It's no secret that 2020 has been a dumpster fire of a year for all of us. Between a stressful US election, a global pandemic, police brutality, and all of the turns our own personal mental healths have taken, it's a wonder any of us are managing to cope with the constant trauma.
But, it hasn't been all bad on the micro level. Some things really have come through for us individually in 2020...right?
At least, it has for these people.
A Reddit user asked:
What positive things happened in your life in 2020?
Here were some of those answers.
Multi Functional Fancy Blankets
I bought a weighted blanket to treat my anxiety. This has caused two positive things to happen:
- I don't have that bad anxiety attacks anymore
- My cat noticed it felt nice to lay on top of the weighted blanket while I was laying under it, and turned into a lapcat.
Probably one of the best purchases I have made in a while.
1-2-3-4 I Declare A Press War
The birth of my daughter back in October. Really a bright spot in an otherwise pretty personally terrible year.
Oh, and the whole Four Seasons Total Landscaping thing too. That one really got me.
I'm A Fancy Doctor Now
I finally got my PhD in astronomy and became Dr. Andromeda321! :D
It was a virtual defense in May, and the university is holding onto the big fancy diploma to have a big in person ceremony for all of us who had to do a virtual defense to get them in person, once it's safe to do so.
Adapting Learning Styles
I finally learned how to learn from a textbook!
Less positive was the source, my prof had no videos covering the content, but the class was designed to read the entire thing, every page. It was insane, and stressful, and unnecessary, but I sure will not be so hesitant in opening a textbook in future courses now!
I'm A New Me
I graduate this year with either straight As, or near straight As, depending on if I screw up, have an internship doing what I love, and planning a creative brand for myself. 2020 was ironically the year I buckled down and made something of myself.
Meow And Pow Pow Pow
Got a cat, got back to school after 5 years and was very satisfied with the online schooling (I like it even more than the usual one), and got paid to stay at home. I feel bad saying it, but 2020 has actually been one of the best years for me.
Also I won a major argument with my boyfriend, we're Canadians and he was sure that the US would elect Trump again. I told him that I thought that they learned from their mistakes and that they would vote in mass, so Biden would win. He thought that the Americans were dumb, but I know it's not true. You guys rock.
It's Time To Give Back
I work for a group home for adult men with mental disabilities, when I started I found out part of my job would be taking them to their Special Olympics practices and tournaments. They all do basketball and bowling, a couple also do track or weightlifting. Seeing their coach was super busy trying to do it himself, I offered to help. So I became the unofficial assistant coach. Helping mostly my guys but occasionally helping the others, as time went on the others got more comfortable with me and my interaction with them increased. After a few months the coach asked me if I would consider becoming certified and officially being his assistant coach.
So in December of 2019 I started the process, I know, I've got the best timing. Thanks to corona it's been a bit more difficult, bowling can all be done online but basketball can't. But as of 2 weeks ago I'm an officially licensed Special Olympics coach for basketball and bowling, I eventually plan to expand to the other sports as well.
Remember Traveling?
Honestly, this is a hard one to answer. Not a lot of positives but also not as many negatives as there could have been. I didn't catch covid and I didn't lose my job and I'm kinda okay with that.
I guess the best thing I did this year was visit a friend in Denver. I rarely get to travel, even in a good year, and it was nice seeing an old friend.
School Lies Just Ahead
I got into my dream university. I had previously attended a different state university right after high school, but dropped out due to extreme depression. It was a long road moving back home and attending community college, but it finally paid off and I found out yesterday my early admission was accepted.
When You Have To Be Alone, You Learn About You!
Honestly, I needed less distraction and business to really sit with myself, and my thoughts, to figure out the person I am and want to be.
At first it was horrible and I struggled with depression. But, I pulled myself out. I got into podcasts and got better at cross stitching, making a gift for my wonderful partner. I joined the gym and got a personal trainer and have never felt healthier or more confident. I cook all my meals from scratch and have gotten way better at it. I'm doing well with my studies and have recently taken the initiative to enquire about volunteering. I've found a drive that I always knew I had, I just needed the space to activate fully.
Obviously some things could be better but I've tried to get all I can out of this mess!
It's almost 2020 y'all!!!! The end of the decade that gave us the iPad, the new Star Wars trilogy, and Lizzo, and the beginning of one that is bound to give us an abundance of positivity and happiness. But we will always remember some of the crazier things the past decade has brought us, including the ones you are about to read.
u/Yokeyoyo asked: People of Reddit, what's the craziest thing that's happened this decade?
Good sh*t.
The New Horizons spacecraft getting within a few thousand miles of Pluto and transmitting clear pictures of Pluto back to Earth.
Scientists seeing the detailed picture for the first time.
Insanity.
GiphyThe first photo of a black hole.
Right!? Growing up getting told this is something you can't see but it can destroy galaxies, then to end up being the first generation of people to actually see these things? Insanity.
A true miracle.
Ozzy lived through it.
Or Keith Richards. Just further proof he harvests the souls of celebrities who have died this decade.
Get it together, Apple.
Evolution of the mobile phone.
In only a couple years the focus went from being small, to thin, to big, and now to a flat bar of soap CAN YOU STOP REMOVING ALL THE F*CKING PORTS, APPLE.
Definitely.
GiphyThe explosion of Social Media.
Good answer. In Stockholm where I live pretty much all people my age had already had Facebook since around 2007-2008, and some also imported iPhones, but things really exploded around 2010 when suddenly over the course of a few months everyone got a smartphone.
So maybe smart phones had been an even better answer. Everyone having a computer in their pockets is pretty crazy when you think about it.
The sad truth.
If you had told anyone in either country that Donald Trump would be the president of the US and Boris Johnson would be the prime minister of the UK, they would have laughed at you.
How does this happen?
We lost a f*cking plane and still haven't found it!!!!
Amelia Earhart: "Am I a joke to you?"
Now I gotta wash my mouth out with soap.
GiphyIdk if you guys remember but people started f*cking eating soap for fame.
The reality of it was that the "Tide Pod Challenge" was never a challenge and it was basically only very small kids who thought it was candy, and old people, who ate it.
But it didn't stop the media from blowing it out of proportion and making DAE STOOPID MILLUHNUHLZ??? xDDDD jokes.
People Share The Most Positive Developments The World Has Seen In The Last Decade
We're a few days away from 2020, and the news for the last few years has just been a tailspin of tragic. That doesn't mean the world is all bad, though.
As we enter a new decade, we wanted to remind you of some of the year's better moments.
Reddit user SuspiciousCustomer asked:
With the decade ending, what is a positive development since 2010 that everyone should know about?
So consider this highlights reel our New Years gift to you. 2019 punched us all pretty hard in our figurative faces, and 2020 may not be any kinder if we're all honest with ourselves. So it's important to look for the good. Allow us to shed some light on some positivity for you.
Here ya go fam, have some happy thoughts!
Amazing Animal Awesomeness
GiphyRhino populations have had a 41 percent increase in this decade.
- LexusVII
After a near extinction the humpback whale population has increased to 25,000 which is pre-whaling numbers!
Polar bears are doing really well.
- rjdim
Pandas are no longer considered as endangered species
Lots of Greyhound Racing industries are on the brink of closing down. I think this is good news, of course there is a lot to pick up after and to stop them from selling those dogs to other countries for racing or other horrible stuff.
Peace Out, Polio
Polio was eradicated over this decade, the last wild strain earlier this year! This makes it the second disease eradicated by humans. Smallpox was the first.
Print It
3D Printing has saved countless lives and pushed the boundaries for new technology in the future. From personalized bone implant techniques, to the ability to print hearts from stem cells, the sheer addition to modern medicine will be greatly remembered for the overwhelming popularity and advancement of this technology.
K9 Companions
It's not big and life changing or anything but, K9 officers, who have to develop intense emotional bonds with their dogs, now get the option to immediately adopt the dog after its retired. Previously the dog was auctioned off, and the officer either had to fight and pay way too much money, or give up a member of the family.
Helpful And Happy
The world just seems a lot more accepting nowadays and less judge-mental overall. People find it easier to come out as gay or bi or trans. Hobbies aren't looked down on. Having a hobby nowadays is cooler than whatever the hobby itself may be, because the world likes seeing uniqueness and differences.
There will always be that vocal minority, especially with the Internet making it easier to project their voices but day to day life just seems so much more positive than when I was growing up.
Bullying isn't cool anymore. Helping others is.
A Triumph Of Good
I think gay marriage and families with same sex parents here in the US is a triumph of good. I was brought up in the 70s and we had family friends, a couple, named Bob and Robert. They loved each other very much and my family just treated them like every other couple, which was with kindness. I remember my mom saying to me when I was a child how much they cared for our family and how sad it was that they couldn't have their own children.
These days they could raise kids. They would have made great parents! They passed away during the AIDS epidemic and never got to see that at least a good part of the US population saw them as equals. Back then nobody had to apologize for being anti gay. Still plenty of people now who don't feel the need. But the bar had shifted dramatically. That is a good thing, and it mostly happened in the last decade.
Thanks Obama
GiphyObama leaving office. Trump getting into office.
I like this one! It certainly has wakened us up to the threat of executive corruption. Hopefully Trump's legacy will be that we strengthen the systems and never again have a traitor crook like him in office again.
I think it could also renew the Republican Party so that they need to rely less on voter suppression and disinformation to win elections, which HAS to be good for our democracy.
The Youth Lead
More younger people are in office in the US now than there were at the beginning of the decade. Regardless of political persuasion, I see that as a good thing because young people are the ones who will have to live in the world long after the older generations die out.
Falling For Foreskin
Circumcision is falling in the US, and more people are becoming aware of how immoral it is.
- Tyler630
The fight against Male Genital Mutilation is finally getting some attention. Lot of push back from... anti-male interest groups, but people are starting to wake up to the fact that cutting anything off of a baby for cosmetic or religious reasons is barbaric.
We can stop both FGM and MGM in the US if we all try.
Extreme Poverty
Between 2010-2020, extreme poverty has dropped between 1/3 and 1/2, and less than 10% of the world lives on less than US$1.90/day, a number than was as high as 40% as late as 1981. Extreme poverty will likely be a thing of the past in the next few decades.
2019 is a done deal. That's okay. 2020 is gonna be better. So lets purge. Let us all gather and let go and release all that no longer serves us. Anything 2019 that plagues us, holds us back. new resolutions are underway. A new year, a new beginning.
Redditor u/these_pretzels_suck wanted to know who didn't live up to the best of what 2019 had to offer by asking... What's your biggest regret of 2019?
Counting pennies....
GiphyProbably not paying too much attention to my car, and I let a thing get worse and worse, and I ended up having to fix it for $2.3k, which depleted most of my savings and set me back economically quite a bit. ImInJeopardy
Legs....
Getting into a car accident that cost me my legs tops any regret I've ever had. Reddit
I am a fairly recent amputee, (right AK). It is an understatement to say that it is a huge life adjustment. I've heard that it isn't twice as hard to be a bilateral amputee - it is 10 times as hard. WEugeneSmith
September of 2018....
Things got hard with the man that I love and instead of stepping up I ran. I did this in September of 2018. I'll carry the regret with me into 2020. savvy-skyy
I ran twice. The first time was when I first met my husband. The second time I ran was because I was having an emotional breakdown and didn't know what to do. I ran and for four months I lived with friends. I finally came out of the fog and depression and ran home. That was 3 and a half years ago and we are stronger than ever. Sometimes running back is ok. My husband and i used to fight all the time because i was trying to push him away and never felt good enough for love. It's been really rough but now it's amazing. AngelFears1676
Off the Rails....
Going off my medication. I'm ridiculously manic. LonelyPauperLonelyPauper
Went off my meds in September. Can't remember why. Been super suicidal since, 0/10 would not recommend. iplaytoomuchdnd
Sooner than Later...
Not standing up for my free time sooner. Just because I don't have kids doesn't make my time any less valuable. 291000610478021291000610478021
Sometimes you just gotta say no. Had a friend of my aunt who wanted massive amounts of junk hauled away, for free. Heavy junk. She said I was the only person who could do it because I had a pickup truck and no kids so I'd have time. She had sons and grandsons close by, but they had already hauled away the good stuff. I declined and made no excuses. If she were alone in the world, I'd have gone. But I'm not wasting my day off hauling away the junk deemed worthless by her kinfolk who live two minutes away. LiquidSoCratesLiquidSoCrates
911....
Taking as long as I did to get help with my mental health. I'm so glad I did, but hell, I should have done so six months earlier. SufficientAnonymity
Mental illness is like living in a huge mansion with loads of windows. Each week a window closes. It gets dark so slowly you don't realize you are living in darkness. Lard_Baron
GPA Drop....
Not putting more effort into school work. GPA dropped.... drlqnr
Same. I was just thinking my answer would have been doing better in my first Calculus class. I let a bunch of other stuff take priority and it took me from a 3.85 to around a 2. BrandlockshearBrandlockshear
'weight loss journey'
Not trying to lose weight sooner. I started my 'weight loss journey' in August and I've dropped 41lbs since. If I started at the beginning of the year like I intended to, I'd probably have lost the entire 80 lbs instead of only being halfway. itsashleyjohn
Today is a new day.
GiphyEnding my gym membership in January and not exercising the whole year. After putting on 25 pounds, I decided to join the gym again recently. DeathSpiral321
Today is a new day. You made a start, took the first step. Look at every day as a day where you can do something, no matter how small, and pretty soon you will see a difference in how you feel and then how you look and then how you feel about yourself. It is just a series of tiny choices you make each day and you CAN do it. Before you think I am blowing smoke up your butt, I have lost 65 lbs in the last 4 years by just making small efforts each day. Some days were good, some were bad and some were great. But every small step I took have added up from being 228 lbs to being 163 this morning. Not yet at my goal, but I know I can do it. And so can you. ExGomiGirl
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Dustin Lance Black Says That He Actually Sees Some Of Harvey Milk In Pete Buttigieg—And He Has Some Advice For The Rising Political Star
As the well known South Bend, Indiana Mayor Pete Buttigieg is becoming a prominent figure in the 2020 presidential election, civil rights activist Dustin Lance Black wants to make something clear as members of the LGBTQ community get acquainted with the gay candidate.
Black, who is a screenwriter and won the Academy Award for Milk (2008), was asked to comment on the concerns Buttigieg faces from the LGBTQ community in an interview with British program AM to DM.
Most notably, an article on Outline wrote a profile about Buttigieg in which he was described as "the most palatable gay man in America," and why that was a problem.
While promoting his new book, Mama's Boy: A Story From Our Americas, Black was asked if there were any similarities between Buttigieg and the late Harvey Milk – the first openly gay elected official in the history of California as a member of the San Francisco Board of Supervisors.
He said:
"Absolutely — certainly in the theme of 'You gotta give them hope,' meaning you have to elect gay people. That was Harvey Milk's speech because that sends a message of hope."
Black is also a founding board member of the American Foundation for Equal Rights (AFER), a non-profit organization that supports the plaintiffs in Hollingsworth v. Perry, which were a series of federal court cases that legalized same-sex marriage in California, beginning in 2009.
He believes Buttigieg isn't deceiving the public and that his persona is an authentic one.
"I actually don't doubt that that's who Mayor Pete really is. It doesn't seem like an act to me. I'll leave it to other people to see if that's an act."
"That's certainly a way some folks in the LGBTQ community are."
Everytime I see Pete Buttigieg's name I can't help but think about how proud Harvey Milk would be.— ✨Lowes-bian Rose ✨ (@✨Lowes-bian Rose ✨) 1554740830
Black, who is married to British diver Tom Daley, relates with Mayor Pete as they both live "traditional" lives.
"I'm probably included in many ways in that more traditional-looking life. I'm married, I have a husband, I have a kid."
"But I also want to make it clear, and I hope Mayor Pete makes it clear, that not everyone needs to live a life that looks like his life. That's not the point."
@billyeichner @PeteButtigieg Pete Buttigieg = Harvey Milk.— Nancy (support your public library!) Schultz (@Nancy (support your public library!) Schultz) 1552278367
The 44-year-old hopes that the manner in which Buttigieg presents himself to the public doesn't send a message that everyone in the LGBTQ community must adopt "heteronormative" a lifestyle.
"I hope that he's working and fighting for all LGBT people to live as diverse ... lives as we'd like to live, and in no way should this be about having to appear heteronormative, as they say."
Although Black initially chose to root for the gay candidate, he encouraged everyone to listen to all viewpoints as we follow the road to 2020.
"Unless I'm wrong, it's April of 2019. I am listening. This is the time for us to listen, to pay attention, to assess who we feel really means it when they're talking about equality, and I think Mayor Pete's right up there for me. I adore him, but I do think it's the time for us all to really listen carefully."
If it wasn't for Milk paving the way for equal rights in the gay community, we may not have someone like Buttigieg with the fortitude to carry the torch.
April 14 was a defining moment when Pete Buttigieg officially announced he is running for president.
Thanks to Harvey Milk and the LGBT trailblazers for allowing the @PeteButtigieg @Chas10Buttigieg moment to happen l… https://t.co/BOylrqYDgB— Carlos Cardona Lebron🇺🇦🕊 (@Carlos Cardona Lebron🇺🇦🕊) 1555338573
Stonewall, Assassination of Harvey Milk, AIDS epedimic, DADT, DOMA, Prop 8, Pulse Shooting led us to the moment. Th… https://t.co/mZO4VZh26g— Michael Dean Shelton (@Michael Dean Shelton) 1555356821
You can watch the full video of Dustin Lance Black's interview on AM to PM on YouTube, below.
Dustin Lance Black's Advice For Young LGBT People www.youtube.com