People Divulge The Dumbest Reasons Their Friends Ever Ended Up On The News
Reddit user Miguenzo asked: 'What’s the dumbest reason somebody you know landed on the 6 o’clock news?'
It can be a pleasant and exciting surprise to see a friend or family member show up on the evening news.
Particularly if it is a story showcasing their accomplishments or allowing them to let their voice be heard on an important issue.
Of course, showing up on the news isn't always a joyous occasion.
Indeed, some people tune in to find their friends and family on the news for reasons they might hope people will eventually forget down the line.
Redditor Miguenzo was eager to hear stories of a loved one making the evening news for less than brag-worthy stories, leading them to ask:
"What’s the dumbest reason somebody you know landed on the 6 o’clock news?"
15 Minutes, Or Four Seconds, Of Fame...
"Years back, there was a college scholarship scam going on here."
"These companies would go to high schools and do a presentation, and grift parents into paying a large sum for the company to help get a scholarship."
"My mom took one look at this and was like, 'this is a scam'."
"My uncle bought it hook, line and sinker and paid up."
"And received absolutely nothing."
"So he calls our news program and they do a feature with this company in their 'hall of shame.'"
"My uncle was absolutely THRILLED."
"'They interviewed me for 4 hours!'"
"'It's going to be huge!'"
"We all sit around the TV."
"It's February 2000."
"Boom, there's my uncle!"
"They do the lead-in..and then, there's my uncle saying..."
"'They said, uh, sue 'em'."
"My uncle is screaming."
"'What the Hell?! They were at my house for 4 hours!'"
"We still have it on VHS somewhere."
"My uncle's star moment over in seconds."- JKW1988
Episode 19 News GIF by The Simpsons Giphy
Preserved For Posterity...
"My college roommate got stuck in an infant swing at a public park and firefighters had to use some type of Jaws of Life contraption to cut the swing down and cut her out of it."- Nocomt
Oops!
"I know a guy who was interviewed on camera up in the mountains where there was a forest fire."
"He had been up there fishing with his girlfriend."
"He was married."- Fezig
Close Call
"Dude was swimming laps in a lake after dinner (i.e., around sunset)."
"Predictably, he got bit by an alligator."
"I saw him on the news, shirtless in true Floridaman fashion, with a little bandage over each tooth mark."
"The bandages made a dotted line around his shoulder and chest in the shape of an alligator's mouth, like he was in a cartoon or something."- BigRedRobotNinja
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"There was a park nearby that had no drainage and was bowl shaped."
"So if it rained hard, this baseball park/ football field turned into a mini lake."
"It rained a lot one day and the news did a story just showing how much it rained, and in the background behind the news-woman, from out of frame you see my friend rowing past her in a kayak."- hook_killed_pan
Right Place At The Right Time?
"A fight broke out at a HS football game."
"Turned into a huge brouhaha.'
"They intervened this dumba** friend of mine on the local news, the only bit that made it into the broadcast was him saying 'For the first time in my life I was happy to see cops!'"- KneeDragr
Awww...
"Marrying their pet goldfish in an underwater ceremony, complete with a wedding gown and guests in scuba gear."- Candies-For-You
Illustration Swimming GIF by Ordinary Nadee GiphyStrike!
'A childhood friend’s dad embezzled money from the local Little League team."- Key-Zebra-4125
How Did He Even Make It To The Freezer?
"An ex boyfriend of my best friend’s sister ended up on the news for breaking into a Checkers through the drive through window and locking himself in the freezer until the cops arrived and arrested him."- pineapple3712·
Ice Cream Snack GIF by My/Mochi Ice Cream Giphy
Setting An Example...
"I got filmed and aired sticking a swab up my nose at drive thru covid testing."
"I had just declined to be interviewed at my car because I was afraid of getting someone sick."
"Test was negative, and my sister got a new pic for my contact profile on her phone."- idiotsavant419
Criminals Don't Ususally Wait In The Check Out Line...
"My friend was going to target with his mom to buy a tv."
"They stopped at Starbucks in the store."
"When the worker asked what the wanted he said “'he money in the register see' like an old timey gangster, then laughed ordered and payed for their coffee and went into target."
"While they were pushing their cart with a tv in it to the check out line the swat team surrounded them and arrested him for armed robbery.. was on the news."
"Got charged and everything."
"The first hearing the barista could not point him out and the judge threw out the case."- MACHOmanJITSU
Returning To The Scene Of The Crime...
"A guy from my high school stole Michael Jackson's glove from the Motown Museum in Detroit MI in early 90s."
"He returned it."
"I knew it had to be him, and yep, it was."
"I remembered him because he dressed like Michael Jackson every single day of school for years."
"He did it really well, too."
"He also didn't talk much."
"So, I was surprised to see him talking to a TV reporter about it."
"I hope he's doing well."- ATK80k
Animated GIF GiphySome people crave their 15 minutes of fame and embrace it however it may come.
Others only hope that no one they knew happened to be watching their local news that night...
Even though they know deep down that all their friends have it on their DVR and are never planning to erase it...
People Reveal The Dumbest Reason They've Ever Lost A Friend
Reddit user Mister_Moho asked: 'What is the dumbest reason you've ever lost a friend for?'
Maintaining friendships as we get older becomes a challenge.
The fact is, people evolve as they move on to different chapters in their lives, whether it's work-related, changing schools, or raising a family.
And while we do our best to keep the friendships involving our besties who've seen each of us go through our various ups and downs in life, it's inevitable that some gradually fade into the background and are eventually forgotten.
Curious to hear from those who've lost touch with friends, Redditor Mister_Moho asked:
"What is the dumbest reason you've ever lost a friend for?"
Workplace friendships can change without notice.
The Hurt Coworker
"We were coworkers, best friends. This dude quits the job and blocks me on everything?? I still don’t understand why."
– ToastedTurtle420
"He was probably hurt that you quit and apparently didnt know how to express his feelings in a healthy way, being a 45 year old man. 5 bucks say he got into his car after work that day, put on some sad music and cried."
– Waflstmpr
Gone And Forgotten
"I got laid off from my job a few months back that I’d only been at for just less than a year, and my best friend, whom I worked with during that time, of 5 years still hasn’t contacted me. That sh*t hurt."
– HyrumCWill
"Got hired, became great friends with a guy that's been there 25 years. We both hated the 'new owner' who owned it 5 years. (I was brand new)."
"Worked side by side for 6 months, went out 3-4 days a week after work for a beer. Every Fri we set our schedule for Monday. I worked in the field, he worked in the shop. We both arranged our schedules to help each other out."
"He'd said many times, 'we' had the best system he'd worked in 25 years there."
"I quit at 6 months. He knew I'd be quitting, we both talked about quitting as the owner was an idiot."
"I called him that Fri to see if he wantedd to grab an afterwork beer."
"45 yr old guy literally yelled into his phone 'no one here likes you so stop calling.' I chuckled, thought.that's weird, but ok."
"Called back. He answered, was really serious. Said it again. Calmer."
"Said look guy, you were never one of us, and you proved that when you quit."
"It was the weirdest and most chick-like breakup I've ever had!"
"I thought, a week ago, we took the company truck on a delivery, and his wife made us sandwiches at his house for lunch?"
"Always wondered if he hated me because I 'made it out'?"
"I picked the time to leave right after a big project, so he wouldn't be stuck doing my job. The timing was perfect to hire my replacement. Was really weird. Guess I hurt a 45 yr old dudes feelings somehow?"
– BillyJackFaceKick69
Some people are terrible at communicating.
Non Answer
"Friendship of 20 years, She never told me why ('you know why") thats the dumbest reason ever."
– AssociateMany102
"Something similar like this. Best friend since kindergarten decides to suddenly ghost me after she ended up moving schools during junior year. The last several times we saw each other we never said much even at sleepovers. October, 2 months into the school year I noticed she has me blocked on social media. It didn’t help that throughout the rest of the year where people asked me how she was doing since we were always close. Took them about Senior year to stop asking and getting fake sympathy from a few including my parents. Meanwhile some of her acquaintances who she still had contact with always glared at me in the halls. Looking back at it in that last year, I can say we had our differences…."
– _hot_maruchan_
Ghosted
"Same. I was good friends with a guy for 15 years. Hung out at least once a week, usually minimum of 1 day at the weekend if life was busy. We would game together most night, grab a takeaway at the weekend and nothing seemed out of the ordinary."
"We had a meal one night and had even been discussing plans for the future and the next day he cut off contact."
"Blocked me on everything including my number as my calls just wouldn’t go through."
"After about two weeks I decided to go around his house and make sure he wasn’t dead. No answer. I tried a few more times, also email and phoning. Eventually after about a month I had to assume he was dead as I didn’t really have any contact with anyone else that knew him so I left it."
"After about 6 months I managed to find an old email messenger by accident I had forgotten about like 10 years ago and it said he was online so I reached out and he replied about 3 days later saying sorry he had been to some place for work and had to help there."
"Well turns out that was a lie as that location has never (and hasn’t since) had a store at that location."
"He then gave me his 'new' number and said he would fill me in."
"Number was not his, and immediately after he sent it to be the messenger changed to 'this person can no longer receive messages from you as you have been blocked.'”
"Never got an explanation or what I’ve done wrong."
– Interesting_Tone6532
"I also lost quite a bit of money because of this as I had been planning to go to an event which I had pre paid for and he said he would go if I booked it. I had told him when I was booking it for and he had verbally agreed to go if I sorted out all the details. Well I got some back for cancelling it but not everything as I didn’t want to go alone."
"The last thing is that his friend did the exact same thing to him over a girl about five years into us being friends, and he said to me then and swore that he would never do anything like that to anyone, and I believed him because if he was always pretty blunt when he didn’t like someone."
Sorry for the long message, I’ve never really found the right post to rant about this."
– Interesting_Tone6532
Some friendships aren't meant to last forever.
The Drug Dealer
"Had a friend that got pulled over by police and caught with drugs with intent to sell. All good, I always knew he consumed and it was not my problem. One week goes by, I give him a ride home during the afternoon and when I meet him at the same day during the night, I find him looking for his stash that he left in my car without telling me. He was surprised that I got mad. Entitled and spoiled kid. I cut all our ties."
– shur_t
Bad Taste
"My best friend in high school stopped associating with me when I started listening to bands other than Green Day."
"I wish I was joking."
– StrixArcana
"I'd see this happening in middle school, but high school?! Damn, someone was superficial..."
– OP
"In middle school someone told me I wasn’t “allowed” to listen to the Beastie Boys and Cypress Hill. I had to pick one."
– unit_79
You can't always predict everyone's behavior but based on their reactions to various circumstances can be very telling of who your "friends" are.
When their true colors reveal an individual to have a personality that contradicts the affable image of them you had before, it just shows they were never a friend to begin with.
The examples above were definitely reflective of the notion that it's not a matter of how many friends you have on your growing list on your social media friends lists.
It's the ones who will have your back no matter what that you want to hold onto.
Words matter.
That is a life truth ignored far too often.
I know emotions can run high.
But we really need to acknowledge how we use language toward one another.
It can have a life long-lasting effect.
Think before you speak. That is one of life's greatest mantras.
Redditor em0gril wanted to hear about the worst things people have ever said to be mean. So they asked:
"What is the most hurtful thing someone said to you?"
Thanks Mom...
Tyler Perry GIF by NickelodeonGiphy"'I don't know what is so special about you.' -My mother after seeing my kids get excited that I was home from work."
Legitimate_Story_333
Gloomy
"My mom, who was always emotionally abusive, get especially bad when I started dating my now husband. This included her telling me she hates me. After months of being her emotional punching bag, my depression was also not doing awesome."
"She got on meds, never apologized, never acknowledged what she said and did. I’d recently lost my job and she said my depression was bringing her down and I should move out. Haven’t spoken to her in years and don’t miss her."
UnihornWhale
No Comps?
"I worked really hard in high school in theatre (still very happy in it over 20 years later). I was accepted to every school I applied and through a donation my high awarded me a scholarship."
"In the glow of pride of this unexpected gift, my mother said in front of everyone 'I can't believe they wasted their money on you.'"
"Guess who DOESN'T get comps to my shows."
azorianmilk
Arrangements
"My daughter died at birth and I almost did too. My father told me that my stepmother was 'Really taking it hard and feels like she doesn’t have a purpose anymore/nothing to live for' because we had planned for her to babysit. She also asked me when I was hospitalized if she can have some of my daughter's ashes for herself. Keep in mind we were never close and I never even lived there."
"I was still extremely sick post-birth and never got to go to the funeral home for arrangements so my dad did. He told me a few years later when I got a potter to make her an urn 'I hope you aren’t getting rid of the one I picked out because I spent a lot of money on it.' My sister also THINKS she had a miscarriage at some point very very early on when she was a teen and told me after I lost my daughter that she has been through worse."
_Jordy_C_
Ruined
"You won't ruin my new family."
"My mom to 13ish-year-old me."
"Jokes on her, she ruined it herself."
plz2meatyu
These are the reasons therapy was invented.
For Me
Frustrated Skip Bayless GIFGiphy"My mom told me when I was 5 that I was not wanted. Now it took me 15 years to actually stop trying to please and finally live for myself."
Leather-Spite-556
Look at Me
"When my father looked at me and said he was glad I knew that I wasn't his, and he didn't have to be my Dad anymore. My mom was a habitual cheater. She had an affair with my Dad's sister's husband (my non-bio Uncle on my Dad's side). If you like the stars up on paper, I was my Uncle's kid."
"When I was a little kid, he was decent to me. When my sister was born 7 years later, her s**t didn't stink, and I had better not breathe wrong. When I told him, I knew the family's little secret. He was glad to be rid of me. He died 6 years later from a heart issue. Out of curiosity, I did a DNA test, and my sister did one too. Turns out I, in fact, was my father's son and my sister, his best friend's kid."
Traditional_Crew6617
Zero Behavior
"I’ve commented on this before but someone once said to me/about my wife that 'It sucks her dad died [last week of a sudden massive heart attack but that doesn’t give her an excuse for her behavior.]' The problem was, the statement was totally untrue. There was zero 'behavior.' The person was literally just being a cold-hearted b*tch because they took a disliking to my wife, who was only ever perfectly kind to the cold-hearted *itch."
"I excused a lot of shi**y behavior toward myself and others from that POS but this was the last straw. To not even be able to fake a decent human interaction toward someone the very week their father dies a horrific, untimely death really speaks to the kind of garbage heap of a human I was dealing with."
Straight-Two1164
Happy 50th!!
"My father told me that I would never live to the age of 50 because I was overweight. He went as far as to leave my brother and sister his estate in the will, but I was only left a small amount of money that I would only be eligible to collect after my 50th birthday. He was one of the most cruel people I have ever met in my life."
GiacintoD
24
"I was 18 when my sister (24) died suddenly of an aneurysm. For weeks after I was told SO many different iterations of 'It's all in God's plan/everything happens for a reason' that that was the start of my break from my own faith and losing my religion. I cannot imagine saying something like that to someone who just lost a sibling. I have a visceral reaction to that phrase to this day, and it was 24 years ago next month."
heyitsthatoneguy81
Wishes
Magic Carpet Genie GIF by DisneyGiphy"My dad once was angry at me and said that he wished I were an abortion. I knew even back then that he didn't mean it, yet sometimes decades later, it still stings."
MagnoliaTree3
The cruelty of parents is the worst.
We really need to watch how we speak.
Some people remain best friends with the same friends they made in preschool, or earlier.
Other friendships fade away, as people move on with their lives and lose touch.
But even if these people don't see each other as often as they once did, they would still likely consider themselves "friends", and would be happy should their paths ever cross again.
There are some friendships, however, which do not stand the test of time.
What's more, in some extreme cases, these friendships ended because of a very pointed decision by one or more people.
What some might even consider a "breakup."
"Have you ever 'broken up' with a friend? Why, and what was the aftermath?"
Not The People They Once Were
"I stopped hanging out with all my friends because they all changed."
"They were nothing like how they were when I met them."
"I looked at them as my brothers but they've become what we all swore to never become and dragged me into it."
"Nothing but doing drugs, selling drugs, robbing people."
"I just decided to walk away before I became exactly like them and moved on with my life."
"I wish they could be how they once were but I know that isn't gonna happen."- SuddenCheesecake3273
Lack Of Reciprocity
"Yeah I realized my 'Treat others the way you want to be treated' approach was one-sided."
"I helped someone through some real rough patches, and when I went through some dark times they were nowhere to be seen."- fuifui_bradbrad
"Pretty much all of my high school friends and some other friends I met through work or mutual friends."
"I kept feeling like it was a 'one way' friendship."
"I would be the one texting them to hang out but I would never get texts from them to hang out."- GoldenGod48
Unervalued
"I recently cut off my childhood best friend because he views me as an ATM."
"I don't care about money."
"If I can help someone out, I will with 0 hesitation, but I refuse to be taken advantage of."
"My breaking point was when he was finalizing his wedding party and told me that I was a backup groomsmen in case anyone cancels."
"We've known each other since we were 10 years old and have always kept contact even when he moved away, but I'm not important enough to be one of the first people considered to be there."
"During that same conversation, he said that he'd still expect me to attend and hinted at wanting a cash gift from me."
"We haven't spoken in a couple of months, and I hope that trend continues for the foreseeable future."- morganfreenomorph
No Room For Negativity
"Had a buddy in school who was a really nice guy but the absolute most negative person ever."
"Everything was bad and awful, never ever stopped complaining."
"Walked into the library - too cold, walked outside, too hot, standing in the atrium - windows 15 feet up were dusty, lights inside were too blue but the wooden desks made things too yellow."
"Never stopped."
"School was stressful enough and eventually I changed my study group and location so I want around him and I just felt a whole lot better and light and happy."
"Sometimes you have to be selfish and say that if things/people aren’t making your life better, cut them out."- Dr_D-R-E
Manipulative Influence
"Man I'd called my brother since we were 5 (we're 28 now)."
"He was one of the cool kids and stayed my friend (the socially awkward weird kid)."
"Joined the marines after school, came home, and met a girl who had a kid."
"We drifted apart here and there from 21-25 but still kept contact and hung out once in a blue moon."
"I asked him to be my best man."
"He obviously said yes."
"His S/O didn't like me."
"At the time, I didn't know why."
"My wedding starts to near, i text him telling him we REAAALLLY need to go get fitted for tuxes, get a text a day or so later essentially saying he was out because of xyz."
"This was very out of character for him."
"Time passes."
"My wife and I celebrated our 1st anniversary."
"I'm outside doing stuff in the driveway, a guy that i don't even recognize walks up."
"It's him."
"We talk for a minute, and he starts breaking down, grabbing him, and we go inside."
"We talked for a while. In short he was at a mental breaking point, constantly manipulated by his now fiancé, wont let him get a job because 'she needed him at home to help her anxiety'."
"I offered him an out, gave him a place to stay as long as he needed and gave him a vehicle to drive in the mean time."
"Offered to get him a job with a good friend of mine."
"He stayed with me for a couple of days, his SO shut his debit card off, shut his phone service off, etc."
"But she would turn his phone back on to torment him."
"He came and went from my place a couple of times over those next couple of months."
"But he was stuck in an abusive relationship."
"He kept going back to his abuser."
"Telling me shed claim I did all sorts of stuff."
"Then i came home, and he and his stuff were gone."
"I texted him a day or two later, just saying, 'You good buddy?'"
"Got a text back saying how 'he couldn't hang out with me anymore and didn't like how we talked about SO when we were together, and how awful it was that we would ever do that'."
"This was written by his SO without a shred of doubt."
"The last thing I texted him was 'I don't know if i believe all that based on our conversations, but like I've said 100 times, I just want you happy and healthy if thats what it takes, then thats what it takes, you know where I'm at if you need anything, love ya dude'."
"If you're out there brother, if you read this, I miss the f*ck out of you."
"I worry about you regularly."
"Stop by, please."
"F*ck you Kaitlyn, i wish nothing but the worst for you."
"You're a shrewd cold woman and do not deserve the man or the perfect life you plaster on social media."- Theebalz106
Who Was Bringing Who Down?
"Had a buddy who was hanging out with some guys at coffee shops and they'd discuss philosophy, poetry and current events (we were in our late 20s)."
'At any rate one day he gets a call from one of the guys and my buddy asks me to go with him and we'll grab a bite afterwards."
"So we walk in and the guy is seated in a chair facing the couch."
"I jokingly asked if this was an intervention."
"Guy proceeded to tell my friend that they could no longer be friends because he needs people who will elevate him."
"In the midst of this very snarky monologue my friend looks at me and smiles awkwardly and was like 'you hungry?'"
"We stand up and leave."
"My friend is a now a c-suite employee and that guy who 'broke up' with him is still working a min wage job, been married several times and is barely holding his life together."
"Was just so...random."
"I can still remember the room and what we were wearing and the look on my friend's face when he realized what was happening and we left."- Ok-Bus1716
Friend, Not Servant
"My dear friend dumped me because I couldn’t do her anymore favors."
"She pushed off my visit a couple of times so I just quit trying."
"I almost lost my job because I had to pick up her daughter from school."
"I told her I couldn’t do it anymore."
"Kind of relieved because I was tired of always doing favors."- GingerJanMarie
Sadly Inevitable
"I got into a fight (over text) with a friend whom I had been walking on eggshells around for years."
"Unfortunately my best was involved because she was a part of the group message."
"My best friend didn’t talk to me for months."
"It broke my heart."
"The other friend as soon as I cussed her out and blocked her I felt a weight lift from my shoulders."
"My best friend eventually started talking to me again."
"So a happy ending."- Lazy_Enthusiasm25
"Best friends from elementary school through college (my college not hers)."
"Found out in college that she was lying about things to take advantage of me financially."
"My grandparents had left me some money that should have paid for my entire college including living expenses."
"Instead I worked through college and lived with my parents and also took out student loans."
"For instance I paid her rent for an entire year before she got evicted anyway because she was blowing the money I gave her on random stuff."
"While I was helping her clear her stuff out before they changed the locks I overheard her parents comment about how they had been paying her rent this entire time too."
"Or once she came to borrow money from me at work saying she bounced a check at her job and she was going to fired unless she paid it back."
"I got off work to a message from another mutual friend saying that they had gone to the movies and seen something we'd planned to watch together then clothes shopping but we could go see something else that weekend."
"She never did cover the bounced check and did lose her job and get a warrant out for her arrest."
"It wasn't just me it was everybody she did this to."
"Like at one point, she lived with her mom who was supporting her 3 siblings, and took the mom's car overnight and used an entire tank of gas to drive to another town to go clubbing, and the mother had to beg a neighbor for enough gas money to get to work."
"She also dropped out of college the first week of the first semester but never formally withdrew so her parents were still on the hook for the entire semester of fees, and she had a 0 GPA."
"I finally told her that I wouldn't give her any more money or pay for her when we went places."
"If she wanted to be friends, she needed to pull her own weight."
"Shortly before the fallout, I'd introduced her to my cousin who was bemoaning his religious gf's unwillingness to 'put out'."
"Within 2 weeks she slept with my cousin then told him she was pregnant and he needed to do the right thing and marry her."
"Once he told his parents they were engaged she told him that she lost the pregnancy but he couldn't call off the engagement without telling his super religious parents that the whole thing was because of a pregnancy scare."
"They did end up getting married."
"She talked him into enlisting in the military since she had previously commented about how unfair it is military wives don't have to work, that supporting their husbands is their only job."
"They've had 3 kids she does nothing for, her mother moved in to take care of them for her and his parents supplement his income so they can afford housing."
"She hasn't held a steady job since they've been together."
"So I've been avoiding him and her both for 15 years and get all the drama second hand from our mutual cousins (and his sister) who all hate her!"- misoranomegami
A friend is someone who is always there for you, and who you'll always be there for in return.
Any friend, however, who only brings you down is not a friend at all.
And sometimes, the only way to forgive and move on, is to let go.
The line between romantic relationships and friendships can be a blurry one.
But can you really be friends with someone you have sex with on a regular basis without crossing over into relationship territory?
No-strings-attached sex can work with some people and not so much with others.
It all depends on the chemistry between the two parties involved and how far they're willing to go.
Curious to hear from those who have consensually crossed the line with their friendships by fulfilling their carnal desire, Redditor Odd_Speech_2692 asked:
"People who has had friends with benefits, how did you feel and what is your relationship with them like now?"
There's no drama. It's just sex.
No Regrets
"Still friends."
"Was great, no regrets."
"You both need to be on the same page though that there is no romantic connection/compatibility and it’s just 'fun.'”
– captnmiss
"Same. Still fantastic friends, we talk everyday."
– pixiejane
Sexually Compatible
"I know them very well. Over 12 years."
"I’m having sex with them because I find them ABUNDANTLY attractive (they’re my type physically but not personality wise)."
"I also don’t know if I’m a good average data point. I have a way too high sex drive and don’t see sex/emotions the same way others seem to."
– captnmiss
Scratching The Itch
"Had a similar arrangement in my mid 20s with a friend I had known since 2nd grade. She used to come over to my apartment like 3 afternoons a week. After a couple weeks of this, she straight up told me that we should start having sex on her visits but just for fun. Made it VERY clear that it wasn't going to be romantic in any way, and we would just be two single people basically scratching an itch for each other and having fun together in a slightly unconventional way."
"It actually turned out great and lasted for about 3 or 4 months. She was awesome in bed, we had a lot of fun together, and are still very good friends to this day. She was one of my wife's bridesmaids in our wedding, and her husband was my best man. They are our best couple friends."
– BrilliantWeight
No One Needs To Know
"I have a few friends like this. Turned out great because we knew what we were getting into. It was great fun but don't let others know."
– TwinTTowers
The arrangement didn't work for everybody.
"We were on when neither of us had a boyfriend or girlfriend. When one of us was in a relationship we just stayed friends. It was super cool and chill and we could remain close without the sex. Then I got engaged, and she lost her sh*t. She was under the impression we were both playing the field until we got serious with each other. She drunkenly called me out at a friend's wedding in front of my future wife. I had to end the friendship. I never saw any of this coming."
– Scoob1978
"I had a wonderful FWB who I reconnected with many years after we both left the same school."
"I got a friend request some years later - turned out we worked near each other, and we met up for lunch in our respective lunch breaks. One thing led to another and soon we were meeting regularly just to shag each other. This carried on for several months, possibly longer."
"Then she caught the feels, and tearfully told me she couldn't do it any more. I felt awful. As far as I was concerned, we were great friends who shagged each other and we both knew what the score was. But she felt it had gone too far and didn't want to carry on because she knew she couldn't have me in the way she wanted."
In hindsight, she handled it in the best way. We've remained friends - we don't see each other, but we're still on each other's facebook.
A few years later, we did randomly bump into each other at a concert. We were both with our partners at the time and all four of us had a chat. My girlfriend didn't know her, and had never met her, and even though the banter was nothing more than friendly and not a bit flirty, for some reason my girlfriend clocked immediately that we were ex shaggers.
– eezgorriseadback
Common Outcome
"Typically they end with one side catching feelings and ending the friendship. I have a few that I still keep in touch with when I’m in their city."
– MFKaelSinister
When One Got Emotionally Attached
"100 percent correct. Had a fwb for about 10 years, met in college. Very random and infrequent hang outs. Once or twice a year. Once we got to late 20s and she was single, we did a couple happy hours that ended at my place, she caught feelings big time. I declined. She doesn’t talk to me anymore and that’s over."
– I-bmac-n
These FWB couples didn't see this coming.
From FWB To Couple
"It felt hot and exciting but also like close friends. He was very attractive, super fun to be around, and had a lot of qualities that I like (gamer, geek, funny as all hell). I was looking for a good time and he was down. After a few weeks, I needed to move and he offered to come live with him while I found an apt. Then the Pandemic happened..."
"We've been together since. I call it love, he calls it Stockholm. Was looking for silver, ended up with gold :)"
"Edit: Wow, I didn't think so many of you would appreciate our 'from FWB to couple' story! My partner is also a reddit user and we've enjoyed reading your comments and seeing this pop off. Thank you for the awards kind strangers! As for the person who gave the gold award: I see what you did there... well played xD"
– auramistress
Started As Fooling Around
"It's was fun. Was during college, a 100% zero commitment and just fooling around."
"Now celebrating our 10 year wedding anniversary and have 4 kids. Someone didn't get the memo on just friends with benefits, but sure worked out nice."
– euesquecimeunome
Six Years Later...
"It felt exciting and fun. We got along very well. We'd often hangout and chill together."
"Anyway, we've been married 6 years."
– mkicon
Based on the responses, sexual situationships can work, but it's hard to determine whether or not it can last.
There are many variable to having an emotional disconnect with someone while enjoying an intimate, physical connection.
People's situations change as new people come in and out of their lives.
But the one thing worth contemplating when pursuing sex with someone on varying levels of acquaintance is, is it worth jeopardizing the friendship?
What are your thoughts?