Parents Explain How They Really Decide Whether They Like Their Kid's Significant Other Or Not
There is little more nerve wracking than the first time someone introduces their partner to their parents.
For everyone involved.
Both halves of the couple worry that the parents will judge their every move, disapprove of the partner's choice of profession, or decide that they aren't good enough for their son or daughter.
Making both the child and significant other wish more than anything that they knew what was going through the heads of the parents.
"Parents of reddit: How do you feel when your kid brings back a girlfriend/boyfriend? How do you decide whether you like them or not?"
If They're Happy, I'm Happy...
"It's not up to me to like them, it's up to her. If she does, then I do."
"I care that my daughter is, safe, happy, motivated, handling her own business."
"Apart from that, I'm just enjoying watching her experience things, and hoping she includes me in some of that."- Mahhrat
It Can Be Just As Nerve Wracking For Them.
"Met my daughter's boyfriend the other day.'
'First boyfriend."
"Sheās 17."
"Heās 18."
"I must admit I was a bit nervous and I remember very well being 18 and what I was thinking/wanting, but had a word with myself to be welcoming and warm and to treat him as an equal, my daughter's friend, and therefore my friend."
"Anyway, heās a nice young man so itās all good."
"But to answer your question I guess if heās nice Iāll like him if heās a d*ck I won't."
"Either way as far as my daughter is concerned Iāll like him."- dou8le8u88le
watching you meet the parents GIFGiphyJust Give It Time
"I come from a middle class Indian immigrant family and my parents were never cool with us kids having boyfriends."
"So when at the age of 25 I brought my boyfriend home, they were a bit hesitant and took a long time to open up to him."
"My mom went all mother-in-law mode and felt she had to keep up appearances."
"If he came over and she was laying on the couch, she would get up and act all formal."
"The first day he met my dad, I asked my dad afterward what he thinks of my boyfriend, his response was 'don't lose him, that's all'."
"Now he comes over and hangs out with them without an ounce of formality."
"They all have little inside jokes with him, my siblings included."
"My parents went car shopping and I didn't get to go so my dad asked if the boyfriend and I would go take a look at the car one day after work."
"They just really wanted him to check it out too, which felt so special to me because they value his opinion and he's part of the family now."
"I never would have imagined that my family would welcome him like this."
"Melts my heart."- annnabear
Parents Have A Way Of Surprising You
"Not a parent, but this was my experience with my mother when I was a teen."
"So, as a teen, my mother pulled me to the side and gave me the 'gay talk'."
"You know, the ''I'll still love you even if you were gay' talk."
"I asked her why she thought I was gay and she said it was because I never bring any girls to the house."
"Guess what I did within the next few days?"
"I brought a girl in the house."
"Guess what my mother did?"
"She kicked her out and gave me a lecture on how inappropriate it was to bring girls to the house."
"Yes, it makes no sense."- Mr-Klaus
family guy no girls allowed GIFGiphyYoung, YOUNG, Love
"My 4yo daughter introduced me to the 5yo neighbor kid as a bf."
"She told me he's really good at running fast and he appreciates snails as much as she does."
'Needless to say, this is a keeper."- LittleMissEmmet
What Does This Even Mean?
"My daughter just started dating."
"She was mortified when I picked them up and asked if everything was Gucci."- raynbowz13
Just Be Polite, And Wait It Out...
"My daughter, 13, wanted me to meet her first 'real' boyfriend."
"I was nice and pleasant, but I knew it wouldn't last cause he was all looks and no brains."
"Of course, as jr high relationships go, it was about a 2 month ordeal."
"I think all parents should try and be cordial, unless the person feels like a serial killer or something."- littlecakebaker
Ariana Grande Couple GIF by Justin BieberGiphyThat Feeling
"I have always instinctively known within seconds of meeting them. I've liked all but one of my son's partners, and the one I didn't feel right about was the one who screwed him up."
retailface
"Iāve given my daughter the best advice I can give her and sheās leaps and bounds better at relationships than a lot of older adults I know (sheās nearly drinking age where weāre from)."
"Thatās not to brag though as a lot of what I told her was donāt do the same dumb sh*t I did. Well that and to always know her worth."
"The moment someone makes her feel less important than they are they get the boot."
"She doesnāt try to fix people she dates. You are who you are and if youāre not right then oh well (a direct quote)."
"Honestly itās something she said to me once that helped me be better off when dating (married now)."
"Iād made the remark that I hadnāt understood some sappy things people do when theyāre in love."
"She looked me dead in the eyes and said āThatās because youāve loved but never been in love.ā She wasnāt wrong and as much as I sometimes hate to admit it she rarely is."
"That caused me to examine the relationship I was in under closer scrutiny than I ever had before."
"My husband today is the most amazing husband and father we could have asked for but never realized (until now) that we deserved."
Buttercup_Bride
Give Me A Reason Not To
"Not a parent so I called my mom. She stated and I quote:"
āI like all of them until they give me reason not to. Then I never tell you whether I like them or not, so I donāt influence your own judgement. I cannot choose for you, although sometimes I wish I could.ā - Mrs. UnappreciatedSon
UnappreciatedSon
Act Natural
"It's about respect, if she treats him right, and compatibility."
"On the other end, not her dad, but my girlfriend's roommate is this old grizzled marine dude. She told me that he liked me because I didn't try to get him to like, which apparently most people do. I was just myself and acted naturally, which he appreciated. Just be yourself and the people that will like you will like you, and the people who won't won't. But always be respectful."
HippyKiller925Ā·
Principals
"My stepdaughters boyfriend came into MY house and we were talking about computer games and he had the audacity to tell me why red dead 2 was better than god of war. IN MY HOUSE!! But respect to the lad for that, he stuck to his principals and a year later still argues with me about gaming stuff."
teksti-tv666
Same Brand of Weird
"My eldest is 15, and boys in high school can be....gross. The way they speak to girls (and girls to boys) is just so far out of line it makes me ill. But her boyfriend is respectful to her and her family. Most importantly they're the same brand of weird. They facetime 19 hours a day I swear, but yesterday they had an entire conversation about penguins both using the same weird fake Russian type accent. He's her safe place and without very good cause, I'd never get in the way of that."
EmptyBobbin
Blown Out of Proportion
"Here's my dad's take. He liked my ex-BF at first because he was initially polite and friendly, and I was very happy with him. However, my dad started to notice red flags later on and his opinion of him changed. For example, when we came back to my place from a day trip, he had sulked because I didn't show the enthusiasm he wanted about his favorite landmark. My dad told him that he should forgive me, but he still would not stop whining. My dad later told me that his reaction was blown out of proportion. Basically my dad would decide whether or not to like any guy I bring home based on the way he treats me."
"Edit: I did not show zero interest in what my ex liked. I just wasn't as over the top excited as he wanted me to be."
smalldoggobigpupper
Reflection of Parenting
"I love to meet his girlfriends. In a very self-serving way, I think his ability to attract charming ladies reflects the quality of my parenting."
"On one hand, I like whoever brings joy to his life. On the other hand, I prefer to be around polite and well-spoken people. A bit of nervousness on her part indicates that meeting me is important to her."
3MTAE
It's ingrained in parent's DNA to worry about their children.
And all parents have an idea of how they want their children's lives to turn out.
Hence their immediate trepidation when they bring their first significant other home.
Of course, their trepidation doesn't always come from a place of judgment, but rather a place of sadness.
As the first partner is a bittersweet reminder that their children aren't children anymore.
"That's a deal breaker, ladies!"
A line memorably uttered by Jenna Maroney during a sketch written by Liz Lemon on the fictional sketch comedy show TGS on the legendary sitcom 30 Rock.
The "deal breakers" in question were red flags women noticed in men which made them unsuitable to be romantic partners.
Heightened and extreme as the sketch was, it wasn't so far fetched from reality, as just about everyone has a deal breaker when finding their soulmate.
Be it smoking, excessive gambling, obsessions with sports and/or shopping, people often look out for things they don't want to deal with, or compete with, in a relationship.
"Whatās the biggest dealbreaker in a relationship in your opinion?"
Ultimatums
"When she/he makes you choose between them and your family."- Sheriff_Disko
rachel cruze whatever GIF by Ramsey SolutionsGiphyKindness. Shouldn't Be So Hard...
"Not being nice to animals."- _Picklesandpotatoes_
"Abuse of any kind."- TeamGodzilla
No Monogamy? No Deal!
"Abuse of any kind and infidelity."- Knighthawk235
"Cheating."
"Emotional, physical .. any kind."
"This is only if both parties have agreed to be exclusive and monogamous."
"If theyāre poly and have communicated it beforehand, thatās perfectly alright though."
"I OBVIOUSLY donāt mean cheating is ok if youāre poly, just that the rules are different."- Zeph-11
"If they are married is a biggie for me."- HouseDog2020
Music Video Beyonce GIFGiphyNothing But The Truth
"Pathological lying."- Frosty033
Failure To Launch...
"Their parents make decisions for them."- kiwilemonbee
Lack Of Investment
"That the other person doesn't really want to be in the relationship."
"It takes two people working together to keep a relationship going, but once one of them decides they don't want to be there, it's either effective or actually over."
"You can try all you want, but the relationship will never reach liftoff."
"This seems obvious, but in my experience, it's pretty common for people to just coast in neutral in their relationships."
"The other person does all the work until they decide they can't take it anymore and THEY have to do the breaking up."
"When the Mr./Ms. Neutral Gear either checked out long before or never even checked in."- zazzlekdazzle
Uneven Playing Field
"When one feels to compromise a lot more than the other(s) to keep the relationship going."- Lambda_Settings
trying season 4 GIF by OutlanderGiphyEveryone should be adaptable and open to evolving.
Even so, everyone has things in their life that they simply can't tolerate, or even shouldn't have to tolerate.
Few would argue that it's better to avoid a problematic relationship early, rather than endure months, or years, of unhappiness.
Bad dates are a universal experience for most people. I would know--I once went to my date's improv show. That was the date. Never date comedians, y'all.
But then again, I was one of the lucky ones. Because no matter how cringey that improv show was, it wasn't even close to some of these dates from hell. Readysetexplode asked:
What's your worst horror story from a date?
āAh, to be young again. Nothing tops a really bad high school date.
This is some Die Hard sh*t.
āIt was a warm summer night, we were 15, and we were in love.
No wait, scratch that, we were 15 and wanted to grind. That's the one.
I was over at my friends place chilling out, He was playing Diablo 2 and I was on the other computer chatting on msn when, lo and behold, she logged on. After some small talk I mentioned I was in town at Joe's (pseudonym) place, and she said I should come over to her house. We had talked beforehand about sex and fooling around, made out a bit, and we both wanted to screw, but parents etc kept getting in the way. I told Joe that I was going to go and try to get laid, and he was understandably supportive. And with that, I was off into the night.
It was midnight or shortly after, cloudy but hot out, and the orange glow from the city lit up the night remarkably well. As I walked and pondered the possible events to come, I was accompanied by the distant yet booming sound of thunder. I really should have noticed the smell of rain in the air... I made quick work of the several blocks between us and came to her house, going to her bedroom window as was previously directed.
Knock Knock. She came to the window with a finger to her lips, wearing a black bra and pink underwear, and pointed down. My eyes followed her gesture to the still form of her young brother lying on her bedroom floor.
She preempted my curiosity with, "He gets afraid of thunderstorms, so he is going to sleep in here tonight", to which I asked with more of a look of disappointment and confusion than words, "But I wanted to plow you, all romantic like!"
Her smile told me I was still in business. I crawled into her window, took off my shoes and left them on her bedroom floor, and we stepped out of her room and made our way to her basement. The lights were out, as we did not want to wake her religious parents, but she knew her way around, and led me past a table to her couch.
After a few minutes of pathetic teenager make out and pawing, things got serious. After the foreplay, we moved onto the sex.
Being the responsible young adult that I was, I had brought 2 condoms, and being the dumb young adults that we were, she advised I wear them both for extra protection, and I did. Cue worst sex ever. but I'm FAIRLY sure it did happen.
In the throes of passion, we were totally unaware that the distant rumbling of thunder had become the storm of the year directly above our town, and the rain and thunder eventually tore our attention away.
Wait a minute... That doesn't sound like rain... That sounds like... FOOTSTEPS!!
To this day, I have yet to see anyone do anything faster than that Christian girl get dressed. She was dressed and tugging at my arm before I had my pants fully done up! So i grabbed my shirt and my socks, and she dragged my up the stairs and across the common room. Well, mostly across. About halfway down the telltale flicker of flashlights descends the stairs, turns out the power had been knocked out by the storm. Not having enough time to get to her room without being seen, she shoved me into the bathroom beside us, and went to address her parents as I climbed into the shower stall and cowered.
Outside I heard them conversing, her parents having no suspicions were quite calm, just asking how her and her brother were doing. Fine. Ok, well then we are going to go back to bed, try and get some sleep. PHEW! I'm in the clear.
Her dad utters a phrase I won't soon forget, "I am just gonna use the bathroom before we go." And steps into my hiding place. Placing the flashlight on the bathroom counter, beam up, I see the silhouette of a large man walk over to within 3 feet of me, and take a piss. I'm fairly sure my heart stopped beating just to make sure he couldn't detect me at all. He finishes, wastes his 1 flush (cmon people, when the power is out, follow the mantra, 'if it's brown, flush it down, if it's yellow, let it mellow') and departs. Parents leave, she comes and gets me, we both sh*t bricks, and then we continue into her room so I can GTFO ASAP.
I get fully dressed, and am sitting on the edge of her bed putting on my last sock when both of our eyes shoot to the bottom of her bedroom door. Flashlights.
I quickly discern that I don't have the time to get out the window undetected, but spot that her bed has a fairly decent rise to it, and luckily for me, was uncluttered underneath. I drop to the floor and ninja vanish mere moments before her parents enter her room. Again, inconsequential chit chat and I feel like I am in the clear. I sigh a breath of relief and let my head rest on her carpet, looking out into the room.
Directly into the eyes of her 5 year old brother lying on the floor, now wide awake, and staring into my soul. I'm done. I'm busted. I'm dead. "Christian father kills horny teenager" is going to be the headline in the newspaper the next day, guaranteed. A million options flash through my mind until I decide on a brilliantly simple choice. Bringing one finger up to my lips, I make the sign for silence and secrecy.
Thank FSM for the playful naivety of children, because he simply smiled and returned the gesture.
Her parents departed, and shortly after, so did I, to enjoy my walk home in the pouring hot summer rain, with ample time to ponder how close I came to a serious sh*t-beating.
Worth it.
Tl;dr Went for a midnight screw and almost got eviscerated by crazy religious parents, ninja'd my way out.ā
Yikes.
Jay Z Reaction GIF by ComplexGiphyāNightmare date occurring RIGHT NOW.
I rode 250 miles to see this redditor I'd been corresponding with for a couple months. She's cute and we get along smashingly, but she had a boyfriend and I didn't want to be in an awkward position so I refrained from visiting. She almost breaks up with him, but she doesn't. She assured me there'd be no problems(?), but sure enough, I pull into her seedy apartment complex and I see 2 people arguing. My spidey sense tingled so I doubled back, parked, and called her. They are now arguing and I'm sitting at a sh*tty convenience store...fml"
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Denmark has very strict laws to protect children from bizarre names. Parents must choose from a list of 7,000 pre-approved names. And if they choose a name o...Smooth move.
āI was on a first date with a girl and I also worked with. We'd been flirting for weeks and had wonderful chemistry. Our date was great and had a life of its own. She drove. At the end of the 6-hour long date, we were sitting in her parked car in front of my house, continuing the captivating conversation. We had a work meeting the next morning, so when it came time for me to go, I started to exit the car and said āSee you tomorrowā. She sheepishly said āI can't wait that longā. Without thinking, I replied, āWell, you're gonna have toā and slammed the car door.
I didn't realize what she meant, or how what I said came across, for some time, like the next day.ā
Thanks a lot, dad.ā
āShe comes to pick me up ( I couldn't drive yet ), she's waiting with the car running in the driveway and calls me because she's somewhat scared of my dad. I come out the front door, my dad follows me wondering where I'm going. He see's the girl and decides he's going to āembarrassā me. He proceeds to tackle me onto the lawn and pretend like he's kicking the sh*t out of me. She drives off in panic. Thanks dad.ā
āIf you thought your dating experiences were bad, youāre not ready for these next few.
āFragile egos donāt make for good dates.
Willy Wonka And The Chocolate Factory Tantrum GIFGiphyāSo we're still in high school, and we'd been hanging out forever, really liked each other. He's a pretty decent nerdy guy, we play Starcraft together all the time, have a couple of classes together. He takes me to a Magic tournament.
Cool! I register and I start playing. I advance, and he throws a hissy fit after I beat him... and refuses to drive me home. The guy behind the counter guilts him into taking me home, and we're about half-way through the awkward silence home when he gets pulled over by the cops for speeding. Instead of cooperating, he throws a f*cking fit and starts yelling. Officer asks him to step out of the car, and he eventually does. I'm in tears, so the nice officer calls my parents to come and get me from the side of the road, because he's taking DateGuy to the station for belligerence and, as he said, āTotally ruining your nightā. I had to answer a ton of questions with the guy sitting in the back of the cop car, glaring daggers at me.
Worst date I've ever had, and I had to continue taking classes with him until the end of the year. We never spoke again.
āAwkward af.
āI had a dud first date - we had nothing to talk about, and none of the social skills or inclination to make small tall.
We made it half way through the second drink before both abandoning the idea.
I walk her back to her car - she collapses on the way.
I call an ambulance, and end up in the emergency waiting room wondering exactly what my obligations are to a girl I don't know.
I stick it out for 4 hours until she's discharged.
I ask her to call me when she gets home, to make sure she gets there ok - she doesn't call.ā
āThis is just plain cringe.
āWas set up on a blind date by a co-worker. Things went reasonably well- ok conversation, he seemed to be genuinely nice. My co-worker and her boyfriend double dated with us for moral support. We went back to the co-worker's house after dinner to watch a movie together. That's when things got weird.
Co-worker and boyfriend left the room to give us some "alone time". Immediately, my date tried to kiss me. It was one of those approaches with his tongue hanging out. I nicely rejected the kiss, saying it was too soon for that type of affection for me. So he shifted his attention to my feet. I was wearing open toed shoes and he grabbed a foot in his hand and asked if he could rub my feet. I declined and he began to beg. Told me that he loved feet and would love to suck on my toes. I declined again, started to get a bit scared. He made a last ditch effort by asking if he could just sniff them once. I gathered my things and left ASAP.
He followed me to my car and tried to beg me in a baby-talk voice to come back, me and my "widdle piggies" (toes). I kept expecting a camera crew to pop out from behind a tree proclaiming that I had indeed been "punk'd". I was as nice as possible about everything, citing that I just needed some time to get comfortable with someone before becoming affectionate. I pulled out of the driveway in such a hurry that I squealed my tires a bit.
I had no intention of seeing him again since he had violated my personal space so much. I (probably wrongly) passive aggressively ignored his phone calls and myspace messages. He couldn't take a hint though, and called 20 times in one day. I finally manned up and told him that I wasn't interested in pursuing a relationship. He immediately got nasty, called me a tease, and told me never to contact him again. Weirdest date ever."
Considering the fact that these posts were written in 2010, itās safe to say that people arenāt going on dates from MySpace anymore. Although Tinder isnāt much worseā¦
What an a**hole.
Ben Stiller Basketball GIFGiphyāHe called 20 minutes before he was supposed to pick me up. Told me he'd be a couple hours late because he wanted to play basketball.... the time he was supposed to get me rolled around... no show.... twenty minutes later a car pulls up and his mom gets out....(keep in mind we're freshmen in college)
He sent his parents to come get me. 20 minute drive to his house in the car. Alone with his parents. He proceeded to talk about the girl he was in love with for the rest of the date and ended it with an awkward hug stating that it wouldn't work because we lived too far away.ā
So much for dancing.
āWent dancing with a girl from work; first date with anyone, 25 years old - zero social skills, naturally. Wisely, I let her do all the talking, and we have a decent enough time. She doesn't even seem to notice my awkwardness, and I start to loosen up and even show a bit of confidence. "Hey, this is sort of fun!", I say to myself.
I explain that I can't dance, but she goads me into giving it a try - just one slow song. She'll walk me through it, she says, no big deal. No one's watching. My blood pressure shoots through the roof, but I'm still on a high, and hardly noticing my hands trembling and my pulse approaching a dangerous rate. We go over to the floor and she puts my hand on her waist and takes my other hand in hers.
Instantly, my breath leaves me and the room fills with pea soup fog. The arteries in my forearms and throat contract painfully and a crushing sensation overtakes me; fade to black. My memory cuts out at that point, but I'm told that I managed to crawl to the corner of the room after hitting the floor.
When I came to, I was completely numb and paralyzed from head to toe, gasping for breath, but getting almost none at all. The crushing feeling intensified and I lost consciousness several more times in the next hour or so as I lay in the corner. Eventually I regained enough feeling in my legs to pull myself upright, stagger to a stool, and order an orange juice. My scalp and tongue were still numb, but I managed to drink it down and gather my thoughts enough to remember where I was, what day it was, and how I had gotten there. In another hour I was aware enough to risk driving home, which I did as slowly and deliberately as I could with my still-dull reflexes and persisting numbness. I made it back to my room and slept until past noon the next day, still a bit numb and groggy even then.
My date, I found out later, had been profoundly embarrassed by my actions, and left immediately after I fell. She forgave me and never mentioned it to anyone, as far as I know.
Tl;dr: first date; tried dancing with a girl; had some sort of stroke (I think*); blacked out; girl leaves, but agrees not to tell anyone about it."
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People think this sh*t is cute, but itās just creepy.
āHe wanted to watch a movie at his house. Turns out, he wanted to watch G.I. Jane. Turns out, it's his favorite movie. Turns out, he gets so pumped when watching it he wears his army fatigues and spontaneously does pushups every 5 minutes.
Then we go for a walk and he insists on holding my hand and practically hanging on it for the entire walk.
Finally I get to my house and send him home, relieved to finally be alone. 5 minutes later, I hear something hit my window. Then again. He's outside, throwing rocks at my window. He tells me he loves me, and gazes up at me with a sh*t-eating grin. He had to see me again! I tell him, āGo home!ā
I think about how I'm going to break up with this extraordinarily needy dude. It digs at me all night.
In the morning when I leave for work I find flowers under my windshield wiper, and a poem. First dates can be gruesome.ā
āBad dates can lead to bad consequences.
Not a good look when youāre in twenties.
Alejandro Jodorowsky Party GIF by Endless PoetryGiphyāāLast year, I started screwing around with a coworker of mine. BAD IDEA. We decided to go to a party as our first date-like thing. The party was at her house (she had like 6 roomates in this giant house). Now, I'm not really a big drinker, but these people (all of whom are well into their 20's) were just getting schwasted off of Barton's Vodka. I've never seen a more childish abuse of alcohol.
Yada yada yada, everybody at this party (25 people or so?) started drinking at about 10, and were all passed out in piles of their own vomit all around the house, high-school style. The girl I'm with, after throwing up on her bed, drunkenly begs me to stay and take care of her. Because of my hatred of immature drunk people, I simply leave (kind of a d*ck move, I know). The next day my boss talked to me and said that I wouldn't be working with her anymore because she threatened to fill out a sexual harassment case or something against me. Whoa!
Worst date ever.ā
āYiiiiikes.
āI had no car at 17 but thought I would be creative about taking a girl to a movie without involving my parents:
I invited this girl I had a crush on to come to the movies with me and two guy friends. We sat in the back seat together, and sat next to each other at the movies. For the most part my friends left us alone and it seemed like we were on a quiet, awkward, conversation-less first date. I was pretty lame but tried my best to keep her interest in the few moments a movie-date provides. But on the ride back to her house, my best friend happened to play some music she liked on the stereo and they started talking. She immediately opened up and the two of them hit it off instantly (while I was sitting next to her in the back seat, silently raging). She dated my best friend for a year after that.ā
āGrease was NOT the word that night.
āI went on a date one time when I was in elementary school with a girl I met through a girl in my class. We were going to see Grease, (the 20th anniversary release in 1998) and we had a lot of time to kill before the movie started. Being the adventurous young chap that I was, I decided to get some Milk Duds from the snack counter, as I had never eaten them before. I thought, "Milk chocolate? Caramel? I love both of them, so together, they should be amazing!"
I had a few of them, and they were pretty good. I waited for them to melt, then chomped down and ate them. After a few, however, I became impatient of waiting for them to soften up and started to just bite through them. It was a little challenging biting through solid caramel, but nothing terrible.
However, one Milk Dud was more difficult to chew than the rest. I popped this particular one to the back of my mouth, and the caramel core decided to latch itself onto one of my molars. I pulled and pulled to try to get it unstuck from my teeth, but the caramel was too much for my young teeth. In trying to open up my mouth, I ended up ripping the stuck molar from my mouth with the hard Milk Dud still attached. The molar wasn't even loose, it just got pulled out!
It's strange enough going on dates when you're that young. It's stranger when it's with a girl you met only once prior to the date. It's strangest when you end up ripping out a not-loose tooth with a Milk Dud still attached, and then have to sit through Grease.
Note: I have not eaten a Milk Dud since.ā
āDefinitely a Team Jacob kinda dude.
robert pattinson team edward GIFGiphyāNot really a date, but still...
I met a girl in a club whilst working as a nightlife photographer - you meet a lot of girls that way, its a good ice breaker. She was pretty, sweet and funny, and we kept bumping into each other throughout the night as I worked. Ended up finishing work and getting to chat to her a bit, things were great, and we ended up going back to her place for a bit of drunken rumpy pumpy.
When we got into her room it was like a normal student room, posters on the wall etc, typical girl stuff, y'know? Twilight poster, calendar of a boy band, some frilly stuff... all that. Quite cute. Anyway, we got down to business, and we were nearly naked when she whispers into my ear in the sexiest way possible, "Bite me like Edward".
I had my clothes on and was out of the door faster than you could even imagine.ā
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āSeems logical.
āLong story short. Christmas party went well. met a girl. Woke up in her apartment, in her bed, naked on top of the covers. Woke up because a man in the doorway was angrily asking me, "is that my daughter?" He had come to pick her up for Christmas vacation and her roommates let him in. I answered, "no." by the way. Seemed the only smart thing to do.ā
āIf your memories of first dates make you cringe, just remember, at least your date didnāt throw a tantrum over a Magic the Gathering tournament. That story was unreal.
And if you have a history of bad dates, donāt worry- the right person WILL come along, and they will provide good memories that will give you hope for relationships again.
In our toxically masculine, gender-obsessed world that pigeon holes us all into a couple categories, it can be easy to make some assumptions about which items make the best gifts for certain people.
But a recent Reddit thread turned that all on its head.
Redditors--mostly guys, but some well-versed partners of dudes--discussed what they truly want to receive when the holidays roll around.
Some of the suggestions may surprise you.
magic_neems asked, "What do men actually like to receive as gifts?"
The Gift of Ideal Portion Sizes
"My husband asked for 'sweatpants I can wear to the store,' house shoes (rubber on the Bottom in case he needs to go outside) and cereal bowls that are 'bigger than soup bowls' lol" -- haleymcgirl
"The cereal bowl thing has me dying. My husband eats cereal out of a mixing bowl." -- AnArmAndaPlague
Exactly What He WantedĀ
"I'm a single dad so I buy Christmas gifts for myself from my kids because obviously they want to get me stuff for Christmas but they don't have any money."
"This year they got me an Xbox series X, a subscription to keto Krate, a new electric roasting pan, and immersion blender, and and air compressor. šš"
How Things ChangeĀ
"As a kid the thought of getting socks as a gift would disgust me, but as an adult, a new pack of socks brings a smile to my face."
"Same goes for underwear, but different strokes for different folks there."
Just Solid Overall AdviceĀ
"The best gift is something a person wants, but cannot quite justify spending their own money on." -- blyat56
"Good general gift advice that. Also not too expensive, so they don't feel bad if you missed the mark." -- obscureferences
"Or something they wouldn't have thought to get. I'm getting my brother a set of throwing knives." -- The_First_Viking
The Gift of Actual UtilityĀ
"Appliances. Every time I use my waterflosser, air fryee, coffee bean grinder, etcn, I think of the giver and remeber them fondly" -- phroexx
"This. I'd rather receive something useful than something "for decoration" cause I live in a small place due to exorbitant rent." -- nguyenning198
Temporary, but Deeply AppreciatedĀ
"For me, pretty much just food. Maybe an item of clothing you really, truly, deeply believe I'd look really good in. Everything else I'd kind of prefer to buy myself because I know what I'm looking for."
"Pastries are my biggest weakness."
-- Mythnam
Know Your AudienceĀ
"Stuff related to our interests, just like anyone else. My dad got me a nice set of grilling tools this year, and I cant wait to try them out, as grilling is a huge hobby of mine."
"If he had given the same set of tools to my brother, however, he would have probably regifted them. Different strokes for different folks. Learn what your man likes, and give him that."
Always On the MindĀ
"You know what I really want? A nice comfortable desk chair. Because if it is comfortable to sit in, I will think of you each time I sit in it."
"And if it is quality and lasts a long time, I'll be thinking of your gift for quite a long time!"
-- brettBPK
A Good StrategyĀ
"Best thing to do: identify a shoddy item I use. It could be a stapler, it could be scissors, it could be a socket wrench set that I just can't find that 10mm."
"Buy him a quality replacement."
Everyone Wants to Smell GoodĀ
"Candles. I may be a guy, but my place still needs to smell nice and give off a pleasant ambiance. I could be stuck smelling candles at Walmart for hours." -- Kesenai_
"My boyfriend and his best friend also love candles! But their guy friends never get them as gifts , so I always end up buying them cookie and vanilla scented candles that they love lol" -- FiniteCommunist
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There are certain expectations you have of your partner in a relationship, most of which are behavioral.
You make a contract with each other. And if someone breaks that contract, it can break down the relationship.
u/xCombust asked:
What is an instant turn-off in a relationship?
Here were some of those answers.
Narcissism
Refusal to admit they have done anything wrong. Never apologizing. Constantly positioning as the victim. Deluding themselves by twisting reality so they never have to honestly look at themselves.
They Can't Learn
A big red flag in either a romantic relationship or just a friendship for me, is when the person you're talking to is always either the hero or the victim in every story they tell.
Usually a pretty good indicator or how they view themselves / interact with the world, and it usually means they're going to be "my way or the highway" or "everyone else is to blame for everything"
Both are insufferable qualities
Just Dodging Bullets
Listening to your girlfriend talk to her daughter's father like complete and utter garbage on the phone even though he was having a family emergency in a hospital and hadn't actually done anything wrong. Screaming and name calling and all that because she wanted to talk to their 2 year old but grandma had her at home.
Took me all of 30 seconds to realize that would be me eventually getting treated like garbage so I enjoyed the rest of the night with her, said when we talked on the phone the next day I didn't think things would work out long term. Oh yeah, she has a pending assault charge for breaking his nose that I didn't find out about til that same night.
Insults Are Always Red Flags
Inability to communicate problems without yelling or insults. I've spent my whole life training myself not to yell at or insult someone unless it is 100% justified. I like discussing and resolving issues in a levelheaded manner where both sides get an understanding of the situation from the other perspective. Just please, for the love of God, don't insult me for asking about your parents when I don't know how your family life is. That's why I'm asking.
One Of These Things Is Not Like The Other
Being controlling and demeaning, not turning off lights in unused rooms, lying, complaining about health issues but refusing to do anything to get better/under control
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I think when you're in a relationship, all the loud chewing and putting the to in the wrong way kind of evens out. They're not glaring. What for me is a turn off is that cut off point. Where you're so sure of the other person that you start taking them for granted. You don't check in on the relationship, you stop talking and the comfort of not having to look good, or even smell good seeps in.
And you get stuck in this cycle that you may not even realise is happening because all those small things just be one so routine that you forget what it's like to be in love with someone, what it's like to feel a bit nervous about someone. How beautiful the other person is and how you should tell them. How much you cherish that unspoken comfort and support, how the little touches as they walk by you mean something. How you forget to appreciate the individual.
That's where I check out, that's the real turn off.
Empathy Is Key
Being rude to customer service people. If you can't empathize with how hard they have to work, I can't imagine they'll be pleasant when we are having some issues.
Thou Shalt Not Name Call
Name calling. Maybe not a deal breaker for everyone, but I've always felt like there was no excuse for anyone to call me derogatory names. My dad NEVER called my mom names. So that what I expected from my husband (and myself.) I never call my husband names either.
Sniff Sniff
Someone who is always complaining. It could be about the smallest things or really big things. But a person that is a constant source of negativity is not someone I personally would like to spend too much time with.
It comes down to that saying, "If it smells like poop wherever you go, check under your shoe."
Honesty, Turning Saints Into The Sea
I don't know how many others can relate to this, but that's definitely one of the most important things if I want to start a relationship:
Don't tell me lies or half-truths, even if it's just because you think it would make me insecure or mad.
A lot of people don't agree with me, but if I want to start a relationship, my end goal is possibly building a family. I'm going to ask you personal opinions and things about you and your past, and you're free to ask me whatever you want. If you're not comfortable, just tell me that you don't feel like answering. But if you answer, be 100% honest, because if I find out that you were lying or omitting things, for WHATEVER REASON (even not to hurt me), it's an immediate turn-off for me, and I lose trust really quickly.