..."
"Butte, Montana. Small town almost entirely comprised of violent meth heads."
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"Coolidge, Arizona.
More of a town than a city, but it's such a weird place, bordering on Twilight Zone. You'll see a meth house right next to a youth theatre."
According to a friend I have who spent a lot of time in Arizona, this sounds about right.
"Used to have..."
"Gary, Indiana. Used to have a prosperous steel economy, but now it's just home to abandoned buildings, failing infrastructure, and lots and lots of crime. Just look up pictures."
"I always said..."
"Amityville. Yes, that Amityville.
I always said the "Amityville Horror" house is for amateurs. You want something scary, put on a nice watch or a gold chain and wander around downtown Amityville after dark."
I went there once.
Once.
I have not been back.
"It looks harmless..."
"Harrisburg PA. It looks harmless and maybe a little boring but holy hell that place is a giant puddle of corruption just waiting for someone to step in it. Not just state government, there's a bunch of layers you can use to crawl up the corruption ladder."
"Used to be..."
"Natchez, Mississippi. Use to be the headquarters for the KKK. Not much there besides crackheads, plantation homes, and European tourists. Don't own a nice place if you're black, you'll be stopped by the police and questioned."
Depressed yet?
It doesn't look any of these are changing anytime soon, and that's sad.
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Doctors Share Their Most Surprising 'I'm Glad You Mentioned That Symptom' Experiences
Doctors aren't perfect.
Many are them are excellent at their jobs. However, diagnosing a patient's symptoms isn't always easy. That's why it's up to their patients to advocate for themselves and be as open, direct, and as honest as possible about any and all of their symptoms.
Doctors––and some patients––told us about medical problems that were eventually detected and treated after Redditor kramboll asked the online community,
"Doctors of Reddit, what's your "I'm glad you mentioned that symptom" moment?"
"Family member recently had a breast cancer diagnosis and in passing mentioned their hip hurting really badly. The oncologist decided to stage the cancer immediately and it had spread to the bones, specifically the hip and spine. Was encroaching on the spinal cord…they started radiation fairly quickly and were able to control its progression on the spine before starting hormonal treatment. But it's a good thing they did mention the hip pain as they usually don't like to "complain" as they put it."
Sounds like you found it right on time – and there's no doubt that patient was grateful.
"We worked together..."
"Absolutely lovely patient presented with low back pain. We worked together for a few weeks, she was getting better, and she mentioned she got up several times a night to urinate. She was relatively young, that isn't super normal, so I asked how often. Six to eight times a night! Not only was she exhausted from lack of sleep, she mentioned intercourse had been painful for years since the birth of her child. She thought it was normal, and just suffered through.
No one wants to talk about urinary or fecal incontinence or pain with intercourse, but it happens so frequently in reproductive age women I've started screening questions so I can direct people to pelvic floor physical therapy. She caught up with me later and said the PT was life-changing."
"I went to my doctor..."
"Patient.
I was getting awful brain fog, getting pretty sleepy in the day but almost insomnia at night, I'd get random heart palpitations that made me feel sick, manic states of anxiety at night, and I'd get a UTI pretty much every other month. I felt like I was losing my mind. My partner at the time just said I needed to exercise and lose weight. My doctors in the UK said I was just getting older and the UTIs were normal for reproductive age.
I went to my doctor to talk about getting another set of antibiotics for a new UTI when I mentioned I had been getting some heart palpitations, luckily he probed further and sent me for a blood test. Turns out I have a lifelong autoimmune disease that attacks the thyroid, essentially depriving me of hormones and sending my adrenal gland into overdrive.
Now I'm medicated I no longer have any of those symptoms aside from afternoon sleepiness. I hate to think what state I'd be in if I didn't get it sorted when I did."
Good thing you spoke up, right? Well done.
"Finally..."
"I had stomach pains for months and kept going back to my GP about it. We tried tons of different meds, but I still kept waking up in the night with this horrible stomach pain.
Finally, probably my 7th or 8th appointment, I mentioned having shoulder pain when my stomach hurt. Boom. She immediately knew I had gallstones and had to have my gallbladder removed. I think because I was young and in good health, it didn't even occur to her until I mentioned the shoulder pain. Apparently, that's a symptom of gallstones.
Doctors aren't perfect, but people have to be their biggest health advocates. If I had just given up or gotten frustrated, I might never have figured out the problem."
This is 100% true. Speak up! You know your body better than anyone, so you might as well be open and direct.
"My eye doctor mentioned..."
"Patient here. My eye doctor mentioned in passing that I needed to come in if I ever saw new flashes or floaters. I am young, but very nearsighted. Months later I started seeing flashes. I wasn't worried about it, but did have my doctor's voice in my head so I made an appointment. Sure enough my retina had detached and I needed emergency surgery to save my vision. I am so thankful the eye doctor casually mentioned that and I listened to my gut."
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"I had a dude come in with abdo pain and vomiting. Had been vomiting for days. Was going down the surgical route with him until he mentioned that he showered up to 20 times a day to help with the pain. Turned out he had classic cannabinoid hyperemesis syndrome."
This is is a condition that sometimes develops due to the long-term use of marijuana. The syndrome causes repeated and severe vomiting and nausea. As CHS is a newly described condition, many doctors may find it challenging to diagnose and treat.
"At one point..."
"Doctor currently in residency here.
Had a patient I was taking care of in the inpatient medical ward who was admitted for seizures in the context of alcohol withdrawal. He was a young guy who had become depressed due to several life stressors including divorce and losing his job which exacerbated his pre-existing alcohol use disorder. He also was extremely malnourished (not uncommon in alcoholics) and had a very low BMI. Apparently he had zero appetite due to depression."
"At one point he had started feeling better and his appetite improved. However, his heart rate was consistently very high for no clear reason and he was experiencing palpitations. I had a hunch to check electrolytes and several had dropped to very low levels. The reason for this is something called "refeeding syndrome". Basically if someone has not eaten for a while and suddenly starts eating a lot, they become very insulin sensitive which can lead to electrolyte disturbances that can cause abnormal heart rhythms and even death.
We put him on continuous cardiac monitoring and aggressively replaced his electrolytes, but it was scary how at risk he was to going into an arrhythmia simply for just eating food."
"Apparently..."
"I was a patient. I'd gone in to see one doctor, complaining of headaches. My eye was red and swollen, and I was sensitive to light. She said it was allergies and migraines, and told me to use eye drops and take Midol. After two weeks, it was so much worse, so I saw a different doctor in the same building. I gave her all the same symptoms, but this is where I changed it: I said "the pain in my head is so bad, it's only on this side, it feels like fireworks behind my eye, and I want to take a knife and cut my head right here" - I pointed directly at my temple- "so the pressure can be released."
"Apparently, the delusion of believing I'd survive that, combined with the way I described the pain, clicked something in her brain. 20 minutes later I was on the way to the ER with a diagnosis of orbital cellulitis which was eating its way towards my brain and had been for nearly three weeks. They were close to removing my eye and surrounding tissue but I luckily responded to the emergency antibiotics. The pain was so bad that I was screaming even on morphine. Eventually, they switched me to Dilaudid when my dad mentioned that morphine didn't help him or my grandfather. I guess we metabolize it too quickly or something? So I learned two things that night lmao
If I hadn't mentioned how severe the pain was and the lengths I'd go to for it to stop, I don't know if they would have caught it before there were more serious consequences."
The lesson here, and I'll repeat it: Be your own advocate. You are your best advocate. Speak up: You'll be happy you did and doctors will thank you later.
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I had a friend years ago. We'll call her Anne. Anne had a mother who seemed to believe every conspiracy theory in the book. I don't know how in the world she managed to keep any of these beliefs straight, especially when one conspiracy theory appeared to contradict the other. I often rolled my eyes when she'd go on her rants. Anne's mother was a nice enough lady... she just happened to live in an entirely different reality from the rest of us.
But Anne's mother isn't the only parent out there who believes in nonsense. That's what we were reminded after Redditor Crazed_waffle_party asked the online community,
"What's the dumbest thing your parents believe in?"
"They will not use..."
"They will not use their cordless phone in a thunderstorm as they are concerned they may get electrocuted."
I had an acquaintance like this... I don't know how she made it through the entire time that we had cordless phones. The way she inconvenienced herself was unreal.
"My mother hates my guts..."
"My mother hates my guts because one of my dad's ex-girlfriends told her that daughters are the reincarnation of the father's lover from another lifetime. She knew my mother was dumb as rocks and would believe something like that. So my mother got jealous and made my life hell.
Apparently, all my brain cells came from my father instead of my egg donor."
It truly sounds like it. Aren't you glad?
"My dad thinks..."
"My dad thinks the stars are not real and that they are actually satellites spying on us."
Is this the plot of the next M. Night Shyamalan movie?
"Last year..."
"Last year the whole family had to explain to my mom that dragons did not exist and I find it so funny."
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"It is impossible..."
"My father believes that no one likes blondes because he doesn't like them. It is impossible to convince him. No, he's not kidding. This is not the only obvious mistake he is holding on to."
This is very... specific. He's never seen Gentlemen Prefer Blondes, has he? There's a certain actress named Marilyn Monroe and plenty of people liked her (and still like her).
"If I were to believe..."
"If I were to believe my dad, every ailment could be solved by just going outside and getting some fresh air."
When people say this about depression, it's infuriating.
"They are being inserted..."
"My parents believe that nanobots are in vaccines and Covid tests. They are being inserted into everybody and will spontaneously detonate at some point to be determined by movable goalposts."
"He warned me..."
"My dad believed earnestly that if a bed had been unused for a long time, it would be ice cold and hard to warm up. He warned me about this many times when I came to stay in their guest room."
Again... this is so specific. Where do people get this stuff from?!
"Definitely not as bad..."
"Waiting 30 minutes to swim after eating. Definitely not as bad as some other replies, but it drove me crazy every summer growing up."
"My mom believes using any..."
"My mom believes using any pharmaceutical medications will lead to drug addiction."
Hey, no one said our parents are perfect. They're just people. And they're not immune to believe some really ridiculous, stupid stuff.
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