The Most Unattractive Things A Person Can Do
Reddit user Individual_Owl_6925 asked: 'The Most Unattractive Things Someone Can Do'
You know those people that you try so hard to like because they're a friend of a friend or a coworker you see every day and with whom you have to maintain civility but they just make it so difficult for you?
On the surface, it's easy to see why some people are less manageable to be around, while it's more difficult to detect in others.
All it takes is one bad tendency or idiosyncrasy to write a person off for good.
Curious to hear from strangers online, Redditor Individual_Owl_6925 asked:
"Whats the most unattractive thing a person can do?"
These types of people never learned about having social graces.
Disrespect
"Treat others like sh*t"
– TimSantee
"Or their kids."
"As a man in his 40s. Nothing turns me off more than a horrible mom."
– ArtVandalay47
Conversation Hijacker
"When having a conversation and someone is attempting to shut down ones excitement about a topic that they are passionate about."
– Charitable-Cruelty
Lacking Passion
"Or just not caring about their passion or ignoring them. I've met more than a few people who did that to me, I told them what I was passionate about and they couldn't even remember. I thought it was normal and that I was just boring until I started going on dates with people who actually loved hearing me talk about that stuff and even said it was attractive how much I care about these topics, and that they thought I was super interesting."
"Never settle people, and never accept poor treatment as the norm, there's always someone out there who will actually care about what you have to say."
– _Confusion_Time_
Pretentious
"Treat people that they consider 'below' them like garbage."
– throwawaytheist
"If you want to know what a man's like, take a good look at how he treats his inferiors, not his equals."
– jacklightsout
Some people are just so insufferable?
What kind of people, you ask?
Observe the following.
Into Labels
"First week of college my roommate’s bf shows up with HIS roommate, Tate."
"Me and Tate were left alone for a couple minutes. We were chatting and he was going to show me something in his wallet."
"Then he was like 'oops! I almost dropped my GUCCI wallet!' while smirking at me 🤮"
"I have never felt so grossed out or embarrassed for someone in my life."
– Dramiotic
What's In Your Wallet?
"Literally yesterday when I was walking out of my local gym (filled with douchebags) this meathead was on the phone in the lobby talking to someone about potentially buying a $600 wallet. So clearly trying to get people to overhear him. I swear I cringed all the way to my car."
– Heldpizza
"Unless that wallet is mugging proof (prevents you being targeted) I can’t see how any wallet could be worth that much."
– KaralDaskin
Talking Smack
"Their only source of conversation is gossiping about people."
– noname121241
"I have this nephew whose only source of conversation is talking about how much he hates Tom Cruise. Seriously, it’s all he talks about and he says he’s his greatest enemy. He’s 15."
– ___sephiroth
Some people are just plain rude.
Their Way Or The Highway
"Force their beliefs and opinions onto you—and act like a cranky baby for the smallest disagreements."
– Aceedbath
Pure Selfishness
"I find entitlement extremely unattractive. It manifests in many ways, like being rude to staff, demanding stuff, selfishing/self centeredness, expecting unreasonable things...."
"Just f'king naaaaah! Don't care if you're playboy grade 10/10, you ugly to me."
– downvote_quota
Star Of Their Own Show
"Base their life off social media likes."
– JD054
"Brag about themselves. Some body who practically ignores what anybody says and always tries making the conversation about themselves."
– tywalker215
Their Phone Is More Important
"Send texts to others all the time while you're hanging together. See ya."
– 3ilham0dgd
"Even if they text you all the time when they're with other people? /j"
– anon
"I have the opposite of this problem. I'm not a texter. My dates LOVE that I'm not reaching for my phone when we're out. But then they hate it when I don't text them back quickly."
– esoteric_enigma
The thing I have a problem with people is more like a pet peeve.
But I guess it still qualifies as an unattractive quality.
It's when people are consistently late and horrible keepers of time. I've gradually kept my distance from a number of people who weren't respectful enough to be punctual for a lunch or dinner date.
What's worse is when they're on time for other "important" obligations like reporting for work or any formal appointment.
But when it comes to meeting up with friends, they somehow think that taking their sweet time and running a "few minutes late" will be tolerated.
Nope to that.
People Confess Which Articles Of Clothing And Accessories Make Someone Instantly Unattractive
Legendary fashion designer Coco Chanel once famously quipped, "before you leave the house, look in the mirror and remove one accessory."
Indeed, sometimes it is truly remarkable how one item, be it a wrap, a hat or a brooch, can ruin the whole effect of an outfit.
In some extreme cases, it might also result in making someone's physical appearance seem worse than it is, by inadvertently emphasizing one of their less flattering features.
Then too, there are various accessories or types of clothing which simply never look good on anyone, under any circumstances.
"What is a piece of clothing or an accessory that makes a person immediately unattractive?"
In Case You Needed Reminding...
"Any shirt that has a long statement about how the person wants to be viewed."
"'I'M A BEER DRINKING, HARD WORKING, GUN OWNING REAL MAN WHO EATS MEAT AND NEVER MAKES EXCUSES OR TAKES SHORTCUTS IN LIFE'."
"'IF YOU'RE TRIGGERED, TAKE A NUMBER. I'LL GET TO YOU IN ABOUT A YEAR'."- Delica
"I'll bet Gas Station Kino shirts, with the angry flaming skeletons pointing two guns at you, declaring I'M A FORKLIFT OPERATOR WE WORK HARD AND WE PLAY HARD."- MontrealChickenSpice
"Any of that aggressive STOMP MY FLAG ILL STOMP YOUR A** sh*t."
"Makes me feel like they’re just stupid and angry, a dangerous combination."- neermif
bart simpson episode 22 GIFGiphyA Sight No One Needs To See
"Pants worn below buttocks."- anonnautilus
"Pants that are their size they just don't hold them up with a belt and show their whole underwear, or shrugs."- Jaceie
Million Dollar Smiles Shouldn't Be Taken Literally...
"Teeth Grills"
"They look f*ckin ridiculous."- DavosLostFingers
old lady smile GIFGiphyCan They Even See Through Them?
"Eyelashes that are too obviously fake."- LawInevitable2213
No One Really Wants To Be Compared To A Vegetable...
"The thing I find most disgusting currently is the broccoli haircut."
"Looks so bad."- Guilty-Ad-2762
Well Worn, But Not In A Good Way...
"Those God-awful jeans dudes wear with the random ribbed patches on the thighs."
"You know the ones."
"ABOLISH THEM!"- muffinbaby000
No Matter The Interpreter...
"Anything with the joker on it."
"Double that if there is an edgy quote on it as well."- Maleficent-Elk-3298
Bigger Is Not Always Better...
"Giant, long fake fingernails."
"And dinner plates in the earlobes."- sam_the_beagle
"I Am A Material Girl"...
"I'm not a fan of clout-chasing branded clothing."
"It screams materialistic consumerism and that is not cute to me."- coddiwomplecactus
Dude, Where's The Boat?
"The preppy frat man/boy style."
"Salmon shorts, a pastel vineyard vines button-down, and Sperry’s."
"Sorry but it makes some people look like overgrown toddlers at Easter mass."- Mirrorflute88
Unless You're Diana Ross, Maybe...
"Anything with the word Supreme on it."- ILLogicaL_FALLacies
It Must Complicate Eating...
"The older I get, the sillier tongue piercings seem to me."- deltree3030
Sexy Temptation Island GIF by RTLGiphyNeedless to say, one's taste in clothing is a personal decision.
But as the saying goes, true beauty comes from within, and those who make a determined effort to improve their appearance, often end up doing just the opposite.
The reason why some single people are unable to find love can be loosely attributed to either one of the following.
Person A might be difficult or overbearing and can potentially scare off certain people.
Or, Person B might be really picky and refuses to make compromises once they start a new relationship.
For the latter individual, it can be an idiosyncratic thing about the other person that can be enough to be a turn-off.
Curious to hear what some of these examples could be, Redditor DrDecane asked:
"What's the smallest thing that made someone unattractive for you?"
These Redditors found it challenging trying to make awkward romantic situations work.
The Silent Partner
"I once went on a date with a man who literally only spoke when responding to a question, answered as briefly and evasively as possible, and offered no reciprocating questions or remarks."
"At the end of a 45 minute struggle when we parted ways, while I was still trying to figure out why a person with such crippling social anxiety would subject himself to an interaction so far outside his ability to handle, he asked if we could see each other again sometime."
– willingisnotenough
Bad Taste
"They were a bad cook. They didn’t use SEASONINGS! It’s not an allergy thing either. They made good money too it’s not a poverty thing. Literally they liked plain chicken breast no seasonings and dry as bone. He made me a 'taco' that consisted of only unseasoned hamburger in a plain ( not even warm) taco shell 🌮. No salsa , no cheese, no cilantro.. greasy meat in a room temp shell."
"I’m not cooking 3 meals a day for 2 people for the rest of my life and I sure as sh*t ain’t eating his satanic creations."
– Winter-Ad1853
Annoying Catchphrase
"I dated a girl that had a catch phrase. I think she uses Reddit and the catch phrase is very distinct so on the off chance she sees this I won’t say it. It didn’t make a lot of sense, think if someone were to say 'If you’re there, then you’ve made it!'”
"Except she would say it in response to all sorts of random situations where it wasn’t at all appropriate. Whenever someone complimented her or me, if you talked about plans you had. Just randomly tossing it out on conversations."
"It became a turn off so quickly because I just could not wrap my head around why she said it so often. I got sick of hearing it from her. Legitimately one of the biggest reasons we broke up."
– validusrex
Some dates are just unkisseable.
Gross Deposits
"White stuff in the mouth corners."
– gardenomette
Exaggerated Masticating
"Went to dinner, they started chewing kinda loud with their mouth open. I have misophonia, so it's probably even worse for me when someone does that. Immediate no."
– Erenalianon
The Sloppy Friend
"My husband’s best friend can’t eat without getting food all over his face and making gross noises while chewing. He also is a SUPER loud drunk. And walks out of the bathroom and back to the conversation while still simultaneously zipping/buttoning his jeans and buckling his belt."
"Really sweet, funny guy and a wonderful friend to both of us. But I cannot even imagine dating him. It would probably end in murder."
– meegcabre
Food Flinger
"Jesus, I dated a guy who ate like a bird...there was food EVERYWHERE by the time the meal was done. Flinging it around somehow without me actually seeing him do it. A sneaky flinger. Picture a parakeet beak deep in a food tray filled with seeds. Just chucking the seeds. Dig, eat, fling, nope, don't like that one bite, fling over the shoulder..."
"Dude cringed when I brought out a beach towel and put it on my new couch before we started eating dinner. As I was spreading the towel, I looked him dead in the eyes and declared, 'if you damage my new, $2,500 couch, you are dead.'"
– 37-pieces-of-flair
Unsolicited texts and photos aren't always the way into one's heart.
Not The Way To Start The Morning
"He sent me selfies every morning with his good morning text."
– Witch_on_a_moped
Now What?
"Yesssssss. So awkward. Like, am I supposed to send one back? Every day?"
"We hadn’t even met in person yet."
– LeotiaBlood
It took a vacation for these Redditors to realize they were not with the kind of people they'd want to ever share a life with.
Realization During A Vacation
"On a trip to the islands. HE WAS STEALING BATHROOM TOWELS and putting all the sugar and tea packets into his bag. He was telling me to hurry and stock up as well😐 I asked him if he really planned to steal 'thousands of a** towels..' he stopped packing. This was an eye opener to me. I was turned off and we are no longer together.😎"
– Law_Yer7
Demeaning The Workers
"They went from an 11/10 to a 0/10 because they decided to berate and belittle the people who were helping us with our luggage as we got on and started our boat cruise. The rest of the trip was awkward af"
– WorstLuckChuck
At the risk of sounding shallow, years ago I briefly dated a tennis player whose winsome personality won my heart.
However, I noticed something really peculiar about him. Every time we were out walking, I noticed he had the tendency of leaning into me whenever I was on his left side while walking in tandem.
When I casually asked him about his frequent need for getting awkwardly close, he explained that his gait was affected by a condition that left him with one leg shorter than the other.
After we completed that day's rendezvous together, I subsequently ghosted him.
Okay, I fully admit my shallowness in that situation.
I'm not proud of it.
Your bedroom is a reflection of who you are. It's the heart of your dwelling, with an aesthetic that is personal and at which you are at your most vulnerable, physically, and emotionally.
So when it's finally time to share the space with a romantic partner, either one of these things is bound to happen.
You'll most likely have an erotic experience charged by mutual passion, or the person you lured into your sexy lair will take one look at your collection of vintage dolls and politely nope out of there.
Curious to hear about bedroom aesthetics and their influence on people, Redditor kyle21irvin asked:
"What is a bedroom decoration that makes somebody unattractive?"
These are decorations for some, living nightmares for others.
Liquid Dreamz
"piss bottles in the corner of their room."
"speaking from experience."
"don't ask."
– Lunahdjd
"Eww- my bf when I was a teen (now ex bf) used to do this because his room was in the basement and he was too lazy to go upstairs. Once cause you’re sleeping? Ok but get rid of it the next day. No- he started using regular cups from the kitchen and just leaving them in his room. It stunk and molded."
"I said something about it and he flipped out on me and said I embarrassed him (it was just us in the room). He progressively got worse, super narcissistic, gaslighting and emotionally abusive."
"So many signs I should have listened to but he already had me gaslighted. Horrible horrible time in my life."
Mysterious-Quote-496
We Got Company
"Dolls. Lots of dolls. Dolls that just stare at you. Dolls that judge your soul. Dolls that become possessed."
– SpaceDave83
Where The Bodies Go
"A blue 55 gallon barrel in the corner."
– ConservativeAdmin
What occupies the walls of a bedroom says a lot about a narcissist...or a horn dog.
His Altar
"Knew a guy that had a framed professional photo of himself, shirtless, over the top of his bed. 🙄"
– Low-Flamingo-9835
Babe-Watch
"If you’re a guy and you have too many posters of bikini-clad women on your walls, that’s a huge turn-off."
– Leeser
Tenacious Lover
"pictures of their ex."
– N47an131
These odd scenarios raised eyebrows.
Leave A Mark
"White butcher paper covering the entire backside of bedroom door. A black sharpie dangling on an attached string. Please don’t forget to sign as you exit ladies."
– Big_Category4439
A Wrong Impression
"The first night I brought my partner back to my apartment, I was telling him some stories about my dachsund (who lived at my mom's house). He saw a dachsund plushie sitting on the TV and thought that was what I was talking about."
"Later, when he met my dog, he said 'oh, what a relief! I thought you were crazy!'"
– Patiod
A Grip On Love
"Handlebars on the headboard."
– Optimal_Bad_8965
Bad Illumination
"Fluorescent lights. It makes everyone unattractive."
– festus1187
The Empire Strikes Back
"I once hooked up with a girl who, it turned out, kept a lifesize Star Wars stormtrooper mannequin in her bedroom."
"I have never been harder before or since."
Recycle Them
"Using old liquor bottles as decoration. Not special ones, but the kind that just show off that they drink excessively."
"Ugh yes my ex-boyfriend's friend collected monster energy cans and thought it was the epitome of aesthetic interior design to display them on a shelf."
schmotzobert·
Is that art?
"A former roommate had several paintings of crying women in his room. One very large and amateurish... Brought a lot of women home though 🤷🏼♂️"
munakatashiko
Nothing Is Just As Bad
"How about lack of decoration? Because a matress on the floor is not attractive."
- biomech36
We all have our unique tastes that inspire the look of our bedrooms, and I don't judge anyone's personal aesthetic within reason.
But huge turn-offs for me are bad hygiene and untidiness.
As an example of the latter, I would say rolling over onto a plate of dried SpaghettiOs just as things are getting heated is not something I would say is an element of a romantic evening.
Yeah, it was over before the pants even came off.
"I have to respond to this text," said I, as excused myself when my phone wasn't even in the same room.
Leave your dirty dishes in the sink, or wash them while you're there, people.
As the saying goes, true beauty comes from within
While physical attraction is indeed important in finding a romantic partner, it can be the sole factor one bases their decision on.
As some unpleasant surprises might be disguised in attractive packages.
No matter how chiseled their jaw-line, how much their eyes glisten, or how luxurious their hair feels as you rub your fingers through it, it might take only one small action from this seemingly perfect specimen to overshadow any and all remnants of beauty.
Making one think they might as well be on a date with a troll from under the bridge.
"What immediately makes a man/woman unattractive?"
When You Don't Have Anything Nice To Say...
"Snidely putting down other people for no reason."
"Especially if the other person was talking about something they’re passionate about."
"That sh*t hurts my soul."- serbianspy
Compliments Are Easier Than You Think...
"Speaking down to someone else in order to get the group’s attention/laugh."- spaceflower890·
A Little Kindness Goes A Long Way
"How they treat others."- bawbsmith
insulting dan levy GIF by CBCGiphyOpen Your Eyes!
"Ignorance and a wish to stay that way instead of improving."- Tigydavid135
No One Loves A Know It All
"When they think they know everything/ are always right."- SoupAddict34
"But Enough About Me, What Do You Think Of Me?"
"Not being interested in anyone outside of themselves."- peywally
"It's OK If I Do It..."
"Years ago, before meeting a blind date for the first time she told me over the phone that she hoped that I didn't wear glasses because she found them unattractive and couldn't see herself dating a guy with glasses."
"So, I met her later, and she wore glasses."
"I find Hypocrites unattractive now."- nsvxheIeuc3h2uddh3h1
SHUT UP ALREADY!!!!!
"Constant whining."- BulldawgHokie
There's nothing wrong with being stopped dead in your tracks after an impossibly gorgeous person walks by you on the street.
But best to reserve judgment on that individual until sharing at least a word or two with them.
As the first thing they say might camouflage their beauty in the blink of an eye.