Curious to hear from strangers who've been cheated on, Redditor Recent-Gap-9927 asked:
"What was the wildest way you found out you were being cheated on?"
These Redditors didn't see it coming.
Sexual Recap For Unintended Recipient
"She didn’t realise that her iPhone messages were also synchronised to her Mac, which I was using to stream movies on."
"I saw text popping up with her writing to her ex... I just packed up my sh*t and left"
– Ok_Insurance_3011Friend Group
"My ENTIRE friend group knew about it, and I only found out after the one real homie blackmailed her into admitting it."
"And when she did, it was the most insincere sh*t ever. 'It's no big deal, everyone else thinks it's ok!' and stuff like that. Suffice to say, I got my a** outta that relationship AND friendship group real quick."
– Samurai294Bragging Rights
"He was drunk at his 21st and while joking around with his friends he started listing off all the women he’d slept with in the last year."
"I was standing right there and we’d been dating for two years at that point."
– FraerieLet's Check Our Phones
"She demanded to read all the messages on my phone, I said no problem but only if I could read the messages on hers."
"She had forgotten to delete a message from a guy saying 'All we ever do is f'k, can't we hang out some time?'"
"There was nothing on my phone."
– forcekin69
Young Tattler
"My 9 year old son told me that there were strange men in the house when I was away working. She'd been at it for years."
"It's horrible to deal with at the time, but honestly, it's such a relief to be rid of such a toxic mess."
– beerdybeerHearing about your partner cheating is one thing.
Witnessing it in action is another.
Meta Drama
"Date night cancelled day-of. I decided to make it a guys night to see the new marvel movie at the time. As we entered, I saw her sitting it the theatre snuggling up with a guy. Our seats were a few rows back, saw them kiss a couple times. When we all left at the end of the movie they were exiting their aisle as we walked down the stairs. She absolutely froze when she saw me. Blocked her on everything while I’m the in parking lot"– RiddledWithEnigma
The Facebook Post
"I was visiting a dying relative in hospital so could not attend some stupid college party he and his roommate organised. I told him I couldn't go and asked him if he could come over later (after visiting hours in the hospital) because I knew my relative would die soon and I really just needed someone to be there with me. He said he probably wouldn't be able to, as he needed to help his roommate with party preparations, but would come over later if they finish early... Next day I saw pictures of him with his ex in his lap, kissing, uploaded the previous night by his roommate. The roommate even knew we were dating, he was just too drunk to realise he added me as a friend a week earlier on Facebook and I would see the pictures."
– CaricaIntergalaktiki
Sometimes, a bit of sarcasm helps when recalling an unpleasant memory.
Mutual Friend
"Her other boyfriend (who I didn’t know existed) and I had a mutual friend who put two and two together and told me. I said I wanted to meet him so he called him over. We talked out some things and then called her together at my suggestion. Good times were had by all -1"– Jonaldson
Return To Sender
He apparently wrote an address wrong and the love letter he wrote was returned to our home."
"It was a great way to come back from vacation."
– Character_Moment_689
Beware of where you store your "tasteful nudes."
Open Google Drive
"One of her friends was a photographer and wanted to do 'tasteful nudes' which apparently includes penetration! And multiple days of getting the right shot..."
"We had a shared Google drive, which her friend didn't know we shared."
– PumaRevivedPrivate Photo Session
"Your story reminded me of a past ex."
"Her (female) friend was a photographer and she had a very intimate photo session with her. Not nude, but pretty damn close."
"She had told me about this before hand and I wasn’t really for it. The style of the shoot, was not really my taste (they were trashy imo), but I wasn’t going to stop her."
"She got very upset when I questioned what they were for if they weren’t for her current lover. Turns out they were for her ex who she was seeing on and off for our entire relationship."
– pooponacandleSome people think they're entitled to have their cake and eat it too.
However, if these individuals have an arrangement like an open relationship–where it's mutually beneficial and agreed upon by both participants–good on them for having a healthy and communicative relationship.
But if sneaky individuals engage in clandestine sexual relations, they need to reevaluate their romantic situations.
It's not fair for the other person involved who is faithful and trusting.
Redditor Big-Bell6898 wanted to hear about all the scandalous ideas to pay back a cheater and asked:
"What is the best revenge on a cheating partner?"
My first instinct is to set fire to their belongings... Angela Bassett style.
That hasn't always worked for me.
I own you...
He-Man Lol GIF by Masters Of The UniverseGiphy"Seduce and marry one of the parents and become their new step parent. Then ground them."
Zeroforeffort
"This made me laugh pretty hard."
alixisonfiree
Whip It
"My wife left after I had a health issue so she could enjoy her life. I recovered, joined a gym, joined a whip dancing club and got out with friends at least four nights a week, took my grown kids out fishing on the weekends. Dated some but more importantly made a lot of lady friends that really helped raise my self worth. 11 years later I married a fantastic woman who makes my life wonderful."
"We’ve been together for almost 30 years now and she told me she owes my ex a debt of gratitude for making me available. My ex quickly married a bar hookup who refused to work and she had to support them both. She’s still unhappy with her life. So as far as I’m concerned the best revenge is to forget they even exist and enjoy your life."
Own-Text7602
Just Don't
"From a person who's been cheated on by two different partners, the best revenge is no revenge. Start taking care of yourself more. Go to a movie or dinner by yourself, maybe pick up an exercise plan, and begin appreciating the fact that you can find happiness all by yourself."
"They may never regret their behavior, and that's not for you to ponder. going to bed every night with a clear conscience knowing that you did your best and still have love in your heart is a beautiful thing."
"Be well friend. :) "
omeedohmy
Don't Engage...
"Acting like they never existed. If you find out they cheat, don't engage. Ignoring people is the most effective, most painful mental trick you can play with someone. You'd be surprised how many people you can manipulate if you just simply pretend they're not there. Egos are fragile."
cabrini_workshop
"My mom once told me that the opposite of love is not hate. It is indifference."
totoGalaxias
Tell All...
Mean Girls Gossip GIF by Paramount MoviesGiphy"Some will say nothing. Some will say airing that dirty laundry across as many social media and content sharing platforms as possible.
"Depends on how nice you are."
Makototoko
Telling the secrets... not always a great idea.
Surprise Food!
Giphy"Rip the tags/paper (whatever it’s called) off of all of their canned food, the only way to find out what it is is by opening them."
Honey_*itch
"please talk to me"
"So when I was in my 20s I was with this girl I really really cared about. Thought it was really going to last forever. Beautiful, sweet, smart, independent. I mean i got a real sense she wanted to be with me and not needed to be with someone. Made me feel great. I one day caught her f**king another dude."
"I was absolutely devastated. But instead of yelling, screaming and acting violent or angry I just said 'oh crap. Sorry' and left. Never picked up the phone. Again. Never went to 'get my stuff' or any other nonsense. Just cut her off. She called and left voice-mails and texted me."
"They started out as 'you have to let me explain' to 'please give me another chance' to 'the fact that you showed no emotion or anything and have just cut me off shows you never cared about me anyway' eventually she said she hated me and was glad she did it."
"Then she would apologize and say 'please talk to me' it was pretty obvious that my reaction was eating her up inside. It hurt, but you move on. It's fine. In the end she wasn't the right one. I'm happily married with 2 kids and 2 dogs and a house now. Life is full of ups and downs. Don't let them define you."
ThisTimeJust30rock
Girl Bye
"Instead of focusing on revenge, put all of your energy into improving your life. Stay sober, stay focused, get therapy, start a journal, exercise, and if you have a job get serious about your work. These are the things I did after my partner of 12 years cheated on me. I'm proud to say that as a result I've lost 40 pounds."
"I've had several promotions, upgraded my house, bought a new jeep, built a hot tub fort in my back yard, and I now take regular vacations. Now she's very unhappy with her choices, and unfortunately stuck in an unhealthy relationship with the man she left me for. I almost feel sorry for... Nah, not really lol. Girl bye!!"
radryan78
best gifts...
"My wife was abusive and a complete narcissist. She then admitted to me one day of having an affair with a married guy from work for years."
"Fast forward 5 years, I haven’t spoken to her since, I make 5 times what I made when I was with her, I’m in the best shape of my life, relocated to a new area, and I’m re-married to an amazing woman."
"Calling it quits with that loser was the best gift I could have ever received."
soon_zoo55
The Best
Happy Shawshank Redemption GIFGiphy"Leaving and living a life so good you forget they exist."
Vegetable-Ad-647
"I do this in practice because my 'bucket of crabs' trick is very high effort and moving on is just a lot easier and less messy."
Helpful_Kangaroo_o
It's hard to move on. But moving on is the best medicine.