As Jane Austen's classic novel Pride and Prejudice so memorably taught us, we should never make absolute assumptions on someone's character based solely on a first impression.
People have a way of surprising us, for better or for worse.
Sometimes, it's not exactly the things people say or do which are indicative of their character, but rather smaller, more unexpected things.
Indeed, it's the small, subtle things people say or do which might truly reveal what they're like as a person.
Often deciding whether or not we want to be associated with them.
"What is a random thing that reveals a lot about a person?"
Own it, Or Deny It?
"How they react to being told they're wrong or have made a mistake."- 80085ntits
A Little Kindness Goes A Very Long Way...
"How they treat people they’ll probably never see again."- Jakesnake_42
The Environment Is A Shared Space!
"If they throw trash on the ground or in a proper receptacle."- juicy-jayna
pugs recycle GIFGiphyThinking About Anything Other Than Themselves
"Whether they will do something that will help something else without directly benefiting them."
"This can be everything from returning the trolley, to picking up trash they walk past, or helping out a stranger."
"I think it shows real character."- BlueRaven_01
"Under Pressure..."
"How they act when things don't go their way, flat tire, etc."
"It shows you how they problem solve."- Young_Old_Grandma
"Self - control."- smallduckenergy0
Keeping Parking Lots Safe...
"Whether they return shopping trolleys in parking lots."- ZaryssThesia
No One Likes A Gossip...
"What they say about others when that person isn't around."
"Say something nice or don't say anything at all."- Maximum_Passion1865
No One Likes A Know-It-All... Or A Charlatan!
"How they respond to a question they don't know the answer to."- CoolPotatoTomato·
Who Knows Idk GIFGiphyThere's Always Something...
"What they complain about."- butterflysixxteen
Even people who make every effort to keep themselves a closed book by keeping to themselves and saying as little as they can still can't hide from everyone
Sometimes it's not what people say or do which shows who they truly are, but rather what they don't say or do.
People Explain Which Fictional Character's Death Impacted Them The Most
The mark of a good piece of fiction is when one feels as if they actually know the characters.
Be it a film, television series or novel, there are some beloved characters we wish were actually our friends in real life, or whom we feel as if we've actually known all our lives.
As a result, when one of these characters dies, we sometimes feel as if we've actually lost a loved one.
Sometimes finding ourselves in a state of literal grieving.
"What fictional character's death still hits you hard no matter how many times you watch it?"
Dear, Noble Artax
"I have to say the death of Artax, the boy's horse, in 'The Neverending Story'."
"Watching him sink into that swamp was pretty awful."- powderkegpitbull
Bubba of Forest Gump
"'Bubba was my best good friend'."
"'And even I know that ain't something you can find just around the corner'."
"'Bubba was going to be a shrimping boat captain, but instead, he died right there by that river in Vietnam'."- FlyingVI
Stoick The Vast
"Stoick the Vast, chief of Berk, Hiccup's father, from 'How to Train Your Dragon'."- Waldo_007
how to train your dragon animation GIF by Universal KidsGiphyThe Iron Giant
"The Iron Giant."- roo719
Noble Canine Companion
"Fry’s dog from Futurama."
"Another testimony to the fact that animators can be true storytellers, who don’t always need words to get their point across."
"The changing of seasons as the dog sits and waits in front of the pizza shop."
"Waits and waits for Fry, who never returns."
"No dialogue."
"Just the absence of the dog, eventually."
"Ugh."
"Gut wrenching."- iwokwuplikwthis
Animated GIFGiphySweet Ofelia
"The little girl from Pan's Labyrinth."
"In fact I just started crying even thinking about it"- choppcy088
Beloved Dr. Greene
"Mark Greene on ER."
"20 years later and I've never watched that episode without bawling like a baby."- LadyGreyIcedTea
A Hero's Death
"Wally West in 'Young Justice'."
"It’s been about a decade and I’m still mad about it."- Remarkable-Duck-2306
Video Game Laughing GIF by DCGiphyA Heartbreaking Escape
"When Brooks hangs himself in 'The Shawshank Redemption'."- Horror-School-6713
As the saying goes, those we love never truly leave us.
In the case of fictional characters in film and television, however, they are literally preserved for eternity.
Paving the way for new generations to be devastated and traumatized by their deaths.
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Humans fall in and out of grace with one another constantly.
At first, you can really like someone.
Enjoy their company.
Spend tons of quality time with them.
Then one day, they drop the facade of their character and show you some true colors.
Then respect goes out the window.
RedditorMissMona_69 wanted to talk about all the people we can longer be face to face with.
"What types of people have you no respect for?"
I can't stand hypocrites. I lose all respect there.
WTF?!?!
"People who fake mental illnesses for attention."
Booklovercoffee2019
"SO TRUE. In middle school, I had a friend who faked mental illnesses (not 100% sure but at least 99.9% of the things they said were self-inconsistent). Screwed up my perspective on mental illness and I'm still trying to change that."'
the31stsemiprime
Definitives
"People who don’t understand the difference between opinion & fact and assume that their opinion is a fact."
BurghPuppies
"For some reason I see a crap ton of this in a horror movie group I'm in. Horror is such a subjective genre with many various subgenres and the amount of people that just absolutely crap on movies and state their opinions as fact is annoying as hell. Of course the music groups I'm in do the same thing too."
PeeB4uGoToBed
Thanks Ma
"People who can't admit they are in the wrong and sidestep by blaming you for something that happened years ago."
SwerdlowM
"My mom does it to me too. If she screws up, she blames me, and once proven wrong, she immediately brings up how I screwed something up from like 14 years ago, and somehow uses that to make me feel like it is my fault."
Beastie730
Liars
"People who take advantage of old, senile people. What caliber of piece of crap must you be."
Bugger_my_puppet
"I used to work in supportive housing for folks with various disabilities, one day a client came to be crying because he didn’t have rent for the month. The reason?"
"He was scammed by someone pretending to be from social security. They called him to say that he had to pay back money from a (fabricated) overpayment or he would go to jail. It was extremely sad. Also saw lots of lonely elderly folks get scammed by internet 'girlfriends,' F**k scammers."
livehorribly
Be Clean
"Litterers."
ihopeurpillowiswarm
"YES! Here is where the true rage comes in! I live in a beautiful city and the amount of litter is revolting. It makes me so angry. I never chuck anything on the damn floor as there will undoubtedly be a bin nearby. It’s just laziness and carelessness."
UglyFilthyDog
Why do people litter? It's so gross. Save the world.
The Real Truth
"People who speak 'truth' without trying to understand perspectives outside their own."
SkulldersIre
"Along those lines, people who describe themselves as 'brutally honest.' Nah, chances are you're just an a**hole."
caesar____augustus
Order Up
"People who are rude to wait staff and people who leave their shopping carts around the parking lot."
tokenlesbian21
"I have always believed there are two types of people, those who return the cart to the corral and those who don’t. And this simple action tells me more about a person than a 2 hour long conversation."
acableperson
Look In
"People who have no introspection and always play the victim."
Memesthecat
"So I see you have met my brother. In the process of being sentenced for armed robbery but he still blames his pregnant gf with some bs about how it was to support them and regularly busts out the alligator tears to get our mom to put money on his books."
No_Quantity4955
Wages
"People who crap on retail workers or lowest wages just to feel better than them with no reason, screw them all."
Ismaelum
"I had a coworker like this, dude was brainwashed into believing the franchise license and stock when the giant corporation had very negative company health and it reflected... Most popular chains in retail encourage low wage and try to establish an odd seniority hierarchy."
Mundane-Candidate101
Big Puffs
"People who smoke around children, especially in the same car."
monkey-food
"I 100000% agree with you and I’m a smoker. I don’t care if it’s cold, raining, windy, hot I’m going to stand my a** outside and have a smoke. I don’t smoke inside my house and I never have."
Fine-Bet
"I think you’d like to meet my neighbor that lives downstairs. She smokes all day long with an infant strapped to her chest."
Eyfordsucks
Well this is a long list of nonsense people. Steer clear.
Most people look at their leaders and think "if only..."
No matter how admired they are, leaders are real people complete with all the frailties and failures of humanity. They can't be perfect.
But what if you could pick an unreal ideal leader?
Who would you choose?
Redditor TheCorgiMaster asked:
"Which fictional character would make a great USA President?"
Redditors looked to literature, comics, TV and films for inspiration.
They chose two real life alternate universe Presidents, a TV POTUS and a couple comic book Commanders-in-Chief.
Let's see who they picked, in no particular order.
Jean Luc Picard
"Jean Luc Picard" ~ derpelganger
"This character has informed so much of what I think of as the political ideal that's it's almost absurd." ~ Tacitus_AMP
"Picard has been my moral compass since I was a child." ~ DrRedditPhD
"He:- Listens to the advice of others
- Learns from his mistakes
- Takes responsibility
- Explains his actions/acts as a mentor" ~ SentFromMyAndroid
Chrisjen Avasarala
"Chrissy Avasarala, she's got balls and brains." ~ thermostatgasket
"She saved Earth and Mars, two diametrically opposed factions, from destroying each other."
"I’m sure she could handle one country on one planet with two political parties with ease." ~ broncoblaze
The Expanse Pony GIF by Amazon Prime VideoGiphyOptimus Prime
"Optimus Prime - G1."
He's the perfect balance of introspection, deliberation, decisive action, compassion, toughness, fighting spirit, humility, and inspires others to greatness not because of his ego, but because he sincerely wants the best for everyone."
"He's eloquent enough to work with intellectuals, strong enough to keep corruption out, hard working and honest enough to connect with and inspire the working classes, and an absolute paragon of ethics. When it comes down to it, he puts his own a** on the line without hesitation."
"I'd vote for Optimus Prime. I'd work on his campaign staff. I'd canvas for Optimus. I'd fight his fights."
"He's the heroic leader we need."
"I wish he were here." ~ Cephelopodia
GiphyGandalf
"Gandalf" ~ Gandalfsacidshow
"He would know every Senator and Congressman who mattered since childhood, and the parents, grandparents, and great grandparents of those people."
"He'd never overreach his position, and would constantly be maneuvering behind the scenes to improve people's lives..."
"Weed would also be legal within 5 minutes of him taking the oath." ~ YNot1989
GiphyEllen Ripley
"Ellen Ripley" ~ hestermoffet
"She kicked alien a$$—Congress should be no problem."
"Plus Jonesy for First Feline." ~ LakotaGrl
GiphyKronk
"Kronk. Just Kronk." ~ The_Inky_Boy
"'How did we make it into the White House, Kronk?'”
“'Well you got me. By all accounts it doesn’t make sense'.” ~ steveofthejungle
"I can see him making the US become a diplomatic state, ending wars as a non-belligerent third party while economy is booming for the new markets brought by peace and being like.... 'Oh yeah. It's all coming together'." ~ Frank_the_Vodoochild
"Literally crying in the Oval Office because the Canadian prime minister didn’t compliment his spinach puffs." ~ c_girl_108
GiphyJosiah Bartlett
"Josiah Bartlet" ~ phriedtabs
"During 2020 with all the presidential speeches that sounded non presidential, I kept thinking that we needed a couple of Josiah Barlet speeches during that time." ~southdakotagirl
"Watching West Wing for the first time over the last few years made politics so much more depressing." ~ Mac1721
GiphyLex Luthor
"Lex Luthor."
"The bastard cured cancer, repeatedly saved the planet from world-busting threats when even the JLA couldn't do it, rebuilt Gotham after the government just abandoned it, and as fictional president, created a globe-spanning post-scarcity utopia."
"Lex's only real failing is his galaxy-class hate boner for Superman. Since our world doesn't include a Superman for Lex to laser-focus on destroying, he'd probably have shit fixed up in no time." ~ candre2
"Lex Luthor basically makes the embattled U.S. a utopia through sheer force of will. He would make an outstanding President, and arguably would be LESS evil than a majority of them." ~ Elgallitorojo
GiphyAbe Lincoln: Vampire Hunter
"Abraham Lincoln, Vampire Hunter." ~ TradesSexForFood
"You're not going to believe this, but..." ~ eliasmsv
GiphyLeia Organa
"Princess Leia" ~ silaslovesoliver
"General Leia" ~ crazydaisy8134
"Capable of complex problem solving, with great situational awareness." ~ mutalisken
GiphyHypno Toad
"The Hypno Toad" ~ OldHolly
"I don't know what you could possibly be talking about. Would it even know how to properly legisla—ALL GLORY TO THE HYPNO TOAD!" ~ gmred91
"You were making pretty good points there at first, it definitely doesn’t seem like a toad cou—ALL GLORY TO THE HYPNO TOAD!" ~ fungiinmygarden
GiphySteve Rogers
"Steve Rogers" ~ curiousfurious79
"He’s got America’s a**." ~ Omegaprimus
"He can do this all day." ~ shnigybrendo"
GiphyTeddy Roosevelt as Robin Williams as Teddy Roosevelt
"That guy on a horse from Night at the Museum." ~ kenj0418
"Teddy Roosevelt or Robin Williams?" ~ OhiobornCAraised
"Robin Williams working as the President while remaining in character as Teddy Roosevelt throughout the entire term." ~ Justalittlesmol
GiphyCount Dooku
"Count Dooku."
"He had vision and the ability to convince people to join him, as in this case there wouldn't be a sidius , he ought to do well and clean america of corruption like he planned." ~ Dinosaurmaid
"Honestly a great choice, he is a very well studied man and strong political leader, and the whole reason he left the Jedi order is because they didn’t send anyone to help protect his people, so he clearly cares for them."
"And he never actually truly fell to the Dark Side he simply studied it and took from both sides making him exceptionally strong." ~ ThatOne_Guy_You_Know
GiphyLeslie Knope
"Where on Earth is Leslie Knope in this discussion?"
"She'd actually be perfect, most importantly because she would want that job." ~ HighlanderSteve
"You just know she's gonna give it her best on every issue." ~ TheDugal
"She truly believes in helping people and constantly goes out of her way to help everyone." ~ Darkfigure145
GiphyKermit the Frog
"Kermit the Frog" ~ Setthescene
"I'm not sure he'd get enough votes. It's not easy being Green." ~ LetterSwapper
"The lovers, the dreamers, and me would vote for him." ~ DrOddcat
GiphySo, do you agree?
Did your choice make the list?
Let us know in the comments.
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People Share Their Funniest 'I'm Embarrassed To Even Know You' Experiences
We'd like to think that we're a good judge of character evidenced by the good friendships we all have.
Curious to hear examples of when people were way off about someone they thought they knew, Redditor AlyksTheSage asked:
"What's something a friend or family member said/did that made you think 'I'm embarrassed that I even know you?'"
These former friends put on quite a display at food establishments.
Having A Conniption Fit
"An ex-friend threw a temper tantrum in a Jack-in-the-Box because the cashier got her order wrong. Talking stamping her feet, gesturing with her arms, pouting, temper tantrum."
"She was 23 at the time."
"We are no longer friends."
– Eezez
Meltdown At Chipotle
"Last week my fiancee's coworker decided to 'skip the line' by ordering grubhub from the line. This was a Chipotle."
"She ordered maybe 7/8 people back, and then proceeded to stay in the line with all of us saying 'i'm just picking up' to everyone who asked what she wanted and would have made it in front of her."
"When she got to the cashier and gave her the info, the cashier was like 'oh ok, well, it will be ready in ten minutes' because f'king obviously."
"She flipped out. Like absolutely lost her sh*t, called everyone names, did the absolute 'dependapotomous' (spelling, I'm not military, sorry) thing where she started shouting about how she was a military spouse and 'when she orders, you make the f'king food'."
"She proceeded to break the phone out, start filming, and continue screaming at people for disrespecting a veteran that way. Again, I am f'king shocked I haven't seen this online yet."
"So how things round out, is they finish her order and the manager brings it to her, thanks her for her husband's service, and tells her she needs to leave and he'd appreciate it if she never came back."
"Her response was 'I don't like your f'king wetback food anyway.'"
"I had driven my fiancee and this woman to this chipotle, and I had to drive this total douche canoe home from this Chipotle."
"It was total silence other than her texting furiously, and occasionally huffing and puffing, until we got about a block from her house and I didn't feel like making a difficult left and told her to just get the f'k out of my car."
"Easily the stupidest, worst person I've had to engage with to that degree since High School. Like, f'k politics: Who raised you?"
– iph0ne
Racist Coworker
"When I went for sushi with some coworkers and the one dude I convinced to come because I thought he was cool just asked for french fries and sat there and pouted because he didn't want to eat 'all this gay jap food' quote."
"Why the f'k did he come then? never been so disappointed in someone. dinner with coworkers is always risky. made the entire thing awkward as f'k."
– grass-snake-40
Some Redditors wished they were not related to these family members.
The Last Straw
"I have an uncle that’s loud, willfully ignorant, and has used temper tantrums and unpleasant behavior to get his way his whole life. He’s like the villain in a bad teen novel."
"The last straw for me was when my grandparents passed away. He tried to steal everything from his siblings. When my mother stood up to him he threatened to kill her."
"I’d really like to believe there was a mixup at the hospital when he was born and that we aren’t really related."
– Fromanderson
Out Of Line Questioning
"My aunt asked someone 'aren't you too old to be pregnant?' The lady was in her 40's and NOT pregnant."
– Pastafarian_Pirate
Bad Bar Behavior
"A family member got banned from a local pub for spitting peanuts at someone with an allergy..... like just why, just no."
– soydinosaur
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Have you ever worked one of those jobs that paid you to kinda sit there? If you have, you know the joy that comes with watching the entirety of Breaking Bad ...Mom's A Racist
"My mom and I were debating racism and I told her that she's racist. Her response:"
"I'm not racist, I just think all black people should go back to Africa."
– KeepYourDemonsIn
"Have an aunt that I’m embarrassed to share blood with (dad’s sister). She’s an LVN and last year she faked 'being deployed' to Afghanistan to help with the Covid relief. She’d post pics on Facebook (she’s addicted to social media and photoshop) from other old news articles claiming she was in them and would brag to the whole family that she got to go on missions because she was the only one 'skinny enough' to fit in the helicopter."
"She was gone on this alleged deployment for 2 weeks before coming back but turns out she was somewhere at a hotel cheating on her husband again. She went to Mexico with a cousin of mine to get gastric bypass (no judgment there) but denies she got surgery and claims it just her amazing will power that caused her weight loss (she wasn’t overweight to begin with)."
"The cousin she went with was open about it and we were all concerned because she got really sick from it for a while. She was hospitalized for it and even when she got out, she denied getting it (which we couldn’t care less but it was still pretty bizarre)."
"She’s also faked cancer multiple times,and is currently harassing a now ex-wife of a man (both were family friends) she was caught cheating on with and sending her multiple threats on different burner phones claiming to be different brothers and sisters of my dad to make her feel unwelcome and ganged up on."
"Turns out, my aunt just didn’t want her near our family because she concerned about what all she knows and if she’ll tell us."
– Ally-2016
Some people's delusions are so wild, it's embarrassing to know them.
History Denier
"A friend that argued that Pompeii wasn´t real and the remains that they found were just props."
"They said it was staged so people will get away from God because if they thought people died like that they would think God was evil."
– No-Cupcake888
Eating Denier
"Roommate walked into the room and told me my food looked good."
"I didn't have any food."
"It was his food that he had been eating before he left the room for less than 10 minutes. I told him that, and he didn't believe me."
– Leelluu
The Forecast Got Ugly
"My brother tried to argue that the weather is racist because it snows more where White people live."
– lllSnowmanlll
Fake Holocaust
"My sister is convinced the Holocaust is a hoax and that people weren’t actually murdered in gas chambers."
– Hardnipples0
Celestial Hoax
"My ex boyfriend said that the sun and moon are government projections and he was extremely upset when I told him that he’s crazy."
"He said I was ignorant lol. Pretty wild conclusions."
– lurkingherkin69
I'm proud to say, I'm a pretty good judge of character and I surround myself with good people.
I can't imagine being embarrassed knowing anyone since many of my friends–in spite of minor character flaws–all have redemptive values that far outweigh their shortcomings.
As to what they may think of me, well, I know I've embarrassed my friends and family on many occasions.
Thankfully, they've all decided to keep me around.
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