June is a happy and exciting month for the LGBTQ+ community, being Pride Month.
Where people can proudly celebrate who they are and who they love.
And the crowds at these events seem to only grow bigger every year, as more and more LGBTQ+ allies also partake in the celebration.
Some of these allies might be late to the party, as it were, owing to the fact that they once held homophobic views, and only recently became more educated and changed their minds.
Redditor aestheticbear was curious what exactly it was that led former homophobes to change their previous views, leading them to ask:
"Former homophobic people of Reddit: what happened that made you stop being homophobic?"
It was what they were taught.
"Like many here, I grew up around people where homophobia was the norm."
"I come from a Latino, Mexican, background and I'm really ashamed of how much homophobia/hate in general there is in our culture."
"Since most Mexicans are Catholic, I grew up around the church a lot, especially since my father had once been a Catholic priest, long story."
"Growing up, and to this day, I was surrounded by lots of hate towards the LGTBQ+ community."
"My parents would often make remarks making queer people seem almost as if they were crazy."
"They would often say that they were crazy for wanting 'gay rights' and even saying 'yuck' if they saw a movie scene where 2 people of the same sex where kissing."
"As a kid, I was sort of brain washed into all of this."
"As I grew older, I learned more about the world around me especially learning from friends who had come out."
"I especially owe a lot to a teacher of mine who had opened my eyes up to many issues of our world."
"Now I'm a proud pansexual."- davvaz62
By simply getting to know them.
"I met some gay people."
"As it turns out they were just people"- moolord
By witnessing unjustified judgment.
"Not homophobic, but I woke up at about 10 when my mom said my uncle was banned from coming to our vacation condo by my father because he was gay."
"Before then I kind of let the arguments and both sides bit wash over me, but that was a crystallization point where I started noticing it as pure bigotry."
"I'm sorry the nicest dude in the family full of domestic violence and white collar drug abusers cant come to Christmas because he's gay?"
"You're both cheating on each other, sanctity of what marriage now?"- Robin_games
My mother knocked some sense into me
"My mom slapped me and told me everyone has a right to be happy."
"That was in 9th grade 13 years ago."- Bloodllust
Growing up
"Homophobia was the norm when I was growing up."
"Then I got older and the political landscape changed which made me question my belief and I came to the conclusion it just didn't make any sense to be homophobic."- LuciferIsFallen
"Realized that, fundamentally, being gay is just 'what' you are. It’s not 'who' you are."
Self-discovery
"I came out as gay."- pethal
"Stopped listening to my homophobic family and left their religion."
"Oh and also realized I myself was pretty gay."- Raidden
Just one moment of clarity
"I wasn't super homophobic, just a 'love the sinner, hate the sin' kind of guy."
"On my last day in high school, someone said 'Why do I care? They're not hurting me'."
"Cured me in three seconds."
"I still remember how magical that moment was for me."- Dirgonite
Re-evaluating religion
"There are 20 years between myself and my youngest brother."
"I, and my SO, was raised in an explicitly homophobic/biphobic/transphobic fundamentalist religion, that I left with my SO in my early 20s.
"So I had a lot of internalized, conditioned, toxic beliefs about the LGBTQ that needed to be deconstructed."
"My little brother was obviously either gay or bi and it was obvious from the time he was six imho."
"He came out to my sisters, SO, and I as bi when he was 11 and we were like 'tell us something we don't know lol'."
"I think watching him just grow up, it was obvious that he hadn't chosen to be that way, it was just how he was."
"This false narrative that LGBTQ are somehow defective or sinners became more disgusting to me over time."
"I can't remember exactly when it happened but my SO and I were like 'if our future child happened to be LGBTQ, could we teach that child the things we were taught about the LGBTQ?'"
"'We were like 'no, that would be evil'."
"Now, we have an 18yo niece that recently came out as lesbian and we feel honored to be the only family that she trusts enough to introduce to her first GF."
"Spending time with her just reaffirms the fact that there is nothing wrong with the LGBTQ, it was our upbringing that was defective."- Jormungandr91
It's amazing how so many ignorant people don't realize that all one needs to do to see a little more clearly is to open your eyes.
Here's hoping that they help others who remain as ignorant as they once were to open their eyes as well.
'Woman' Slammed For Homophobia After Offering Tips On Detecting If Your Significant Other Is 'One Of Those Gays Out There'
You guys ever read a tweet or thread so astronomically bad that you start to wonder if it was actually hazardous in some way?
Like "brain cells die as you read" it kind of bad?
You're about to.
Twitter user trendy timic is not a public figure we know a lot about, so let's take a moment to examine their Twitter bio, shall we?
Trendy Timic describes themselves as:
"I disturb peoples TL with Jokes || Facts || Content Creator || Brand Publicist"
The account is part of the social media team of Nigerian disc jockey DJ Timic.
The woman in the profile photo for trendy timic also appears in several photos with DJ Timic who describes himself as:
"I am the mouthpiece of the Jesus. I minister in songs."
Apparently Kanye has some competition.
According to the DJ Timic Facebook page:
"This Is One Of The World Famous(Disc Jockey) In Nigeria, We Do Mixtapes, Artiste Promo, Club D.Js, Birthdays Parties, Event, Video Coverage & Many More...."
Birthday party DJ or messenger of God?
Who knows?
But let's start with the Twitter posts of trendy timic.
Look, regardless of what any anti-gay sentiments might say, we feel like we need to remind you that "those Gays out there" are not just out there.
They're everywhere. They always have been.
You know why? Because they're just regular people!
They're other human beings, not some rare and endangered species you need to trek into the wilderness to behold.
Gaywatching parties aren't a thing.
Although...
Anyway, here are those 8 powerful signs of gayness ... which you might notice are actually not.
At all.
So, to clarify...
- if you look at a man
- go to church
- do any self maintenance
- go to the gym
- dress well
- have male friends
- crack jokes with your friends
- like anything other than totally vanilla sex
- talk with your hands...
...you're gay, apparently.
It's unclear whether the female associated with DJ Timic in several photos online that the account is purported to belong to or DJ Timic himself created this "helpful" list for women.
However, given the laws in Nigeria regarding the LGBTQ community, the series of tweets posted under trendy timic's Twitter account seem a lot less "joking" and more menacing.
How strict are the laws regarding LGBTQ people in Nigeria?
"The new law prohibits any form of relationship, including 'domestic partnerships,' 'caring partnerships,' or 'adult independent relationships' between two individuals of the same sex. It also punishes any public show of affection, even a kiss, between two people of the same sex, with 10 years in prison."
"Anyone who speaks out in support of, meets with, or participates in a group advocating for the rights of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and intersex (LGBTI) people also risks 10 years in prison."
"People of the same sex who share a room because they cannot afford anything else – which is not unusual in a country where the majority of people live on less than a dollar a day – could be accused of being in a relationship and locked up for years."
"Anyone could accuse their neighbor of being gay, or of having spoken out about LGBTI rights."
"Men and women living with HIV/AIDS will have to think twice before looking for care and treatment out of fear of falling foul of the new law."
This Twitter list isn't cute or funny for people in Nigeria.
People arrested after the law passed faced being locked away in isolation with no access to legal counsel. They were sentenced to whippings, stonings and other violent acts of punishment. Nigerians are encouraged to turn anyone they suspect of being gay in to authorities.
This thread is encouraging a witch hunt based on ridiculous stereotypes.
Twitter was SO NOT HERE FOR THIS MESS.
@trendydjtimic People like you should have supervision when using the Internet.— Vicki Pope (@Vicki Pope) 1578223569
@CoxeAnne @trendydjtimic Who willingly does housework, don't forget the tidy home. It's what sold it for me— abbie snail lines (@abbie snail lines) 1578342146
@trendydjtimic Are straight people okay? Sounds exhausting. #offtothesauna #inmytighttrendyclothes— Rob Kenny-Lipar (@Rob Kenny-Lipar) 1578472967
@i_am_wave_daddy @trendydjtimic 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂... the stupidity of that whole thread is mind boggling— Thundazz⚡ (@Thundazz⚡) 1578182833
In conclusion, this thread is bonkers.
Please, keep your bodies and rooms clean. It's 2020.
None of us should smell like this Twitter thread's version of straight men.
To get beyond gender stereotypes, the book Parenting Beyond Pink & Blue: How to Raise Your Kids Free of Gender Stereotypes is available here. The children's book Pink Is for Boys is available here.