We spend so much of our lives wishing and praying to be anywhere else but where we are in the present. Now, granted, some people are in rough situations and they need to be anywhere else but, more often then not, we're just not appreciating the fact that we are standing on the spot that was meant for us. It's true we may not be where we wanted or have gotten what we thought we wanted but maybe we got exactly what we needed. That is an important distinction we tend to over look.Redditor u/Jaxerfp wanted to discuss all the times people came to realize how life worked out exactly how it should've by asking everyone to share.... Douglas Adams once wrote, "I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I have ended up where I needed to be," how might this quote describe an experience in your life?
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While getting my degree, I was just taking classes that interested me that also had to do a little with my major. Turns out I was getting my minor in chemistry without even realizing it.
I got home once and absent-mindedly threw away my socks for no reason. I just took them off and put them in the trash. When I realized what I did, I dug through the trash only to find out that both socks had holes in them. Turns out they belonged in the trash anyway. I've never found a quote that described that situation more perfectly than this one.
When in Iraq
I was a certified Ford mechanic, 2008-2009 happened, and no work was coming in. Got a job offer to teach auto mechanics in Iraq to the new Iraqi army. As a result, I learned I have a passion for people trying to better their life. I ended up sponsoring my Iraqi interpreter to come to the US.
Since then I came back and finished my degree, and now am in learning design at an amazing company.
My Iraqi brother is now married here in the states to an amazing wife, and they have a kid. He has a great job and is finishing his degree as well.
Life can be an amazing journey.
Enjoy the ride.
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In high school, I went to a college prep catholic school and hated it. All because my parents wanted me to go there. Junior year I decided to stop wrestling after doing it for 2 and a half years (summer and spring wrestling) at this high school.
Coach decided to accuse me and teammates of doing molly although I had never seen it and only ever smoked. The school decided I wasn't a great fit and kicked me out. Ended up at a local public high school where I reconnected with a few friends from middle school. Had extremely helpful teachers and graduated. I realized I should have been at that local public high school from the start but it instantly felt like home.
In the 90s I lived in Springfield MO and absolutely loved it there. Never wanted to be anywhere else. My wife finished college and got a job in another state not far away. I didn't want to move there but did reluctantly. Within a couple of years, I absolutely loved it there. Made a ton of friends, had a great job, and couldn't imagine being anywhere else. Lived there 20 years and thought it would be where I die.
Last year we moved to Connecticut, again for my wife's job, and I love it here too and can't really imagine moving back. It turns out, it's not the place I live, but who I live with that matters. My wife is my home, and where she is, is where I need to be.
Edit: Thanks for all the awards and comments. I now understand what people mean when they write "my inbox blew up". I hope you all have a great holiday season and stay safe and healthy.
Never planned to divorce, never planned to leave Arizona, never planned to remarry, never planned to leave a career I loved, never planned to be hit by a car. I've done all of that in the last 2 years.
I completely rewrote my entire life and every plan I had in every way imaginable. Would not have it any other way.
My new husband and my new life are a level of happiness I've never known. Seriously even recovering from a serious injury and everything that has gone with that is better than my previous life because of who I have to love me now.
Where you are now....
People seem to think they'll only ever be happy when they reach a certain goal. "When X happens I'll be happy." I try to appreciate what I have right now and the journey I'm on. I may have an average car, rented house and little family but I LOVE all these things. Yes a ton of money would make it easier to buy things but I'm happy where I am right now & loving the journey.
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When I was younger I used to sleepwalk.
I slept walked straight to the end of the hall where there were two doors: one to the bathroom and one to my older brother's room. Opened the door, lifted the lid, and peed.
Turns out I had opened the door, lifted my brothers blanket, and peed.
Not where I intended, but I finally got back at that jerk for farting on me for years.
When the time is right....
It took several years to conceive our son. By the time he was 3 year old, we had tried many times with medical assistance for a second. We have up and started an adoption.
Well, after we got all the paperwork together and sent off to China, we found out my wife was expecting. Ok, we can deal with that. As my wife put it, "What's the worst that could happen?"
But the ultrasound showed that it was twins.
So my kids are 18, 14, 14 and 14 now.
It's not what we would have ever planned, but I wouldn't trade it for anything.
Edit: Ascribing it all to "Stress" seems to be common. That comes across telling them "It's all in your head", and blaming them for the years of infertility and often multiple miscarriages they have suffered. Dealing with infertility itself causes stress far more than Stress causes Infertility.
I love you past me....
I suffered an extreme trauma that took my legs. I also went through a month trapped in my own nightmares while in an induced coma. Needless to say, it is an experience I would never put anyone else through.
I came out the other side of that far more empathetic, patient, and understanding as well. The personality change is so drastic, people that knew me before say I'm an entirely different person. I'm a loving father as this new me. I met the love of my life as this new me. Despite how hard living in this body is, I love life more that ever.
If I could see into the past and alter what happened, I wouldn't. The suffering was horrific, but transformative. To become who I am now, the accident must happen. I'm sorry past me, but if I'm honest, you aren't a good person. I don't miss being you.
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