Need a Bath?
smelly infomercial GIFGiphyTheir smell.
One of my biggest fears is that I'm smelly and can't smell myself. I'm not one of those people who retains scents on my skin (body wash, lotion, perfume) so I'm constantly nervous I'm stinky.
Is that You?
Meth!
TRUTH! worked at a gas station, and one of my regulars was honestly attractive, but she hung out with the wrong people and liked to party/club (not sure where though because where i live there isn't a whole lot of clubs if any so maybe bar hop?) and she'd usually stop by my gas station on her way to the club or way home drunk. but as i said she hung out with the wrong crowd so i slowly got to see her decline, seen her hooked drunk and high -- and this whole time her appearance is getting... not really worse but changing she's becoming more thin.
eventually i left the gas station got a job somewhere else. i came back a year later to get a red bull on my way home from work and say hi to a ex coworker when i smelled something just horrible, like a mix between chemicals and crap. i turned around and this customer is walking by, and at first i didn't recognize her her hair had knots in it like she hadn't washed it in weeks, it was a mess, she was practically a skeleton, she wore some old sun dress that had holes in it.
it honestly looked like she was homeless. i walk up to the counter pay for my stuff and then my ex coworker takes a break (there was another employee there who rang the rest of the customers up) and we go outside to have a smoke, first thing i say is "holy crap i didn't recognize so and so" ex-coworker just says "yeah she got into meth and pretty much went down hill."
You Ain't All That!
Having a crappy arrogant attitude.
I think it's about the context of arrogance. Myself speaking I'm not drop dead but I'm pretty attractive. I'm also really cocky but I use that overconfidence with my work or in physical/ mental challenges.
I don't use it for my looks and since that's just my personality everyone seems to get along with me. And with all that being said I would much rather stay being to confident then too shy.
I know it's pretty unrelated to what you said but it's just something I felt like adding.
Kindness....
Schulter Lässig GIF by skippGiphyHow they treat others.
I went on a few dates with someone really good looking (I thought so, anyway). All she did was make fun of the way other people looked, dressed, acted. It was so tough to take, but I kept holding on because of her looks. I realized how shallow that made me, too.
It's not just you!
Selfishness.
I had this issue with my fiancé when we were early in our relationship. I'm aware that sometimes I'm wrong, and I got tired of him immediately apologizing anytime I came to him about something. I don't want him to just say sorry and have the conversation be over, clearly there's a reason he's doing what he's doing, so let's talk about it.
I feel a lot better walking away from a conversation that ended in a compromise than one that ended with him agreeing with me.
He was the peace keeper in his family, so it makes sense that he ended up being so agreeable. Over the time we've been together he's gotten a lot better about it.
Can you follow me?
Lack of common sense and humanity.
Lack of common sense. I dated a 30-year-old woman who was just not very smart. Very nice looking, pleasant, but after a little while I figured out that her kind of low IQ permeated all parts of her life. She was also convinced she was ready to be a boss, be in charge of people.
However, she kept on getting fired from secretarial jobs, office jobs, because she couldn't do the work. She was still trying to get, and spending money on classes for, a community college degree. She was somehow convinced that this would change her life. she had put $1000 into a mutual fund seven years earlier, and got a good rate of return.
So she now had $2000. She was confused. It apparently never occurred to her that you have to invest more, or keep putting money in, even at a good rate of return. She apparently thought she would invest $1000 and become a millionaire. It was difficult being around her.
I forgot this part. After ten years of part time college, she didn't have a major.
Smart ain't all that....
How about, people who are actually super smart.
I dated a girl in high school and into college for a bit. She was the Valedictorian of our high school, 4.0 gpa, got into Rice University, super smart girl all around. Now I consider myself to be a pretty smart person, not like genius level or anything, but I graduated college with a 3.5 gpa and can hold my own in intelligent conversation. Anyway my ex was so smart that she basically thought that she was never wrong.
She was also really condescending and it got very tiring being with her. So I broke up with her and she went absolutely nuts! She attacked my intelligence, called me stupid, thought that I was cheating on her and so on. She just couldn't accept the fact that her attitude was the reason I left her.
She was really attractive, but damn that condescending tone was equally unattractive.
Can't Count on You
phaedra parks bye felicia GIF by RealityTVGIFsGiphyI'm surprised I haven't seen this said already, but being unreliable. Like when they say "Oh we should totally [go to this place, do this thing, watch this movie, play this game, etc]!" and then either never follow through on the plan, cancel at the last minute, or meet up with you and change what you're doing.
The Disregard
Arrogance.
For me, it's your consideration of others. If your sense of self-worth revels in, depends on, or simply disregards the devaluing of others, it's arrogance. If you can believe in and value yourself while also uplifting or at least considering the value of others, that's confidence. The real answer (as with most things) is more complex than this and can change on a situational basis but this is the top-level base answer for me.
Treatment of staff...
customer service waiter GIFGiphyBeing an a**hole to waiters, janitors, and the like. Or just being an a**hole and having a crap attitude about everything.
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