Bride Furious After Her Sister's Lack Of Drinking At Her Wedding Leads Everyone To Believe She's Pregnant
The sister of the bride at a recent wedding rolled in to the celebration fresh off a massive, positive life decision.
But no good deed goes unpunished. Her discipline, attempted courtesy to others, and hard work were rewarded with blindsiding rumors and a heavy scolding from the bride.
The Reddit post story comes from a woman in her late 20s, known intriguingly as yeehors on the forum.
The trouble began with her decision to go out on a limb and do her sister's wedding sober. Throw in a gossipy aunt, misread social cues, and a sister/bride with a fragile ego, and the day quickly became a train wreck.
The tale begins personally, with yeehors' matter-of-fact recognition of a problem she'd been struggling with, and a deliberate attempt to solve it.
"I am a woman in my late 20s and I've very recently started to realize I've got a binge drinking problem."
"I've very recently started going to a therapist, and she is also referring me to a recovery program that I'll be starting soon."
She continues by sharing what will become a key detail: her husband is the only personwho knows about her problem, or the decision to change the behavior.
The story then moves on to the main event: Big Sis' wedding. Apparently, this was the first real test for yeehors.
It's not surprising. Imagine deciding to stop drinking, trying to keep it chill, and feasting your eyes on a room full of celbrating people and alcohol in everybody's hand.
This was the belly of the beast.
"At the wedding, there was an open bar, champagne at every table, and pretty much everyone was drinking."
But yeehors had her eyes on the prize.
She kept a low profile for awhile, no doubt overthinking how every single person in the room was noticing her not drinking and forming infinite judgments and assessments.
We've all experienced some social anxiety.
"I got myself a glass of water and I felt like I stood out a little for not drinking. A couple people offered me drinks, my brother, my uncle and aunt, even family of the groom who were mingling with us."
"I'd always decline politely, 'No thanks, I'm good for now.' Nobody asked any questions for a while."
yeehors was hanging tough.
"Until it was time for speeches and toasts."
As always, everything is calm, cool, and collected until one of the aunts shoehorns her way into things that have nothing to do with her.
When yeehors' aunt asked why she declined a glass of champagne, the jig was up.
"She was like 'Are you...' And wiggled her eyebrows in a way that seemed to mean something."
It was at this point that yeehors made a fatal miscalculation.
"I had no fu**ing idea what she was getting at. The anxious part of my brain was filling that empty space with questions like 'Are you an alcoholic? Are you afraid you're gonna binge drink if you start drinking?' Etc..."
"I just froze up and shrugged awkwardly."
After the interaction and some time passed, Big Sis Bride came in HOT.
"It was only later that i understood."
"My sister came to me furious at stealing the spotlight from her on her wedding day, being jealous I'm not in the wedding party, making drama by making people think I was pregnant when I'm not, being all coy about not drinking when 'everyone knows what that means.'"
The wedding ended with a total impasse between her and her sister, leaving the newly sober yeehors on the other side of a catastrophic early attempt at the new lifestyle, and with only one place to turn for moral absolution: the internet.
The majority of comments identified her aunt as the key villain.
"The aunt is the one stirring things up. You didn't steal any spotlight and the aunt is the cause of the drama. Seems like she has manipulated the bride into thinking it's your fault." octopus-god
"For starters, no one should need a reason not to consume intoxicants other than 'I don't want to', so that's strike one."
"Then your aunt decided to not only press the issue by asking you, but infer an answer you never gave AND begin telling other people AT A WEDDING. That's insane busybody behavior that needs to be reeled in." rabbiskittles
"How annoying when a grown adult can't politely declined a drink, without an reason or suitable excuse." juliag0700
"Even if you WERE pregnant, that would have been your news to share and obviously not something you were wanting to tell people about." ooh_shinyobject
Plenty of people took the opportunity to offer some pragmatic advice about how to handle the barrage of the "Why aren't you drinking?" question that yeehors will likely be receiving until the end of time.
"For future, as a friendly tip, I usually order a club soda with a lime in a cocktail glass so people assume it's vodka and don't question it."
"I also just let people pour champagne for toasts and just don't touch it." grb3456
"Pro tip: drive everywhere. 'I'm driving' is a perfectly acceptable reason not to drink." Narcdoff
"If you're at a social event and don't want to be questioned why you don't drink, say that it interferes with some medicament you are taking. Nobody questions this." somniumx
"Sometimes, I'll even check in with the bartender and hand them a tip and ask that if anyone orders another round, mine is tonic or sparkling water with lime." CheyBridgeMan
Others took a moment to leave behind pragmatism and just give a good old fashioned congratulations and emotional support.
"Congratulations on your sobriety. You were incredibly brave going to a wedding where folks would be drinking; hopefully the rest of your family recognizes this." The-Bouse
"Good luck on your sobriety. Having watched my brother struggle, I know it can be hard to maintain. Use your support system." gevander2
We'll never know if yeehors' sister ever did come around. But our narrator can rest easy knowing at least one virtual, anonymous group of people totally has her back.
Recovering Alcoholic's Wife Throws Out His Expensive Bottle Of Maple Syrup, And The Internet Is Understandably Divided
When one of your loved ones is a recovering addict, you may feel like you have to take extra precautions around them to avoid any potential triggers.
But in this particular couple's case, the wife was more triggered by the steps her husband was choosing to take in his recovery.
The husband in this situation is a recovering alcoholic who has been sober for nine months after attending his AA meetings twice per week throughout his journey.
While shopping at Costco, he was looking for a new bottle of maple syrup and discovered a very interesting option. It was an all-natural maple syrup that had been made in bourbon casks, which meant it had no alcohol in it, but it carried with it the bourbon flavor. The bottle also, instead of being in the traditional shape of a maple syrup bottle, was made to look like a classic bottle of bourbon.
But when his wife saw his purchase in the cupboard, she was immensely triggered and ended up dumping the bottle out.
Reddit user "watkinobe" posted to the "Am I The A$hole" subReddit, to see if people agreed with his feeling that his wife was overreacting to his choice of maple syrup.
You can read the full story here:
Reddit was wholeheartedly divided on the matter. Some understood the man's interest in maple syrup itself and agreed that his wife overreacted.
Most saw the selection moreso as an opportunity for a "dry drunk" to continue enjoying alcoholic flavor, thus not fully committing to the process of staying sober.
"I've heard that just the flavor alone can trigger a relapse, so it is careful grounds to climb. You have a wife who obviously loves you to the moon and back and is looking out for your best interests, despite her over-zealous manner in which it was done."
"A piece of unsolicited advice - go to her and thank her for looking out for you as well as she is, and apologize for not realizing to what extent you put her through. Hopefully she will soften up. Trust, once broken, is hard to rebuild." - ActofEncouragement
"Yes the syrup won't have the effect of alcohol. However, you clearly enjoy it and it could be one of the best parts of your day (sometimes the day just goes downhill from the start). That pleasant association with something that tastes of bourbon- that's a realistic threat to your sobriety. At this point why risk it."
"Apologize to her, take a bunch of flowers and buy regular syrup and her favorite sweet treat. Yes she should trust you, but trust has to be re-established. She obviously loves you. Congratulations on your progress, do your best to protect it- good luck" - abrookman1987
More sympathized with the man's wife, explaining how she was clearly triggered in this situation after the drinking that nearly broke up their marriage.
"ESH, but softly. I'm not sure how long you were an actively drinking alcoholic, but it was obviously long enough that your wife is a short step away from being %100 done with your s**t. She was clearly triggered by this, and overreacted."
"But you're really under-reacting to how traumatic and infuriating it is to love an alcoholic, especially if this is not the first shot at recovery you've had. You both need to communicate better. If that means you have to buy non-bourbon flavored maple syrup then that's probably what you should do." - deathoftheotter
"It may have looked to the wife that OP wasn't seriously committed to long-term sobriety; that he'd gone to AA to placate her and keep his life from completely unraveling, but is now starting to look for loopholes and subtle ways to go back to his old ways without technically breaking the rules, and that this was going to be the first in a long series of boundary-pushing."
"Maybe that's a stretch, maybe that didn't go through her head at all, but it wouldn't have surprised me if that's at least a part of why she was so upset." - 2_headed_cat
In the end, the husband returned to his post and added a "thank you" note at the end for all who had commented, and stated he would be more sensitive to his wife's needs during their journey together going forward.
While it's understandable why he may have wanted to try a new product from the store, it's also completely understandable how this could be a slippery slope for someone struggling with their alcoholism, and how one of their loved ones could be triggered by such a choice.